Category Archives: Positive Habits

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Life full of happiness: Dealing with the daily stresses

12 Monday Jun 2023

Posted by in Everyday living, having bad days, Personal care, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Positive Habits, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

You get up and you feel “Oh no another day” and “I’ve got so much to do” and it is like “Where should I start?”

Photo by Anete Lusina on Pexels.com
  1. Do a list.

Yes I have heard this before, but honestly it does make a difference and go through what is top priority. I will do a list in my diary of what will be happening each day like Friday I bring my son to Wimbledon and a list of on OneNote of what I want to get done in the day. I then go through it on the day and go through what I need to do first and have something in your life that helps to kick start your day on a good note. I now tidy and make my bed, get dressed and then make a cup of tea, breakfast and then when it is warm weather open up my bedroom window and do something different, like I woke up super early which I don’t always do and having that time just putting clothes away that is out and at the moment I gradually changing my desk where my laptop is and it just helps give me kick start. I often return to bed which many may say no, but for me if I need extra rest and get the chance to then I will.

2. Use travel time to wind down and do the things you enjoy.

So I use travel time as I travel from Wimbledon to Epsom daily and back, will listen to music, listen to a podcast or listen to an audiobook. It helps me to remove any fears I have when riding on a bus like what if it crashes and other stresses and is my time to just sit down and reflect on things.

3. Still sleep when your kids still sleeps some nights

I will like tonight as I continue to write this blog is listen to a live video, but will often go to bed at the same time as my son, because he wakes up so early, and he doesn’t got to bed early as such and stays up like tonight around 9pm but he still awake but he will still will wake up early and so I need to make sure I get a good number of hours sleep to function for the next day.

4. Do a daily walk solo, with family or with friends

Each weekend my son and I will go for a walk or if he uses his scooter I will often run but I have a bit of injury so going to walk, but whatever we will still get outdoors and enjoy spending that time together.

5. Journal and reflect on each day or weekly or whenever you feel stressed and not feeling so good.

I like to keep tabs on my feelings and what I can do to help them and make sense of them. It may be that you feel stuck and you are bored with life. Journaling can help with that and what action can you take that will solve this issue, perhaps you need a different job, or you are not eating well. That is a battle for me at the moment and trying to control my eating by keeping tabs of what I am consuming because I crave a biscuit rather than a piece of fruit so next week I am going to make a plan to sort this out. I use my blogs to journal too, to show that yes I am happy but feel that my eating habits can contribute towards my feelings so need to take control and sort this out.

What I have began is do a meal plan, the thing is I often will change my mind though and not fancy what I initially wanted but will plan and what I don’t eat on that day, as long as it is in date I will eat it another day when I do fancy it. Evening meals and breakfasts are fine I just get super hungry in the afternoon and often binge eat, which I know is no good for me.

6. Spend time reading.

I love a good book and read in the evening and I look forward to it. I like a genre of books from Fiction to non-fiction and going to start reading my book in the park too. I love doing this in the summer.

I also love to read a magazine and recently got back into this. I often will change how I spend my time and I love sitting in the sun reading a mag, I find it so relaxing.

Please check out my Pinterest board which has support and tools for this Life coaching programme: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/life-coaching2023-project/

I have been filming to for it. Here is my current video I did talking about Solutions: https://youtu.be/4bV9x3_wW6g

Remember to stay safe in the heat and hydrate, and thank you for the likes on my blogs and for following me.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life coaching Programme The Summer Project 2023 Build your dreams: Living in your own world and building a world of your own

07 Wednesday Jun 2023

Posted by in Everyday living, Goal setting, Personal Development, Positive Habits, productivity, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

I have always lived in a world of my own and felt different compared to others. Many thought me to be strange because I could daydream all day long and take my mind away when listening to music for hours.

Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on Pexels.com

Reality was not my bestfriend and wished often to be somewhere else and be different to the person I was and would be down because I wasn’t naturally beautiful, I wasn’t popular and held myself back from making friends as I found it hard.

Overcoming those times I have grown a lot and it hasn’t been over night but a long process. The one thing that effected me was worry. I would say “I am a constant worrier” and “I am a stress head” and accepted that this was me, but I hated worry and stress they did me no good and wanted to be calm and collective.

Spending some time away helped, but suffered home sickness at first but then spoke to someone one evening as they could see that I was not sure if did the right thing moving to work at a Holiday camp. I know you may have heard this a lot, but is true, get out of your comfort zone. There were those who weren’t nice, others would be nice to you and then blank you, or move to another table as you sat down, but then there were some really nice people that I still stay in touch with.

Working at a holiday camp was how I met my husband and then moved back to London as was unsuccessful in working at other companies in the South Coast and began to miss London and wanted to move back to be near my friends there and family.

If something is no longer giving you joy, Kon Marie method, then it time to say goodbye and move on.

I do hang onto things, like I had a night dress with a hole in it, and kept hold of it because I had worn when pregnant, but it was worn. I now don’t have it anymore but I did find hard to throw it away.

Part of building a life of your own is to let go and bring in new items and materialistic things aren’t that important. If it going to put you in debt, is it worth it?

This leads me to, changing your environment if you are feeling overcrowded. Just filming at the moment week in a life video, (here is my newest video: https://youtu.be/zqywdAV9vb8 ) I feel my desk is overcrowded with notebooks, jewelry and skincare and so gonna look for ideas how to deal with this and going first of all sort my clothes out. I bought packing cubes for the clothes I have in my chest of draws. I will film this once I decide to do this.

Owning less is what I am going to begin and make more space. I need space in my life and not live in clutter.

Lets do this together.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Build your dreams: Can music have an influence on our dreams and motivation?

31 Wednesday May 2023

Posted by in Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

I am living to build my life and make it better each day. The one thing that can effect my mood is music as some gives me good memories and others that helps to motivate me and feel good. There are songs that reminds me of sad times, but I use a lot of that to help write my books, depending on what the books are about. I tend to write biographical, like my The Parenting Adventures books, check them out on amazon, along with serious novels on real life issues and comedy.

Photo by Christina Morillo on Pexels.com

I do have a lot of ideas on writing children’s books and I have created a playlist to help me write.

Then there are darts players who each have a song they walk on to and you can tell that the music to them is what makes them with their confidence and excitement by the supporters that are there at the matches to support their favourite places. The music helps with the build up and entertainment of the sport.

When I see videos on Instagram by The Rock, Dwayne Johnson, he is working out with music and you can tell that the music he plays has influenced him in building his body and staying in shape.

Music is powerful and when I did dancing the music played a key part in the dancing routines we would do and it had to be the right music to help with the enjoyment of the doing the different routines we would do, and with the disco part we often the children would make up new routines but it had to be the right song, for the dances to work, and help complete the creation of the dance.

When you watch American Wrestling each wrestler have their own song, and whenever there is a change of president in the United States they have singers on stage singing supporting them like when Barracker Balmer became president it was Beyoncé and sang At Last and always think about that when the song plays and it was the music that was created for World cup 1990 in Italy that made me fall in love with the football and so music can have a massive influence on our dreams.

I have written other blogs about music check these out here: Inspiring stories: The Little kid to adult who uses music as a good source of medicine The Power of music/Inspiring stories If you need a lift of empowerment then play that music

If you have entered in a free Webinar online with Tony Robbins, I mean the free ones, well they play music as they encourage you to dance off your feelings to boost your energy before they start and during and really helps the mind, and so music can play a huge part in your body, mind and spirit, to help towards dreams and a great source of free medicine.

So choose music to motivate as it can tick all the boxes for therapy for me and would not live without it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Build your dreams: Not allowing others bad Actions, habits and unkind behaviour effect you and effect your dreams

26 Friday May 2023

Posted by in Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, People, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

So yesterday was a day where some people were just being rude and reckless. First of all I let some guy pass me with his dog and got no thank you or acknowledgement, then a car pulled up close to the bus on the way home making the bus do a sudden stop, and then getting on the other bus I have to get on to go home, this person who got of the other bus aswell and get on the other decided to jump in front of me. This really annoyed me in that it did effect my mood. I made it clear to this guy that I wasn’t happy with what he had done and think of all the bad things I could do to make my case to him even more, but then thought to myself, “What would that achieve?”

Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on Pexels.com

There are always going to be people who will test you, and like that guy getting on the bus, he won’t change, there will always be those who push in, and I found now that I get a bit like that too and push in front, but then I will rein myself in and wait. At the end of the day never allow others people’s actions rub off on you as it reminds me that I will give up my seat whenever other people won’t and will acknowledge other people who have waited for the bus before me. I am not a saint but I do believe that if you do good for people you will get rewarded and it just makes the world a better place to live.

When it comes to being a good citizen is to not to allow others bad habits rub off on you and show especially when you have kids how to behave even when someone has been unkind and what is the right thing. I have over reacted on some occasions, for example when I thought I had left Henry’s water bottle at his swimming class had to go back and a women had a go at me for having the door open to the outside and so I said “Have you never forgotten anything?” and called her a horrible person and then started to get super angry.

This effected me in thinking will I ever reach my dreams because of that incident, but actually makes me more determined and if she wants to be unkind then let her be and the best thing is to learn about what not to do and how to be if someone I see has forgotten something and would help them find it, rather than be rude because they have the door open for a second.

I will keep being good to others and not allow people who are unkind effect my habits towards others it just leads down the wrong road and can escalate to not wanting to go out and having a good day Working in a call centre was tough as you did get people calling you names on the phone and be rude from the moment you have picked up the call, and so you had to hold yourself together and not to take it personally. Yet I would go home feeling my blood boiling and take my mood out on my husband and it would effect his mood and this became a habit, and made me feel that my life isn’t going anywhere, when that wasn’t true It was actually motivating me to be stronger and learn how to help people that aren’t so nice. This would make me feel also “Stop being nice” but then would ask “What would that Achieve?” I like being kind to others, and not all calls were bad some just needed help and would be happy, so it wasn’t that bad and helped me be better socially and would respect those when I called a call centre be kinda and politer, and not allow others bad habits of behaviour affect me in chasing my dreams and move on in my life.

So don’t allow other people’s actions cause you to think there is no other life out there, but use these challenges to help you to conquer your dreams even more.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Build your dreams: What you want your life to look like

21 Sunday May 2023

Posted by in Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, having bad days, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Positive Habits, productivity, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

Here I am it is Sunday and feel a little bad that I didn’t do my morning walk that I have been doing because I was lazy and so I wrote down in one of my notebooks of what I want my Sundays to look like, and so going to make sure that me and my son will have this time as it does feel so good and not allow my lazy part of mind set in, so I miss doing this again.

Photo by Zachary DeBottis on Pexels.com

It is up to me to do this not on anyone else. You have to take ownership of your life, to make changes and what you gonna do to build your dreams. I still had a good day, met my husband (m son’s dad) for a coffee and then did a bit of walking and so wasn’t completely lazy but we have such a good time together and we did some walking on Friday and played some rugby on Saturday, but I love my walks on Sunday.

When it is raining it can be tough but whenever the weather is good I like to go out for a walk and it really is refreshing and so what do you want your days to look like? Like Sunday’s. What can you do on Sunday that you can’t do in the week? I did have two lovely coffees this morning but next time I will take my coffee with me and get outdoors on a Sunday morning and explore.

It was even helping me with my running and don’t want to stop. I have got to grips in managing my life , but I want to create more good habits. I like feeling alive and ready for each day and I like doing my tidy in the mornings and catching up on a Sunday on my lists and set myself up for the week.

It is also is a day where I have a good dinner thanks to my step dad and have a home cooked meal, and now I want reshape my afternoons. I want to be productive and use them to exercise, by walking more and with the son, and walk through the parks and common near by. This will really help lower my travel costs each day and eat more sensibly and do some writing and drafting more blogs and videos to build my blogs and Youtube channel.

So it is up to me to take action and what I want my days to look like. It is the little things that makes a difference to me and use my time wisely and productively. I like my mornings and evenings, and when my son comes home from school, making his dinner and playing football, along with some dancing, as we do with the radio on do some dancing and just be active which I want to keep doing, but simple logical ways, that make me feel I have had a good day and moving forward to my dreams and ambitions.

I want to work outside as want to do more to make a difference and not feel I can’t because I don’t have the experience, as I was watching an interview and she talks about how she applied of a secretarial job and was wondering whether to apply for it because it said you need experience and got the job.

I have always been super ambitious and always had aspirations, and that has never changed. I have lived and I had always wanted to go on holiday during Christmas time and I did went first class to america and it was my last big holiday for a while and was a dream I had always wanted, and if I did that once I know that is something else I tick off my list.

You should never give up your dreams and what you do today can effect your life tomorrow.

We as humans can make a difference to the world and create so much. Only have to look at people like Bob Geldof who created Band Aid and King Charles who created The Princes trust helping young people have a better life and create amazing things for other people. I remembering a story in a magazine I used to read and she talked about how she was made redundant and didn’t know what to do, so she saw that the Princes trust did a Mentor’s programme and she helped a guy to find work and changed her life.

Youi never know whats on your doorstep but if you believe in yourself check my blog I wrote : Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Developing your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish in your life

So if you have dreams and you want them to become real then go for it. Never allow your doubt stop you.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life coaching programme “Summer Project 2023” Forever Growing: Do it in the morning so it is done

18 Thursday May 2023

Posted by in Everyday living, having bad days, Personal care, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Positive Habits, productivity, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

I have this morning getting my sons bed ready for the weekend, cleaning a pair of trainers as they got super muddy, at a festival in London, which I have filmed so a new weekend in a life video will be put together as it was really good fun and I have just put up a week in a life video check it out via this link: https://youtu.be/w06X8BlQx8s

It took me a while to wake up this morning but now when I get up will do a tidy up, and it has made a huge difference to how I feel and feel that I have taken action so I can concentrate in working on my blogs, filming, uploading and writing my new book.

Many may say “Good for you” but this not gloating but sharing how I like to live and how changing my morning routine has helped me get stuff done and not procrastinating and love being productive in the morning and running errands rather than later on in the day. It does depend on lifestyle, check out my Pinterest board that I have created for lifestyle topics and tools:

If you find in the mornings hectic then then what takes the most time? Choose a time in the day when you can get things done and use the morning to get the kids out of the door and choose what you want to do, until you feel ready to tackle errands and chores, then break them up, rather doing so many things at once.

Resetting it the way. Check out my blog: Life coaching programme “Summer Project 2023” Forever Growing: Resetting your life, staying updated and in control of the things I do each day as I continue to grow and video: https://youtu.be/kmR-iY_qQNU

I do put things off, like I want to dye my hair but by the time I get home it can be late and then tiredness sets in so going to get it done at the weekend in the morning and I know I don’t have to dye my hair, but I like changing my hair colour and changing my image as I get bored with the way I look, and so to help reset I like to give myself a make over and you do have to look after yourself and so getting it done in the morning will set my day on a high, and I know once I get it done I will feel better and planning my wardrobe and adding to it and I like to plan what I like to wear each day in the evening and get dressed as soon as I have a shower, but will be a bit lazy at the weekend but I like taking it easy at the weekend and now in the mornings my son and I go for a walk and I love this time we have and so if you want to make changes to your lifestyle then get it done in the morning and then you have a whole day to yourself.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life coaching programme “Summer Project 2023” Forever Growing: Resetting your life, staying updated and in control of the things I do each day as I continue to grow

17 Wednesday May 2023

Posted by in Everyday living, Goal setting, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Positive Habits, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

≈ 1 Comment

Tags

, , , ,

Now I will be doing some more Reset videos for my Reset series for 2023 as it has really helped in rein myself back to go back on lists not completed and go through what still needs to be completed before planning anything else and change my habits to stop putting things off and I did a video on my main Youtube channel about Resetting your life, https://youtu.be/kmR-iY_qQNU because it has made a difference with trying not to do too much, and break down all the things I want to do, like spending time with my son and I keep myself informed of what my son has been learning at school, if he has any school trips and I will often volunteer to go with my son to help and that I write each day and stay on track with my blogs and working on different projects I like to do each year, aswell taking time away and taking regular breaks and making sure I sleep well,and be properly rested.

When we have many tasks to complete it can make us procrastinate and not be bothered. So I will do a brain dump and recently using one note created a tab called “What I really want to do this week”, and this has helped to go through what is important to me and what can be put on hold and be done on another day. See screen shot I took of this new tab.

I will be making changes to the videos I do for my channels and thinking of creating a different channel for my Life coaching videos and like doing days in a life videos, but I would like your feedback. So check out my channels see listed here and let me know what type of videos would you like me to do and if you have topics you’d like me to talk about.

https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602

https://www.youtube.com/@carrieseducationyoutubecha4891

Anything that is going good for me I continue, but if I feel that there are areas of my life not working like changing my morning routine, I will then go through it and change it so it is better and I am liking my mornings now.

I like my evenings, but not liking my afternoons because of my diet, and want better lunches, because I find myself going for snacks, rather then having a more healthier lunch that fills me up and boosts my energy as the one thing I have been doing after lunch time is a workout.

Set yourself time to spend in working on you. If you want to have a bath but you worry in case you get interrupted or you feel you don’t have time, then schedule it and pre-plan to see if someone can look after your kids so you can have a nice bath with a glass of wine.

Have a bath with your kids, I used to take baths with my son and I know some people will frown upon this, but sorry it is a great way to save money and bond with your kids and then he took baths on his own I would sit on the toilet sit with lid down and sing songs and talk and good time to catch up on your kids day and now we have a good night time routine too. Let me know if you’d like me to do routine videos on my main channel Typical London Gal.

I have created a board on my Pinterest called Planning your life check it out:

And I will be adding to this board and check out my Pinterest as I have a lot of my content on there that I write and am on Social media so check these links to check these out:

https://www.instagram.com/typicallondongal/

https://www.facebook.com/typicallondongal/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Not feeling good enough

15 Monday May 2023

Posted by in Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, having bad days, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Positive Habits, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

This blog hits on imposter syndrome where we feel we don’t deserve to be successful because we doubt what we are capable of and any failure feels such a big deal and feel that there are loads of people doing what you want to do already, and think “Who do you think you are?” “You can’t compete” and what chance you have in becoming successful too. Like music as I start this blog I am watching Eurovision Song contest, and really anyone can win it, but there are some many countries taking part and I bet some have thought they don’t stand a chance. This is from watching interviews of Bucks Fizz because watching many interviews they have all said that they didn’t think they’d win it, but they did.

This was when my mum and I did the Thames Path challenge completing 25KM and never thought I’d do that but I did.

When I first began to learn Ballroom dancing there was a girl called Claire and one other girl who were on their Gold, as when I first started I did my Bronze, then you did your Silver and Claire when I went to my first dancing presentation night, won the Cup for having the highest marks. I remember getting goosebumps and my heart pounding thinking could it be me, but I had only first started, then a girl name Lesley had won by one of the adults who had won before wanted the next person to win it and was Lesley who passed her exam, her Silver with flying colours and did hope it would be me one day, but didn’t think I’d ever win it.

This is related to my last blog.Check it out Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Developing your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish in your life

Often we can feel that we are punching above our weight and “Who would want to be interested in us?” and when we hear someone say something negative about us that can contribute to your feelings of not good enough. When I played football at my Secondary school I remember a girl saying I couldn’t even kick a ball and so I stop going. Yes should have taken no notice and carried on but didn’t, but learning from that I have become resilient to criticism and it makes me more determined to succeed and when running a football team I could see that many of my players confidence would be affected when playing in matches, because they make mistakes but this also showed me how much they really cared, and not being biased they were good and we did win many of the matches they played.

We all can a level of doubt its a human feeling but for me I see this now that it prepare’s me of what if it goes wrong and then visualise me succeeding too, and the question I ask myself reading many books by Paul McKenna is,”What if I was unstoppable and visualise that” and it has helped, and listening to Mel Robbins, who wrote about the 5 second rule, who asks the same thing. What do you picture? looking at this person how is she standing? is she smiling? what is she wearing?

Create a plan. I always brainstorm, I will write a list of each project and goals I want to achieve and this really helps me a lot.

When we put our mind to it we can achieve so much. It is perseverance which is a word I have used a lot but it is and any setbacks address them and learn from them. We all meet bumps in the road, but it is our actions that speak louder than words and make a difference.

Si what are you going to do today that can make a difference to your life right now?

I wanted to take my son to a music concert and I did yesterday, I wanted to take Henry to his first football match and we did on his first birthday, like my mum and dad did when me and my brother were kids, and is like a tradition and wanted to win the cup for the highest marks in dancing and I did. I wanted to do the Great North run and did, this helped boost my confidence to continue to charity runs and walks and inspired others because it helped my fitness my feelings with life and people when doing these events are so friendly and are complete strangers and they showed me what I was capable of. Set goals, continue doing positive habits and keep visualising and keep taking action.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Reflecting on my April monthly challenge

09 Tuesday May 2023

Posted by in Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, Goal setting, monthly challenges to manage my work, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Weekly posts

≈ Leave a comment

Tags

, , , ,

So if you are new here on this blog site then I have been doing monthly challenges. January was no spend, February was finding good deals, March was to declutter and April was trying to finish my book I am writing and see if I can at least my first draft done but that didn’t happen.

It has made me see which areas I need to change so I can get the first draft written quicker. It isn’t about racing through it but spending time plotting rather than just writing it up with no plan. I did make notes and plan as I write, but should have done this at the beginning.

I take on these challenges because it helps me to see how I use my time and if I do need to make further challenges to get parts of my life I need to take control of better.

I am at the moment doing my Life Coaching programme Summer Project for 2023 and so prep for me is key, and so I know I need to do this more with my books and not put it off. I love to write and create stories but I like to do it in chunks, and I write a blog called A Life as a writer and so if you’d like to visit this blog then here is a link to it: https://inalifeofawriter.blogspot.com/

Writing fulfills me like music does and always wanted to write a book, so when my son was born wrote my first one called The Parenting Adventures pregnancy to the first nine months and then wrote my first novel A Lonely Walk to Happiness and wrote some EBooks and then published my new one Mum&Me and for me it just is therapy and I love reading books.

My first self published novel

If you have dreams to write then start. I like writing comedy and books on real issues like A Lonely Walk to Happiness is based on a girl called Claire and she has a severe eating disorder and shuts herself away but then lives with her mums best friend, because her mum has a car accident yet her mum thinks that Claire is old enough to look after herself which is clear she can’t and ends up in hospital herself and hopes when she goes to university in Plymouth life and the way she feels about it will change.

This is not me selling this to you, but in case you were interested and if I can write a book so can you and why not try it yourself to see if you can complete a book in a month or just the first draft if you’d like to write a book. I have not set a challenge for May but will do more and will let you know when. If you’d like to see my videos and I have one more to go out then check out my main channel, check out link here: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

I hope this inspires you to challenge yourself and it can be whatever challenge you want to do, as long you know what you want the end result to be. Example for me so I complete another book to help talk about real issues. Like my book above is talking about Eating disorders and online bullying and help people who have experienced or going through these things and like Mum&Me to make people laugh and have a good read whilst on holiday having cocktail or at home, and having a bit of peace and something to make you chuckle.

Many thanks for reading

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Learning to control my Thoughts and Actions

08 Monday May 2023

Posted by in Everyday living, Friendships and relationships, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

≈ 1 Comment

Tags

, , , ,

When it comes to our growth we find that often our actions were unreasonable and it is too late to heal them, and say sorry.Yet it is never too late. If you have had a mental illness it can affect how we are with other people, but shouldn’t be an excuse to be unkind, It can be because we feel that we are being misunderstood and want people to resonate with how we are feeling and that our love ones can read our minds.

Photo by Karolina Grabowska on Pexels.com

A lot of it is fear, like I get worried when I am on a bus and someone sits next to me. I know I have paid for one seat but instantly my mind will go through the image of what if this person won’t let me pass to get off the bus, and I think this is from when I would travel from Wimbledon to Kingston the person next to me made me wait until he was ready to get up and because he was getting off too, and need to not allow that experience to be in fear of others but use it to learn and if I know my stop is next I will say excuse me and if they are getting off the same stop it has been fine.

With psychosis you can get paranoid and think that everyone is against you, when that is not the case, a lot of the time and when once at work I thought my team manager had said something rude about me and it upset me, I spoke to her after thinking about in tears and it was fine, I miss heard. The one thing is to not be confrontational and just talk not throwing accusations and “You said this and you said that”, but how there actions have made you feel and how you and them can rebuild the relationship to heal the wounds of there and our actions.

When we are stressed we can project our feelings towards those that are close to us and find it hard when we aren’t happy to see someone happy when we aren’t and you can get competitive over who’s life is the worst and feel like we are hitting a brick wall, and if it is something we don’t want to hear when often we need to hear it, it can make us even more resentful.

It used to eat away with me when I felt like this and feel insignificant, but it is not their fault and the question I ask now is whenever these feelings are being triggered, “Do I want people to be unhappy?” and “Do we want them to feel that way about me?”and would reply of course not. I want the best for other people and helps us to see how we can be as happy as they are. We are in charge of our own happiness and the feelings we project and to build a relationship with ourselves is to admit we are wrong and instead of waiting to see if someone is nice to you, be the first one to make the move and if I see someone wearing a nice piece of clothing or their style, even strangers I will say and I like complimenting others, not for someone to like me back, but just saying it but have meaning and so I have had to amend my ways and it is taken a lot but it’s as if I have woken up and realised I have nothing to be resentful for or angry about, and be thankful of what I have.

I have been there and said the wrong thing, and it is not really what I did but how I have come across and see it from their perspective and learned, and thought “How could I have reacted that would have been better” and be more aware of my actions and feel towards someone.

I have created a video on my main youtube channel of what I will be talking about within this years programme and so click here to watch, if you would like: https://youtu.be/mbAJQtjpZ68

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X