So in this post I am talking about Extreme Youtubing, and the extent that People will go to, to create content and I came across a video about How to put on your Video and Skype Call face on. This is after a I did a video about not exploiting or trying to out do someone and showing your body to the world and people getting the wrong idea of things.
Please watch this video:
Most of the time when we are video or skype calling in our own homes, its with our mates and I don’t see someone saying “Don’t call me via Video or Skype, I want you to put your video and Skype call face on first”.
If someone had ever said that to me I would not call them fall stop, and leave them to chat with themselves. I think that this shows how many people worry about appearances too much, as that is not important. I would not stop talking to someone because they have decided to have a no make up day.
I suppose you are wondering why this has any relevance to Life Coaching, well basically when we feel we are’t having a fulfilled life we can blame ourselves because of the way we look and feel ashamed of ourselves.
Let me tell you from someone who doesn’t always like to look in the mirror, appearances are not important but being human is and as long as you show love and compation then appearance is at the bottom of the list and its your personality that will shine through.
So Look after yourself, be true, be strong and never allow anyone stop you for wanting a better and happier life.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie (L.M) X
P.S: All my blogs and videos for my Life Coaching programme, “Project 2021” can be found via my Pinterest and my Squarespace site:
Hello this blog post is talking about Exploitation and copying and is part of my Life Coaching Programme “Project 2021”.
This post includes a video, where by I address obsessive Copying and Exploitation, because there are people who will steal people’s work to have for themselves and is an insult and disrespect to the person who has made the time and effort to create that work and so why do that? Please watch this video:
I love being inspired and it is good to see how other people do things and is how I got into blogging, but I believe in creating your own stamp on things, and making it yours. I have created this programme to help people to have a better life and one area I want to address is those who copy others, because they can’t be original and do their own work. There are those who exploit themselves by filming themselves naked and showing their body parts to try and score points over someone thinking it is going to get them more noticed.
Let me say, this does not and it is making you look obscene and downright disgusting and let’s face it, would you want to see a mans bits or a womens bits when eating your steak and chips, settling down to watch some Youtube? No.
So be real, be true and make your work your own.
Many thanks you reading,
Carrie (L.M) X
P.S: I will be posting more each day and you can see all my posts for my Life Coaching “Project 2021” Programme on Pinterest:
I also have a Facebook Group to if you would like to join:
Hi and happy Tuesday! So below is a video I created to Introduce my Life Coaching programme I have created starting this year called “Project 2021” talking about what is going to be included and that you can watch the videos for free on this site and on Youtube, or when I create them into Life Coaching course, and I will keep you posted as to when that is set up.
There will be more videos and blogs included so please keep watching and reading, and if you would like to be kept up to date with the posts and videos on this site, please click the follow option below.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie (L.M) X
P.S: I have a Facebook page and a Pinterest board dedicated to this programme too:
So as part of my Project 2021, which is a Life Coaching Programme I am putting together to help you my readers of my blog post try to have a better year than last and with that I want to put up a lot of Slogans too, and here I show a Slogan on one of my jumpers from Amazon, which Says “Be Kind” and is featured in my first Project 2021 video.
This first Youtube Video dedicated to this programme Project 2021 is about using Laughter to help make you feel better about passed issues and events, and can help you feel better about the things that once bothered you. Laughter is a great source of medicine to being more happy about life.
I will be adding this footage to the Online Course I want to do too, dedicated to this Life Coaching Programme, and I have linked my first blog on this site about 2021, below, so go ahead and see the link which includes the link to my dedicated Facebook Group too.
Being able to laugh at situations can really help you through the days and weeks, and when I have days where I feel a bit down, I try to find items that will make me laugh and feel better.
It is a great source of happiness and those endorphins aren’t to be missed but taken advantage of, and you will soon be happier about things that have taken place in your life, which at first seemed to be the hardest moments; I find writing items in my books that I found humorious to be a great way to do that, as well as sad times, and sometimes writing sad stories you can still add a comical stamp on it.
So keep going, stay strong and never give up believing.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie (L.M) X
P.S: Please check out my Pinterest board dedicated to this Life Coaching programme:
This post is for my new Programme I have created called Project 2021, giving a lot of Life Coaching Tools and Information, and will be put up on my Pinterest page and my Facebook book I have created for it too; See below at the end of this post:
Here are my Top Ten Life Coaching Tips:
1). Listen to empowering music that gives you that inner strength of, lets have a good day. It is one of the things I do as soon as I wake up, and helps me to wakeup slowly and look forward to the day
2). Find someone that inspires you. I first learned about Life Coaching when I was feeling lost and I came across a site which had some short videos of people talking to a guy on the stage Called Tony Robbins and I was so takenaback as he would have some audience members telling him their story and to find help from him of how to deal with certain situations. Such as a relationship breakdown, how to stop feeling stuck in a rut and were looking for support in their difficult situation. When he spoke it did feel like he was also talking to me, and has inspired me no end. You need to find those that helps to bring your confidence out and not make it complicated. So someone even if it s an actor or singer that brings a smile to your face and gives you everlasting energy
3). Change your routine. If your bored of doing the same thing everyday, then change it and do something different in your days. This may mean coming out of your comfort zone, but it will give you better energy to stick with the change of routine, and if there is something you have always wanted to do, then do it
4). Don’t let Lockdown stop you from having a good day. So if you feel you need to go out then do, if you want to see a friend then do. If they live far away but you have a way to contact them, then go ahead and why not download Zoom and have a meeting where you can see each other, grab a coffee and have a well earned chat
5). Never give up on love. Sometimes it is hard to come by and I have learned last year that those who would make out they adored you, sometimes used it to disguise their hatried towards me and so I pulled away and I felt so relieved by doing so. Often people like that can make you feel inadequate. If your gut instinct tells you, “no they aren’t really my friends”, if they give a smirk or look like they may be talking behind your back, then don’t waste your time with them. Find those who make you feel important in their life and that your friendship with you is valued
6). Spend more time with your family. We can get so lost in our work, especially at home, but taking two hours a day to spend with your kids, whether it is baking, playing a board game or watching a TV programme. We can often feel unfulfilled by our work, when we don’t get to spend time with those we love, so take that time and then go back to your work later
7). Write a letter to those that have passed away in your life and say the things you wish you had wanted to say, but never got the chance to when they were alive and it will heal the pain of their lose. I am gutted that I never got to see my dad before he died, and it was like a thud when it hit me. At first it didn’t sink in, and then at his funeral it did, and I felt so sad that my words were never heard by him, and losing a parent that once protected you, is hard to face. I still go over it, and I think that regret will always be there, but I have found, that listening to music he loved and I did too, gives me comfort and I haven’t done this yet written a letter, as you do have to be ready too, but will as I think I need to get out what I had wished to have said and then it is there
8). Get to know who you are. This took me a while to know who I really was, and by doing many things in my life, like writing, listening to music, reading and watching TV and Youtube, made me get to know who I was. I am someone who can be quiet, enjoys her own company, but likes good relationships to the point all I want to do is be with them non stop and when I let my hair down I go for it. I have never been someone who slept around, or did drugs, but I just liked to go out, dance, with friends and get other people to enjoy themselves too and just be me.
9). Stop competing with your self. I have often done this and had many people in my life, acting as if they can do anything and be good at, to score a point over me, judging if I could or not. I never point score, but have found I have had to catch myself, as those types of people can suck you in. Be your bestfriend and not an enemy
10). Reward yourself. If you have exercised or taken up a new skill, then reward yourself and give yourself credit. I can be so critical of myself that I sometimes have to say “Look shut up and let me be”. We do need to be kinder to ourselves and when you do something that made you smile then have that well earned alcoholic drink, or takeaway. Lets just live without having regret or feelings of guilt and have a happier life than before
See my Pinterest board, dedicated to my New Programme, Project 2021:
Hello and welcome to my new blog post. In this blog I am going to talk about, Kick start your year by developing a new story of your life.
I often would get upset about the end of the year as I would get overwhelmed of what I didn’t do and wanted to do and would re-write the things I wanted to do, into the next year.
One tip# Stop making resolutions and make life changes as from my own experience, you are more likely to accomplish your goals set out and do the things you had planned.
If you could write a book about your life at the moment what would you write and share?
What positive feelings do you get when sharing your story?
Often we can feel stuck in a rut at the end of the year because we go round in circles a lot like I have in the passed, and this happenes it means we need to stop and develop a new story of our life.
So ask yourself, what would I like to be remembered for?
What do you wish to accomplish this new year?
How would I like my year to end?
At the end of each year I like to write in my journal and reflect over it, aswell as talk about it on this site and others (see below) and this year I found some questions online that helped me to do that:
When you create a new story then start going through your year and see where you can improve and alter so your goals benefit you not overwhelm you.
Never give yourself too much to do, and remember to do a list on things you want to do rather than got to do, example:
What keeps you calm and happy?
Is there a certain time in your day that overwhelms you or wish you could change?
Do you have a time in your day when you can take it easy? If so could this be implemented during other times of the day?
Who would you like to see this year that you didn’t get to see last year?
Where would you like to go this year?
What picture do you want to paint about your life this year?
Your top 3 goals
So I am going to have board on my Pinterest with a lot of Life Coaching tools, and this will be with my New Year Project, which I want to do yearly, called Project 2021.
Here is a worksheet that I have created as one of my own Life Coaching tools and you can download and print it if you wish too:
Hello and welcome! Now you aren’t seeing things I was writing this blog post at 3:25am, and once again someone has tried to destroy my soul, but everytime this happens I am not going to stay down but fight and let them know that they don’t scare me at all, and are just doing it for the sake of it.
I would sleep but if you read my previous blog post I have been having terrible nightmares. I can’t wait to start again and have a fresh new year to create and make lots, for you, and would like to say Thank you from the bottom of my heart for following me on this site and for liking my posts too. I do want to be away from my present situation. I no longer want to live where I was in Epsom, but live in London still and want a new life.
So how do you handle those who try to destroy and never support you,
Don’t give them the benefit. I.E: Focus on those who do have your back and if you aren’t ready to talk about it, allow the time with the person to switch off from those trying to hurt you
Create a plan to move away from them, and never allow their anger to rub off on you, and set them straight that they do not intimidate you, and they are making themselves look senile and stupid
Tell someone outside the situation. I suppose this is related to the first tip, but there are those that can have your back, but once you try to talk to them, they can shut you down and say to you that they do not wish to be invoved, so talking to someone on the outside, can be your safesst option
If they try to inprison you can call the Police as it is illegal to do this. It is a form of emotional abuse and a form of bullying
Bullies come as a pack usually, not as an individual so see if you can speak with the culprit on their own or have someone with you, to confront them. I used to think this wasn’t a good idea, but often when they see they can’t hurt you to get the reaction they want, they will give in or get more angrier and if they physically harm you then don’t stay silent, get help and support
If they begin to exclude you then don’t let this get to you, and get out of the situation for a bit. If they try to isolate you allow them to do so, so you can pop out and be with the rest of the world for a bit
They may try to push as many boundaries as possible to press your buttons, that will make you turn and be physical with them. Make it clear that they can do what they want but are just going to make it worser for themselves, and you do not care
If they start using your kids against you and not allowing you time with the children in your family, even if they aren’t yours then remind them you care for them too and would not do them any harm, or inform them if you are the parent of the child that you have a right to be with your kids not them. If they aren’t the mother either talk to the parent of what that person keeps doing and then talk to them once they are on their own to say, that there behaviour is not right and that you have a right to talk and entertain those children too
They turn everything you say. Keep a journal with date and details of the conversation, or record it. When they do this then remember that their hurtful words are more about them and not you. They just feel that you should be target number one, and want to bring you down to their level.
They make you feel that you are fighting a losing battle, because you feel that you can’t win, no matter what you do. So just do what you can. I got blamed about washing up, yet I always washed up but then someone didn’t like me doing that, so it was like “So what do you want me to do?”
Life can feel especially when you have these people in your lives hard work, but it needs not to be and so have a safe haven, a place you can go to take you away from those people, mine is my local gardens or the town where I now live in London.
Have something that helps you stay calm, as often people who want to destroy are doing it to get a reaction of hate back and to make you cry or be angry.
Meditation is a great way to switch off, or like I do, I get engrossed in my work whilst listening to music and sing my heart out, and this helps me stay calm, focused on the things that do love me and I love too.
Please stay true to yourself and strong and we can get through the time that are tough together and get rid of the negativiity that can often takeover our lives.
I wish you a good week as it is Monday again, and if I don’t post before new years Eve, then Happy New year and lets embrace 2021, which shines with many positive things.
I am listening to an ABBA song because music is one of my many healers, I was in the process of talking to a person in my life about this year and I still can’t talk about the first 5 months of this year, without wanting to break down.
I wrote a post, reviewing this year and want reflect on it too, as I want to address some parts that I am finding hard to talk about.
So at the beginning of his year from December to this year in March I was shaking like a leaf, was taking Diazapans, aswell as other medication and was a total mess. I was being hurt and if I say what, I know there will be people who won’t believe me, but I miscarried a lot this year without telling anyone.
I have been seeing someone new, as my marriage was over and I have now a proper true love but he was targetted to, and I have said this before, but it has felt like 4 years in one.
I was very suicidal and had a nervous breakdown indoors at one point and I still reflecting, I was having the most horrific nightmares that I am still having them, where I was going to be raped by a gang of bent Police officers, or be involved in a plane crash or be in a building that was collasping, the list goes on and on, but all there needs to be said is that they were so horrible that I still can’t sleep through the night.
Even now I write this I am breaking down, as honestly they have been the most horrendous nightmares I have ever had and I have been sleeping this part of he year up until midday, because I am scared of going to sleep at night.
I just was living in a nightmare, that at one point I thought would never end. I am writing about it now because I would never want anyone reading this to ever go through that. I realised that those who were making out were my friends, weren’t and that also were in my dreams too.
I feel very let down by some people and want this year to be gone. The other good thing that happened for me though, is that I am now a full time writer, which has been one of my ambitions since I was a kid, and I hope to be working in TV by next year, if all goes to plan.
I am now listening to a track that I have played a lot this year and it is the song, One & One by Robert Miles sung by Maria Nayler. It really has made me look at my life and see that there were a lot of begruding people in it, and I just want rid of all of that.
I want to be allowed at 42 years old, to live the life I have always wanted. I never once ever begrudged anyone, I was envious of people but knowing how they were, very two-faced some of them, glad that I am not like them and I am my own person, and have made my own journey into being the woman I was always destined to be, and I need to learn to give myself more credit than I do, as I can be my own worst enemy, and to stop doubting myself and that I can make it happen for myself.
So I want you all to do one thing for me. Look at yourself life like you have never done before and go through all that you have achieved in your life and the person you are and want to be.
You can do this anytime and at any age. I was writing journals since I learned to write which was very early as a kid, and loved making stories and writing music. It was a hobby that allowed me to switch off and be in my own little world. Keeping a journal is another way I am going to do this too.
Let me know what you have written down if you wish to share them with me either in the comments section below or if you would like me to see but not publish on this blog you can email me at carriesblognetwork@gmail.com.
So I hope the next few days before the new years is a relaxing one for you and there will be more to come on this site and I will keep you posted, once I have these up on this site.
Hello and I hope you all had a wonderful Christmas as you can, being that we are in a Lockdown again.
Lockdown shouldn’t mean you have to stop creating success in your life and should egg you on to be more successful than ever before.
Now if you have not set a plan for 2021 for this to happen then there is no time like the present. To get started I want you to look on the web and go through all the things you have already achieved. To do this on the spot can make your mind go blank so just take some time to go through this, and then write it down.
Then when looking at these achievements, ask yourself, would I like to carry these on or want different achievements for 2021? Then write new achievements you want to accomplish, and then map it how you wish to get there.
Example: I want one of my goals to be to get back working out indoors again.
Check online for indoor fitness workouts
Have your workout gear already on
Do the workout
Then schedule in another workout even if it once a week to begin with
That is mapping it out. You do not have to do a whole chunk of stuff at one time because from experience, this is not a good idea as it can cause you to give up, as you have done too much too soon.
Gradual steps is a better way to blend yourself into the change you wish to make in your life.
If you would like to see more about my fitness then check out my site:
Then when you have mapped it out, then I want you to put together a vision board, and you can do this using a laptop via Microsoft Publisher, physically by cutting pages or pictures from magazines or using Pinterest.
Picture the visions of you working out or running the business you want to launch, and write about it, what you see, feel, body language, how you see people seeing you and how it will change your life forever.
If you would like to add as a positive habit, as the habits we have in our lives can dictate how we feel and look at our lives and if there is an area that needs to change to help us towards our goals, then make it. Is there something you do that you wish you could stop? As a bad habit is a bad behaviour and makes us resent ourselves, but when we make a positive habit, makes us pleased with ourselves and is a good behaviour, leading us to create our dreams.
Check out my vision board I have created on Pinterest these are things I know are going to happen for me next year and other things I would like to happen, not all in the space of a month but spread out across the year 2021:
I will be creating one using my White board but going to do this after Christmas.
When you have created the vision, then keep a note of each item and decide which one you would like to do first and set a deadline.
Have a calendar so you can mark it out, and make a list of items that may get in the way of completing this goal on your vision board but can work around the item already scheduled, and it helps to go through important dates you need to keep tabs on like family members birthdays for example. It will then give you an idea of what and where will the item on your vision board will fit in.
Go through the ones that are most important for to you first, and one way to do this is circle the items or put them in a category of A, B and C.
Remember these goals are to fulfill you not make you exhausted, so them out and give yourself rest time to.
I will post more as we get to the new year as I am going to create a Course and Ebook called Project 2021 to help you have a more success life and feeling of accomplishment and a better wellbeing.
Everyone can build a castle 