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International Women’s Day

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I am a mother, I am an Aunty, I am a sister, daughter and a cousin, and there have been many women whom have inspired me through my life.

Sandy one of my Playgroup Leaders that ran in Hammersmith and she still is in my heart along with another lady called Sue, who made me dinner once when my brother dislocated his arm playing football and would always be at the Fulham Recreation Ground, to watch like my mum, her son play football and never missed a game.

Sandy who today, is no longer in this world, but along with Sue, who lived in my estate aswell, were ladies I inspired me a lot and had time for everyone who attended playgroup.

Sylvia Dale, my Ballet and Tap instructor, who would gave up part of her home as a dancing studio and would put on amazing shows, every year and always were brilliant to be part of.

Connie and Sheila, two ladies who helped me to do Ballroom, Latin and Disco dancing, on a Saturday, after finishing tap and ballet, and taught us one by one who attended the dancing school, and helped us kids, make up dances too, and choreographed brilliant dancing routines and was there until I was 16 years old and still visit in my dreams.

My Aunties who have helped bring me up and loved having a lot of them in my life, and would never forget anyone at Christmas and or at Easter too, and loved it when as a family when we would, all come together and I love having so many happy memories, of those times along with my female cousins.

My two nans, Nanny Skinner and Nanny Rose, and were proper nans to me and were a massive influence as a kid who I would dance in the living room with and learn how to play cards and knit, and would have homemade food and would go on many shopping trips, aswell as meeting other friends and family.

Female Comedians, French and Saunders for their funny sketches and TV shows they did together and separately, Joan Rivers for her controversial gags and adult women humour, and never stopped working always working to make people laugh and cry with laughter.

Sports women, like Sally Gunnell, Fatima Whitbread, Martina Navratilova, and Zola Bud.

Actresses, like Joan Collins, Jenifer Aniston, Doris Day and Judy Garland. I loved old films and TV, and thankfully still alive today and growing even stronger, and influenced me as a woman myself.

Then there are singers, Cyndi Lauper, Madonna, Whitney Houston, Dionne Warwick and Juice Newton who I most recently remembered songs, as she was, which I forget was my early influences as a kid who’s parents loved music aswell.

And I could go on and on, but honestly there are so many influential women out there still today and my favourite life coaching speaker, Mel Robbins and I listen and watch her videos every day.

So, I would like to see comments, of as women who inspired you and had a influence on your life too. You can leave a comment below.

Thank you for everyone who loves these blogs and given me feedback, it really means the world to me, and gives me a push to write more and inspired you too.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

ORGANISING HAVING TIME FOR OURSELVES AND DEALING WITH LATENESS

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I think it is important to have time for ourselves because when we don’t we can feel worn out. Thursdays I am always extra tired and it is not because I have issues sleeping because I haven’t, its because I try to do too much and I travel a lot and so it takes its toll.

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I make sure that I have days where I don’t put anything onto my skin, I make sure I keep my hair healthy by wearing a shower cap and my body, by taking supplements to help me, and I have a good routine now that if I need extra rest I take it and then Friday I am fine, back to feeling human again.

I try and take my time, as I hate the mad rush and I do this by having a cup tea or a coffee really helps. I hate being later for anything, and I find being regularly late is disrespectful, as it seems like that person doesn’t really care, and promised after 20 years of being late, to finally be on time.

It is often “I will always be late” attitude “But that’s me” and I feel like well “Sorry for waiting for 3 hours for you to show your face, but that’s just me”.

If you can’t make it or gonna be late, let the person know, but if you keep letting them be late, then that is not helping them. I hate for people to think I am unreliable, that “She’s always late”. When I have been late I learn from it, as it often was because I would be lost. I have no sense direction, but I never seen that as “That’s the way I am”, I made sure I have planned on how to get there and that person I have called to meet me outside and take down the directions ahead of time.

I have not always been reliable and I have taken days off from working because I just didn’t feel like going in and because I went out the night before, but never made me feel good. So I learned that if I want to be seen as being reliable I have to lighten up and just do that.

Taking time to be with yourself is important and I have booked holidays when working, and not gonna anywhere as such but to have a break and time for myself. I would when I took up running, had set time on a day off to do so, if I couldn’t do any in the week when working, and its just making time to be you and the world, gone up to London to run, and setting a date with myself. It makes such a difference.

So give yourself a break and this valentines give yourself love aswell as others.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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We all have to share the world and live in it so be honest

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So today has been about Boris Johnson and how him and his party had a full on party when everyone else followed the Social Distancing rules and went through Lockdown and its like the expenses scandal where they denied all knowledge of it, when there is photo evidence.

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We all have to share this world and when people like the Prime Minister goes against his rules in Lockdown makes us lose faith with people in his or her position, and when he was asked he smirked and for me it builds my mind in stereotyping Members of Parliment.

I don’t trust them.

If you want to share this world we should all be achieving the same thing, to make us and everyone in our lives and others happy and be able to live like they wish too, and COVID made us all pull together as we are part of this planet and should be looking after each other, but that we couldn’t see all of our family.

We as sitizens took on board the rules, yet from the evidence seen Boris thinks because he is in top position that is allowed. Really? So what part did that play that you can have a party but we can’t?

We as adults should be setting a good example, and for a better world follow the rules that is set out.

Why make up rules you know you can’t follow yourself as it causes distrust and what MP’s are immune and can do what they like?

Living in this world in which we share what causes the most conflict is dishonesty and feeling that there are double standards, and that people who don’t care but make out they do aren’t the successes we want to see and doesn’t inspire but the cause of why the wrong people take power when there are better people out there.

If you want to be in charge then remember everyone should follow the rules especially those at the head of state, and once they break the rules should not be in position that causes others to do the same.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Finding the people that are good for you

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I have just watched a TV programme about a mother called Anne, who faught for justice over the losing her son at Hillsborough in 1989 and I remember seeing this tragic event happen, when at my nans and thought that my cousin had gone. In the progamme she fights with other Liverpool supporters who also lost love ones too, protest to have the case reopened to get the verdict she and the other families wanted, which was unlawfully killed. Ninety seven supporters were crushed to death and the blame was put onto the Liverpool fans, when actually it was the football ground and the Police on that day.

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It inspired me to write this blog because in order have actions taken in your life it is good to find those people who can help you and give you full support. We are all allowed to fight our corner and speak out and should never be shut down by anyone.

Have you ever had a time where you have chatted away about something then got blanked and that person then turns to talk to someone else or completley changed the subject? It can be so annoying and you feel unworthy of speaking and so when it comes to life to help build it, it is good to find good amount of human support by the right people that can help you, but not knock you down, and don’t turn their back on you.

They may put up a defence towards what you want to do or talk about more to protect you, but will support you in the end.

If they just don’t want to listen, then they aren’t worthy of your attention either as I see it and find those who won’t do that. They can be easily found, it can be finding a network of people that do what you do and have the same mindset, it can be someone you work with, a friend of a friend or someone who has randomly spoken to you without them worrying who you are.

You want people who won’t trash over your success and your dreams and ask if they can help and still allow you to be in charge of it, but thankful that they have offered. It means they will do whatever you want with good intentions and not destroy it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Inspiring Stories/The World of Music and Excellent writing of songs

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To say I love music is an understatement as every bed time and morning I will spend some time listening to music. I would not live without it.

I have taken breaks from it, but I always go back. In this Inspiring stories I want to talk about the World Of Music, and Excellent writing of songs.

What a song can say to you is personal and can really touch the heart and because even as a kid I have listened to music on my pink record player and then a Hi-Fi, it is hard for me to be specific choosing one out of so many. Writing music has been my love and no many have not been heard by anyone else, and its songs like the Greatest Love of all for example is talking about loving our kids of the world and there is no better love as a parent and as a child.

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Roy Orbison is for me a prime example who have used music to talk about his life and he did a lot of love songs, and they are so timeless and I have listened to his music a thousand times no lie, and they still feel brand new.

The song Beautiful and I find hard to listen too, but an amazing song, and I was in a bad way last year, that this song reaches me like none other and will always play that apart of my life out. I was having a breakdown, which is the only thing I can call it, but was in the wars, and a song I play when I feel love is slippering away.

A song to me has to give me empowerment and self belief, being someone who struggled wit confidence, and the music Roy Orbinson wrote was in the 60’s and got number ones all over the world, with his amazing voice and lyrics.

Whrn it comes to music I am not someone who plays one type but a load of songs, from Classical to Rock ‘n’ Roll, and Status Quo is still the band that brings the best out of Rock ‘n’ Roll in this era, along with Cliff Richard and Frankie Valli, and they brought a different type of Rock ‘N’ Road, writing music with films and the Bee Gees with their disco tracks for Saturday Night Fever.

My favourite song from the film Grease is the song Hopelessly Devoted and Grease is the word, as it still a great film I love watching and the music is still playe today, as now we have the music stage production too. This is how far music can stretch and why it is in all our lives.

Music really established itself in life gone back when King Edward times and the first song to be played was back in the states and grew across the boarder, and then in Britain it was instruments like the recorder, the fiddle and the violin that were played and in Britain it was drumkits, eletctric guitars, acoustic and now everyone listesns to it, and from looking back it is amazing how it has evolved.

So, choose a song that makes you think and address issues in your life and write a song that you have always wanted to write and make it personal and in touch with you and your love ones.

Many thank for reading,

Carrie X

Restart your life Anytime not just for the New year

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So first of all. Thank you so much in liking my blogs on this site and so happy that you liked my 30 day challenge I did on this site, it really means everything to me.

In this blog post I am talking about Restart your life anytime not just for the New Year.

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When it comes to restarting your life it means putting a lot to rest. If you aren’t feeling happy with certain people in your life, either discuss this with them and moving on to more like minded people who you do feel you have a connection with.

Have a life cleansing routine or ritual, for me this is when I spend time having a shower, using a body scrub, wash my hair and do some exercise and writing.

Getting projects that are overdue done and set a day of when you want to complete them, and then follow the cleansing routine or ritual as a reward to yourself.

Change the things you read, wear and use by rotating system, where by you sort out of say clothes and to make sure they get worn you go through what you have worn a lot and what you haven’t so to make sure you do get to wear those clothes you love, take them out to remember to do so. I like to go through my clothes of items worn or not worn for a while to wearing and have all my autumn and winter shoes out ready to wear.

Stop the self doubt and start living the life you want, like you already are. Dreams can be as big as you want them to be, and often you need patience and determination and keep seeing the vision and develop it as you get closer to your dreams.

Never allow others dictate your life for you, but have a network of support who you know will help drive you forward and when you set yourself up to be heard then do so and raise the bar of your success.

For me it is getting rid of the passed and being in the now and what is next in your life.

Just be worthy of yourself and give yourself praise and vision of how you would like to feel about you, and what gives you a neverending successful feeling and dreams are to live, breath and remember to take it all in, so you don’t miss it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Inspiring stories: How people have created magic when really it could have flopped

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Hello and welcome! This is a post I want to create to talk about How People have created magic when really it could have flopped.

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So, I normally I will talk about singers, actors, royality, presenters of TV shows and have built up their lives as a life coach. One being Tony Robbins for example. Who else has changed how we go about ourlives?

Philip Schofield who went from being in the broom cupboard on children’s TV to musicals. Joseph and the technicolour dreamcoat and was the first presenter of kids TV that crossed that line and he turned people’s heads. “How can he be in a musical when he would introduce children’s TV and talk to puppets like Gordon the Gopher and Ed the duck?”

Well by being wellknown and becoming a household name. It seemed at the time, that he was surprised he was wanted by Andrew Llloyd Webber, and it was a risk, yet it worked and did change how we saw people on TV. This is not having two many eggs in one basket.

The film philadelphia bought home how Aids was was percieved when it first came about. How prejudice people would get about someone with HIV, yet it won oscars and was Tom Hanks and the writers that bought it into the light, and made it to one of the most famous films of the world.

There was then the Spice girls who were so different to each other and they broke records with their songs and I remember when living in a housing estate seeing girls copying their dance moves. Their pictures would be advised on bus stops and buses, and made a film and got to meet Prince Charles and Nelson Mandela.

Linford Christie and Usain Bolt. Linford was bought up where I was, Hammersmith and was the most successful athlete of all time for Great Britain and England, and Usain Bolt a local Jamican who slept in a hut for most of his life and family was poor.

This teaches me that, just because on paper it says you will end up cleaning streets, doesn’t mean that you will. If there are miles of stones to cross that strength and determination can create magic wherever you go.

It is about being different and standing out and people who create magic do it because they create things like songs that last a lifetime and films. Its created a life that is possible and that you lived like a person already successful.

Magic can be created by anyone and so challenge yourself to create magic as if you’re already doing so.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Feeling like you have no power in your life/Gaining back control of uneventful things

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What do I mean by power, no sense of control over your life, but you try to grab it by the horns and say “No I want control back” but it is not there. You miss the bus, but other days you make it. That is something that could effect your day and now you’re late and feel that panic or at the moment the petrol stations have been chockerblock due to people needing petrol and there not being enough due to the Lorrys that are supposed to delivering it and everyone it queuing in their cars to get petrol.

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Then I worry about the buses what if they run out, how would we get anywhere, yet is there a way to gain control? Yes, travelling by a different route, like instead of a bus get the train instead. Then there are taxis and not turning up and you have business meeting. What can you do to gain control? again use the train or see if a coworker had a car who has petrol to see if they can pick up en route.

Basically if you want to get somewhere urgently we has humans will always find a way. That is with everything. Of course with COVID alot of things have got effected making work difficult and has gained control of what we do and where we go.

Can you get it back? Yes by using social media and going digitial on some things, like to do lists and managing the calendar and using the post to send cards out and contacting people. As said you will always as a human being find a way.

I keep that in mind with the things that go on in my life where I feel things are beyond control, like being stuck on a bus like the week just gone and was late to meet my son after he finished school, and that meant texting Henry, my son’s dad to make sure someone he is there for when Henry is bought back from school.

So never fear the power is with in you so remember if you lose a bit of control of your life, you will find a way to gain control again.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Pressures/how we can control it/the OPPP Pressure

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I am guilty of pressure and the way it has formed my life and taken over at times. We have the pressure to keep things/objects, check out my blog post: https://neworganizedself.blogspot.com/2021/09/things-you-loved-once-upon-timechanged.html

We have pressure from people around us at times, places and the paths we have gone through (OPPP Pressures) Objects, people, places and paths.

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The talk in the blog linked above about letting go of things that no we are no longer in love with, or it can be because you played football at pro level and now you don’t due to injury and you never knew it would end in that way and now have accept that, the life we knew it is no more.

Letting things change for the better. This can cause many fears and hold us back.

We have pressure to restart things like wanting to read a book each month but now its 3 months later and still reading the same book. I have been there and failed, so now I will read my books as I do read to a novel or a true story and self help books. I give myself two pages a day and so far this method is working.

Pressures lay down questions that we don’t always want to answer but we know they are there. Example: Dealing with personal pressures, “If I don’t like a job I am in should I just give it up and move on?” I have worked for many companies and had been in this position and I have walked out on some jobs, due to the pressure.

Be strong and guided, allow the pressure to be releast and out of your body. Meditation is brilliant for this and prayer, if you are religious of course but pull yourself back and go through what is really causing the pressure, and go through The OPPP method to take control and be out of the pressure you feel.

Take care of yourself and #bekind to yourself and we deserve to be happy and be let of stress caused by too much pressure.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

How to deal with loneliness and have more belonging

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So can you believe that loneliness can be different to people? it can and I have learned that it is as a kid I felt I didn’t belong and was scared of rejection, but its because I am a naturally social person depending on where I am and who with. As a kid I could not see it and felt very lonely and was told by many that I live in a world of my own.

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I was not sure of these words but in funny way I did see it as a compliment as it made me see early “I was my own person” and now glad I was different.

Being different to others is okay, its how to present yourself and many people who feel loneliness its because they don’t have the right people around them to feel fulfilled and we are naturally all social creatures, yet I have suffered with social anxiety. That can be lonely right there, and you feel that only you can see it yet they can’t and think I am unsocialable.

When I write this it makes me ask, does this sound strange? Perhaps but it is true, I do feed off from other people and if someone wants to talk to me, I do and not judge them. I loved it as a kid we would go on holiday with other families the area I spent my life as a child and loved them, and would go camping with them too. I loved this community of people and wish they were still in my life.

We can be lonely when we feel unwanted in a family and often its the excuse, “Well they are family” yet should we feel left out? I settle and get to feel comfort by giving people space, but let them see I am here if they want to talk to me. If I don’t like someone I do stay back and don’t engage, or if I feel wary of them and often let them approach me if they want to, or not.

It is all about setting, and if you feel self conscious around some people that can then make you want to go elsewhere or they pretend that they haven’t been out all day without you and then tell you as you believe that they just met, yet was a cock and ball story, knowing that you both know the truth. I am someone who basically sees it as, “If you want me as a friend that’s fine but don’t pretend that you do”. Every human can feel lonely event those that have lots of cash and no where to go.

With lonely comes honesty and often people want you to feel lonely because they think its gonna make you want them around, yet you don’t want them and it can be tough to let people go, but sometimes you just have to, to get beyond he loneliness.

Being lonely isn’t an attack on someone it is a feeling and about wanting to be part of a world you feel you aren’t. Give time to those who really care not those that don’t. Listen to good music, videos and podcasts or even an audiobook, that makes you feel loved and that there is magic in those that can give you a lift and since sociallising on the net I have neverr looked back and thanks to modern technology I have now kept in touch with all the friends I have and it is a lot.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X