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Set A Plan For 2021

25 Friday Dec 2020

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Hello and I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas as you can, being that we are in a Lockdown again.

Lockdown shouldn’t mean you have to stop creating success in your life and should egg you on to be more successful than ever before.

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Now if you have not set a plan for 2021 for this to happen then there is no time like the present. To get started I want you to look on the web and go through all the things you have already achieved. To do this on the spot can make your mind go blank so just take some time to go through this, and then write it down.

Then when looking at these achievements, ask yourself, would I like to carry these on or want different achievements for 2021? Then write new achievements you want to accomplish, and then map it how you wish to get there.

Example: I want one of my goals to be to get back working out indoors again.

  • Check online for indoor fitness workouts
  • Have your workout gear already on
  • Do the workout
  • Then schedule in another workout even if it once a week to begin with

That is mapping it out. You do not have to do a whole chunk of stuff at one time because from experience, this is not a good idea as it can cause you to give up, as you have done too much too soon.

Gradual steps is a better way to blend yourself into the change you wish to make in your life.

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Then when you have mapped it out, then I want you to put together a vision board, and you can do this using a laptop via Microsoft Publisher, physically by cutting pages or pictures from magazines or using Pinterest.

Picture the visions of you working out or running the business you want to launch, and write about it, what you see, feel, body language, how you see people seeing you and how it will change your life forever.

If you would like to add as a positive habit, as the habits we have in our lives can dictate how we feel and look at our lives and if there is an area that needs to change to help us towards our goals, then make it. Is there something you do that you wish you could stop? As a bad habit is a bad behaviour and makes us resent ourselves, but when we make a positive habit, makes us pleased with ourselves and is a good behaviour, leading us to create our dreams.

Check out my vision board I have created on Pinterest these are things I know are going to happen for me next year and other things I would like to happen, not all in the space of a month but spread out across the year 2021:

I will be creating one using my White board but going to do this after Christmas.

When you have created the vision, then keep a note of each item and decide which one you would like to do first and set a deadline.

Have a calendar so you can mark it out, and make a list of items that may get in the way of completing this goal on your vision board but can work around the item already scheduled, and it helps to go through important dates you need to keep tabs on like family members birthdays for example. It will then give you an idea of what and where will the item on your vision board will fit in.

Go through the ones that are most important for to you first, and one way to do this is circle the items or put them in a category of A, B and C.

Remember these goals are to fulfill you not make you exhausted, so them out and give yourself rest time to.

I will post more as we get to the new year as I am going to create a Course and Ebook called Project 2021 to help you have a more success life and feeling of accomplishment and a better wellbeing.

Merry Christmas and many thanks for reading,

Carrie (L.M) X

How you would like to be remembered/writing to your younger self

24 Thursday Dec 2020

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Hello, it is Christmas Eve and wanted to get in another post on this site before Christmas day. I am somewhat prepared for the festive day of cheer. Still got my gifts to wrap up, but I am in the mindset this year of, it will get done, I just want to do it when I know I have one day left, or I may wrap a few today, but have decided to be more laid back about it this year.

At the end of the day will I be remembered for my gift wrapping?

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You’ll never see on someone’s grave saying “She was a great person and knew just how to wrap gifts for Christmas”, it is something that we feel abliged to do, yet all that happens is that they will rip the gift wrap off, as with children especially, and just want to know what is in side the packaging, not what is on the outside.

I saw in I think it was in a Paul McKenna’s books, as he has written so many and asked “How would you like to be remembered?”. For me I want people to say I was loyal, kind heartened, once she was fan of something she was a fan for life and no matter what hurdles I had to face, in my life I was determind and never gave up, and faught back.

If you could write a letter to your younger self what would you say?

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I have written a letter to my 16 year old self in the document linked below:

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This is something that you should do often and compare letters to keep track of your life and remember that young girl who had a whole life ahead of you, as you still do.

It can make you take note of what you have achieved at that there were good times and if there is anything you would have changed.

For myself stop believing in Omens, because I moved to Epsom and thought seeing a cat that looked like my cat called Toby was an Omen to say to live there, yet I wish I hadn’t and believe in my gut instinct and live in London again.

Not to have left Butlins as I wanted to be a Red Coat and did often apply but then left in 2005 when I accepted that, that would never happen.

Do I believe that everything happens for a reason?

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Not really I just think there are many paths that you take and you don’t have no idea of which path will lead to where but you get lead by hungar to have new chapters in your life, to be closer to people that are important to you, and as written in one of my other blogsites, relationships can change and you then can divert towards another route because it seems to be better than the other paths you’ve taken.

https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/2020/05/ending-relationships-to-start-new-ones.html

I think that you are influenced often by those that seem to be on your side, but like in the Film about the band Queen, Bohemium Rhapsody, where he trusts this guy who is in love with Freddy Mercury only to find he was a bad apple and was in on for himself.

These kind of people can cause you to have your guard up and become very weary of people. This year I have experienced this a lot, and I have broken my heart a lot through this year, that I can never get back but it has made me see who my real family and friends are.

Do I believe in new beginnings?

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Yes I do, and that it never to late to start a new beginning. I never what to live in misery and that those that try to destroy you are just doing it, because they really are the ones that are very insecure. They just want to hit out at the closest person, and use everything against you.

Everyone has the right as we share this world we live in and so we should make room for other people who want happiness too.

If you are unhappy in a situation then it means you need to make a change to destroy that elephant in the room. Noone I believe wants to be unhappy I think we all strive to be happy, but some go the wrong way about it.

They believe if they hurt someone it will make them feel better and being horrible means that you are strong and noone can compete with you.

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Yet as soon as you are horrible back they runaway like a little mouse.

So write down how you would like to be remembered for and what you would say to your younger self, that will help as you begin to continue with achieving success and happiness in your life, and remember goals can be set at anytime not just when we are in a new year.

Have a Merry Christmas and A Wonderful new year, but I will be posting more as we close this year down.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie (L.M) X

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Looking Forward to 2021

14 Monday Dec 2020

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So looking ahead to 2021 I want some changes to come my way and I have set my goals that I am going to talk more about in my Self Confidence blog I write on my related site: https://buildingselfcon nfidencetud.blogspot.com

My self confidence is one of the areas I want to work on.

The Winner takes it all, is a line from a famous ABBA tune, but I think about when I think of when there people so jealous and become the worse version of themselves and next year I am going to get rid of such feelings that I had like that, as it is not good trait and makes you bitter. Those people who are like that end up playing games and I don’t like those that do that, as they end up making you do the same.

Looking forward to 2021 I want,

  • No more jealousy and hatred
  • Have more habits or rituals that I look forward to
  • No more sleeping in, I have done this recently, so going to set my alarm for 9am everyday
  • Speak out more from my mouth instead of my head all of the time

These are going to be life changes for 2021, so I can keep away from Jealous people as they will often befriend you, then slowly stab you in the back. I am not scared or anything I just don’t want such people in my life, and stay away from misery.

I am going to get out more and sit and have a drink in a pub, even if it is an non-alcoholic drink, and create more videos for my Youtube.

Life changes are better than resolutions as you are more likely to stick with them, and they become a breath of fresh air, rather than a burden, which resolutions can be.

I am going to a few football matches next year, as I am very proud to say that the boys I coached when they were under 8 are now playing premiership football, yes indeed and I am dying to see them, as apparently they are doing really well, and want to make sure they are okay and I am absolutley proud of everyone one of them. If you have seen them do you notice something they do, when they are substituted. I installed that into them, as the person they should always shake hands with is the manager, as they are the one who get a lot of stick and should be respected, being they are the ones that pick the team.

So here we go towards a new year and get back out there and spend time with the people who I love, who genuinely love me back and enjoy the year instead of scrapping through it, like I have done this year.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie (L.M) X

Stay Focused for the rest of 2020!

30 Monday Nov 2020

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So we are coming towards another end of a year and I have goals to achieve as we draw the end of 2020 and it is important to stay focused for the rest of 2020.

Goals and life changes, rather than resolutions, can happen at any point of a year, not just at the beginning and you can always change your life around at any time. THERE ARE NO RULES!

Always have a target in mind and know that it is never too late to try new things in your life. Madonna made it into the charts with “Like A Virgin” when she was in her thirties and Ian Wright didn’t play professional football until he was, 29 and played at Crystal Palace, before he joined Arsenal.

The one thing I would like to do to help me get into fitness is do a boxercise class, as I loved the ones that Davina McCall did on her fitness DVD’s, which I totally recommend.

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The other goals I have is to Write two books within 2 months and starting this year, now as we lead up to Christmas 2020.

Focus on what helps set your day up and gives you a purpose to get out of bed for.

NEVER STOP DREAMING OR BELIEVING! FOCUS ON THE TARGET, THE GOAL AND THE FINAL OUTCOME!

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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Living A More Productive List 2020!

27 Friday Nov 2020

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Now even though the beginning of this year was rocky, I did still accomplish many things, like more books and two EBooks, see my listings below:

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I created two online courses and another one is being developed. So I will let you know when this course will be available. See link to my education network below:

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I am working on 3 books at the moment as I am re-writing my first book of The Parenting Adventures Pregnancy to the first 9 months. I will let you know when this is published, a comedy and a rewritten book called the Peabody Years.

So to go into 2021 and be more productive, I am going to draft a load more blogs to post, as there is so much I wish to share, and slow down a bit more.

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You can still be productive and take it easy too, but just focusing on 2-3 things each day and week, is much better than doing a whole 25 things to do list. I was doing this and then would blow myself out, and I do take a break from it too, in parts of the year.

JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BUILD A NEW LIFE, DOESN’T MEAN YOU SHOULDN’T TAKE A WELL EARNED BREAK. YOU CAN STILL BE PRODUCTIVE BY TAKING SOME TIME OUT TO DO OTHER THINGS!

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As said in my previous posts, it isn’t about quantity but quality, and I really want to take my family to Disney World and have a well earned holiday, as it has been a while, go to a music festival, if they are on, and have loads of family time.

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Being productive is achieving the things that make you feel good, energized and ready to continue on. If you find parts of your life is boring and needs a change, then make it.

Live your life as you wish to, as long as it isn’t trying to hurt another person, but that makes you and those around you happy. Whenever I have gone out and had a drink with friends, I do get buzz from them, as I love to see them enjoy themselves too, and as it is Christmas soon, I want the rest of this year to be about spending time with those that truly love me, and who I love back and next year to be, about going out more and doing more adventures.

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I am super in love and that is making me really look forward to next year and what it will bring. I want to do Stand up again, like I did when working at Butlins, write more music like I used to and develop an online shop.

I am going to take my time next year, so no rushing, as I was once called Mrs Rush Rush Rush, but have a purposeful day and do what is important to help me and adds value to my life.

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So lets get ready for 2021 and see what it brings. Remember to live it like you want to and don’t allow those that want to continue to be haters and unhappy to stop you.

Please check out my new video, showing more of what I like to write on this channel and please remember, if you wish to keep up to date with my posts on this site, to click the follow button below.

So there will be more to come and I want to share an Erin May Henry video talking about my much love subject, setting goals, as they map your life for more good things to come and helps you to grow.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

P:S: Here are some links to further posts and sites I have created for this year, along with some new Youtube videos:

My Youtube Channel:

https://www.youtube.com/user/cazzacheers1

My JustGiving Page:

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/theparentingadventuresprematurebirths

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Goals Questionnaire For 2021!

26 Thursday Nov 2020

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Hello and welcome!

So as we draw nearer to Christmas it will soon be another year over, into a new year and if you haven’t set your goals, now’s the time to start.

To help you I have created a Printable for you, to help you set your goals for 2021, and is a questionnaire.

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I have set out my goals that I have mentioned in previous posts written recently, that I have separated my goals in three categories:

  • Home
  • Work
  • Play

I would like to do a video on this, but going to do this in the new year, as I have so many things I would love to develop too.

So set your goals and don’t hold back, be ruthless and aim high.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

P.S: Check out my JustGiving page that I have set up to donate money to Tommy’s who support families who have experience Stillbirths and Premature births:

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Being Human and not a cretin

24 Tuesday Nov 2020

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This post is in relation to one I have posted before, and wanted to touch on this subject again, because still there are people who want to do harm to people, and as far as I am concerned has no place in society when they do so.

Check out my previous post:

Being Super Human

Bullies and those that carry out abuse to another human, do posses a certain criteria.

  • They will blame other people for the abuse they carry out and bullying, whilst carrying on abusing and bullying
  • often they will diguise themselves as nice people at first to cover up what they will do, once they have won a person over. This overshadows often those who are genuinely nice
  • They will exclude and put people in a corner so that person has no where to go
  • A hug or sexual contact is not genuine and false, and is manipulation, and you can tell when they begin to get aggressive or slowly show their violent trait, that they are going to get worse,

If you spot any of these signs,

“Call Out and Get Out”

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They are just examples above and as far as I am concern they are Cretins.

You may see yourself as a constant target, because you are a good person and they are jealous of everything you do.

Ignore and fight back, but there is a song by, Kelly Clarkson, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. I remember reading a guys article disputing this line, but it is true because you can come out of the other side, you often spot the signs quicker and find that you do have inner strength, that you never thought you had.

As soon as someone takes jab at me, I will strike a bigger blow and you can do it too, and I do think that they should teach self defence in schools, to help and teach children to be street wise, and be able to fight back.

Can you still run a business when you know there are people against you ?

Absafuckinglutley, and in fact you should in all busnesses you run, if you have staff that work for you, you should have an Anti bullying or abuse policy, so if it carries on, you can deal with it and stop it.

Noone has the right to prevent someone in doing their job or run a business, and those Cretins should be moved on and given an instant Criminal Record, if not banged up in Prison, as soon as it has been proven that they are guilty and for their own safety as they can be their own worse enemy, as there are those that will fight harder and put those in my experience, not saying I have done this, but I know it can happen, in hospital, which really noone wants.

My dad as a kid was fed up of seeing me getting bullied and got me in the Living room and said right, and he gave me some gloves that were mini boxing gloves and showed me how to throw a punch, and it did protect me in the end, and no I don’t condone violence, but you can’t always walk away and I know I have said this a lot in my blogs, but want to keep saying this, because it is true.

So kick out and get those Cretins away from us, and keep fighting, being determined and you will still succeed, where they won’t because they get too caught up in hating people, who can build success and they can’t.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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A Successful Dream Builder

20 Friday Nov 2020

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To build dreams and visions always set yourself, if not a whole to do list or goals list, do “A task a day”. I have had to learn this myself as I do many times given myself so much to do, that no wonder I end up feeling bogged down and like “I can’t do all this”.

We aren’t put on this planet to do so much we are only one person and so we need to be kinder to ourselves and allow ourselves breathing space too.

Life isn’t doing 20 things at once but doing what you can that makes you feel fulfilled and happy to be doing them, not because you have to.

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Being a writer of many things, music, books and blogs that I can get so caught up in it sometimes and become blown out.

So now I focus on three things.

  • Home
  • Work
  • Play

I then will,

  • Prioritize
  • Be SMART (specific Measure Aim Rest Time)
  • Break it down
  • Be ruthless with some decisions
  • Aim high but not do too much at one time

A vision is a dream, and as you go through the tasks or task you plan to do, make sure they have a true purpose. Do you need to vacuum everyday? Do you really need to sort through your wardrobe all the time?

No one is going to be famous for vacuuming or cleaning but for what they truly got out of life.

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People like to know how they accomplished in winning a Gold Medal not how many times he would do his laundry or for sorting out his running gear all the time.

We spend so much time on existing but not living and to get the most of your days, is have a purpose not a chore.

If you see things as chores all the time, the less you are in achieving all of them, but if you set a purpose example, I will dust my home as it helps clear my mind, it will help you do this so you can feel less messy in your head.

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I love having dreams and as far as I am concerned they are healthy, because they help me to carry on and push forward.

Yes that inner critic will often speak to and hold me back, but I tell it off now, and my positive voice will step in and that is the one I listen to.

If I find something daunting I find a way to make it easier for myself without going over and over it in my head about 15 times.

So set your dreams and your goals and don’t do everything at once but live your life that makes you get out of bed each day and be happy that is what we all want in the end.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Establishing your goals to end 2020, to get ready for 2021

17 Tuesday Nov 2020

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If you haven’t read my previous post related to this one then please click on the following to link to read it.

Setting Goals for 2021

Following on from that post I want to help you Establish your goals to end 2020, to get ready for 2021.

What do I mean?

Well, first off,

  • Go through and tick off each one that you have accomplished
  • Then what you still would like to achieve that is in your goals list
  • Have any of them changed?
  • What can I still complete by the end of this year?

Goals are like a guide to building yourself as a person, as a mother, a business owner and at home, like wanting a bigger house, or you want to give your home a make over.

With goals it can be anything that will start and end in a positive outcome, to lifting yourself up even more.

As in my previous post, goals can be as bizarre as you want, and keep tabs on the changes of path you take. That is common when you set goals, they are forever growing and evolving.

Life is full of many things and no matter where you are, there are always those who dream big and get it. Never allow this thought to make you jealous. I have come to realise that Jealousy is not a good trait to have, as it makes you hateful and resentful, and I never want to be these two things.

Goals should be able to grow with people who want to the same as you too, and be a shoulder to cry on and a support system, that you know if you fall they are there to lift you up again and in return they do the same.

So establish and go through your goals and never allow anyone to knock you down and stop you.

It’s your life and you owe it to yourself to have the life you have always dreamed of, and there is no excuse to stop, as when you are there, it feels like you are on top of the world and continue to grow even more.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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Setting Goals for 2021

16 Monday Nov 2020

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So this time of year I start to think about what goals I would like to achieve for the next coming year. Doing this on a regular basis really helps you to take check of where you are at, and how far you have come and what you still have or would like to do next.

Life is a journey, and some may not like that word, but it is true. Even though this year was a sticky beginning, I still set myself goals and changed them through the part of this year.

There will be people who will knock you down, but if they do, let it be a trigger to keep you going. Noone has the right to tell you how you should live your life, unless you are hurting people, and to trash all over it.

I am going to make less goals this year, because I have realised that it is not about doing everything under the sun, but what truly matters to you, and what you really want to get out of the next chapter of your life.

So never stop dreaming or believing and set the goals.

Instead of the normal ones I make this year, I am going to make it simpler by having three categories, Home, Work and Play.

Home is anything you would like to change about your current living situation, Work is what you would like to achieve in your career or your work status, if you like me work for yourself and Play, is for example, getting fitter, try a new activity, do a course or spend more time with friends, and they can be as bizarre as you would like them to be.

Goals are there to build you up and what will make you truly happy, that will give you a reason to get out of bed for.

Here is a printable sheet to help you set your goals for 2021.

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Live your life as you would like to live it and be happy, be strong and that helps others be happy in your life too.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X