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If you could put happiness into a Jar

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Hello and thank you for all the likes to my blogs and just to let you know I have three Youtube channels and so check my main one via this link:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg

The other two is My Style Way of Living and Carries Educational Youtube channel.

So if you could put happiness in to a jar what would you put into it?

I have created a sample and have created a downloadable print out with a section where you can fill it in.

This can be anything see the picture below:

I have a PDF version which has more pages.

It can be anything within reason, of course don’t be offensive, but what would make up your happinesss potion if this existed?

What would it smell like. For me it would be Vanilla and Cinnomon, and Lavender.

If you could choose a song to put in the jar, what would be?

Mine would be “My turn” by Diana Ross. Whenever I hear it reminds me of my life and the line I’ll let it rain, because the rain is not gonna hurt me, has been my moto.

What if it is a job or career you have dreamed of, what would this be?

I listed mine above in the picture of the jar, and it is writing for a magazine, as I watch Sheer Lux on Youtube, and would love to be part of that world.

With the list I have made, you can add items in as much as would fit in the jar, and have different jars, for what would make you happy.

The PDF you can print of and put into your happines folder or use it to make your own documents and use mine as a guide for you.

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Please check out my books on Amazon.com, under the following name, Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes:

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So more to come soon.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrrie X

Restart your life Anytime not just for the New year

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So first of all. Thank you so much in liking my blogs on this site and so happy that you liked my 30 day challenge I did on this site, it really means everything to me.

In this blog post I am talking about Restart your life anytime not just for the New Year.

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When it comes to restarting your life it means putting a lot to rest. If you aren’t feeling happy with certain people in your life, either discuss this with them and moving on to more like minded people who you do feel you have a connection with.

Have a life cleansing routine or ritual, for me this is when I spend time having a shower, using a body scrub, wash my hair and do some exercise and writing.

Getting projects that are overdue done and set a day of when you want to complete them, and then follow the cleansing routine or ritual as a reward to yourself.

Change the things you read, wear and use by rotating system, where by you sort out of say clothes and to make sure they get worn you go through what you have worn a lot and what you haven’t so to make sure you do get to wear those clothes you love, take them out to remember to do so. I like to go through my clothes of items worn or not worn for a while to wearing and have all my autumn and winter shoes out ready to wear.

Stop the self doubt and start living the life you want, like you already are. Dreams can be as big as you want them to be, and often you need patience and determination and keep seeing the vision and develop it as you get closer to your dreams.

Never allow others dictate your life for you, but have a network of support who you know will help drive you forward and when you set yourself up to be heard then do so and raise the bar of your success.

For me it is getting rid of the passed and being in the now and what is next in your life.

Just be worthy of yourself and give yourself praise and vision of how you would like to feel about you, and what gives you a neverending successful feeling and dreams are to live, breath and remember to take it all in, so you don’t miss it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Inspiring stories: How people have created magic when really it could have flopped

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Hello and welcome! This is a post I want to create to talk about How People have created magic when really it could have flopped.

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So, I normally I will talk about singers, actors, royality, presenters of TV shows and have built up their lives as a life coach. One being Tony Robbins for example. Who else has changed how we go about ourlives?

Philip Schofield who went from being in the broom cupboard on children’s TV to musicals. Joseph and the technicolour dreamcoat and was the first presenter of kids TV that crossed that line and he turned people’s heads. “How can he be in a musical when he would introduce children’s TV and talk to puppets like Gordon the Gopher and Ed the duck?”

Well by being wellknown and becoming a household name. It seemed at the time, that he was surprised he was wanted by Andrew Llloyd Webber, and it was a risk, yet it worked and did change how we saw people on TV. This is not having two many eggs in one basket.

The film philadelphia bought home how Aids was was percieved when it first came about. How prejudice people would get about someone with HIV, yet it won oscars and was Tom Hanks and the writers that bought it into the light, and made it to one of the most famous films of the world.

There was then the Spice girls who were so different to each other and they broke records with their songs and I remember when living in a housing estate seeing girls copying their dance moves. Their pictures would be advised on bus stops and buses, and made a film and got to meet Prince Charles and Nelson Mandela.

Linford Christie and Usain Bolt. Linford was bought up where I was, Hammersmith and was the most successful athlete of all time for Great Britain and England, and Usain Bolt a local Jamican who slept in a hut for most of his life and family was poor.

This teaches me that, just because on paper it says you will end up cleaning streets, doesn’t mean that you will. If there are miles of stones to cross that strength and determination can create magic wherever you go.

It is about being different and standing out and people who create magic do it because they create things like songs that last a lifetime and films. Its created a life that is possible and that you lived like a person already successful.

Magic can be created by anyone and so challenge yourself to create magic as if you’re already doing so.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Feeling like you have no power in your life/Gaining back control of uneventful things

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What do I mean by power, no sense of control over your life, but you try to grab it by the horns and say “No I want control back” but it is not there. You miss the bus, but other days you make it. That is something that could effect your day and now you’re late and feel that panic or at the moment the petrol stations have been chockerblock due to people needing petrol and there not being enough due to the Lorrys that are supposed to delivering it and everyone it queuing in their cars to get petrol.

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Then I worry about the buses what if they run out, how would we get anywhere, yet is there a way to gain control? Yes, travelling by a different route, like instead of a bus get the train instead. Then there are taxis and not turning up and you have business meeting. What can you do to gain control? again use the train or see if a coworker had a car who has petrol to see if they can pick up en route.

Basically if you want to get somewhere urgently we has humans will always find a way. That is with everything. Of course with COVID alot of things have got effected making work difficult and has gained control of what we do and where we go.

Can you get it back? Yes by using social media and going digitial on some things, like to do lists and managing the calendar and using the post to send cards out and contacting people. As said you will always as a human being find a way.

I keep that in mind with the things that go on in my life where I feel things are beyond control, like being stuck on a bus like the week just gone and was late to meet my son after he finished school, and that meant texting Henry, my son’s dad to make sure someone he is there for when Henry is bought back from school.

So never fear the power is with in you so remember if you lose a bit of control of your life, you will find a way to gain control again.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

How do you make people listen when they don’t want to hear?

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Hello and welcome! I am going to make sure I blog once or twice a week on this site, but with the school run, not be possible and so if you have been waiting for a new blog on this site, I apologise.

So topic of blog. How do you make people listen when they don’t want to hear?

How many of us have had this experience?

I know it can be a never ending battle, but if they aren’t willing to see things on your point of view, often they never will, so the ball is still in your court on that.

How important is it to have these people still in your life? You need to ask, as can you move away from them?

That is not always possible, but actions can speak wonders.

What do they bring you when you see them? There are people who can be super jealous which leads them to resent everything you say and just want to argue and what they seeing is that. You being happy reflects on them, when no they just using you as an excuse so if they don’t want to hear you, then don’t give them the time. Say to them “If you aren’t willing to listen then we can’t carry on as me being here is not making you happy and you want me to be, so lets talk or move on” this way you are still giving them choice without taking full control over them, but gives them something to think about.

I hate it when it feels like a tug of war, as then I end up not wanting to speak to them and there story has to be worse than yours and it becomes a battle of “Who’s story is the most important” and it should be equal. They listen to you and you listen to them.

Are we made on this planet to get on with everyone? In an ideal world perhaps but not realistically impossible, but you can still be polite rather than hostile and just keeping distant if you can’t move away from them completely.

So what are your thoughts? You can leave a comment below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Summer Project 2021/Helping others to be their own admire and giving credit to our selves

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Hwllo! I created my first video for my Summer Project 2021 so if you want to check this out then follow this link: Summer Project video.

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This blog is about Helping others to be their own admire and giving credit to ourselves.

If we see good in us we see good in other people and you should spend time working on yourself.

Life can feel ike a long life sentence when we can’t stop giving ourselves a hard time, going throgh the problem you have with yourself? What really is bothering you?

You need to face it head on, look in the mirror and really observe yourself and then go though your life. Create something new into your life and going through the successes you had through your life, already. This is a great way to see, that you are worth thinking about and find photos of you and others that bring you happpiness and any photos of memories that is a cause of why you don’t feel good about yourself.

Is it due to a person, or bad habit, an addiction or you just don’t like what you see, when you look at yourself?

For me it was the latter I didn’t like looking at myself or hear my own voice. I would often hide away because of it and reallly demolish what I saw.

Yet if someone was saying those things to you, you wouldn’t stand for, so #BeKind to yourself, and see that everyone has qualities and be sponetanous.

Have an evening painting your nails, spend time rearranging you wardrobel and take pictures of different outfits you can create from your collection of clothes. treat yourself to having a new set of items to add, and change it up. Declutering is great, as it good chance to see what would help you look good in the mirror, if it is physical and have fun.

Example today as I write this blog I have the house to myself, so I decided to have a shower in the afternoon that I rarely have and put some indoor clothes on and so feel chilled and good about me, for a change.

Doing the same thing everyday can get on anyones nerves.

Create like I have to help with my confidence, a photobook via google of selfies to see when I don’t feel good to look so I do.

So be your admirer and will help you feel better and help you to love life rather than loath and give yourself credit.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Summer Project 2021/Dealing with Summer Holiday Blues

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First of all, I checked my responses on my blogs and am blown away as the likes you give for my blogs and follows, means the world to me, so Thank you so much.

Summer this year has not been great, and I think we all could say in the UK, of thank God places have started to reopen after Lockdown and seeing how the world has come together to talk about it, shows that there are great people in this world, and not being able to travel due to COVID, has made us crave a holiday.

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Yet many of us have not and this can give you the blues. I am desperate for a holiday, and so I have been taking my son out a lot, and when I haven’t sat on a bench in the park to read and enjoy watching the world go by.

I find that by getting out is a relief and sitting watching some TV that I don’t always do, a real stress reliever and making me happy for these things.

Seeing and having fun with my son has helped, as when he moaned about going to the park, when he saw there was a water fountain he can play in bought a big smile, and that for me is what clears my blues.

I do dream of flying somewhere yet not happened and I do get that feeling of “Oh just a dream, oh I wish it would come true”.

What I would like to do is book a hotel in London and visit places up there to get a break. I am a city girl and thought at one time I had outgrown it, but then would have dreams about travelling to London as I missed the easinesss of doing that, and I love my city.

You can’t beat the London life and so I do like to visit and go to places a lot, and it does make a whole difference when its no longer summer and like this week coming making the most of the last weeks of summer to head into the Autumn and Winter.

So how to you deal with the Summer Blues? I’d love to hear and you can do this by commenting below.

I do more content on my Youtube channel linkd below:

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Summer Project 2021/Keeping Your Head Above the water/Some People are interested in you, others aren’t

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Hello and welcome! If you would like to see the videos I have done so far on this new Project then here is a link to this and other content can be found there too:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg

I have created a new printable for you to go through making changes and write about your current situation:

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We can often feel pushed down where we feel we are drowning and trying to hang on to stop, take a moment and then continue on. There can be resentment and jealousy towards you, and sorry to say this, but these sorts of people will always be around but it doesn’t mean you can’t raise your voice and let them know that it isn’t gonna make you stop, but fight on.

Never allow others shoot you down. You have the right to speak aswell as them, and cut them off.

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There are people who want to keep you floating and have no real time for you, only when it suits them, and others will join you, as they are interested in you and you find that this person is on the same wave length and you feel “Yes, this person gets me lets stay in contact”.

Keep your head above the water, and give yourself good acknowledgement and take time writing down why you are you, the things that have made you into a good person, and who has bought out the worst in you.

Noone wants to feel they are trapped and this is how you get out it.

  • Who’s more important to you?
  • What are you about?
  • Do you need to be there?
  • Can you move on?

Being in the wrong environment, and always being wrong, is hard but I have a mechanism that has taken me to better places and there is always a way out.

I once never believed to be true, but it is.

What I do is I will take notes in my head of what they are doing, but don’t take any notice. They dribble, I talk.

We need to dictate ourselves and not be others bec and call. Those people will never change, but you can.

So keep head above and affirmations are a great tool, and can be done in many ways, just tell yourself “You are worth it and you can go for it”.

Never settle for convenince but by what gets you out of the water onto land, and set rules for you and for people to see, you aren’t their admire as they want you to think, but you are with yourself.

Don’t give them to the time to if they want to knock you done and say “Thank you, but I know what I want and I will live my life as I wish too”

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Summer Project 2021/Managing Worry So they stop and are addressed to put them to rest

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Some people like summer but others don’t. A day can feel like a drag as theire is bound to be people looking and talking about their Summer Holidays and yet it is making you envious and “Why can’t I have time off”. Well you can and no matter what you do as a living, we all need that break to recharge ourselves and have time sitting in the sun, with a Cocktail and not worry about rushing to be anywhere.

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Managing the mind is important and to start, think about all the list of worries you have. I used to worry a lot and I would feel drained of the worry that surrounded me. Example: When pregnant with my son Henry, it was watching a section on the TV about how they forgot their children somewhere and that then started alarm bells, of “What if I did that, I’d feel terrible” and it did make me alert and so I always kept a hand on the pushchair, yet it was fine and often would put 2 and 2 together and making 14 out of it.

Even now I worry as a parent, and I think it automatically comes into your minds of all the things to worry about and I see as a forever playlist that you want to turn off, but there is no switch that can do that.

So go over your worries, and then as I did, go through how you can make sure that what you are worrying about doesn’t happen and it turns out ok. Example you worry about spiders coming into the home. Well firstly, How many spiders have you found in your home? and I know people will argue overt this, but for me it did work, and that is collect a load of concores and put them by the window and in the bathroom.

The best time is as soon as it hits autumn as spiders come into homes to seek warmth and not really to scare. So have concored to the ready, but as thy can go corrode, so when Autumn is over with winter, through them away.

It is important to go over the fears and address them as said above, but also ask “DO I WANT TO WORRY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?”

Take charge of situations that worry you and what I have often down is created A PRO’s and Con’s list of all the things that can go wrong, MY CONS and right my PRO’s.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Day 27/30 Day Challenge/Blog a day/Addressing my faults/Being happy for others

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Hello and welcome! This is blog number 27 and in this post I am talking about Addressing my faults and Being Happy for others

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This is someone who had many faults, I used to butt in when having a conversation. I do switch off which isn’t a fault as such but for some people it can be and why I didn’t continue to do driving lessons and have gotten jealous and begrudging. Being on the other side of that they are not good traits to have and once you are on the receiving end of such emotions how it can turn into something unworthy and anger from them, who do feel that way.

I see them also as bad habits and bad behaviour and its the question is, “Do you want people to be happy and living a dream and or unhappy?”

“Do you want anger from others as does it make you feel better when they are?”

Everyone deserves happiness weather you like them or not and I find its those that always complain and never satisfied and nothing pleases them.

“Do I want people to see me in this way?” Of course not. I want the world to be a better place and stop war if I could and end suffering.

I dont want to see anyone homeless or anyone being hurt where they ca’t defind themselves, who would want that?

There are people who are just unkind and always want you to see you fail and that makes me sad rather than anger cause it can spiral out of them being isolated and alone.

We all have fleurs but there are those that learn from it and those that don’t and feel they are always right all of the time and I am not afraid of saying that I am wromg and have in many ways but I still come out of it still standing and we will make mistakes and working on ourselves is important in being received by people for good and not bad. So setting boundaries and rules for yourself is the way.

Lets #BeKind and #BeSmart.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X