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My Review of 2020

17 Thursday Dec 2020

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Books, Dreams and ambitions, Goal setting, new year, Personal Development, Related pages

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Hello and welcome! Thank you so much for your loyal company and liking and following my blogs on this site, it really is a breath of freshair when I see that you have followed me and liked my posts.

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In this post I am doing My Review of 2020 which I am going to do each year. My Review of 2020 is very mixed I started it by being a bit of a state to the point I was fighting and taking the pisss out of those that were trying to hurt me.

I lost a few people this year too, and was devastated. Kelly if you can hear me I love you to bits and I know what she’d say:

“See ya later allegator”

“Right back at ya Croccidile”.

Do I believe in recarnation? Yes because there was a little girl in South Park Gardens that looked just like Kelly as a little girl and she looked at me like Kelly did when she was a baby, and it did bring me to tears, but saw Kelly in this little girl and prayed, that if that is her, that she lives on and has the life she wants, and not taken away so cruelly.

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I found my true love, and he has been a breath of freshair and has saved me in so many ways. I love everything about this guy and he makes me feel fullfiled every time we talk and see each other.

I started to write music again, which I hadn’t done in a long time and have a song out that is in an advert.

Many more stars and inspiring people have passed away this year, like Eddie Large, Sean Connery, the wonderful Barbara Windsor and Dame Vera Lynn, check out my posts about few of these people:

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/2020/06/18/inspired-to-be-a-success/

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/2020/12/15/weekly-inspiring-stories-the-life-of-barbara-windsor-the-lady-from-the-east-end/

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I will be writing more about celebrities that I have found inspiring.

I found Barbara Windsor inspiring because she came from a poor background, a family like mine at times, scrimping and scraping but became a household name, and my blogs have grown like I have, and I have learned a lot this year and one is realising that I am gno longer a jealous person, as it was those that were like that, that tried to stop me from one thing I love to do, and that is write my blog posts.

Jealousy can turn someone who was once a lovely person to a worst version of themselves. Check out this blog post which is related to that:

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/2020/12/14/looking-forward-to-2021/

I have seen the good and the bad this year, and just because you have known someone for a long time, doesn’t mean they are loyal, especially if they continue to let you down when meeting up or you know they are slagging you off behind your back.

My marriage came to an end and I moved out to live in Wimbledon and found that my true love was living around the corner from me. It is amazing how you can find true love on your doorstep but yes it is true.

I have written a few books this year, Like the Peabody years, which I took down from Amazon to rewrite as it was quite short and there were a whole load of stories I wanted to add. I wrote a few EBooks this year and if you want to check these out, go to Amazon.com for details or click on the links below,

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/ebooks/

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/my-books/

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com/books/

So what changes do I want to employ in my life?

I want to build my confidence to speak to my camera again to film more Youtube videos. My confidence to film for my Youtube channel plummited and really want to bring this back.

The one thing I didn’t get to do was to go on holiday which I would like for next year and would like to walk more and get up at a reasonable time again, as I am sleeping onto early afternoon or later and that takes over a whole day.

My body clock is all over the place as I don’t sleep at night because I have had a lot of terrible nightmares.

I was put on different medication called Quetipin, as I was suffering a lot with depression this year and at one point very suicidal.

However, I want my blogs to continue to be successful and relative to those who like this blog site.

I want to live life and not exist which I have written in a lot of blog posts this year, but is true. I was with someone who was obsessed with cleaning, but am I going to get remembered for being the person always washed up after herself? NO! I want to be seen as a successful writer who was never afraid to show her feelings to those who she loved and made it clear that no matter how much I put myself down sometimes I do have respect for myself and others.

I want to work on TV and have one of my books made into a TV series and is a real ambition of mine and would like to write and publish more books and want two to be publised by the end of this year.

I have a new Online Course which is a Child Safety course so I will let you know when this is ready to be launched and published.

Please see my current ones:

https://carrieseducationnetwork.thinkific.com/

So I will be writing more as we end this year to go into a new one and I hope you have a good rest of the week and then it is the weekend again.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie (L.M) X

P.S: Please check out my fundraising page on JustGiving where I am raising money for the charity, Tommy’s. All donations welcome:

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/theparentingadventuresprematurebirths

Related blog posts:

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/2020/12/14/looking-forward-to-2021/

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/2020/12/03/looking-forward-to-new-year-20

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Building Good Relationships

29 Monday Oct 2018

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I suppose this ties in with my last blog, Feeling like I don’t belong is that it good to build good relationships, and surround yourself with like minded people who get you.

I remember being surrounded by real negative people when working in a call centre and would constantly be complaining and moaning, and it got to the point I found myself doing the same. I had to stop myself.

I kind of settled and gave up on building my dream life for a while.

I was relieved to get away from that. So when I was asked to join another team, I leaped at the chance.

There are people out there that will try and drag you down, just because they are having a bad day, and others that can make you feel on top of the world, and its those people you want to surround yourself with.

Don’t get me wrong, I am sure we all like to have a moan, but not constantly. Finding a good relationship has its honeymoon period, and then dark days, but if you can get through those times then it can continue to be amazing the rest of the time.

Communication for me is the key to a good relationship and being able to compromise.

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Sometimes there is jealousy among friends, I have certainly been guilty of that, but when I have I have faced it and answered, why am I feeling this way?

Do I not want my friends to do well?

YES OF COURSE I DO.

Handling those feelings and again talking about it can really make a relationship stronger and rather than be jealous, think why are they doing so well?

I know they have had more drive than me, settled with their life in a happy way, I have always been looking for something more in my life and different, and still am, but building relationships is also important, and without them I know I could never function like I do, and be determined as I am.

Seeing the drive of those close to me, helps drive me forward and thrive myself.

So find those relationships that make you feel good, and if you do disagree, brush it off and talk, then start again. Relationships need building like houses need foundations, once you have the foundations then you can create something magical, that may last for a long time.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Feeling like you don’t belong

26 Friday Oct 2018

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Personal Development

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Being bullied, belonging, Building confidence, carriesrealworld, comfort zone, everyonecanbuildacastle, Feeling accepted, Feeling like you don't belong, friendships, Good support, Loneliness, Not playing out, Rugby, school

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As a child I often felt like I was odd, unlike my friends and other children I’d come to meet, and it was hard as a child feeling this way. I dreamed about being someone else, not me.

I remember being envious of a certain girl at school called Sherie and she was really pretty and popular, all the girls wanted to hang around her including the boys aswell, and I dreamed of being her, just for one day so I could feel what it was like to feel belonged.

She didn’t have it easy, but when she cried it was a nice cry and gentle, and when she smiled she used to light the room, and so wished that could be me.

Even though she cried a lot because she missed her mum, she instantly found friendship and people wanting to be around her.

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It was only when I started playing football at school I started towards the end of Primary school, I felt like I was accepted, but I still felt like I didn’t belong there and never kept in touch with those friends, once I started secondary school.

I kind of felt I needed to leave that part of life behind me, and start a fresh.

Those feelings of not belonging can be isolating and lonely. When I stopped playing out a lot, I more or less had to start building the relationships I had built up, all over again.

I hid away because I was sick of being picked on, and I was being bullied by the girl who lived the flat right opposite me. She even used my friends to get at me too, and it was hard, I wanted to stay in my shell and not come out again.

Feeling like you don’t belong has its advantages, and I like having my personal space, but I also like to feel part of something. When I took up dancing it took a while, but became part of a group there and for the first time felt some confidence, and I remember I couldn’t wait till Saturday for my dancing school to start again.

Then at Secondary school, after the first year, did have my own group of friends I would hang out with everyday and finally I was part of a group at school. I still found it a struggle at school, but having close friends to support me, did help me and they helped me come out of my shell.

Don’t get me wrong we had fall outs, but didn’t last for long, and I am still friends with those girls now.

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Even now since my son started school, I see all the mums already in there groups talking whilst I wait there to go in. The worse for me to do, is to but into their conversation so I stand back.

The one reason why I blog because I like being part of a community, and embracing the new online world, and I feel like I belong.

When I started going to rugby I felt like I could finally let my hair down, and I had discovered a new sense of freedom that I never had before, and whole new world had opened up for me. That was thanks to one of my friends I had made at secondary school, whom I am still friends with today.

The Rugby years were great and even though at times I felt like the odd one out still because of my own insecurities I did feel like I was part of something truly special. It’s like the theme tune from the American Sitcom Cheers,”Where everybody knows your name”, and that is very important to me.

It is good to feel like you belong as you finally feel like you have found your purpose in life and meeting different kind of people, you learn from others and I try think back to those times to remind myself that I have been part of something and other peoples journey.

It is about coming out of your comfort zone and trying something new. When I started doing fundraising events, found another type of community, one where even though these people didn’t know me from Adam, gave me support as they passed me by anyway, and it really gives you a real boost, and a sense of “I can do this and here I am”.

Belonging is about being accepted for who you are and for what you know you can become.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

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