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Day 24/30 Day Challenge/Blog a day/What we already have and how can we create more

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So we all want to be happy and have more but to do this you do have to look around to see what you have already got. So for me I spent two days looking after my son and he to me is everything and as much as he drives me up the wall he is the most important and same if I have anymore.

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I have a roof over my head and it isn’t mine so for me now is to working towards finding a place of my own.

I was married yet I wasn’t happy and I had to face it, so I did and some may not have been happy in me doing so but I wasn’t in that place anymore and wanted more, so for me it is to grow new relations and keep in contact with the important people still in my life and form new ones.

There was a time I found a new love outdoors and that was taking on fundraising events doing running and walking and looking back at the medals I received for doing these was massive for me and now ready once again to do more. I love that I do still exercise and walking in many various places.

When it comes to my life at the moment it is an 8 being that I want to move on from where I currently live as stated above, but looking ahead to begin a fresh start, I don’t want my eggs to be in one basket so want to do many things. I would like to work in Mental health and do my bit via blogs but do more and I would like to also work in music and on TV too.

So, continue going through my current life I know I have much more to give and so do you.

#Believeinyourself and it will happen.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Day 23/30 day challenge/blog a day/we can always have a life of luxury

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If you asked a group of people what to them what luxury is I bet you have a million to one different things and answers.

Winning the National lottery and becoming a millionaire. People flying business class and having dinner at the Ritz and being able to buy a Sports Car. Yet really it is anything you don’t often have and so because a luxury. Example having a piece of chocolate, as a kid it was having Snowball at Christmas and having a bike to cycle as a kid around my estate I used to live in Hammersmith.

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We can all have luxuries what ever that is to you. It for me a personal thing and has meaning by it.

In 2012 I treated along with my ex-husband booked a first class trip to Orlando Florida and it was a brilliant experience and nice to be on the other side for once. Now I have had that experience I would pay that money again to do it. It was worth the expense and so my focus is to eventually take my son over there and he and hopefull with other kids I may have, there. Along with other places too.

Often we can fear luxury items in case it doesn’t work out or because they get addicted yet Luxury means Luxurious and so the fear is the power of what can happen when it is something that changes for every and having luxury everyday counts. Its what gives us energy to continue and rewarding yourself.

So treat yourself and never fear or feel guilty and often people see what a great luxury it is to receive flowers from someone for example and so follow you.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Day 22/30 Day Challenger/blog a day/People whom you see as weird are still human

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On the way back from a Mother and Toddler group I checked out one of the buses which go passed the station for when I started a new job. This was about 7 years ago.

At the bus stop this lady approached and she wanted to see Henry and started shaking him not roughly and she got a bit worried because he was zonked out, and says “Whats the matter he woke wake up” and so I applied “He’s okay just a sleep” and I didn’t get alarmed but was sad for her as she must have witness a child not waking up hence why she panicked.

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She did look like she had a few too many alcoholic drinks but not knowing her I didn’t get cross and just moved on. I don’t know this lady and it is surprising how people can be having more of a bad time to worry for other people and children.

We do need to be respectful as noone knows what someones been through to be alarmed, and she did look like she had troubles and so if you see someone who is different to the norm, try not to judge because they are doing it based on their life. If they wish to talk then let them.

I didn’t feel threatened by this lady’s actions and could see the anxiety she had and we do need to stop judging people.

So #BeKInd and #staystrong.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Day 21/30 Day Challenge/Writing a blog each day/9 Days to go/Tips on other challenges you can do that I have tried and want to do myself

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Hello and this blog is to say Thank you once again for your support whilst I complete this monthly challenge and gonna do this each month. I really love these challenges and it’s really been a mindful challenge. I see how many blogs I can do and it keeps me on my toes to write more and have my blogs be as good as the last one.

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I HAVE 9 DAYS TO GO!

Here are 6 ways on how you can challenge yourself too:

  1. Learning to drive. This I have tried but failed as I was not mentally ready to learn but did cause I thought I should. I am on medication for my Mental Health so can’t do this challenge, but wanted to make this the first because if you want to learn why not have a lesson each day if possible or a few days per week and challenge yourself 30 week challenge instead
  2. Read a book in a day, week or each month. I really would like this to be one, and do this challenge for the month as I love to read and see if I can do complete it. Great way to visit charity shops, the library or kindle and see how many you can read each week or month
  3. Take a photo of different things for 30 days and share on instagram or twitter. This is one that is in the Mrs Hinch Activity journal and again one I would like to eventually do myself
  4. Exercise for 30 days. You can ask your friends to join and go on walks or runs together and good for getting family involved too. Or go to the gym now they will be back open or if there is an outdoor gym near you and take advantage and see how it helps the mind and the body.
  5. Write in a journal for 30 days and reflect on each day of how it was. Journal writing is great to clear your minds and get rid off those cobwebs when doing so
  6. Do a bit of gardening each day for 30 days. Sorting out the garden many find theruptic and if you have kids this can be a good one too

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Day 20/30 Day Challenge/blog a day/When things go tits up and unplanned events

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First of all Thank you for your feedback I have had so far. It really means the world to me and this is Day 20 of my 30 day blog challenge whereby I have been blogging on this site once a day for 30 days.

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I have written similar blog like this, How to handle days when it all goe tits up and today it is “When things go tits up”, like missing your train, forgetting your mobile and having to go back and get it, you’ve fallen down a man hole in the street, go soaked in the rain and no umbrella. I am a person where it is “More or nothing” kid of a gal and when it goes wrong it does.

My son this week wasn’t well and felt sick at school, so thankfully I was contacted to pick him up, Being a mum you will have to do that too at some point and often we will stressed because you have taken him school and seemed okay and then due to the heat can have a full blown meltdown, without your control.

Remember it will pass its that kids show their emotions more than us adults and so they will find it hard in the heat, so when he got in we played out in the garden cause he just needed fresh air and was done, and went back to school next day and just in case I got there early to pick him up again as he has now finished school for the summer, and took him as promised the day before, o the train and then he wanted to get on a bus and we did that too.

Kids will get sick and I as a child was often sick. Anything going around I caught luckily I have been well through the COVID pandemic, but are more vulnerable caue of their immune systems still developing. Its life and so I focus on “What can I do to help prevent this” rather than I don’t know what to do. Check out my new parenting blog about blog I wrote on my site: https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com called Children and being sick.

Spend time reflecting over the misshap if it plays on your mind and what could you have done differently and go through list of prevention. Pehaps giving kids a multi-vitamin each day to help their immune systems, perhaps have two phones a home one and a mobile so the school can call both.

Its spending time to evaluate and measure how bad it was. What helped and what didn’t.

So, just breath and honestly do what you can and prepare for things that give you a bad day.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Day 18/30 Day Blog Challenge/Creating Dreams and Promises

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Hello and welcome to a new blog and posting on this blog site for 30 days and it is Day 18 and in this blog I am talking about Creating Dreams and Promises to yourself.

To become the person you want to be often is already there but it has taken a while for you to see it. I live by wanting to be the best version of myself and want to help others to do the same. We often can fear that we aren’t good enough and these feelings can grow to stop us in our tracks and standing still for to long can drive us all crazy.

  • Value yourself
  • Own your own mind
  • Initiat change to your current life
  • Clear away mental clutter
  • Everyone you we meet have a value and measure how good they are with you.
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  • If we get knocked down get back up feeling even better and be your own leader.
  • Be truthful to yourself.
  • Allow judgement but stand up for yourself.
  • Be free and if their are others pulling you towards a dark tunnel that is their fears not yours.
  • Build yourself to give promises to yourself and never fear you r capabilities

When you have created dreams and promises have them displayed so you can remember them and take picture on your phone and you can read the and change them again as you continue to work towards them.

Have regular meeting with people who are helping you of any events that have cropped up and you need support in dealing with them, and never fear wanting help from others.

Remember we all have the right to be a success and so remember to set goals for you and others supporting you and keep it forever growing.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Day 17/30 Day Challenge/Being Unstoppable

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So are you stuck on how to move on from your life due to a set back?

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Being human we often buckle under pressure and yeah me too, so if you need to take a break you are still being unstoppable because taking breaks is part of our growth. It also means that you have done enough to have time off and that was me today. I spent a whole morning and yesterday looking after my son and had a good old fashion muck about and it did mean getting up early still but advantage I got to watch some TV as I don’t often get the chance.

Self care and doing other tasks like looking for jobs in mental health, go through emails and check feedback on my blogs, as it is good to see your kindness in you liking my blogs, time and to see you my audience reactions to my posts. It means the world to me and makes me unstoppable..

To get yourself on track take a step back and go through how you are feeling and what is making you stop and feel unsure. What is causing you to feel stuck? and go through what you have done each day to see what has triggered you to step back.

Knowing the triggers you will learn to have more resillance to them and will help you overcome them. Example if you want to do a run like never before but you struggle getting out of the door to start, something is causing a fear and it could be not being able to go to far.Break iot down. I would train one day a week and then I created into something to enjoy and I would go for a run every Sunday and so don’t massive goals list and try out some motivation videos to help.

Change the pattern of how you see running. Perhaps it is the rain, moving to a new area that you worry you may get lost. Preplan the route and just to one road at the time or one lap around a local park. Winter have two layers as you will warm up as you run and doing some exercisses before hand can boost your energy in going for a run.

Think about building blocks and monitor yourself and when in a Mentalhealth hospital they would do a reflection each Friday to go over how we have each of us being a patient been, and what could the staff do to make us feel better. Reflecting is a great way to stay on track because often we see it differently if we take a look back.

Take time in going over the year you have had so far and what do youn avoid a lot. For me it is I know I am going to need a dentist appoinment and a new eye test but I see these as a burden so I am going to see if I can set a date to get these done.

Avoidance can often put more pressure on your shoulders. So perhaps I can, with the above appointments delegate this in someway. If someone else books it then I am more likely to go.

Create new patterns in your life so you can be unstoppable.

Many thanks for reading

Carrie X

Day 16/30 Day Blog Channel/How and why we can learn from the Olympics in Toky 2021

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We can learn so much from the Olympics and how by the sheer training and hard work that goes on with each different event and why we can learn by the sheer determination and drive that each participate takes to compete and how working towards a goal each day can make such a difference to peoples lives.

All those athletes will be aiming for World success and being the best in the world. Each Nation fighting for their selves to be number 1 and not give up.

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I hope noone cheats in this Olympics as sadly you do have those who try, but why drug testing is dome to ensure that they all compete fairly and with the mindset to become world champions.

We are all capable in achieving the things we set in our lives and there may be setbacks but you push through. With life there are always challenges and hurdles you have to face but never feel that you have to do something for someone else you do have to be selfish at times, and we are all able to feel good about what we do.

When we want to accomplish something fear can set in and self doubt, so with that go over when you decided to achieve say example in making cakes for people, you begin to see yourself accomplishing that and yet the first ones you baked all got burnt. What was the initial feeling you had in wanting to bake cakes for people? Is it your own recipe or someone elses? To make my son birthday cake for his first birthday which I wanted to do since kid, I do a cake making course at the Richmond Community college to do class.

You must have felt you were good enough to be a professional baker but you underestimated how long it would take.

Practicing from those already doing this is the key to it. To be the best you have to learn from the best and get inspired by baking once a wek at first.

Setting goals with each cake you make and who for and where do you see you taking it, will be a part time business or a something you want to do fulltime at some point? You may need a better oven or recipe as people use different ovens and so it may take shorter than said in the book or a bit longer. You soon learn as you continue to succeed in making cakes.

Be your own critic but let those you want eating them give you feedback. So being a goal medalist is the goal of each participant of the Olympics and they would have dreamed and dreamed, training everyday and allowed hurdles to crop up but but not stopping to be number one.

Many thanks

Carrie X

Day 15/30 Day Challenge/Opening your mind to judgement

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Commenting on someones weight, commenting on somebody’s life and commenting on someones dreams.

Has this been you? I hate those who judge other people and I have caught myself from doing so and it is “Who are you to judge?” it is not up to me and people say “Yeah in an ideal world” but do you have to judge other people? Getting to know people, yes, listening to people, yes and seeing the big picture of what is truly going on in someones life, yes.

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There is a 10 commardment of don’t judge those on how you wouldn’t like them to judge you.

Yet people still do it and it seeing it, it’s their actual problem not the person they are judging and in some way they get satisfaction from that.

It is often because it feels good to throw a hurt at someone when it goes for those that judge and making assumptions about people yet they haven’t given that person a chance to be heard yet they expect others just be quiet and its looking down on people for no real reason.

There are people who don’t like my approach in being laid back and flexible, but I have seen better things in doing so and I am a open minded person which gets judged a lot of too.

I am not someone who follows always on how someone else lives but I set standards for myself as I can says I don’t know everything yet in some peoples mind it is “Well you should?” There are things that I am good at like writing and the feedback has been an eye opener and I know that my words are doing more than just words but they do have meaning and when began blogging had no idea of whow they would be received.

So, for me it is:

Get to know that peron who you see. I always go on if they are good and lovely for real its when you actually meet them that counts and you can tell from 5 words if they are really a nice person or not and their body language too.

If you feel that you have been judged then ask them “Why are you judging me?” and be open to then give then a sense of control still but make it clear you have boundaries and you don’t like to be judged and you’ll find if you do it, they are the ones who will begin screaming and shouting.

So look after yourself and #BeKind to yourself too.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Day 14/30 Day Challenge/What is a Super Human Being

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Hello and can I say hand on heart your likes and follows mean the world to me and so thank you with all my heart.

This is blog 14 of my 30 day blog challenge. Posting everyday on this site and this days blog is about What is a Super Human Being.

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Watching the news today which I don’t tend to watch all of the time, my heart goes out to those who across europe has had massive flooding and lost their homes due to this disaster and I will say a prayer for them and that they get their homes back and no more flooding occurs.

So being a Super Human is those who like many who go out of their way to help other people and its those who are doing so because its what they are their for and would still save people even if they never worked for the Emergency services.

I think a lot people deserve credit for what they come across in their everyday life yet it is part of who they are. I think of my friend in Peabody called Kelly who was hurt badly one day and ended up being Brain Damaged because of it, yet before this happened she was mature beyond her years and would be like the third parent to her siblings and I would spend time to help her do that. Her parents were lovely people and made life on the estate easy living yet they as a family did have some turbalents yet they carried on living and being cheerful.

When reading a fitness Womens Fitness of people that created running clubs for people and did that at first like a hobby and then became addictive and it did for me. After doing the London 10K twice raaising money for Help For Heroes and Cancer Research it was so rewarding and people who were competing giving me encouragement and it was an honour to have taken part.

I think about those who created Monkey Music to help mums and babies with their development and created mother and toddler groups where you can have a chat with other mums and making tea and coffee and those who work in afterschool clubs, how they use up their evening to help kids to have fun when their parents are working hard too to put food on the table.

I am glad the Queen is honouring those who never often get mentioned in the honours list and feel that this has turned a corner and more people who do life saving jobs to be honoured each year for the bravery and the cost of their own lives too.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X