Hi all! If you are new then welcome. Each year I do a life coaching programme, helping you have a better life and a better year, and because I have had really good feedback from the previous blogs and videos I have posted for this programme on this site, wanted to continue, and on social media too. It starts from May to August, and so to help kick off, I have created a printable and workbook free for you and there will be more to come.
I am a typical Libra as I can be super decisive and weigh things up, a lot.
I often will let someone else decide and it drives me insane, and often the person.
I have learned to trust myself which is helping me believe in my own mind, and journaling and learning from others. Following good habits like seeing I can be organized, tidy and letting things go, and trying to change my hoarding and be ruthless and prioritizing.
Yes still a long way to go, when it comes to not hoarding, yet I have reined myself in and realising that I can save and not buy anything else, until I go through clothes that I still not worn or toiletries and beauty and stationary. I write a blog called Carries Versatile Fashion, and have Youtube channel where I talk about managing my money, and using what I have got, before buying anything else (https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602) . I enjoy building my wardrobe, having plenty of shower gels and make up, but if they are taking up too much space then, I know I need to use or let go. I know in my mind I can do that.
I believe that I can write a book and publish it. I can look after my body and mind, by exercising, but doing less to achieve more. Being kind to myself, by not criticizing myself all the time. Not giving myself a hard time If I make a mistake or when there are daily challenges, like yesterday I got caught out in the rain, still enjoyed the walk I like to do and achieved my tasks for the day.
It can be an event that can influence your thoughts, like when Princess Diana died it made me get off my arse and do something useful and made me see that you can’t waste life. Life changes come with changes to your own thoughts with yourself and others. I know if I just sit in front of my laptop for too long, loose concentration and get restless, and taking a break can influence your mind, and noticing your thoughts to rest and do something else. The mind likes variety not doing the same thing all of the time, and mixing it up so you feel good each day and now I write in my journal on my phone everyday on my thoughts and feelings and in my notebook journal, where I write about what has made me happy each day.
This helps believe my own mind and trust my instincts. I was working on my Life Coaching course and some of what the course covers is self doubt, and how you need self doubt to overcome it, like when I write a blog I often think “Should I post it or not?” but this stirs me on to get it done and part of building a blog is to write it and learn from each post, what type of audience do I want to get in touch with on my blog and how they respond to it, making sure it isn’t offensive, but real life.
I believe in my mind in a way that I reduce worrying. At one point I would live by my worrying and it can be so draining. I know for my mind to function well to eliminate feelings of worry, by taking action. Like I feel anxious about getting my son ready for school, so I will get up early now, to do a bit of work on the computer as at the moment he will sleep on passed 5am now, but after 6am and do his breakfast or his dad will, and not rushing around, but give myself enough time to look after myself in the morning to help get my son ready for school, and plan each day, so things get done and not playing catch up that can cause me to worry.
In the evenings I will make sure that I not on my laptop too late and listen to my mind when it gets tired and being on my laptop in the evenings would make my mind active again and would struggle in getting to sleep that would affect my mind the next day and so will read, get myself and my son ready for bed and will do stories and I sleep better than I have ever done. I do take medication to help too, but lowering my mental activity on my phone and laptop in the evenings, has helped too.
The idea of this blog, was this morning when I woke up around 4am and for the first time since I begun getting up between 4:30am to 5am, wondering about going back to bed, but I find when I sleep on I feel more tired.
I am like this new habit, of waking up early, check out my blog I’ve become an early bird But that little voice was like “Are you sure?” and responded in my head “Yes”.
Well I have had psychosis and so hearing voices isn’t new, but no its that critic that comes from the brain, that everyone has, and tests you and annoys you. There are people who can block this out, because we look at our beds, as if we may not return, but it has really changed my habits, and making progress of building a life I love and enjoy each day, no matter what the day brings.
As a kid I was a terrible sleeper, but due to my body clock, I would still wake up early and my idea of lying in, didn’t happen. I got to the point where I would worry about not getting a good nights sleep and it had bad affects and I understand now why many successful people go to bed at the same time every night and wake up, at the same time.
I am sleeping so well and my son now is started to sleep in. This may change, as having children, they can be unpredictable, since 2 months old (now he is 10) wakes up early, but this week he has slept on. This morning he woke up around 6:45am which is late for him.
There was a time I’d have lazy days, and staying in bed all day, not gotten dressed and I know people who still love doing that and that is okay, and part of me misses those times, so perhaps start having these days again, but at the moment like being active and getting up with a nice cup of tea getting some writing done. Not saying I wouldn’t do it again, but now and then, watching some movies with popcorn, homemade pizzas and a drink of choice. Or have a sort out wearing slacks. Catching up on cleaning tasks and still have a shower but put on some nice PJ’s and still feel like you have still kind of, made an effort.
A lady called Mel Robbins, is to do nothing and just rest. Jordan Page, talks about taking naps and there was a time when working at a Holiday Camp where I would nap in the day but when I did I would feel groggy and be confused with the time of the day, so I don’t nap. My brother can easily sit on the sofa and snooze like my husband, and in the mornings it would take me ages to wake and be lazy watching TV on the sofa and found it hard to kick start my day.
So being lazy can help with recharging batteries and it is good to just take a break from whatever you feel you need a break from and get back on the road and carry on once refreshened. Listen to the body. Our body are machines and it is important that we look after it. We are not here to be on the go all of the time, but take on experiences, where you can take a breath and feel the air coming into the body and out. We need to watch that TV series or read a book, or meditate. So I will still be lazy when I feel I need to do nothing and switch off as I do find that hard to do, and just live, be happy and take it step by step.
My life has not been pain sailing, like us all, there has been ups and downs and when my mum or dad told me off I would be like, it was the end of the world and that I am right and they’re wrong, and so unfair, and would envy my brother, because he is super confident, and girls running after him, whilst I sat on a bench at school by myself.
I have had to really work on my self. I could get jealous, bitter and self centered, like “How have they earned that?”, “Oh they are showing off and trying to be super popular”, or like when I was a primary school, a girl named Sherie, was so popular and all the boys fancied her, and everyone wanted her company and be friends with her. I felt ugly and envious, that I will never be her, like I wished to be.
My mental health took a turned for the worst, and battled with my feelings for a long time. There were times when I didn’t get out of bed, and would stay in, and now I have been discharged from the Mental Health hospital, so proud of myself that I got through my fight with my mental health and not allowing my inner critic to hold me back and stop feeling that I haven’t had a exciting life compared to others, and that the world is against me.
Here are some questions to ask,
Who do you want to be?
Do you feel unworthy and that you’ll never be as good as someone in your life?
Do you feel that noone understands you?
Writing a journal, can really help address your feelings and what is it that is really bothering you?
For me it was, well if I look like that, like Sherie, then I will be as popular and the kids would want to hang with me, but that wasn’t the case and started to form friends as I gradually went through school, but it took a long time, and would have fights and arguments and was bullied. In the end I was well respected at Primary school. It took the last year to experience that, but that I had come so far, and then wanted to start a fresh beginning, at secondary school.
The feelings didn’t disappear, and got stronger. I now look back it was once again that I wasn’t fitting in, and was told by a girl that I was boring, because I was a fan of a TV show The Bill, and would talk about it a lot, and took it, and glad for her honesty and yes it hurt my feelings, but then she wasn’t perfect and would get on people’s nerves, yet we did have fun together, so I let it go.
With those group of friends, they would be into wrestling and one of my friends did canoeing, and shared our love of music. They were the ones who got me into following a rugby team and when I felt like I couldn’t buy chips in McDonalds they got them for me, and introduced me to rock music and went to concerts together, and made friends at my dancing school, and my confidence began to increase.
I have been unkind, and blocked people, because I was feeling excluded and it really was affecting me, because felt it was a personal attack. Now though I glad that they have done well in their life and now in jobs that are high powered, and looking after themselves.
Our negative feelings can rub off on others. I have been with people who would constantly be complaining. I am lucky for having the people around me that keep the roof over my head and support me in looking after my son, and at the weekend I met up with friends who I met when I was working at a holiday camp, and felt so privileged to be in their company as we had a good catch up, and that we all, trying to build our lives and be happy. I can be awkward and shy still but when you meet people, and makes you feel that you’ve never been apart, the fear instantly goes, your inner critic gets pushed away making you feel that you are worthy and people love you, and stop putting your guard up, and not allow your fears get the better of you, but make you grow and be the person you wished to be, and telling people that you love them, can help you and them. There are a lot of people I love, because they have been a huge importance to my life, and been a great influence. I am kind, I will be on time, and I will make the effort.
When you have been through trauma, it can make you angry, and “Why me?”, “What have I done to deserve it?” and often its nothing, its life, it can be unpredictable. Noone knows what is around the corner for us, and so, talking about growing our happiness, ask yourself, do you want to be unhappy all through your life? I have had to rebuild, and make sense of situations, but often there isn’t an answer. I no longer want my inner critic stop me from going swimming and going for walks, from spending time with my son, and go for opportunities, that can open many doors for me. I no longer want to be counting calories, and worrying about my weight. If biscuits are going to make me feel guilty, then I am not going to eat them, if someone doesn’t say thank you when you open the door for them, because what’s the point, they don’t care and not allow me to have a bad day, but continue to be kind and not allow their ignorance to rub off.
So lets all work together in building and growing our lives, its never too late to be happy and grow your feelings, to feel better about yourself. I do write a blog where I talk about building confidence. Check it out via this link: https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/
I think it is natural to think the worst, because from experience, think if I don’t worry than I worry if things go wrong and that I let the world down, because I wasn’t prepared. Our feelings can be so strong that we fear stepping another foot forward.
Life can be full of setbacks and things we come across that can knock us off, on our path for the life we want, but not allowing these to get us down and gain control so whatever happens we resilient to set backs.
I was working for a Kids Holiday Club a few years ago and it was tough and the day the Team Manager wasn’t there I was left in charge but my anxiety rose and thankfully the other girl, I asked for her to take charge instead. I felt so stupid, and getting excited of the opportunity I had really failed and that I was useless and there was a lot to do and in the end I didn’t continue with it.
To be fare it wasn’t a very good set up because it was two three playworkers with 15 children which wasn’t for health and safety perspective good and thought there would be more playworkers and more structure. A toilet ended up getting flooded, two brothers were fighting non stop and in the end the company stopped running and so I learned that if I do this again, to find out first if there will be more staff and the ratio of children.
Now though thankfully I didn’t allow it to stop me in building my life and take a different direction and would like to work with children in a educational setting and do more training to do so, and to help children with different needs, making sure I have the right support to do so, and stop jumping in with both feet and gradually build my ambitions to continue in following my dreams.
Also I have started to cook different dinners and changing my eating habits as this is a battle. I haven’t have stopped eating crisps all the time and have cut down on eating chocolate and going for the biscuits and so going to set a plan and reflect on your set backs as it can help you to have a better habits and it could be because they are so easy to reach and eating fruit can be boring and have a lot of vegetables and not snack.
I never want to have type 2 diabetes again and have a more balanced diet so have started planning meals again and still have the food I like but no snacking. I have had a eating disorder and so what to stop fighting over my eating habits but have new habits of having healthier breakfasts, nice lunches and dinners.
I am going to have breakfast later as I am not always that hungry in the mornings and continue my habits such making my bed when I get up, get dressed, get my so ready for school and taking my supplements and other medication I have to take and not battle with my eating habits, as it is tiring. Planning is the key and have been very good and continue to exercise to help be fitter and continue going swimming which I have begun to do again and training indoors.
I didn’t realise I had a Journal APP in my phone and been entering it everyday, and fill it in on want it is concerning me and address my feelings. I still like to write, but find it hard to stick too so now I got this APP makes me make sure I use my Journal APP each day, and use what ever to make things simple and easy access. Reading Atomic Habits has really helped me structure my life and not spend so long on one thing, but break it down and use what is easy access.
So as it is Sunday finishing this blog, going to catch up on Youtube and get ready for the new week ahead. I do vlogs so if you’d like to see these check out my Channel via this link: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
Life doesn’t have to be hard and I have learned to listen to my body and work on different areas of my life and show up. I took a break from my blogs and it has been good, and focus on completing my projects like my next book I want to publish, but yesterday I felt wiped out and something I have been trying to stop, and have had a cut off time to get off of my laptop, and that is to finish using my laptop by 2 or 2:30 each day and it has made a difference, but because I had three free days as my son was at a holiday worked on filming and editing vlogs, working on videos on my other Youtube channel, and my books, had to take an earlier break from the laptop and glad I did.
Listen to your body and be realistic with planning and include breaks. I take exercise breaks when sitting down for a long period of time, so will get up and move my body, by going out for a walk, or use the treadmill and do a workout on my legs and with my dumbells, and getting my body used to walking long distance again and eventually get back into running. I fill this boosts my energy and did go out early yesterday in the morning, so still got things done.
I needed to be off my screen, and watch some TV and was watching Robbie Williams documentary on Netflix and it was good but was falling a sleep and struggled to keep my eyes open and then took Henry to McDonalds and was a nice change, and would like to do this again with my son.
The other thing I did was tidy my bedroom and filmed a vlog and because my son was going to a holiday club as it is half term and it helps get things done, but getting up early takes its toll and feel better for switching off and going to plan a full week to take a break away from filming and off my laptop, and it is good to have a detox away from devices as it can feel to me tiring and feel I need to just take a break.
I was feeling restless and thought that my son had a inset day at school next Monday and I find out that there isn’t so had to contact the taxi company as my son gets transport to school because of distance and is in a Land school, to so wanted to make sure he gets picked up on Monday, and also I am going to be doing a Level Counselling course and so had to do a test for that.
So if you are tired and restless, have low energy take a break to feel better and look after your mind and body as looking after ourselves is very important.
This weekly Cheat Sheet, which if you are new, began this year to help you to have a good week and enjoy each day, by sharing tips on how to make the most of your days and evenings, now we are heading towards spring, and in some countries starts to have more day light.
Hello, it is time to start a new week, and means getting our to do’s written on what you want to accomplish today, and in forming good habits, can help with having a good day and week, so check out this weeks, Cheat Sheet which I post on this channel and parenting channel, https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.com
Many thanks for reading, and if you wish to share this sheet and blog then please do. Lets work together to help us to enjoy life and getting out life together.
Hi and welcome to my blog! I am posting every Monday a cheat sheets to help you manage your day and manage your life and my one for today is about Making life Simple and stop betting overwhelmed in getting your life together.