HOW SHOULD I BEGIN THIS BLOG? I ASKED MYSELF ON BLOGMAS DAY 17!
We know we have 8 more days left before many of us are either are happy to see what their kids got for Christmas and to find what we got to, or we feel unhappy because we have to work or some people will be alone and feeling blue. Many of us will have to work on Christmas day because not everything closes but are open because places like hospitals and hotels will still be busy and have people wanting to stay.
Yes I will still be eating the food and watch Henry as face it when we become parents the focus is no longer on us, when he opens his gifts which I know what he has got because reality check, it wasn’t Santa who is broke it is me.
That’s life we make sacrifices for our children and the people we love, however I won’t be all jolly all day although I will be happy that it is here and once again its well and truly almost over and then for many of us can concentrate on another year.
What we have to remember is that Christmas isn’t about giving gifts, yes it is nice, but my greatest gift is my son and my husband, spending time with them and relaxing and chilling on Christmas day. I want to focus on recuperating and get ready to finish my goals for the following year.
Doing blogmas has opened my eyes that I do waste my money and often waste my time. Yeah I want to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ but I also want to sit back and prepare for the rest of my life.
So if you know someone who may be alone, want some advice as this time of year can be difficult for some, then lend them a hand as you can make a difference, to bring them a smile to give them some Christmas festive cheer.
I will post more as we get further to Christmas day, but I am now got to be up and out of the way.
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This year I have decided that I would do Blogmas to help get me and everyone who reads or who are new to my blogs, in the mood for Christmas and so this means I will be posting blogs everyday from tomorrow (1st Dec) to Christmas Day (25th Dec) on my various sites that I write blogs on, including this one.
There may be some videos, articles, books and various topics that I would like to share as this time of year can be hard for some people and like myself there was a time when I dreaded Christmas.
However there are good things about Christmas too and will be sharing how you can finish this year with a bang by creating positive changes into your life that will set you up to have a better Christmas and finish the year on a high.
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When we feel low we can often feel like we can accomplish nothing, and “what is the point?” Then a song comes on the radio, and often it is one going on my own experience, one that I haven’t heard for a while but love, and it’s like it speaks to you, and suddenly you feel like “You can take on the world today”. That’s empowerment.
It can happen anywhere and can be anything. When we see people running and we haven’t done any exercise for a bit or we read a story in the newspaper of someone who had lost everything and had to start again, then rebuilt their life and now living the life they had always wanted, making us feel “Well if they did it so can I”. That’s empowerment.
Creating more empowerment into your life can get you out of feeling like there is no point to life and can make you take action to have more.
Here are 6 tips of how to Create empowerment into your life:
Build the love: Last week I shared wrote a blog called, We should love more/A lesson for us all #truelove because part of building success in your life to have the life you want, is to build relationships with those around you. I have learned a lot from my husband and he did sweep me off my feet and it made me see that I can create a life for myself. I hadn’t found what I wanted in London so I moved away and found it unplanned as I moved for career ambitions too and there he was
Confidence Boosters: Can be anything or anyone. When talking to a girl I had been working with, turned around and said to me “You have a lot going for you” It made me realise I did. Not being big-headed, but sometimes we often don’t see what we already got that can give us confidence. I was doing well in the job I was doing, achieving goals and getting good feedback from my Managers so I did have the confidence there just didn’t always see it
Practice gratitude: Following on from confidence boosters, but to create empowerment we do need to look at what we already have and got in our lives that is good. What you enjoy/ What makes you laugh? Who do you want to see that would create more happiness in your life? What are you thankful for?
Give to others: Taking on the Great North Run was the biggest thing apart from getting married and having a son, I had ever done in my life. I never thought in a million years that I would have ever had done that…but I did. I wanted to raise money for the National Autistic Society because one of my mum’s friends had a son with Autism and was having a real tough time. This also follows on from “Build the love” because to receive love we do have to give it and to give it those who do need it the most and making a difference to other peoples lives, doing something you would never have dream of, whatever it may be is the most empowering thing you can do.
Build your knowledge: Learning about food when I decided to change my diet because I had put on weight really changed my association with food. I had, had an eating disorder and would feel guilty often when eating, but educating myself of what the body needs and what makes you happy, but healthy has made a huge difference. I don’t feel so guilty anymore and eat because I love the food, and it was interesting to learn what can really help with mood, gives you clearer skin and stops those belly aches and bloating. Learning a new skill or something that will enhance your mind and your wellbeing, can you empower you for more
Have a vision: I am one for goal setting. My husband is too, but he will see it as just a necessity but for me it is more than that. Often it is a life change to help me feel good about myself and build better relationships with those around me. My husband who I do admire so much, one the reasons I fell in love with him, was because when he sets his mind on something he will go for it, and do it. Example he wanted to learn to drive. He did, he wasn’t like me who often has so many different things I wish to do, but he had one vision in his mind, and he did his lessons never cancelled, passed his theory, first time and took his test twice, passing on the second time. Create a vision, a goal or a focus, Plan how you are going to do it in your head or in your mind, take action and go for it.
I love being empowered and as I often do live my life through music, it is often a song, but has been a magazine article, a Youtube video or a TV program, but as said it can be anything. It’s whatever gives you that boost that you can do anything once you have your mind set.
Never feel you should hold back, and always believe in yourself.
Please let me know what empowers you and has helped you create success in your life? I love hearing from other people so please share. You can leave a comment below.
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This blog was so not planned today, but as a blogger you often get ideas out of the blue when you least expect it, and often the unplanned ones are often the best.
Today, or more this morning I decided to watch a bit of Youtube. My son was already for school and was happy watching helicopters on the TV, so after doing my cleaning, had breakfast, got dressed, I sat downstairs on the sofa and opened my phone to Youtube and came across this interview of Vinnie Jones. If you aren’t sure as to who he is, he was a British ex footballer turned actor, talking about his wife Tanya who had died of cancer, and how it has been since she died and about when she died.
You have to watch it, it blew me away and I even tweeted about it. His story will really pull at your heart strings.
It really struck a cord with me, because we can often lose our way in life and feel that there is no one to love out there, but watching this video reminds me that true love does exist and can truly happen for all of us.
LOVE isn’t just about romance it is the LOVE we have for your kids, friends and family that can often help you get through tough times, and want to be around those people. I remember my Nan (my mum’s mum) saying that every night without fail her and my grandad would kiss each other goodnight because you never knew what tomorrow would bring and that is so true.
I remember working at Butlins Holiday Camp in the UK, in Bognor Regis, and my grandad and my nan’s words were so true, because we lost a dear friend of ours Nigel through adult cot death. There was no warning, nothing. He went to bed that night and didn’t wake up the next morning. He wasn’t a heavy drinker, didn’t smoke and was a true grafter and didn’t touch drugs, and I remember feeling so sad, for a long time afterwards, because it was like “Why?”.
I did love Nigel my husband did too. Love doesn’t mean you have to be sexually involved but that you have a strong connection with someone. The greatest love and friendships for me are ones where you can literally talk about anything and everything and it doesn’t matter. You just love each others company, and we should do more to show our love and respect for our friends and family we have in our lives, as you never know what is around the corner.
I think this is a lesson for us all. We should love more #truelove, to be kind, be generous and forget about the petty things. I moaned at my husband today because he moved some items in my son’s room, and after watching Vinnie Joneses Interview, made me realise “Was that really so important?”, “Was moving Henry’s toys really going to effect the day or Henry’s world?”. Of course not.
You just sometimes like my husband often says, got to let it go, as you know that the ones we love won’t be around forever. Whenever I feel myself being a pain in the arse I always remind myself that:
YOU HAVE TO LOVE OTHERS LIKE YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE LOVED YOURSELF.
NO MATTER WHAT THEY DO THAT CAN CAUSE CONFLICT LOVE IS WHAT HOLDS US TOGETHER!
I would like to know what love means to you? How you keep the love going? You can leave a comment below.
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There have been many people I know longer see, not because we have fallen out, but as people we can often drift apart, as we get older and we continue to meet different people in our lives.
Without people we no longer see we wouldn’t have met the new people in our lives, as humans we are forever growing, and we learn from others.
Whether it be from other people’s mistakes or how they have become so successful in their life.
I wrote a piece a while ago about creating a foundation in our life, and how it so important, because we need those who help pick us up when we’re down.
However what about the people we no longer see? Well there is the wonders now of Social Media and I have rediscovered those friendships with some of those people through Instagram and Facebook, and it is good to see how much their life has changed developed too.
People evolve through time, and it sad to find out from others that those people we no longer see have passed away, but sadly that is life. People come and go, but the memories is what lasts forever.
I can look back and think about those people I know longer see with a smile, as I know I wouldn’t have gotten this far in my life without them.
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I was never someone who had loads of boyfriends and dated a lot.
I did go out with a few guys but nothing that was overly serious. It has to be right for you, and at the time of being with these guys I didn’t want to be in love. I wasn’t ready for that, it was just nice to have someone who liked me in that emotional way. It did help my confidence.
However I met my husband unexpectedly, when working at a holiday camp 15 years ago.
I had no intention of meeting anyone, and when I did, it just happened.
I did make the first move in the end, and sometimes that is what you need to do.
A great way to beat social anxiety and lack of confidence is to do somethings out of your comfort zone, and you never know if there is someone that you like, but neither of you are making a move, it could be that they are shy too.
SOMEONE HAS TO SAY SOMETHING!
I finally made first step when someone told me that, my now husband, could be potentially leaving the holiday camp and move on else where. I didn’t want to miss my chance.
We met up for a drink to begin with. I did stay at his but we didn’t do anything physical until later on as we continued to see each other.
That was important to me. It is all about learning to trust someone and finding that connection. Creating a potential foundation for yourself that will be there for you and help support you emotionally.
Never put pressure on yourself to be in love, but get yourself out of your usual environment and go to different places where you have a chance to meet someone. It is good to hang out with a friend that is very sociable as the chances are they will talk to them first, so then you can start talking to them.
Having a person who is an ice breaker and can open up the conversation for you is good, helps make it a casual met up. Have a chat, get to know them first, date and then see where it goes.
