Hello! So I hope you are enjoyed my previous video that is on my Educational Youtube channel, and please subscribe as it helps grow my content and this weeks video is all about How I Realistically Manage my time.
In the mornings I set my alarm for 5:30am but at the moment been getting up at 5am, but this morning I went back to bed, not to sleep but to give myself time to drink my cup of tea and a friend of mine always likes to read in the mornings.
When I used to go running and didn’t feel like it, I would put on a motivation video on or a song on. Now though I use it to edit a book I am trying to finish and do some of my Life Coaching course I am doing, and watch a bit of Youtube, before others are awake.
I give myself free choice time and mark it in my calendar and do whatever I choose, so be realistic and manage your days without putting on too much pressure on yourself.
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If you feel like your life isn’t going anywhere and feeling unaccomplished, then I am sure you may have heard others say to you, “Staying in four walls isn’t going to help”. This was my advise, but now I have changed my mind, because it is feels good when you don’t have to go anywhere sometimes and sort out the home instead. I like fresh air, going for walks and visiting different places and planning walks that I can do when my son, when he is off for the summer holidays, and just have that time together with no plan but just venturing out and taking in my surroundings. This can be such good fun. Having someone who you can share moments with like walking or going on holiday, making it a regular thing, can really boost your mind and energy.
As a child we used to go camping down a friends land they had and sit around the bonfire, and playing games, visiting a lovely country pub that had a jukebox and billiard table, or go to the races. I loved it.
Now though I do like to spend some days in, to catch up on doing some sorting out and pottering around.
It depends on the circumstances, of course if you have an illness then getting out can be hard, so spend sometime visiting someone who is stuck at home because of an illness then however much it may upset you, seeing you can really mean a lot, even if it is for half an hour or so. I remember when my nan could not go out, and was bed ridden, and spending time with her, meant the world to me, but I also miss those times we spent time walking outdoors. We would spend time at a local market, going to the betting shop and would take a trip to Heathrow to see the planes take off and land but then going back to her flat, we would play card games or a board game, and enjoy some TV quiz shows and soaps.
I loved my nan to bits and she looked after me as a kid, so I saw it as its my turn to help her. My grandparents were a massive part of my life. If you feel stuck not seeing anybody, then there are organisations where you can befriend someone, and I have spoken about this before but can really be rewarding and helps you get out of the house, when you don’t want to be indoors.
It is balance and doing what is going to make you want to get up and have a day where you not have in a rush and just having a nice cup at home, doing some laundry and cleaning can then stir us to then go outside. If I want a No Spend day, check out my youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@financiallivingI find stopping in some days helps with that, and yes can online shop but make sure I have tasks each day to do at home so I don’t get bored and buy something online. I like to use the treadmill to help make sure I get exercise each day, and do indoor workouts with my dumbells and exercise mat.
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Life can take many routes and before you know you see doom and gloom. There is no point getting up because soon enough it will be time to get back in bed, and the days are just fading away. This can lead us feeling that we are no good to the world, that we have nowhere to go and slip further down and that there is no use in living, as this is all you have to look forward to.
Planning your life: Create a plan for yourself, like if you have wanted to write a book, like I did then create a writing plan and do a bit a day or if your house is cluttered, create a plan to declutter one area a day and time yourself.
Feeling unaccomplished: Write down all the things you would like to accomplish, and start with home, then work and then play. By doing this you will see, that these are actually goals you’ve as often we think goals are running 5k in the morning, which is fine, but breaking it down makes it easier to accomplish and not piling to much pressure on yourself. As yourself, what you want your life to look like? Check out the printable I created for you: My Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2024” helping you have a better year and a better life is coming at the start of May 2024
Find your word: My word last year was Build because that is what I wanted last year, and build my content, build the relationship with my son and others, and build my knowledge and so did some courses to help with that, as I have had mental health issues and wanted to help others who may have had mental health problems and reach out. This year is it grow, which some may say is the same thing as build, for me building I think about bricks and grow I think about a seed. For me I needed to build my life up to make room for growth, and has helped me create projects like this one and I wrote a daily blog which I shared on my daily blog: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/2024/04/learningbuilding-your-knowledge-and.html
Making choices: Do you want to feel low about yourself all your life? When I read a book by Paul McKenna it asked this question and made me think, no I don’t. I need to get out of the bed, and get dressed, not wasting my life lying hear feeling sorry for myself. So address, using my work book, of what areas of your life you are not happy with and make the choice, to be happy or not to be happy.
Reduce your consumption of negativity: I try to avoid watching things on TV that are overly violent, or has a lot of blood in, as it can affect me. As a kid I avoided horror films because it would effect my sleep and so now I will listen to true stories, but it depends on what it is and selective on what I consume online. Now I do that, I feel better and the same with certain music.
I love my life now. It has taken a lot for me to feel this way and we all deserve to feel like this. I hope you find these tips help you and remember to check out my Pinterest and social media platforms as I have content on there too, for this years Summer Project Programme.
I hope it helps you, and my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2024 is on its way and so will be posting the workbook printable which is free, like these Cheat Sheets and there will blogs and videos on my new Educational Youtube channel, which I will also post on here so lets get ready for the week ahead.
I am a typical Libra as I can be super decisive and weigh things up, a lot.
I often will let someone else decide and it drives me insane, and often the person.
I have learned to trust myself which is helping me believe in my own mind, and journaling and learning from others. Following good habits like seeing I can be organized, tidy and letting things go, and trying to change my hoarding and be ruthless and prioritizing.
Yes still a long way to go, when it comes to not hoarding, yet I have reined myself in and realising that I can save and not buy anything else, until I go through clothes that I still not worn or toiletries and beauty and stationary. I write a blog called Carries Versatile Fashion, and have Youtube channel where I talk about managing my money, and using what I have got, before buying anything else (https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602) . I enjoy building my wardrobe, having plenty of shower gels and make up, but if they are taking up too much space then, I know I need to use or let go. I know in my mind I can do that.
I believe that I can write a book and publish it. I can look after my body and mind, by exercising, but doing less to achieve more. Being kind to myself, by not criticizing myself all the time. Not giving myself a hard time If I make a mistake or when there are daily challenges, like yesterday I got caught out in the rain, still enjoyed the walk I like to do and achieved my tasks for the day.
It can be an event that can influence your thoughts, like when Princess Diana died it made me get off my arse and do something useful and made me see that you can’t waste life. Life changes come with changes to your own thoughts with yourself and others. I know if I just sit in front of my laptop for too long, loose concentration and get restless, and taking a break can influence your mind, and noticing your thoughts to rest and do something else. The mind likes variety not doing the same thing all of the time, and mixing it up so you feel good each day and now I write in my journal on my phone everyday on my thoughts and feelings and in my notebook journal, where I write about what has made me happy each day.
This helps believe my own mind and trust my instincts. I was working on my Life Coaching course and some of what the course covers is self doubt, and how you need self doubt to overcome it, like when I write a blog I often think “Should I post it or not?” but this stirs me on to get it done and part of building a blog is to write it and learn from each post, what type of audience do I want to get in touch with on my blog and how they respond to it, making sure it isn’t offensive, but real life.
I believe in my mind in a way that I reduce worrying. At one point I would live by my worrying and it can be so draining. I know for my mind to function well to eliminate feelings of worry, by taking action. Like I feel anxious about getting my son ready for school, so I will get up early now, to do a bit of work on the computer as at the moment he will sleep on passed 5am now, but after 6am and do his breakfast or his dad will, and not rushing around, but give myself enough time to look after myself in the morning to help get my son ready for school, and plan each day, so things get done and not playing catch up that can cause me to worry.
In the evenings I will make sure that I not on my laptop too late and listen to my mind when it gets tired and being on my laptop in the evenings would make my mind active again and would struggle in getting to sleep that would affect my mind the next day and so will read, get myself and my son ready for bed and will do stories and I sleep better than I have ever done. I do take medication to help too, but lowering my mental activity on my phone and laptop in the evenings, has helped too.
How many of us struggle with that, Putting yourself first?
We feel guilty when our kids want us to play but we want to catch up on resting as you come home from work or been doing chores, and want a nice hot bath or shower.
You need that time, and today as it is Easter Sunday going to have a day indoors which is something I do often, and get ready for the week and adjusting to the time, as the clocks went forward last night and set a day or time for yourself in the day or week and develop or buy a “Do not disturb” sign on the door.
My son and my husband are going to get their hair cut and I am going to take a bath, do a bit of sorting out and continue to plan for the week, do a walk on the treadmill and read. I want to go through my finances and I have already worked on my book this morning, and continue filming a vlog, and having that time just helps me to get myself in shape to get more bits done and take my time.
Why do we rush around? Because we haven’t allowed ourself time to fully wake up, we have no plan for the day and accept that we are that kind of person that is always late, yet if you allow yourself to wake up by having that time for your first cup of tea in the Morning, planning for the day and say I can be on time and late just adds stress and panic. Do you want to keep getting stressed or have peace?
I am not saying I have never been late, because relying on public transport not easy now I stay in two different places, pre plan, by checking the timetables of the train and bus, and print off a map and if I can walk I will, and I will leave extra early.
Do what it takes for your life to be easier, as stress can have health implications, and so it is important to help your wellbeing aswell as others, and so now it is Easter and your not having to do the school run have your kids help with chores and their care, depending on the age, and have that time to do what ever helps you to have a stress free day.
Sorting stuff out. This may sound counterproductive but no. It can be a lower level task, with some music or audiobook sitting down and clear out a bag or a draw, just pottering around, which is one of my favourite things. I am going to sort out the closet in the guest bedroom. Doing a sort out can really make a huge difference to our feelings and emotions, because we can easily procrastinate and put it off, but just builds and builds. I feel weighed down by stuff and have changed my hoarding habit as if you think it is unnecessary spending, check this video out where I talk about this https://youtu.be/UfiHwsm71F8, to wanting minimal, and do my bit to reduce waste.
I also like to go to a coffee shop to do some writing, on some days when my son is at school or go and get bits of shopping. I like creating ideas for dinner as this is my favourite meal of the day and like time when it is me cooking dinner, spend time listening to music and sing, or an audiobook. My step dad does this when he is cooking, and I am lucky because when I am in Wimbledon, where I live, I rarely have to do the cooking. I will help with washing up instead and tiding my bedroom there too and this week when I am there, going to be sorting this out more too, and yes I will film it. Check out Vlog channel: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
So just take that time and enjoy the Easter Holidays and if you’d like to be notified when I post a blog on here, then click subscribe and you will, and please check out my Pinterest where I post my content along with my Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.
I set up my week by using my diary, One Note and my Journal, and like to plan my writing and editing of my books using my Filofax, get a vlog edited (my vlogging channel is: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
I plan the video for my other Youtube channel, which is all about How I like to manage my money, to help give tips in the relationships I have had financially and giving tips on spending and saving. Check out here: https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602
Setting up for the week, making sure I check what appointments I have. This morning I went through the fridge to go through the food for the week and when the food in the fridge have got to be used by, so nothing goes to waste and exercise and making sure I take breaks and spend time with my son when he comes home and managing and working on many different projects, helps to be in the right mindset, avoiding procrastination and missing anything that has to be done, which is top priority.
Please check out my new Cheat sheet for the week which is about Planning your week:
I plan what clothes I am going to wear and make sure I do some self care, like my skincare, shower or bath and winding down for the evening with a good book.
There is more posts to come and at the weekend started to plan more for my Life Coaching programme I do every year and started two years ago and did get real good feedback and help you have a better life and a better year, and grow each year.
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Hello, yes it is a Monday again, I can’t believe that it was last week we had travelled from to and from Bognor Regis and met up with friends. It was so good to get away and not think about to do lists, and just be.
This Cheat Sheet is all about what to do when you feel overwhelmed. These Cheat Sheets are completely free and please share.
I will be sharing this on my other site The Parenting Adventures Tips and Tricks too, because as parents we can get overwhelmed and just need that time out to recharge our batteries and lift our mood and our feelings so we can just have time to ourself and not everything has to be landed on your shoulders but shared.
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My life has not been pain sailing, like us all, there has been ups and downs and when my mum or dad told me off I would be like, it was the end of the world and that I am right and they’re wrong, and so unfair, and would envy my brother, because he is super confident, and girls running after him, whilst I sat on a bench at school by myself.
I have had to really work on my self. I could get jealous, bitter and self centered, like “How have they earned that?”, “Oh they are showing off and trying to be super popular”, or like when I was a primary school, a girl named Sherie, was so popular and all the boys fancied her, and everyone wanted her company and be friends with her. I felt ugly and envious, that I will never be her, like I wished to be.
My mental health took a turned for the worst, and battled with my feelings for a long time. There were times when I didn’t get out of bed, and would stay in, and now I have been discharged from the Mental Health hospital, so proud of myself that I got through my fight with my mental health and not allowing my inner critic to hold me back and stop feeling that I haven’t had a exciting life compared to others, and that the world is against me.
Here are some questions to ask,
Who do you want to be?
Do you feel unworthy and that you’ll never be as good as someone in your life?
Do you feel that noone understands you?
Writing a journal, can really help address your feelings and what is it that is really bothering you?
For me it was, well if I look like that, like Sherie, then I will be as popular and the kids would want to hang with me, but that wasn’t the case and started to form friends as I gradually went through school, but it took a long time, and would have fights and arguments and was bullied. In the end I was well respected at Primary school. It took the last year to experience that, but that I had come so far, and then wanted to start a fresh beginning, at secondary school.
The feelings didn’t disappear, and got stronger. I now look back it was once again that I wasn’t fitting in, and was told by a girl that I was boring, because I was a fan of a TV show The Bill, and would talk about it a lot, and took it, and glad for her honesty and yes it hurt my feelings, but then she wasn’t perfect and would get on people’s nerves, yet we did have fun together, so I let it go.
With those group of friends, they would be into wrestling and one of my friends did canoeing, and shared our love of music. They were the ones who got me into following a rugby team and when I felt like I couldn’t buy chips in McDonalds they got them for me, and introduced me to rock music and went to concerts together, and made friends at my dancing school, and my confidence began to increase.
I have been unkind, and blocked people, because I was feeling excluded and it really was affecting me, because felt it was a personal attack. Now though I glad that they have done well in their life and now in jobs that are high powered, and looking after themselves.
Our negative feelings can rub off on others. I have been with people who would constantly be complaining. I am lucky for having the people around me that keep the roof over my head and support me in looking after my son, and at the weekend I met up with friends who I met when I was working at a holiday camp, and felt so privileged to be in their company as we had a good catch up, and that we all, trying to build our lives and be happy. I can be awkward and shy still but when you meet people, and makes you feel that you’ve never been apart, the fear instantly goes, your inner critic gets pushed away making you feel that you are worthy and people love you, and stop putting your guard up, and not allow your fears get the better of you, but make you grow and be the person you wished to be, and telling people that you love them, can help you and them. There are a lot of people I love, because they have been a huge importance to my life, and been a great influence. I am kind, I will be on time, and I will make the effort.
When you have been through trauma, it can make you angry, and “Why me?”, “What have I done to deserve it?” and often its nothing, its life, it can be unpredictable. Noone knows what is around the corner for us, and so, talking about growing our happiness, ask yourself, do you want to be unhappy all through your life? I have had to rebuild, and make sense of situations, but often there isn’t an answer. I no longer want my inner critic stop me from going swimming and going for walks, from spending time with my son, and go for opportunities, that can open many doors for me. I no longer want to be counting calories, and worrying about my weight. If biscuits are going to make me feel guilty, then I am not going to eat them, if someone doesn’t say thank you when you open the door for them, because what’s the point, they don’t care and not allow me to have a bad day, but continue to be kind and not allow their ignorance to rub off.
So lets all work together in building and growing our lives, its never too late to be happy and grow your feelings, to feel better about yourself. I do write a blog where I talk about building confidence. Check it out via this link: https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/
This is a lyric from an Adele song, “I Drink Wine” and from watching a video about That Girl, I for a long time would copy friends because I felt well they’re doing that and feel to meet my own high expectation of myself, had to be like that too.
Be yourself. Wear clothes that represent you. Cook meals that you like and find your own style. I love clothes and I enjoy putting outfits together, check out my blog carries versatile fashion and getting the most out of them, and yes I do save pins on Pinterest on Fashion, https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/ because I like different looks but that I know I am wearing that outfit because it actually suits me, and not feel I have to wear an outfit to impress someone else.
That’s not me.
I like to put my own stamp on looks that I like and styles that suit me and having fun with clothes and not taking it too seriously and feel free as a bird now when it comes to my self image. I write a blog called Building Self Confidence the Ugly Duckling, and talk about how I struggled with not be happy of the way I looked. I remember saying once, when one of my friends commented on my earrings, “Well because you were wearing earrings” and as soon as I said these words, was like “No don’t say that” and couldn’t come back from it and saw them look at each other, like oh really, and the reason why they were friends was because we all had our own style.
They were more confident than me and seemed to be in jobs that were better than mine and had a lot going for them, whilst I felt inadequate, and they were better than me, and knew more people than me. Which now that is not the case.
I have a lot of friends and going to see some this weekend, and no longer feel that I don’t fit or that I have to be like them, but because I love seeing and hanging out with them, because they are different and feel I got to look a certain way for someone else’s approval.
That is not the case. I have had to learn that noone is out to get me and that feel not good enough because my friends are doing better than me in life and in fact using their success to help me to grow and build my life into one that I like, and accept myself at last.
I like admiring other people and I do have a style icon, Jennifer Aniston, and am influenced, but still remembering her clothes suit her because that is her style and that her body shape and appearance is hers and not mine but can use it to try different looks that potentially suit me and I never going to be Jennifer Aniston. She is her own person, and I am mine, so no longer feel pressure that I have to look a certain way.
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