First of all thank you for those that have started following me on this blog, it really means a lot honestly.
There have been some changes happening here in the UK, and I bet you can guess why, because the Queen Elizabeth II has died and it been a real adjustment, but life does have to carry on and so in this blog I am talking about is Letting things go.
First of all it is good to have sentimental things, because of the memories they hold, but if it just in a draw with other stuff then it is time to make a decision about it. If it a photo, a keyring or a stone, display it, don’t hide it. Put it somewhere safe and the one thing I have done is kept a memory box. I used a paper bag of items my son had as a baby and I love having photo albums. It is good to look back and reflect.
Do you need to keep copies of items? It depends what it is. How many photos that are the same worth keeping? It all depends on the value of them, personally. What memories are stored in the photo and does it give you joy or make you sad?
Does the photo or what ever it may be, mark an anniversary that means the world to you and does it reach your heart? Does it help you to keep in contact with those that have passed on, and help you to grieve? I bet the Queen found it hard to let things go, having such a history of Queens and Kings before her, and now King Charles III will be making those choices, I bet he dare move anything, because of the Royal Family’s history. I know they display the Queens dresses I think it was at the V&A and became part of her legacy.
So, it can be being ruthless and giving yourself tough love and be honest about the different areas of your life.
Have a maybe section and have a keep sake box. I have done this and used a folder to keep cards that meant a lot and when I got married, when my son was born. I used a paper bag to keep his teether Suzy and a birthday card. I keep my medals that I got doing fundraising events and runs and walks, and they really mark a change in my life where I was trying to raise money for charity and deal with my self confidence, and so rewarding and makes me feel proud of myself.
It can be a letters. I used to have penfriends and kept on the letters, not sure as to where these are now but I kept them in a shoe box and lost touch, but again create a keepsake box and I do often wonder if they did the same. When my nan passed away we found the letters my grandad wrote to my nan during the war and were so lovely that my mum I think still has them or my Uncle may have them, but marked a era and made us see how ever much my nan and grandad would disagree they deeply loved each other and marked the war, and thinking of these letters helps me to keep in touch of my grandparents.
So it is time for me to end the day, but lets keep doing the reset and have a fresh new start to our lives.
So the one thing I have talked about in one of my videos is about Habits, and I have added few new Habits into my life now that I have done and they have just blended into my daily routine and helps shape my days.
The one thing I have is a daily routine.
Yes it does pay to be flexible on some days, but it also is good to have structure and shapes the day out for me so I know what I planned for each day and make sure I give myself breaks and I spend each day in the mornings writing in my journal.
I don’t always get up at the same time but I do have a cut off time of when I can stay in bed till and that is no later than midday, 12noon. I will also keep track of blogs scheduled that have been written and then scheduled to go live.
The same with Youtube videos.
I live by lists and have a notebook which I live in (see blog post with video about this below) as sticking with one notebook for organizing your daily work is the key to staying on track, and I will often sit down each day and go through what I have done.
I will even keep a list of blog ideas that come into my head and videos to film. A list for me isn’t a to do as then it is seen from my eyes as a chore, so I see it as a goals list as this helps me make sure it is done.
Having a daily clear out
As I have a laptop now and doesn’t have the same amount of storage as a computer I will go through my files on my laptop, to go through images and video content I don’t need to keep and delete items, making space for more videos to be done and photos to be saved.
I have a day where I will use to organize my desk and make it tidy each week and keep my room clean. I will clear out at the end of each day my emails and then list what is scheduled for the next day.
My cleaning day is usually Thursday and I have selected this day as I don’t do a Day In A Life on this day, so is free and helps re-organize and have some order for the rest of the week.
I am not a lover of cleaning and so schedule it in to make sure it does get done is the way forward for me.
Have a few days off to recuperate and catch up
When doing this it helps me to stay on track and catch up with my work and have some days off, like this week I didn’t film any Day In a life so I could catch up on the ones I have filmed but yet to be uploaded and this then makes space for me to film more.
I feel that I have to take that break to reset myself and do other things that are important that need to get done. Life is about variety and as human beings we all need that type of rest.
Food should be a hug on a plate or in a bowl and having food you enjoy is good for your wellbeing. To much of it though you can become sick of it, but having food that comforts you, is fine. Create yourself a weekly menu of meals to make and this can help you use up food you already have and make meal times fun.
Reading a good book
Find refuge in a good book can do wonders and I find self help books are a comfort along with Chick flick books such as Bridget Jones and I used to love reading Lena Kennedy. Her books were based on on the 1940s of ladies living in the streets of London.
A good book is something that makes you look forward to picking it up, and can be picked up and put down without losing where you left the story. I love reading about other people’s lives and so I do read an Autobiography aswell as fiction and I find these help give me direction and help me tell my own story.
Book are works of art in words and a good book is one that leaves an everlasting thought and you wanting more. I am so glad I was given the gift of writing as I too have books out and very proud of them. (See Amazon.com), they are under the name Carrie Challoner.
Keeping happy memories in a folder and using greeting cards as pages
I have a small blue folder from Rymans and I use this to store various photos of when I did dancing and holidays and days at school. This folder I love to look at and it stores a lot of memories that I want to keep hold of and love looking through this from time to time and will be putting more of these together.
It keep those greeting cards that you don’t want to get rid of and recycle to add photos onto the back or inside the cards.
The other reason I want to do this along with photo books and scrapbooks I put together is so they can be passed down to my kids to their kids one day.
Choose a song or a play list that helps you get out of the bed in the mornings
Every morning without fail I will put on some music and I have in my Life Coaching video list spoken in one how the Power of music has become my life, giving me empowerment and told my life story.
I even have different playlists and going to make a few more playlists of songs that wake me up in the mornings and are easy to listen too.
A Safe Haven in your home or outdoors
So this can be anywhere in your home or outdoors and I am going to create this as soon as I have my own place again. I want to create a room and have a park I go to where I have no TV, but I can listen to music, journal, just sit quietly with my thoughts or read a book.
If it is in a room of your house, you can make it just your space and design it with plants and a scented candle to let the people know who you are living with that you are in there and do not want to be disturbed and having them see or smell a certain scent tell them this, so they can join you in being quiet and be a great place to have a natter or just be by yourself for a bit.
So make each day count for you and there is no time like the present to do this then now, as we are still in Lockdown and Stay Safe, Stay Strong.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie L.M X
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Hello, it is Christmas Eve and wanted to get in another post on this site before Christmas day. I am somewhat prepared for the festive day of cheer. Still got my gifts to wrap up, but I am in the mindset this year of, it will get done, I just want to do it when I know I have one day left, or I may wrap a few today, but have decided to be more laid back about it this year.
At the end of the day will I be remembered for my gift wrapping?
You’ll never see on someone’s grave saying “She was a great person and knew just how to wrap gifts for Christmas”, it is something that we feel abliged to do, yet all that happens is that they will rip the gift wrap off, as with children especially, and just want to know what is in side the packaging, not what is on the outside.
I saw in I think it was in a Paul McKenna’s books, as he has written so many and asked “How would you like to be remembered?”. For me I want people to say I was loyal, kind heartened, once she was fan of something she was a fan for life and no matter what hurdles I had to face, in my life I was determind and never gave up, and faught back.
If you could write a letter to your younger self what would you say?
I have written a letter to my 16 year old self in the document linked below:
This is something that you should do often and compare letters to keep track of your life and remember that young girl who had a whole life ahead of you, as you still do.
It can make you take note of what you have achieved at that there were good times and if there is anything you would have changed.
For myself stop believing in Omens, because I moved to Epsom and thought seeing a cat that looked like my cat called Toby was an Omen to say to live there, yet I wish I hadn’t and believe in my gut instinct and live in London again.
Not to have left Butlins as I wanted to be a Red Coat and did often apply but then left in 2005 when I accepted that, that would never happen.
Do I believe that everything happens for a reason?
Not really I just think there are many paths that you take and you don’t have no idea of which path will lead to where but you get lead by hungar to have new chapters in your life, to be closer to people that are important to you, and as written in one of my other blogsites, relationships can change and you then can divert towards another route because it seems to be better than the other paths you’ve taken.
I think that you are influenced often by those that seem to be on your side, but like in the Film about the band Queen, Bohemium Rhapsody, where he trusts this guy who is in love with Freddy Mercury only to find he was a bad apple and was in on for himself.
These kind of people can cause you to have your guard up and become very weary of people. This year I have experienced this a lot, and I have broken my heart a lot through this year, that I can never get back but it has made me see who my real family and friends are.
Do I believe in new beginnings?
Yes I do, and that it never to late to start a new beginning. I never what to live in misery and that those that try to destroy you are just doing it, because they really are the ones that are very insecure. They just want to hit out at the closest person, and use everything against you.
Everyone has the right as we share this world we live in and so we should make room for other people who want happiness too.
If you are unhappy in a situation then it means you need to make a change to destroy that elephant in the room. Noone I believe wants to be unhappy I think we all strive to be happy, but some go the wrong way about it.
They believe if they hurt someone it will make them feel better and being horrible means that you are strong and noone can compete with you.
Yet as soon as you are horrible back they runaway like a little mouse.
So write down how you would like to be remembered for and what you would say to your younger self, that will help as you begin to continue with achieving success and happiness in your life, and remember goals can be set at anytime not just when we are in a new year.
Have a Merry Christmas and A Wonderful new year, but I will be posting more as we close this year down.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie (L.M) X
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So we are coming towards another end of a year and I have goals to achieve as we draw the end of 2020 and it is important to stay focused for the rest of 2020.
Goals and life changes, rather than resolutions, can happen at any point of a year, not just at the beginning and you can always change your life around at any time. THERE ARE NO RULES!
Always have a target in mind and know that it is never too late to try new things in your life. Madonna made it into the charts with “Like A Virgin” when she was in her thirties and Ian Wright didn’t play professional football until he was, 29 and played at Crystal Palace, before he joined Arsenal.
The one thing I would like to do to help me get into fitness is do a boxercise class, as I loved the ones that Davina McCall did on her fitness DVD’s, which I totally recommend.
Hello, hello, hello. So we are now in November and soon we will be in the famous month December.
A new year for me is a new beginning and want this time round to be a fresh start, as this year 2020, has been the hardest one I have had to face since being alive and I want it to have a happy ending and be ready for another new year ahead.
If you have seen my last two posts about setting myself new goals and establishing them, you will see that I have cut them down this year, and if you have followed me for a while on this site, I like to make Life changes rather than resolutions.
For the last 5 years I have really had to battle with my mental health and deal with people who haven’t been nice to me at all, and I have discovered who my real friends are and who my real family are.
This year I am not going to do a whole list of things, as it isn’t about quantity its about quality and what I truly want to achieve and add into my life.
I have already planned my books I am going to concentrate and write for next year to be published and I hope to expand my blog sites even more and focus sometime building up my Youtube channel again.
I have battled a lot again with my self confidence as it did get knocked quite a lot this year, but will do more exercises and journalling to help rebuild it.
For me it has always been a working progress. I need to give myself more credit and not feel like I have to answer for myself when I do.
I have met a new man in my life who loves me out of this world, and I can’t wait to start a new life with him.
I have had to build a new foundation for myself, but feel that good things will come my way, I just need to keep going, have time for myself too, but not allow anyone to dictate my life.
I like having people look out for me and take me under their wing, but not too the point where I need to ask permission to go to the toilet and it be wrong.
So I am going to keep going and add more blogs leading up to Christmas and another new year, and pray that this time round it is a brilliant start to my life and end of another chapter.
If you need help with setting goals then please check out my free printable sheet to help build your goals.
As we begin to get older our thoughts and beliefs can change, it can be due to changes that had occurred along the way. For example when we are teenagers we become more aware of our surroundings and our thoughts and fears.
Being in a accident, or someone close to you died suddenly. That’s what happened to me when I was working at a holiday resort and one of our friends one morning hadn’t turned up for work, which was very unlike him, he was always there. We had gone for a drink with him the night before, and next morning he was dead. He died of adult cot death.
It totally changed my outlook on life and made me see how quickly how life can be whisked away from you, and it made me make changes in my life, because I knew if I didn’t I would still be stuck in a rut, and I needed to get out of that.
It made me see that sometimes you can’t always choose the path you want to go, as Nigel our friend who sadly died, just one morning went to sleep and didn’t wake up.
Working for the holiday camp had changed my life too, it made me become more independent and I had to defend for myself, and it made me learn to stand on my own two feet. It could be tough and times, and when I first got there I wanted to come home, but once I found my feet I managed to start a new life for myself and I met my now husband.
It made me understand that change is often good and learning from my husband has made me see things differently too, like for example focusing on one thing at a time, instead of trying to do two things at once.
When unexpected events happen it can make you see how much time we take for granted, and it is important as I have learned as I have gotten older to accept the different things that happen in my life, and it just means you have to take a different path.
I know when there is a new chapter to begin a I can feel inside my body and mind. I start to feel like I am stuck in a rut again, and we all need change in our lives, that’s what makes our world go round. I believe now that if something is not working, time for change and a new chapter.
So seeing things differently is okay because life is about learning and understanding ourselves as well as others.
I was inspired to write this blog since coming across Tracy Hensel video “Today’s habits determines tomorrow results.
I’ve recently had to control my eating habits, as I have been diagnosed with having Type 2 diabetes. I know creating new eating habits will make me feel better about my self in the long run and feel more healthy.
Check out Tracy Hensel video below:
I made a video some time ago which I found on camera which I did post about making life changes, and creating new habits will help continue those life changes.
Just creating simple habits can help, like reduce the amount of coffee you drink or opt for decaf instead, which is one thing I have done, going on a long brisk walk once a week, or start a gratitude journal, having a huge clean up once a week.
It doesn’t have to be rocket science, it just has to be something that you feel needs to change, to help you feel better about yourself.
I have struggled with having low self confidence, having constant anxiety, and feeling continuously anxious all through my life. Making life changes can really help control those feelings, by making small gradual changes.
So want to make some changes to your lifestyle? Then why not start now, it is never too late.