Hello and welcome! First of all thank you for all your lovely comments on my posts and for following me on this site and getting me to 100 followers. It really does mean the world to me, and helped me get through 2020.
I feel in some way I should make a speech, but as I am a rambler a lot, I won’t spare you the pain.
So it is 2021 a New Year:
I have come up with a new programme called PROJECT 2021, which will include,
Goals
Habits
Targets
Prioritizing
Building
Creating
Learning
To do all these things you need to paint the picture. Now I am no Vanguff, in fact far from it, but nevertheless, when I set a goal I also create the picture, and map out the things I wish to accomplish whether it be writing a new book or try a different type of exercise routine, I map it out.
I suppose you can say that it is a form of brainstorming, and the one method you can do is like a road map and marking out each milestone you achieve as you continue on the road, to reach the ultimate target, and goals should have an end result.
To get much more out of a New Year, you should always prioritse, as the other important thing, which I talk a lot about on this site and will be getting you to focus on a lot, is having down time. Time where you stop work and you schedule in time to play with the kids and have a family meal together. That is just two examples.
I have been guilty in working all through the days and weeks, because I get so ingrosed in my work that often I forget to do this too. It should be top priority aswell as the work you need to get done or exercising for example.
Life is about making the most of the time and days, as much as possible, and that is not putting 25 things down for a day, but keep to a minimal list, so you have a purpose and a goal each day, and doing the things you love aswell as the things you have to do.
Here is my Pinterest board with some material I have pinned that will help you get involved in Project 2021, as I have added some articles and pins, with many Life Coaching tools, and more will be added as I continue to help you grow this year, like never before.
So to begin please join my facebook group and follow my Pinterest page above, and you will have full access to these materials, and there will be an online course created for this programme, with Youtube Video Content and some EBooks too.
Please check out my Facebook Group page which you can join and be part of my Project 2021, here is the link below:
Hello and welcome! Now you aren’t seeing things I was writing this blog post at 3:25am, and once again someone has tried to destroy my soul, but everytime this happens I am not going to stay down but fight and let them know that they don’t scare me at all, and are just doing it for the sake of it.
I would sleep but if you read my previous blog post I have been having terrible nightmares. I can’t wait to start again and have a fresh new year to create and make lots, for you, and would like to say Thank you from the bottom of my heart for following me on this site and for liking my posts too. I do want to be away from my present situation. I no longer want to live where I was in Epsom, but live in London still and want a new life.
So how do you handle those who try to destroy and never support you,
Don’t give them the benefit. I.E: Focus on those who do have your back and if you aren’t ready to talk about it, allow the time with the person to switch off from those trying to hurt you
Create a plan to move away from them, and never allow their anger to rub off on you, and set them straight that they do not intimidate you, and they are making themselves look senile and stupid
Tell someone outside the situation. I suppose this is related to the first tip, but there are those that can have your back, but once you try to talk to them, they can shut you down and say to you that they do not wish to be invoved, so talking to someone on the outside, can be your safesst option
If they try to inprison you can call the Police as it is illegal to do this. It is a form of emotional abuse and a form of bullying
Bullies come as a pack usually, not as an individual so see if you can speak with the culprit on their own or have someone with you, to confront them. I used to think this wasn’t a good idea, but often when they see they can’t hurt you to get the reaction they want, they will give in or get more angrier and if they physically harm you then don’t stay silent, get help and support
If they begin to exclude you then don’t let this get to you, and get out of the situation for a bit. If they try to isolate you allow them to do so, so you can pop out and be with the rest of the world for a bit
They may try to push as many boundaries as possible to press your buttons, that will make you turn and be physical with them. Make it clear that they can do what they want but are just going to make it worser for themselves, and you do not care
If they start using your kids against you and not allowing you time with the children in your family, even if they aren’t yours then remind them you care for them too and would not do them any harm, or inform them if you are the parent of the child that you have a right to be with your kids not them. If they aren’t the mother either talk to the parent of what that person keeps doing and then talk to them once they are on their own to say, that there behaviour is not right and that you have a right to talk and entertain those children too
They turn everything you say. Keep a journal with date and details of the conversation, or record it. When they do this then remember that their hurtful words are more about them and not you. They just feel that you should be target number one, and want to bring you down to their level.
They make you feel that you are fighting a losing battle, because you feel that you can’t win, no matter what you do. So just do what you can. I got blamed about washing up, yet I always washed up but then someone didn’t like me doing that, so it was like “So what do you want me to do?”
Life can feel especially when you have these people in your lives hard work, but it needs not to be and so have a safe haven, a place you can go to take you away from those people, mine is my local gardens or the town where I now live in London.
Have something that helps you stay calm, as often people who want to destroy are doing it to get a reaction of hate back and to make you cry or be angry.
Meditation is a great way to switch off, or like I do, I get engrossed in my work whilst listening to music and sing my heart out, and this helps me stay calm, focused on the things that do love me and I love too.
Please stay true to yourself and strong and we can get through the time that are tough together and get rid of the negativiity that can often takeover our lives.
I wish you a good week as it is Monday again, and if I don’t post before new years Eve, then Happy New year and lets embrace 2021, which shines with many positive things.
Hello and I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas as you can, being that we are in a Lockdown again.
Lockdown shouldn’t mean you have to stop creating success in your life and should egg you on to be more successful than ever before.
Now if you have not set a plan for 2021 for this to happen then there is no time like the present. To get started I want you to look on the web and go through all the things you have already achieved. To do this on the spot can make your mind go blank so just take some time to go through this, and then write it down.
Then when looking at these achievements, ask yourself, would I like to carry these on or want different achievements for 2021? Then write new achievements you want to accomplish, and then map it how you wish to get there.
Example: I want one of my goals to be to get back working out indoors again.
Check online for indoor fitness workouts
Have your workout gear already on
Do the workout
Then schedule in another workout even if it once a week to begin with
That is mapping it out. You do not have to do a whole chunk of stuff at one time because from experience, this is not a good idea as it can cause you to give up, as you have done too much too soon.
Gradual steps is a better way to blend yourself into the change you wish to make in your life.
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Then when you have mapped it out, then I want you to put together a vision board, and you can do this using a laptop via Microsoft Publisher, physically by cutting pages or pictures from magazines or using Pinterest.
Picture the visions of you working out or running the business you want to launch, and write about it, what you see, feel, body language, how you see people seeing you and how it will change your life forever.
If you would like to add as a positive habit, as the habits we have in our lives can dictate how we feel and look at our lives and if there is an area that needs to change to help us towards our goals, then make it. Is there something you do that you wish you could stop? As a bad habit is a bad behaviour and makes us resent ourselves, but when we make a positive habit, makes us pleased with ourselves and is a good behaviour, leading us to create our dreams.
Check out my vision board I have created on Pinterest these are things I know are going to happen for me next year and other things I would like to happen, not all in the space of a month but spread out across the year 2021:
I will be creating one using my White board but going to do this after Christmas.
When you have created the vision, then keep a note of each item and decide which one you would like to do first and set a deadline.
Have a calendar so you can mark it out, and make a list of items that may get in the way of completing this goal on your vision board but can work around the item already scheduled, and it helps to go through important dates you need to keep tabs on like family members birthdays for example. It will then give you an idea of what and where will the item on your vision board will fit in.
Go through the ones that are most important for to you first, and one way to do this is circle the items or put them in a category of A, B and C.
Remember these goals are to fulfill you not make you exhausted, so them out and give yourself rest time to.
I will post more as we get to the new year as I am going to create a Course and Ebook called Project 2021 to help you have a more success life and feeling of accomplishment and a better wellbeing.
Hello, it is Christmas Eve and wanted to get in another post on this site before Christmas day. I am somewhat prepared for the festive day of cheer. Still got my gifts to wrap up, but I am in the mindset this year of, it will get done, I just want to do it when I know I have one day left, or I may wrap a few today, but have decided to be more laid back about it this year.
At the end of the day will I be remembered for my gift wrapping?
You’ll never see on someone’s grave saying “She was a great person and knew just how to wrap gifts for Christmas”, it is something that we feel abliged to do, yet all that happens is that they will rip the gift wrap off, as with children especially, and just want to know what is in side the packaging, not what is on the outside.
I saw in I think it was in a Paul McKenna’s books, as he has written so many and asked “How would you like to be remembered?”. For me I want people to say I was loyal, kind heartened, once she was fan of something she was a fan for life and no matter what hurdles I had to face, in my life I was determind and never gave up, and faught back.
If you could write a letter to your younger self what would you say?
This is something that you should do often and compare letters to keep track of your life and remember that young girl who had a whole life ahead of you, as you still do.
It can make you take note of what you have achieved at that there were good times and if there is anything you would have changed.
For myself stop believing in Omens, because I moved to Epsom and thought seeing a cat that looked like my cat called Toby was an Omen to say to live there, yet I wish I hadn’t and believe in my gut instinct and live in London again.
Not to have left Butlins as I wanted to be a Red Coat and did often apply but then left in 2005 when I accepted that, that would never happen.
Do I believe that everything happens for a reason?
Not really I just think there are many paths that you take and you don’t have no idea of which path will lead to where but you get lead by hungar to have new chapters in your life, to be closer to people that are important to you, and as written in one of my other blogsites, relationships can change and you then can divert towards another route because it seems to be better than the other paths you’ve taken.
I think that you are influenced often by those that seem to be on your side, but like in the Film about the band Queen, Bohemium Rhapsody, where he trusts this guy who is in love with Freddy Mercury only to find he was a bad apple and was in on for himself.
These kind of people can cause you to have your guard up and become very weary of people. This year I have experienced this a lot, and I have broken my heart a lot through this year, that I can never get back but it has made me see who my real family and friends are.
Do I believe in new beginnings?
Yes I do, and that it never to late to start a new beginning. I never what to live in misery and that those that try to destroy you are just doing it, because they really are the ones that are very insecure. They just want to hit out at the closest person, and use everything against you.
Everyone has the right as we share this world we live in and so we should make room for other people who want happiness too.
If you are unhappy in a situation then it means you need to make a change to destroy that elephant in the room. Noone I believe wants to be unhappy I think we all strive to be happy, but some go the wrong way about it.
They believe if they hurt someone it will make them feel better and being horrible means that you are strong and noone can compete with you.
Yet as soon as you are horrible back they runaway like a little mouse.
So write down how you would like to be remembered for and what you would say to your younger self, that will help as you begin to continue with achieving success and happiness in your life, and remember goals can be set at anytime not just when we are in a new year.
Have a Merry Christmas and A Wonderful new year, but I will be posting more as we close this year down.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie (L.M) X
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Hello and welcome! Thank you so much for your loyal company and liking and following my blogs on this site, it really is a breath of freshair when I see that you have followed me and liked my posts.
In this post I am doing My Review of 2020 which I am going to do each year. My Review of 2020 is very mixed I started it by being a bit of a state to the point I was fighting and taking the pisss out of those that were trying to hurt me.
I lost a few people this year too, and was devastated. Kelly if you can hear me I love you to bits and I know what she’d say:
“See ya later allegator”
“Right back at ya Croccidile”.
Do I believe in recarnation? Yes because there was a little girl in South Park Gardens that looked just like Kelly as a little girl and she looked at me like Kelly did when she was a baby, and it did bring me to tears, but saw Kelly in this little girl and prayed, that if that is her, that she lives on and has the life she wants, and not taken away so cruelly.
I found my true love, and he has been a breath of freshair and has saved me in so many ways. I love everything about this guy and he makes me feel fullfiled every time we talk and see each other.
I started to write music again, which I hadn’t done in a long time and have a song out that is in an advert.
Many more stars and inspiring people have passed away this year, like Eddie Large, Sean Connery, the wonderful Barbara Windsor and Dame Vera Lynn, check out my posts about few of these people:
I will be writing more about celebrities that I have found inspiring.
I found Barbara Windsor inspiring because she came from a poor background, a family like mine at times, scrimping and scraping but became a household name, and my blogs have grown like I have, and I have learned a lot this year and one is realising that I am gno longer a jealous person, as it was those that were like that, that tried to stop me from one thing I love to do, and that is write my blog posts.
Jealousy can turn someone who was once a lovely person to a worst version of themselves. Check out this blog post which is related to that:
I have seen the good and the bad this year, and just because you have known someone for a long time, doesn’t mean they are loyal, especially if they continue to let you down when meeting up or you know they are slagging you off behind your back.
My marriage came to an end and I moved out to live in Wimbledon and found that my true love was living around the corner from me. It is amazing how you can find true love on your doorstep but yes it is true.
I have written a few books this year, Like the Peabody years, which I took down from Amazon to rewrite as it was quite short and there were a whole load of stories I wanted to add. I wrote a few EBooks this year and if you want to check these out, go to Amazon.com for details or click on the links below,
I want to build my confidence to speak to my camera again to film more Youtube videos. My confidence to film for my Youtube channel plummited and really want to bring this back.
The one thing I didn’t get to do was to go on holiday which I would like for next year and would like to walk more and get up at a reasonable time again, as I am sleeping onto early afternoon or later and that takes over a whole day.
My body clock is all over the place as I don’t sleep at night because I have had a lot of terrible nightmares.
I was put on different medication called Quetipin, as I was suffering a lot with depression this year and at one point very suicidal.
However, I want my blogs to continue to be successful and relative to those who like this blog site.
I want to live life and not exist which I have written in a lot of blog posts this year, but is true. I was with someone who was obsessed with cleaning, but am I going to get remembered for being the person always washed up after herself? NO! I want to be seen as a successful writer who was never afraid to show her feelings to those who she loved and made it clear that no matter how much I put myself down sometimes I do have respect for myself and others.
I want to work on TV and have one of my books made into a TV series and is a real ambition of mine and would like to write and publish more books and want two to be publised by the end of this year.
I have a new Online Course which is a Child Safety course so I will let you know when this is ready to be launched and published.
So looking ahead to 2021 I want some changes to come my way and I have set my goals that I am going to talk more about in my Self Confidence blog I write on my related site: https://buildingselfcon nfidencetud.blogspot.com
My self confidence is one of the areas I want to work on.
The Winner takes it all, is a line from a famous ABBA tune, but I think about when I think of when there people so jealous and become the worse version of themselves and next year I am going to get rid of such feelings that I had like that, as it is not good trait and makes you bitter. Those people who are like that end up playing games and I don’t like those that do that, as they end up making you do the same.
Looking forward to 2021 I want,
No more jealousy and hatred
Have more habits or rituals that I look forward to
No more sleeping in, I have done this recently, so going to set my alarm for 9am everyday
Speak out more from my mouth instead of my head all of the time
These are going to be life changes for 2021, so I can keep away from Jealous people as they will often befriend you, then slowly stab you in the back. I am not scared or anything I just don’t want such people in my life, and stay away from misery.
I am going to get out more and sit and have a drink in a pub, even if it is an non-alcoholic drink, and create more videos for my Youtube.
Life changes are better than resolutions as you are more likely to stick with them, and they become a breath of fresh air, rather than a burden, which resolutions can be.
I am going to a few football matches next year, as I am very proud to say that the boys I coached when they were under 8 are now playing premiership football, yes indeed and I am dying to see them, as apparently they are doing really well, and want to make sure they are okay and I am absolutley proud of everyone one of them. If you have seen them do you notice something they do, when they are substituted. I installed that into them, as the person they should always shake hands with is the manager, as they are the one who get a lot of stick and should be respected, being they are the ones that pick the team.
So here we go towards a new year and get back out there and spend time with the people who I love, who genuinely love me back and enjoy the year instead of scrapping through it, like I have done this year.
So we are coming towards another end of a year and I have goals to achieve as we draw the end of 2020 and it is important to stay focused for the rest of 2020.
Goals and life changes, rather than resolutions, can happen at any point of a year, not just at the beginning and you can always change your life around at any time. THERE ARE NO RULES!
Always have a target in mind and know that it is never too late to try new things in your life. Madonna made it into the charts with “Like A Virgin” when she was in her thirties and Ian Wright didn’t play professional football until he was, 29 and played at Crystal Palace, before he joined Arsenal.
The one thing I would like to do to help me get into fitness is do a boxercise class, as I loved the ones that Davina McCall did on her fitness DVD’s, which I totally recommend.
Hello and welcome to a new blog. Thank you so much for those who have commented on my blogs, it really is great to hear your feedback and glad that you have liked my posts so far.
Image I took when out on one of my walks
In today’s post I am writing about Creating Space to Live more, as I think we can get so struck down with todo lists, looking after our kids (if you are a parent), that we don’t make time to do the other things we love, like catching up with friends, watch a movie or catch up on the football, now that it is back on.
I have gotten into a good pattern now, where I allow myself to have free time other than constantly working, and not taking time out to do the other things I love, like watching TV, exercising indoors, listening to a podcast and just being plain lazy. I love having lazy days, I don’t have these often now, but when I do, do I enjoy it.
Creating space to live more is creating a balance in your life, so you can go skiing, skateboarding or take a break somewhere.
Now I have the weekends to myself I do like to make these my time to get out and do the things I can’t do in the week, when I am looking after my son.
I don’t walk fast but listen to some music or an audio book on my phone as I am walking, taking in the surroundings and just be peaceful, not having to rush and take some time sitting down enjoying the scenery when I can too.
I want that life where I work but not all the time, and can take my son on holiday and go the seaside if I want to. It is all about drive and doing the things you set out to do, but not working to the point where I feel drained but that has a purpose.
I want all my days have a meaning and a reason for getting up each day and not feeling stressed because I didn’t get to post that blog I wanted or didn’t get to write that bit in my book yet. Time will come, and its not about rushing but doing.
Lets live the life we want and follow our hearts aswell as our dreams.
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Hello and welcome it is a new week and I have some good news. I have now launched my new Online Course in Good Customer Service. I have worked in Customer Service for a good amount of years and wanted to do something to help others wishing to work in the same area.
Online study doesn’t have to be rocket science but something you will benefit from and will help you gain knowledge and understanding so you can do your job more effectively.
All businesses need customers and so making sure 100% customer satisfaction is done you do need to make sure you are giving the correct vibe to the customer, to order products from your company.
So without further a do, here is the link to my new course, many thanks for reading: