Tomorrow it is the last day of my Life Coaching programme “The Summer Project 2022”, and managed to fit a new video, check it out here: https://youtu.be/PAl0RT4OUSY
Thank you for all the likes and follows, it really means the world to me. I can’t believe this week of the School summer holidays and I have had so much fun, and it be back in the routine of school and my routine changes, in that I work in the morning, and I have new programme beginning, which is the “Autumn Reset 2022” and is all about resetting your life for a better Autumn and get back into the winter time zone and when the nights get dark early.
This will run as of the beginning of September to the end of October and will be getting back into colder days and nights. It is good to get ready for it, and time for birthday planning and Christmas. It stuns me how close it is and feel a little bit anxious knowing it is leading close by and so be thinking about cards and gifts.
I will be doing gift guide videos and will be prepping for the festive cheer and setting more challenges for myself and going to have a more fun this year. I no longer want to be a humbug, even though many of us will be struggling with the price of things and many family scrimping and scrapping, and so it means lowering the budget but still have a good time.
I find it makes me want to be a bit inventive and not buy the same thing, in terms of presents and will be doing all I can to reach out to you in helping you get through the Winter slump.
So, I am going to enjoy this last week and then will be having a revamp of my life and getting rid of items I no longer need but may be for someone else, and sensible about where my money is going too.
It is all about making the most of what you have and how you can save without living for each paycheck.
Do you feel sometimes that life is full of errands, like doing laundry, cleaning, checking my finances, packing for the school holidays and on emails, that you avoid these tasks?
Yes my hands are up, and I think its because we build too much of hard expectation of ourselves and it usually because we are pleasing others in doing so. I mean we pay our debts because we began not to care anymore about where it is going, and have a load of books still to be returned to the library, but know we are pissing off the bank we are debt with, and return our books to stop the library being annoyed with us and avoid visiting, and not because we actually want to be these things off.
Of course these things need to be done, because of our own insanity and we don’t want these things hanging around our heads, growing and know we want them to be gone. You feel begrudging about the bills you have to pay. So what is the answer?
Well do we want to be debt for the rest of our lives and still have those library books? Of course not and so set a date and each day go through what will help face them to get them done. Create a plan and a goal.
I have used a bit of paper on my wall and set myself a target of paying off my credit card and plan my finances of what needs to come out and what I want to come out. I also go through where I can save money, by going to parks which are free to use, not always having a coffee out and if it a store I use of the time do they have points cards that would lower the amount you pay, like Boots for example I love their points system and use the points I build up on items from their stores.
I enjoy setting myself goals and I do it bit by bit, rather than all in one go.
Invest in what you want and not what you don’t. Go through the things in your life that makes you avoid errands and can you delegate? I am no good at making beds, but I do it because it does help set up my day, but if someone offers, of course I am not going to say no. and the same with having a reset each week. I find that I avoid them because I make them bigger than what they are, rather than seeing that it is not a hard task. Example: Worried about getting up to London and not being up there on time.
So I packed my bag the night before, saw a cash machine on route yesterday as took my son to Wimbledon park, and withdrew some cash and checked the trains the night before and then in the morning, set an alarm and just prepared myself.
Separate errands into sections, and think about how you will feel once the task is done and what it will lead to. I know when I complete tasks I feel a buzzed and that the preparation is the the key.
So don’t avoid get them done, do them but then reward yourself, very important and then go onto the things you want to do and do one together. Example when I have written a blog, I reward myself with watching a video, which is what I want to do, because I love writing blogs, but often will be my own worst critic and editing it can be a process, but I feel really good afterwards and so will then watch a bit of TV, what I want to do. If someone could in help me with editing I would be truly thankful.
It’s all about balance and not getting left behind, as this can be a factor, the time you have.
So break things down, prep and break each task down so its not such a burden to get the errands we plan done and make it enjoyable, example when I write I may listen to a podcast or music, with a cup of tea or coffee, have the window open and wear a favourites T-Shirt, anything that helps boost your enthusiasm to get errands completed so you and focus on the want items.
It is all about living life and making the most of it, why we have it.
Hello this another Life Coaching video as part of my Life Coaching programme, “2022 Project”, helping you to have a happier life and a year.
To get to grips with your life, it is good to be strong and guided. This time last year I was in a Mental Health hospital and wished I had known about these places as I would have checked myself in, as like many I found the lockdowns we had, was effecting my mental health, by not being able to go out and explore, and I love walking and visiting different places, but due to Lockdown I couldn’t.
Develop your understanding of what is good in your life and why and what is not, and do you want to be good or the bad?
Never Promise if you can’t deliver, because there is such a thing as false promises and when we don’t follow through we feel failure. Doing is better than promising.
Develop a life that is personal to you. So now I am back walking again, long distances and as soon as I see people running, I feel I am not doing enough, yet walking is just as good and so don’t do things just because of other people but what will benefit you
Get in touch with your spirituality. I have had a tough nine years where I allowed my mental health dictate my life and not getting in touch with myself and so began praying again, because, for me that helps and I listen to my soul and gut rather than my heart and mind
Stop comparing. I should hold a reward for this because I am guilty as sin. I have learnt and I do what suits me and love myself, rather than looking at someone else and feel inadequate
Creating different systems. This came from watching Mel Robbins Reset, check it out, and if you want to remember something like a pair of shoes for walking, I put them out so I can slip them on and go. Being a parent I would make sure I had items I could grab and go, as hate forgetting. Sorry what was that, I said, I don’t like forgetting, so leave items in full view so I know I will remember
Create good patterns. I now make sure I set an alarm in the mornings, to make sure I have a good sleep pattern, as 4 hours sleep which I used to sleep for, did me no good and so I now go to bed between 8 and 9pm and wake up by 8:30am. I don’t have lunch until I go over to my son’s house to wait for him to return from school and stops me snacking and I love reading my book whilst travelling, as i learn a lot this way
Give back what others have given you. I do this by thanking the bus driver for taking me safely to my last stop, I will buy nice cards and presents for family and what I do need to do is remember to write thank you cards, as I always forget and so will make an effort to do this, and feeling bad from not doing so.
Get rid of anger by making changes in your life. Example hating your job, and feel you don’t connect with the people you work with. Look for a new place to work that has a better atmosphere. I had jobs like this, when working for a computer company, and there was a lot of back stabbing and felt so uncomfortable so I left, and followed my dream to work at a Holiday camp and finally got the chance, to leave my old life in London and Surrey for the south coast and was a brilliant experience.
Make yourself be heard, Staying silent never helps and so set boundaries, making it clear of what they are. and stand your ground. This is not contradicting number 9, as you can do this to prevent anger, but just sitting and talking to people and teach others to do the same. Sitting having a conversation about what upsets us, rather than a shouting match.
It is all about keeping your head held high and to realise your value, and that you have a part to play in this world just like everyone else.
There will always be events in our lives we have no control over like today in London there was a bus crash and I travel by bus most days, and it questions “Is life worth living when it can be soon be taken?”
I watched a video of Meat Loaf his last ones he made before he died, and in it he was already planning his future and see that even when life can be fragile it can also be a huge lift of “I need to live my life now”
Often we can feel like the world is on our shoulders and that there is no where to go that will lift you out of the feeling of “Is this really my life?” and so we get stuck in that bubble, but you can feel good about your life by making gradual steps, like changing your daily routine and get away from the norm that comes to life.
I remember once when it was my friends birthday and was on a Tuesday, but we met knowing we had work the next day, but we got into a huddle and went clubbing and was such a good night, so doing something to your norm can bring back the life in you. The next day after that Tuesday though, I didn’t go into work and slept in, which I would not promote, but doing the everyday routine can bring us down, and wanting a bit of a change from what you do every single day can make a huge difference to your wellness and health, in terms of how you wake up the next day and want to have more days and nights to do one thing different that you don’t always do. Like when I was up in London would arrange a meet up with friends last minute and staying over at a friends afterwards unplanned.
Never stop planning life and if you fancy meeting someone for an afternoon tea for example then save up, set a date and contact to see who will be able to go with you and have that luxury. It is something I really want to do again and so going to schedule it for it to happen.
I am really want to go and watch a football match again, with my son and have it in my planner on OneNote to have this booked and wanted to take Henry to another show and we are, we are going to see a play about the Gingerman at the Polka Theatre who do a lot of shows for kids and would recommend, oh I am not sponsored them but if someone who works there would like me to, I would say yes definitely.
Life can be full of surprises and if you are fed up in doing the same thing over and over again it can be boring and that is where it can lead you to feel negative about life. I love having things to look forward and it breaks up the days and weeks to come.
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Hello! This blog has been prewritten for Sunday, as I don’t post any live blogs on this day, and in this blog I am talking about Taking time out to practice kindness that can be so rewarding and empowering, and it is a simple as holding the door for someone, or dedicating a blog post to someone and I want to praise people like Lenny Henry who with Bob Geldoff came up with Comic Relief and raising money for kids in Africa and then in the UK.
We do need to protect and building up the next generation and I am concisous of myself of how sometimes I have taken other people for granted that now I have grown and realised no that’s not me.
I do common courtesy and it has been enbedded for me so I do like I drink water, and supporting those that have fallen then built their lives up that has inspired me like Tony Robbins and Rod Stewart with his music.
No one likes a door shut in their faces and that does happen but that teaches you how not to be.
Sending a card every month to a relative or friend to check in on them and now social distancing is being removed slightly we will be able to visit our friends and relatives on their own.
Organize a gathering and do the Tea and Cake afternoons with Murie Curie Cancer or Dementia and if it is birthday and sunny why to arrange a BBQ for those friends you haven’t seen for ages to raise money for charity.
Visit a Charity shop as I love doing this as it is amazing on what you can find. Buy books for someone for their birthday and arrange a book club to raise money for good causes.
Anything that helps those in greater need than ourselves. Do a Fundraising walk or run and have celebration of a small gathering to reward yourself. It is all empowering and can make such a difference.
Create a project like I have done this year, doing my Project 2021 which I turned into an online course:
We can be so swallowed up in so many things we need to do that we can lose sight of ourselves and working life can take over. We can feel often left behind by those who seemed to flourish from when they were born and you think “How has it happened to them and not for me?”. This is because we automatically increase our expectations on ourselves, not giving ourselves any real love and attention.
It tends to feed off from someone else. So how to not lose our way?:
Keep tabs on your movement. So take down what you do that makes you feel good and what makes you feel down
Have a time to practice mindfulness as it really is a great way to breath and feel relaxed and take yourself mentally out from the stress to just listen to the birds and away from worry and stress
Have time doing something you have been putting off and how much it causes anxiety get it done by rewarding yourself afterwards
Practice praying and creating new visions for your life. If something is causing you to dread each day, then go through it with a note pad and why it is stressing you out, and pray and then create the vision of you doing this difficult task and the positive outcome when task is completed
Go with your gut instinct. This often is how we protect ourselves and how we know to stand back or go for it and often we can ignore it. Trust your gut and stop doubting yourself
So this is it for this blog and I will writing for this challenge and many thanks for your time in reading the post,
So this is for Day 4 of my 30 day blog challenge, where I will be posting a blog each day on this site so this will be scheduled for tomorrow Sunday and is all about Switch your mindset and being powerful in life.
When you switch your mindset it means that instead of going straight for the negative voice and movie you play in your mind to the good voice and the happy image you see. When we are low and we feel not happy in us we can from experience, pass it on to other people or question and not like happy people as it feels “Why are they so happy what must they smile when it is not what I feel”. We can’t expect people to change if they do not wish to, and it has to be from yourself.
From someone who lacked confidence and super anxious it would go through “What if this happens and how I feel if I fail?”. it is not about failure it is about what you want to receive back from life if you don’t like what your life is currently at. How I switched it was when I put on a lot of wait being on the pill and my mum rang to tell me I had put on weight and to lose weight and I remember feeling so shallow of what I had become. I came off the pill and then my weight reduced immediately and began running and exercising and wanted to do the London Marathon. I still haven’t done that London Marathon but did a half of one instead.
I had to educate myself learning about fitness and nutrition and read a book all about food and how it can be a great source of medicine. This is true I began healthy eating and lowered my potions and then few year later I put weight on again due to actual medication which then got changed and once again I lost weight.
I had to change how I felt about myself in order to get where I wanted to be and that was achieving the things I had dreamt of and it was basically changing my routine, so going for a run as soon as I got up in the mornings, doing a run on a Sunday and then made more effort in terms of clothes. Before this though when first working at a Holiday camp because I was burning off from working in Restaurants and in the evening venues I lost a tone of weight and I was again dressing confidentally and then I was seeing someone on camp who turnout to be a low life and then met someone else there who was a dream and had to stand on my own too feet which I did and then I was married to not that person but someone who I was working with and then moved back to London, but during that time I had hit a low point.
It did mean I had to sort myself out and so I did. Looking at my life now I feel that it has made me a stronger person and seen the qualities I have that I never knew before and feel so powerful as I now have parts of my life sorted out and I think it was determination I have had all through my life.
So if something is wrong switch it, develop new habits, new skills and set goals, as without them I would have never gotten myself together and is what has helped me build my life and I do feel there is more to add to that. So dream, plan and switch you mindset so you can be the happiest you have ever been too.
Hello and happy Thursday! This is going to be my first blog of my 30 days challenge I have set for myself to write on this site everyday for 30 days.
So what do I want out of this challenge? More for my viewers and followers of this site to read and to give support to help people make a success of their life and out of rut, to help people change their mindset to getting things done and just by making one change in your life that can make huge difference.
Doing these challenges really helps me to see that I can do and what I can get done and how can I help my blogs grow along with my audience. That is how I see you guests and so I want to create content that touches your heart, your mind and soul and work together to have a better year and life.
How many of us was getting frustrated cause of Lockdown? I bet it was a lot and now we have to now crawl our way back to sanity and carry one our lives keeping our distance for a while, but carry on as if nothings happened and try to make sense of our lives again.
My blogs are in real time and I will never cover of the cracks in my life but learn from them to have a better mindset than ever before.
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Hello! I have often been a stress head and I would frantically worry. It would be of the worse case scenario that I’d think about and then it would often be when I put my head on my pillow to go to sleep, and yet stay awake from Stressing and worrying.
I remember watching Big Brother once when someone of the housemates was asked do they worry and they said no cause it’s a waste of energy and I feel that is true. I would worry about not worrying and feel it is my mind and body warning me of danger, but it is also by the influence too.
So the 1st destresser I give is have a morning, afternoon and evening ritual. So I will always have a cup of my favourite tea, Earl Grey and a good breakfast, along with playing some music and I used to watch some Youtube or when doing the school run me Henry and I would dance. In the afternoon having time to walk and explore and evenings a good dinner and some chill out time listening to music, reading a book or low level screen time catching up on some weekly TV.
The second distresser is arrange events to go to yearly or monthly to have things to look forward a throughout the year even including a holiday. We all need to get away from normality for a bit so doing different things each year or month helps to break up the weeks and months and have a date set.
We can be so hooked on existing rather than living that we all get desperate to have space and purity included so third tip is light a scented candle and read a book along with a cup of tea or hot chocolate with some favourite biscuits and again practice meditation or mindfulness. We all deserve a treat so go for it and never look back or be regretful as it is your mind saying “Make a change to everyday life”.
To feel on top of the world we have to make the effort to look after ourselves and to give ourselves 5 minutes or so to be just with our thoughts and mediation or mindfulness can help in this respect. It is about learning about what you need and so take 5 just to gain perspective and nuture yourself. Chat with those who make you feel on top of the world and are on your side. Take out negativity and just be with yourself.
So the fourth tip is, find an exercise routine to do. There are loads on Youtube that I have created a playlist for the ones I have found and want to try out. If you are paying to have Sky TV and Broadband then get your moneys worth and workout at home along with walking, running or taking part in a sport.
The fifth tip is to Take yourself out of a situation when you meet difficult people. When working in Customer service you had to be think skinned and when I was getting upset over some phone calls I moved over to the Chat and email team and it was the best move I made. It can be so hard to take yourself away in that kind of work, yet it paid well and didn’t want to leave so when I saw there was a need for another email Customer Service agent I applied and glad that I did. If you find you aren’t getting any benefit out of a job and start to withdraw yourself it means you need to change for something better. One reason why a lot of people take time off from work is due to Stress and worry.
So be good to yourself and never fear you aren’t alone in this world and can move onto better things to destress and be happy.