Hello and welcome! Please check out my No Spend update of my No Spend January Challenge.
It has really help go through my finances and not neglect them, and be logical and I did do a video similarly ago on my other Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602
The video on this blog is on my main channel, Typical London Gal.
Here is a my latest No Spend January update
It has influenced me to plan my finances for the entire year which I have never done before, but I feel the sense of dread where I know bills are due, but worrying how they gonna get paid. I will do it again and I will be filming another update this week and if you did No Spend January how it went for you.
Hello and thank you for all your likes, it really helps me to build my content and do more to reach out to you and seeing your likes and following me, means the world, honestly it really makes me feel proud of my blogs and build my confidence in myself and want to help you do the same. Love yourself, and have belief, honestly if you can put your mind to it, you can do anything and I want to be part of your journey in doing so.
I really enjoyed the feedback about my Newsletter that I began last year, and will continue, so here is my new Newsletter for 2023 and hope you like it and helps kick start your adrenaline to be the person you want to be.
So I feel so blessed that you are liking my blogs and following me, it really means the world.
I am still continuing on with my Monthly challenge of No Spend January and so here is a video I did for my Main Youtube channel on how it is going. I talk about my money habits and things I have paid for whilst doing this challenge and only buying what I need, as this is the point, and being strict with myself.
Here is the video below:
It can be tempting, because I do like to have a coffee from a coffee shop, but this can add up and I have got access to a Coffee Machine and have two jars of instant coffee which is just good enough, and so I have been focusing making sure I top up my Oyster card, which I used to ride the bus and train, and that I have cash on my should I need to buy anything like personal care items.
I am starting to feel like I want to challenge myself for the year, but I know that will be super tough, so going to decide once I have reached at the end of the month.
I really hope you like this video and remember if you’d like to be kept up to date about blogs, then you can do so my following me.
There was a time where I would take my son to school and as soon I got home would return into bed and then get up about 1pm to give the house a clean and then go and pick up my son from school, and as soon as I had dinner go back to bed.
I couldn’t find the energy to do much, and it was as if energy had been pushed out of me. Now though that girl has gone and glad. I love being lazy at times, but that only results in me feeling more tired and I like to get up have my cup of tea and then breakfast and make sure I am dressed apart from the weekend where I do take it a bit easier and spend that time with my son.
The mornings for me is the hardest at time but once I am up now I get myself ready for the day and take anything that is rubbish downstairs, take shower if I don’t have one the evening before and gather myself together. Having routine that is fulfilling is what helped me get out of the slump of wanting to stay in bed all day, and so I make sure I have a enough sleep at night so I have no reason to go back to bed.
So if you are having a hard time to get up and out of bed, ask yourself, “Do I want to be doing this all my life?” and I didn’t and knew that it was effecting my everyday and it would cause arguments, but then something clicked in me and I have now never felt so alive. It takes time, but if you feel fatigue all the time, it may mean going to the doctors and getting support as it is a mental health issue and put things into bed that makes you want to get up and make the most of your days.
This is why I write these blogs to give support if you feel low at and unenergized it is something that you can work on and can get out of.
It Sunday evening and I am in my bedroom and aswell as listening to a chat of Fearn Cotton and Sara Fox, and I have been challenging myself this month to sort out one area a day in my life, including my blogs and social media sites, and tomorrow I want to do each Monday a Reset, and do my laundry, Vacuum and change my bedding and have a really good morning reset to begin the week.
Yet as soon as I think of it the energy in doing these tasks, puts me off. I know I will be like, “I’ll do it once I have had my first cup of tea”, “Oh let me just watch this Youtube video and I’ll get it done”, are you the same? Comment below.
I also need to call the doctors because I have a swollen eye due to Hayfever, and has been really sore, and only just remembered that, as I write this blog post. I know I can do a reset, but especially in the morning I am going to have to really push myself to get out of the bed to do anything. Yet last week before I had my first cuppa and breakfast did a sort out of my clothes. Seeing the result made it worth it. I know I am going to be nervous about calling the doctors, because it is so hard to get an appointment and means putting other stuff off, and I don’t like bothering my doctor. Its the mindset of “It’s only a swollen eye I am sure it will go”, but who knows.
I am guilty of putting things off, example I bought Henry, my son a new pair of shorts from Sainsbury’s but they are too small and so have to take them back, but I haven’t. However I have decided to keep them and donate them, and will get my son another pair. I have learned that if I don’t take them back they will still be good for someone else to wear and done my bit for charity. So I don’t feel that bad about them not being returned.
“You’ll find ways to get it done and still see results”
I am a one bit at a time person and hate rushing. I have to stop myself from jumping in with both feet, because I get overwhelmed. It means slowing down, but a moderate pace.
Do you do reset each week or perhaps everyday? Where to you begin?
For me it has to be in eye view, and of course I am not going to vacuum as soon as I wake up, which is usually around about 5am, as I know it wouldn’t be appreciated. So it will have to be a sociable hour around 8am, or is that too early? Anyway I will get up and start once I know I am not going to disturb anyone else and get it done.
Hello this another Life Coaching video as part of my Life Coaching programme, “2022 Project”, helping you to have a happier life and a year.
To get to grips with your life, it is good to be strong and guided. This time last year I was in a Mental Health hospital and wished I had known about these places as I would have checked myself in, as like many I found the lockdowns we had, was effecting my mental health, by not being able to go out and explore, and I love walking and visiting different places, but due to Lockdown I couldn’t.
Develop your understanding of what is good in your life and why and what is not, and do you want to be good or the bad?
Never Promise if you can’t deliver, because there is such a thing as false promises and when we don’t follow through we feel failure. Doing is better than promising.
Develop a life that is personal to you. So now I am back walking again, long distances and as soon as I see people running, I feel I am not doing enough, yet walking is just as good and so don’t do things just because of other people but what will benefit you
Get in touch with your spirituality. I have had a tough nine years where I allowed my mental health dictate my life and not getting in touch with myself and so began praying again, because, for me that helps and I listen to my soul and gut rather than my heart and mind
Stop comparing. I should hold a reward for this because I am guilty as sin. I have learnt and I do what suits me and love myself, rather than looking at someone else and feel inadequate
Creating different systems. This came from watching Mel Robbins Reset, check it out, and if you want to remember something like a pair of shoes for walking, I put them out so I can slip them on and go. Being a parent I would make sure I had items I could grab and go, as hate forgetting. Sorry what was that, I said, I don’t like forgetting, so leave items in full view so I know I will remember
Create good patterns. I now make sure I set an alarm in the mornings, to make sure I have a good sleep pattern, as 4 hours sleep which I used to sleep for, did me no good and so I now go to bed between 8 and 9pm and wake up by 8:30am. I don’t have lunch until I go over to my son’s house to wait for him to return from school and stops me snacking and I love reading my book whilst travelling, as i learn a lot this way
Give back what others have given you. I do this by thanking the bus driver for taking me safely to my last stop, I will buy nice cards and presents for family and what I do need to do is remember to write thank you cards, as I always forget and so will make an effort to do this, and feeling bad from not doing so.
Get rid of anger by making changes in your life. Example hating your job, and feel you don’t connect with the people you work with. Look for a new place to work that has a better atmosphere. I had jobs like this, when working for a computer company, and there was a lot of back stabbing and felt so uncomfortable so I left, and followed my dream to work at a Holiday camp and finally got the chance, to leave my old life in London and Surrey for the south coast and was a brilliant experience.
Make yourself be heard, Staying silent never helps and so set boundaries, making it clear of what they are. and stand your ground. This is not contradicting number 9, as you can do this to prevent anger, but just sitting and talking to people and teach others to do the same. Sitting having a conversation about what upsets us, rather than a shouting match.
It is all about keeping your head held high and to realise your value, and that you have a part to play in this world just like everyone else.
When life is full it can feel like a massive weight on your shoulder and it becomes overbearing. We can get lost in tones of to do’s and not achieving anything, and bogged down.
So this blog is all about, How to spend time to look after yourself and get rid of the stress and anxiousness.
Spent more time looking after you, rather than other people. Self care is a must, and this can be whatever you want. I when wanting to be quiet do colouring in and you can get colouring books which helps with mindfulness and a great way to just be on your own and putting yourself first
Spend sometime putting together some family time, where you all sit down and chat. I often will spend time with my son, talking and watching the planes go over and will make a must that I check with my son how he is and if he has had a good day at school. He often doesn’t share that much, but when not prompted he will tell me. Chatting with your family can really be a good way to talk about any worries you and they may have, and send a message and arrange a time to sit and meet with family
If you are contacted by someone you don’t want to see, but you feel that you should, take time to have space and like above chat with them about it. If they don’t want to listen then you can decide if they are good in your life or aren’t
Keep a notebook where you can practice Affirmations. This has helped me a lot, because looking back I have been so hard on myself and felt like it is me against the world, but not the case, its all about what you can bring to the table and remember that you were born into this world so you are part of it. Again if there is something that triggers bad thoughts argue with it by practicing Affirmations
Give yourself some time explore. This morning as I write this blog, my son and I went for a walk and got rid of my fatigue and had a good amount of energy and so now we are going to do this each weekend. I also make space to work and explore in the week too. It doesn’t have to be fast but taking time to be with your own mind and really gets rid of cobwebs
Life is about building your life for happier times and doesn’t have to be done all in one go, but taking your time and listen to your mind and body, and you soon know what changes in your life needing to change, like taking your time to have a better mindset and time.
If there are things in our life that has not worked out, it doesn’t mean your life is over, it means it wasn’t meant to be. We can often feel like a failure, and beat ourselves over the head with it, example, starting a new job and you realise it isn’t what you thought and the format is not for you.
All experiences in our lives count to us growing and finding the job that is what you have been looking for. I want to work in childcare and so I have been trying different ways I can work within this industry to find the role that matches the one I want. It is good to have direction and trying different routes, but keeping in mind the expectations you have, to find the one that makes you feel like “Yes this is my dream” and makes you excited each day. Its not good if you dread it, because it can effect your wellbeing.
If it isn’t the right job then it is fine. Noone’s going to blame you for trying. Life is full of choices and we all in our lives will take a different turn.
You should never give up, but keep moving on and get on with it. Stop the worry, the analysing and the guilt, but put it down to life. It is all about choices and finding what works and what doesn’t.
If you allow life to be hard work it is going to be. If you keep giving yourself a hard time, then ask yourself “Do you want to be doing this all your life?” It can be draining, and so beating yourself up is sole destroying that doesn’t help, so getting rid of those feelings will help you breath and take stock of where your life is heading and set goals and trying new habits is the key to carrying on and letting go.
I am a mother, I am an Aunty, I am a sister, daughter and a cousin, and there have been many women whom have inspired me through my life.
Sandy one of my Playgroup Leaders that ran in Hammersmith and she still is in my heart along with another lady called Sue, who made me dinner once when my brother dislocated his arm playing football and would always be at the Fulham Recreation Ground, to watch like my mum, her son play football and never missed a game.
Sandy who today, is no longer in this world, but along with Sue, who lived in my estate aswell, were ladies I inspired me a lot and had time for everyone who attended playgroup.
Sylvia Dale, my Ballet and Tap instructor, who would gave up part of her home as a dancing studio and would put on amazing shows, every year and always were brilliant to be part of.
Connie and Sheila, two ladies who helped me to do Ballroom, Latin and Disco dancing, on a Saturday, after finishing tap and ballet, and taught us one by one who attended the dancing school, and helped us kids, make up dances too, and choreographed brilliant dancing routines and was there until I was 16 years old and still visit in my dreams.
My Aunties who have helped bring me up and loved having a lot of them in my life, and would never forget anyone at Christmas and or at Easter too, and loved it when as a family when we would, all come together and I love having so many happy memories, of those times along with my female cousins.
My two nans, Nanny Skinner and Nanny Rose, and were proper nans to me and were a massive influence as a kid who I would dance in the living room with and learn how to play cards and knit, and would have homemade food and would go on many shopping trips, aswell as meeting other friends and family.
Female Comedians, French and Saunders for their funny sketches and TV shows they did together and separately, Joan Rivers for her controversial gags and adult women humour, and never stopped working always working to make people laugh and cry with laughter.
Sports women, like Sally Gunnell, Fatima Whitbread, Martina Navratilova, and Zola Bud.
Actresses, like Joan Collins, Jenifer Aniston, Doris Day and Judy Garland. I loved old films and TV, and thankfully still alive today and growing even stronger, and influenced me as a woman myself.
Then there are singers, Cyndi Lauper, Madonna, Whitney Houston, Dionne Warwick and Juice Newton who I most recently remembered songs, as she was, which I forget was my early influences as a kid who’s parents loved music aswell.
And I could go on and on, but honestly there are so many influential women out there still today and my favourite life coaching speaker, Mel Robbins and I listen and watch her videos every day.
So, I would like to see comments, of as women who inspired you and had a influence on your life too. You can leave a comment below.
Thank you for everyone who loves these blogs and given me feedback, it really means the world to me, and gives me a push to write more and inspired you too.
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