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Being the person you wish to be/Telling my Story

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being the person you wish to be, building and growing, change habits, change your mindset, telling my story

I knew as a kid that I didn’t want just a job and do something different to what other kids wanted to do and as a kid I wanted to be famous because I never was the popular kid and starting school I was a loner and it took me ages to form friends.

As I gone through life I have been different depending on where I am, like when I went to dancing school in Fulham in London on Saturday’s and first I was shy and would get anxious and cry, but then when I realised I was good at it didn’t look back and I loved it. I am now a mum living in Wimbledon in South West London and finally have a good balance with being a mum, writing and looking after myself and my wellbeing and its taken a long while to achieving my goals and ambitions.

I like who I am now. I still can be self critical and allow the negative thoughts come through, but I have started to be resilient to those thoughts and use proof to these thoughts that I can be who I want to be. It has taken a long time and I don’t want to just stop, but keep going, that is what I am all about.

You can lose your way and I did. I have been battling with managing my mental health and now back on my feet and never felt such strength before and feel more good things coming away. It has taken its time, but I have never lost my ambition or my drive, and know I have to make the choices and stand on my own two feet. I have to be strong for my son and he is my priority, and struggled with motherhood and so that took a back seat, whilst I got back on my feet, and the bond never went and we have so much fun now and want my son to learn from me, and if he ever has struggles that he will talk to me about them so he can have balance in his life too.

It is good to talk about your ambitions and live the life you want and not what somebody else wants, and have habits that help towards to be the person you want to be and feel good. If anythings feels like a chore then something needs to change, because in my experience, it can make you put it off.

There are a lot of things I still want to do and I still a lot of growing and building to do, but lay off on myself and be proud of who I am and I like having good conversation and so start going through the area of your self you do like, and what you can improve and set a plan for yourself to get there.

So, who do you want to be? And I’d like to hear from you and so you can leave a comment below, and if you like my blogs then please follow me so you can be updated whenever post and don’t miss one.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

Kick start your day and building up your energy

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being a parent, building up your energy, Good habits that can change your wellbeing, kick start your day, looking after your wellbeing

I did my first run this week, and was my first one after a two year break and it felt so good and doing that gave me so much energy and felt so good about myself and feel grateful for my legs and being able to run, and on Tuesday I did my first long walk this year and again it gave me such a boost.

If you want to make change then it is up to you to do it, and did start getting thoughts about doing the run, but said no to those thoughts and I done it.

We can all put things off and have excuses of why we shouldn’t and I would often talk myself out of it, forgetting the benefits of how I’d feel afterwards if I did a run for example, but then you get stuck in a rut and becomes a tug of war.

I have started to put together some life coaching tools together and it is for my Life Coaching programme I do each year and this year it is Project 2023 and so check these out here:

I will let you all know when this will be starting and so I will keep you informed.

Going for a run really gave a kick start to my day, I got a lot done, like changed and washed my bedding and uploaded a new update of my “No Spend January”, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V8-74xKzsyQ

I kick my start my day by setting an alarm and I before I am tempted to go back to bed, turn the light on, make my bed and get dressed.

When we have kids I get that it can be a challenge but once I got passed my 8 weeks after having my son I would get up early about 4 to 5am, whilst I did my son’s milk used the time to do some exercise. It was hard at first but my mindset was “If I don’t do any in the day at least I did some exercise in the morning” and it is was mentally energizing.

Then started to struggle, so getting back to it 9 years later having battled with it, remember how good it feels. Yes I still get bad days, well I am only human. Through those years, I developed a mental health condition, psychosis and my exercise was overtaken by it and lost my energy. Not that I didn’t try, I did, but I felt drained and so had to seek help and now got my life back and did exercise around the Autumn, but I take some time off for that time of year because I have birthdays and then comes Christmas, and so I am determined this year to make sure I continue to kick start my mornings to boost my energy for the day and not allow my inner critic talk me out of it and not worry about the cold and the dark mornings to stop.

For the first time in a long time feel good about my life and how I see it.

Habits go along way when they serve a purpose, like I get fit in the morning because that it helps get my day on a good start and that I don’t feel anxious about it, not drained by worry and thinking the worst and be relaxed and content.

So kick start your day honestly it can make a huge change, like dancing in the kitchen whilst doing your kids breakfast and why not have them join in. I loved doing this with my son before he started school. This stopped because of my mental health and because I don’t do the school run in the morning, because his dad and I no longer live together, but is a great way to wake up and boost you entire life.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

Reducing clutter From your life

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Where can you reduce clutter in your life?

You can reduce clutter from all areas of your life, like your computer/laptop, the kitchen, wardrobe, draws and cupboards and set a date of when you plan to do this and stick with it and start with one area at a time.

Living with clutter can be too much and we dread going back to the mess, and so if you want to clear it do it step by step and if you have someone to help you, take advantage and delegate.

I like having a sort through and do a weekly reset, where I will put my clothes away and quickly go through and take anything out that is worn and that you have no use for anymore and taking such steps can really help your wellbeing and I did a whole reset and had a complete sort through of my stuff and once I saw the clear space I had, made me feel relieved and so much better.

Clutter can build and build and so set it all out from the area you have chosen first to sort out and be realistic in making the choice to keep it or go. I am conscious of landfill and so if it is in a good condition like a piece of equipment, interior or furniture and clothes, donate and or sell. I know many people sell items on Facebook so check that out.

Set up a plan and challenge yourself to clear one items a day, or area.

I hope you find this useful and never fear, if I can declutter so can you.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

No Spend January 2023 first video

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So if you didn’t see my last blog then I am taking on a new challenge for January and that is no spend. This is from and idea I got from watching a Kate Kaden, and not because she is doing it, it’s because I do want to control myself when it comes to money and focusing what I need rather than what I want.

If you’d like to see more of my videos that I do each week then please subscribe on my channel as I love reaching out to you all.

Please check out first vide on Youtube here:

I really you enjoy watching and there will be more to come.

Many thanks,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

My Challenges for 2023/What can make a real difference/No spending January

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Yes it is 2023 and my first challenge for this year for January is going to be no spending. Now yes I have been out and bought a few bits today, but they were items I needed, and it is not buying items that aren’t a need, and avoid the impulse buying. Plus I do have a birthday coming up, but have already reserved money for this and planning what I will be using my money for, like travelling that I do each day to wait at my son’s home to come home from school, food and that is what I did today and want to buy items for lunches to be a bit more healthier and be vigilant with what I want to put into my body.

I am not going to buy anymore clothes and wear what I have got and not spending money on coffees at a coffee shop. Making a small changes make a huge difference and doing no spending days, that I did last year really help prepare me, and it helped me manage my habit of buying coffee from a coffee shop and use instant or from the coffee machine I have where I live. I will be vlogging it and so will do this as of tomorrow as I should be able to speak as I have had a stinking cold, and just want to get over the first day.

I have just written my financial target to pay off my debts and almost paid one off, just got to make another two payments and then that is then complete, and all I have to worry about is my credit card, and so plan to pay off £1200 by the end of this year, by paying £1200.00, which will take my debts to zero. I feel so good about that, because debts has had an effect on my wellbeing and mental health.

All challenges have to lead to a good result that make you feel good about life. Getting as much out of life as much as possible and feel good about yourself and give you a buzz, and stir you on for building your life every year. Making good positive changes. I want to start running again and do some fundraising events and do a fitness class that helps me to fight fatigue and to help me build up my energy levels, to feel fitter and reduce my sitting down time.

I am trying stop having my phone near by all of the time, as it does make me procrastinate and has made me feel more present. I think we get so sucked in when it comes to social media so monitoring my phone habits, when I have tasks to do, having my phone away from me has made a difference and getting jobs done.

I am not sure what I plan for February, but going to see how my no spending January goes first, and looking at the thing I want to invest in and was going to book an exercise class, but got a bit nervous about doing so and so going to concentrate on not spending money on clothes and see how much I can save for items I want, and what I need and would like it to continue in being logical when it comes to money.

I have put together a set of Pins which has some Life coaching advice and tools to help, check out my life coaching tools I have put together on my Pinterest that may help you set some challenges for yourself, and have already putting items ready for my Life coaching programme, “2023 Project” too, so you can whilst you are there checks these pins too.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

End of another year

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It is new years eve and tomorrow it will be 2023, and soon it is all systems go again, but not gong to forget 2022, it has been okay for me. I am happy that I did complete the writing of my book I wrote about yesterday and going to make it a tradition that I publish a book by the end of each year to publish as I approach another year.

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I didn’t complete the writing of my Christmas book and want to make changes to it and so still got to achieve this goal and have a book about Christmas. Many may not believe in goals but I do, as I like challenging myself. It gives me such a good energetic feeling and looking over 2022 I really liked the challenging to read a book a month as I have read some really good books, check out my videos All About Books. I do video book reviews and due to do another as talk about the book I read and finished during the Christmas holidays.

Doing my reset and for Autumn and going to do another this year as it made me feel free. It is good to have space and I plan tomorrow to do part of it and film, so I will let you know if this happens, and I liked reaching out to you through my Life Coaching blogs. It was good to go through my emails and still got to do more to empty them out, and so yesterday did a big clear out as I have run out on storage on my google account.

This year I began writing newsletters and love putting these together and I am glad that you have liked them too.

Another year means more challenges to come and creating new habits this year, like not having my phone near my bed has made such a difference and making my bed each day. There is more I want to do, as they are helping me so much in making sure I look after my self aswell as other people and concentrating on what makes me happy.

So lets all have a good new year and celebrate a new year,

Happy new year everyone.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

Getting the most out of your life no matter when

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Thank you once again for all of your support and checking out my blogs. So it is now coming up to another year but it doesn’t mean we can’t make changes in our life now.It is about progress, and it isn’t about getting everything so perfect that I often have to remind myself of that, but have a life that makes you smile rather then feel down.

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Yes I have had a mental health illness but doesn’t mean my life has to be at a stand still, it means it gives me more fight in me too build my life and continue following my dreams. There is still so much I want to do. I have been meaning to take my son to another football match as he loves sport and has been on my list for ages and this weekend we did just that and wanted to take Henry to another Pantomimes and this year he is going to see two.

Life should be full of dreams and making the most out of each season, and have a life full of joy, and things to look back on and everlasting and be able to pass them on as each generation comes into the world and everyone deserves a life they love.

Begin by keeping a journal of your thoughts and getting your dreams out on a paper and go through the things you want. some may not have been a sort of person who ever wanted something, like a lady called Baroness Karen Brady, but looking and viewing herself, she must have done but subconsciously she must have done to be as successful and I can’t imagine how she got so far by not, and she ran football clubs and so she must wanted good things at the clubs she worked for to get where she is.

You do have to take on challenges, like I was in a hospital to help my mental health illness I had and helped me get back on my feet again and was challenging but was good to have that space and time to make sense of life again, and can’t wait to take on more. I really get a boost of setting myself challenges each year and now my challenge is to find outside work to expand myself even more and help with my writing and understanding more about people and want to help others with mental health problems and help build other children’s life and set a good example for my son, for him to be the best person he could be, and follow his dreams he has.

If he does find that he wants to play football or rugby then I going to look for him to join a team, or a club. Kids do change their mind I did a lot, of what I wanted to do in my life.I do believe in having eggs in different baskets and do many different things and so far accomplished them. I wanted to sort my room out in the week just gone and I did. I did a total reset and it feel so good to have a room with no clutter. I felt I needed to do it and it can make my life feel chaotic which I want to avoid.

The next thing is to sort my hair out so if I do work outside I want neat and tidy hair and be a manageable length.

So lets keep building our lives and enjoy our lives through each season whether it not in the new year. We can set our goals whenever we want.

I’d like to know what you want out of life now and what your ambitions and dreams you have. You can leave a comment below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal.

Autumn Reset Day 11: Letting things go

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What is Letting things go?

Getting rid of items in your life that no longer serves a purpose, and that can be clothes, ornaments, underwear or books for example.

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It can be hard, but you know in order to make changes in life, there are things that need to be rid of, and if they just gathering dust and no longer make you feel good then it is time to give them to a new home, like clothes or books you are never going to read again.

This can cause anxiety because you need stuff in your life to feel fulfilled and that to me is fine, but if it makes you feel low and feels like an eye sore, then it is time to let it go. There may be items that have sentimental value but if they don’t fit anywhere, for me that is a sign that some items need replacing, and something else to replace it.

Example I used to collect T-Pots and had loads, but I moved into a new home with my husband back then and it was time to let them go. It was a hard decision but it felt right and had no more a place for me. It helped start a fresh chapter and time to focus on living and building myself as I was looking to a new job, so it was time. That need replaced my need t collect stuff.

As I have gotten older it has become easier and so this week concentrated on sorting my clothes out, and then going to work on paperwork. I find paperwork can build and build so it is time to have a sort through to have a clearer space and feel I need to get this done to allow other documents that have replaced other documents and go through what is a requirement and what is not.

I keep my writing because of fear of someone else writing the same thing and it is proof that I wrote it, and I hope noone would, with the internet you never know who could steal my work, so it is safety net of just in case. Also like to look back on my writing because how far it has come and go back on passed ideas that I may want to re-write.

I am a stuff girl and so I have to be disciplined and realistic. Do I have a place for it all? and no so going to keep going through what is still present in my life and what is not, to downsize and have more space.

Thank you for following me on my Autumn Reset journey and lets work together.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

Autumn Reset Day 7: Going through different cycles/Seasonal habits

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Welcome and thank you for liking my blogs and for following this site, it really is amazing that you like this blog site and are reaching out to you, and find them helpful.

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So it is Day 7 and not doing this on continuous days, but the areas I want to go through and make changes, as sitting here being September, catching up on watching Youtube videos I realise I go through different cycles and do live seasonally, example: I start to want to do crafting and decorate my notebooks and journals, and want to have a hot chocolate and tend to have a bigger sweet tooth.

It is seasonal habits that I subconsciously do and so I do have to watch my weight and find that I find it hard to take a shower because of the cold and want to get ready for bed earlier too.

Getting out of bed is another issue because of the dark mornings and soon the clocks will change again and not wanting salads but hot meals and have a hot drink at the end of the evening, rather than a can of coke. This can effect your wellbeing because it just makes me want to hibernate.

This is why I make it a habit to make my bed now as it can be easy just to leave it, because if not I will get back in and stay there the whole day. I want to stay in my pyjamas all day, which is good to do, I love lazy days but then get that sense of guilt for doing so and feel unproductive, so I have changed and so as much as loved lazy days, I still like to get dressed but do more cozy things like watching a film or documentary.

I like to read and listen to chill out music, then watch repeats of things on TV and so I really have to try my best not to stay in more, but still get outside, so I will layer up because of the cold and just want to be comfortable and still be productive.

I like to go over my habits and I don’t want to be sleeping in, but still get at a reasonable time to get things done and get to where I need to be. I find I don’t want to exercise but this year want to go on regular walks and I love it. I like walking and still do workouts indoors too.

I want to make a habit into doing a new Make up routine where I want to still put on some but not too much and have no make up days still, but not wearing any effects my confidence so I have started a new regime and want to have a clear out of my make up, so I put some on each day of the week perhaps and have no make up days at the weekends. So I go through changes and will be setting myself some academic yearly goals.

Do you live seasonally let me know and what habits you wish to change this part of the year to continue into 2023. You can leave a comment below.

RIP Elizabeth II God save the King.

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

Autumn Reset Day 5: Letting things go

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First of all thank you for those that have started following me on this blog, it really means a lot honestly.

There have been some changes happening here in the UK, and I bet you can guess why, because the Queen Elizabeth II has died and it been a real adjustment, but life does have to carry on and so in this blog I am talking about is Letting things go.

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First of all it is good to have sentimental things, because of the memories they hold, but if it just in a draw with other stuff then it is time to make a decision about it. If it a photo, a keyring or a stone, display it, don’t hide it. Put it somewhere safe and the one thing I have done is kept a memory box. I used a paper bag of items my son had as a baby and I love having photo albums. It is good to look back and reflect.

Do you need to keep copies of items? It depends what it is. How many photos that are the same worth keeping? It all depends on the value of them, personally. What memories are stored in the photo and does it give you joy or make you sad?

Does the photo or what ever it may be, mark an anniversary that means the world to you and does it reach your heart? Does it help you to keep in contact with those that have passed on, and help you to grieve? I bet the Queen found it hard to let things go, having such a history of Queens and Kings before her, and now King Charles III will be making those choices, I bet he dare move anything, because of the Royal Family’s history. I know they display the Queens dresses I think it was at the V&A and became part of her legacy.

So, it can be being ruthless and giving yourself tough love and be honest about the different areas of your life.

Have a maybe section and have a keep sake box. I have done this and used a folder to keep cards that meant a lot and when I got married, when my son was born. I used a paper bag to keep his teether Suzy and a birthday card. I keep my medals that I got doing fundraising events and runs and walks, and they really mark a change in my life where I was trying to raise money for charity and deal with my self confidence, and so rewarding and makes me feel proud of myself.

It can be a letters. I used to have penfriends and kept on the letters, not sure as to where these are now but I kept them in a shoe box and lost touch, but again create a keepsake box and I do often wonder if they did the same. When my nan passed away we found the letters my grandad wrote to my nan during the war and were so lovely that my mum I think still has them or my Uncle may have them, but marked a era and made us see how ever much my nan and grandad would disagree they deeply loved each other and marked the war, and thinking of these letters helps me to keep in touch of my grandparents.

So it is time for me to end the day, but lets keep doing the reset and have a fresh new start to our lives.

RIP Queen Elizabeth II and God Save our King.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

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