Hello! So it is the beginning of my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2026 check out previous blog: Summer Project Introduction to My Yearly Programme Summer Project 2026 I included a worksheet which is free to download and print.
So to get started I suggest to create a plan. So I journal every morning and it helps me with my creativity and whilst I listen to an audiobook or music. Develop a playlist. I have one for podcasts, videos about writing as I have books out, for my different books and Parenting videos and so it is good for getting the mood to change and learn.
I train my brain everyday. I like to educate my mind and the first thing in the morning once my son has gone off to school.
So to make a change by going through the worksheet:
Good Systems:
Plan, Plan Plan = Have a good set up and create one that will help you focused on and inspire you to make a change. If there are particular things that you are interested in. #so start with developing a plan and do a list, but concentrate on one area or item at a time.
Ask for help, who can help you or what will help you So my husband always cleans the kitchen and the bathroom, so I will do the areas such as the windowsills, put m sons clothes away and my mum has helped with gardening.
Do you have a quiet time of the day or space you can plan? I love to use the sofa or my desk and in the garden.
Drink? Water, tea and Coffee. I am having a glass of juice each day for Vitamin C and especially in the summer life a fizzy drink but only have one and Zero Sugar.
Is there a time where you feel more energized? I like to work in the mornings and then chill in the afternoon and have time off such as the weekend.
I find spending time planning helps to reset, asking for help as we are not built to do everything and my husband loves to clean and only he is allowed to use the vacuum and the iron. This has helped me to function concentrate on other area so I can then move to onto others.
So sit down with a drink and lets make those changes.
Writing in my Journal I realised that okay I got on the wrong train, but in the end it was good timing, because if I had got on the right train to Epsom from Wimbledon I would have been waiting a long time to meet my mum and step dad, so it worked out well.
I thought I’d got lucky getting on the train and realising it was going to Surbiton and not the route to Epsom. I do believe in God and so thought, great thanks god only to realise I should have waited but no, I thought smugly only to be taught a valuable lesson, not everything is about me being lucky as he has to look after others and who am I to be the one that gets lucky all the time?
I had felt that I’d make this mistake, so it was okay “So it was today” and shows that I wasn’t paying attention which when I say to Henry to pay attention, that I need to do so too and that I needed to have a taste of my own medicine.
I feel I have learned some real home truths this month (April 2026) that I can be the person that I dislike. Holding up my guard to much. A guy getting on the train and two boys today, I gave them a dirty look. Yet today I moved over when walking to the train station and the girl gave me a dirty look. So what you put out there you will receive back to see that I prejudged these people not knowing who they are and the images of what they could in some way harmful was just me being irrational and need to get a grip.
My laptop broke trying to download some random software to be able to post a vlog on Youtube. It gave me focus on enjoying my Easter Holidays and not be tied to my laptop. I was rude to someone in Tesco’s, I need to manage my anger and annoyance and today, stop being in a rush. Rushing causes mistakes and the true me is having patience and take my time.
I am polite and hate it when like today, I thought my coffee was ready when it was for someone else and the person who was the one that made the order, didn’t look happy but I didn’t take it and I made a mistake. I think we expect too much and people get things wrong. This is how we learn and I know the difference between a real annoyance to a minor, not on purpose, but a general mistake.
We are human and we should be more acceptable of each other and the mistakes we have made.
No one is perfect and I know I am not alone in getting on the wrong train and now will not worry if I miss a train. I had plenty of time so I needn’t have rushed.
We put so much pressure on ourselves that we can often feel defeated and so why bother? In reading a Paul McKenna book he said “How would you feel if someone else did your idea?” like a book, a game or some kind of project and when we are envious, Mel Robbins has said that being envious is us feeling “There isn’t enough to go around” and I believe that.
There is always going to be hurdles and have events that you can’t control so why not embrace those times and use it to become stronger and do the thing you want to do. Not hurting others but making a change to your life that makes you face the bad and the good. I feel I can feel destroyed if I get into to an argument and find it hard to deal with so I will put on a song or leave the room to calm me down and journal. I can rant and it is good like crying. It is a release and then I am fine.
Arguments don’t have to be difficult to handle and walking is also something I do to release tension and handling difficult times. I remember I didn’t go to work one day when one of my uncles died and needed to just keep walking and walked from Kingston to Richmond and I felt so much better. I felt it was what I needed to do and not something I have done before but I needed to be outside and not cooped up inside.
So if you having a hard time at the moment then listen to your body. How is your breathing. Is it fast or slow and is a great time to do a home project you have been putting off. I remember when the world cup in South Africa and my husband and I were living in Wimbledon and England were losing and in the end I ended up tidying out a draw and instantly felt better and yes okay if you not a football fan, I get that may make you yawn but using an example, to distract the mind when life is becoming difficult and the one thing I ask myself each day as my mind and body begins to get anxious is ask myself “What do I want to focus on today?”
February was about getting my son ready for school as he had been having one to one tutoring at the library whilst we were waiting for a placement and was praying, which can help and he was successful and that has been my focus, now it is to get my home in Epsom sorted out and moving. Then March is to get my next book I am writing finished and published.
Then will be planning for my next Life Coaching programme I do each year. My Summer Project on this blog site I do each year and there is more to be arranged and confirmed. I do this to help you have a better life to have a better year.
I will be creating videos on my Educational Youtube Channel and really looking forward to it and helping you feel good. With the what is going on with the world I feel a bit of TLC is needed.
Anyway so what do you want to focus on and even swimming is good for the mind something I am desperate to do. So as I write this blog have booked a swimming session as it has so many benefits and because of distance I get my steps in and so looking forward to it and get back into it.
No situation has to get sticky and can be the best thing. I am glad for example my Grandad Parkinson’s did get too bad and he left the world without being able to do anything, because he would not have liked it so even though it was traumatic and still able to hold his cigarette and he was never willing to give this up and he loved horse racing and was still able to walk before he left the world and I miss having my grandparents in my life but it was his time and I am glad he had lived to old age, but now he with his brothers and sisters as my grandparents were proper grandparents being the heart of the family. Yet seeing my Uncle after his stroke was heart breaking, so glad that he is no longer in pain as he felt the life he once had was taken away from him and so so sad. I know that he can now rest and be with my Uncle Charlie and again with nan and grandad.
I do feel life has a purpose and feel no matter what is thrown at you, you can come out of the other side thriving and glad that my Uncle Tony spent his last days being near his daughter and grand children. I am glad my grandad and nan got through the world wars and then got to experience cable TV and my Nan loved buying from QVC and died where she was born. I know some people may not believe me, but I feel that the way my nan died, my grandad was waiting for her and God was looking after her for all she did for her family and was her time to properly put her feet up.
So life can still be good and work for you and does not have to be difficult.
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Hello and Welcome! It is that time again for a new Newsletter and setting those goals for 2026. I post these each month and are free to download and print.
This year I am going to be a lot more organised and sort out my home and I have chosen my word for 2026 “Grow” and so that is what I am going to do. I want to see my blogs, books and videos grow by working on these three things along with my radio show I do on Epsom Hospital Radio and also my learning.
Soon it will be February and I am not one who celebrates Valentines Day but Easter and already stores are selling Easter Eggs. I am going through a declutter and moving so, many changes but I have decided that I am going to embrace them, especially when it something you can’t control.
I bet there are lot of people wanting Winter to be over. I hear it and not going to say “Oh think positively” if you can’t get your car out of the snow and you can’t go to work to earn your living, then how can you? Nature can have its evil side and so wish you all the best and hope that they have some way of contacting others. The feelings of people being stranded makes me want to wave a wand to get rid of the storms we have but you can’t so I will pray for you and those who you may know are stuck and they get help.
Going out it seemed okay and went for us here in Surrey a coffee and the darkness is making me feel cozy and grateful for what I have and feel different. There are things I’d like to do, I just fear housework. I am making sure Henry does some learning. He has two schools interested and so feel that some good things are on the horizon, but gonna see before I get my hopes up or look too far ahead of myself and live at a steady, slower pace.
Where is your mind at?
I think it is a natural to feel extra hungry or tired because we as humans need day light and when there is lack of it we feel like doing nothing and its okay to do that. Your not doing anything wrong and often we feel we are.
We still today as I write this blog, went out for a coffee and picked up a few things and Henry did some learning and I feel I being told subconsciously that not to worry about clearing out a bag, which in the end completing this blog did. Its okay to focus on my son and getting a place in a school, rather and housework as I received a call about Henry having an assessment. He has two next week and feel my prayers are being answered.
My sentence for me this year is “Wait and See” and not get impatient that things are taking their time. Sometimes life can be like that and with my son and school is taking my mind off on it being cold. I do find it hard to exercise when it is cold and move at all.
It is also time to have a bit of chocolate, a festive coffee. My favourite festive drink this year (2025) is the Nutcracker. What is yours this year?
Give yourself time to just chill and tomorrow I am looking forward to not having a no alarm and gonna read and listen to an audiobook and make breakfast. We are having a cooked one. So get out your #DVD’s and go through your planner of #TV saved and take a break to recharge and have good family time to have a good break.
You do not have to be rushed off your feet, if you do not want to. We are going to have Christmas dinner, but I would like to watch a film. I have a cold coffee on the go, on the sofa with a blanket, in my PJ bottoms and Christmas jumper.
If you want to go out and have something to eat rather than stopping then why not? It is good to just do what makes you happy and helps you to wind down. There was a time I worked at Christmas time when working at a holiday camp and it was good fun, but I did miss home and we’d go out, but Christmas days could be very long and glad I no longer have the Christmas hangover. Remember about getting home and a tip, book a taxi before hand and if you can travel with someone else then do or stay at a friends house.
Just having a change can do the world of good and so cooking now. I have put on some sausage rolls and bought wine but I feel like a cup of tea. We just had some cheese and crackers with the sausage rolls, crisps and dip. Light cooking on Christmas Eve is what keeps me sane and as I finished this blog just watched Calamity Jane.
So merry Christmas everyone, and I am vlogging; I will post a vlog on Friday so please check my Vlog channel, along with my other two.
Hello! So should I ask how the Christmas shopping is going and organising the food, presents and decor. My husband and my mum have taken care of the decor and the food.
It is good to delegate and I can take care of buying gifts and ordering bits and I am looking forward to the celebrations.
Then there is the new year. Twenty Twenty Five has not been a bad year for me and share the things I feel were good and worth remembering. Please check out my December Newsletter:
So it is end of April and means that my Change Your Life training has come to an end. Please check out my last video I did. The videos will be left up on Youtube and on this site and so if you hadn’t managed to do this training then you can do so I am all about flexibility.
So I hope you enjoyed it. I hope that you no longer feel you have no life and nothing to be credited for, but you do. WE ALL DO! Have self belief and take your time. Changes can take time but when you start to do changes each day you will see the results and so be lifted and have time for yourself. I want to help you In getting a job you love, or in a home you’ve been wanting to live in, take on a hobby or a trip to a city you’ve always wanted to go and visit and feel brighter in the mornings and look forward to each day.
I enjoy my life now. Know I am not on a huge income, I still have a bad days, but now I have more resilience and not allow things to get me down. I want to help you all to give yourself credit and celebrating you and your life.
So next will be my Summer Project 2025 and so lots more to come.
There was a time where I took things for granted and not opening my eyes to the world. The moments I spent with my grandparents, forgetting that one day they will be gone and like with my dad, not realising that one day I will have to go it alone without him. I am very aware now that, the small moments are precious and everyday should be lived. My life is not all put together, there is still so much out there for me to learn and not an expert of laying things to rest, and still have no sense of direction and still struggle with socialising, but I love the time I spend with my family, my son and he has really taught me a lot.
He lives in the moment and see that we are not meant to be good at everything, but why each day should teach you something. Example: Learning how from others, like my mum, my husband and from other parents. My husband today got my son to help cook and make his own breakfast. I felt a little begrudged., but that’s my own insecurity and I like cooking for my son, but if he asks to help then I need to not get nervous about it, and its my duty as a parent, as I see it, to teach him life skills, to have him learn to cook but I am no master chef so I have had to learn to cook too.
When I make a nice meal I do feel so proud, when I have not burnt the scrambled egg or invented a meal that’s gone well, feel like I could get a Michelin star for parent cooking and hope my son asks for beans on toast on some days.
I do dwell on the passed and I still remember as a kid where I got in trouble with touching someone in the flats I lived, car, when all the other kids were doing the same, but the girl who told her mum did it because she had decided not to like me. I still remember how I felt about that, but what can I do, I can’t go back but use it to learn and there will always be someone who doesn’t like you and will never see it from your opinion, as many, as learned, in customer service, have already decided what they want to hear and so when they don’t it is a travesty, to them. Your their enemy and everyone should bow at their feet and I am no, you have no morals and learned that there isn’t good in everyone and people who just want to hate on others.
I am not here to change the world and what is important to me and what direction do I want to go.
Life is full of surprises example I never thought I’d be doing this writing a blog and making videos. Dancing was my skill I naturally had and then playing football. I love coaching and teaching and was good at training others and so why I created this blog because I have find life a struggle but now I embrace it and it is taken a lot to get here, to feel this way.
I am learning that I am no rugby player, when I go to kick the ball and completely miss it and when my son wants me to do be on all fours to pretend to do a scrum, how the Astroturf hurts my knees. but its all about doing your best and my son gets annoyed with me if it takes me ten times to kick the ball that he can catch. Then he wants me to tackle him and go and get the ball. I do it because I love my son and it builds my steps and saves an argument. Yes I know I should lay down the law but makes it hard and then I am having tantrum.
When it comes to singing my son will tell me to shut up and wish I had a voice like Celine Dion and be able to bale out The Power Of Love and then visioning myself as a member of the Bangles or Cyndi Lauper. But I now work on radio and love it and getting compliments of the music I am playing, so I am never going to get a record deal so getting to play it, is just as good.
At the same time I enjoy it and that is the biggest lesson. If you don’t enjoy it, then stop feeling you have to continue. We aren’t here to enjoy everything. You’re still a human and will have dislikes and that is okay.
This blog is part of my Change Your Life training to enjoy life more and to love your life and yourself. I did my first video for it and so check this out. It is about Coming last: https://youtu.be/xOfn9eS8hxU
I love to use a journal for different purposes and having a blank or journal for me to do that. The first thing I like to do is think about each day. I set goals and decide what I want to focus on. I am designing a journal at the moment. I am using it to junk journal. I also use it to store photos and special memories. I have designed one for my son. I have been meaning to print off photos and write down what we did. He can keep it forever. Journaling helps me think about the good times I have had, not just about the bad days.
I love to journal and try to do it each day. Even just a paragraph can be enough. Sometimes I list things I want to do and places I’d like to go. This includes where my son would like to do and have one for my fitness too. Some want to stick to one. There are no real rules just write what’s in your head.
Anything you’re excited about or things you are looking forward to. Some may want to put in a vision board or mood board. Jamie Oliver does a journal about his garden and did a show about it. There are so many things you can put down and keep track of where you are in life.
There is bullet journaling and some make handmade journals. Its just about how is it going to serve you.
I like to see a blank page and write what is in my heart and mind.
I have always kept a diary/journal since a kid and not kept them all as it helps me to forget about the things that were in my mind in the passed, what I didn’t want to hold on to. I journal to make sense of things that I am finding hard to consume and things I have learned from books, TV and online training videos. I do have a educational Channel please check it out here: https://www.youtube.com/@CarrieEducationalYoutube-ws4xp
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