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When I lost my spark for Christmas.

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In the year 1999 my world appeared to crumble in front of me as it was the first Christmas that not all the family were their celebrate, as my mum and dad had split up for good this time, and was getting divorced, my brother and I fights got worse that we both would hit out at one another as soon as we saw each other and not long after that Christmas my nan died, (my mums mum).

I knew it was going to be different when earlier in the year of 1999 my mum told me whilst driving to North End road, but I was some what prepared because I saw it was going to happen a long time before then, and said “Yes I know, I had a feeling that was coming”, but I did end up spending a lot of time out, not wanting to face the music of it.

The reality of it was stronger than the thought of it, and I didn’t want to be involved, but I was, because as soon as it happened my dad would be very angry saying some very nasty things to me, about my mum, like I hope she dies of cancer and if I see her again, I’ll stab her and my mum then would say, Your dad cheated on me, she moved us to North Sheen, near Richmond, because my dad kicking off because of the nose of our neighbours living in our block and it was just being between a tug of war.

I am rewriting my book called, The Peabody Years, as it was quite small compared to what I wanted it to be and there is more I would like to add, but in the year of 1999 we had been living in our first houses in North Sheen since the year of 1996.

That year in 1999 was the first time I had ever dreaded Christmas and wanted it to go away. I had gone into a depression that I can not describe, and found it hard to even get out of bed.

I had changed jobs and was not happy at all. I hated where I was working and resigned as we got closer to the festive season. The spark I had for the Christmas had gone and I thought it would never return, and I was getting drunk a lot before then, and finally I came out of it after the new year, after reading a book by Paul McKenna, called, “I can make you confident in 7 days” and it was what I needed and yes it helped me immensely.

I was so used before this happened in 1999 used to traditional Christmases, where we would go to my nans house in Finborough Road Estate in Earls Court, and my grandad when he was alive, would cut the turkey, we’d open our gifts before dinner as my I or one of my cousins would help him hand out the gifts under my nans tree, and then after dinner my grandparents, my parents and my Aunty and Uncle would play a card game.

So when Christmas of 1999 approached I knew that those days were surely over and it hit my like a knife, that Christmases a I knew them would never happen again.

It did take a long time to get my spark for Christmas to come back, as I for a long while became a humbug, and saw it like any other day.

I hated the way I felt, and I had also begun to starve myself. Yes I had an eating disorder and it was when I passed out at my nans, I knew I had to turn my life around, as I was frightened of how much weight I lost. I lost strength in my arms, I had no energy to do anything and was constantly feeling guilty about everything I ate.

To not make this blog not too long, I did end up finding my spark again when I went to Florida one year and after my son was born.

I decided to also help bring back my spark for Christmas I needed to create a new set of Christmas traditions and that is I always like to do a Christmas run or long walk each year, and on boxing day too. Another one, is I like to decorate for the Christmas cheer whilst playing Christmas songs, and go to a Christmas market, and borough market in London, and have a cup of Mulled Wine or Winter cider.

My sons first Christmas being a mum was different too, as Henry was born unexpectantly premature and again I didn’t think much about it, but from his next Christmas I wanted it to be magical for him, like it was when I was a kid, and want to continue to do so, for when I have more children.

If you have had a familiar experience around Christmas time I would love to hear your story. You can leave a comment below.

Also if you are new to my blogs then you may not know that I like to raise money this time of year, for one of my charities I like to support, and this year I am raising money for a Charity called Tommy’s who raise money to support families whom have had stillbirths and premature births. My Just Giving page is link below if you would like to make a donation:

https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/theparentingadventuresprematurebirths

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Be Yourself and never copy

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To be successful it is important to be yourself and never copy as people will know that you have stolen someone elses idea.

When it comes to building an empire it should always be original and stand out from the rest.

My blogs have been doing extremely well because I share my difficulties as well as good parts of my life, because people who read my posts can relate to it as they know it is written from the heart as well from my mind.

Throughout our lives there are events which are out of our control, but when we manage our mindset it can help us to overcome our challenges and thrive in our lives.

I knew taking on the Great North run would take some doing, so I did train for it and I have written about this a lot, because it was a massive accomplishment, and one I am extremely proud of, and made me see that with sheer determination and drive I could do anything.

I have created a blog network, which is doing well for itself, and even though this passed few weeks have been tough, I do see a light and know that there are even more better things to come, and it is the old saying “When you full of a horse, always get back on”, because life is about thriving and living, not about existing.

So if you have idea, don’t throw it in the bin, but keep going and remember never copy as people will see through it, and that “Your only doing it for the money and because it is trendy”.

A business has to be created by your heart and mind, and have its own personal appearance, and have originality, and benefits people.

When I was working at Sitel I won many awards for my Customer Service, and this was due to taking a lot of emails, calls and online chats.

I did make mistakes but I have come to accept that mistakes needed to be made for me to learn for next time and the one thing I think helped me is I like to get in touch with people’s hearts and minds to, to help them and was always my biggest skill because people want to feel cared for and that there was someone willing to listen, and that was one thing I always did and will continue to do, to help them thrive and be happy.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Creating a healthy work life

02 Tuesday Jun 2020

Posted by Carries Blog Network in career building, Everyday living, Love, New Beginnings, Personal Development, Work

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8 Remarkable Quotes on Work Life Balance From Successful People

Hi and welcome to another blog. So, many kids have now returned to school this week. It is amazing how much spare time you have, not that I didn’t enjoy the extra time I spent with my son, but the Lockdown since last week was taking it toll, to the point I was completely blogged out.

I spent so much time blogging as much as I could that I did suffer with burn out.

It is important when working that you have a healthy work life. I know it isn’t easy, but we can get so bogged down that it can become too much and before you know it you are under your neck with so much to do.

The one thing you should schedule is chill out or quiet time, to have a hot bath and read a book, or TV time.

Rest is just as important as working so make time for it.

Allow some proper wake up time, I don’t function correctly if I haven’t had a hearty breakfast or a cup of tea.

Whilst your child is a school why not schedule a day to reunite yourself with your friends, following the social distancing rules.

Still no many shops or places are open but doesn’t stop someone from popping around for a coffee does it.

Have a DVD night or TV night with some pop corn, crisps or other snacks.

It is all about making the most of every hour of the day. I find when I have had a constructive day that I function better and sleep a lot better.

So take some time out and create a schedule you know you can stick to. Please check out my blog post about my routine:

Establish a good routine to conquer a successful Day

Having a good routine can really help get everything you need to do done and be happy with yourself, rather than feeling bogged down or you have wasted a day doing nothing that has fulfilled you.

Please share how you create a good healthy working life below. Please remember to follow me if you would like to be kept up to date with all my blogs I have written.

Do check out my weekly newsletter blog (see link below):

https://newsletterthoughtsandadvicefortheweek.blogspot.com/2020/06/life-and-times-of-butlins-holiday-camp.html

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

7 Tips on how to be productive during self isolation

30 Saturday May 2020

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At the moment we are all in self isolation and there are many reasons why we can lose faith in what we want to accomplish in our lives aswell as like me I look at my bed and sometimes contemplate whether to lie back in it or not.

That can become the norm if we are not careful and end up wasting so many days and going over what we need to do each day.

Here are 7 tips on how to be productive during self isolation:

So my first tip of this blog is to:

Tip 1# Have a plan of action

What do you add is what you want to accomplish that particular day and a deadline.

Tip 2# Create a block schedule

Check out my own schedule I have created which you can use as a guide or to print off.

My Block Schedule

Tip 3# Create a daily journal

I have a gratitude journal and even have one I use to write gags in, Bob Monkhouse, always had a load of joke books and now they have been put away in safe keeping. If you want to create a bit of humour in writing a journal, or even put together an art journal.

Tip 4# Take time for yourself to see how much you can get done

We all need time out and there is no time like the present, but we can still be productive by scheduling TV and quiet time

Tip 5# Set a side to catch up on research to help build your skills and knowledge each week

I love to learn to things and often will do a course via Reed.co.uk as you can learn so much at little cost.

Tip 6# Plan as much as you can before Monday before the busy school run 

I always use my Sundays to catch up on any finished jobs like updating Henry’s school diary, go through his book bag and any last minute things we need ready for the school week.

Getting ahead of myself is what I am about so anything I am not able to do, I do at the weekends

Tip 7# Use your time wisely so mornings, evenings and weekends

These are good times for me and I also give myself some TV time for some evenings or catching up on Youtube to help do some research or to just do something different.

So I hope you have found this useful and until next time

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

FINDING EMPOWERMENT THROUGH PEOPLE

06 Wednesday May 2020

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Books, Everyday living, Financial Freedom, Inspiring stories, Personal Development

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10+ Free Women Empowerment & Empowerment Images - PixabayI think it is safe to say that I love EMPOWERMENT and you’ll be surprised when you look around you how many things you can spot that will give you empowerment.

Music, TV, a film, a Podcast, nature or a video. I get empowerment from people and the one person who inspires me is Tony Robbins, who I discovered some years ago, when I was fed up and needed some words of wisdom.

This man had me transfixed within minutes because it was like he had just by watching his videos had got it to my head and saw the anxiety, stress I was feeling.

He now has a new book out called: Unshakable Your Financial Freedom Playbook.

This comes with a 30 day trial see link below:

https://www.audible.co.uk

I think we could all do with a some financial support at the moment, as jobs are affect by the International Lockdown.

The other people who inspire me is Oprah Winfrey, Jordan Paige, Debra Meadon, Mel Robbins and Paul McKenna as they all have inspiring stories.

I like people who are up front and honest, because they will tell me if I look bad or something not right.

So finding empowerment through people can make you see things in a whole different light, and help you look forward to the days ahead, instead of struggling not looking forward to the days to come.

Please remember you can keep up to date with all my blogs by following me on WordPress.com and please let me know of people who inspire you.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

Dealing with the Inner Critic

04 Monday May 2020

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Boundaries, career building, Cheat sheet, Everyday living, Personal Development

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As human beings we can be driven by our Inner Critic.

That voice can go on and on, telling you,  your wasting your time and don’t bother getting out of bed do it tomorrow.

However not being Mrs Doom and Gloom, what if tomorrow never came?

Neither of us know what is around the corner. I have often seen things before they have happened, example I knew that my mum was going to end up with Tot (my step dad) ages before they got together, but not sure if this was coincidence or just a thought.

When it comes to dealing with the Inner Critic be ruthless with yourself and say “No I am going to go for run today” even if the Inner Critic keeps on and is constant.

Don’t ignore the Inner Critic because from my own experience when you do the voice can get stronger, so acknowledge it and tell it to “Shut up” get up out of bed, put your running gear by your bed on, which I would always suggest you so the night before and before the Inner Critic can continue go for a run.

With the Inner Critic it can effect our everyday lives, like when we write a letter, a book or a blog, going on examples. This voice is our protector in a way, as often as humans we can sniff out danger or that the letter isn’t good, so you proof read and edit it until it is good.

What you don’t want to do is allow it to take over, because once it does it can make you think Rapidly and then stop you in your tracks, talking you out of it, then you feel guilty for not doing what you wanted and it has ended up not being anything to really worry about at all.

I remember one work Christmas Party and it was a new job but being shy and suffering with Social Anxiety didn’t want to go, well I am glad I did because it was brilliant. Yes I did get drunk, but from that point forward really got to know my new colleagues and began to fit in. 

Keep a Journal to answer the Inner Critic and what you really think and what you should do. Example you have split from your boyfriend and you then have the Inner Critic telling you that you shouldn’t have done that, make bullet points as to why you did and then read them out, and create a new plan of action to move on.

When relationships breakdown there is a reason, so write in your journal about it to address the topic, and face the voice by looking in a mirror imaging the Inner Critic is in front of you head on and say “GO AWAY”, silence it by imagining the voice getting quieter and quieter until it is completely muted.

Then reducing the image of the Critic until it completely disappears.

Try doing this several times and you will no longer be dictated by the Inner Critic, but by the voice that is in your gut instead.

I have done a cheat for you to download with this activity and you can even stick it on the wall, and try it every time the Inner Critic speaks.

Dealing with the Inner Critic Cheat Sheet

I hope you have found this information helpful, and remember to follow me on WordPress.com to keep up to date with my posts.

Please leave a comment below to tell me how you deal with your Inner Critic.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

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Newsletter blog

01 Friday May 2020

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Hi everyone! Yes it is Friday and if you have been like me working you nuts off then hats off to you.

We will get through this Pandemic and please do stay safe.

Thank you to all of you who have read and now are following this blog site and please do give me feedback of topics on this site you would like me to cover. You can leave a comment below.

In this blog I am linking my weekly newsletter blog, talking about 10 Tips on Dealing with betrayal:

https://newsletterthoughtsandadvicefortheweek.blogspot.com/2020/05/10-tips-on-dealing-with-betrayal.html

Have a great weekend and see you next week

 

Carrie X

 

 

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Newsletter blog/thoughts and advice for the week/talking about depression

19 Sunday Apr 2020

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Hi All I hope you are having a great weekend. Please check out my weekly newsletter blog talking about depression. Not the most cheerful of subjects but I feel I need to talk about it as I have gone through another bout of depression and give advice on what to do (see link below):

https://newsletterthoughtsandadvicefortheweek.blogspot.com/2020/04/it-is-another-end-of-another-week-and-i.html

Many thanks to those who have read my blogs and welcome if you are new

 

Carrie X

The truths about this time of year that can lift or lower mood and don’t feel the festive cheer!

17 Tuesday Dec 2019

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HOW SHOULD I BEGIN THIS BLOG? I ASKED MYSELF ON BLOGMAS DAY 17!

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We know we have 8 more days left before many of us are either are happy to see what their kids got for Christmas and to find what we got to, or we feel unhappy because we have to work or some people will be alone and feeling blue. Many of us will have to work on Christmas day because not everything closes but are open because places like hospitals and hotels will still be busy and have people wanting to stay.

Yes I will still be eating the food and watch Henry as face it when we become parents the focus is no longer on us, when he opens his gifts which I know what he has got because reality check, it wasn’t Santa who is broke it is me.

That’s life we make sacrifices for our children and the people we love, however I won’t be all jolly all day although I will be happy that it is here and once again its well and truly almost over and then for many of us can concentrate on another year.

What we have to remember is that Christmas isn’t about giving gifts, yes it is nice, but my greatest gift is my son and my husband, spending time with them and relaxing and chilling on Christmas day. I want to focus on recuperating and get ready to finish my goals for the following year.

Doing blogmas has opened my eyes that I do waste my money and often waste my time. Yeah I want to celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ but I also want to sit back and prepare for the rest of my life.

So if you know someone who may be alone, want some advice as this time of year can be difficult for some, then lend them a hand as you can make a difference, to bring them a smile to give them some Christmas festive cheer.

I will post more as we get further to Christmas day, but I am now got to be up and out of the way.

Please see link to my other blog sites, and remember you can live a comment if you like:

https://www.carriesrealworld.com/

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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Handling anxiety during Christmas and have a successful one

28 Thursday Nov 2019

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First of all I have to recommend you watch some of the Mel Robbins videos about handling certain things that may happen leading up to Christmas. She did a recent one about never feeling guilty again and another about what not to talk about during Christmas and toxic family relatives. See these videos below.

Anxiety can creep up on you anywhere and can be caused by many things and can be triggered around this time of year, because of Christmas parties and seeing friends you don’t often see and family.

I love my family but there has been some feuds, example one of my Uncles who sadly isn’t with us anymore didn’t like the fact that we my mum (his sister) and my auntie (his other sister) were still in contact and friends with his ex-wife and when my mum and dad got divorced my dad couldn’t be in the same room as my mum and her new husband.

This can cause a strain because you do often have to dived yourself and often as I have been there, feel we have to lie about seeing the other person or not mention them in case it triggers that other person to start being very negative towards you and that other person.

At Christmas parties at work, there may be someone who is bullying you at work or you just don’t get along with and you are weary or fearful of them starting on you at the Christmas party.

My first tip is: Think about the people who you do look forward to seeing at Christmas or work with and focus on them, not on the person being negative. If there is a member of your family that doesn’t get along with someone else in your family then arrange to still see them but at different times. Example we often would spend Christmas day at my mums side of the family and boxing day with my dads side of the family. If this isn’t possible them why not spend time with them during the new year instead of Christmas.

Handling anxiety during Christmas is learning what causes it in the first place and so looking back and writing it down can help you find out what it truly is. This does mean digging deep but will help you manage these thoughts and come up with a solution. If it is about the food or if someone won’t like your gift then have a chat if you can with that person to find out what they would really like. Asking is often the best option and when it comes to food if someone offers to do it instead or help you, take them up on it and plan ahead, and go through the items that are worrying you first so you can help prevent the worries from happening.

To have a Successful Christmas isn’t about everything being perfect, sometimes the best memories are often when someone has gotten the wrong gift or spills salt into their dinner because the lid fell off the salt shaker. This would often happen at my Nan and Grandads at Christmas, yet it still makes me laugh and smile.

I gave my husband one year because I forgotten what it was I had bought and it was a year that we said we wouldn’t buy each other gifts but he did and so I then panicked and realised I had a gift. I thought it was a shaving kit, but turned out to be a car cleaning kit. Back then he didn’t have a car or licence but was very funny and he did see the funny side of it, and I did buy him another gift so technically he got two presents and it was fine.

If you are worried about drinking too much then don’t get into rounds and stick to buying your own drinks. This isn’t being tight or unsociable but saving yourself and them money, and you don’t have to worry about being pressured to have a alcoholic drink if you do not want one.

Worried about debt, save from January to December and even a little bit put aside can go a long way. Yes set a budget and check out Jordan Paige Youtube videos as she gives some great tips on how to save for the holidays.

So have a super Christmas, I will be posting more as we get nearer to the festive season, but until then have a super week and weekend.

Many thanks for reading.

 

Carrie X

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