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Life Coaching/Being strong and guided

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Hello this another Life Coaching video as part of my Life Coaching programme, “2022 Project”, helping you to have a happier life and a year.

To get to grips with your life, it is good to be strong and guided. This time last year I was in a Mental Health hospital and wished I had known about these places as I would have checked myself in, as like many I found the lockdowns we had, was effecting my mental health, by not being able to go out and explore, and I love walking and visiting different places, but due to Lockdown I couldn’t.

  1. Develop your understanding of what is good in your life and why and what is not, and do you want to be good or the bad?
  2. Never Promise if you can’t deliver, because there is such a thing as false promises and when we don’t follow through we feel failure. Doing is better than promising.
  3. Develop a life that is personal to you. So now I am back walking again, long distances and as soon as I see people running, I feel I am not doing enough, yet walking is just as good and so don’t do things just because of other people but what will benefit you
  4. Get in touch with your spirituality. I have had a tough nine years where I allowed my mental health dictate my life and not getting in touch with myself and so began praying again, because, for me that helps and I listen to my soul and gut rather than my heart and mind
  5. Stop comparing. I should hold a reward for this because I am guilty as sin. I have learnt and I do what suits me and love myself, rather than looking at someone else and feel inadequate
  6. Creating different systems. This came from watching Mel Robbins Reset, check it out, and if you want to remember something like a pair of shoes for walking, I put them out so I can slip them on and go. Being a parent I would make sure I had items I could grab and go, as hate forgetting. Sorry what was that, I said, I don’t like forgetting, so leave items in full view so I know I will remember
  7. Create good patterns. I now make sure I set an alarm in the mornings, to make sure I have a good sleep pattern, as 4 hours sleep which I used to sleep for, did me no good and so I now go to bed between 8 and 9pm and wake up by 8:30am. I don’t have lunch until I go over to my son’s house to wait for him to return from school and stops me snacking and I love reading my book whilst travelling, as i learn a lot this way
  8. Give back what others have given you. I do this by thanking the bus driver for taking me safely to my last stop, I will buy nice cards and presents for family and what I do need to do is remember to write thank you cards, as I always forget and so will make an effort to do this, and feeling bad from not doing so.
  9. Get rid of anger by making changes in your life. Example hating your job, and feel you don’t connect with the people you work with. Look for a new place to work that has a better atmosphere. I had jobs like this, when working for a computer company, and there was a lot of back stabbing and felt so uncomfortable so I left, and followed my dream to work at a Holiday camp and finally got the chance, to leave my old life in London and Surrey for the south coast and was a brilliant experience.
  10. Make yourself be heard, Staying silent never helps and so set boundaries, making it clear of what they are. and stand your ground. This is not contradicting number 9, as you can do this to prevent anger, but just sitting and talking to people and teach others to do the same. Sitting having a conversation about what upsets us, rather than a shouting match.

It is all about keeping your head held high and to realise your value, and that you have a part to play in this world just like everyone else.

I have filmed for my Youtube channel: Typical London Gal, of some Life Coaching videos so go and check these out, this too and creating a board on Pinterest too: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/2022-project-life-coaching-tools-and-information/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching/Holding Yourself Back

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Are you worried about rushing into things, like taking a promotion at work?

You’d like to go for it but something is holding you back.

Evaluate and write down the fears and take time to go through your worries and concerns, and what would help you overcome these fears you are having.

  • You may be thinking would I have to do extra hours?
  • Would I be able to earn more money?
  • Would it require working on different days unlike what I do now?
  • Would I cope with the promotion and am I capable of leading a team?
  • Perhaps you want to write a book, but you feel you are incapable and that you feel you can’t compete with other writers.

Use these fears to push yourself into gear and be in the mindset that YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!

Life is full of chances to change your life, for example I have unknown to me got more followers on Pinterest and it meant adding more content to the pins that I have worked on and its building and building yourself that you need to focus on. Facing your fears of what is stopping you,

THE NEED TO BE DEALT WITH!

Just start by writing and answering the above questions.

  • Begin to picture yourself writing the book or taking the promotion you really want to go for, and write one thing that would push you forward.
  • If you want to write a book, start by jotting down notes and your ideas. Imagine yourself writing the book, picture the scene of the book, like you would when watching a movie.
  • Start building and putting together the reason why you want to go for the promotion or write a book how will it improve you life?
  • Perhaps you feel you can’t write a book because you don’t read books, then there is no time like the present to begin reading books. It really helps when putting your own book together, and finding the style that works for you.

If you get a promotion and your worried that the relationship with your colleagues are gonna change towards you, then,

  • sit them down and have a meeting about it, even if it is one to one
  • tell them your plans in what things you want to help your colleagues with,
  • how the relationship with them will grow so there are no barriers between you and them.

Who around you inspires you?

  • It could be a friend
  • a family member or
  • someone you see on the TV,
  • what they bring to the table that you like
  • how can you implement their way of being into your own.

You can be inspired by other people, without feeling jealousy and begrudging. I want to see people do well, and if you support them they will do the same. It may take time but if you know what it is you want in life and know how this person makes you feel, then follow their path, not copy, but what things they teach you that you can add to your life for you to be just a successful.

I feel inspired listening to Celine Dion, and love her music and she went through a transition where she learned to speak English, had teeth surgery and altered her image, because Rene who was her manager and then became her husband, knew that for her to be in music and not be mocked by the press she would need changes that will help her grow as an artist and now sells billion records all over the world.

I have now changed my habits and implemented new ones:

  • I always make sure I have breakfast
  • Go walking and playing football and walks with my son
  • I read books whilst travelling to and from my sons home
  • Have night off on Saturdays and being away from my phone
  • Spend time doing colouring
  • Sunday is my training day where I will watch training videos on Youtube like Sara Cannon and Natalia Leigh who do videos about their life as self published authors
  • Keep tabs on my finances and making sure any bills due are paid and save as much as possible

It all adds to push yourself confidence and perhaps you feel you need more education to go for the promotion, and speak your superior as I did this working for an entertainments company where I would book tickets for people wanting to go to visit theme parks and I was struggling to remember the details I need to check to book tickets and so I spoke to my coach who gave me further training.

If you don’t ask you don’t get.

And be your own teacher to build your knowledge and make a time or day to do some self training if you knowledge is not up to scratch and will help push you forward to going for that promotion and never feel you can’t compete, because YES YOU CAN!

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Being ahead of your life, is it important?

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I was all about this at one point if you have read my previous blogs and I still follow this in parts of my life but often would suffer with burn out so for me to get stuff done also means to leave enough time for myself and I still “Stay on track” and create and and plan.

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I am not over pushing myself too much yet I am ticking a lot more things off than before and setting time to recharge is important too so I have time where I will do skincare and getting other things done at the weekend that I can’t do in the week. Example entertaining my son and taking him swimming and when not raining walking through or playing in the park and making the most of the time I have with my boy and letting him play aswell as learn.

I do write a parenting blog if you’d like to check this out, go to:

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

Self care is so important for your wellbeing and to keep in touch with yourself, like now soon once I have had my dinner and finish this blog I am going to have a shower and get ready for tomorrow. I go to bed at a reasonable time which for me is between 8 to 10pm and good sleep is more important to me now as before I would put up with not sleeping well.

I take my time as I don’t like rushing and having a functional space makes a huge difference and now some days I have to get up at 5am I need items I can grab and then go, have my lists ready and have my times set.

So getting ahead is good but not essential all of the time, but managing your time so you have selfish days just for you is important aswell as writing all of the time.

If you would like to read more content on this site them remember to follow and I do have youtube channels too see links below:

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https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVjvO2fsowvFne_iMuG7d1g/videos

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Link for my Pinterest:

https://carriesversitilefashion.wordpress.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

I am a self published author too check out my books on amazon.com under the names, Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

The New Year means more changes to my life

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So do I believe in resolutions?

For a long time I did but rarely achieved them so for me I like making Life Changes that I know I can continue and stick too. My goal for this year was create more a EBooks and I did that. I wanted to expand my blogs and I done that too, and so for me no, resolutions don’t work, but Life changes do.

This year it is going to be expanding myself and I have created a printable on my Intentions for this year.

Here is it if you’d like to do the same:

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I feel intentions help towards goals and creating new habits. I want to be more healthy and so I have done that subconciously by drinking water at the end of the day and in the mornings, I do 6 exercises workouts that fit into my current lifestyle and have more time to play with my son and I want to next look into having my own home, new job as well as working on my books, blogs, videos and online courses.

The other life change is constructive purchases and build more savings and to save myself more money in otherways. Example I want to print off my membership Barcode to start earning rewards when purchasing items I need from H&M, like if I need more leggins and saw a lady wearing pinstripe leggins, so want to save to be able to buy

I have got into the habit of setting targets for myself to expand my content and work on my Youtube channels and grow as a writer, being a mum and learning more things that will help me mentally and physically to.

So lets get this new year kick start and enjoy being in 2022.

Happy new year and many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

P.S: I also have a youtube channel and had done many life coaching videos on there and so can find my under:

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Feeling defeated/The Winter slump

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Do you often question your life? I know I do, and this part of the year is where I feel the most stressed and if knew why I’d say but I don’t. I think the changing of the clocks can effect me as it has for years when going to and back in the dark we need that Vitamin D in our bodies and when you lack it I believe from my experience that my body is lacking that Vitamin, so I am going to pick up Vitamin D supplement to help this.

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When it comes to winter time I do what it takes to rise my spirits up, when leaving now and also the lack of energy I feel is nature, my period, sorry if that is TMI its true, my monthly cycle can effect my mood.

I like to go for walks and yesterday I had a good constructive day even though at the time it didn’t feel like it.

I find I need to get out and see people. I love travelling to and from different places so going to plan some winter walks and looking to do more volunteer/fundraising for charity again as I was doing fundraising events, like the London 10K and Race for life and more.

When you do such things it really is rewarding and I miss it.

I need a more changes in my life now and feel it will happen I just need to be patient and build more around me to prevent me from feeling the winter slump that I can often feel.

I am looking forward to Christmas and have many things planned and this helps pull me through too, and feel like I have acccomplished a lot even when feeling less energentic and going to push through.

I have created a printable a free EBOOK for this site, to help you find your dream job, and here is linked below:

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I hope you find this helpful as I have seen many looking for new jobs and want to help you in finding your dream job.

When we feel we aren’t getting anywhere brainstorm to workout why and being on your period is unavoidable but how you feel towards the hormones is to say “Stop I am gonna have a good day regardless”.

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Reflect over the year you have had, what would have changed what can you learn from this year so far so it ends better than what he begun and what can you change right now. Not yesterday or tomorrow but now?

Be honest with yourself and mark from 1 to 10 how you feel and what one change would mean to your life as we draw near to another one?

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

P.S: I do have many other books if you would like to check them out:

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They are under the names of Carrie Challoner, Carrie Holmes and Carrie Lee Holmes

Plus 3 Youtube channels:

typicallondongal Carrie Lee Holmes

Carrie Educational Youtube channel

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Setting new goals for the new year

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It is almost the end of another year and before you know it we will be in 2022, and it is getting to the time where I will set my goals for the year to follow 2021 and so I will be checking through mine and creating new ones.

I will be creating printables to help you set goals too.

See Printables I have made for your happy journal, I have put together these for you to use how ever way you wish.

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It is important to me to set them up and it helps me to grow and development. It will mean new books to be written and more projects.

I will be setting myself more monthly challenges and have an even better year than this year, and wanting to be in a new home, and see more of my son.

There are more projects I want to do along with monthly challenges as I really enjopyed the ones I did this year, and to come out of my comfort zone.

The Catorgories I am setting for myself is under Personal/Home, Work and Play like this year.

When it comes to separating your goals, it is good to write them out first, an then organize them.

Be precise about them and make little goals in between the ones you achieve.

I like to go over the previous year that I can help in the next one, and as the year evolves up date them if things change.

You have to understand there will be hurdles but they should spear you on to achieve the goals even more.

So look out for my blogs on this channel and more blog will getting ready for the new year to follow.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Restart your life Anytime not just for the New year

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So first of all. Thank you so much in liking my blogs on this site and so happy that you liked my 30 day challenge I did on this site, it really means everything to me.

In this blog post I am talking about Restart your life anytime not just for the New Year.

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When it comes to restarting your life it means putting a lot to rest. If you aren’t feeling happy with certain people in your life, either discuss this with them and moving on to more like minded people who you do feel you have a connection with.

Have a life cleansing routine or ritual, for me this is when I spend time having a shower, using a body scrub, wash my hair and do some exercise and writing.

Getting projects that are overdue done and set a day of when you want to complete them, and then follow the cleansing routine or ritual as a reward to yourself.

Change the things you read, wear and use by rotating system, where by you sort out of say clothes and to make sure they get worn you go through what you have worn a lot and what you haven’t so to make sure you do get to wear those clothes you love, take them out to remember to do so. I like to go through my clothes of items worn or not worn for a while to wearing and have all my autumn and winter shoes out ready to wear.

Stop the self doubt and start living the life you want, like you already are. Dreams can be as big as you want them to be, and often you need patience and determination and keep seeing the vision and develop it as you get closer to your dreams.

Never allow others dictate your life for you, but have a network of support who you know will help drive you forward and when you set yourself up to be heard then do so and raise the bar of your success.

For me it is getting rid of the passed and being in the now and what is next in your life.

Just be worthy of yourself and give yourself praise and vision of how you would like to feel about you, and what gives you a neverending successful feeling and dreams are to live, breath and remember to take it all in, so you don’t miss it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Summer Project 2021/Build your expectations on your terms

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So first of all I today did a video talking Expectations in a regular video I do talking about The Truth Of Growing up, and so check out if you wish too.

Expectations are always going to be there from other people and from yourself too, but it should be on your terms, and what I mean by that is that often others can expect too much, and should be what will help you individually to raise the bar and be done gradually.

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I am someone who jumps into something with both feet, when I would go to dancing school, when I first began working and even when I would write books as a kid, expected my first book I wrote as an adult, would it be well received, yet reading it back, some details were in correct as when you have a child you do get baby brain, but it was telling my story of a first time mother and the things that I never knew about until I became a parent. If you would like to check out my books The Parenting Adventures under may married name then they are available from Amazon (name Carrie Challoner) as I now use my maiden, Carrie Holmes or Carrie Lee Holmes.

When you get married everyone expects you to be already planning to have kids, yet its not a fairy story, it is real life and I am glad I never rushed into marriage as it was four years later and that I got married and then it was a while until I had my son Henry. Me and Henry, My son’s dad have split and we been together a long time, but we still make sure that Henry sees us both.

With all relationships there is an expectation from you and them, to be on the same page and terms, and that they are there to hold your hand and listen and want to see you to wind down and to catch up of what of how they have been and the same for you. Yet friendships can then be tested by others who get resentful and that it is a tug of war, where that person then says “Who is your bestest friend” and this continues from experience to adult age and you think not, but true.

Again if they expect you to meet you when it suits them, then is this a expectation of “Your here to see me not you” and that is where the expectation is impossible to reach, due to other things in your life. Friendship is a two way street and be fair.

So you raise the expectations not them.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Summer Project 2021/Managing Worry So they stop and are addressed to put them to rest

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Some people like summer but others don’t. A day can feel like a drag as theire is bound to be people looking and talking about their Summer Holidays and yet it is making you envious and “Why can’t I have time off”. Well you can and no matter what you do as a living, we all need that break to recharge ourselves and have time sitting in the sun, with a Cocktail and not worry about rushing to be anywhere.

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Managing the mind is important and to start, think about all the list of worries you have. I used to worry a lot and I would feel drained of the worry that surrounded me. Example: When pregnant with my son Henry, it was watching a section on the TV about how they forgot their children somewhere and that then started alarm bells, of “What if I did that, I’d feel terrible” and it did make me alert and so I always kept a hand on the pushchair, yet it was fine and often would put 2 and 2 together and making 14 out of it.

Even now I worry as a parent, and I think it automatically comes into your minds of all the things to worry about and I see as a forever playlist that you want to turn off, but there is no switch that can do that.

So go over your worries, and then as I did, go through how you can make sure that what you are worrying about doesn’t happen and it turns out ok. Example you worry about spiders coming into the home. Well firstly, How many spiders have you found in your home? and I know people will argue overt this, but for me it did work, and that is collect a load of concores and put them by the window and in the bathroom.

The best time is as soon as it hits autumn as spiders come into homes to seek warmth and not really to scare. So have concored to the ready, but as thy can go corrode, so when Autumn is over with winter, through them away.

It is important to go over the fears and address them as said above, but also ask “DO I WANT TO WORRY FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?”

Take charge of situations that worry you and what I have often down is created A PRO’s and Con’s list of all the things that can go wrong, MY CONS and right my PRO’s.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Day 21/30 Day Challenge/Writing a blog each day/9 Days to go/Tips on other challenges you can do that I have tried and want to do myself

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Hello and this blog is to say Thank you once again for your support whilst I complete this monthly challenge and gonna do this each month. I really love these challenges and it’s really been a mindful challenge. I see how many blogs I can do and it keeps me on my toes to write more and have my blogs be as good as the last one.

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I HAVE 9 DAYS TO GO!

Here are 6 ways on how you can challenge yourself too:

  1. Learning to drive. This I have tried but failed as I was not mentally ready to learn but did cause I thought I should. I am on medication for my Mental Health so can’t do this challenge, but wanted to make this the first because if you want to learn why not have a lesson each day if possible or a few days per week and challenge yourself 30 week challenge instead
  2. Read a book in a day, week or each month. I really would like this to be one, and do this challenge for the month as I love to read and see if I can do complete it. Great way to visit charity shops, the library or kindle and see how many you can read each week or month
  3. Take a photo of different things for 30 days and share on instagram or twitter. This is one that is in the Mrs Hinch Activity journal and again one I would like to eventually do myself
  4. Exercise for 30 days. You can ask your friends to join and go on walks or runs together and good for getting family involved too. Or go to the gym now they will be back open or if there is an outdoor gym near you and take advantage and see how it helps the mind and the body.
  5. Write in a journal for 30 days and reflect on each day of how it was. Journal writing is great to clear your minds and get rid off those cobwebs when doing so
  6. Do a bit of gardening each day for 30 days. Sorting out the garden many find theruptic and if you have kids this can be a good one too

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X