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Monthly Archives: October 2018

Building Good Relationships

29 Monday Oct 2018

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Building Relationships, Determined, Drive, Foundations, friendships, jealousy, moaning, negativity, Positive people

I suppose this ties in with my last blog, Feeling like I don’t belong is that it good to build good relationships, and surround yourself with like minded people who get you.

I remember being surrounded by real negative people when working in a call centre and would constantly be complaining and moaning, and it got to the point I found myself doing the same. I had to stop myself.

I kind of settled and gave up on building my dream life for a while.

I was relieved to get away from that. So when I was asked to join another team, I leaped at the chance.

There are people out there that will try and drag you down, just because they are having a bad day, and others that can make you feel on top of the world, and its those people you want to surround yourself with.

Don’t get me wrong, I am sure we all like to have a moan, but not constantly. Finding a good relationship has its honeymoon period, and then dark days, but if you can get through those times then it can continue to be amazing the rest of the time.

Communication for me is the key to a good relationship and being able to compromise.

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Sometimes there is jealousy among friends, I have certainly been guilty of that, but when I have I have faced it and answered, why am I feeling this way?

Do I not want my friends to do well?

YES OF COURSE I DO.

Handling those feelings and again talking about it can really make a relationship stronger and rather than be jealous, think why are they doing so well?

I know they have had more drive than me, settled with their life in a happy way, I have always been looking for something more in my life and different, and still am, but building relationships is also important, and without them I know I could never function like I do, and be determined as I am.

Seeing the drive of those close to me, helps drive me forward and thrive myself.

So find those relationships that make you feel good, and if you do disagree, brush it off and talk, then start again. Relationships need building like houses need foundations, once you have the foundations then you can create something magical, that may last for a long time.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Feeling like you don’t belong

26 Friday Oct 2018

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Being bullied, belonging, Building confidence, carriesrealworld, comfort zone, everyonecanbuildacastle, Feeling accepted, Feeling like you don't belong, friendships, Good support, Loneliness, Not playing out, Rugby, school

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As a child I often felt like I was odd, unlike my friends and other children I’d come to meet, and it was hard as a child feeling this way. I dreamed about being someone else, not me.

I remember being envious of a certain girl at school called Sherie and she was really pretty and popular, all the girls wanted to hang around her including the boys aswell, and I dreamed of being her, just for one day so I could feel what it was like to feel belonged.

She didn’t have it easy, but when she cried it was a nice cry and gentle, and when she smiled she used to light the room, and so wished that could be me.

Even though she cried a lot because she missed her mum, she instantly found friendship and people wanting to be around her.

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It was only when I started playing football at school I started towards the end of Primary school, I felt like I was accepted, but I still felt like I didn’t belong there and never kept in touch with those friends, once I started secondary school.

I kind of felt I needed to leave that part of life behind me, and start a fresh.

Those feelings of not belonging can be isolating and lonely. When I stopped playing out a lot, I more or less had to start building the relationships I had built up, all over again.

I hid away because I was sick of being picked on, and I was being bullied by the girl who lived the flat right opposite me. She even used my friends to get at me too, and it was hard, I wanted to stay in my shell and not come out again.

Feeling like you don’t belong has its advantages, and I like having my personal space, but I also like to feel part of something. When I took up dancing it took a while, but became part of a group there and for the first time felt some confidence, and I remember I couldn’t wait till Saturday for my dancing school to start again.

Then at Secondary school, after the first year, did have my own group of friends I would hang out with everyday and finally I was part of a group at school. I still found it a struggle at school, but having close friends to support me, did help me and they helped me come out of my shell.

Don’t get me wrong we had fall outs, but didn’t last for long, and I am still friends with those girls now.

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Even now since my son started school, I see all the mums already in there groups talking whilst I wait there to go in. The worse for me to do, is to but into their conversation so I stand back.

The one reason why I blog because I like being part of a community, and embracing the new online world, and I feel like I belong.

When I started going to rugby I felt like I could finally let my hair down, and I had discovered a new sense of freedom that I never had before, and whole new world had opened up for me. That was thanks to one of my friends I had made at secondary school, whom I am still friends with today.

The Rugby years were great and even though at times I felt like the odd one out still because of my own insecurities I did feel like I was part of something truly special. It’s like the theme tune from the American Sitcom Cheers,”Where everybody knows your name”, and that is very important to me.

It is good to feel like you belong as you finally feel like you have found your purpose in life and meeting different kind of people, you learn from others and I try think back to those times to remind myself that I have been part of something and other peoples journey.

It is about coming out of your comfort zone and trying something new. When I started doing fundraising events, found another type of community, one where even though these people didn’t know me from Adam, gave me support as they passed me by anyway, and it really gives you a real boost, and a sense of “I can do this and here I am”.

Belonging is about being accepted for who you are and for what you know you can become.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

New self confidence video/having good and bad days.

24 Wednesday Oct 2018

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Personal Development, Youtube videos

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Being stuck in a rut, Building self confidence, Depression and anxiety, everyonecanbuildacastle, having good and bad days, Low Self Esteem, Youtube video

Here is a new video talking about self confidence and what it can be like having good and bad days.

When we lack self confidence we can often feel we having endless bad days more than good and feel like it is the end of the world.

In this video I talk about how you can address those feelings. I hope you enjoy my video and please let me know by filling in the feedback form on my site of what topics you would like me to talk about.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

I find it tough in social situations

23 Tuesday Oct 2018

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building your self confidence, carriesrealworld, confidence, everybodycanbuildacastle, Everyday living, Self Conscious, Social Anxiety, Social situations

Last Friday I met up with my friends and all was going well, I was telling them about my husband work, and suddenly I felt self conscious, I no idea why, and I began to feel myself stutter and struggling with words.

I have talked about Social Anxiety before in a Christmas blog, check it out in link below:

Social anxiety at Christmas

I suddenly felt aware that I was talking and being looked at whilst I spoke, which is perfectly normal but suddenly felt self conscious and started feeling paranoid because I was worried in case my friends were laughing at me.

This has happened before many times and it has been picked up on by people too, and I suddenly feel mortified and embarrassed, wanting the ground to swallow me up.

Has anyone else had this happen?

What I did after then was kept quiet and listened to my friends speak, and then once I pulled myself together than began to talk some more.

It just feels like someone grabbing my words and muddled them all up in my brain and I have no control over it.

Having social anxiety does really knock my confidence, but I tried to bounce back from those feelings as much as I can, but find they can haunt me now then.

There was a time where I didn’t have those feelings, and came out of shell more, and think was due to atmosphere. I try to think of those times when I felt fully confident and try to be the same person, but I struggle now.

I think I have struggled more as I have gotten older.

Do you suffer from social anxiety?

How do you try to control it?

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

 

Change your mind change yourself

18 Thursday Oct 2018

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Inspiration board, Personal Development, Youtube videos

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carriesrealworld, change your mind changer yourself, everyonecanbuildacastle, Mel Robbins, mind management, organize you life, the mind, Youtube videos

Check out this video my Mel Robbins, talking about changing your mind changing yourself.

It really is an inspiring video. She talks about how to organize your day and how to control the mind, so you don’t feel like you have no control.

If you know of some good videos to watch, which talks about the mind I would love to hear from you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Creating Unstoppable Self Confidence

15 Monday Oct 2018

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Personal Development, Youtube videos

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Building self confidence, carriesrealworld, Creating unstoppable self confidence, everybodycanbuildacastle, Inner critic, self confidence, Self sabotage, Tony Robbins

Building self confidence has been something I have had to work on through out my life, and there are times when I feel a massive wave of confidence and some days where I have wanted to just hide away somewhere.

Here is a really great video by Tony Robbins, who talks about Creating Unstoppable Self confidence. See Below:

He talks about self sabotage. I am guilty of doing this myself, constantly criticizing things I do, like when I film for my Youtube channel and that nagging thought of is this good enough?

Why would anyone watch this?

I now listen to it and learned to push it away, and think of the good things I am getting out of filming for example, like I want to share how I clean my home, and things I have bought and how I handle lack of self confidence with others, because I enjoy it and want to build my blogs and Youtube audience, as I want to inform others who share the same interests.

it can be constant battle in your mind when it comes to building self confidence because that inner critic constantly wants to have its say, but learning to answer and handle that critic is the way to building better self confidence.

I would love to hear from you, if you to have had to work on your confidence and what you have done to build your confidence.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Creating New habits

10 Wednesday Oct 2018

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Personal Development, Youtube videos

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Building self confidence, carriesrealworld, Controlling your anxiety, Creating new habits, everyonecanbuildacastle, gradual changes, Life changes, long term goals

I was inspired to write this blog since coming across Tracy Hensel video “Today’s habits determines tomorrow results.

I’ve recently had to control my eating habits, as I have been diagnosed with having Type 2 diabetes. I know creating new eating habits will make me feel better about my self in the long run and feel more healthy.

Check out Tracy Hensel video below:

I made a video some time ago which I found on camera which I did post about making life changes, and creating new habits will help continue those life changes.

Just creating simple habits can help, like reduce the amount of coffee you drink or opt for decaf instead, which is one thing I have done, going on a long brisk walk once a week, or start a gratitude journal, having a huge clean up once a week.

It doesn’t have to be rocket science, it just has to be something that you feel needs to change, to help you feel better about yourself.

I have struggled with having low self confidence, having constant anxiety, and feeling continuously anxious all through my life. Making life changes can really help control those feelings, by making small gradual changes.

So want to make some changes to your lifestyle? Then why not start now, it is never too late.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

Tribute to someone truly special

09 Tuesday Oct 2018

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Inspiring stories, Youtube videos

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A tribute to someone special, Being inspired by others, everybodycanbuildacastle, inspiration, Peeweetoms, Terminal cancer, Youtuber

Not sure how to begin this blog, because I don’t want it to appear that I am using someone’s death to make profit on my blog. That isn’t what I am about, but I feel I need to write this blog, because of how short of a time a certain special person had inspired me.

His name is Peeweetoms. A Youtuber who made inspiring videos about his life coping with terminal cancer.

I wasn’t even sure of which of my blog sites to write this on, but I feel I need to pay this tribute. If you want to watch Peeweetoms videos then click here to watch his channel.

He made you aware of what cancer can do, and to encourage others to get checked if they too are worried about having cancer, and not to be scared.

Sadly he lost his battle but his memory and his videos will live on, and will carry on creating awareness to others too.

Many thanks Dan you are a true saviour.

Thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Taking a leap of faith

08 Monday Oct 2018

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Being inspired by others, bungee jump from a helicopter, everyonecanbuildacastle.wordpress.com, Great North Run, Taking a leap of faith, Taking on challenges, Youtube

Being someone who loves watching Youtube. I watch it every morning, whilst my son has his breakfast and in between getting him ready for school, I was alerted a video by Will Smith. Yes, the Will Smith has a Youtube channel.

He decided to on a challenge and bungee jump from a helicopter into the Grand Canyon.

Don’t get me wrong this is something I would never do, but I can’t help but get inspired by people who would, or have done.

Check out the video below:

The biggest challenge I have ever taken on was taking part in the Great North Run, and I remember travelling up there getting quite emotional, thinking I wouldn’t make it back home, but I did.

After I took on the challenge of the Great North Run, the Adrenaline rush was intense and I felt I could take on the world.

Taking a leap of faith can help you get out of a rut, and make you see that you can take on anything, if you put your mind and heart to it.

So if there is something you have always wanted to do, then do it, as life is short and we all don’t know what is around the corner, and setting challenges can really help the mind and body.

If you have completed challenges like Will Smith than fantastic and well done, I think you are amazing, and inspiring.

What has been the biggest challenge in your life?

Is there something you have always wanted do and done it?

How did make you feel?

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

Find a good routine can help have a more structured life

03 Wednesday Oct 2018

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everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com, everyonecanbuildacastle.wordpress.com, Organise your life, Plan your days, Routine, Structured day

I live by a routine as it helps structure my day, with Henry going to school I have managed to find a good routine, so I know that the first thing is breakfast, then getting my son dressed ready for school and then leave the house to walk to school.

It just sets up my day and helps generate good habits.

For example making my bed everyday can really help set up my day, having that cup of tea in the morning, listening to that favourite song or doing my daily errands, that morning workout.

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Once you find a good routine, you can still be flexible, and be prepared for any surprises.

I write down my plan for each day, week at a time, or sometimes daily, depending on what I need to do.

Writing down the routine can help make you stick to it, and make space for other jobs that need to get done that may crop up.

We even have a routine for the evening, doing homework, TV, dinner and then bed time.

So do you have a routine? How has a routine helped you in the day?

I would love to hear.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

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