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Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Build your dreams: Can music have an influence on our dreams and motivation?

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I am living to build my life and make it better each day. The one thing that can effect my mood is music as some gives me good memories and others that helps to motivate me and feel good. There are songs that reminds me of sad times, but I use a lot of that to help write my books, depending on what the books are about. I tend to write biographical, like my The Parenting Adventures books, check them out on amazon, along with serious novels on real life issues and comedy.

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I do have a lot of ideas on writing children’s books and I have created a playlist to help me write.

Then there are darts players who each have a song they walk on to and you can tell that the music to them is what makes them with their confidence and excitement by the supporters that are there at the matches to support their favourite places. The music helps with the build up and entertainment of the sport.

When I see videos on Instagram by The Rock, Dwayne Johnson, he is working out with music and you can tell that the music he plays has influenced him in building his body and staying in shape.

Music is powerful and when I did dancing the music played a key part in the dancing routines we would do and it had to be the right music to help with the enjoyment of the doing the different routines we would do, and with the disco part we often the children would make up new routines but it had to be the right song, for the dances to work, and help complete the creation of the dance.

When you watch American Wrestling each wrestler have their own song, and whenever there is a change of president in the United States they have singers on stage singing supporting them like when Barracker Balmer became president it was Beyoncé and sang At Last and always think about that when the song plays and it was the music that was created for World cup 1990 in Italy that made me fall in love with the football and so music can have a massive influence on our dreams.

I have written other blogs about music check these out here: Inspiring stories: The Little kid to adult who uses music as a good source of medicine The Power of music/Inspiring stories If you need a lift of empowerment then play that music

If you have entered in a free Webinar online with Tony Robbins, I mean the free ones, well they play music as they encourage you to dance off your feelings to boost your energy before they start and during and really helps the mind, and so music can play a huge part in your body, mind and spirit, to help towards dreams and a great source of free medicine.

So choose music to motivate as it can tick all the boxes for therapy for me and would not live without it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching programme “Summer Project 2023” Building your dreams: What do you want out of your life?

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Life is about living and having the most amazing time. I never thought I would ever run it was alien to me. I would watch others and think “I wish I had the confidence to do that” and when living in the South Coast and working and met my now husband I had put a lot of weight on. This was due to one of the side effects being on the contraception pill (birth control) and I didn’t like how I looked, so I stop taken The Pill and the weight poured off me.

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Now I am not saying not to take Contraception and there are other pills out there but because of the side effects I was fearful. Do what is right for you, some women don’t get any side effects. Always speak to your GP, but then I also wanted to run, and so I did. The other side effects is that it can make your legs ache, so I got up off my backside and exercised and reduced me portions.

I do write another blog site:

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com

If you don’t start to work towards your dreams then they won’t come true, but if you begin to realise you want a different life then write down what you want to see in your life. I wanted to work at a football club when I left school and using the Yellow pages wrote to all the football clubs in London to find work, ones that had an address and telephone number in the yellow pages which was a large yellowy book with addresses of companies along with other details.. I talk about this in a new video I filmed for my Educational Youtube channel of this story. Check out: https://www.youtube.com/@carrieseducationyoutubecha4891 this video will be up by end of the week, and I got an interview at Chelsea Football club for a Junior Receptionist and then someone at Fulham Football club called me and asked if I’d like to do some Stewarding and if I was able to work the next day, and it lead me to doing work experience with the Groundsman. I have mentioned this before, but I like sharing it because it was amazing and then I found some work up London and so had to give it up, but then still wanting to be involved in football I did my Level 1 Football Coaching qualification, as I wanted to be a coach, and assisted for a bit and then went onto coach my own team, it yes it was challenging but was so good to do.

You have to go for it and never limit yourself. Try not to hold yourself back by thinking it is impossible to reach your dreams and goals. Write your dreams down and circle the ones you want to focus on first.

You don’t have to be a millionaire to have your dreams come true but be determined and persistent.

Set a goal a day if you don’t want to do whole list, and make them reachable. You can’t climb Mount Everest without walking at all. You need strength and stamina. That isn’t saying you can’t do it, I will leave that up to you, but creating little steps will make you strong and resilient to those who may challenge you on your dreams.

I have found as I continue to reach my dreams and goals that other things fit into place, example when I was looking to do volunteer work, helping with the Sports Awards for Epsom and Ewell, and at the time was also working in a call centre, this lead me into asking about football coaching and asked the lady in charge of the awards knew of she knew anyone locally needed a football coach. They then put me in touch with a lady who was the Co-ordinator and coached a girls team, but then my step dads brother was a football coaching asked me I’d like to help him and this lead me to having my own team. I as a kid wanted to work at a holiday camp, and gave myself two years and it was a different world to what I imagined but lead into getting married and it was amazing. I didn’t continue on and I never became a red coat which was the ultimate dream, but still such a good experience, and made a lots of friends, who I do still keep in contact with today, and there are still things I want to do.

Always wanted to be a mum, fly first class and go away to America, and did. So make it happen. Life should be about what makes you feel good and not allowing your fears and you self doubt stop you. Set goals and dreams with friends and family, you don’t have to do it alone and it can inspire those close to follow their dreams and goals.

Create a vision board, journal and set a plan to help you. Go through the hurdles you may face, but really vision it and what the outcome will be.

Please remember to follow me if you’d like to be notified of my blogs I post. I have a Pinterest board dedicated to my Summer Project 2023 https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/life-coaching2023-project/and thank you for your likes and there will be more blogs to come.

I have created some videos for this Life Coaching programme so check them out here: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Printable

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So it is here my printable for my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2023 and topics I will talking about in my blogs and will do some videos too.

Let me know if you prefer blogs or videos, as this programme is for you and if you have anything you’d like to share then please do in the comments below.

If you have any questions please leave below and what you’d like me to share. Life is precious and so is time. We try so much to make others happy but we forgotten about yourself and so I want you to put yourself first for a change and make time just for you to recharge and reset your life and that is my motive and intention to help build your happiness like I have in my life and things I have learned now being 44 years old.

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I really hope you enjoy this years Life Coaching programme like you have since I began this two years ago and bring more joy to your life.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Trips and Falls

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First of all welcome to those who are new to my blog Everyone can build a castle, and to new followers of my blog, and thank you for your likes, and really helps me in what topics you like me talking about.

If you didn’t know I also write books, and my newest one is about a Mother and a daughter who live together and is a love hate relationship, but there is one person who unites them, a lady called Gloria, who is a beautician and head of Elizabeth (the daughter) son’s school, PTFA and Elizabeth takes part in a virtue bake off, and because it is a pandemic they have to have meetings using Zoom and emailing and texting. This blog is about trips and falls, which in this book happens. Its available on Amazon and is called Mum&Me and I write other books too under the names Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes. See link to my new book:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mum-Me-Gucci-Tits-Virtue-ebook/dp/B0BGSS7H9K/ref=sr_1_1?crid=87EWQHRW92S0&keywords=Mum%26Me+Carrie+Holmes&qid=1677878234&sprefix=mum%26me+carrie+holmes%2Caps%2C151&sr=8-1

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Last Monday coming home I got of the bus and it being dark, crossed the road I tripped and cut my hand, knee and hurt my back and I was shaken up, and didn’t do much walking or did my run I started to do this year, because of it.

We are all gonna have trips and falls, it’s part of life, and it is how we react afterwards that can help us get over them.

I had to gather my confidence and brush myself off. And because of this fall I have been going to bed early to try and allow my body to recover and feel ready to continue on and so next week I will be exercising indoors, do some walking and go for a run. I do write a blog where I talk about exercise, that I also write on WordPress, check it out via this link: https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com

Its not all about falling over though, it can be your car broke down and now having to travel using public transport, or the trains having delays and make us feel that it is not going to be good day. It can make use want to stay indoors and hide away.

This for me means I get into a what I call “Dead end mindset” so makes me more unhappy, but I have to get up, I have a son and he needs to be met. It can hard with kids because like my son, he wants my attention all of the time, and so I have to get up and get on.

This doesn’t mean you have to forget yourself, it means you have to take more care of yourself to help your kids grow and be there for others. If you are a carer, this can be demanding, and we forget ourselves, but when we fall over we realise we need to care for us, aswell as others. We need a cup of tea and coffee, a shower or a bath, and do some reading to switch off, and so listen to when you trip or fall to realise you are just as important aswell as the people you care about.

We grow from our trips and falls, not saying you can’t be careful and not trip again, but if I cross that bit of road to the pavement to take more care in making sure I don’t trip and fall there again.

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

@typicallondongal

Autumn Reset Day 9: The Imposter Syndrome habit/Changing your feelings

23 Friday Sep 2022

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Today I have a few videos to be edited and uploaded, yet right now I don’t feel like it. Not because I don’t like the videos, because I do. It is about “Will my laptop shut down when I try?” as it is a bit temperamental and feel like I want a day off, which once I can get into the right mindset I know I will get it done.

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I tend to feel like this each morning because of self doubt of “Am I capable?”. It is only a video some may say but for me it is the process of listening to myself that stops me in my tracks to ask “Is it good enough?”, “Will people like it?”. Imposter syndrome is very common and I feel it a lot at times, and have to remind myself that “I am good enough” and “I am worth it”, but I find it so hard to say because of how much others are doing compared to me.

That needs to stop I know so I allow myself to get bits done but with a break and as I get through the morning feel better, because I know this is just a habit I have got myself in and can be detoured by just acting not thinking.

The more I think about it the more I resist it, so I just need to “Bite the bullet” and get it done, and that is the answer. No more dwelling but doing.

So lets take action today. Do you ever feel like this? Leave a comment below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

“Summer Project 2022” Reset your life

21 Sunday Aug 2022

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I now use Sundays as a Reset and it really gives a kick start to the week ahead. I am not a massive fan of cleaning and so it does take a long to get myself to do it, but feel good once done and seen the results.

I use Sundays and Mondays to reset and that is clearing rubbish, go through lists not completed and just go through what I have done and what I do next.

It revaluates your life, as you can see what area of my life you need to work on, example for me I need to fit in time exercise more, and so I will go for a walk each day and once I get the message “Do a workout” that is exactly what I will do, and you can use exercise to reset your life.

Exercising has so many benefits. Example I find it gives me a good boost of energy and feel good about my body and how I feel about myself. I will make sure I give myself time to look after my skin and going through what I have that I still love and what I don’t.

I will vacuum my bedroom each week and do a bit of dusting, and just getting things in shape. I like space and allow myself time to gather my life and keep growing.

Spend time to journal and gather my thoughts and fears. Have time changing my bedding and just spend time working and building on different areas of my life.

It can be anything that is making you feel overwhelmed and you need more shape in your life.

So have time to reset your life and help you be in a positive mindset.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

“Summer Project 2022” Finding the right Station

17 Wednesday Aug 2022

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When we get off a train it is because we want to go to a known destination and an idea of where we want to go, but with life there are stations we never get off on, because we have no need too, but often when I used to travel into the central London, would forget where I was going or I’d be trying to keep my eyes open, missed my stop. I’d get into a panic state because now I have no idea of where I am going and the fear was getting stranded and so now I travel I often will be looking at the map on the train, numerous times to make sure that I get off the right station.

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So what happens when we forget and miss our stops?

Be glad that I had realised and didn’t travel any further and hope I can get back where I forgot to get off to go too the right destination? I would instantly get panicky and feel really stupid, and start to demolish myself. Yet if someone actually said these things to me and not in my head, I would be like “No you are wrong and I am not the only who’s done that”, but its fine to say it to ourselves.

We have all got off the wrong stop, and we will make mistakes which I did a video on, which was a chat video: https://youtu.be/SUw2pGZlPoI All about when my son had a new teacher teaching him swimming and one of the dads got a bit annoyed about it, as she wasn’t as thorough unlike the usual teacher and was being supervised whilst she taught, but did okay and we all make mistakes.

Did she panic? No

Did she get angry? No

She got on and taught her lesson, and the kids learning including my son, were fine. So getting off the wrong stop doesn’t mean your going to be stuck forever, you learn, THAT IS LIFE, and you will still be a success and you’ll know soon where to get off and get on. As Dean Graziosi, life is about repetition, and so as keep doing the journey you’ll always know, and when you do, then the panic will fade.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

“Summer Project 2022” Choosing who we want to be in life

08 Monday Aug 2022

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As a kid I always knew that I wanted to do something that was different to those before me being an estate kid, did with their lives. As a kid I was full of ambition, and loved dancing and wanted to be a pop star one day or be on stage in a musical. Well I did have a chance as I did when I was very young did tap and ballet classes and take part in shows, and then went onto doing ballroom and latin dancing.

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They came about because of other kids I knew and it gave me a reason to get out of bed, then I stopped and then fell in love with football and changed my mind of who I wanted to be, and felt a new world had shown itself and was what I wanted to do instead.

I would dream about playing football, but actually it wasn’t that I wanted to play, but build my knowledge and wanted to be a football coach, and years later did my level FA coaching qualification at Richmond college, and did get a chance to coach. Then I fell pregnant so had to stop, as I didn’t drive and couldn’t carry my stuff with me, and it turned out to be a good decision, because in the end it was traumatic when Henry, my son arrived, and would like to continue again, but I then discovered the internet and his many things you can do on it, and began a blog.

This with a few of my other blogs I began to write, was one of my first, and feel this is now who I want to be. I want to be a blogger and full time writer. It can take its time, to choose who you want to be, and I want to be known for my blogs and help get in touch with people who I can help through my blogs.

I then began to write books and who I want to be. I do still see myself as a estate kid and has had a influence on me, because it was a huge part of me still. I am a mum and love it, my son is the biggest I could have wished for and is who I want to be.

I get a buzz when my son calls me mummy and gives me hugs and tells me he loves me, and is such a gorgeous boy, Is that being biased? Probably, but is it? I mean he is my pride and joy, and he is adorable and people comment on him saying how he is so friendly and gorgeous he is. He makes me laugh like noone else and we have a bond that is out of this world, and feel good about being a mum. Yes there are challenges, but life is about growing, if we limit ourselves that is always going to the case, so we have to come across challenges as this how we become who we are.

So who do you want to be? Start building your life and never fear it.

To let you know I did a new video talking about my last blog about having lazy days and habits leading to habits so, check it out: https://youtu.be/QHzxtk2-0LE

I will be making these blogs and videos into an Online course, as I did last year, and if you’d like to check my Online courses out I have linked to my page: Online Courses/Education

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London gal

Summer Project 2022: Doing what we should rather than what we want

28 Thursday Jul 2022

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Do you feel sometimes that life is full of errands, like doing laundry, cleaning, checking my finances, packing for the school holidays and on emails, that you avoid these tasks?

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Yes my hands are up, and I think its because we build too much of hard expectation of ourselves and it usually because we are pleasing others in doing so. I mean we pay our debts because we began not to care anymore about where it is going, and have a load of books still to be returned to the library, but know we are pissing off the bank we are debt with, and return our books to stop the library being annoyed with us and avoid visiting, and not because we actually want to be these things off.

Of course these things need to be done, because of our own insanity and we don’t want these things hanging around our heads, growing and know we want them to be gone. You feel begrudging about the bills you have to pay. So what is the answer?

Well do we want to be debt for the rest of our lives and still have those library books? Of course not and so set a date and each day go through what will help face them to get them done. Create a plan and a goal.

I have used a bit of paper on my wall and set myself a target of paying off my credit card and plan my finances of what needs to come out and what I want to come out. I also go through where I can save money, by going to parks which are free to use, not always having a coffee out and if it a store I use of the time do they have points cards that would lower the amount you pay, like Boots for example I love their points system and use the points I build up on items from their stores.

I enjoy setting myself goals and I do it bit by bit, rather than all in one go.

Invest in what you want and not what you don’t. Go through the things in your life that makes you avoid errands and can you delegate? I am no good at making beds, but I do it because it does help set up my day, but if someone offers, of course I am not going to say no. and the same with having a reset each week. I find that I avoid them because I make them bigger than what they are, rather than seeing that it is not a hard task. Example: Worried about getting up to London and not being up there on time.

So I packed my bag the night before, saw a cash machine on route yesterday as took my son to Wimbledon park, and withdrew some cash and checked the trains the night before and then in the morning, set an alarm and just prepared myself.

Separate errands into sections, and think about how you will feel once the task is done and what it will lead to. I know when I complete tasks I feel a buzzed and that the preparation is the the key.

So don’t avoid get them done, do them but then reward yourself, very important and then go onto the things you want to do and do one together. Example when I have written a blog, I reward myself with watching a video, which is what I want to do, because I love writing blogs, but often will be my own worst critic and editing it can be a process, but I feel really good afterwards and so will then watch a bit of TV, what I want to do. If someone could in help me with editing I would be truly thankful.

It’s all about balance and not getting left behind, as this can be a factor, the time you have.

So break things down, prep and break each task down so its not such a burden to get the errands we plan done and make it enjoyable, example when I write I may listen to a podcast or music, with a cup of tea or coffee, have the window open and wear a favourites T-Shirt, anything that helps boost your enthusiasm to get errands completed so you and focus on the want items.

It is all about living life and making the most of it, why we have it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

“The Summer Project” Hard to take a night off

24 Sunday Jul 2022

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So I went to bed feeling tired, well I wouldn’t go to bed wide awake, but as soon as my head hit the pillow my mind became active and so got up. I began to watch a documentary as I love to do at the weekend and if you wanted to know what, it is an Celine Dion Documentary when she goes back to perform in Las Vegas after she not long gave birth to twins.

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I then get the urge to write this blog, and realised in the online world that it is hard to take a night off.

Being a writer it is often all I want to do and this after writing my previous blog “The Summer Project 2022” When you just don’t feel like it and suddenly feel the urge to write once again and so I have to get up and do it. I knew if I didn’t I’d be laying bed thinking about it and so admitted defeat, and now as I write this blog now, it is Sunday and 6am in the morning.

I had a relaxing day yesterday thought. I got to have a lie in thanks to my Step dad and watched some TV with my son, and then my mum took him out on his scooter and then when he left to be with his dad, wrote my other blog, filmed a video and then whilst doing a bit of Admin listened to some good music, my love at the moment is Jessie Ware.

Being the UK summer holidays it can be tiring and so not sure how much I will do during this period so when I get a window where I can write I will take the opportunity.

It is good to have a break, I have had burn out too many times and so I take it easy but never forget my passion and when I get the urge I will take it and reminds me why I love writing so much. I love connecting with people through it. I love being part of the online world and so I have to keep it going.

Thank you for your likes and connecting with me through my blogs and following me, it means a lot and more blogs to come. I have been creating videos too on my Youtube channel and so check them out: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X