Category Archives: Personal Development

If you could put happiness into a Jar

Featured

Posted by in Cheat sheet, Creating a vision, Dreams and ambitions, EBooks, empowerment, Everyday living, Goal setting, Personal Development, Printables, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

Hello and thank you for all the likes to my blogs and just to let you know I have three Youtube channels and so check my main one via this link:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg

The other two is My Style Way of Living and Carries Educational Youtube channel.

So if you could put happiness in to a jar what would you put into it?

I have created a sample and have created a downloadable print out with a section where you can fill it in.

This can be anything see the picture below:

I have a PDF version which has more pages.

It can be anything within reason, of course don’t be offensive, but what would make up your happinesss potion if this existed?

What would it smell like. For me it would be Vanilla and Cinnomon, and Lavender.

If you could choose a song to put in the jar, what would be?

Mine would be “My turn” by Diana Ross. Whenever I hear it reminds me of my life and the line I’ll let it rain, because the rain is not gonna hurt me, has been my moto.

What if it is a job or career you have dreamed of, what would this be?

I listed mine above in the picture of the jar, and it is writing for a magazine, as I watch Sheer Lux on Youtube, and would love to be part of that world.

With the list I have made, you can add items in as much as would fit in the jar, and have different jars, for what would make you happy.

The PDF you can print of and put into your happines folder or use it to make your own documents and use mine as a guide for you.

making-happy-happen-printable-for-happy-journalDownload

Please check out my books on Amazon.com, under the following name, Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes:

Amazon.co.uk

So more to come soon.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrrie X

Not focusing on the New year but in changing my life forever

Featured

Posted by in career building, Creating a vision, Dreams and ambitions, Goal setting, New Beginnings, new year, Personal Development, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

So I am not saying to disrespect the new year and I know “We are still in October, please talk about the new year when in December”, but this for me is when I start to set my goals for the end of this year, to end the year in a bang and start the new year off with a bang, but they will things that will change my life forever not just because its the end of an old year to a new one.

Clipart Panda - Free Clipart Images

Each year I get emotional over the end of it, because it is another one gone and I feel pressure sometimes, that I have to step it up even more.

I still don’t have all my goals achieved due to the circumstances, yet I am gonna keep them to achieve for next year and I go through them, to see if any of them have changed and if I have to alter any.

Each year I make a lot of life changes, but no resolutions, as they to me aren’t a one time thing, but items I can achieve through out the year and again, and are life changing.

So, I am gonna sit with a notepad today and start planning up to the end, my goals for the end of this year, and to then carry them over and add more, for the following year.

I will create some printables to set you on the treck to ending the year and to start a new one, so you can restart your life, but lowering the pressure.

This means creating a new vision board and planning my programmes for next year, as in the Spring I am going to do like this year, “2022 Spring and Summer Programme” and will be like this year, building a better year and life for ourselves.

I will be going through items that hold me back and address them and creating new challenges for myself.

Please check my Youtube channels below for more content:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCW6X7xXVFoaToqlDpGLTtSg

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVjvO2fsowvFne_iMuG7d1g

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Restart your life Anytime not just for the New year

Featured

Posted by in career building, Creating a vision, Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, Goal setting, how to deal with those that drag you down, New Beginnings, new year, People, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

So first of all. Thank you so much in liking my blogs on this site and so happy that you liked my 30 day challenge I did on this site, it really means everything to me.

In this blog post I am talking about Restart your life anytime not just for the New Year.

Photo by Lucas Pezeta on Pexels.com

When it comes to restarting your life it means putting a lot to rest. If you aren’t feeling happy with certain people in your life, either discuss this with them and moving on to more like minded people who you do feel you have a connection with.

Have a life cleansing routine or ritual, for me this is when I spend time having a shower, using a body scrub, wash my hair and do some exercise and writing.

Getting projects that are overdue done and set a day of when you want to complete them, and then follow the cleansing routine or ritual as a reward to yourself.

Change the things you read, wear and use by rotating system, where by you sort out of say clothes and to make sure they get worn you go through what you have worn a lot and what you haven’t so to make sure you do get to wear those clothes you love, take them out to remember to do so. I like to go through my clothes of items worn or not worn for a while to wearing and have all my autumn and winter shoes out ready to wear.

Stop the self doubt and start living the life you want, like you already are. Dreams can be as big as you want them to be, and often you need patience and determination and keep seeing the vision and develop it as you get closer to your dreams.

Never allow others dictate your life for you, but have a network of support who you know will help drive you forward and when you set yourself up to be heard then do so and raise the bar of your success.

For me it is getting rid of the passed and being in the now and what is next in your life.

Just be worthy of yourself and give yourself praise and vision of how you would like to feel about you, and what gives you a neverending successful feeling and dreams are to live, breath and remember to take it all in, so you don’t miss it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Inspiring stories: How people have created magic when really it could have flopped

Featured

Posted by in Boundaries, Creating a vision, Dreams and ambitions, empowerment, Everyday living, Goal setting, Inspiring stories, People, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Weekly inspiring stories, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

Hello and welcome! This is a post I want to create to talk about How People have created magic when really it could have flopped.

Michael K. Williams Quote: “The most successful people reach the top not because they are free of limitations, but because they act in spite of thei...”

So, I normally I will talk about singers, actors, royality, presenters of TV shows and have built up their lives as a life coach. One being Tony Robbins for example. Who else has changed how we go about ourlives?

Philip Schofield who went from being in the broom cupboard on children’s TV to musicals. Joseph and the technicolour dreamcoat and was the first presenter of kids TV that crossed that line and he turned people’s heads. “How can he be in a musical when he would introduce children’s TV and talk to puppets like Gordon the Gopher and Ed the duck?”

Well by being wellknown and becoming a household name. It seemed at the time, that he was surprised he was wanted by Andrew Llloyd Webber, and it was a risk, yet it worked and did change how we saw people on TV. This is not having two many eggs in one basket.

The film philadelphia bought home how Aids was was percieved when it first came about. How prejudice people would get about someone with HIV, yet it won oscars and was Tom Hanks and the writers that bought it into the light, and made it to one of the most famous films of the world.

There was then the Spice girls who were so different to each other and they broke records with their songs and I remember when living in a housing estate seeing girls copying their dance moves. Their pictures would be advised on bus stops and buses, and made a film and got to meet Prince Charles and Nelson Mandela.

Linford Christie and Usain Bolt. Linford was bought up where I was, Hammersmith and was the most successful athlete of all time for Great Britain and England, and Usain Bolt a local Jamican who slept in a hut for most of his life and family was poor.

This teaches me that, just because on paper it says you will end up cleaning streets, doesn’t mean that you will. If there are miles of stones to cross that strength and determination can create magic wherever you go.

It is about being different and standing out and people who create magic do it because they create things like songs that last a lifetime and films. Its created a life that is possible and that you lived like a person already successful.

Magic can be created by anyone and so challenge yourself to create magic as if you’re already doing so.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Feeling like you have no power in your life/Gaining back control of uneventful things

Featured

Posted by in empowerment, Everyday living, People, Personal Development, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

What do I mean by power, no sense of control over your life, but you try to grab it by the horns and say “No I want control back” but it is not there. You miss the bus, but other days you make it. That is something that could effect your day and now you’re late and feel that panic or at the moment the petrol stations have been chockerblock due to people needing petrol and there not being enough due to the Lorrys that are supposed to delivering it and everyone it queuing in their cars to get petrol.

Stuck in traffic Stock Photos & Royalty-Free Images | Depositphotos

Then I worry about the buses what if they run out, how would we get anywhere, yet is there a way to gain control? Yes, travelling by a different route, like instead of a bus get the train instead. Then there are taxis and not turning up and you have business meeting. What can you do to gain control? again use the train or see if a coworker had a car who has petrol to see if they can pick up en route.

Basically if you want to get somewhere urgently we has humans will always find a way. That is with everything. Of course with COVID alot of things have got effected making work difficult and has gained control of what we do and where we go.

Can you get it back? Yes by using social media and going digitial on some things, like to do lists and managing the calendar and using the post to send cards out and contacting people. As said you will always as a human being find a way.

I keep that in mind with the things that go on in my life where I feel things are beyond control, like being stuck on a bus like the week just gone and was late to meet my son after he finished school, and that meant texting Henry, my son’s dad to make sure someone he is there for when Henry is bought back from school.

So never fear the power is with in you so remember if you lose a bit of control of your life, you will find a way to gain control again.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Pressures/how we can control it/the OPPP Pressure

Featured

Posted by in Dreams and ambitions, Friendships and relationships, Love, New Beginnings, People, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

I am guilty of pressure and the way it has formed my life and taken over at times. We have the pressure to keep things/objects, check out my blog post: https://neworganizedself.blogspot.com/2021/09/things-you-loved-once-upon-timechanged.html

We have pressure from people around us at times, places and the paths we have gone through (OPPP Pressures) Objects, people, places and paths.

Eight out of 10 of women have felt unable to cope in the past year – here's why we're so stressed | Women | The Guardian

The talk in the blog linked above about letting go of things that no we are no longer in love with, or it can be because you played football at pro level and now you don’t due to injury and you never knew it would end in that way and now have accept that, the life we knew it is no more.

Letting things change for the better. This can cause many fears and hold us back.

We have pressure to restart things like wanting to read a book each month but now its 3 months later and still reading the same book. I have been there and failed, so now I will read my books as I do read to a novel or a true story and self help books. I give myself two pages a day and so far this method is working.

Pressures lay down questions that we don’t always want to answer but we know they are there. Example: Dealing with personal pressures, “If I don’t like a job I am in should I just give it up and move on?” I have worked for many companies and had been in this position and I have walked out on some jobs, due to the pressure.

Be strong and guided, allow the pressure to be releast and out of your body. Meditation is brilliant for this and prayer, if you are religious of course but pull yourself back and go through what is really causing the pressure, and go through The OPPP method to take control and be out of the pressure you feel.

Take care of yourself and #bekind to yourself and we deserve to be happy and be let of stress caused by too much pressure.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

How to deal with loneliness and have more belonging

Featured

Posted by in Everyday living, friendship, Friendships and relationships, Love, People, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

Hello and welcome! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for following me on this blog post and of my other blogs I write, https://carresversitilefashion.wordpress.com and https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

So can you believe that loneliness can be different to people? it can and I have learned that it is as a kid I felt I didn’t belong and was scared of rejection, but its because I am a naturally social person depending on where I am and who with. As a kid I could not see it and felt very lonely and was told by many that I live in a world of my own.

People Hugging Stock Video Footage | Royalty Free People Hugging Videos | Pond5

I was not sure of these words but in funny way I did see it as a compliment as it made me see early “I was my own person” and now glad I was different.

Being different to others is okay, its how to present yourself and many people who feel loneliness its because they don’t have the right people around them to feel fulfilled and we are naturally all social creatures, yet I have suffered with social anxiety. That can be lonely right there, and you feel that only you can see it yet they can’t and think I am unsocialable.

When I write this it makes me ask, does this sound strange? Perhaps but it is true, I do feed off from other people and if someone wants to talk to me, I do and not judge them. I loved it as a kid we would go on holiday with other families the area I spent my life as a child and loved them, and would go camping with them too. I loved this community of people and wish they were still in my life.

We can be lonely when we feel unwanted in a family and often its the excuse, “Well they are family” yet should we feel left out? I settle and get to feel comfort by giving people space, but let them see I am here if they want to talk to me. If I don’t like someone I do stay back and don’t engage, or if I feel wary of them and often let them approach me if they want to, or not.

It is all about setting, and if you feel self conscious around some people that can then make you want to go elsewhere or they pretend that they haven’t been out all day without you and then tell you as you believe that they just met, yet was a cock and ball story, knowing that you both know the truth. I am someone who basically sees it as, “If you want me as a friend that’s fine but don’t pretend that you do”. Every human can feel lonely event those that have lots of cash and no where to go.

With lonely comes honesty and often people want you to feel lonely because they think its gonna make you want them around, yet you don’t want them and it can be tough to let people go, but sometimes you just have to, to get beyond he loneliness.

Being lonely isn’t an attack on someone it is a feeling and about wanting to be part of a world you feel you aren’t. Give time to those who really care not those that don’t. Listen to good music, videos and podcasts or even an audiobook, that makes you feel loved and that there is magic in those that can give you a lift and since sociallising on the net I have neverr looked back and thanks to modern technology I have now kept in touch with all the friends I have and it is a lot.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Inspiring stories: Family artists and bands of our history of music

Featured

Posted by in Dreams and ambitions, Inspiring stories, People, Weekly inspiring stories, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

This blog is all dedicated to my love of Music and as I write it I just tweeted a song of Andy Gibb, called “I just want to be your everything” and Beegees “Secret Love”.

Bee Gees - Wikipedia
image from wikipedia

I loved family bands from a kid and yet their songs are still so current and people remember the names of those in the band and every song they wrote and I always would image me being part of them. I don’t think me and brother would have formed as a band as we are totally different and we argued no lie everyday and had fights a lot as kids, and so glad we never, but doesn’t mean I never dreamed of this being possible and yet often there would be rivalry in family bands, learning about them now I am older and can understand why that was.

This is blog though is not to talk about that side of things because I want this blog to celebrate family bands and about the songs they made and the success they still have today.

So the first one for me was Five Star, and then in the 1987 was when I first discovered the Bee Gees “You win again” and lucky I had a dad who then introduced me to Saturday night fever as this was played a lot in my home and I loved the dance moves and I still listen to Five Star my favourite one being “System Addict” and “Rain or Shine” and had their single records and cassette tapes.

Then there was the Nolans who were a group of sisters who were massive back in the 70′ and 80s and still going but due to Cancer, Bernie lost her life and two others, Linda and Anne are fighting it too, but still household names and were like a normal set of siblings who made it big time in music and still have performed in recent years at the London Palladium. Then of course the Osmonds and including their sister, Marie became stars along with the Jackson 5 and I again I have been to discos whrere their music was playing and everyone was always up dancing to their everlasting music.

I first heard of the Nolans when I would go to a holiday camp in clacton as a small child and I would listen to “I’m the mood for dancing” all day sometimes as my dad loved this song too and I even have the 90’s remix version of the song in cassette and so when my dad would be out I would sneck in the living room to play some of his music too, including this song.

Now it is the 2000’s there aren’t any that I know of, of current family bands and wonder if there will be again a family band in music or has this trend gone now?

Only the world can decide that and I miss a family band and I know there have been family trying to make it big on shows like The Voice, X-Factor and Britains Got Talent, but yet not really made it.

So lets hope that soon there will be a new set of family groups, but still keeping in our minds those that are still alive and well and their music has lived on for longevity and rarely “One hit wonders”. Hence why I love them still today.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

How do you make people listen when they don’t want to hear?

Featured

Posted by in Boundaries, Everyday living, friendship, Friendships and relationships, how to deal with those that drag you down, People, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Weekly posts, Work

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

Hello and welcome! I am going to make sure I blog once or twice a week on this site, but with the school run, not be possible and so if you have been waiting for a new blog on this site, I apologise.

So topic of blog. How do you make people listen when they don’t want to hear?

How many of us have had this experience?

I know it can be a never ending battle, but if they aren’t willing to see things on your point of view, often they never will, so the ball is still in your court on that.

How important is it to have these people still in your life? You need to ask, as can you move away from them?

That is not always possible, but actions can speak wonders.

What do they bring you when you see them? There are people who can be super jealous which leads them to resent everything you say and just want to argue and what they seeing is that. You being happy reflects on them, when no they just using you as an excuse so if they don’t want to hear you, then don’t give them the time. Say to them “If you aren’t willing to listen then we can’t carry on as me being here is not making you happy and you want me to be, so lets talk or move on” this way you are still giving them choice without taking full control over them, but gives them something to think about.

I hate it when it feels like a tug of war, as then I end up not wanting to speak to them and there story has to be worse than yours and it becomes a battle of “Who’s story is the most important” and it should be equal. They listen to you and you listen to them.

Are we made on this planet to get on with everyone? In an ideal world perhaps but not realistically impossible, but you can still be polite rather than hostile and just keeping distant if you can’t move away from them completely.

So what are your thoughts? You can leave a comment below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Summer Project 2021/Last day/Wiping the slate clean

Featured

Posted by in career building, Everyday living, friendship, Friendships and relationships, People, Personal Development, Summer project 2021, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , ,

So to wipe the slate clean you have had to have a dilemma at some point, and argument with someone for example and because you can’t agree doesn’t have to be full blown argument, yet you want to say “Okay we can’t agree so I can’t meet you in the middle, but lets just say how we feel and l;eave it at that”, but often it can become more.

Often it can be about our passed and how you felt for each other, constant negativity, yet wiping the slate clean is to forget and forgive.

WE CAN’T PLEASE EVERYONE OR BE FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE, BUT STILL BE RESPECTFUL, AND WHAT YOU DISH OUT IS WHAT YOU’LL RECEIVE BACK!

You go through who was it that started the argument? You go home and feel like slamming every door in the house, yet not resolved and you go through and througjh some more, and turning very angry that it arupts into spitefulness and pointing at every issue you have about them and they do the same, but after time can be fixed.

Often we just need a breather and time to reflect on how we feel about someone.

So if you are going through a break up do you wish to argue with this person everyday and be resentful all your life?

No! As if you never agree and it turns into attacking them and you, aren’t we all worth the time and effort to see if it can be over and return to being polite and civil? Yes it can.

Often we need to withdraw ourselves and be the first to make immense with that person rather than holding a constant grudge.

Does it depend on what they did?

Yes! It is all about giving chances and sitting down having a chat with them, and you can come to the poiint that you are laughing, but if staff towards you again to begin the argument again, it is then, you’ve given them a chance, now it is time to walk away.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X