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Things To Get Rid of And Keep

14 Wednesday Oct 2026

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So the things I have realised I consume the most is clothes. I love fashion but recently I have started to get picky and I love a notebook so I have had to decide what is truly my thing. I want to collect Classic books, make space for a TV with DVD player. In the new year, 2027 I want a new bed with storage and today went through my clothes and sorting through to take to be recycled.

Things I’ve kept and use checkout my Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/CarriesBeauty4u/

I feel we accumulate so much and we, I mean I and I am going through a change of direction whilst doing this years Autumn Reset and setting up a new Google blog and closing a few of my existing sites down because I feel they’ve come to an end. I will share soon but not yet.

So I am filming for my Youtube channel (https://www.youtube.com/@Carriechalloner) of things I am getting rid of because I find these videos motivating. A word not many like but I feel that you should use a word that works for you. My word for this year was grow but have had to build my motivation to have a bit of encouragement and I feel no shame in that.

I got rid of a cardigan because I can’t roll the sleeves up when washing or cleaning. A White Denim Jacket because I just don’t see myself wearing it and a fleece as I prefer ones with pockets and a bit of shape and so feel good in letting them go. Spray and skincare. I got rid of moisturiser and an eye liner because it would smudge a lot and the cream was sticky and was a well known brand which was pricey and tried it because I had a voucher for it in Boots, but was no good.

I only own two perfumes and that is enough. They were both gifted and like to make them last.

Kitchen wear. I keep avoiding. I love my slow cooker, but want to get rid of kitchen aid because I just don’t use it but something is holding me back. I feel some usage in it but the blender that it came with I got rid of and it has discoloured so I know I need to let it go. See if this happens. Have you an item or area you’ve been avoiding?

I think it is regret. A word I am fearful of but it the cause. I know I’ll feel good in saying goodbye but not sure on where it will go. Any tips would be welcomed. You can comment below.

So yes I like to go through my kitchen and love my tea and coffee station but need to get rid of some items like my kitchen aid. I have cooking equipment they I’ve used for 5 minute then not bothered with it afterwards and I feel I need to bite the bullet and clear my kitchen aid and my baking tools.

Saying goodbye can be tough but you got to be ruthless and the other thing is kids toys. My son loves games like Countdown, tipping point, skittles, football and rugby and his electric guitar. With kids they can go off things but then there interest in it can return. He so particular with his clothes and had to explain that they need to be given to another child as he has so many things that he has not paid any attention too, but then will suddenly be interested. He has a Keyboard, but not paid attention to and sleeps with his clock and toy Penguin he won at Chessington World of Adventures this year, but he now wants a street lamp. He has lamps that my husband bought from Temu and needed USB plugs and not used.

So tip have a box to give to the toy fairy and let them put in the box. We had a skittles set but we moved and it had gone and then he wanted to play with the set again so ordered a new one and played with it for two days and now in its back in it box once again; for kids there’s no time limit and Henry will go to one thing and another. He has footballs and rugby balls because he loves sport so going to the give these to the football Fairy at some point as they have gone flat. We do have a pump but they outside covering coming away so need to go.

I feel that things are taken shape and now going to drink my tea and work on my book I am finishing for my Autumn Reset and so getting there but have to understand that somethings have to be put on hold sometimes and make sure that they will get done.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

How to Keep going When you want to turn back

09 Friday Oct 2026

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There are times where I become resistant like walking and wanting to turn back to go home. Shutting the door to the world and hibernate for the autumn and winter gets quite strong, but once I complete a walk, I feel so good. I have to remind myself that everything I do will have an impact on my wellbeing and so as much as my mind and body resist doing what I have set out, it will help me to move me forward to completing my goals.

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Doing a Autumn Reset is a good reason to fight my resistance to turn back as it is start of a new year for me and get tasks finished. Just doing on thing I know I haven’t wasted any time. I like to set my own rota. Walt Disney would always do impossible projects and I have started to use that mindset. Anything is possible if you stop your resistance in achieving what you feel is impossible. It is all to do with mindset and not allow the negative to take over but I take note of it and a great excuse to do it.

I know for my radio show that as I think about writing my notes for my show my body will stop and be like “That’s too much” and so I will answer it and once done feel relieved and focus on reason why I make notes. It will help me with delivering a good show. I have that resistance editing my book because the “What ifs”. The human body protects itself and so any hard tasks feels like mount Everest but why breaking it down helps.

So if I just do one topic or one section I’ve done something and believe in my own capabilities. I was someone who would look for an excuse not to do something. I was fine once it was done but would feel like a car stalling and just want to avoid the challenge. Now though I got rid of excuses, I do what suits my days and time. I like to edit my book on Mondays. I like to do a tidy in the morning, afternoon I like to do a workout and I love morning walks and shopping as soon as shops are open and so just going by the time of the day that suits my lifestyle helps me not turn back and doing a weekly lay out of my days, has really had a good amount benefits and having a good whole day to get tasks done and knowing I didn’t just waste a day, makes me resist in turning back.

It can be so easy to give up. It can be so easy to avoid tasks. It can be easy to hide away from the world, but if you get stuck in a rut something needs to change and so to move forward do a task a day if it helps. I find it hard to do a big declutter for example so I do it as I go and it is great way to get things together, like I will go upstairs to take a clean set of clothing washed and bring down a finished toilet roll. I will after making my bed, get ready for the day and take some laundry downstairs into the washing machine and if you are married and have kids, delegate if it helps.

Why go it alone? Sunday’s my husband cooks the dinner, my son will help take cleans clothes upstairs and my mum will come with me to my sons rugby club and so that can help if you find it hard to do tasks alone.

Do what suits you and works around your lifestyle.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Weekly Cheat Sheet: Quick and Easy Peasy Tasks

05 Monday Oct 2026

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Cheat sheet, Everyday living, having bad days, health and wellbeing, Living, Personal Development, Planning 2026, Positive Habits, Printables, Weekly posts

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I like short tasks because like many I lead a busy life. Looking after the home, being a mum, doing voluntary work, creating books amongst other things and my son goes to sports clubs, I can feel overwhelmed so will do bits at a time and that way I don’t burn out and listen to what my mind and body wants.

So here are some quick tasks that I hope help you, that help me:

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These cheat sheets are free to download and print and check out my resource library: Resource Library there are more free Printables available.

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Have a good week ahead.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

A Month to go. AUTUMN Reset 2026

02 Friday Oct 2026

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Why Do We Leave Things Unfinished?

30 Wednesday Sep 2026

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Autumn Reset, Friendships and relationships, having bad days, health and wellbeing, journal, Living, Personal Development, Planning 2026, Printables, Yearly Reset

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Weekly Cheat sheet: How To Boost Your Mornings

28 Monday Sep 2026

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As a child I hated the mornings and this lead into adulthood, but now I love them.

Some good simple habits can make such a difference and they will help you, so check this Cheat Sheet, giving tips on How to Boost your Mornings.

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I didn’t use AI to make this Cheat Sheet and is an insight to how I have made mornings as good and they have really helped me feel good about life.

These Cheat Sheets are free to download and print and if you’d like to be included in my Autumn Reset I am doing at the moment, trying to complete tasks then please subscribe and you will be notified every time I post.

Have a great week ahead.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Where Should You Begin When It Comes to a reset

02 Wednesday Sep 2026

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The Conclusion of Summer Project

28 Friday Aug 2026

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Autumn Reset, Goal setting, life coaching blog, Living, Personal Development, Planning 2026, Summer Project, Weekly posts

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It is the end and I hope that you enjoyed it. I hope you made changes to your life you wanted to.

I have now had a wake up call. I had a ultrasound on my stomach and it appears I have a fatty Liver and so need to change my diet and so taking action and had more of what I had last year which was my goal and so far being the summer holidays I have had seen my life grow doing a challenge check out my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carriechalloner/, took Henry out by myself to St Albans City, just me and my son and completed. Done more walking and its been good.

So I hope you found my Worksheet/Printable helpful and now my Autumn Reset will be starting to get all those projects you’ve put off for the summer and complete and will be free content but will subscribers only and begins 1st September.

See you then.

Carrie X

What Makes Someone a Superstar?

21 Friday Aug 2026

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Autumn Reset, Celebrating, friendship, having bad days, health and wellbeing, life coaching blog, Living, Personal care, Personal Development, Summer Project, Weekly posts

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Watching Madonna’s Confessions concert it made me ask myself. What makes a Superstar?

I feel they have a recipe to success that is indescribable and that not just pop stars but nurses, doctors, cleaners because without these people we wouldn’t have nobody who could make us feel better, have dirty spaces everywhere and just make a difference no matter what they do.

I call my son a superstar when he does something good. It doesn’t mean you have to be wealthy but what actions you take for others and what impact that person has on you and others.

When I think of the word Superstar I think is someone’s else’s view of someone and not something you feel yourself. I feel it can be disused and that it should be saved for the right purpose. I like it when people have said to me and it makes you feel good but not something I take for granted; It is a terminology that is abused because there’s been those so-called Superstars and they’ve hurt others and turns out they’re the not the person you thought they were. Example a guy I met before my husband who left the holiday camp, where I was living as I worked there, was not a nice person and was glad to have been free from him.

When you get excited about seeing a friend then you know that person is to you a Superstar they give you a buzz and can chat about everything and anything. They’re not going to judge and you can really be your true self. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable then chat with them, no matter how hard it is and often people don’t realise how they’ve made you feel. I have not always been a good friend and so had to spend time away to see that noone is out to hurt me and it’s not a competition and that I have been selfish. I have been self centred and drove people away.

I would shy away from people. I went to a birthday party then waited for her to talk to me at a school open day and that mum didn’t and we became strangers and I knew that it should have been me who had to make the effort not them all the time. I was still that girl who would sit on a bench waiting for someone to come over. With dancing class though I was totally different, because I went with a friend and it still took a while for me to come out of my shell but then a friend from secondary school asked if I wanted to go and watch rugby.

It was so different and I really let my hair down and it changed my life in many ways. The supporters I met spoke to me as if I had been going for years and I fell in love with it. I see my friend who took me as a superstar and other friends from Secondary and felt that it shaped the rest of my life until I then went to work at a holiday camp. There were people there who I saw as superstars and who helped me survive it, as many who I had started when I did at the Holiday camp had left soon after but it suited me and with rugby meeting who I think were Superstars and my mum, step dad and family too and that you have to wake up to your own behaviour and of others and who truly have your best interests at heart and that you and them are Superstars because of the experiences you’ve had with them and how they make you feel on inside and outside.

Soon my Summer Project 2027 will be over. I will be doing my Autumn Reset. This will be begin in September 1st September and will be completing another book, sorting my sons and mine bedroom and cleaning part of my home such as my Food Cupboard and finally clearing my baking cupboard. I have been doing a Squat Challenge in August, doing 100 squats a day raising money for Cancer Research check out fundraising page and my Vlog Channel:https://fundraise.cancerresearchuk.org/page/carries-giving-page-23102806, https://www.instagram.com/carriechalloner/ and https://youtu.be/j9odgBsvQlY

To let you know My Autumn Reset will be Subscriber only to help grow my challenge but content I share will still be for free.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Taking The Time to Just Enjoy Your Coffee Inc. Weekly Cheat Sheet

10 Monday Aug 2026

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Cheat sheet, Everyday living, Goal setting, having bad days, health and wellbeing, life coaching blog, Living, People, Personal Development, Planning 2026, Positive Habits, Printables, Summer Project, Weekly posts

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Yesterday in the coffee shop with my Husband and son I, saw this lady who wasn’t on her phone or reading or anything but enjoying her coffee. She looked a bit like Celine Dion and it made me realise that sometimes just having time just taking in the moment is much better than looking at a phone or not watching what is around you.

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This made me think of a challenge. I am doing a challenge for August. Doing 100 squats a day for the month to raise money for Cancer Research: https://youtu.be/oaImghC1on0

So in September doing my Autumn Reset going to challenge myself to write my blogs, sort out my sons and my bedroom, complete the editing of my next book as the Reset will continue into October, is to do all those thing in silence taking the moment. Not have music on, tv or Youtube and enjoy my coffee. Not on my laptop or phone drinking but sit in the garden as we go into Autumn and just enjoy the moment.

On the train coming back from London, see Vlog: https://youtu.be/eZ3sHtml_8k on train I decided to not be on my phone and enjoy the journey. On the train to London looking around every one was engrossed on their laptops and phones that I realised have we lost the will to use travel to chat with people~? I think we just so concerned on what is on social media to look and chat. I feel we want to be liked on Instagram to feel adequate. So it will be a realisation for me. I am going to use my laptop to write but not with music on or a video on. Be on my phone too much and enjoy a coffee like that lady without a book or notebook and enjoy the moment better and see what happens.

This weeks Cheat Sheet which with the help of AI I have created on challenging yourself. My Autumn Reset will be the first subscriber only content, but will still be free to read and will be from the start of September to the end of October.

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There are many challenges you can do and I really feel I am ready to take on more. Just to say my blogs are not written by AI and are from me, I just needed a little help with my Cheat sheets and that I have been learning from them too.

Do walking challenges. I challenge myself to walk, 4000 steps a day instead of 10,000 too much so be realistic and there are writing challenges too. I often do sprints from 10 to 30 minutes not consecutively as that is not realistic to me and there are loads you can do on Youtube but only using this to help make sure I don’t go over time.

So take sometime to just enjoy your coffee and take in the world and not have headphones in or on the phone and just be free to chat with someone. It is good to look around you and sit and not have any noise.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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