Yes it is that time again! If you don’t know I write a newsletter each month, which is free to view and download and talk about my content and things coming up, and next week on the 1st May I will be starting my Life Coaching programme “Summer Project 2024” and we are heading towards a few bank holidays and so been sharing what I will be doing and give tips on what to do, and did film a video on my channel my way of living talking about it too: https://youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602?si=CsU3pkVb4cKPzu2n
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Tomorrow it is the last day of my Life Coaching programme “The Summer Project 2022”, and managed to fit a new video, check it out here: https://youtu.be/PAl0RT4OUSY
Thank you for all the likes and follows, it really means the world to me. I can’t believe this week of the School summer holidays and I have had so much fun, and it be back in the routine of school and my routine changes, in that I work in the morning, and I have new programme beginning, which is the “Autumn Reset 2022” and is all about resetting your life for a better Autumn and get back into the winter time zone and when the nights get dark early.
This will run as of the beginning of September to the end of October and will be getting back into colder days and nights. It is good to get ready for it, and time for birthday planning and Christmas. It stuns me how close it is and feel a little bit anxious knowing it is leading close by and so be thinking about cards and gifts.
I will be doing gift guide videos and will be prepping for the festive cheer and setting more challenges for myself and going to have a more fun this year. I no longer want to be a humbug, even though many of us will be struggling with the price of things and many family scrimping and scrapping, and so it means lowering the budget but still have a good time.
I find it makes me want to be a bit inventive and not buy the same thing, in terms of presents and will be doing all I can to reach out to you in helping you get through the Winter slump.
So, I am going to enjoy this last week and then will be having a revamp of my life and getting rid of items I no longer need but may be for someone else, and sensible about where my money is going too.
It is all about making the most of what you have and how you can save without living for each paycheck.
I now use Sundays as a Reset and it really gives a kick start to the week ahead. I am not a massive fan of cleaning and so it does take a long to get myself to do it, but feel good once done and seen the results.
I use Sundays and Mondays to reset and that is clearing rubbish, go through lists not completed and just go through what I have done and what I do next.
It revaluates your life, as you can see what area of my life you need to work on, example for me I need to fit in time exercise more, and so I will go for a walk each day and once I get the message “Do a workout” that is exactly what I will do, and you can use exercise to reset your life.
Exercising has so many benefits. Example I find it gives me a good boost of energy and feel good about my body and how I feel about myself. I will make sure I give myself time to look after my skin and going through what I have that I still love and what I don’t.
I will vacuum my bedroom each week and do a bit of dusting, and just getting things in shape. I like space and allow myself time to gather my life and keep growing.
Spend time to journal and gather my thoughts and fears. Have time changing my bedding and just spend time working and building on different areas of my life.
It can be anything that is making you feel overwhelmed and you need more shape in your life.
So have time to reset your life and help you be in a positive mindset.
When we get off a train it is because we want to go to a known destination and an idea of where we want to go, but with life there are stations we never get off on, because we have no need too, but often when I used to travel into the central London, would forget where I was going or I’d be trying to keep my eyes open, missed my stop. I’d get into a panic state because now I have no idea of where I am going and the fear was getting stranded and so now I travel I often will be looking at the map on the train, numerous times to make sure that I get off the right station.
So what happens when we forget and miss our stops?
Be glad that I had realised and didn’t travel any further and hope I can get back where I forgot to get off to go too the right destination? I would instantly get panicky and feel really stupid, and start to demolish myself. Yet if someone actually said these things to me and not in my head, I would be like “No you are wrong and I am not the only who’s done that”, but its fine to say it to ourselves.
We have all got off the wrong stop, and we will make mistakes which I did a video on, which was a chat video: https://youtu.be/SUw2pGZlPoI All about when my son had a new teacher teaching him swimming and one of the dads got a bit annoyed about it, as she wasn’t as thorough unlike the usual teacher and was being supervised whilst she taught, but did okay and we all make mistakes.
Did she panic? No
Did she get angry? No
She got on and taught her lesson, and the kids learning including my son, were fine. So getting off the wrong stop doesn’t mean your going to be stuck forever, you learn, THAT IS LIFE, and you will still be a success and you’ll know soon where to get off and get on. As Dean Graziosi, life is about repetition, and so as keep doing the journey you’ll always know, and when you do, then the panic will fade.
As a kid I always knew that I wanted to do something that was different to those before me being an estate kid, did with their lives. As a kid I was full of ambition, and loved dancing and wanted to be a pop star one day or be on stage in a musical. Well I did have a chance as I did when I was very young did tap and ballet classes and take part in shows, and then went onto doing ballroom and latin dancing.
They came about because of other kids I knew and it gave me a reason to get out of bed, then I stopped and then fell in love with football and changed my mind of who I wanted to be, and felt a new world had shown itself and was what I wanted to do instead.
I would dream about playing football, but actually it wasn’t that I wanted to play, but build my knowledge and wanted to be a football coach, and years later did my level FA coaching qualification at Richmond college, and did get a chance to coach. Then I fell pregnant so had to stop, as I didn’t drive and couldn’t carry my stuff with me, and it turned out to be a good decision, because in the end it was traumatic when Henry, my son arrived, and would like to continue again, but I then discovered the internet and his many things you can do on it, and began a blog.
This with a few of my other blogs I began to write, was one of my first, and feel this is now who I want to be. I want to be a blogger and full time writer. It can take its time, to choose who you want to be, and I want to be known for my blogs and help get in touch with people who I can help through my blogs.
I then began to write books and who I want to be. I do still see myself as a estate kid and has had a influence on me, because it was a huge part of me still. I am a mum and love it, my son is the biggest I could have wished for and is who I want to be.
I get a buzz when my son calls me mummy and gives me hugs and tells me he loves me, and is such a gorgeous boy, Is that being biased? Probably, but is it? I mean he is my pride and joy, and he is adorable and people comment on him saying how he is so friendly and gorgeous he is. He makes me laugh like noone else and we have a bond that is out of this world, and feel good about being a mum. Yes there are challenges, but life is about growing, if we limit ourselves that is always going to the case, so we have to come across challenges as this how we become who we are.
So who do you want to be? Start building your life and never fear it.
To let you know I did a new video talking about my last blog about having lazy days and habits leading to habits so, check it out: https://youtu.be/QHzxtk2-0LE
I will be making these blogs and videos into an Online course, as I did last year, and if you’d like to check my Online courses out I have linked to my page: Online Courses/Education
I can be one lazy bitch when I want to be, but now I have started to see that I can still have those days but schedule them in, and still continue with my good habits as I take a day off, and since becoming a mum that has altered a lot. I often have forgotten to have lazy days.. I no longer spend time travelling to watch a Rugby League team I used to follow and no longer go up into central London for a drink, but as I write this I still want to do this and be on my own, but making sure I stay safe if I do that. It will take a lot of courage but feel I need to do at some point to break the fear of it.
I have found that I can still be lazy but dressed, like now I have changed into shorts after being out wearing leggins as I have to wear cycling shorts under my everyday shorts when walking and moving, to stop chaffing, but they are in the laundry basket so now I am at my desk and going spend the day working, chilled and fully relaxed in my shorts, and going to have a blissful day.
That for me is what is important. We all need those times to take it easy, and whilst shopping, buying food I had to catch myself from rushing, because today I didn’t need to, but rushing becomes a habit that can cause burnout so I rein myself in and take my time.
I remember when working in a call centre and there was a lady there called Mrs Rush Rush, because I would talk fast, walk fast and be on my toes running around so I could be back at my desk taking more calls, and complete my day. I felt worn out, like numb by the end of the day. I would have anger issues, because of taking unhappy calls and it would drain me. I felt like I couldn’t talk anymore and would go home to my husband in a mood.
Again this became a habit. Now I slow down. I don’t need to rush and have always been good at time keeping so needed not to rush. That is why I need lazy days, so I can unwind and forget the rush and just be in my element. My laptop, youtube, TV and a good book.
When I travel I often finding myself running for the bus, when I have left myself time to, if I miss it to get the next one. I don’t need to run but the city girl within me, being in London often will set in. Yet once on the bus I will be happy reading my book and chill before my son comes home from school.
With the summer holidays I have tried to chill too. My son is not a fast walker but he has bags loads of energy and often have to think on my feet, and that is not easy.
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So now I will make sure I take a lazy day and catch up on a good TV series, watch a series of videos and I love watching documentaries and sport, so I make time to do that, and yes having a better life, is to spend time with yourself and the things and people you love, without the rush and losing ourselves in everyday busyness.
I have really enjoyed the Monthly Challenges I have been doing and for August I am posting everyday on my Instagram, for 30 days, and so check it out: https://www.instagram.com/typicallondongal/
The purpose of it is to connect to others and having fun, and catching up on and see how I can improve my content and make it enjoyable to encourage others to set up challenges as they alter your thoughts and to see what I am capable of. It gets into habits that helps me feel like I am not sinking behind my blogs, and books etc but build my knowledge. Last month July was to do a bit of training on day, not me give training and me doing the training, because there are always areas of improvement. I want to learn new skills and build my knowledge for my wellbeing. I love to learn.
They help to get stuff done and want to start doing my Seasonal clean ups where by I would sort my stuff out every Autumn, Winer and Spring, and the one thing on the agenda is to organize my clothes, and seeing what I have worn and not, and what I have used and never going to be used. It is good to clear the head by having a clear up with physical items and feel that it making space for me and I like shape in my life.
These challenges have helped with shaping my life. It has made me make sure I make my bed in the morning, and I have a reset each week and just get my life together.
Set challenges in the summer if you don’t want to do it every month or do a reset each week. It is what works for you and helps with being overwhelmed and not want to do anything.
With the school holidays it has been tricky, so doing tasks that doesn’t take up too much of my time but I am still getting stuff done and I love sharing on Instagram and would like to do more and do videos on there too.
I have been filming Day in a life videos, at the moment I am putting my videos of the Platinum Jubilee, so check out my channel via the this link if you’d like to watch them: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg
I was also challenging myself to read a book a month and so far achieved, but not July because of the school holidays but I will catch up, and then I want to plan for Autumn and Winter months of 2022. I will keep you posted.
Do you feel sometimes that life is full of errands, like doing laundry, cleaning, checking my finances, packing for the school holidays and on emails, that you avoid these tasks?
Yes my hands are up, and I think its because we build too much of hard expectation of ourselves and it usually because we are pleasing others in doing so. I mean we pay our debts because we began not to care anymore about where it is going, and have a load of books still to be returned to the library, but know we are pissing off the bank we are debt with, and return our books to stop the library being annoyed with us and avoid visiting, and not because we actually want to be these things off.
Of course these things need to be done, because of our own insanity and we don’t want these things hanging around our heads, growing and know we want them to be gone. You feel begrudging about the bills you have to pay. So what is the answer?
Well do we want to be debt for the rest of our lives and still have those library books? Of course not and so set a date and each day go through what will help face them to get them done. Create a plan and a goal.
I have used a bit of paper on my wall and set myself a target of paying off my credit card and plan my finances of what needs to come out and what I want to come out. I also go through where I can save money, by going to parks which are free to use, not always having a coffee out and if it a store I use of the time do they have points cards that would lower the amount you pay, like Boots for example I love their points system and use the points I build up on items from their stores.
I enjoy setting myself goals and I do it bit by bit, rather than all in one go.
Invest in what you want and not what you don’t. Go through the things in your life that makes you avoid errands and can you delegate? I am no good at making beds, but I do it because it does help set up my day, but if someone offers, of course I am not going to say no. and the same with having a reset each week. I find that I avoid them because I make them bigger than what they are, rather than seeing that it is not a hard task. Example: Worried about getting up to London and not being up there on time.
So I packed my bag the night before, saw a cash machine on route yesterday as took my son to Wimbledon park, and withdrew some cash and checked the trains the night before and then in the morning, set an alarm and just prepared myself.
Separate errands into sections, and think about how you will feel once the task is done and what it will lead to. I know when I complete tasks I feel a buzzed and that the preparation is the the key.
So don’t avoid get them done, do them but then reward yourself, very important and then go onto the things you want to do and do one together. Example when I have written a blog, I reward myself with watching a video, which is what I want to do, because I love writing blogs, but often will be my own worst critic and editing it can be a process, but I feel really good afterwards and so will then watch a bit of TV, what I want to do. If someone could in help me with editing I would be truly thankful.
It’s all about balance and not getting left behind, as this can be a factor, the time you have.
So break things down, prep and break each task down so its not such a burden to get the errands we plan done and make it enjoyable, example when I write I may listen to a podcast or music, with a cup of tea or coffee, have the window open and wear a favourites T-Shirt, anything that helps boost your enthusiasm to get errands completed so you and focus on the want items.
It is all about living life and making the most of it, why we have it.
So I went to bed feeling tired, well I wouldn’t go to bed wide awake, but as soon as my head hit the pillow my mind became active and so got up. I began to watch a documentary as I love to do at the weekend and if you wanted to know what, it is an Celine Dion Documentary when she goes back to perform in Las Vegas after she not long gave birth to twins.
I then get the urge to write this blog, and realised in the online world that it is hard to take a night off.
Being a writer it is often all I want to do and this after writing my previous blog “The Summer Project 2022” When you just don’t feel like it and suddenly feel the urge to write once again and so I have to get up and do it. I knew if I didn’t I’d be laying bed thinking about it and so admitted defeat, and now as I write this blog now, it is Sunday and 6am in the morning.
I had a relaxing day yesterday thought. I got to have a lie in thanks to my Step dad and watched some TV with my son, and then my mum took him out on his scooter and then when he left to be with his dad, wrote my other blog, filmed a video and then whilst doing a bit of Admin listened to some good music, my love at the moment is Jessie Ware.
Being the UK summer holidays it can be tiring and so not sure how much I will do during this period so when I get a window where I can write I will take the opportunity.
It is good to have a break, I have had burn out too many times and so I take it easy but never forget my passion and when I get the urge I will take it and reminds me why I love writing so much. I love connecting with people through it. I love being part of the online world and so I have to keep it going.
Thank you for your likes and connecting with me through my blogs and following me, it means a lot and more blogs to come. I have been creating videos too on my Youtube channel and so check them out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg
It is Saturday and know that my next Newsletter needs changing, and I don’t feel like it. I love creating them it’s just I have a free Saturday Afternoon and Evening, and had set out in my head my plan to do a bit of writing and been planning but actually feel slumped.
I have Saturday’s as my night off and this morning and early afternoon spent time with my son, and had a gap whilst my mum took him out this morning on his scooter, but now I feel like I could just go to bed.
It is good to take breaks and so going to make this my only thing I am going to do today, in terms for writing and then going to begin my night off and make this it for the rest of the day.
When I don’t have a break I feel so unenergized the next day and so set a day where you have free choice and I am going to watch a concert, a film or documentary. I am going to take a shower and have a alcoholic drink with my dinner. Set a day just for yourself. Have a different meal that is different to what you would have during the week and visit different friends that you don’t see often and with the hot weather it is good to have a night out in town. This is one thing I miss, and going to build confidence to have a date with myself.
So let’s just enjoy our weekend and there will be more blogs coming and thank you for your feedback so far.