I am still the girl who would sit on the edge of my bed and have my Hi-Fi playing whilst I daydreamed with each song, the girl who imagines that I am in a concert in my mind, and will be full of dreams and ambitions, and I am glad to still be that girl.
Music can be the best source of feeling good about your life and yourself. It can take us to places we may never reach but seems so close to being like that in our heads that we can almost can touch it, and dive in to be part of your life.
It is so important to find yourself and it can take a long time to be acceptive of yourself, yet music calms and make sense of difficult situations, it can be a great healer and I remember my dad telling that to help people out of comas they would often have family play music, and I like that now as life, and I love having new adventures. I love discovering new music and dream to be involved in that world of havng songs played out on the radio.
Music has been a massive influence in my life and it just takes often one song to help lift my spirits and can be a good for concentration as I write this blog and listen to some Kylie Minogue tracks. It helps me lose myself and get a lot completed in my life.
So if you feel you need some hugified music put it on and enjoy.
Hello, and I hope you have had a good week, and I am ready for the weekend. This week on this blog site I saw that I have had 5,000 views and so thank you. I am so happy that this site is getting such a response as I want people to use this site to help them and feel good by my blogs.
This blog asks, “Does time effect us from being successful in life?”
If you are getting flustered by the things in your life then yes, because I go at such a speed sometimes that I hit that wall, and I have talked about that in previous blogs and videos, and so I give myself a realistic list of what I know I can get done and not suffer with burnout and the day should start how it ended.
So meaning, that it should start full of energy and end with a good steady pace like it begun.
Rushing when you dont’ realise it. I am guilty, and so I will take my time now, rather than jamming all what needs to be done in one day. This can lead us to self sabotage and to give up before you’ve even started.
If you are struggling with time then it can effect our success because we feel its to bigger a mounting to get anything done, and you have kids running around, whilst you try to tidy things awat, you feel that your email inbox is getting fuller and yes I am guilty of that. We plan to wash our hair and have a pampering evening and you end up feeling to knackered to even lifting a finger, so yes it can cause us to say “I can’t do this”.
Well look around and look at your lists, is there anything that catches your eye on your list and stands out on your list? If it does then this should be the first item to get done and completed.
We all want to be like be Mary Poppins and have a carpet bag that can carry a hat stand and a lamp but this is a musical and if you like to pretend you are whilst cleaning singing “A Spoonful of sugar” going and put the sound track on. I am writing this blog listening to the Eurythmics in concert on Youtube, and so if that it what it takes to get back on the road of being on time with your life and gets your life in shape so it doesn’t hold you back from being successful then do it.
Should time be in a goal?
Yes! This is what I am saying, “Time can be used to challenge yourself”. So before you read on, get a bin that is empty or even a storage container and go around the room putting thing into it, and have three bins in fact. One saying Inbox and one saying Outbox and another to give away if you find items you no longer need.
Getting rid of stuff in family homes can take alot to get rid of items, but if you want more time then create it. Block scheduling a must and just giving yourself 5 minutes a day can make all the difference, and I clean my desk at least once a week and scheduling has become my bestfriend.
Create chart with the time you have spare and put down what is the first space that can be sorted out first and if you need to take a break then do so.
So yes time can effect our success because we think we have to do everything now but actually you don’t.
We do put on, so much strain on ourselves and be unkind, yet when we see people who shout and scream at anyone, we straight away go into praising ourselves. and says “I am glad I not like that”, and it is looking yourself on the outside and see that we are kind and approachable, I am not mad in getting angry, we should be able to express ourselves.
When it comes to accepting ourselves it can take a long process, as we do fear peer pressure. So it is time to be kind and see what you are capable of. We are all allowed to breath in this world, and so we need stop underestimating ourselves and see our strengths we have.
To Overcome underestimating ourselves, it is good through your assets, and that for me is I have the fingers to write and have the eyes to see and I have the power through my blogs to reach out to people all over the world. Now that for me is powerful, to even write that, but it is true.
We are so quick to criticize ourselves and not give ourselves a break, when we feel low is often needed. I give myself credit, because I understand about it is about being a true human being. Being kind to what we say to ourselves and so go through your assets physically and mentally.
Taking on challenges this year did me so good, and it showed me of what I could achieve within a year, and has enthused my energy to do more to inspire myself aswell as from other people.
Journal your thoughts, and go through all the things you want achieve and it can be whatever you want, and should you set a deadline??
I have tried this method, and it has helped but in some areas not, like setting myself a deadline to finish my books I write, but I find that because there is more to add I need to finish it in my own time and not rush my books but give myself time to edit and arite.
It is time to be good to yourself and set that as one of your goals fro the end of the year, following onto the next year.
To say I love music is an understatement as every bed time and morning I will spend some time listening to music. I would not live without it.
I have taken breaks from it, but I always go back. In this Inspiring stories I want to talk about the World Of Music, and Excellent writing of songs.
What a song can say to you is personal and can really touch the heart and because even as a kid I have listened to music on my pink record player and then a Hi-Fi, it is hard for me to be specific choosing one out of so many. Writing music has been my love and no many have not been heard by anyone else, and its songs like the Greatest Love of all for example is talking about loving our kids of the world and there is no better love as a parent and as a child.
Roy Orbison is for me a prime example who have used music to talk about his life and he did a lot of love songs, and they are so timeless and I have listened to his music a thousand times no lie, and they still feel brand new.
The song Beautiful and I find hard to listen too, but an amazing song, and I was in a bad way last year, that this song reaches me like none other and will always play that apart of my life out. I was having a breakdown, which is the only thing I can call it, but was in the wars, and a song I play when I feel love is slippering away.
A song to me has to give me empowerment and self belief, being someone who struggled wit confidence, and the music Roy Orbinson wrote was in the 60’s and got number ones all over the world, with his amazing voice and lyrics.
Whrn it comes to music I am not someone who plays one type but a load of songs, from Classical to Rock ‘n’ Roll, and Status Quo is still the band that brings the best out of Rock ‘n’ Roll in this era, along with Cliff Richard and Frankie Valli, and they brought a different type of Rock ‘N’ Road, writing music with films and the Bee Gees with their disco tracks for Saturday Night Fever.
My favourite song from the film Grease is the song Hopelessly Devoted and Grease is the word, as it still a great film I love watching and the music is still playe today, as now we have the music stage production too. This is how far music can stretch and why it is in all our lives.
Music really established itself in life gone back when King Edward times and the first song to be played was back in the states and grew across the boarder, and then in Britain it was instruments like the recorder, the fiddle and the violin that were played and in Britain it was drumkits, eletctric guitars, acoustic and now everyone listesns to it, and from looking back it is amazing how it has evolved.
So, choose a song that makes you think and address issues in your life and write a song that you have always wanted to write and make it personal and in touch with you and your love ones.
I don’t see my life as perfect, but someting that is growning as I am, and I feel that I am still learning, and really we learn everyday.
You need to often be ruthless and if we feel out of control, it is important to gain it back and not allow others detate, but respectng people more and have respect for ourselves too.
We need be with like minded people, who want to see us grow and have a life that makes you happy, not feel like a tug of war.
It should be about you for a change and so take time to be with yourself aswell as socialising, be with yourself.
If there are people who can’t accept you, for who you are then, that is fine, I am not expecting everyone to be my BFF, but I still want to the best for them.
Take a lunch break if you often don’t, as working all day can tire us out and when this happens to me, I often find it is hard to put one leg in front of the other, forget working.
Have a holiday, if you often don’t and even if it is staying at home, so not necessarily going anywhere or staying anywhrere else, just time to do different things.
Like booking a manicure or a pedicure, visit the gym, go for a walk and take yourself on holiday somewhere if you need a change of senory.
Create a yearly tradition if you don’t have any, or the ones you had faded away. This could be like I do, go for a Christmas day walk and and restart my fitness routine and meet up with people I haven’t seen for a while.
Have that time to go through what you want to add to your life, that will help you not fall of the wagon, and after half term if you are a mother like me, to use that time to go to a Spa or on a retreat somewhere, if you can find a friend or family you can trust looking after the kids whilst you have a break and just be good to yourself.
It is about taking time out for yourself and why not after you drop you kids back to school, go for a regular brisk walk somewhere.
Hello and welcome! This is a post I want to create to talk about How People have created magic when really it could have flopped.
So, I normally I will talk about singers, actors, royality, presenters of TV shows and have built up their lives as a life coach. One being Tony Robbins for example. Who else has changed how we go about ourlives?
Philip Schofield who went from being in the broom cupboard on children’s TV to musicals. Joseph and the technicolour dreamcoat and was the first presenter of kids TV that crossed that line and he turned people’s heads. “How can he be in a musical when he would introduce children’s TV and talk to puppets like Gordon the Gopher and Ed the duck?”
Well by being wellknown and becoming a household name. It seemed at the time, that he was surprised he was wanted by Andrew Llloyd Webber, and it was a risk, yet it worked and did change how we saw people on TV. This is not having two many eggs in one basket.
The film philadelphia bought home how Aids was was percieved when it first came about. How prejudice people would get about someone with HIV, yet it won oscars and was Tom Hanks and the writers that bought it into the light, and made it to one of the most famous films of the world.
There was then the Spice girls who were so different to each other and they broke records with their songs and I remember when living in a housing estate seeing girls copying their dance moves. Their pictures would be advised on bus stops and buses, and made a film and got to meet Prince Charles and Nelson Mandela.
Linford Christie and Usain Bolt. Linford was bought up where I was, Hammersmith and was the most successful athlete of all time for Great Britain and England, and Usain Bolt a local Jamican who slept in a hut for most of his life and family was poor.
This teaches me that, just because on paper it says you will end up cleaning streets, doesn’t mean that you will. If there are miles of stones to cross that strength and determination can create magic wherever you go.
It is about being different and standing out and people who create magic do it because they create things like songs that last a lifetime and films. Its created a life that is possible and that you lived like a person already successful.
Magic can be created by anyone and so challenge yourself to create magic as if you’re already doing so.
What do I mean by power, no sense of control over your life, but you try to grab it by the horns and say “No I want control back” but it is not there. You miss the bus, but other days you make it. That is something that could effect your day and now you’re late and feel that panic or at the moment the petrol stations have been chockerblock due to people needing petrol and there not being enough due to the Lorrys that are supposed to delivering it and everyone it queuing in their cars to get petrol.
Then I worry about the buses what if they run out, how would we get anywhere, yet is there a way to gain control? Yes, travelling by a different route, like instead of a bus get the train instead. Then there are taxis and not turning up and you have business meeting. What can you do to gain control? again use the train or see if a coworker had a car who has petrol to see if they can pick up en route.
Basically if you want to get somewhere urgently we has humans will always find a way. That is with everything. Of course with COVID alot of things have got effected making work difficult and has gained control of what we do and where we go.
Can you get it back? Yes by using social media and going digitial on some things, like to do lists and managing the calendar and using the post to send cards out and contacting people. As said you will always as a human being find a way.
I keep that in mind with the things that go on in my life where I feel things are beyond control, like being stuck on a bus like the week just gone and was late to meet my son after he finished school, and that meant texting Henry, my son’s dad to make sure someone he is there for when Henry is bought back from school.
So never fear the power is with in you so remember if you lose a bit of control of your life, you will find a way to gain control again.
So first of all I today did a video talking Expectations in a regular video I do talking about The Truth Of Growing up, and so check out if you wish too.
Expectations are always going to be there from other people and from yourself too, but it should be on your terms, and what I mean by that is that often others can expect too much, and should be what will help you individually to raise the bar and be done gradually.
I am someone who jumps into something with both feet, when I would go to dancing school, when I first began working and even when I would write books as a kid, expected my first book I wrote as an adult, would it be well received, yet reading it back, some details were in correct as when you have a child you do get baby brain, but it was telling my story of a first time mother and the things that I never knew about until I became a parent. If you would like to check out my books The Parenting Adventures under may married name then they are available from Amazon (name Carrie Challoner) as I now use my maiden, Carrie Holmes or Carrie Lee Holmes.
When you get married everyone expects you to be already planning to have kids, yet its not a fairy story, it is real life and I am glad I never rushed into marriage as it was four years later and that I got married and then it was a while until I had my son Henry. Me and Henry, My son’s dad have split and we been together a long time, but we still make sure that Henry sees us both.
With all relationships there is an expectation from you and them, to be on the same page and terms, and that they are there to hold your hand and listen and want to see you to wind down and to catch up of what of how they have been and the same for you. Yet friendships can then be tested by others who get resentful and that it is a tug of war, where that person then says “Who is your bestest friend” and this continues from experience to adult age and you think not, but true.
Again if they expect you to meet you when it suits them, then is this a expectation of “Your here to see me not you” and that is where the expectation is impossible to reach, due to other things in your life. Friendship is a two way street and be fair.