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Creating a healthy work life

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8 Remarkable Quotes on Work Life Balance From Successful People

Hi and welcome to another blog. So, many kids have now returned to school this week. It is amazing how much spare time you have, not that I didn’t enjoy the extra time I spent with my son, but the Lockdown since last week was taking it toll, to the point I was completely blogged out.

I spent so much time blogging as much as I could that I did suffer with burn out.

It is important when working that you have a healthy work life. I know it isn’t easy, but we can get so bogged down that it can become too much and before you know it you are under your neck with so much to do.

The one thing you should schedule is chill out or quiet time, to have a hot bath and read a book, or TV time.

Rest is just as important as working so make time for it.

Allow some proper wake up time, I don’t function correctly if I haven’t had a hearty breakfast or a cup of tea.

Whilst your child is a school why not schedule a day to reunite yourself with your friends, following the social distancing rules.

Still no many shops or places are open but doesn’t stop someone from popping around for a coffee does it.

Have a DVD night or TV night with some pop corn, crisps or other snacks.

It is all about making the most of every hour of the day. I find when I have had a constructive day that I function better and sleep a lot better.

So take some time out and create a schedule you know you can stick to. Please check out my blog post about my routine:

Establish a good routine to conquer a successful Day

Having a good routine can really help get everything you need to do done and be happy with yourself, rather than feeling bogged down or you have wasted a day doing nothing that has fulfilled you.

Please share how you create a good healthy working life below. Please remember to follow me if you would like to be kept up to date with all my blogs I have written.

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Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

7 Tips on how to be productive during self isolation

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At the moment we are all in self isolation and there are many reasons why we can lose faith in what we want to accomplish in our lives aswell as like me I look at my bed and sometimes contemplate whether to lie back in it or not.

That can become the norm if we are not careful and end up wasting so many days and going over what we need to do each day.

Here are 7 tips on how to be productive during self isolation:

So my first tip of this blog is to:

Tip 1# Have a plan of action

What do you add is what you want to accomplish that particular day and a deadline.

Tip 2# Create a block schedule

Check out my own schedule I have created which you can use as a guide or to print off.

My Block Schedule

Tip 3# Create a daily journal

I have a gratitude journal and even have one I use to write gags in, Bob Monkhouse, always had a load of joke books and now they have been put away in safe keeping. If you want to create a bit of humour in writing a journal, or even put together an art journal.

Tip 4# Take time for yourself to see how much you can get done

We all need time out and there is no time like the present, but we can still be productive by scheduling TV and quiet time

Tip 5# Set a side to catch up on research to help build your skills and knowledge each week

I love to learn to things and often will do a course via Reed.co.uk as you can learn so much at little cost.

Tip 6# Plan as much as you can before Monday before the busy school run 

I always use my Sundays to catch up on any finished jobs like updating Henry’s school diary, go through his book bag and any last minute things we need ready for the school week.

Getting ahead of myself is what I am about so anything I am not able to do, I do at the weekends

Tip 7# Use your time wisely so mornings, evenings and weekends

These are good times for me and I also give myself some TV time for some evenings or catching up on Youtube to help do some research or to just do something different.

So I hope you have found this useful and until next time

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

FINDING EMPOWERMENT THROUGH PEOPLE

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10+ Free Women Empowerment & Empowerment Images - PixabayI think it is safe to say that I love EMPOWERMENT and you’ll be surprised when you look around you how many things you can spot that will give you empowerment.

Music, TV, a film, a Podcast, nature or a video. I get empowerment from people and the one person who inspires me is Tony Robbins, who I discovered some years ago, when I was fed up and needed some words of wisdom.

This man had me transfixed within minutes because it was like he had just by watching his videos had got it to my head and saw the anxiety, stress I was feeling.

He now has a new book out called: Unshakable Your Financial Freedom Playbook.

This comes with a 30 day trial see link below:

https://www.audible.co.uk

I think we could all do with a some financial support at the moment, as jobs are affect by the International Lockdown.

The other people who inspire me is Oprah Winfrey, Jordan Paige, Debra Meadon, Mel Robbins and Paul McKenna as they all have inspiring stories.

I like people who are up front and honest, because they will tell me if I look bad or something not right.

So finding empowerment through people can make you see things in a whole different light, and help you look forward to the days ahead, instead of struggling not looking forward to the days to come.

Please remember you can keep up to date with all my blogs by following me on WordPress.com and please let me know of people who inspire you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

Dealing with the Inner Critic

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As human beings we can be driven by our Inner Critic.

That voice can go on and on, telling you,  your wasting your time and don’t bother getting out of bed do it tomorrow.

However not being Mrs Doom and Gloom, what if tomorrow never came?

Neither of us know what is around the corner. I have often seen things before they have happened, example I knew that my mum was going to end up with Tot (my step dad) ages before they got together, but not sure if this was coincidence or just a thought.

When it comes to dealing with the Inner Critic be ruthless with yourself and say “No I am going to go for run today” even if the Inner Critic keeps on and is constant.

Don’t ignore the Inner Critic because from my own experience when you do the voice can get stronger, so acknowledge it and tell it to “Shut up” get up out of bed, put your running gear by your bed on, which I would always suggest you so the night before and before the Inner Critic can continue go for a run.

With the Inner Critic it can effect our everyday lives, like when we write a letter, a book or a blog, going on examples. This voice is our protector in a way, as often as humans we can sniff out danger or that the letter isn’t good, so you proof read and edit it until it is good.

What you don’t want to do is allow it to take over, because once it does it can make you think Rapidly and then stop you in your tracks, talking you out of it, then you feel guilty for not doing what you wanted and it has ended up not being anything to really worry about at all.

I remember one work Christmas Party and it was a new job but being shy and suffering with Social Anxiety didn’t want to go, well I am glad I did because it was brilliant. Yes I did get drunk, but from that point forward really got to know my new colleagues and began to fit in. 

Keep a Journal to answer the Inner Critic and what you really think and what you should do. Example you have split from your boyfriend and you then have the Inner Critic telling you that you shouldn’t have done that, make bullet points as to why you did and then read them out, and create a new plan of action to move on.

When relationships breakdown there is a reason, so write in your journal about it to address the topic, and face the voice by looking in a mirror imaging the Inner Critic is in front of you head on and say “GO AWAY”, silence it by imagining the voice getting quieter and quieter until it is completely muted.

Then reducing the image of the Critic until it completely disappears.

Try doing this several times and you will no longer be dictated by the Inner Critic, but by the voice that is in your gut instead.

I have done a cheat for you to download with this activity and you can even stick it on the wall, and try it every time the Inner Critic speaks.

Dealing with the Inner Critic Cheat Sheet

I hope you have found this information helpful, and remember to follow me on WordPress.com to keep up to date with my posts.

Please leave a comment below to tell me how you deal with your Inner Critic.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

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Hi everyone! Yes it is Friday and if you have been like me working you nuts off then hats off to you.

We will get through this Pandemic and please do stay safe.

Thank you to all of you who have read and now are following this blog site and please do give me feedback of topics on this site you would like me to cover. You can leave a comment below.

In this blog I am linking my weekly newsletter blog, talking about 10 Tips on Dealing with betrayal:

https://newsletterthoughtsandadvicefortheweek.blogspot.com/2020/05/10-tips-on-dealing-with-betrayal.html

Have a great weekend and see you next week

 

Carrie X

 

 

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Newsletter blog/thoughts and advice for the week/talking about depression

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Hi All I hope you are having a great weekend. Please check out my weekly newsletter blog talking about depression. Not the most cheerful of subjects but I feel I need to talk about it as I have gone through another bout of depression and give advice on what to do (see link below):

https://newsletterthoughtsandadvicefortheweek.blogspot.com/2020/04/it-is-another-end-of-another-week-and-i.html

Many thanks to those who have read my blogs and welcome if you are new

 

Carrie X

The truths about this time of year that can lift or lower mood and don’t feel the festive cheer!

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HOW SHOULD I BEGIN THIS BLOG? I ASKED MYSELF ON BLOGMAS DAY 17!

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We know we have 8 more days left before many of us are either are happy to see what their kids got for Christmas and to find what we got to, or we feel unhappy because we have to work or some people will be alone and feeling blue. Many of us will have to work on Christmas day because not everything closes but are open because places like hospitals and hotels will still be busy and have people wanting to stay.

Yes I will still be eating the food and watch Henry as face it when we become parents the focus is no longer on us, when he opens his gifts which I know what he has got because reality check, it wasn’t Santa who is broke it is me.

That’s life we make sacrifices for our children and the people we love, however I won’t be all jolly all day although I will be happy that it is here and once again its well and truly almost over and then for many of us can concentrate on another year.

What we have to remember is that Christmas isn’t about giving gifts, yes it is nice, but my greatest gift is my son and my husband, spending time with them and relaxing and chilling on Christmas day. I want to focus on recuperating and get ready to finish my goals for the following year.

Doing blogmas has opened my eyes that I do waste my money and often waste my time. Yeah I want to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ but I also want to sit back and prepare for the rest of my life.

So if you know someone who may be alone, want some advice as this time of year can be difficult for some, then lend them a hand as you can make a difference, to bring them a smile to give them some Christmas festive cheer.

I will post more as we get further to Christmas day, but I am now got to be up and out of the way.

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https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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Handling anxiety during Christmas and have a successful one

28 Thursday Nov 2019

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First of all I have to recommend you watch some of the Mel Robbins videos about handling certain things that may happen leading up to Christmas. She did a recent one about never feeling guilty again and another about what not to talk about during Christmas and toxic family relatives. See these videos below.

Anxiety can creep up on you anywhere and can be caused by many things and can be triggered around this time of year, because of Christmas parties and seeing friends you don’t often see and family.

I love my family but there has been some feuds, example one of my Uncles who sadly isn’t with us anymore didn’t like the fact that we my mum (his sister) and my auntie (his other sister) were still in contact and friends with his ex-wife and when my mum and dad got divorced my dad couldn’t be in the same room as my mum and her new husband.

This can cause a strain because you do often have to dived yourself and often as I have been there, feel we have to lie about seeing the other person or not mention them in case it triggers that other person to start being very negative towards you and that other person.

At Christmas parties at work, there may be someone who is bullying you at work or you just don’t get along with and you are weary or fearful of them starting on you at the Christmas party.

My first tip is: Think about the people who you do look forward to seeing at Christmas or work with and focus on them, not on the person being negative. If there is a member of your family that doesn’t get along with someone else in your family then arrange to still see them but at different times. Example we often would spend Christmas day at my mums side of the family and boxing day with my dads side of the family. If this isn’t possible them why not spend time with them during the new year instead of Christmas.

Handling anxiety during Christmas is learning what causes it in the first place and so looking back and writing it down can help you find out what it truly is. This does mean digging deep but will help you manage these thoughts and come up with a solution. If it is about the food or if someone won’t like your gift then have a chat if you can with that person to find out what they would really like. Asking is often the best option and when it comes to food if someone offers to do it instead or help you, take them up on it and plan ahead, and go through the items that are worrying you first so you can help prevent the worries from happening.

To have a Successful Christmas isn’t about everything being perfect, sometimes the best memories are often when someone has gotten the wrong gift or spills salt into their dinner because the lid fell off the salt shaker. This would often happen at my Nan and Grandads at Christmas, yet it still makes me laugh and smile.

I gave my husband one year because I forgotten what it was I had bought and it was a year that we said we wouldn’t buy each other gifts but he did and so I then panicked and realised I had a gift. I thought it was a shaving kit, but turned out to be a car cleaning kit. Back then he didn’t have a car or licence but was very funny and he did see the funny side of it, and I did buy him another gift so technically he got two presents and it was fine.

If you are worried about drinking too much then don’t get into rounds and stick to buying your own drinks. This isn’t being tight or unsociable but saving yourself and them money, and you don’t have to worry about being pressured to have a alcoholic drink if you do not want one.

Worried about debt, save from January to December and even a little bit put aside can go a long way. Yes set a budget and check out Jordan Paige Youtube videos as she gives some great tips on how to save for the holidays.

So have a super Christmas, I will be posting more as we get nearer to the festive season, but until then have a super week and weekend.

Many thanks for reading.

 

Carrie X

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Never Try to Be Perfect/ Create good habits instead

07 Thursday Nov 2019

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I read an article a long time ago, whilst waiting to be seen by my dentist which has stayed in my mind. It was about how this woman who wrote the article was striving to be perfect, have the perfect body, eat the perfect diet, etc yet she felt completely miserable, and didn’t get any real benefit from it what so ever.

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Yes she was losing weight but instead of feeling like “Yeah I feel great” she felt tired, hungry and had little motivation.

The one of things that stood out of me in this article was when she wrote that, everyone’s perception of the word “perfect” is different, and that’s the same for me as far as I am concerned when it comes to the word success.

I was so insecure at an early age that the way I looked and felt really bought me down, and I would avoid mirrors, hate trying on clothes in a fitting room, because lets face it, they aren’t the most flattering of mirrors in some changing rooms, and at school there was a girl called Sherie who seemed to be beautiful, hair, face, height and nice and slim. She was very popular and everyone wanted to be friends with her.

I would dream constantly about being this girl and what it would be like for a day, and what it would be like to be that pretty and that popular. However looking back she wasn’t super confident really, when she first began at school as she started a little after I began school, yet we were in the same class, she cried for a whole day because she missed her mum,

She was the sort of person that constantly had to have people around her, yet looking back I liked the fact I got a bit of space. I did eventually make friends and she became my friend, and I would go to Sherie’s flat for tea after school, but I didn’t need constant attention by loads of people.

At the time I thought she was the most perfect girl in the world, but in fact she wasn’t. I remember coming home from secondary school seeing her coming home on the bus and causing a bit of trouble with the bus driver with some other kids.

She by any means was perfect. NO ONE IN THIS WORLD IS PERFECT!

Life isn’t about being perfect but thriving in life, creating good habits that will fulfill your wellbeing and aiming to be successful in what ever field or path you choose.

Check out these 30 Powerful Habits which will make your life more productive and will help you build a better life for yourself, which in turns helps build your wellbeing and creating more successes in your life.

What you need to understand is the word perfect is like the word diet, there is so many different types that make you believe that if you follow this diet, you can look like this or look like that celebrity, but it isn’t real. No one in the world is the same, but if there is someone who you admire than learn from them to help implement changes to what they do to feel better about themselves that you could use, but never copy because what works for one person doesn’t mean it will work for someone else.

Be your own person and get to love your imperfections. Seeing peoples imperfections is to me more endearing because they are just being who they are, and not bothered about the word perfect.

So aim high, created positive changes but never try to be perfect because as far as I am concerned there is no such thing.

Thank you to those who have given me such wonderful feedback on my blogs so far, on this site and for those who have been reading and enjoying them. Let me know what the word perfect means to you, and how you try not to be perfect. You can leave a comment below.

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Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

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People I no longer see

28 Sunday Apr 2019

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There have been many people I know longer see, not because we have fallen out, but as people we can often drift apart, as we get older and we continue to meet different people in our lives.

Without people we no longer see we wouldn’t have met the new people in our lives, as humans we are forever growing, and we learn from others.

Whether it be from other people’s mistakes or how they have become so successful in their life.

I wrote a piece a while ago about creating a foundation in our life, and how it so important, because we need those who help pick us up when we’re down.

However what about the people we no longer see? Well there is the wonders now of Social Media and I have rediscovered those friendships with some of those people through Instagram and Facebook, and it is good to see how much their life has changed developed too.

People evolve through time, and it sad to find out from others that those people we no longer see have passed away, but sadly that is life. People come and go, but the memories is what lasts forever.

I can look back and think about those people I know longer see with a smile, as I know I wouldn’t have gotten this far in my life without them.

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Many thanks reading,

Carrie X