Hello! So I hope you are enjoyed my previous video that is on my Educational Youtube channel, and please subscribe as it helps grow my content and this weeks video is all about How I Realistically Manage my time.
In the mornings I set my alarm for 5:30am but at the moment been getting up at 5am, but this morning I went back to bed, not to sleep but to give myself time to drink my cup of tea and a friend of mine always likes to read in the mornings.
When I used to go running and didn’t feel like it, I would put on a motivation video on or a song on. Now though I use it to edit a book I am trying to finish and do some of my Life Coaching course I am doing, and watch a bit of Youtube, before others are awake.
I give myself free choice time and mark it in my calendar and do whatever I choose, so be realistic and manage your days without putting on too much pressure on yourself.
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If you feel like your life isn’t going anywhere and feeling unaccomplished, then I am sure you may have heard others say to you, “Staying in four walls isn’t going to help”. This was my advise, but now I have changed my mind, because it is feels good when you don’t have to go anywhere sometimes and sort out the home instead. I like fresh air, going for walks and visiting different places and planning walks that I can do when my son, when he is off for the summer holidays, and just have that time together with no plan but just venturing out and taking in my surroundings. This can be such good fun. Having someone who you can share moments with like walking or going on holiday, making it a regular thing, can really boost your mind and energy.
As a child we used to go camping down a friends land they had and sit around the bonfire, and playing games, visiting a lovely country pub that had a jukebox and billiard table, or go to the races. I loved it.
Now though I do like to spend some days in, to catch up on doing some sorting out and pottering around.
It depends on the circumstances, of course if you have an illness then getting out can be hard, so spend sometime visiting someone who is stuck at home because of an illness then however much it may upset you, seeing you can really mean a lot, even if it is for half an hour or so. I remember when my nan could not go out, and was bed ridden, and spending time with her, meant the world to me, but I also miss those times we spent time walking outdoors. We would spend time at a local market, going to the betting shop and would take a trip to Heathrow to see the planes take off and land but then going back to her flat, we would play card games or a board game, and enjoy some TV quiz shows and soaps.
I loved my nan to bits and she looked after me as a kid, so I saw it as its my turn to help her. My grandparents were a massive part of my life. If you feel stuck not seeing anybody, then there are organisations where you can befriend someone, and I have spoken about this before but can really be rewarding and helps you get out of the house, when you don’t want to be indoors.
It is balance and doing what is going to make you want to get up and have a day where you not have in a rush and just having a nice cup at home, doing some laundry and cleaning can then stir us to then go outside. If I want a No Spend day, check out my youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@financiallivingI find stopping in some days helps with that, and yes can online shop but make sure I have tasks each day to do at home so I don’t get bored and buy something online. I like to use the treadmill to help make sure I get exercise each day, and do indoor workouts with my dumbells and exercise mat.
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This can be having an Afternoon Nap, as listed and the other thing not on the list, is having a spa night or a pampering night, anything that makes you feel relaxed and calm each day, rather than rushing and not having time to brush your hair or take a shower.
I like to have time in the morning of having a cup of tea and work on my book I am trying to complete, and have time to grab a coffee.
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Life can take many routes and before you know you see doom and gloom. There is no point getting up because soon enough it will be time to get back in bed, and the days are just fading away. This can lead us feeling that we are no good to the world, that we have nowhere to go and slip further down and that there is no use in living, as this is all you have to look forward to.
Planning your life: Create a plan for yourself, like if you have wanted to write a book, like I did then create a writing plan and do a bit a day or if your house is cluttered, create a plan to declutter one area a day and time yourself.
Feeling unaccomplished: Write down all the things you would like to accomplish, and start with home, then work and then play. By doing this you will see, that these are actually goals you’ve as often we think goals are running 5k in the morning, which is fine, but breaking it down makes it easier to accomplish and not piling to much pressure on yourself. As yourself, what you want your life to look like? Check out the printable I created for you: My Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2024” helping you have a better year and a better life is coming at the start of May 2024
Find your word: My word last year was Build because that is what I wanted last year, and build my content, build the relationship with my son and others, and build my knowledge and so did some courses to help with that, as I have had mental health issues and wanted to help others who may have had mental health problems and reach out. This year is it grow, which some may say is the same thing as build, for me building I think about bricks and grow I think about a seed. For me I needed to build my life up to make room for growth, and has helped me create projects like this one and I wrote a daily blog which I shared on my daily blog: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/2024/04/learningbuilding-your-knowledge-and.html
Making choices: Do you want to feel low about yourself all your life? When I read a book by Paul McKenna it asked this question and made me think, no I don’t. I need to get out of the bed, and get dressed, not wasting my life lying hear feeling sorry for myself. So address, using my work book, of what areas of your life you are not happy with and make the choice, to be happy or not to be happy.
Reduce your consumption of negativity: I try to avoid watching things on TV that are overly violent, or has a lot of blood in, as it can affect me. As a kid I avoided horror films because it would effect my sleep and so now I will listen to true stories, but it depends on what it is and selective on what I consume online. Now I do that, I feel better and the same with certain music.
I love my life now. It has taken a lot for me to feel this way and we all deserve to feel like this. I hope you find these tips help you and remember to check out my Pinterest and social media platforms as I have content on there too, for this years Summer Project Programme.
Happy Monday to you, I hope it is going well for you so far, and I have created my cheat sheets and it is all about Beginning of the week.
Remember on the 1st May 2024, so this Wednesday is the beginning my Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2024. Check out this video: https://youtu.be/-E2LmAU0xBg
Last year it really made me look at where my money was going, and did a yearly budget which I have started to do this year, and it helped me manage my money effectively, and that bought me results. I spent time avoiding things like my bank account knowing that it could go down to zero and asked do I want this to be the rest of my life? Do I want die being in debt? If I want to go on a holiday, buy new clothes or notebooks and put money beside for my son, I needed to change my habits and so doing No Spend was so rewarding. I now check my bank account everyday and do a spending plan each week and month and just by making these changes in your life, like prioritizing on what is truly important to you, can grow your money for it to go further.
This year I decided to do No Spend because I want this year to be the end of debt and now setting in place a strategy by giving myself a monthly allowance to buy whatever I want and the same online, and this helps stop and save on many things and limited how much I wish to spend on the things I want and measure the need for an item, when using my allowances.
I have decided to pay off my credit card debt by August this year and this will be free up space to save and build my income. Rather than spending money on courses, I having been doing some that are free and complete the ones I have paid for and make my spending useful, by donating money or food each month to a foodbank, whenever I go to the newsagents use the change to donate to their charity box, and now I pay my son a pound for when he reads his book, so he can build his pocket money, and have him pay for the things he wants.
My son needs to learn about money and buying things for himself, and it has been very effective, as he is at the age to understand and I learned this from when I was a child. I the other day went through my stuff in my plastic draw unit in Wimbledon, as I travel and spend time in Epsom and Wimbledon each week, and found more notebooks still not used, and has stopped me from buying any more, and use what I have already got.
I am realising that I can save by shopping in my own wardrobe and room, and see that I have enough of what I need and its not about quantity but quality, and if its going to be beneficial to me in the long run.
To track my money I use a spreadsheet for myself on Excel and using it to see where my money is going towards and if I need to change my budget in some areas and cut down, like food shopping and perhaps being a bit too tight about it.
It has helped me to see what I enjoy, like meeting my mum for lunch, or going to a coffee shop and write and not stuck in doors, or going for a walk which is free exercise and buy a coffee whilst I enjoy a walk and can shop now without buying.
So, I challenge you to do No Spend January when it comes around again, and begin like I did at first have No Spend days and set a budget for each area of your life to invest in the things you love.
I hope it helps you, and my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2024 is on its way and so will be posting the workbook printable which is free, like these Cheat Sheets and there will blogs and videos on my new Educational Youtube channel, which I will also post on here so lets get ready for the week ahead.
I am a typical Libra as I can be super decisive and weigh things up, a lot.
I often will let someone else decide and it drives me insane, and often the person.
I have learned to trust myself which is helping me believe in my own mind, and journaling and learning from others. Following good habits like seeing I can be organized, tidy and letting things go, and trying to change my hoarding and be ruthless and prioritizing.
Yes still a long way to go, when it comes to not hoarding, yet I have reined myself in and realising that I can save and not buy anything else, until I go through clothes that I still not worn or toiletries and beauty and stationary. I write a blog called Carries Versatile Fashion, and have Youtube channel where I talk about managing my money, and using what I have got, before buying anything else (https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602) . I enjoy building my wardrobe, having plenty of shower gels and make up, but if they are taking up too much space then, I know I need to use or let go. I know in my mind I can do that.
I believe that I can write a book and publish it. I can look after my body and mind, by exercising, but doing less to achieve more. Being kind to myself, by not criticizing myself all the time. Not giving myself a hard time If I make a mistake or when there are daily challenges, like yesterday I got caught out in the rain, still enjoyed the walk I like to do and achieved my tasks for the day.
It can be an event that can influence your thoughts, like when Princess Diana died it made me get off my arse and do something useful and made me see that you can’t waste life. Life changes come with changes to your own thoughts with yourself and others. I know if I just sit in front of my laptop for too long, loose concentration and get restless, and taking a break can influence your mind, and noticing your thoughts to rest and do something else. The mind likes variety not doing the same thing all of the time, and mixing it up so you feel good each day and now I write in my journal on my phone everyday on my thoughts and feelings and in my notebook journal, where I write about what has made me happy each day.
This helps believe my own mind and trust my instincts. I was working on my Life Coaching course and some of what the course covers is self doubt, and how you need self doubt to overcome it, like when I write a blog I often think “Should I post it or not?” but this stirs me on to get it done and part of building a blog is to write it and learn from each post, what type of audience do I want to get in touch with on my blog and how they respond to it, making sure it isn’t offensive, but real life.
I believe in my mind in a way that I reduce worrying. At one point I would live by my worrying and it can be so draining. I know for my mind to function well to eliminate feelings of worry, by taking action. Like I feel anxious about getting my son ready for school, so I will get up early now, to do a bit of work on the computer as at the moment he will sleep on passed 5am now, but after 6am and do his breakfast or his dad will, and not rushing around, but give myself enough time to look after myself in the morning to help get my son ready for school, and plan each day, so things get done and not playing catch up that can cause me to worry.
In the evenings I will make sure that I not on my laptop too late and listen to my mind when it gets tired and being on my laptop in the evenings would make my mind active again and would struggle in getting to sleep that would affect my mind the next day and so will read, get myself and my son ready for bed and will do stories and I sleep better than I have ever done. I do take medication to help too, but lowering my mental activity on my phone and laptop in the evenings, has helped too.
The idea of this blog, was this morning when I woke up around 4am and for the first time since I begun getting up between 4:30am to 5am, wondering about going back to bed, but I find when I sleep on I feel more tired.
I am like this new habit, of waking up early, check out my blog I’ve become an early bird But that little voice was like “Are you sure?” and responded in my head “Yes”.
Well I have had psychosis and so hearing voices isn’t new, but no its that critic that comes from the brain, that everyone has, and tests you and annoys you. There are people who can block this out, because we look at our beds, as if we may not return, but it has really changed my habits, and making progress of building a life I love and enjoy each day, no matter what the day brings.
As a kid I was a terrible sleeper, but due to my body clock, I would still wake up early and my idea of lying in, didn’t happen. I got to the point where I would worry about not getting a good nights sleep and it had bad affects and I understand now why many successful people go to bed at the same time every night and wake up, at the same time.
I am sleeping so well and my son now is started to sleep in. This may change, as having children, they can be unpredictable, since 2 months old (now he is 10) wakes up early, but this week he has slept on. This morning he woke up around 6:45am which is late for him.
There was a time I’d have lazy days, and staying in bed all day, not gotten dressed and I know people who still love doing that and that is okay, and part of me misses those times, so perhaps start having these days again, but at the moment like being active and getting up with a nice cup of tea getting some writing done. Not saying I wouldn’t do it again, but now and then, watching some movies with popcorn, homemade pizzas and a drink of choice. Or have a sort out wearing slacks. Catching up on cleaning tasks and still have a shower but put on some nice PJ’s and still feel like you have still kind of, made an effort.
A lady called Mel Robbins, is to do nothing and just rest. Jordan Page, talks about taking naps and there was a time when working at a Holiday Camp where I would nap in the day but when I did I would feel groggy and be confused with the time of the day, so I don’t nap. My brother can easily sit on the sofa and snooze like my husband, and in the mornings it would take me ages to wake and be lazy watching TV on the sofa and found it hard to kick start my day.
So being lazy can help with recharging batteries and it is good to just take a break from whatever you feel you need a break from and get back on the road and carry on once refreshened. Listen to the body. Our body are machines and it is important that we look after it. We are not here to be on the go all of the time, but take on experiences, where you can take a breath and feel the air coming into the body and out. We need to watch that TV series or read a book, or meditate. So I will still be lazy when I feel I need to do nothing and switch off as I do find that hard to do, and just live, be happy and take it step by step.