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Building Success through a blog

26 Sunday Apr 2020

Posted by Carries Blog Network in career building, Cheat sheet, Printables, Related pages, Youtube videos

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blog writing, Blogger, building success through a blog, cheat sheets, creating a blog, creating a successful blog, dos and donts when writing a blog, everybodycanbuildacastle, Mel Robbins, Tony Robbins

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Hi everyone I am writing today about Building Success through a blog. I have been writing blogs for about 12 years now and I absolutely love it and enjoy creating content for you to read.

You can do it as a living which is what I am building up to do, so I have an income coming in via my blogposts.

It isn’t an easy task, but from my learning and understanding once you start it is hard to stop.

I have written my Newsletter blog talking about The Do’s and Don’t when building a blog, which I have added into a cheat sheet below: https://newsletterthoughtsandadvicefortheweek.blogspot.com/2020/04/the-dos-and-dont-when-building-blog.html

I have created a couple of cheat sheets to help you with writing a successful blog (see below):

Cheat Sheet on writing a blog

cheat sheet on the dos and don’ts when writing a blogpost

The one thing I would say is ignore the doubters, as long you believe in your blogpost and writing engaging content then keep going.

Don’t be put off if you don’t get an audience at first, because it does take time. Also remember to use Keywords.

You can build success through a blog by being consistent and if you take a break then do let your audience know.

Find your niche which for me I found through working in customer service, discovering people like Tony Robbins and Mel Robbins, Oprah Winfrey and Youtubers like Louise Pentland, Rebecca Meldrum, Mimi and Alex Ikon, Kate Murnane and Fleur De Force.

Check out this video by Tony Robbins talking about:

How To Eliminate Self-Doubt and Develop IRONCLAD CONFIDENCE

Be productive, which I talk a lot about on this site, because the more productive you are the more blogs you can write. Make sure for example you have clear space to work on and remember quality is better than quantity, just batch writing I find has helped me stay on track, as now I write practically everyday.

Make it a habit that before or after you have finished your blogwriting you tidy your area ready for the next day.

Please remember you can keep up to date with all my blogposts via following me on WordPress.com

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feeling Lonely/stop self sabotage

20 Monday Apr 2020

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Personal Development, Youtube videos

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Emotional abuse, everybodycanbuildacastle, feeling lonely, self confidence, Self sabotage

I have never felt so lonely in all myself, and people may say “What would you know?”

Well being lonely is the hardest thing at the moment, having  to stay indoors due to the Lockdown and I have gone through an emotional breakdown.

Anyone can feel lonely, especially when you have people you feel are against you.

This morning I had a terrible dream, where a certain person had sent something out that wasn’t from me, but they made out it was going to be.

There are, as I have learned as I have grown older is that there are some people who are,

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I have met a fantastic guy who has  made me smile from ear to ear, and is helping me through it, along with my Keyworker and Doctor and other amazing people that if I told you, you wouldn’t believe it because it is surreal.

The people who are  being manipulative and sad to say,

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There is a song that I would like to share that I have played a lot of by Alexandra O’Neill, called Criticize,

If you feel lonely and isolated because you are being bullied or you know someone who is being bullied, then speak out to them.

Also if you want to share your experience then I would recommend that you write a blog,  journal or even create quotation cards.

You can often feel like any kind of abuse whether it be bulling or domestic violence start to blame yourself .

My advice is,

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IT ISN’T YOUR FAULT!

You begin to self sabotage and feel you aren’t worthy of anything, and so you stop dead in your tracks and begin to ask the wrong questions, which can lead to further Scrutiny and make you go backwards rather than forwards.

Top 100 Being Alone Quotes And Feeling Lonely Sayings

I have just watched a brilliant video by the one and only Russell Brand, who talks about  How he has stopped self sabotage.

Even from a young age I felt lonely as I would sit on a school bench in the playground and sit by myself. When I  worked at a modelling and crafting company I felt the same so loneliness can effect us all, but if we use the power of the internet to help us rather than using it to abuse people you will be surprised of how the internet can be a good close community of people.

So lets get through this time together and lets communicate with those who feel lonely too, as sometimes all they want is someone to talk to.

I wish you all the very best.

Many thanks for your reading,

 

Carrie X

 

Life long lessons/Self sabotage

15 Saturday Feb 2020

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Goal setting, New Beginnings, Personal Development

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So for a few nights I couldn’t sleep because of self sabotage I was feeling stuck in a rut and finding the challenges I have been facing tough. I am on medication for my anxiety and I find life a struggle on some days.

The thing about anxiety, depression and worry it can happen at any time.

This why goal setting is so important and is one Life long lessons. I found getting out of bed hard today so I got up had some breakfast, had a shower and then was about to get back into bed and counted 5,4,3,2, 1 and got up.

So one goal could be as a Personal one, creating new daily habits, introduce the Mel Robbins, which I talk a lot about and even wrote about it in a blog post and a book review: 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins

One ritual and habit I do is to get up make the bed, less chance of me getting back into it and go straight in the shower or put day clothes on straight away.

So why do we self sabotage?

Because the mornings being dark and at night, can be the fact that the goals your setting as mentioned in my previous blog Goal Setting 2020 are too much of a high expectation and we haven’t broken them down.

Also can be because we haven’t asked the right questions, I am writing an EBook  at the moment about this very subject because we can experience these feelings every day and is holding us back.

If you want to make a change you have to begin as soon as, doesn’t to be in the new year.

So set those goals and habits and keep going.

Self sabotage can lead to scrutinization which I talk about my latest Youtube video:

Please remember you can follow my Blogposts on WordPress.com and please see my other sites too:

My other blog sites:

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

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I am Back/Get your life together in 2020!

19 Thursday Dec 2019

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Hi All I am back and it is 2020 I have been having a tough time recently I do find the new year a challenging time because it is a new beginning and means like many of us I have found it tough to readjust.

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I am working on my first E book which is all about something that I have become familiar with and that is Self Sabotage and Scrutinization and how to overcome these obstacles and to begin 2020 with a bang, check out these videos below about Get Your Life Together in 2020 and creating life changing habits for a more productive life.

https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=get+your+life+together+in+2020&sxsrf=ACYBGNQ28_bXEiNUjoDtSpFDZQB-AHnzow:1581080480548&source=lnms&tbm=vid&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjB353jv7_nAhXrXRUIHRklATsQ_AUoAnoECAwQBA&biw=1365&bih=902

For me 2020 is about a fresh start and finding my feet again and really focusing on what I really want to do with my life. I want to coach and make people laugh and share my passion for music.

Life is about for me empowerment which I write a lot about and productivity.

Set goals and have a target and focus.

Even the simplest of things like altering a habit in your life like stop smoking, cutting down and getting back on the treadmill can make a massive impact.

Focus on what you can do, rather than what you can’t do and be real to yourself. If you find writing down a whole list of to do lists too overwhelming chop it up into one or two things a day but still with an aim (goal) in mind.

Life is about living and for me I want to live the best life I possibly can. Living in darkness is hard but once the light turns back on there can be no stopping me and that is my aim for this year. What is yours? and what goals have you set? Keep on living and growing and you would be surprised at what you can really achieve.

Please remember you can keep up to date with all my blogs by following me on WordPress.com and I do share this site with others see below:

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com/

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

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Goal setting for 2020

14 Saturday Dec 2019

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Change your plan, create a goals statement, created goals worksheet, everybodycanbuildacastle, Goal setting for 2020, separate your goals

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So it is February and some are starting to feel the new year blues. At the beginning of the year some of us are like “Yeah lets get fit, lets use our Rollerblade’s” yet they are still sitting there and the gym membership we signed up for has started not to the investment you wanted.

  • Did you sit down and make a plan?
  • Had you done your research and see how you can still workout for free?
  • Why did you buy Rollerblade’s instead of a pair of comfortable trainers?
  • Is the job you wanted making you happy?
  • Are you not seeing the results you wanted?

CHANGE YOUR PLAN

I have created a goals worksheet for you to use to help you so please fill in the contact form below and I will email it over to you:

Photos of my goals setting template for 2020

 

Separate your goals into categories:

  • Personal
  • Family
  • Financial
  • Work/Business
  • Health and Wellbeing
  • Spiritual

Break them down and set 2 to 3 and develop a goal a day, week and month and for the year and/or even quarterley.

Create a goals statement and be ruthless and don’t be afraid to be selfish.

mine is:

GOALS ARE ABOUT ACHIEVING THE BEST LIFE TODAY, TOMORROW AND FOR EVERY DAY I AM ALIVE TO BE THE BEST AT WHAT I WANT TO BECOME IN MY LIFE! TO BE SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO HELP PEOPLE BUILD SUCCESS IN THEIR LIVES TOO!

Please remember you can follow my Blog posts on WordPress.com and please see my other sites too:

My blog sites:

https://everyonecanbuildacastle.com/

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

Motivational tips to help you if this is a particular busy time of year, especially at work and help you get through it! BLOGMAS DAY 10!

10 Tuesday Dec 2019

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Personal Development, Work, Youtube videos

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15 days until Christmas, Blogmas day 10, carriesrealworld, Christmas time, everybodycanbuildacastle, Motivational tips to help you if this is a particular busy time of year especially if you work and help you get through it, Youtube

HELLO AND WELCOME TO BLOGMAS DAY 10!

I cannot believe its 15 days until it is Christmas day.

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If this time of year is a busy one for you especially at your work then here are some motivational tips that can help you especially at work and help you get through it, by Amanda Cade.

https://amandacade.com/2019/11/10/worth-trying-motivation-tips/

If you also have further motivational tips then please share below in the comments.

All my posts for blogmas can be found via the links below:

https://www.carriesrealworld.com

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com

You can keep up to date with all my blogs by following on WordPress.com.

Have a good week and see you in my next post tomorrow.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie x

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Using empowerment and inspiration when its just not your day!

08 Sunday Dec 2019

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Inspiration board, Inspiring stories, Personal Development, Youtube videos

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5 second rule, Be ruthless, BLOGMAS DAY 8, carriesrealworld.com, carry on with your day, everybodycanbuildacastle, Focus on something else, If you fall of the horse get back on, Mel Robbins, Muchelleb, Perseverance, Using empowerment and inspiration when its just not your day

Hello and welcome to BLOGMAS DAY 8!

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Just now and whilst out having a coffee, I was trying to add images on my blog sites on WordPress.com, which I will link below, to give them an extra lift, add as an extra introduction so readers like yourself can have an idea of what each site is about, without too much information.

I Wanted to, 

“Throw in the towel” as they say and chuck my laptop out of the window and give up.

Well in the coffee shop my son decided soon after I began, that this was the time to run off and start to use the coffee shop as a playground and speak to a fellow coffee drinker’s dog, whilst he wanted to run around.

Yes perhaps I should have waited until I got home but as it appeared that my son seemed happy to sit and eat his Sunday Treat and daddy was there aswell should our son want something, I thought I would be a little productive and revamp my blogs on the go, saving me the time to do it at home.

NO SUCH LUCK!

Children seem to have a radar, that as soon as it appears that me, mummy a lot of the time, wants to do something other than play hide and seek or watching him eat his Muffin, it’s time to PLAY UP AND BE A PAIN IN THE BUTT!

You may think that this is mean, how could I think this of my own son?

BECAUSE it is true. I am only saying what other people are thinking, including parents, but often are to afraid to say.

KIDS CAN BE A NIGHTMARE WHEN ALL YOU WANT IS A PARENTAL HAZARD AND SAY “BLOODY BEHAVE!”

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I know that it doesn’t sound too bad initially. “What A child talking to a dog?” Many children are attracted to animals but I know what it is like pre-child when you are trying to have a quiet coffee and a little child innocently wants to chat and you smile politely thinking it will be a quick greeting, the child will soon lose interest and then you can get back to your drink and private conversation.

YEAH RIGHT!

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As children do as I have discovered since becoming a parent myself (check out my parenting blog sites and books) that they often will have other ideas to you. My son will often if he sees a dog, not leave it alone or the customer and then kick off when we leave because he wants to stay and when he is fixed on something, it becomes very difficult to get his attention and get him away. 

THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED! and what you learn as you go, how to detonate a tantrum before they begin. SO WE THANKFULLY HAD FINISHED OUR COFFEE AND GOT THE HELL OUT OF THERE AS HE BEGAN TO KICK OFF!

QUICK TIP#When a child does start to show signs of a tantrum brewing, they will give you those puppy eyes, try to do what I call “Selective hearing” where you can see that they are hearing you but they are pretending to not and ignore you as if you aren’t saying a bloody thing or they start to drag there feet and do what he I call the “Body Flop”, as if to say “I am not moving because you say so, but going to make it as difficult and time consuming as possible” or stamp their feet and use their favourite word, which they think is yes to them a lot,

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So to destroy the triggers or a tantrum before it occurs, you can do the whole thing of pre-warning, it can work, but again Henry will often use this to “Pretend he can’t hear you or you didn’t say bloody word”.

So we use the distraction technique to focus on something that makes him happy rather than something that will make him kick off.

THAT IS USING EMPOWERMENT AND INSPIRATION! THE MORE YOU TEACH KIDS TO FOCUS ON THINGS THAT MAKE THEM HAPPY WITHOUT NEEDING TO GIVE ANY PUNISHMENT OR TAKE THEIR JOY AWAY, THE MORE IT HELPS THEM AND HELPS YOU TO CONTINUE TO HAVE A GOOD DAY WITHOUT FIREWORKS SETTING OFF AND DESTROYING YOUR DAY!

So I decided to continue to add images to my blogsites when I got home, as to be honest I didn’t have any other images on my phone to add that I liked, so by using Microsoft publisher on my laptop I did find others and after I tried several attempts to try an add a particular image, my laptop which is fairly old, decided at that precise moment to not, “To play ball” and not allow me to continue.   

Me and my adorable laptop have a kind of love hate relationship with one another, its been going on for years,

I LOVE IT WHEN IT WORKS AND HATE IT WHEN IT DOESN’T.

BROKEN COMPUTER

It can have the tendency to crash whilst I have been half way through writing a blog or one of my books, to which I have had to restart the bloody thing, and have lost all my work, because I was not able to save it, to then start again.

Luckily, unlike those experiences and learning from them did save my work before it began to think otherwise and so restarted it to see if I was able to do what I had intended to do, AND YES THAT WAS ALL DONE!

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This is where empowerment can come in handy, because part of empowerment as I see it, is,

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There is a video by one of my favourite people who I talk a lot about on this site called, Mel Robbins, who now has her own show in America and she does Youtube videos too, and she did one about “This is what I struggle with”, and basically she shares the story of a recent happening, where she got to her Yoga class early for a change rather than on the dot or a minute or so late, to find that the place where she did the yoga class, was closed.

“CAN YOU GUESS WHAT HER FIRST THOUGHT WAS?”

I bet you can relate.

She instantly had the thought of “Not going to the class and to go for a coffee instead”.

This can happen when things “Don’t go our way” we instantly go into the “negative mode” like I was and like Mel Robbins says, those negative thoughts will always be there so to PERSEVERE do something that can SNAP YOU OUT OF IT.

Doing the Mel Robbins technique of the 5 second rule or just by saying “NO I AM GOING TO DO THIS” out loud or in your head, can help get you out of the negative thought and do what you intended or stop you from feeling low because things have gone wrong that day and you can continue without anymore self criticism.

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When I was out one morning, this year after dropping my son off at school I then went to my local shopping mall to buy some birthday gifts for my sons birthday and for someone elses.

I, who often gets excited about finding items in stores that I want to buy without looking for ages, picked the items up that I thought “Oh yeah that would be a great gift” without checking the contents I was carrying first, which would allow me to pay for those gifts. I got to the till was already being served and was ready to pay and realised before I had the chance to say “Sorry I can’t buy these today” had the wrong bank card.

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SO WHAT DO THINK I DID? 

Well of course the “negative voice” went straight into action. 

I did the whole thing of trying to style it out, not wanting the cashier to think I have now just wasted her time by scanning items that now were not going to be bought and now she was going to have to put them all back again, or that I was pulling a fast one by purposely not wanting to pay up, by exaggerating that I had been a right “KLUTZ” and usually I am the “Super organized Mother On the Planet” and I had forgotten the card I needed to pay and “I’m really sorry” in a way that says “I promise I won’t do that again and please don’t hate me” and then with trying not to be too embarrassed or ashamed, as she did look a bit put out, I did the walk of shame out of the store and moved on without another word, trying to tell myself ITS FINE, IT HAPPENS AND I AM NOT AN IDIOT, I JUST FORGOT.

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I know from having some life experience now that I am not the only one who has ever done that. IT DOES HAPPENS AND THAT’S LIFE and yes I did go through the whole “Self Sabotage”.

“I am so stupid”

“Trust me for not having the right card, what a div”.

However I GOT OVER IT! and using empowerment and inspiration when it is just not your day “which we can often feel” when things are going wrong, can really help.

Learning to not beat yourself up over it, but acknowledge it, learn from it and talking about it, can help you get empowered and get inspired. you begin to find ways to,

OVERCOME THESE MOMENTS WHERE YOU WANT THE WORLD TO SWALLOW YOU UP OR GIVE UP ALL TOGETHER, TO CARRY ON!

There have been many things created that live on today, because someone had a bad day and wanted to share it through a son. The example that springs to mind is this one,

“THE ROAD TO HELL” BY CHRIS REA. 

THIS SONG IS ABOUT THE M25 AND HE WROTE IT BECAUSE OF A NIGHTMARE HE HAD, HAD WHEN DRIVING ON THIS ROAD!

After my experience in the toy shop where I had forgotten the bank card I needed to pay for the items I had picked up, I did do the whole thing of avoiding the store for a few weeks afterwards. However when I did return the lady who had served me that day, wasn’t there and at the end of the day, as I often tell myself because it is true,

NO ONE GOT HURT AND I AM FINE!

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When I feel low or not having the best of days, or I need to make changes to help me overcome bad luck or more deal with it, I will always find a way that will offer me empowerment and inspiration.

IF YOU FEEL ITS GETTING TO MUCH! 

STOP, CLOSE YOUR EYES, BREATH AND JUST LISTEN TO YOUR HEART!

A technique I learned from a psychologist I did some training with to help with my anxiety.

I get empowered and inspired by a lot of people around me, not just friends and family, but complete strangers too. You’ll be surprised of who you can meet if you put your phone down and chatted to someone on a bus or train.

YOU CAN OFTEN FIND THESE PEOPLE WHEN TAKING PART IN FUNDRAISERS,GOING TO FESTIVALS OR FOLLOWING A SPORTS TEAM. 

I, if you have followed my blogs on this post and my other sites will share videos, articles and books I have read, that have offered me empowerment and inspiration.

Check out this video (click on the header of this video below to watch) by MuchelleB that I watched today for some empowerment and inspiration. This lady does many videos that can help you lift your energy to get empowered and inspired.

20 Little Ways to Get Organised for 2020

When things aren’t going your way have a good look around and you’ll be amazed at what you can find that can stop you in your tracks and make you see that OKAY TODAY DIDN’T GO TO PLAN BUT I’M STILL HERE AND I WILL GET THROUGH IT WITHOUT FURTHER HICCUPS AND MOVE ON!

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YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR DAY AROUND AND IGNORE THE NEGATIVITY IN YOUR HEAD!

Be ruthless with it and think “OKAY LIFE YOU WANT TO MESS ME WITH ME DO YOU” and this is why journalling, exercise or decluttering can help.

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WHY?

 

You need those endorphin’s to rise to the service, which in turn makes you feel better and see things in a different light.

A girl who I work with shared how she deals with things at home when they get too much or things have gone wrong.

She will jump on her motor bike and go for a ride. 

Now you may think “Well that is a bit reckless” being pissed off whilst controlling a vehicle, but once she has done that and concentrated on making sure she doesn’t get killed, because the key thing here,

FOCUS ON SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY, TAKES YOUR MIND OF BAD LUCK AND FOCUS ON SOMETHING ELSE AND EVENTUALLY THAT BAD DAY WILL GO AWAY.

Bad memories will often resurface themselves and can often catch you unawares, but if you follow the above, SNAP YOURSELF OUT OF IT, PERSEVERE WITH HAVING A GOOD DAY OR GETTING THINGS DONE, BE RUTHLESS AND CHANGE YOUR FOCUS ON SOMETHING ELSE THAT INSTANTLY ALTERS THE MIND, WILL STOP THAT FLASHBACK FROM BRINGING YOU DOWN, AND THIS WILL THEN HELP YOU TO ACKNOWLEDGE (very important because if you don’t the image will often increase in size and the memory will pull you in further making you feel even worse especially when something has gone wrong, or its just not a good day) but you can start to make sense of it and change how you feel about this image.

SHRINK IT DOWN IN SIZE AND CREATE A HAPPY PICTURE! A technique I got from a guy called Paul Mckenna. Basically you bring the bad memory up and then create a happy picture and you can physically if you are at home, get a picture from your photos you have kept that makes you happy. Then in your hand focus on that happy image, increase that in size and reduce the size of the bad image to the point it is so small and you can no longer see it. 

A fantastic tip and can really work. GIVE IT A TRY!

Continuing on about this girl at work. Once she has finished riding around and focuses on riding her bike, she then feels so much better to continue on with her day.

EMPOWERMENT IN A NUTSHELL!

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Getting to know this girl from work, as she is training to be a pilot has inspired and empowered me in many ways, because she knows what she wants, what she needs to do to get there and I can see from how she carries out her work and with her day, no matter how much is thrown at her, she will do it.

Life will throw you off course and knock you down, but its the old case scenario that was often said to me as a kid,

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I hope this blog has empowered you and inspired you, and I know that with perseverance, being ruthless and using something else to focus and changing the picture, rather than going over the bad luck you feel, you will get the life you want and be a great success.

HAPPY BLOGMAS AND A MERRY WEEKEND!

If you have strategies of Using Empowerment and Inspiration when it just not your day, then please share below in the comments. I want us all to encourage each other to build success in our lives and have our own castles, if you get the pun.

All my blogs for Blogmas so far can be found in the links below:

https://www.carriesrealworld.com/

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com/

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

P.S: Please check out my Pinterest and social media pages,where I also add my posts:

Pinterest:

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/carriesrealworl/

 

Social media:

https://www.instagram.com/cazzasrealworld/?hl=en

https://www.facebook.com/carriesrealworld

https://www.facebook.com/Carries-Everyday-Living-and-lifestyle-261704010959953/

https://www.facebook.com/czavonuk/

 

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PRACTICE GRATITUDE TO BE THANKFUL TO HELP BE MORE POSITIVE ABOUT CHRISTMAS!

02 Monday Dec 2019

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Inspiring stories, New Beginnings, Personal Development

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Blogmas day number 2 Gratitude

If you haven’t read my first blog of Blogmas then please check it out here below:

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com/2019/12/01/the-first-blog-for-blogmas-make-your-own-advent-calendar-and-bring-romance-back-this-christmas/

If you haven’t seen my previous posts and don’t know what I am talking about when I say blogmas as most people would have heard of vlogmas via Youtube, well instead of doing videos every day up to Christmas as there is no way at the moment I could commit to that, I am blogging on one or more (depending on how it goes) on my websites everyday up to Christmas Day.

I have shared links to my other sites further down of this blog.

I don’t want my blogs to be all doom and gloom but there are people like myself at one point where Christmas was a time to dread rather then something to look forward too.

When my parents got divorced for example and I am going to do a blog on my parenting blog site: https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com/ 

It was a tough time of year and I for the first time I did dread it because knew that the Christmases I once knew were no longer going to be the same again.

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To much was changing and like I heard one of my friends once say I felt like I had no control over what was happening and felt totally helpless, but then when my son came along it bought my spark back for Christmas again, because once you have kids you do start to see things from their eyes, and to them especially now because my son is starting become aware of Christmas it is a magical experience with all the sparkly decorations, visiting Santa in his grotto and going on Christmas trains. It’s just magical to them.

Also now I am a lot older and have had some life experience have come to see that there are some people and children not so lucky to have Christmas presents each year or experiences like my son has had, and there are still people on the streets out in the cold with no where to go or noone to see.

That has made me grow up a lot and to see that,

Christmas isn’t all about me

It’s about giving to others aswell and so each year I will donate money to a good cause at Christmas time and if I see someone selling the Big Issue I will buy it, if I have money on me or busking, or if I do see someone homeless give them a couple of quid.

Looking back even though at the time when my parents got divorced seemed tough, as I heard someone say “There is always someone worse off than you” and to build better relationships with others around you and to build a successful life is to be thankful for what you already have.

I still have a roof over my head, I have a husband who helps share responsibilities with me and have someone who loves me in the romantic and emotional way, I have a son who teaches me new things everyday, I have a massive family who I may not physically see all the time but still in contact with and so,

What do I have really to complain about? 

I know what is like to be in the dark when you feel everything is falling around you, but you can by practicing gratitude to be more thankful to help be more positive about Christmas really does help.

Reading stories of people who had nothing and changed their lives around I find truly uplifting and see that no matter what is happening in your life you can make a change and that is something to be thankful for.

I will sit down now and go through what I am grateful for, it is a great source of medicine and a great habit which I talk a lot about on this site, see some of my posts below, to get into.

Creating more happiness into your life

Create empowerment into your life

My Daily Habits

Creating New habits

Life is about learning and we can learn so much from others around us and if you feel annoyed by people around you that bring you down because they are very negative build new relationships with other people who make you feel lifted each day and do teach you things you never knew and that can help make you feel better about Christmas and life in general too; and when you do find those people that is something to be grateful for.

So if you are having a hard time to adjust to Christmas because of heartache or you just feel so overwhelmed and want to hide away this Christmas look around you as you will be surprised at what there is still to be thankful for.

I will always mention it because it does really help,

KEEP A JOURNAL!

I hope you have a good week, and I will post again either on here or my other sites, see listed below:

https://www.carriesrealworld.com/

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com/

If you practice gratitude or you have any other tips on how to help people who are find Christmas time hard, be more positive about Christmas then please leave your comments below, I would love to hear from you.

Life is about sharing what really can help others and building a community that makes people feel good about life if they don’t feel that already!

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

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Watch “MANIFESTING $1,000,000 WITH THE LAW OF ATTRACTION (IT WORKS)” on YouTube

29 Friday Nov 2019

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Everyday living, Goal setting, Inspiration board, Inspiring stories, Personal Development, Youtube videos

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If you have ever read, listened or seen Tony Robbins talk about The Law Of Attraction then you will like this video by Sunny Lenarduzzi.

She explains how The Law of Attraction helped her manifest $1,000,000.

Coming up I will doing Blogmas starting this Sunday posting everyday up to Christmas day on one or more of my sites I share with this one, see links below.

If you have a topic you would like me to talk about on this site or my other ones then please leave a comment below.

You can follow me on this site to keep up to date with my posts on WordPress.com. Please see links to my other sites I regularly post on too:

https://www.carriesrealworld.com

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com

Have a great weekend.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie x

Creating more happiness into your life

20 Wednesday Nov 2019

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I remember reading somewhere some time ago that it is impossible to be happy so you shouldn’t try, but isn’t that the point of life?

Lets face it noone wants to walk around feeling miserable or that there is no purpose and most of the time when we feel like this, going on my own experience is because we want to be happy but feel stuck in a rut not sure what to do next or how to get out of feeling unhappy, to be happy.

This time of year it is very easy to feel down because the rain, the cold and the short daylight can have many implications on our mood, because there can be little daylight and sunlight. We can often become unwell due to colds and flu, which can effect our mood, so wanting to share some tips on creating more happiness into your life.

  1. If you want to put your feet up and chill in front of the TV then do. Being a mum, which I share a lot about on my other two sites The Parenting Adventures Tips and Tricks and The Parenting adventures the birth of my son, (see links below) you can often be rushed off your feet with the school run, getting errands done, going to work and then its dinner time and be completely wiped out. So making time for yourself to me more so than ever, definitely if you are a parent, is to take some well earned time chilling with a cuppa and watching some good TV or like often my husband and I do once Henry is in bed will watch a film. We do this with Henry but when you have seen Polar Express or Peppa Pig for most of the days and weeks, as these are my son’s favourite thing to watch, you often just want that something different which is a bit more mature and the other thing is stop feeling guilty when you do have time to chill.
  2. Create a wish list. They often say you should stop wish lists and take action, but often we forget and when it comes to the end of the year we often look back and think “We didn’t do that in the end, I wish I had, nevermind we’ll do it next year instead” then next year comes and again that wish didn’t happen. I live by lists and it is how I take action, get things done and its good to make a wish, plan it, book it, do it and its good to have things to look forward to and crossing my wish lists off is very satisfying indeed. As I see it a goal is a wish, you just have to make it happen and set a date like you would if you were to book your wedding for example and stick to it.
  3. Write a book. When I told people that I had written a book many said “I would love to do that one day” and you can. I am not academic but the one lesson I have always loved is English and I love writing stories. If this is something you have wanted to do, then put pen to paper and write away. It can be whatever comes into your head, plan it out first if you wish, but once it is out on paper and you have developed a draft then you can fix it, edit and shape it out afterwards and let your imagination run riot, often the craziest of stories are often the best, example Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, they are stemmed from books and someone’s imagination. There is no real Hogwarts it was what was in J K Rowlings head, so don’t feel feared by your mind but enjoy it and be as crazy as you like.
  4. Create a happiness ritual. So if candles are your thing, I find scented candles in particular in the Autumn and Winter and in the evenings very calming and soothing, and in turn makes me very happy. It can be that simple, just making something that calms the mind and makes you feel blessed rather than “Nothing makes me happy” then do it. When we feel blessed, relaxed, calm and at peace, this is creating happiness.
  5. Cleaning and giving your home a makeover. When we see mess we can often feel overwhelmed, we want to hide away from it and feel that its always going to be this way. I have to say I do find even though as a child I hated it, find it very therapeutic, as once all the clutter is gone and the space is shining it is very, very fulfilling. Once done give yourself a well earned reward, such as a bath, read a book or some quality time watching some TV. Also you can have fun whilst cleaning and declutttering aswell, like create a simple display. We do it at Christmas, halloween, valentines day and Easter, so why not everyday, and you can use everyday things. See example below. Plus you can use this time to listen to an audiobook, a playlist on Youtube or a podcast.

    This is my sons bedroom and an example of how you can create a simple display

  6. Create yourself a meal. Can be your favourite one or one you have always wanted to make. If you are sick of eating meat for example and have wanted to make a vegetarian meal then give it a try. Learning a new skill can be very satisfying and once conquered you find out that you have a hidden talent for cooking all a long, even though you may have doubted yourself and that you can achieve anything once you put your mind to it.
  7. Exercise. I love to keep fit as it does help me get going, and often in the week and at the weekends I will set my alarm extra early and get up to do a workout before my day begins. It really helps boost my energy and set me up for the day and often it isn’t for very long, but once it is done I feel awake and like “Yeah bring it on”. It doesn’t have to be for half hour or an hour. You do how long you want and increase the time or up the tempo as you go. Really there are no rules as such just make sure you wear comfortable clothing so when you sweat this doesn’t cause chafing and irritate your skin and do cool down and stretch afterwards, because once you sit down afterwards often your muscles and joints can become stiff. TRUST ME I’VE BEEN THERE!
  8. Dreading the Christmas parties and putting on weight, getting drunk as skunk again, then my advice is don’t allow people to buy you a drink but stick to yourself. This may sound tight but often when we say we want a Coke or a glass of Lemonade instead of a Vodka and Lemonade you can get a look to say “WHAT Whats the matter with you?” and have “Oh go on its Christmas” and as I have often done when I was younger I would say “Oh go on then just the one” then afterwards once I lost count of how many drinks I had, being put in a cab prepaid and completely wrecked, regretting what I did the night before and feeling dreadful the next day. If someone offers you a drink just say politely “No thank you I’m going to stick with myself tonight” and then you can buy a drink without the pressure and often buying rounds is very costly. If it is a free bar go and get a drink before anyone offers to get you one. Easy said then done, here’s a tactic. When your glass is almost done, make out you need the toilet then on your way back pick up a drink and then you have one before someone sees you and gets you one instead that is non-alcoholic. Another tip with food, eat before you get there and then you have less chance of nibbling that party food.
  9. Read a book about being happy. I remember being recommended by a friend a book and I wish I could remember what it was actually called because it was a really good book, and it really helped. It told you about feeling guilty when we say no to something if you for example can’t meet a friend for lunch or go on a night out because you are just too tired, and often we can feel guilty and then feel bad and unhappy with ourselves and it explained that if they take it badly its their problem not being mean, but its true and that often we say Yes to not make that person feel bad knowing we aren’t going to enjoy ourselves because we are too tired. It just hit the “nail on the head”. There are many books out there, I often get mine from either Amazon, buy it on Audible, the library or I check out a charity shop.
  10. Find new people in your life. I have come across many people through my life and many have made me laugh out loud and just make me smile,and look forward to seeing them again, and others that have made me feel miserable and dislike the world. Let me ask you, do you want to spend time with someone who makes you feel hate or one that makes you feel life is worth living? I know which one I choose. If there are people in your life dragging you down and feeling very negative, complaining about everything and bitching about people who you actually like as often there are unfortunately people who will try and turn you against other people then GET THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE!

Happiness does exist and sometimes it can be hard to find, but once you do, your faith in people will come back as often we can lose faith, and your faith life will come back too.

I would love to hear of how you stay happy or what has helped create more happiness into your life aswell. You can leave a comment below.

To be kept up to date with all my blogs on this site, you can follow me on WordPress.com and please check out these sites where I also post regularly on those too:

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https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com/

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com/

I wish you all a very good rest of the week and I will post again next week.

Many thanks for reading,

 

Carrie X

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