We should love more/A lesson for us all #truelove

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This blog was so not planned today, but as a blogger you often get ideas out of the blue when you least expect it, and often the unplanned ones are often the best.

Today, or more this morning I decided to watch a bit of Youtube. My son was already for school and was happy watching helicopters on the TV, so after doing my cleaning, had breakfast, got dressed, I sat downstairs on the sofa and opened my phone to Youtube and came across this interview of Vinnie Jones. If you aren’t sure as to who he is, he was a British ex footballer turned actor, talking about his wife Tanya who had died of cancer, and how it has been since she died and about when she died.

You have to watch it, it blew me away and I even tweeted about it. His story will really pull at your heart strings.

It really struck a cord with me, because we can often lose our way in life and feel that there is no one to love out there, but watching this video reminds me that true love does exist and can truly happen for all of us.

LOVE isn’t just about romance it is the LOVE we have for your kids, friends and family that can often help you get through tough times, and want to be around those people. I remember my Nan (my mum’s mum) saying that every night without fail her and my grandad would kiss each other goodnight because you never knew what tomorrow would bring and that is so true.

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I remember working at Butlins Holiday Camp in the UK, in Bognor Regis, and my grandad and my nan’s words were so true, because we lost a dear friend of ours Nigel through adult cot death. There was no warning, nothing. He went to bed that night and didn’t wake up the next morning. He wasn’t a heavy drinker, didn’t smoke and was a true grafter and didn’t touch drugs, and I remember feeling so sad, for a long time afterwards, because it was like “Why?”.

I did love Nigel my husband did too. Love doesn’t mean you have to be sexually involved but that you have a strong connection with someone. The greatest love and friendships for me are ones where you can literally talk about anything and everything and it doesn’t matter. You just love each others company, and we should do more to show our love and respect for our friends and family we have in our lives, as you never know what is around the corner.

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I think this is a lesson for us all. We should love more #truelove, to be kind, be generous and forget about the petty things. I moaned at my husband today because he moved some items in my son’s room, and after watching Vinnie Joneses Interview, made me realise “Was that really so important?”, “Was moving Henry’s toys really going to effect the day or Henry’s world?”. Of course not.

You just sometimes like my husband often says, got to let it go, as you know that the ones we love won’t be around forever. Whenever I feel myself being a pain in the arse I always remind myself that: 

YOU HAVE TO LOVE OTHERS LIKE YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE LOVED YOURSELF.

NO MATTER WHAT THEY DO THAT CAN CAUSE CONFLICT LOVE IS WHAT HOLDS US TOGETHER!

I would like to know what love means to you? How you keep the love going? You can leave a comment below.

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Looking after your mind #mentalhealthday2019

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Yes it is #mentalhealthday2019 and so I thought I would write a blog about Looking after your mind, as our minds are power machines and a lot goes on in them.

Looking after your mind is critical in helping you to be the powerful person you have always wanted to be, but sometimes our minds can work against us, if we aren’t careful, and so we have to learn to reprogram them to look at our lives differently, with our thoughts and fears.

So how do you do that?

I have discovered through having an eating disorder, having social anxiety, general anxiety and depression that you need focus on what you can do to make a difference.

I watched a video by Mel Robbins, called How To Find Your Passion #CoffeeTalk 

She explains that passion isn’t in an object, a person or a job, for example, but it is within yourself, and it is energy.

What gets you excited to get up in the morning?

So stop searching for things that aren’t there, but things that are, and go through what brings a smile to your face.

I keep talking on this site about #keepingajournal, and the reason for that is because it is a great way to brain dump all your thoughts and fears, and then find out and get to grips with:

  • Why you are having those feelings?
  • What are the triggers?
  • What can I do today that would help me feel better

– Practice #selfcare example, take a bath, get your hair done, create a                             gratitude journal and write about all the things you do like about                                     yourself, put some make up on or just chill and relax,watching reality                           TV if that’s what you like or soaps.

– Create a mood board and use your planner to keep track of how you                            feel each day and make a list of everything that would help you feel                                better that day.

– Do something new or learn something. If there is something you have                        wanted to learn about then now is the time to do that, as there are so                            many free courses out there.

 

It is all about making those changes to help stabilize your mind and whenever you feel low or afraid, do talk to someone because there are people who will listen.

I have been getting help from Surrey and Borders Partnership, which is #mentalhealth support you can get from the NHS, as my anxiety got so bad I ended up in hospital. I was having heart palpitations and thought that someone was after me.

It was horrendous and would never want anyone to go through that, and is why I support #mentalhealthcharities. I got help and so can you.

They will go on your terms not on theirs. So do get support if you feel that you can’t take life anymore or life is getting too much, because it can. Life can be a juggling act and can affect the mind, and so it is important for ourselves and our love ones who often are affected by someone with mental illness too, to get support and help.

Never feel alone if you have mental health problems, because you are not.

My son’s school raised money for the #helloyellow which supports young people with mental health. They had all the children wear something yellow to support #worldmentalhealthday.

When it comes to mental health it can affect anyone no matter who they are, so it is good that now we are making everyone aware of it, and that people are now getting support.

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Preparing for a new chapter

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I am about to embark on hopefully a new chapter, as tomorrow I have a job interview for a nursery in Guildford. Preparing for a new chapter can be a risk, but exciting at the same time.

I no longer want take calls from unhappy customers anymore, I’m done with that, and now want to help with my knowledge of looking after children throughout my life and from working in childcare for about a year, now want to enhance my skills and work on a more regular basis.

Today I was preparing myself for my interview, here’s what I think will help you too:

  • Make sure you do your homework about the company
  • Take some form of ID and if you work  in childcare remember your DBS and check if you received confirmation from the company about the interview, if they have provided details of what you need to bring with you
  • Check travel arrangements and direction 
  • Plan ahead, check any travel disruptions or traffic delays if you drive
  • Make sure you take down the company address, telephone number and email address, in case you are delayed or need to rearrange, plus will help you find where it is you need to go
  • Begin to plan what you are going to wear, and make sure you are smart, and you stand out
  • Don’t over do it with perfumes and deodorants, especially if you are going to be working with children, as they may be allergic and super sensitive to these strong smells
  • At the same time, do be hygienic, make sure you wash your hands if you go to the toilet and do shower or take a bath either the night before or the morning
  • Make sure your clothes are clean and tidy, creased free
  • In this day and age it is important that you make sure your mobile phone is fully charged, but put your phone on silent or switched off if possible during the interview
  • Trim nails especially if working in childcare
  • Go over Interview questions and answers. I found some really good ones via the website: https://www.themuse.com/advice/how-to-answer-the-31-most-common-interview-questions
  • Pack your bag the day or night before, especially if you have an interview in the morning, and like me have to do the school run before hand. Helps with stress levels and the last thing you want to be doing is rushing around, because if you are nervous this is only going to make things worse
  • Go over the company information and the interview questions and answers to help prepare you as you get closet to the time. I am gonna do this whilst I commute, will help use up the time and stop me from getting apprehensive and I will also be taking a deep breath in through the nose out through the mouth, and close my mind
  • This will help lead you to switch off for a few moments to help keep yourself calm, listen to music, read or just practice mindfulness.
  • Lastly I wish you good luck

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I really hope that this will be a new start and another great path that I am about to lead on, and if you are too about to embark on a new chapter then:

“Take the Bull by the Horns and go for it, you never know what is on the other side if you don’t bother trying”.

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How to know when you’ve found your purpose in life.

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How to know when you’ve found your purpose in life.

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Sometimes it can take time to figure this out, and you may take many paths to find out, however once you found that purpose you’ll be amazed at what you can achieve next.

Here is a video posted by Own, of Oprah Winfrey and Author Caroline Myss, discussing just that.

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We often have to face our fears and get out of our comfort zone, to find our purpose in life and life is about travelling through different chapters to find out who we truly are.

Please check out my previous blog of Mel Robbins First show on TV, where she talks about the 5 second rule which can help you too.

I would like to know if you have found your purpose in life and how you came about it. You can leave a comment below.

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Mel Robbins new show

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If you are a fan of Mel Robbins, then check Mel Robbins new show, which launched on the 16th September 2019, and shares how she first began to use the 5 Second Rule.

Check out video of the first Episode below:

It is brilliant to watch and really helps stop you from over thinking and take action.

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Carrie X

Billionaires Do This for 10 minutes Every Day

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Who wants to be a billionaire? I do…

Check out this video below by Mel Robbins, it is about what Billionaires Do This for 10 minutes Every morning.

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Let me know what do you do that helps to set up your day and how you have created positive differences in your life.

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The Art of keeping a journal

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The art of keeping a journal is basically to brain dump all your thoughts onto paper whether negative or positive. It just helps clear the mind, and set a side time for yourself to be with your thoughts for a bit.

I created a cheat sheet, to help those who are new to writing a journal, what to write about.

I keep many journals, one that I share all my happy thoughts and moments in my life and one for my negative most private thoughts. They are all kept in a safe place.

You don’t have to do that, I would suggest to keeping with one for the time being until you get used to it. You can look at Pinterest for ideas aswell.

This is where I build up content for my blogs, being creative can help and make it your own.

So if you want to enjoy the art of keeping a journal and brain dumping your thoughts then why not start now.

It can help put those thoughts in a different perspective.

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How to manage feelings of being overwhelmed

How to manage feelings of being overwhelmed can be a hard task as we keep piling more items on our to do lists and being wanted in many different places at once, it just can feel endless.

My first tip is to take some time out for yourself and do some self care, this can be journalling, taking a hot bath, going for a walk or exercising for 5 to 10 minutes each day. Self care means looking after yourself, and if you have kids that is even more important to take some time out for yourself.

Second tip is to be more productive, check out my blog about ten hacks of being more productive, and set a side time for each item on your list, and be realistic as to what you can achieve in the time you have.

Delegate, if there is something for example my husband can do, then I let him, like he will vacuum whilst I go round and dust, he will pop to the shops whilst I am working, life can be a juggling act and why not share the responsibility if there is two of you.

Take time out, and do something other than work, sometimes it can feel like we are glued to our computers, rather than reading a book or watching TV. You are allowed that time, rather than working all the time.

Practice mindfulness, can really help and can help concentrate on what is around us and take in our environment for two to three seconds. That is all it takes.

So next time you feel overwhelmed listen to your mind, if it needs a break take one, everyone needs to be able to recharge their batteries including humans.

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10 Hacks to being more productive

If there was a pill that would make us naturally more productive, rather than sitting on the couch all the time, would you take it?

Of course we would, so how do you become more productive?

Here is Ten hacks to being more productive.

  1. Make your bed. Sounds simple, but it can be so easy to slip back in, if it is still all over the place, so make it as soon as you get up
  2. Write a to do list the night before and circle the items that need to be done first
  3. If you have tasks that take 2 minutes do them straight away
  4. Brush your teeth, no one likes a gammy mouth, and I hate talking to people knowing I have bad breath, so brushing your teeth helps you feel better about yourself and sets up the day
  5. Block time out to do things, so if you have ten minutes spare then mark it down, and then if you want to chill for that ten minutes before you continue your day then do so. Use Google Calendar as you can set alerts on your phones, helps keep track on tasks
  6. Listen to an audio book whilst you doing errands. I love doing this when doing some cleaning for examples, makes it seem less of a chore
  7. Learn to say “No” there is nothing worse than double booking yourself, so if you can’t make that party or that event say so, don’t leave people hanging, you wouldn’t like it, so neither will they
  8. Restrict your social media usage through out the day, as this can easily cause us to waste time, unless we are using it to promote our work if you to run a website, a blog or have a Youtube channel
  9. Set days a side to update your Instagram, Facebook or Pinterest account, I do and it helps make sure I don’t spend to long on each task
  10. Schedule time to check your emails, or do this whilst travelling on a bus or train some where, can help speed up the travel time.

So I hope you found this hacks useful and if you have any hacks then let me know by filling in the comment section below or filling in the form below.

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Managing Mental Health

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As it is coming up to Mental Health month I thought I would speak out, as I too have suffered with mental illness wanted to share how I manage my Mental Health.

It has taken over my life in some cases, to point I needed to be taken to the hospital. Too much was going on in my life, I was in debt, recovering from Post natal Depression, which I was to scared to speak out about, and I felt like I wasn’t happy with myself.

I expect there are people out there who don’t understand about Mental Health and how it can effect people, but it is like your mind taking over your body, not in a good way, and listening to the inner critic all the time.

The one that tells you, your fat and ugly, the one that tells you that life is so terrible and that everyone is better off without you.

All you want to do to that inner critic is shout SHUT THE F**K UP.

You feel like you are falling down a hole that you can’t get out of, as much as you try. There are still days where I get so depressed or my anxiety gets the better of me, that I don’t want to do anything, and it can take over my whole wellbeing.

The constant battle I have had with myself still continues, but I have learned through developing good habits and changing my life around of how to overcome and control my mental health, but it can take a lot of work.

You have to be patient and learn to breath. Mindfulness can really help and makes you look around you, take in your surroundings and just listen to your breathing.

No you don’t have to sit on the floor with your legs crossed, you can practice mindfulness anywhere, check the book Mindfulness On the Go.

If you are sick of seeing the same four walls then get out of there and see something new.

Speak to that friend you have been meaning to contact for ages

Take yourself out of your comfort zone even if it is for 5 seconds, and count 5, 4. 3. 2, 1

Check out my blog about Mel Robbins, The 5 Second Rule

Be willing to make that change and do it gradually, taking as much time as you need.

Let’s support each other, as creating a good foundation is important, check out my blog about Creating a Foundation.

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Carrie X