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Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Build your dreams: What you want your life to look like

21 Sunday May 2023

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Here I am it is Sunday and feel a little bad that I didn’t do my morning walk that I have been doing because I was lazy and so I wrote down in one of my notebooks of what I want my Sundays to look like, and so going to make sure that me and my son will have this time as it does feel so good and not allow my lazy part of mind set in, so I miss doing this again.

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It is up to me to do this not on anyone else. You have to take ownership of your life, to make changes and what you gonna do to build your dreams. I still had a good day, met my husband (m son’s dad) for a coffee and then did a bit of walking and so wasn’t completely lazy but we have such a good time together and we did some walking on Friday and played some rugby on Saturday, but I love my walks on Sunday.

When it is raining it can be tough but whenever the weather is good I like to go out for a walk and it really is refreshing and so what do you want your days to look like? Like Sunday’s. What can you do on Sunday that you can’t do in the week? I did have two lovely coffees this morning but next time I will take my coffee with me and get outdoors on a Sunday morning and explore.

It was even helping me with my running and don’t want to stop. I have got to grips in managing my life , but I want to create more good habits. I like feeling alive and ready for each day and I like doing my tidy in the mornings and catching up on a Sunday on my lists and set myself up for the week.

It is also is a day where I have a good dinner thanks to my step dad and have a home cooked meal, and now I want reshape my afternoons. I want to be productive and use them to exercise, by walking more and with the son, and walk through the parks and common near by. This will really help lower my travel costs each day and eat more sensibly and do some writing and drafting more blogs and videos to build my blogs and Youtube channel.

So it is up to me to take action and what I want my days to look like. It is the little things that makes a difference to me and use my time wisely and productively. I like my mornings and evenings, and when my son comes home from school, making his dinner and playing football, along with some dancing, as we do with the radio on do some dancing and just be active which I want to keep doing, but simple logical ways, that make me feel I have had a good day and moving forward to my dreams and ambitions.

I want to work outside as want to do more to make a difference and not feel I can’t because I don’t have the experience, as I was watching an interview and she talks about how she applied of a secretarial job and was wondering whether to apply for it because it said you need experience and got the job.

I have always been super ambitious and always had aspirations, and that has never changed. I have lived and I had always wanted to go on holiday during Christmas time and I did went first class to america and it was my last big holiday for a while and was a dream I had always wanted, and if I did that once I know that is something else I tick off my list.

You should never give up your dreams and what you do today can effect your life tomorrow.

We as humans can make a difference to the world and create so much. Only have to look at people like Bob Geldof who created Band Aid and King Charles who created The Princes trust helping young people have a better life and create amazing things for other people. I remembering a story in a magazine I used to read and she talked about how she was made redundant and didn’t know what to do, so she saw that the Princes trust did a Mentor’s programme and she helped a guy to find work and changed her life.

Youi never know whats on your doorstep but if you believe in yourself check my blog I wrote : Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Developing your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish in your life

So if you have dreams and you want them to become real then go for it. Never allow your doubt stop you.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life coaching programme “Summer Project 2023” Forever Growing: Do it in the morning so it is done

18 Thursday May 2023

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I have this morning getting my sons bed ready for the weekend, cleaning a pair of trainers as they got super muddy, at a festival in London, which I have filmed so a new weekend in a life video will be put together as it was really good fun and I have just put up a week in a life video check it out via this link: https://youtu.be/w06X8BlQx8s

It took me a while to wake up this morning but now when I get up will do a tidy up, and it has made a huge difference to how I feel and feel that I have taken action so I can concentrate in working on my blogs, filming, uploading and writing my new book.

Many may say “Good for you” but this not gloating but sharing how I like to live and how changing my morning routine has helped me get stuff done and not procrastinating and love being productive in the morning and running errands rather than later on in the day. It does depend on lifestyle, check out my Pinterest board that I have created for lifestyle topics and tools:

If you find in the mornings hectic then then what takes the most time? Choose a time in the day when you can get things done and use the morning to get the kids out of the door and choose what you want to do, until you feel ready to tackle errands and chores, then break them up, rather doing so many things at once.

Resetting it the way. Check out my blog: Life coaching programme “Summer Project 2023” Forever Growing: Resetting your life, staying updated and in control of the things I do each day as I continue to grow and video: https://youtu.be/kmR-iY_qQNU

I do put things off, like I want to dye my hair but by the time I get home it can be late and then tiredness sets in so going to get it done at the weekend in the morning and I know I don’t have to dye my hair, but I like changing my hair colour and changing my image as I get bored with the way I look, and so to help reset I like to give myself a make over and you do have to look after yourself and so getting it done in the morning will set my day on a high, and I know once I get it done I will feel better and planning my wardrobe and adding to it and I like to plan what I like to wear each day in the evening and get dressed as soon as I have a shower, but will be a bit lazy at the weekend but I like taking it easy at the weekend and now in the mornings my son and I go for a walk and I love this time we have and so if you want to make changes to your lifestyle then get it done in the morning and then you have a whole day to yourself.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Not feeling good enough

15 Monday May 2023

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This blog hits on imposter syndrome where we feel we don’t deserve to be successful because we doubt what we are capable of and any failure feels such a big deal and feel that there are loads of people doing what you want to do already, and think “Who do you think you are?” “You can’t compete” and what chance you have in becoming successful too. Like music as I start this blog I am watching Eurovision Song contest, and really anyone can win it, but there are some many countries taking part and I bet some have thought they don’t stand a chance. This is from watching interviews of Bucks Fizz because watching many interviews they have all said that they didn’t think they’d win it, but they did.

This was when my mum and I did the Thames Path challenge completing 25KM and never thought I’d do that but I did.

When I first began to learn Ballroom dancing there was a girl called Claire and one other girl who were on their Gold, as when I first started I did my Bronze, then you did your Silver and Claire when I went to my first dancing presentation night, won the Cup for having the highest marks. I remember getting goosebumps and my heart pounding thinking could it be me, but I had only first started, then a girl name Lesley had won by one of the adults who had won before wanted the next person to win it and was Lesley who passed her exam, her Silver with flying colours and did hope it would be me one day, but didn’t think I’d ever win it.

This is related to my last blog.Check it out Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Developing your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish in your life

Often we can feel that we are punching above our weight and “Who would want to be interested in us?” and when we hear someone say something negative about us that can contribute to your feelings of not good enough. When I played football at my Secondary school I remember a girl saying I couldn’t even kick a ball and so I stop going. Yes should have taken no notice and carried on but didn’t, but learning from that I have become resilient to criticism and it makes me more determined to succeed and when running a football team I could see that many of my players confidence would be affected when playing in matches, because they make mistakes but this also showed me how much they really cared, and not being biased they were good and we did win many of the matches they played.

We all can a level of doubt its a human feeling but for me I see this now that it prepare’s me of what if it goes wrong and then visualise me succeeding too, and the question I ask myself reading many books by Paul McKenna is,”What if I was unstoppable and visualise that” and it has helped, and listening to Mel Robbins, who wrote about the 5 second rule, who asks the same thing. What do you picture? looking at this person how is she standing? is she smiling? what is she wearing?

Create a plan. I always brainstorm, I will write a list of each project and goals I want to achieve and this really helps me a lot.

When we put our mind to it we can achieve so much. It is perseverance which is a word I have used a lot but it is and any setbacks address them and learn from them. We all meet bumps in the road, but it is our actions that speak louder than words and make a difference.

Si what are you going to do today that can make a difference to your life right now?

I wanted to take my son to a music concert and I did yesterday, I wanted to take Henry to his first football match and we did on his first birthday, like my mum and dad did when me and my brother were kids, and is like a tradition and wanted to win the cup for the highest marks in dancing and I did. I wanted to do the Great North run and did, this helped boost my confidence to continue to charity runs and walks and inspired others because it helped my fitness my feelings with life and people when doing these events are so friendly and are complete strangers and they showed me what I was capable of. Set goals, continue doing positive habits and keep visualising and keep taking action.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

My Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Begins

01 Monday May 2023

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Yes here we are and I am so glad for the feedback from my previous yearly life coaching programme blogs and videos, I want to begin today and was going to put it on hold because my son was unwell and had time off school, but he is a lot better so lets begin.

I have a printable that I am creating, and so this will be up by end of the week and it is all about what is coming up and what I will sharing in this years life Coaching programme.

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So first of all I am not a medical professional, I am a mum and have worked in Customer Service, worked in Childcare and worked at a holiday resort but recently did some courses in Mental Health and how it affects adults and children as I want to work in Childcare and Healthcare.

I wanted to create this is programme from sharing my own story who has had a mental health illness and struggled in life and feel I know about life now being in my 40’s and had to work on myself to be a good mum, daughter, sister and overall a good human being.

I want to help people be happy and not feel that they are alone. I want you to be able to create dreams and ambitions and build a life that makes you smile and a reason to get up in the mornings. There were times where I’d dread each day and that is not a good way to feel. It can be draining and I have suffered with stress and anxiety.

My life has changed a lot and had to make serious choices like looking at my own actions that has caused people to be upset and angry, I have had to work on my principals and focus on what is important and take it easy as I kept getting burn out.

Life isn’t about doing 100 things a day or running 5 miles a day everyday when you have kids and pets, but setting time to just be with yourself and looking after yourself and doing what makes you happy. I like to exercise and glad it is part of my life, but I also like to rest and relax.

I like to have my first cup of tea in he morning and then a coffee and doing my son’s breakfast and getting ready for the day. That is an area I still want to work on, as I want to make more of an effort in terms of appearance as I do go into autopilot and go straight on to my laptop. I am not saying I have it all sussed but have a good understanding of life and want people to feel good. I want people to not deprive themselves and help get rid of the bad parts of their lives and how they feel about their lives.

There is always room for growth and getting to know yourself and being true to yourself. I love writing and I do want it to be one day my income, and be a professional writer and do have books already on Amazon. You can check them out under the names, Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes. I want to continue to be help my son and help him grow, by setting an example and help him follow his dreams and ambitions. At the moment he wants to be a train, which I have had to explain is not a living thing, but can work on the trains. Who knows what ambitions our kids have, and we can learn a lot from our children.

Just as a I write this first blog I am in my pyjamas bottoms on because it is bank holiday Monday and feel that I will get items done by being more relaxed and go with the flow. It is good to have a schedule but adding relaxation time is a must, and I like being snug.

So I hope you enjoy my Summer Project 2023 and all feedback is welcomed.

I will be filming videos too on my Youtube channel too, aswell as this blog site: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal and have board on my Pinterest too:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/life-coaching2023-project/life-coaching-tools/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Give yourself a detox when life gets too much

21 Tuesday Mar 2023

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Watching a video by Phil and Alex, who were doing a cleansing detox, made me think that its not just what is inside the body, but for the mind and life too, when life gets too much.

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Spend some time away from your phone: Last Saturday I was watching the rugby and was picking up my phone about 5 to 6 minutes, and annoyed at myself as Saturday’s I like to spend time away from my phone, in terms of checking my emails. watching Youtube and checking Instagram. I do still post at the weekend on Instagram of me to document the time I spend with my son, but I like to have my phone away, and do feel good for that. As my son gets annoyed with me when I am on my phone, and just having that time away can really help your wellbeing and your mind rest, because too much phone usage can make us feel unproductive and lose touch with reality.

Change your routine for some self care: Are you fed up of the same old routine? Perhaps you need to have a selfcare routine and change if you feel like you are procrastinating because you are bored, and so need a new routine so you can spend time having a detox, like putting on some chill out music, whilst you use a face mask and want your skin to glow. Stress can affect the skin, it has been discovered and so it is good to have some selfcare to look after your skin and have no make up days.

Work outdoors: Fed up of sitting at a desk in the same room and the same chair? Time to make changes to this and work outdoors. Of course this can be difficult when it is raining and cold, but once the summer starts to get closer, the temperature will change, and I enjoy writing outdoors, with a coffee and have a picnic for one. If not go to the library to work, or a coffee shop, if you don’t do this all the time and have a different change of scenery. In summer I want to film my videos and change my working space.

Detox your house: Last Sunday I continued doing my March challenge, which is to declutter for an entire month, and having less does feel good, but there is more to do, that I need to put away and have more space and be strong in doing so. The items I like to keep is my notebooks because I use these to plan goals, make notes and my writing of my books, because in case someone takes my idea, and because some books I’d like to go back to, to write. I plan to write more books, and use up what I have got before I spend more on items I don’t need to. I don’t need anymore showering gel, or moisturiser as I have plenty to use, and anything not used I will give to someone else or donate.

Detox your mind: I have already talked about stress and goes with the others, like not using your phone and putting it away, but what an help this too, is exercise and I often if I feel things are getting too much, I will walk as this helps to clear the cobwebs away and helps me go through my thoughts and mindfulness is a great tool to use when walking with no headphones in the ear, but taking note of birds, squirrels and visiting a national park can help clear the mind and be present with yourself and enjoying nature.

Have a financial detox:I like having no spend days and if you didn’t know I did no spend January this year and it was so good to help me balance my money. only getting items I needed, and it feels good not having to many receipts. I want that to be my focus and have a lighter purse without receipts, as they just cause clutter. It has help me spend wisely and stop the impulse buys. It good to have a full bank account and saving. This year I want to pay off my debts, and managed to clear one debt and is good to see my credit card balance going down. Being in debt and cause a lot of stress and so it good to sit down and go through subscriptions you no longer use, and making the money I have last, and see my savings going up.

It is so worth it to detox certain areas of your life when things get to much and feel good about life again and growing positively and being rid of the stresses of it, and have a good balance of home life, work life, and getting in touch with what is around you that can help balance your life to feel good within yourself.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

How to value what you’ve already got in your life

16 Thursday Mar 2023

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As I continue to declutter and make plans to sort out my belongings, it helps me to value the things I have. Example: a bed for my son for when he comes and stays with me at the weekend, and the desk space I have to write my blogs and books, and for the curtains that black out the light to have a good sleep, and shoes that protect my feet. This helps me not to buy another pair of shoes, a brand new set of curtains, and so I go through it of the items that gives me comfort and peacefulness in my mind and how I feel about myself.

This is not to say I will never buy clothes or shoes again, or have the same curtains for the rest of my life who knows what is destined for us, we never know so being appreciative to what we have already that makes you happy can delete those feelings we get when we want a pair of shoes that sparkle or the latest iPhone, when we know its just more expense and actually what we were already using was enough and then worry because we couldn’t really afford it and the buzz you had in buying the item has quickly gone.

As I wrote this blog I just picked up my gratitude journal and wrote what I currently value down as I love practicing gratitude and being thankful. Look around you and the people in your life, how do they add value and how do you feel around them and others like I wrote that I value the roof over my head and the my everyday trainers I bought from TU Sainsbury’s as they weren’t that expensive and wear them most of the time, because they are so easy and light on my feet. I value the food that is made for me as I currently live with my Mum and step dad and so grateful the space and room I have and so need to value more as I want a more minimal amount of stuff that no longer gives me joy.

It’s following the Kon Marie method of if that item gives you joy or not, and what purpose does it give? My trainers for example help me walk and comfortable and goes with what I like to wear and are practical as my son likes to play sports and I do a lot of travelling and saves me time, and saved me money.

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What does money means to you?

For me it is essential item because I need in order to travel and get from A to B and buy food as some days my mum and step dad go out and not rely on others and to be able to buy stuff for my son and I believe that every penny does count as I would like to give my room a make over and have it more organized, and so it is essential item to live, and respect it for the items it allows me to have.

My dad used to say “That money speaks a difference language” and part of me believe that too. When I worked in accounts if people didn’t get their expenses paid they would get angry about it and would hunt me down, and found tough because it was a lot of work for one person, and felt overwhelmed. Since those days my relationship with money is starting to be good again, as it is hard when you have little and you have bills to pay.

I did get into debt and became reliant on using a credit card and it can be stressful and can really effect how you feel about money but I am to blame and I have had to admit that. Admitting that has helped me to get back on track with my money and stopped me from taking it for grunted and I like to see money saved and can’t wait to pay off my debt and put it behind me. I have already cleared one, so just got one debt which I am getting down, and so money is important and is what we need to survive, but not having a load of stuff that will make us happy for 5 minutes but forever.

When I buy something now I think to myself Do I need it right now? Will it last once its been cleaned and what role will it play in my life. I know I don’t need 30 pairs of leggins, or 100 notebooks, to feel good about life, but enough that will help clothes me, and does it work with what I have got.

What place do it have?

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Trips and Falls

05 Sunday Mar 2023

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First of all welcome to those who are new to my blog Everyone can build a castle, and to new followers of my blog, and thank you for your likes, and really helps me in what topics you like me talking about.

If you didn’t know I also write books, and my newest one is about a Mother and a daughter who live together and is a love hate relationship, but there is one person who unites them, a lady called Gloria, who is a beautician and head of Elizabeth (the daughter) son’s school, PTFA and Elizabeth takes part in a virtue bake off, and because it is a pandemic they have to have meetings using Zoom and emailing and texting. This blog is about trips and falls, which in this book happens. Its available on Amazon and is called Mum&Me and I write other books too under the names Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes. See link to my new book:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mum-Me-Gucci-Tits-Virtue-ebook/dp/B0BGSS7H9K/ref=sr_1_1?crid=87EWQHRW92S0&keywords=Mum%26Me+Carrie+Holmes&qid=1677878234&sprefix=mum%26me+carrie+holmes%2Caps%2C151&sr=8-1

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Last Monday coming home I got of the bus and it being dark, crossed the road I tripped and cut my hand, knee and hurt my back and I was shaken up, and didn’t do much walking or did my run I started to do this year, because of it.

We are all gonna have trips and falls, it’s part of life, and it is how we react afterwards that can help us get over them.

I had to gather my confidence and brush myself off. And because of this fall I have been going to bed early to try and allow my body to recover and feel ready to continue on and so next week I will be exercising indoors, do some walking and go for a run. I do write a blog where I talk about exercise, that I also write on WordPress, check it out via this link: https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com

Its not all about falling over though, it can be your car broke down and now having to travel using public transport, or the trains having delays and make us feel that it is not going to be good day. It can make use want to stay indoors and hide away.

This for me means I get into a what I call “Dead end mindset” so makes me more unhappy, but I have to get up, I have a son and he needs to be met. It can hard with kids because like my son, he wants my attention all of the time, and so I have to get up and get on.

This doesn’t mean you have to forget yourself, it means you have to take more care of yourself to help your kids grow and be there for others. If you are a carer, this can be demanding, and we forget ourselves, but when we fall over we realise we need to care for us, aswell as others. We need a cup of tea and coffee, a shower or a bath, and do some reading to switch off, and so listen to when you trip or fall to realise you are just as important aswell as the people you care about.

We grow from our trips and falls, not saying you can’t be careful and not trip again, but if I cross that bit of road to the pavement to take more care in making sure I don’t trip and fall there again.

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

@typicallondongal

Start the day as you wish to end it

12 Sunday Feb 2023

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When I worked at a Holiday Camp back in 2002 to 2005 was told when working in the Residential Catering Department working with the chefs, that a sandwich should taste good from the first bite to the last and life for me should be like that too. How you feel when you wake up can affect you when you go to bed, whether it has been a good day or bad day.

Routine: I live by a routine and one day a week I will go for a run, or do a workout indoors or later in the day by using a Crosstrainer and has made a massive difference and had reminded me of how much I have missed it and exercise in the morning really wakes me up. There are days when I don’t because I need that balance, but I make sure, if I don’t workout indoors or running I at least do some walking. Each day I have to have my first cup of tea and some breakfast. I make my bed except Saturdays because I am out with my son and wants to play as soon as it he gets up, I know say it “It shouldn’t make a difference and can save play until I have made the beds” This will be changing. I don’t feel right too if I don’t have a coffee at least one and make sure I hydrate throughout the day. Very important to me. I do have a bedtime routine too, whereby I will plan the next day using my diary I keep on my desk, my Reminder APP on my phone and on OneNote. Then I will take my medication that helps me sleep and then read, and if my mind is starting to come active again, and I do have a overactive mind, usually at bed time, I will get up like this evening and empty my mind, onto paper or on a blog, before the idea goes out of brain and forgotten by morning.

Rhythm : I have to have a good rhythm, to push down anxiousness I feel growing inside me each day and that I have quiet time aswell being super productive and have that time to myself. On Sundays I love getting outdoors with my son and go for a long walk and he will count the door numbers as we walk and enjoy the fresh air and love the peace, especially when we walk along the river. It is so nice to just let our feet travel while we take in what is around us. We will look at the different wildlife we see, like the birds, squirrels and ducks and watch trains as they go passed and just enjoying our surroundings.

Family time: It is good to spend time with family and so we all today as I continue to write this blog spent time watching the Rugby o the TV, along with a nice roast dinner and when my son goes home, which this week he is staying with me, but will make sure I have tidied up. I am still going to do this but when my son is at a school holiday club and going to do a total reset this week whilst he is there and doing a reset. THIS WILL BE FILMED!

Food: I know, I have already talked about this one, but having a good meal in the morning, through to the evening really good to fuel and I love dinners and is my favourite meal of the day and so make sure I am hungry to have dinner and am thankful that I don’t have to cook each day as I live with my Mum and step dad, but if they are out then I will buy food for myself, and try to use what is already indoors that I can have. I love leftovers so I do take advantage, and never rush but eat making sure I food is properly digested.

So how do you like to start the day and end it? You can leave a comment below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

Being the person you wish to be/Telling my Story

27 Friday Jan 2023

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I knew as a kid that I didn’t want just a job and do something different to what other kids wanted to do and as a kid I wanted to be famous because I never was the popular kid and starting school I was a loner and it took me ages to form friends.

As I gone through life I have been different depending on where I am, like when I went to dancing school in Fulham in London on Saturday’s and first I was shy and would get anxious and cry, but then when I realised I was good at it didn’t look back and I loved it. I am now a mum living in Wimbledon in South West London and finally have a good balance with being a mum, writing and looking after myself and my wellbeing and its taken a long while to achieving my goals and ambitions.

I like who I am now. I still can be self critical and allow the negative thoughts come through, but I have started to be resilient to those thoughts and use proof to these thoughts that I can be who I want to be. It has taken a long time and I don’t want to just stop, but keep going, that is what I am all about.

You can lose your way and I did. I have been battling with managing my mental health and now back on my feet and never felt such strength before and feel more good things coming away. It has taken its time, but I have never lost my ambition or my drive, and know I have to make the choices and stand on my own two feet. I have to be strong for my son and he is my priority, and struggled with motherhood and so that took a back seat, whilst I got back on my feet, and the bond never went and we have so much fun now and want my son to learn from me, and if he ever has struggles that he will talk to me about them so he can have balance in his life too.

It is good to talk about your ambitions and live the life you want and not what somebody else wants, and have habits that help towards to be the person you want to be and feel good. If anythings feels like a chore then something needs to change, because in my experience, it can make you put it off.

There are a lot of things I still want to do and I still a lot of growing and building to do, but lay off on myself and be proud of who I am and I like having good conversation and so start going through the area of your self you do like, and what you can improve and set a plan for yourself to get there.

So, who do you want to be? And I’d like to hear from you and so you can leave a comment below, and if you like my blogs then please follow me so you can be updated whenever post and don’t miss one.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

Positivity is it a good or bad thing?

13 Tuesday Dec 2022

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I at the moment I have a stinking cold and when I feel like this I find it hard to stay positive because all I want to do is hide away and hibernate until it goes. Some people hate the word, because some say that “It’s not easy to stay positive all of the time”, and I do believe that this is true, because life takes over, and as much as I’d like to stay in bed all day, going on how I feel at the moment know I have responsibilities that need care. I don’t want to be grumpy when looking after my son, because it can really affect him, and so it is putting brave face on and getting on with whatever needs must. When it comes to positivity it is not all about smiling but being content and right now as I write this blog I am in my nightwear, and is making me feel a lot better.

Our bodies need fuel and so when you have a comfy dinner or a room that you can just chill can help with mood and so that is the good side of the positivity and why it is good, because it gets in touch that we need some love care and attention. We should be able to do that and look after our wellbeing. Having a hot bath or a hot drink can do wonders, so looking after yourself is for me positive but not the cringing kind, such as “Smile everyday, you’ve got this”. When I am feeling like death that is the last thing I want.

There are positive outcomes, whereby you’ve had a bad day so far, but when your spouse hands you a glass of wine can be just the ticket someone needs for a smile, but when they are beaming, “How was your day?” with a massive grin it can be like “I love you but honestly not what a I need, I will get my own glass of wine”.

When I try this with my son Henry, no glass of wine involved, in case you got confused there, being excited to see him after school and how his days been, he is like “No no, let me watch my tablet” and I try again, and which I get pushed away, until he wants to play rugby or football, and then I am like “No it’s okay” I say being full of cold, but then see he won’t give in until I get up off the sofa, and see that being super positive is not needed, but being present is, so we don’t all need to be positive but happy with the simplest of things. It is all about balance and finding what makes you feel like the weight of your shoulders and have someone to share responsibilities with, can help too.

Caring is sharing and so it depends on the time of day and what has happened each day that can be positive or negative. Everyday is new and so if you feel like its time for an early night that will help you feel better, then do it. Sometimes rather then being sprung on my a cheerful maniac a cup of tea and a packet of biscuits is all one needs to be positive, so tell me what you think do you think is Positivity good or bad? You can leave a comment below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal