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Summer this year has not been great, and I think we all could say in the UK, of thank God places have started to reopen after Lockdown and seeing how the world has come together to talk about it, shows that there are great people in this world, and not being able to travel due to COVID, has made us crave a holiday.
Yet many of us have not and this can give you the blues. I am desperate for a holiday, and so I have been taking my son out a lot, and when I haven’t sat on a bench in the park to read and enjoy watching the world go by.
I find that by getting out is a relief and sitting watching some TV that I don’t always do, a real stress reliever and making me happy for these things.
Seeing and having fun with my son has helped, as when he moaned about going to the park, when he saw there was a water fountain he can play in bought a big smile, and that for me is what clears my blues.
I do dream of flying somewhere yet not happened and I do get that feeling of “Oh just a dream, oh I wish it would come true”.
What I would like to do is book a hotel in London and visit places up there to get a break. I am a city girl and thought at one time I had outgrown it, but then would have dreams about travelling to London as I missed the easinesss of doing that, and I love my city.
You can’t beat the London life and so I do like to visit and go to places a lot, and it does make a whole difference when its no longer summer and like this week coming making the most of the last weeks of summer to head into the Autumn and Winter.
So how to you deal with the Summer Blues? I’d love to hear and you can do this by commenting below.
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We can often feel pushed down where we feel we are drowning and trying to hang on to stop, take a moment and then continue on. There can be resentment and jealousy towards you, and sorry to say this, but these sorts of people will always be around but it doesn’t mean you can’t raise your voice and let them know that it isn’t gonna make you stop, but fight on.
Never allow others shoot you down. You have the right to speak aswell as them, and cut them off.
There are people who want to keep you floating and have no real time for you, only when it suits them, and others will join you, as they are interested in you and you find that this person is on the same wave length and you feel “Yes, this person gets me lets stay in contact”.
Keep your head above the water, and give yourself good acknowledgement and take time writing down why you are you, the things that have made you into a good person, and who has bought out the worst in you.
Noone wants to feel they are trapped and this is how you get out it.
Who’s more important to you?
What are you about?
Do you need to be there?
Can you move on?
Being in the wrong environment, and always being wrong, is hard but I have a mechanism that has taken me to better places and there is always a way out.
I once never believed to be true, but it is.
What I do is I will take notes in my head of what they are doing, but don’t take any notice. They dribble, I talk.
We need to dictate ourselves and not be others bec and call. Those people will never change, but you can.
So keep head above and affirmations are a great tool, and can be done in many ways, just tell yourself “You are worth it and you can go for it”.
Never settle for convenience, but by what gets you out of the water onto land, and set rules for yourself and for people to see, you aren’t their admirer as they want you to think, but you are with yourself.
Don’t give them to the time to if they want to knock you done and say “Thank you, but I know what I want and I will live my life as I wish too”
Well first off what is your niche? Who are you? When you think about your life as it is how would you rate it from 1 being awful, 10 being the happiest you have ever been.
So what can we learn:
Never give up. Life is full of paths ones we take without thinking and ones we often can question.
If you had a points table how would you score yourself. Is there anything peronally you want to work on and build
Be fully charged. Find items that gives you maximum energy and happiness. Footballers don’t just go out and play football but have daily habits that they do before a match. So a ritual can help to prepare for the day and any challenges that come your way
Becoming the best in the world:
Take on the challenges and look at the competition and research things that noone else ever mentions and have good system that helps build yourself to be best at what you truly love to do, not just on the day but will help accomplish goals for the year
Write down the fears you have and address each one and how you can overcome them
Be your own judge and reflect on each task you do and is it something you enjoy or something you feel you have to do?
Focus your mind on the ultimate reward. So rehearse in your mind of the receiving the car you want or the home you want
Log each achievement done and again rehearse completing them and that is each step you take too
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Hello! I have often been a stress head and I would frantically worry. It would be of the worse case scenario that I’d think about and then it would often be when I put my head on my pillow to go to sleep, and yet stay awake from Stressing and worrying.
I remember watching Big Brother once when someone of the housemates was asked do they worry and they said no cause it’s a waste of energy and I feel that is true. I would worry about not worrying and feel it is my mind and body warning me of danger, but it is also by the influence too.
So the 1st destresser I give is have a morning, afternoon and evening ritual. So I will always have a cup of my favourite tea, Earl Grey and a good breakfast, along with playing some music and I used to watch some Youtube or when doing the school run me Henry and I would dance. In the afternoon having time to walk and explore and evenings a good dinner and some chill out time listening to music, reading a book or low level screen time catching up on some weekly TV.
The second distresser is arrange events to go to yearly or monthly to have things to look forward a throughout the year even including a holiday. We all need to get away from normality for a bit so doing different things each year or month helps to break up the weeks and months and have a date set.
We can be so hooked on existing rather than living that we all get desperate to have space and purity included so third tip is light a scented candle and read a book along with a cup of tea or hot chocolate with some favourite biscuits and again practice meditation or mindfulness. We all deserve a treat so go for it and never look back or be regretful as it is your mind saying “Make a change to everyday life”.
To feel on top of the world we have to make the effort to look after ourselves and to give ourselves 5 minutes or so to be just with our thoughts and mediation or mindfulness can help in this respect. It is about learning about what you need and so take 5 just to gain perspective and nuture yourself. Chat with those who make you feel on top of the world and are on your side. Take out negativity and just be with yourself.
So the fourth tip is, find an exercise routine to do. There are loads on Youtube that I have created a playlist for the ones I have found and want to try out. If you are paying to have Sky TV and Broadband then get your moneys worth and workout at home along with walking, running or taking part in a sport.
The fifth tip is to Take yourself out of a situation when you meet difficult people. When working in Customer service you had to be think skinned and when I was getting upset over some phone calls I moved over to the Chat and email team and it was the best move I made. It can be so hard to take yourself away in that kind of work, yet it paid well and didn’t want to leave so when I saw there was a need for another email Customer Service agent I applied and glad that I did. If you find you aren’t getting any benefit out of a job and start to withdraw yourself it means you need to change for something better. One reason why a lot of people take time off from work is due to Stress and worry.
So be good to yourself and never fear you aren’t alone in this world and can move onto better things to destress and be happy.
There is a brilliant film called Picture Perfect with Jennifer Aniston, who works for an advertising agency and is a Single Woman who wants promotion and comes up with a good advertising slogan for some mustard and gets told when she thinks she will get promoted and gets to help Manage the compaign finds out she won’t and as the Manager of the agency tells her, she has to “Dress for the job she wants”. Is this true? Would this really happen?
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So when I begin to do TV work I will be wearing more tailored and will be making more of an effort, but I do like to still look presentable at times when doing my work at home too. With Content Creator a lot of the work is off the cuff and doesn’t really matter but in the week I do like to be bit more presentable and I do tend to dress for the whatever type of area in terms of work may be.
When I worked for a contact centre for example I had to where professional office gear and they did have rules of what you could and couldn’t wear, like anything that exposed the shoulders, not too short a skirt, clothes were ironed and you looked presentable as they would often have clients visiting the centre.
Yes Fridays we were allowed to wear our jeans but we still couldn’t go in too scruffy, and not have holes in shirts or tights. You still had to set a kind of good standard with the call floor you worked on. When I worked at a Holiday camp I would wear uniform but again it had to be clean, good personal hygiene and make sure hair was put up out of the way and sometimes had to wear hairnet, and then at night as I would go into the venues in going out evening etire. Now, it wasn’t so strict but I liked after slaving away working within the restaurants dressing up and it did impress the guest because even though you weren’t working you were still expected to keep the camps good reputation and keep a certain standard, as you are still representing the camp.
Now not everyone knew that I worked there, but then people did and I loved just having a good time after I had worked a split shift normally and it was time to let me hair down without making a disgrace of myself.
It became the life I loved, and I came to love it and it was the place I knew I needed to be. So in thinking of this, yes you do have to dress going on the work, as working in a restaurant you do have to look smart, professional and ready to great guests into a restaurant and be polite always and look confident.
When going to a job interview, it is always good to look smart and clean with a shaved face at times, depending on the job, but not like you have just got out of bed. Employers want to see that you are clean and if their first impression is not good then their clients will feel the same which can then effect a business. so when it comes to employment yes you should dress for the job you want. Many retailers want to see that you are someone who is fashionable if it is a clothes shop, and you shop in their store if it is well known or chain store, and that you do look at trends, by dressing in some of their items by that first impressiion they see of you.
So, I hope that has helped you should you be looking for a new job it is your first job, then good luck.
I have done many of these blog posts and did a video about it too yesterday as everything seemed to end up on the floor, I nearly took a draw with me and it was as if everything wanted to fall.
When I these days happen I am able to laugh, cause its like when one thing goes wrong, then that how it is for the whole day. Thank god I had my weekly takeaway to help as without Macca D’s I think I would have wanted to have the day end there and then. Yet I got through it and today was better.
We are always going to get days when things don’t go our way, and its how you respond that can help these days pass to a less hap hazard day. Yes going back to bed may be a choice but then staying in bed all day, doesn’t always have a purpose and I like what I do and that has helped. I think it is often where you are in your life at that moment, mentally, financially and romantically, that can make all the difference.
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You can never control certain days and events that happen, like someone in the family getting sick and as parent do clean up pooh explosions, but we can make it better by giving ourselves time to view, address and reflect, and doing something like Self Care, which includes self development. This lighting a scented candel with a scent you love, with some chill out music.
Have an unplanned meal. Meal plans are good as I used to do this, but it is good to have a free choice meal day, for example and you do something not planned making meal time, even if the most of the day has been bad, good in the end.
This is where keeping a journal is good as this helps to view, address and reflect on those days and how you can learn from those days whenever they happen.
We can not control when a child or the whole family get sick all in one go, however much you sanitize and keep bad bacteria at bay, but will have a movie on or all go to bed early some days. Whenever I had a bad day when I was with him, I would go to bed when he did and often watch TV in bed together.
When I did this I would feel a lot better the next day and the thought “Well I got through that day and did I die?”, if you are reading this email after a bad day, then the answer is NO.
Set a date with yourself to take time out doing something different if you don’t often get to go out on your own. This can be meeting and going for a coffee with friend for lunch or going out in the evening, there is a drink with my name of on it mode, and go for that end of the week drink.
I loved it one time when on Fridays I would work up London, after a long week go to a bar afterwards and dance, sing on Karoake and paint the town red.
When the theatres open again, go and see a show, I love doing this, even if it is once or twice a year, even if it is a outdoor show, go and see it. Book that show, book a meal and take yourself out of the normal rushing week, and enjoy. I love seeing shows and I would recommend the Tina Turner Story show, Bat out of Hell and Chicago. I would go see these again, and even seen the stage show of Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.
Soon I will be working on some shows too in London at my favourite venues, Live at the Apollo and at the London Palladium and Hard Rock calling.
Remember those days where it is not going our way, that they won’t last long and there are still good days on the horizon. They always pass and take time to exhale and be with yourself to gather your thoughts and set a date to have a TV evening. I would often do this, Saturdays were mine as a kid and would watch endless shows, and Sundays would be seeing our friends in Fulham and Chelsea. It is good to see different; people some weeks, as we often just need a change of scene.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie L.M X
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Hello and welcome! So in this weeks Monday post I am talking about 10 Ways of Creating a Life to remember.
To do that I what want to go through the things you still love in your life. Now when doing this be really true to yourself and don’t say it because you feel it is the right thing to say, but that is a true feeling inside of you, that you want those things still in your life.
It is more or less A DECLUTTER OF LIFE!
So where to begin,
I would write down people first, and I have made a Promise to myself to not allow Toxic people in my life anymore and if they want to be like it let them, I just don’t want them around me, as they are Toxic for a reason.
Then declutter the memories of those people, and take pictures of the true people in your life, so your memory focuses on those and not ones of those that bought you down in your passed
Then go through your possessions, and be Ruthless about it. I have a written a new EBook called Spice Up Your Life, and in it I talk about being Ruthless, and should be up tomorrow on Amazon.com under the name Carrie Lee Holmes
Create a Wall Full of Happiness, where you have all the people who you love and in a place you can spend 5 to 10 minutes looking at, and why not in your bedroom or hallway you walk through a lot, and with a cup of coffee in your hand, look at it, before you begin your day
Make some personalised items of your favourite photos and create a display of those things, but if you buy a mug for example you can use it in a functional way too, by using it as a Pen holder, but I would prefer to use it for a Coffee to be honest
Develop a story of your life so far, by creating a photo book and of places you love travelling to and have a travel journal. Or the same as with the Happiness Wall, have a Wellbeing Gallery on a wall in your home
Why not have your own Wall of Fame, and pictures of when you went on girl holidays and where you met the love of your life. It does feel good to be in love again, I think I need a bucket of cold water, but is that gonna stop me being in love? NO WAY!
Why not learn a new skill and document it as you learn, by keepiing a journal and pictures
Have your own desiginer clothes range or a series of self published books, as it can lead to so many opportunities
Develop a programme full of possibility and hope, by doing rituals and new habits that will drive you through a better and successful life
Hello so if you didn’t know I am doing a Life Coaching programme called “Project 2021” where I will sharing tools and information to help you create a better life and a better year.
Part of my work as a blog writer and a youtube video creator, I do a lot of research and I have been watching many videos by Terry Savelle Foy and she does a brilliant one about 21 day challenges to introduce more positive habits into your life. Check out my latest Tea and Biscuits video talking about it which will live before this blog post, but visit my channel and it will be there: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg
So I put together a Playlist and a Pinterest board with “Project 2021” content by me and other Content Creators including celebrities included, so here is the Youtube Play list I have done:
I have also on my Pinterest created some new visions boards, one is a New Look for 2021 and another which features Fashion Look books and I also want to do a new Home Vision board, being that i will be moving very soon.
It is all about putting your dream in pictures and the one tip I was given today, by my Love Lee is that when brainstorming don’t do it like a neat line by line list, but either by a spider graph or by randoming listing ideas, because he has seen that when I do it that way I achieve it.
He also follows this method himself. I can’t tell you how refreshing it is to find a man that loves you out of this world including your work. I even journalled that I hope that there would be a real true love for me still as I knew my first marriage was coming to an end.
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As it is Mothers day that I have written this blog to go out on Monday tomorrow, it is Mothers day and it is the ladies who were my grandmothers who influenced me the most and what I am going to add to my Year vision board is a picture of them both and add their beliefs and habits that have followed within me, that have helped me get to where I am today, because I did a video for my Weekend Chat video where I actually said for the first time that I am Proud of me, and that has taken a lot.
I am going to find images of when i achieved some of my dreams as a kid too, to add to help keep my positive mind and new future to help continue my growth in this world. I have learned that no matter how hard times can be you do still find good people along the way that keep you driven and focused and who your true family and friends are, as they will be there in your darkest hour.
So you keep going and try the 21 challenges idea and see what habits have helped develop your life even more.