Hello, here is my new Newsletter for June 2022, it talks about the Platinum Jubilee and what is to come now we are in Summer and is free to view and about my Life Coaching programme “Summer Project 2022”.
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It Sunday evening and I am in my bedroom and aswell as listening to a chat of Fearn Cotton and Sara Fox, and I have been challenging myself this month to sort out one area a day in my life, including my blogs and social media sites, and tomorrow I want to do each Monday a Reset, and do my laundry, Vacuum and change my bedding and have a really good morning reset to begin the week.
Yet as soon as I think of it the energy in doing these tasks, puts me off. I know I will be like, “I’ll do it once I have had my first cup of tea”, “Oh let me just watch this Youtube video and I’ll get it done”, are you the same? Comment below.
I also need to call the doctors because I have a swollen eye due to Hayfever, and has been really sore, and only just remembered that, as I write this blog post. I know I can do a reset, but especially in the morning I am going to have to really push myself to get out of the bed to do anything. Yet last week before I had my first cuppa and breakfast did a sort out of my clothes. Seeing the result made it worth it. I know I am going to be nervous about calling the doctors, because it is so hard to get an appointment and means putting other stuff off, and I don’t like bothering my doctor. Its the mindset of “It’s only a swollen eye I am sure it will go”, but who knows.
I am guilty of putting things off, example I bought Henry, my son a new pair of shorts from Sainsbury’s but they are too small and so have to take them back, but I haven’t. However I have decided to keep them and donate them, and will get my son another pair. I have learned that if I don’t take them back they will still be good for someone else to wear and done my bit for charity. So I don’t feel that bad about them not being returned.
“You’ll find ways to get it done and still see results”
I am a one bit at a time person and hate rushing. I have to stop myself from jumping in with both feet, because I get overwhelmed. It means slowing down, but a moderate pace.
Do you do reset each week or perhaps everyday? Where to you begin?
For me it has to be in eye view, and of course I am not going to vacuum as soon as I wake up, which is usually around about 5am, as I know it wouldn’t be appreciated. So it will have to be a sociable hour around 8am, or is that too early? Anyway I will get up and start once I know I am not going to disturb anyone else and get it done.
Well where do I begin. Yes what to do When you mess up?
I have messed up a lot, like when I was working for a Marketing company, my first full-time job and was an Office Junior, sent a load of books which had peoples names on them, didn’t see them and sent them to the wrong person. My heart sunk and then I was helping with Printing out sheets for a project and printed a load of them to the point the documents all over the place.
We all can mess up, and get things wrong but it is how to deal with it that will help you so continue to grow in your life, and remember “We are all human” we will get it wrong.
The powerful thing you can do is to admit it not run away.
The feelings you get when you mess up is gut wrenching and like “How do I deal with this and turn it around so I prevent it from happening again?” and make it right. For me it is “Can this be fixed?”
Yes it can. I analyse a lot and it drives me mad, as I have done some stupid things and yet I still kept a roof over my head and I have achieved things in my life. I would call myself a lot a nightmare, but really its reality. I find it hard to deal with.
I have questioned my life and why I keep messing up?
I think because I don’t often feel worthy and imposter syndrome and that there things I do still like to have in my life and scared of “What if I never get the chance?”.
Yet this is someone who has achieved a lot and even writing that, I hear the voice saying “Really, your not supposed to feel like that and that is being big headed”.
Do you ever feel this way?
It’s the voice of doubt and the one that can stop me in my tracks sometimes, but I have a way to deal with the inner critic, and is “Hear it, talk to it and push it away”.
We have all made a mess in our lives, and that it can be rectified. It’s believing in yourself and not be so harsh on yourself.
It can become draining, and so putting the gut wrenching feeling when you mess up, is to say “Ok I didn’t get it right this time, but I will and this is going to make me stronger” and it has.
Today I had an appointment to got to early and so because I was early thought I’d get a coffee and had a muffin…but issue:
My Latte was cold, and no not an Iced Coffee, and so I had to take it back and they put in hot water, and having a new habit, not buying a coffee out as much has made a huge saving. I have a coffee machine where I live so I have been using it, I’ve kept a jar of coffee over in my sons home, where he lives with his dad, and so when I go over there I will have a coffee there, and it has blown my mind, that it just takes one new habit that can turn a corner in your life. Making one change, one habit, has been elevating.
I have written an EBook called: Things to Change one day at a time and just by altering your routine and positive habits bit by bit can really change how you live, how you feel and how others see you. I want to be reliable and practice what I preach, and now I don’t sleep with my phone, and I have cold showers, and so I have been getting up early and not changing my alarm time set, and I get up dressed with my cup of tea and then coffee at home, and that begins my day on a high, rather than scraping myself off the bed.
Life has a purpose. Live by your means and with every bit of life that needs changing, do it. If it going to make you happy, smile and wake up with full energy, then it is totally worth it.
Hello this another Life Coaching video as part of my Life Coaching programme, “2022 Project”, helping you to have a happier life and a year.
To get to grips with your life, it is good to be strong and guided. This time last year I was in a Mental Health hospital and wished I had known about these places as I would have checked myself in, as like many I found the lockdowns we had, was effecting my mental health, by not being able to go out and explore, and I love walking and visiting different places, but due to Lockdown I couldn’t.
Develop your understanding of what is good in your life and why and what is not, and do you want to be good or the bad?
Never Promise if you can’t deliver, because there is such a thing as false promises and when we don’t follow through we feel failure. Doing is better than promising.
Develop a life that is personal to you. So now I am back walking again, long distances and as soon as I see people running, I feel I am not doing enough, yet walking is just as good and so don’t do things just because of other people but what will benefit you
Get in touch with your spirituality. I have had a tough nine years where I allowed my mental health dictate my life and not getting in touch with myself and so began praying again, because, for me that helps and I listen to my soul and gut rather than my heart and mind
Stop comparing. I should hold a reward for this because I am guilty as sin. I have learnt and I do what suits me and love myself, rather than looking at someone else and feel inadequate
Creating different systems. This came from watching Mel Robbins Reset, check it out, and if you want to remember something like a pair of shoes for walking, I put them out so I can slip them on and go. Being a parent I would make sure I had items I could grab and go, as hate forgetting. Sorry what was that, I said, I don’t like forgetting, so leave items in full view so I know I will remember
Create good patterns. I now make sure I set an alarm in the mornings, to make sure I have a good sleep pattern, as 4 hours sleep which I used to sleep for, did me no good and so I now go to bed between 8 and 9pm and wake up by 8:30am. I don’t have lunch until I go over to my son’s house to wait for him to return from school and stops me snacking and I love reading my book whilst travelling, as i learn a lot this way
Give back what others have given you. I do this by thanking the bus driver for taking me safely to my last stop, I will buy nice cards and presents for family and what I do need to do is remember to write thank you cards, as I always forget and so will make an effort to do this, and feeling bad from not doing so.
Get rid of anger by making changes in your life. Example hating your job, and feel you don’t connect with the people you work with. Look for a new place to work that has a better atmosphere. I had jobs like this, when working for a computer company, and there was a lot of back stabbing and felt so uncomfortable so I left, and followed my dream to work at a Holiday camp and finally got the chance, to leave my old life in London and Surrey for the south coast and was a brilliant experience.
Make yourself be heard, Staying silent never helps and so set boundaries, making it clear of what they are. and stand your ground. This is not contradicting number 9, as you can do this to prevent anger, but just sitting and talking to people and teach others to do the same. Sitting having a conversation about what upsets us, rather than a shouting match.
It is all about keeping your head held high and to realise your value, and that you have a part to play in this world just like everyone else.
Are you worried about rushing into things, like taking a promotion at work?
You’d like to go for it but something is holding you back.
Evaluate and write down the fears and take time to go through your worries and concerns, and what would help you overcome these fears you are having.
You may be thinking would I have to do extra hours?
Would I be able to earn more money?
Would it require working on different days unlike what I do now?
Would I cope with the promotion and am I capable of leading a team?
Perhaps you want to write a book, but you feel you are incapable and that you feel you can’t compete with other writers.
Use these fears to push yourself into gear and be in the mindset that YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!
Life is full of chances to change your life, for example I have unknown to me got more followers on Pinterest and it meant adding more content to the pins that I have worked on and its building and building yourself that you need to focus on. Facing your fears of what is stopping you,
THE NEED TO BE DEALT WITH!
Just start by writing and answering the above questions.
Begin to picture yourself writing the book or taking the promotion you really want to go for, and write one thing that would push you forward.
If you want to write a book, start by jotting down notes and your ideas. Imagine yourself writing the book, picture the scene of the book, like you would when watching a movie.
Start building and putting together the reason why you want to go for the promotion or write a book how will it improve you life?
Perhaps you feel you can’t write a book because you don’t read books, then there is no time like the present to begin reading books. It really helps when putting your own book together, and finding the style that works for you.
If you get a promotion and your worried that the relationship with your colleagues are gonna change towards you, then,
sit them down and have a meeting about it, even if it is one to one
tell them your plans in what things you want to help your colleagues with,
how the relationship with them will grow so there are no barriers between you and them.
Who around you inspires you?
It could be a friend
a family member or
someone you see on the TV,
what they bring to the table that you like
how can you implement their way of being into your own.
You can be inspired by other people, without feeling jealousy and begrudging. I want to see people do well, and if you support them they will do the same. It may take time but if you know what it is you want in life and know how this person makes you feel, then follow their path, not copy, but what things they teach you that you can add to your life for you to be just a successful.
I feel inspired listening to Celine Dion, and love her music and she went through a transition where she learned to speak English, had teeth surgery and altered her image, because Rene who was her manager and then became her husband, knew that for her to be in music and not be mocked by the press she would need changes that will help her grow as an artist and now sells billion records all over the world.
I have now changed my habits and implemented new ones:
I always make sure I have breakfast
Go walking and playing football and walks with my son
I read books whilst travelling to and from my sons home
Have night off on Saturdays and being away from my phone
Spend time doing colouring
Sunday is my training day where I will watch training videos on Youtube like Sara Cannon and Natalia Leigh who do videos about their life as self published authors
Keep tabs on my finances and making sure any bills due are paid and save as much as possible
It all adds to push yourself confidence and perhaps you feel you need more education to go for the promotion, and speak your superior as I did this working for an entertainments company where I would book tickets for people wanting to go to visit theme parks and I was struggling to remember the details I need to check to book tickets and so I spoke to my coach who gave me further training.
If you don’t ask you don’t get.
And be your own teacher to build your knowledge and make a time or day to do some self training if you knowledge is not up to scratch and will help push you forward to going for that promotion and never feel you can’t compete, because YES YOU CAN!
I was all about this at one point if you have read my previous blogs and I still follow this in parts of my life but often would suffer with burn out so for me to get stuff done also means to leave enough time for myself and I still “Stay on track” and create and and plan.
I am not over pushing myself too much yet I am ticking a lot more things off than before and setting time to recharge is important too so I have time where I will do skincare and getting other things done at the weekend that I can’t do in the week. Example entertaining my son and taking him swimming and when not raining walking through or playing in the park and making the most of the time I have with my boy and letting him play aswell as learn.
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Self care is so important for your wellbeing and to keep in touch with yourself, like now soon once I have had my dinner and finish this blog I am going to have a shower and get ready for tomorrow. I go to bed at a reasonable time which for me is between 8 to 10pm and good sleep is more important to me now as before I would put up with not sleeping well.
I take my time as I don’t like rushing and having a functional space makes a huge difference and now some days I have to get up at 5am I need items I can grab and then go, have my lists ready and have my times set.
So getting ahead is good but not essential all of the time, but managing your time so you have selfish days just for you is important aswell as writing all of the time.
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For a long time I did but rarely achieved them so for me I like making Life Changes that I know I can continue and stick too. My goal for this year was create more a EBooks and I did that. I wanted to expand my blogs and I done that too, and so for me no, resolutions don’t work, but Life changes do.
This year it is going to be expanding myself and I have created a printable on my Intentions for this year.
I feel intentions help towards goals and creating new habits. I want to be more healthy and so I have done that subconciously by drinking water at the end of the day and in the mornings, I do 6 exercises workouts that fit into my current lifestyle and have more time to play with my son and I want to next look into having my own home, new job as well as working on my books, blogs, videos and online courses.
The other life change is constructive purchases and build more savings and to save myself more money in otherways. Example I want to print off my membership Barcode to start earning rewards when purchasing items I need from H&M, like if I need more leggins and saw a lady wearing pinstripe leggins, so want to save to be able to buy
I have got into the habit of setting targets for myself to expand my content and work on my Youtube channels and grow as a writer, being a mum and learning more things that will help me mentally and physically to.
So lets get this new year kick start and enjoy being in 2022.
Happy new year and many thanks for reading,
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Do you often question your life? I know I do, and this part of the year is where I feel the most stressed and if knew why I’d say but I don’t. I think the changing of the clocks can effect me as it has for years when going to and back in the dark we need that Vitamin D in our bodies and when you lack it I believe from my experience that my body is lacking that Vitamin, so I am going to pick up Vitamin D supplement to help this.
When it comes to winter time I do what it takes to rise my spirits up, when leaving now and also the lack of energy I feel is nature, my period, sorry if that is TMI its true, my monthly cycle can effect my mood.
I like to go for walks and yesterday I had a good constructive day even though at the time it didn’t feel like it.
I find I need to get out and see people. I love travelling to and from different places so going to plan some winter walks and looking to do more volunteer/fundraising for charity again as I was doing fundraising events, like the London 10K and Race for life and more.
When you do such things it really is rewarding and I miss it.
I need a more changes in my life now and feel it will happen I just need to be patient and build more around me to prevent me from feeling the winter slump that I can often feel.
I am looking forward to Christmas and have many things planned and this helps pull me through too, and feel like I have acccomplished a lot even when feeling less energentic and going to push through.
I have created a printable a free EBOOK for this site, to help you find your dream job, and here is linked below:
I hope you find this helpful as I have seen many looking for new jobs and want to help you in finding your dream job.
When we feel we aren’t getting anywhere brainstorm to workout why and being on your period is unavoidable but how you feel towards the hormones is to say “Stop I am gonna have a good day regardless”.
Reflect over the year you have had, what would have changed what can you learn from this year so far so it ends better than what he begun and what can you change right now. Not yesterday or tomorrow but now?
Be honest with yourself and mark from 1 to 10 how you feel and what one change would mean to your life as we draw near to another one?
Many thanks for reading,
P.S: I do have many other books if you would like to check them out:
It is almost the end of another year and before you know it we will be in 2022, and it is getting to the time where I will set my goals for the year to follow 2021 and so I will be checking through mine and creating new ones.
I will be creating printables to help you set goals too.
See Printables I have made for your happy journal, I have put together these for you to use how ever way you wish.