05 Tuesday May 2020
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career building, Erin may henry, Everyday living, everyone can build a castle, habit tracker cheat sheet, Video content
Check out this video by Erin May Henry about 11 Habits of Successful Women, and check below of a Habit Tracker Cheat sheet:
Many thanks,
Carrie X
04 Monday May 2020
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Be ruthless, Cheat sheet, dealing with the inner critic, everyonecanbuildacastle, Social Anxiety
That voice can go on and on, telling you, your wasting your time and don’t bother getting out of bed do it tomorrow.
However not being Mrs Doom and Gloom, what if tomorrow never came?
Neither of us know what is around the corner. I have often seen things before they have happened, example I knew that my mum was going to end up with Tot (my step dad) ages before they got together, but not sure if this was coincidence or just a thought.
When it comes to dealing with the Inner Critic be ruthless with yourself and say “No I am going to go for run today” even if the Inner Critic keeps on and is constant.
Don’t ignore the Inner Critic because from my own experience when you do the voice can get stronger, so acknowledge it and tell it to “Shut up” get up out of bed, put your running gear by your bed on, which I would always suggest you so the night before and before the Inner Critic can continue go for a run.
With the Inner Critic it can effect our everyday lives, like when we write a letter, a book or a blog, going on examples. This voice is our protector in a way, as often as humans we can sniff out danger or that the letter isn’t good, so you proof read and edit it until it is good.
What you don’t want to do is allow it to take over, because once it does it can make you think Rapidly and then stop you in your tracks, talking you out of it, then you feel guilty for not doing what you wanted and it has ended up not being anything to really worry about at all.
I remember one work Christmas Party and it was a new job but being shy and suffering with Social Anxiety didn’t want to go, well I am glad I did because it was brilliant. Yes I did get drunk, but from that point forward really got to know my new colleagues and began to fit in.
Keep a Journal to answer the Inner Critic and what you really think and what you should do. Example you have split from your boyfriend and you then have the Inner Critic telling you that you shouldn’t have done that, make bullet points as to why you did and then read them out, and create a new plan of action to move on.
When relationships breakdown there is a reason, so write in your journal about it to address the topic, and face the voice by looking in a mirror imaging the Inner Critic is in front of you head on and say “GO AWAY”, silence it by imagining the voice getting quieter and quieter until it is completely muted.
Then reducing the image of the Critic until it completely disappears.
Try doing this several times and you will no longer be dictated by the Inner Critic, but by the voice that is in your gut instead.
I have done a cheat for you to download with this activity and you can even stick it on the wall, and try it every time the Inner Critic speaks.
Dealing with the Inner Critic Cheat Sheet
I hope you have found this information helpful, and remember to follow me on WordPress.com to keep up to date with my posts.
Please leave a comment below to tell me how you deal with your Inner Critic.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
03 Sunday May 2020
Posted in Everyday living, Personal Development, Work
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bad luck, Building success in your life, creating good luck for success, everyone can build a castle, make your own luck, what is luck
Suffering with mental health problems such as anxiety, worry and depression some days I just wish I didn’t get out of bed.
However from learning from when I was a kid to an adult, is often you have to make your own luck and see bad luck as a hurdle rather than hitting a brick wall.
Luck comes in all shapes and sizes and can be like someone slapping you knocking you off your feet, but do you get up or stay on the ground?
Or there is good luck and you feel like you have been swept off your feet.
I have had some bad luck this year already but at the same time have met some good people who believe in me, through my writing. So to me that is good luck.
So can you still be successful and have bad luck.?
So I do wish you every success in your life and many thanks for reading my blogs and liking them and remember to follow me to keep up to date with all my posts on this site
HAPPY SUNDAY PEEPS
Carrie X
02 Saturday May 2020
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blog, Blogger, Blogspot, building a foundation around you, creating a foundation and following the unplanned, Creating success in your life, everyone can build a castle, feelings
Hello and welcome to another blog. In today’s post I am writing about Building a Foundation around you. Now I did do another blog a long while ago called,
Creating a foundation and following the unplanned
Since this blog my life has changed. My marriage has come to and end, some jobs I was doing didn’t workout, yet I still feel I have built a good foundation.
There are people out there who I have been working with who believe in my blogs and books which have become my full time job. I am writing a book called Everyone Can Build a Castle, because I have had so much positive feedback that I thought it was time.
It is important to have a team especially if you are a blogwriter and also do other jobs, because it can become overwhelming, so having someone you can delegate jobs to is a “must have” in my book.
It has been a very difficult year but now I have met the man of my dreams who has bought the word “Love” back into my life. Being in love again is truly special and a new life is beginning for me.
Sometimes in order to create foundation you have to do some searching and may take time to know them, but once you have built that foundation and you can sleep at night you know you are on the right track for success.
However there will be people who will try and manipulate, stir trouble or be a negative person, but never let these people dictate and let them wallow in their misery.
ITS NOT YOUR PROBLEM!
What you want to do is have a good set of people who can jump in when you fall, and be your Rock.
Please remember to follow me if you wish to be kept up to date with my blogpost. I am now planning on blogging on this site everyday and so I will be back with a post tomorrow aswell.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
01 Friday May 2020
Posted in Boundaries, Personal Development, Related pages, Useful articles
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10 tips on dealing with betrayal, articles, blog, Blogger, Blogspot, everyonecanbuildacastle, good reads, link, newsletter
Hi everyone! Yes it is Friday and if you have been like me working you nuts off then hats off to you.
We will get through this Pandemic and please do stay safe.
Thank you to all of you who have read and now are following this blog site and please do give me feedback of topics on this site you would like me to cover. You can leave a comment below.
In this blog I am linking my weekly newsletter blog, talking about 10 Tips on Dealing with betrayal:
Have a great weekend and see you next week
Carrie X
30 Thursday Apr 2020
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blog, blog writing, Blogger, Blogspot, Building confidence, everyone can build a castle, home truths, inspiration, negative people
This year I have learned some home truths and that is some people are not what they seem to be and have become a huge disappointment.
I suffer with Social Anxiety and have done for years, but I have come to learn that it all depends on the people I have chosen to hang around with.
Since this year I have met some wonderful people, but there is always those who drag you down.
STOP THEM AND SHUT THEM DOWN!
I wrote a blog called,
It can be these people that cause other people to self sabotage and make you feel worthless, let me tell you that this is not about you, but them, so ignore them if you can and let them know that you aren’t happy with them.
YOU DO HAVE THE RIGHT TO FIGHT BACK
I am a loyal person always have been and I stick with people through thick and thin, but I have been hurt by these people, that I have had no choice but to walk away. Relationships are hard and they do come in all shapes and sizes. I think that is why my blog community has grown, because when I believe in something like this blog people can see that and can relate to it.
Let me tell you now that you are worth it and go for the dream job you want or the lifestyle. No one has the right to tell you how to live and who you should be friends with, or that they shouldn’t do something.
As long as it has good intentions then go for what you want and aim for bigger and better things.
People have a dream and vision for a reason so pursue it and forget those who are jealous.
I will hold my hands up I have been jealous too and it is not a nice feeling as you become begrudging when do I really want to see someone fall or succeed?
I want people to succeed in their life, not hurt anyone and thrive at what they do. No one has the right to drag anyone down because they’ve had a bad day, but be a shoulder to cry on if they do wish to discuss matters with you, rather than screaming and shouting.
Jealousy comes in all shapes and sizes, and for me is like having a parasite in the pit of your stomach to the point you feel this anger and resentment. It can eat away at you, and you end up questioning yourself, so I try go by the commandments in the Bible, which is,
TREAT THOSE HOW YOU WISH TO BE TREATED
I don’t like having a pop at someone, it isn’t in my nature but I will find my voice when someone I feel is having a cheap shot at me, and that I am not going to let it make me dive but to survive and succeed, and so should you.
So be happy within yourself and create a good foundation of people around you. I love being around others who want the same outcome as me, and that is to be a successful writer, to work in comedy, music and football.
It does come with hard work and you do have to be committed but it doesn’t mean you can’t go out and get it.
So good luck and I hope you succeed and let me know of the things you have wanted to to do and achieved. I love hearing about these types of stories as I find it so inspiring and let me tell you have my backing all the way.
Remember you can keep up to date with all my blog posts on WordPress.com by following me.
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Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
28 Tuesday Apr 2020
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everyone can build a castle, impulse buying, Impulse thinking, investing, making decisions, running a business, Shopping tips and tricks
Often we act on Impulse, such as when we see someone fall over our instinct is to go over and help them, or we impulse buy and then regret it afterwards after looking at our bank balance and realise there is zero amount left.
So how do you use impulse thinking wisely?
Well if you see someone fall over walk over to them slowly but don’t rush over as they could have knife and so may attack especially if they have been drinking, and then crouch down like you would a child and ask “Is everything okay?”.
With impulse buying as like I do if I see a planner I feel the rush of excitement and the thought of I have to have the item otherwise it could go, but the question is, do I really need the item and what benefit will I get from it?
Impulse thinking can work for you or against you. Example we often get fulled by the items being at the checkout encouraging you to buy, but often if you do the maths the price of that item can still workout to be more, than other brands of products and the impulse items are often on eye level to grab your attention on the shelves.
So next time you wish to invest in an item don’t go with the first item you see, do the maths and look at the top and bottom shelves as the cheaper items that still taste good can be found on these shelves which will make you more of a saving.
When want to invest in a business we want to run we can do impulse thinking as you have to be quick at making decisions, like do I need a new domain name? Will this content be good enough? I often write my blogs on impulse, as it all depends how I am feeling and what is happening at that moment in time.
So use impulse thinking to your advantage so it works for you not against you and this can lead to everlasting success.
I have also written a blog on my related site Building Self Confidence – The Ugly Duckling so go over to this site if you would like to read my latest post on there too.
https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/2020/04/building-confidence-about-your-self.html
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
26 Sunday Apr 2020
Posted in career building, Cheat sheet, Printables, Related pages, Youtube videos
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blog writing, Blogger, building success through a blog, cheat sheets, creating a blog, creating a successful blog, dos and donts when writing a blog, everybodycanbuildacastle, Mel Robbins, Tony Robbins
Hi everyone I am writing today about Building Success through a blog. I have been writing blogs for about 12 years now and I absolutely love it and enjoy creating content for you to read.
You can do it as a living which is what I am building up to do, so I have an income coming in via my blogposts.
It isn’t an easy task, but from my learning and understanding once you start it is hard to stop.
I have written my Newsletter blog talking about The Do’s and Don’t when building a blog, which I have added into a cheat sheet below: https://newsletterthoughtsandadvicefortheweek.blogspot.com/2020/04/the-dos-and-dont-when-building-blog.html
I have created a couple of cheat sheets to help you with writing a successful blog (see below):
cheat sheet on the dos and don’ts when writing a blogpost
The one thing I would say is ignore the doubters, as long you believe in your blogpost and writing engaging content then keep going.
Don’t be put off if you don’t get an audience at first, because it does take time. Also remember to use Keywords.
You can build success through a blog by being consistent and if you take a break then do let your audience know.
Find your niche which for me I found through working in customer service, discovering people like Tony Robbins and Mel Robbins, Oprah Winfrey and Youtubers like Louise Pentland, Rebecca Meldrum, Mimi and Alex Ikon, Kate Murnane and Fleur De Force.
Check out this video by Tony Robbins talking about:
Be productive, which I talk a lot about on this site, because the more productive you are the more blogs you can write. Make sure for example you have clear space to work on and remember quality is better than quantity, just batch writing I find has helped me stay on track, as now I write practically everyday.
Make it a habit that before or after you have finished your blogwriting you tidy your area ready for the next day.
Please remember you can keep up to date with all my blogposts via following me on WordPress.com
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
25 Saturday Apr 2020
Posted in Everyday living, Personal Development, Youtube videos
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Building Empowerment through comedy and laughter, Canon and Ball, films, impersonating, sitcoms, stand up comedy, Television, TV shows
Hi and welcome to another blog post where today in this post I will be talking about Building Empowerment through comedy and laughter.
I have always been into comedy and my favourite double acts were Canon and Ball, and Little and Large.
Sadly Eddie Large is no longer with us, but was a comedy genius and someone who for me was born to be a comedian. You could just see it, and will be sadly missed and my heart goes out to his friends and family.
You can keep up to date if you too are Canon and Ball fan by visiting the website below, where you’ll find dates to see other comedians aswell, such as Bradley Walsh, Bobby Davro, Jimmy Tarbuck and more.
Empowerment to me means being given energy to succeed in life and comedy for me just does that for me along with music, which I have talked about in other blogs.
My favourite sketch for Canon and Ball was when they impersonated West Side story, it makes me laugh every time. Check it out in the video below:
With comedy you have to have good chemistry especially being a doubled act and with the audience aswell, and for me Canon and Ball did that, along with Little and Large.
This is why Morecombe and Wise were so good too, because they were exactly the same, but I remember them from watching their work later on in my life, and they too brought a smile to my face and made me laugh.
Comedy is pure entertainment and can instantly make you feel good, when having a bad day.
Who can forget Laurel and hardy and Norman Wisdom? They did comical films rather than shows, and pure comedy legends in my book, along with Bob Monkhouse and Ken Dodd.
With comedy comes endorphins and with that in turn works wonders and when you feel down in the dumps why not use comedy as medicine too, which in turn is empowering.
Who can beat a sitcom?
I love a good sitcom and the ones I have watched continuously are Only Fools and Horses, Friends, Not Going Out, Vicar of Dibley, The Royal Family, Goodnight Sweetheart Mrs Browns Boys and Dads Army.
The characterization is brilliant, along with the writing and the directing. The facial expressions are tremendous and Characters like Trigger played by Roger Lloyd Pack was comedy sitcom acting at its best, because he looked like his characters name. He suited the character Trigger and he played the character so well.
That for me is empowering, because the story of Only Fools and Horses written by John Sullivan, was really a sad story, because it is based on two brothers Del Boy and Rodney, and because their father left them and their mother had died, Rodney was brought by his kid brother, and all Del Boy dreams of is becoming a millionaire.
If you think about it I know in myself I have little Del Boy in me, as I think everyone wants the same success. No it isn’t about the money as such, but it helps. All Del Boy really wanted was to be a success, so looking at comedy that is what its based upon.
I wrote a similar blog to this on my Google Blogpost called Using Laughter as the best sauce of medicine I talk about Steptoe and Son, which again is very funny, a bit more ruder because there is bad language but it still well written and is based again on a sad story.
That is why I enjoy writing and would like to write comedy because it makes me smile and makes my readers smile too.
I have created a fictional blog called The West London Girl based on a woman who is a stand up comedian living in West London, and was born and brought up there.
So if you do need inspiration and empowerment then why not download if you sky Boxsets, Smart TV or Now TV Box download a good comedy which in turn will make you laugh out loud and forget about the bad you have had or if you self Isolating.
Let me know what comedy and comedians you like that you feel has empowered you. You can leave a comment below and remember to follow me if you would like to be alerted of my posts, by following me on WordPress.com
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
20 Monday Apr 2020
Posted in Everyday living, Personal Development, Youtube videos
I have never felt so lonely in all myself, and people may say “What would you know?”
Well being lonely is the hardest thing at the moment, having to stay indoors due to the Lockdown and I have gone through an emotional breakdown.
Anyone can feel lonely, especially when you have people you feel are against you.
This morning I had a terrible dream, where a certain person had sent something out that wasn’t from me, but they made out it was going to be.
There are, as I have learned as I have grown older is that there are some people who are,
I have met a fantastic guy who has made me smile from ear to ear, and is helping me through it, along with my Keyworker and Doctor and other amazing people that if I told you, you wouldn’t believe it because it is surreal.
The people who are being manipulative and sad to say,
There is a song that I would like to share that I have played a lot of by Alexandra O’Neill, called Criticize,
If you feel lonely and isolated because you are being bullied or you know someone who is being bullied, then speak out to them.
Also if you want to share your experience then I would recommend that you write a blog, journal or even create quotation cards.
You can often feel like any kind of abuse whether it be bulling or domestic violence start to blame yourself .
My advice is,
You begin to self sabotage and feel you aren’t worthy of anything, and so you stop dead in your tracks and begin to ask the wrong questions, which can lead to further Scrutiny and make you go backwards rather than forwards.
I have just watched a brilliant video by the one and only Russell Brand, who talks about How he has stopped self sabotage.
Even from a young age I felt lonely as I would sit on a school bench in the playground and sit by myself. When I worked at a modelling and crafting company I felt the same so loneliness can effect us all, but if we use the power of the internet to help us rather than using it to abuse people you will be surprised of how the internet can be a good close community of people.
So lets get through this time together and lets communicate with those who feel lonely too, as sometimes all they want is someone to talk to.
I wish you all the very best.
Many thanks for your reading,
Carrie X
Everyone can build a castle 