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International Women’s Day

09 Wednesday Mar 2022

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I am a mother, I am an Aunty, I am a sister, daughter and a cousin, and there have been many women whom have inspired me through my life.

Sandy one of my Playgroup Leaders that ran in Hammersmith and she still is in my heart along with another lady called Sue, who made me dinner once when my brother dislocated his arm playing football and would always be at the Fulham Recreation Ground, to watch like my mum, her son play football and never missed a game.

Sandy who today, is no longer in this world, but along with Sue, who lived in my estate aswell, were ladies I inspired me a lot and had time for everyone who attended playgroup.

Sylvia Dale, my Ballet and Tap instructor, who would gave up part of her home as a dancing studio and would put on amazing shows, every year and always were brilliant to be part of.

Connie and Sheila, two ladies who helped me to do Ballroom, Latin and Disco dancing, on a Saturday, after finishing tap and ballet, and taught us one by one who attended the dancing school, and helped us kids, make up dances too, and choreographed brilliant dancing routines and was there until I was 16 years old and still visit in my dreams.

My Aunties who have helped bring me up and loved having a lot of them in my life, and would never forget anyone at Christmas and or at Easter too, and loved it when as a family when we would, all come together and I love having so many happy memories, of those times along with my female cousins.

My two nans, Nanny Skinner and Nanny Rose, and were proper nans to me and were a massive influence as a kid who I would dance in the living room with and learn how to play cards and knit, and would have homemade food and would go on many shopping trips, aswell as meeting other friends and family.

Female Comedians, French and Saunders for their funny sketches and TV shows they did together and separately, Joan Rivers for her controversial gags and adult women humour, and never stopped working always working to make people laugh and cry with laughter.

Sports women, like Sally Gunnell, Fatima Whitbread, Martina Navratilova, and Zola Bud.

Actresses, like Joan Collins, Jenifer Aniston, Doris Day and Judy Garland. I loved old films and TV, and thankfully still alive today and growing even stronger, and influenced me as a woman myself.

Then there are singers, Cyndi Lauper, Madonna, Whitney Houston, Dionne Warwick and Juice Newton who I most recently remembered songs, as she was, which I forget was my early influences as a kid who’s parents loved music aswell.

And I could go on and on, but honestly there are so many influential women out there still today and my favourite life coaching speaker, Mel Robbins and I listen and watch her videos every day.

So, I would like to see comments, of as women who inspired you and had a influence on your life too. You can leave a comment below.

Thank you for everyone who loves these blogs and given me feedback, it really means the world to me, and gives me a push to write more and inspired you too.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Is Bird Pooh Lucky

20 Thursday Jan 2022

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So because I had a meeting today, I thought I’d go over to my sons dads house by train, I usually travel by bus as I left the station I suddenly see a drip and on my brand new scarf was bird pooh.

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Some people used to say that bird pooh was lucky, but did I feel lucky when it happened today en route? NO!

What I do believe is that there are things that happen which is hard to escape and how many can say they have had bird pooh on them too and did you get good luck?

I’d like you to leave a comment below if you have, and I will see what happens, whilst I put my new scarf not had for a full week yet, now into the wash.

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Is life about being lucky?

In my opinion yes. because twice now I had lost my son’s swimming hat and goggles and worried about them and searching my bedroom where I thought they were and then having to see if I could buy a new pair easily but couldn’t, as I was getting Henry changed, someone had hung them on the hook of the womens changing room and so going by what happened and it wasn’t like I had enough time this was on the day and hour before my son’s class. I put that down to luck and reminds me that there are angels in our world as who would have guessed that someone would do that.

I do believe in God and always have and feel guided more so than now, but he can’t control everything but does his best to help you. That is my opinion anyway and yet, I do respect those who think differently.

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Can you create what luck you receive?

From experience yes. Life is about choice and what you want to come your way. Being a mum I have had to manage my life differently and if I had not gone around to the hospital that luckily we lived next door my son, may not have survived as his heartrate began to drop, so reacting correctly he was born safely and now is 8 years old, going onto 9, so I know I made the right choice that even at 31 weeks knew I had to go to the hospital rather then staying indoors worrying.

We create our own destiny but can’t help all events in our lives but having a bit of luck can help, and when I do get luck don’t take it for granted, and so for me if I don’t win the lottery as I need a ticket to do so, I would put it down to pure bad luck.

Thank you so much for your support on this site and seeing the likes is fantastic and if you want to share my blogs with other then please do.

I also have three Youtube channels along with books and other blogs.

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You can find my books on Amazon.com, under the names, Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Does time effect us from being successful in life?

26 Friday Nov 2021

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Hello, and I hope you have had a good week, and I am ready for the weekend. This week on this blog site I saw that I have had 5,000 views and so thank you. I am so happy that this site is getting such a response as I want people to use this site to help them and feel good by my blogs.

This blog asks, “Does time effect us from being successful in life?”

If you are getting flustered by the things in your life then yes, because I go at such a speed sometimes that I hit that wall, and I have talked about that in previous blogs and videos, and so I give myself a realistic list of what I know I can get done and not suffer with burnout and the day should start how it ended.

So meaning, that it should start full of energy and end with a good steady pace like it begun.

Rushing when you dont’ realise it. I am guilty, and so I will take my time now, rather than jamming all what needs to be done in one day. This can lead us to self sabotage and to give up before you’ve even started.

If you are struggling with time then it can effect our success because we feel its to bigger a mounting to get anything done, and you have kids running around, whilst you try to tidy things awat, you feel that your email inbox is getting fuller and yes I am guilty of that. We plan to wash our hair and have a pampering evening and you end up feeling to knackered to even lifting a finger, so yes it can cause us to say “I can’t do this”.

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Well look around and look at your lists, is there anything that catches your eye on your list and stands out on your list? If it does then this should be the first item to get done and completed.

I have written an EBook on amazon, talking about Things to Change one day at a time

As that is all needs to be done and do a task a day. I do write couple of organizing blogs on google blogspot: https://organize4thebetter.blogspot.com/ and https://neworganizedself.blogspot.com/

We all want to be like be Mary Poppins and have a carpet bag that can carry a hat stand and a lamp but this is a musical and if you like to pretend you are whilst cleaning singing “A Spoonful of sugar” going and put the sound track on. I am writing this blog listening to the Eurythmics in concert on Youtube, and so if that it what it takes to get back on the road of being on time with your life and gets your life in shape so it doesn’t hold you back from being successful then do it.

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Should time be in a goal?

Yes! This is what I am saying, “Time can be used to challenge yourself”. So before you read on, get a bin that is empty or even a storage container and go around the room putting thing into it, and have three bins in fact. One saying Inbox and one saying Outbox and another to give away if you find items you no longer need.

Getting rid of stuff in family homes can take alot to get rid of items, but if you want more time then create it. Block scheduling a must and just giving yourself 5 minutes a day can make all the difference, and I clean my desk at least once a week and scheduling has become my bestfriend.

Create chart with the time you have spare and put down what is the first space that can be sorted out first and if you need to take a break then do so.

So yes time can effect our success because we think we have to do everything now but actually you don’t.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Underestimated ourselves? How can we overcome this?

18 Thursday Nov 2021

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We do put on, so much strain on ourselves and be unkind, yet when we see people who shout and scream at anyone, we straight away go into praising ourselves. and says “I am glad I not like that”, and it is looking yourself on the outside and see that we are kind and approachable, I am not mad in getting angry, we should be able to express ourselves.

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When it comes to accepting ourselves it can take a long process, as we do fear peer pressure. So it is time to be kind and see what you are capable of. We are all allowed to breath in this world, and so we need stop underestimating ourselves and see our strengths we have.

To Overcome underestimating ourselves, it is good through your assets, and that for me is I have the fingers to write and have the eyes to see and I have the power through my blogs to reach out to people all over the world. Now that for me is powerful, to even write that, but it is true.

We are so quick to criticize ourselves and not give ourselves a break, when we feel low is often needed. I give myself credit, because I understand about it is about being a true human being. Being kind to what we say to ourselves and so go through your assets physically and mentally.

Taking on challenges this year did me so good, and it showed me of what I could achieve within a year, and has enthused my energy to do more to inspire myself aswell as from other people.

Journal your thoughts, and go through all the things you want achieve and it can be whatever you want, and should you set a deadline??

I have tried this method, and it has helped but in some areas not, like setting myself a deadline to finish my books I write, but I find that because there is more to add I need to finish it in my own time and not rush my books but give myself time to edit and arite.

It is time to be good to yourself and set that as one of your goals fro the end of the year, following onto the next year.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Learning to make life your own/Do things for yourself

28 Thursday Oct 2021

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I don’t see my life as perfect, but someting that is growning as I am, and I feel that I am still learning, and really we learn everyday.

You need to often be ruthless and if we feel out of control, it is important to gain it back and not allow others detate, but respectng people more and have respect for ourselves too.

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We need be with like minded people, who want to see us grow and have a life that makes you happy, not feel like a tug of war.

It should be about you for a change and so take time to be with yourself aswell as socialising, be with yourself.

If there are people who can’t accept you, for who you are then, that is fine, I am not expecting everyone to be my BFF, but I still want to the best for them.

Take a lunch break if you often don’t, as working all day can tire us out and when this happens to me, I often find it is hard to put one leg in front of the other, forget working.

Have a holiday, if you often don’t and even if it is staying at home, so not necessarily going anywhere or staying anywhrere else, just time to do different things.

Like booking a manicure or a pedicure, visit the gym, go for a walk and take yourself on holiday somewhere if you need a change of senory.

Create a yearly tradition if you don’t have any, or the ones you had faded away. This could be like I do, go for a Christmas day walk and and restart my fitness routine and meet up with people I haven’t seen for a while.

Have that time to go through what you want to add to your life, that will help you not fall of the wagon, and after half term if you are a mother like me, to use that time to go to a Spa or on a retreat somewhere, if you can find a friend or family you can trust looking after the kids whilst you have a break and just be good to yourself.

It is about taking time out for yourself and why not after you drop you kids back to school, go for a regular brisk walk somewhere.

I do write a parenting blog and written books too, check out my wordpress site, https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

Please check out my youtube channel where I do, a weekly video called Truth about Parenting:

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

If you could put happiness into a Jar

20 Wednesday Oct 2021

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Hello and thank you for all the likes to my blogs and just to let you know I have three Youtube channels and so check my main one via this link:

https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

The other two is Financial Living and Carries Educational Youtube channel.

So if you could put happiness in to a jar what would you put into it?

I have created a sample and have created a downloadable print out with a section where you can fill it in.

This can be anything see the picture below:

I have a PDF version which has more pages.

It can be anything within reason. Of course, don’t be offensive. But what would make up your happiness potion if this existed?

What would it smell like. For me it would be Vanilla and Cinnamon, and Lavender.

If you choose a song to put in the jar, what would it be?

Mine would be “My turn” by Diana Ross. Whenever I hear it, I am reminded of my life. The line “I’ll let it rain, because the rain is not gonna hurt me” has been my motto.

What if it is a job or career you have dreamed of, what would this be?

I listed mine above in the picture of the jar. It is writing for a magazine. I watch Sheer Lux on Youtube and would love to be part of that world.

With the list I have made, you can add items as much as would fit in the jar. You can have different jars for what would make you happy.

The PDF can be printed and placed into your happiness folder. You can also use it to make your own documents. Use mine as a guide for you.

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrrie X

Feeling like you have no power in your life/Gaining back control of uneventful things

02 Saturday Oct 2021

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What do I mean by power, no sense of control over your life, but you try to grab it by the horns and say “No I want control back” but it is not there. You miss the bus, but other days you make it. That is something that could effect your day and now you’re late and feel that panic or at the moment the petrol stations have been chockerblock due to people needing petrol and there not being enough due to the Lorrys that are supposed to delivering it and everyone it queuing in their cars to get petrol.

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Then I worry about the buses what if they run out, how would we get anywhere, yet is there a way to gain control? Yes, travelling by a different route, like instead of a bus get the train instead. Then there are taxis and not turning up and you have business meeting. What can you do to gain control? again use the train or see if a coworker had a car who has petrol to see if they can pick up en route.

Basically if you want to get somewhere urgently we has humans will always find a way. That is with everything. Of course with COVID alot of things have got effected making work difficult and has gained control of what we do and where we go.

Can you get it back? Yes by using social media and going digitial on some things, like to do lists and managing the calendar and using the post to send cards out and contacting people. As said you will always as a human being find a way.

I keep that in mind with the things that go on in my life where I feel things are beyond control, like being stuck on a bus like the week just gone and was late to meet my son after he finished school, and that meant texting Henry, my son’s dad to make sure someone he is there for when Henry is bought back from school.

So never fear the power is with in you so remember if you lose a bit of control of your life, you will find a way to gain control again.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Summer Project 2021/Build your expectations on your terms

16 Monday Aug 2021

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So first of all I today did a video talking Expectations in a regular video I do talking about The Truth Of Growing up, and so check out if you wish too.

Expectations are always going to be there from other people and from yourself too, but it should be on your terms, and what I mean by that is that often others can expect too much, and should be what will help you individually to raise the bar and be done gradually.

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I am someone who jumps into something with both feet, when I would go to dancing school, when I first began working and even when I would write books as a kid, expected my first book I wrote as an adult, would it be well received, yet reading it back, some details were in correct as when you have a child you do get baby brain, but it was telling my story of a first time mother and the things that I never knew about until I became a parent. If you would like to check out my books The Parenting Adventures under may married name then they are available from Amazon (name Carrie Challoner) as I now use my maiden, Carrie Holmes or Carrie Lee Holmes.

When you get married everyone expects you to be already planning to have kids, yet its not a fairy story, it is real life and I am glad I never rushed into marriage as it was four years later and that I got married and then it was a while until I had my son Henry. Me and Henry, My son’s dad have split and we been together a long time, but we still make sure that Henry sees us both.

With all relationships there is an expectation from you and them, to be on the same page and terms, and that they are there to hold your hand and listen and want to see you to wind down and to catch up of what of how they have been and the same for you. Yet friendships can then be tested by others who get resentful and that it is a tug of war, where that person then says “Who is your bestest friend” and this continues from experience to adult age and you think not, but true.

Again if they expect you to meet you when it suits them, then is this a expectation of “Your here to see me not you” and that is where the expectation is impossible to reach, due to other things in your life. Friendship is a two way street and be fair.

So you raise the expectations not them.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Introduction video to my new programme “Summer Project 2021”

10 Tuesday Aug 2021

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Hello! Here is an Introduction video to my new programme I am putting together for you to have a better summer and life.

I will be adding more content and free printables for you to use and adding content from other Youtubers I like to watch, along with videos and blogs..

Many thanks,

Carrie X

Day 30/30 Day Challenge/Blog a day/Changing The Routes of your life/Final Post

31 Saturday Jul 2021

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Hello and welcome! This is the last post as part of my 30 day challenge where I have been posting on this site daily and glad I did. This is it for my daily blogs and thank you for the follows and likes I have received and sorry to bombard your inbox of my posts I just wanted to see if I could do it and to grow my content more but now will go back to posting on this site once a week.

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In this post I talking about Changing the Routes to your life from a brainstorm I did before I this challenge and I have already covered on this site about Changing the story of your life and journey which became an EBook check out Amazon.com and under the name Carrie Lee Holmes and making small changes to your life and to do that you do need to make decisions on the route to lead you to having a better life and build it up to an everlasting change.

I have taken different routes in my life like a complete career change to working in Butlins Bognor Regis, temping and then returning to work in London and Chessington etc, and glad I did because it what worked at the time. Now I am ready for a new set of challenges by taking further routes and expanding myself I am glad to have found writing again.

I am able to look at myself now and think “Your doing okay and stay on this route it is heading onto more good things and keeping my spirits high”.

Sometimes it means sitting down again and going back to the drawing board to take a different route and setting new goals.

Scrapping goals is okay as unplanned events can take over and so changing goals is not failure it is re-routing your plans and adapting them to unexpected avenues that have cropped up, and develop new skills and changing the view of your situation.

I have been lucky that I have worked for many organisations and now ready to expand even more and because I was in a Mentalhealth hospital for a month, it really made me re-order my life and made me more guarded and choose my next route to grow myself even further.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X