There is a brilliant film called Picture Perfect with Jennifer Aniston, who works for an advertising agency and is a Single Woman who wants promotion and comes up with a good advertising slogan for some mustard and gets told when she thinks she will get promoted and gets to help Manage the compaign finds out she won’t and as the Manager of the agency tells her, she has to “Dress for the job she wants”. Is this true? Would this really happen?
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So when I begin to do TV work I will be wearing more tailored and will be making more of an effort, but I do like to still look presentable at times when doing my work at home too. With Content Creator a lot of the work is off the cuff and doesn’t really matter but in the week I do like to be bit more presentable and I do tend to dress for the whatever type of area in terms of work may be.
When I worked for a contact centre for example I had to where professional office gear and they did have rules of what you could and couldn’t wear, like anything that exposed the shoulders, not too short a skirt, clothes were ironed and you looked presentable as they would often have clients visiting the centre.
Yes Fridays we were allowed to wear our jeans but we still couldn’t go in too scruffy, and not have holes in shirts or tights. You still had to set a kind of good standard with the call floor you worked on. When I worked at a Holiday camp I would wear uniform but again it had to be clean, good personal hygiene and make sure hair was put up out of the way and sometimes had to wear hairnet, and then at night as I would go into the venues in going out evening etire. Now, it wasn’t so strict but I liked after slaving away working within the restaurants dressing up and it did impress the guest because even though you weren’t working you were still expected to keep the camps good reputation and keep a certain standard, as you are still representing the camp.
Now not everyone knew that I worked there, but then people did and I loved just having a good time after I had worked a split shift normally and it was time to let me hair down without making a disgrace of myself.
It became the life I loved, and I came to love it and it was the place I knew I needed to be. So in thinking of this, yes you do have to dress going on the work, as working in a restaurant you do have to look smart, professional and ready to great guests into a restaurant and be polite always and look confident.
When going to a job interview, it is always good to look smart and clean with a shaved face at times, depending on the job, but not like you have just got out of bed. Employers want to see that you are clean and if their first impression is not good then their clients will feel the same which can then effect a business. so when it comes to employment yes you should dress for the job you want. Many retailers want to see that you are someone who is fashionable if it is a clothes shop, and you shop in their store if it is well known or chain store, and that you do look at trends, by dressing in some of their items by that first impressiion they see of you.
So, I hope that has helped you should you be looking for a new job it is your first job, then good luck.
I have done many of these blog posts and did a video about it too yesterday as everything seemed to end up on the floor, I nearly took a draw with me and it was as if everything wanted to fall.
When I these days happen I am able to laugh, cause its like when one thing goes wrong, then that how it is for the whole day. Thank god I had my weekly takeaway to help as without Macca D’s I think I would have wanted to have the day end there and then. Yet I got through it and today was better.
We are always going to get days when things don’t go our way, and its how you respond that can help these days pass to a less hap hazard day. Yes going back to bed may be a choice but then staying in bed all day, doesn’t always have a purpose and I like what I do and that has helped. I think it is often where you are in your life at that moment, mentally, financially and romantically, that can make all the difference.
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You can never control certain days and events that happen, like someone in the family getting sick and as parent do clean up pooh explosions, but we can make it better by giving ourselves time to view, address and reflect, and doing something like Self Care, which includes self development. This lighting a scented candel with a scent you love, with some chill out music.
Have an unplanned meal. Meal plans are good as I used to do this, but it is good to have a free choice meal day, for example and you do something not planned making meal time, even if the most of the day has been bad, good in the end.
This is where keeping a journal is good as this helps to view, address and reflect on those days and how you can learn from those days whenever they happen.
We can not control when a child or the whole family get sick all in one go, however much you sanitize and keep bad bacteria at bay, but will have a movie on or all go to bed early some days. Whenever I had a bad day when I was with him, I would go to bed when he did and often watch TV in bed together.
When I did this I would feel a lot better the next day and the thought “Well I got through that day and did I die?”, if you are reading this email after a bad day, then the answer is NO.
Set a date with yourself to take time out doing something different if you don’t often get to go out on your own. This can be meeting and going for a coffee with friend for lunch or going out in the evening, there is a drink with my name of on it mode, and go for that end of the week drink.
I loved it one time when on Fridays I would work up London, after a long week go to a bar afterwards and dance, sing on Karoake and paint the town red.
When the theatres open again, go and see a show, I love doing this, even if it is once or twice a year, even if it is a outdoor show, go and see it. Book that show, book a meal and take yourself out of the normal rushing week, and enjoy. I love seeing shows and I would recommend the Tina Turner Story show, Bat out of Hell and Chicago. I would go see these again, and even seen the stage show of Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.
Soon I will be working on some shows too in London at my favourite venues, Live at the Apollo and at the London Palladium and Hard Rock calling.
Remember those days where it is not going our way, that they won’t last long and there are still good days on the horizon. They always pass and take time to exhale and be with yourself to gather your thoughts and set a date to have a TV evening. I would often do this, Saturdays were mine as a kid and would watch endless shows, and Sundays would be seeing our friends in Fulham and Chelsea. It is good to see different; people some weeks, as we often just need a change of scene.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie L.M X
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Hello and welcome! So in this weeks Monday post I am talking about 10 Ways of Creating a Life to remember.
To do that I what want to go through the things you still love in your life. Now when doing this be really true to yourself and don’t say it because you feel it is the right thing to say, but that is a true feeling inside of you, that you want those things still in your life.
It is more or less A DECLUTTER OF LIFE!
So where to begin,
I would write down people first, and I have made a Promise to myself to not allow Toxic people in my life anymore and if they want to be like it let them, I just don’t want them around me, as they are Toxic for a reason.
Then declutter the memories of those people, and take pictures of the true people in your life, so your memory focuses on those and not ones of those that bought you down in your passed
Then go through your possessions, and be Ruthless about it. I have a written a new EBook called Spice Up Your Life, and in it I talk about being Ruthless, and should be up tomorrow on Amazon.com under the name Carrie Lee Holmes
Create a Wall Full of Happiness, where you have all the people who you love and in a place you can spend 5 to 10 minutes looking at, and why not in your bedroom or hallway you walk through a lot, and with a cup of coffee in your hand, look at it, before you begin your day
Make some personalised items of your favourite photos and create a display of those things, but if you buy a mug for example you can use it in a functional way too, by using it as a Pen holder, but I would prefer to use it for a Coffee to be honest
Develop a story of your life so far, by creating a photo book and of places you love travelling to and have a travel journal. Or the same as with the Happiness Wall, have a Wellbeing Gallery on a wall in your home
Why not have your own Wall of Fame, and pictures of when you went on girl holidays and where you met the love of your life. It does feel good to be in love again, I think I need a bucket of cold water, but is that gonna stop me being in love? NO WAY!
Why not learn a new skill and document it as you learn, by keepiing a journal and pictures
Have your own desiginer clothes range or a series of self published books, as it can lead to so many opportunities
Develop a programme full of possibility and hope, by doing rituals and new habits that will drive you through a better and successful life
Hello so if you didn’t know I am doing a Life Coaching programme called “Project 2021” where I will sharing tools and information to help you create a better life and a better year.
Part of my work as a blog writer and a youtube video creator, I do a lot of research and I have been watching many videos by Terry Savelle Foy and she does a brilliant one about 21 day challenges to introduce more positive habits into your life. Check out my latest Tea and Biscuits video talking about it which will live before this blog post, but visit my channel and it will be there: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg
So I put together a Playlist and a Pinterest board with “Project 2021” content by me and other Content Creators including celebrities included, so here is the Youtube Play list I have done:
I have also on my Pinterest created some new visions boards, one is a New Look for 2021 and another which features Fashion Look books and I also want to do a new Home Vision board, being that i will be moving very soon.
It is all about putting your dream in pictures and the one tip I was given today, by my Love Lee is that when brainstorming don’t do it like a neat line by line list, but either by a spider graph or by randoming listing ideas, because he has seen that when I do it that way I achieve it.
He also follows this method himself. I can’t tell you how refreshing it is to find a man that loves you out of this world including your work. I even journalled that I hope that there would be a real true love for me still as I knew my first marriage was coming to an end.
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As it is Mothers day that I have written this blog to go out on Monday tomorrow, it is Mothers day and it is the ladies who were my grandmothers who influenced me the most and what I am going to add to my Year vision board is a picture of them both and add their beliefs and habits that have followed within me, that have helped me get to where I am today, because I did a video for my Weekend Chat video where I actually said for the first time that I am Proud of me, and that has taken a lot.
I am going to find images of when i achieved some of my dreams as a kid too, to add to help keep my positive mind and new future to help continue my growth in this world. I have learned that no matter how hard times can be you do still find good people along the way that keep you driven and focused and who your true family and friends are, as they will be there in your darkest hour.
So you keep going and try the 21 challenges idea and see what habits have helped develop your life even more.
Hello and welcome! Here is a new blog post which is going to be added to my Life Coaching Programme “Project 2021”, and this is about Get Your Life Together, so time to start making changes so you are happier and have more to your life than being confined to four walls.
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Not too late to make Life changes, as it is March but so what, you can make life changes all year round, and You don’t need the New Year to do it.
So my routine is one that has helped me to get enough sleep but still even with a small amount of time there is left in the day I still get stuff done. The point of working for yourself is to give yourself time to rest and recuperate and spend time on not the “Got To List” to the “What I want to do list”.
Set challenges for yourself. I do this a lot and it helps me to have a good balance, and so I tend to do this with money and see when I go grocery shopping of how much I can get under £20 and that has at the minute been my budget and use what I have, so I have not had to spend money on food for the last 3 weeks and trust me makes huge difference and when I am with my new family soon, be doing the same. Now when I move into my new home I will be increasing my budget but still be seeing where and how I can save money still. Just because you are financially secure that its an excuse to flush down to the toilet, but invest wisely.
Now I am someone that when I do sleep in I do have that “Waste of a day” guilt when it doesn’t matter what time you get up but What You Want to Get out of the Day. So the Life change I have started to apply is to Stop self punishment, as I have been so unkind to myself, that if that was someone else saying those things to me, I would tell them to leave alone and go away, so yes, #BeKind to yourself, have #selfrespect
I think we get so stuck on the New Year when it comes to making changes in our lives and feel some kind of New Year Pressure, and why we can fall, and not complete our resolutions, but I never make these, being someone who fell too. Never see it as failure as that is not right its because we are seeing a resolution being a one time thing, and not something that is long standing, so scrap resolutions and make a list of the thing you love and how wish to grow in the next years coming up. One way is to create a Career Tree, see below and an example of the one I have done, and I will add this to my Content Creators Planner I am putting together, so keep posted on details on this.
I have done a Printable of the details of how to create a Career Tree and how it works.
So to get back on track if you have lost your way a bit, that can happen sit down and spend time making notes and go through by keeping a journal which I use everyday to help find why your plans for this year have stopped as you can always get back into it.
Spring is a perfect time to make changes if not in the New Year, as that is when crops start to grow, animals come out of hibernation and give birth, and we have longer days and so don’t worry if it is passed the new year, You can’t still make a change.
Have a Pjama day. I spend my Sundays in my sweats which are also my night clothes, and it is really nice to have a day where I don’t feel I need make up, but sometimes I will and use it as my Admin Free Choice Day and I think this has been something I have done religiously going on the bible not never thought of it that way. I am a kid who on Sunday’s it was a day of a lot of shops would be closed except pubs and some restaurants and so would use this day to go and see my friends in Chelsea, watch my brother play football, play pitch ‘n’ putt at Bishops park, ride our bikes along the river and often BBC 2 would put on some old black and white films I loved and football.
So have a day where you can just do what you enjoy and some people I know don’t even get out our bed and still do work, but in bed, and when I am in my new home, very soon being doing this again too.
I also have days where I will eat something different and there is a wonderful Comedian who I do know so well “My Love” who does this, “something different on tour or on holiday that you wouldn’t have at home” and watching a documentary of this wonderful human being, I do too. ALWAYS! Why not? YOUR ARE ON HOLIDAY SO DO WHAT YOU LIKE AND as long AS noone is at harm, MAKE HOLIDAY TIME TO BE DIFFERENT TO EVERYDAY!
Then the other things is creating a good fitness routine which is a very common promise that people make to themselves including me and i am putting a new site together so I will keep you posted on this, but if you find working out hard just do it once a week, exercise whilst waiting for breakfast to cook or whilst the kettle boils. You can fit it in but Inyour own schedule not by somebodies elses, which is a common mistake.
Also to keep you fitness going each year introduce something new, to your regieme and fit in regular walking, as this is easy to do and easier to fit in and stick too. I also love doing dance workouts and boxercise exercises.
So do what you know you can stick to and if you would like to use my Goals list to set your Life changes you’d like to make then please check out my goal sheet I have created.
What you can do if you don’t want to set yearly goals set some for the day, week and month and I go through mine each month and with a vision board see my last post Creating a Vision board see if any of them have changed and often through the year update them and change, as often you can go in a different direction than the start of the year, so life is always revolving and I do live seasonally and change my life habits sometimes. There is always room in a year to start a fresh and using the different seasons in the year is a way of doing so. It is all about being current and being you still, but growing.
Here is a copy of my goals for this year on my Pinterest vision board for 2021:
So I hope you had a good week so far and see you in the next blog.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie L.M X
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So in this blog post I am talking about The Vision you have always wanted in your life.
Now grab a notepad and if you have a vision of a career you want or a business adventure, start to Brainstorm. I do this all of the time, and I live in one main notepad, as I have separate ones for my book ideas, but one that I write down all my Daily Task lists, for brain dumping and also use it to Brainstorm.
Once you have done a brainstorm then Map it out, so like an organisation chart you often find in corporations do the same with a plan of how you will step by step do to get to the your dream career or business adventure.
Then it’s creating the vision by using pictures and post it notes, quotes or File Cards.
Make it to what you want to accomplish with your business, and places you want to visit or fashion shows you want to attend, for example.
Look online for images and magazines, and Ask yourself, What is my main thing I want to focus on?
Also, What is my ultimate goal and how can I break it down?
Who is my vision board Icon? So if it is a Fashion type business, then add your fashion icon, as this will help you then create a vision to use their fashion to inspire yours. Not to copy, it is just using items that will inspire creativity and to help to find ideas and niches that have not been down before. This is a Vision board I created today as I am creating a Content Creator Planner, and going to add to my Pinterest board too and if I want to add to it, I can.
Here are two Blank Versions of A4 and A3 Printable Vision boards, you can use to create a vision or use to sketch out a vision board and what many people do is actually create it on a Pinboard or A3 piece of card to put on the wall.
(I am going to move this site above to a new platform so as of next week I won’t be posting on that site, and I will give details of the new platform once done).
So you have created your vision, put it somewhere, where you will see it everyday, like on your fridge, or an office Pinboard and with the one I have done I am going to print off and frame it to put up in my new home office once I have moved, which is happening very soon.
You could even Elaminate it, and have a version in a Work folder. Or like many Planner Guru’s do, have a version in a planner.
Then from the Vision board, create some goals, and this is important to do, so to accomplish each vision you have a goal to get there, so for me my vision is a new Look, Fashion and Skincare board for 2021, so first goal is to dye my hair and once Lockdown has been lifted set a date to have this done, go through my wardrobe to put together outfits for interviews, shows and TV work.
At the start of this year I created a 2021 vision board on Pinterest and it is a brilliant platform to use for Vision boards and then as above keep adding to them:
I also recommend invisioning it happening in your mind so you are almost touching it and you may take a different path than planned, but when you do reach the end goal it iis a wonderful feeling, and inspired to create more vision boards.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie L.M X
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Hello! Yes this post is a little late, but that was because I slept in, but still want to write it. If you would like to read more of my Monday Morning posts then click on this link here: Monday Morning posts
So in this blog post I am going to be talking about Toxic people and it can be contagious. Well bascially they are those who feel that they are unworthy if they don’t stamp their authority and try to control every aspect of your life and they make days a challenge because you find that you get driven in a power struggle, and start to score points over them, which they do to you.
“Their headache is worser than yours”
They begin to nip pick over everything you do, and this is a form of abuse and bullying, and then you end up having to answer for everything you say and do. They drain you out of happiness and energy because they want you to have a bad day, because they are and don’t like anything you do that makes you happy.
This can then turn on you as you begin to lose faith in people and become angry and resentful yourself. They can make you hate the world and not want to get out of bed, and make you into being like them and not who you are. Feeling like you have lost your identity can summon up toxic people and they will use even going on holiday seem like the worst thing in the world and feel as if it is hard work.
“You can never seem to get a break”
They will often guilt trip you and use emotional blackmail, and even when you try to agree with them they hold that against you, and you end up feeling like its just best to let them waggle on and don’t allow them to victimise you as this is a trait of a toxic person and you find that you have inner strength that they don’t, being the better person by standing your ground, and it is in fact a sign of weakness on their behalf, not yours.
I find that they are people who worry so much about time, and be the ones you end up leaving things to the last minute, and then they use that to attack you. Often they want you to hit them to justify their toxic behaviour and so I have learned since I was a kid to switch off, and you can do this too, just find a quiet place even if it is locking yourself in the bathroom, putting some chill out music and taking a bath.
“Noone should be bogged down because of someone elses stress”
They use their behaviour to twist and turn everything you do and say, and if you have #mentalhealth issue, they will often use this as amunition to get at you, and you can have them arrested for Victimisation on this subject and now noone is allowed to challenge you if you have a mental health issue, but then they can use this to get at you because they are that toxic they use mental health as an attacking mechanism, and they can also control you so much that they end up imprisoning you because they are frightened of you having a better life, because they blame you because they haven’t and will never be, because they use their Toxic personality to be selfish and resentful of everyone around you and drain you of being a entraupner.
“They don’t like seeing people be successful and want everyone to drown in a puddle of uncarelessness”.
So if you are surrounded with these kinds of people then,
Call for help
Noone should be drive by these types of people and be happy. Everyone deserves the life they love and not have that destroyed.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie L.M X
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So as a kid growing up where we at first only had 3 channels to watch, but lucky enough to have a TV of my own which I saved my pocket money for to have one, I loved TV but we were also encouraged to read and write, to help our skills and they have been a godsend. Hence why I am now a full time writer and I love it.
If it wasn’t for TV I have no idea aswell as having a record player and a walkman, how I would have gotten through the days as a kid who hated going to school. So having CITV and CBBC, was a relief after seven hours of what was often hell, except when I was allowed to write stories, and my favourite TV time was at the weekend.
During the day on ITV it was Thames Television and on BBC 1 which was the last channel to close for the day and they would play the National Anthem, God Save The Queen.
I had no idea as I was always in bed round this time that the National Anthem ever played and I asked once if I could stay up one time just so I could listen and see it.
Way before then though it all began with Black and white films, and were silent films and the Picture Houses even before the war and would be packed full of people and there they could get the latest news and what was going on in the world. Televisions didn’t come about until the 50’s and some would have to go round to friends to watch a TV as not all households could afford them, and it was a luxury to people, like having Virtue Reality, which is starting to take over now in the modern technology world.
Silent films came over to the UK in the 1900’s and was how Laurel and Hardy made their name, as they were separate actors who did their own productions and then it was a film director who spotted them put them together and became one of the first Double Act, as one Canadian Actor/Comedian to a English born Actor/Comedian, who was one of the first to make it across the water in what was called Hollywoodland, and as they say “The Rest I History”.
Then you had the guy who sang the Dad’s Army theme tune, Bud Flanagan and he too made it across the boarder and went onto be a musician for many English, Canadian and American shows. He loved being behind the scenes like Stan Laurel and be a writer. That was the next step for many Actors and Comedians, like today with Peter Kay, Lee Mack, Kathy Burke, French and Saunders. Uncle Bark was always writing and he would take time off to sit and write through parts of the year.
Many like, Ricky Jervais actually direct and produce their own TV shows and has been a massive hit in America, and followed in the footsteps of Billy Connelly, Lee Evans, David Walliams, Matt Lucas and Peter Kay, in the fact they are a huge hit and now live over there from time to time.
In the UK we were very much about Crime, Laughter and making our own musicals and had TV shows like Top of the pops that went on until the 2000’s and I if I get to watch BBC 4 on the TV channels we have now, I will still watch it as they are repeats but was one of my favourite midweek shows. What more could you want with TV and music coming together and at 7:30pm every Thursday I would be sitting there on our settee or on the floor, and be fixated.
It was how I became so in love with music and would never miss an episode.
When it came to TV on the channels we had here in the UK, it was very much of what was the audience tastes and when films began to be in colour then more TV programmes came our way and it was very much shows, rather than dramas at first and then they became our TV loves, such as English Gangster films, and horror.
Comedians began to make tapes of shows they wrote, aswell as having a regular TV show. Cilla Black with Dusty Springfield were arch rivals according to TV producers then, as they were two of the first women artists as I like to call them, to have their own shows, and would on at the same time. I bet this was a hard choice as back then you had no video recorder or hard drive to record the other one you couldn’t watch, so what they did, they created omibuses of shows and TV programmes so you could still watch them, and BBC would often record shows on their channels so you could listen to one on the radio if you wanted to.
We were very much about slapstick comedy and America were very much about factual comedy, and both worked. It was good to have the American comedies aswell as our own and having only 3 channels at one time, it made a change to see programmes from over the boarder, and then along came the Cobbies, Dallas and Dynasty where Joan Collins was the beauty of that time, along with strong women like the lady who played Suellen.
TV did take a gradual step and did take a while to get going as radio came first, and was what many households listened to before everyone could afford a TV, but in the 60’s for UK and America, was when it came into its own, and noone wanted to go out or go to school, as little cuddly toys like his Highness Basil Brush, whom I am going to be working with soon, started to make his name, along with The Sooty show and then America it was the Muppets, and one of my favourites, Sesame Street and this was the first children’s show when a new channel was launched, Channel 4.
These were great because even now, if you grab a kids attention you’ll grab and adults and was how children’s TV started to come on American and English TV, and be a world of its own.
Then you had Bill and Ben the Flower Top men and Pinky and Perky. Children’s TV was first introduced by the BBC and is the oldest channel on UK TV, and in America they already had 5 to 6 channels and were all launched at the same time.
America though didn’t have a music show like Top Of the Pops but became a top show because they too would watch it over there and you could also listen to it via the radio still.
They thought at one point that film would be taken over, but that has never been the case it was became easier to budget when it was a TV programme rather than a film, as Films budget to make the successful had to stretch and also they would take a long time to create, and so TV was and film then formed together so both industries could still be kept alive and then, that was when Cinema took over Picture houses and they created Video tapes of shows and films and new that both would always be going.
TV was the new norm and it was great for companies to cash in to advertise products and services, and the first ever advert was Fairy Liquid and then came Bisto Gravy.
BBC needed to also make money for their TV programmes and so bought in the TV Licence, and you had to have one of these, which you still do to have even one TV in your home and if you didn’t comply with this you were fined.
Not many households had a TV in their bedrooms back then and it worked via Analogue outdoor or indoor aerial, and TV’s had an aerial attached to some of them at the back. I remember when living in Peabody, having a nightmare trying to find the best place to place the indoor aerial as it could be a nightmare to get a good picture.
If you lived in a built up area it would be a hard task to find the best reception, and TV’s would catch fire if left on all night even on standby which some TV’s had.
Then came the chat shows, and these were a highrated kind of a show, as it had many celebrities of all different genrues in one show, like in the UK Wogan, Des O’conner, Pebble mill and the most successful one Micheal Parkinson’s talk show.
Check out this link of clips from his show of Interviews: