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An Eye Opener to Mental health/Things that need to change

11 Tuesday May 2021

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Being hosptial for mental health I have come to see that the nurses on these wards are wonderful, perhaps I have been lucky in that respect, as i am sure there will be some that disagree, but so far spending time in a psychiatric ward, the nursers are second to none, and are the ones that do the hard work. The Doctor mmm…not convinced so far, but the one thing I felt comfortable with is that, they let you watch TV when you want to, nap, play sports outside and just chat with you and the nurses and other medical staff including the cleaners sit and take time to ask how you are and sit and watch TV with you.

The food isn’t that great but being someone who went to a Primary school that had slop on a plate many days there, the food is bearable, and they lay out some snacks too.

When it comes to mental health it seems that not all the doctors are on board with it, and that is the problem and it likes “Oh lets just change their medication to see if that helps?”, “Really?” and yet when a resident of a mental health hospital needs medication for whatever reason it gets ignored.

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For me, in terms of mental health is that, I want to chat with someone every now and again, as we often want being someone who has had mental health issues to reach out to someone who gets it, and only being in a mental health hospital, I got to say I am not convinced that there is in terms of medical science when it comes to doctors and #mentalhealth .

Drugs should only be short term, not long, because with every medication, being on many as a kid, they all have side effects, and some are quite drastic, and what gets me is how the doctors play it down.

The two doctors I love watching Doctor Hilary on Lorraine and Doctor Chris on This Morning, because they seem to understand, if only there were more like them around, and Agony aunts do more than what I have seen of doctors when it comes to medical help, being in a mental health hospital.

Prince William, did a programme a while back with sportsmen and about Mental Health, as the pressure of being a professional sports person does come with a lot of pressure, and when they doubt their ability when playing a professional sport, how they have been effected by it. I thought this highlighted mental health in that anyone can have mental health problems so it should be well respected and given compassion not judgement.

From the doctors I have seen in Epsom they did get it and I felt I was being cared for in the correct way and were listened to, yet in other areas not so much. It feels like they are being quite ignorant about it. Not really caring about the how the person actually feels. The nurses top of their game, and they are the ones who I’d like to work with at some point to have mental health to be understood more and not from someones who assumes just changing their medication will help.

We want to heart, we want support and be heard correctly and not to be shut down and be judged by the one actual person who should on our side, the doctor, and that for me is the problem. The better doctors we have that “Get it” the better we would all feel and the more they do support and not challenge it the more people and children to, will be open up about their mental health.

So if you need support interms of mental health, then the best organisation is Mind.org and they work around the clock in supporting people and by the NHS too, but in terms of the medical support, its some of the doctors that has made me see that things still need to change, as they just “Dont get it”.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

The Saints of the world?What I consider a saint

02 Sunday May 2021

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So the saints of the world. Well there have been so many in our world that it is hard to pinpoint one that stands out, as they have all be saints of their own. That is Saint George and I thought it was in May but no just checked I missed it, it was 23rd of April and I will gonna do a whole decorating thing, but no missed it once again. I even bought fleece of the occasion, but no bother I will wear my St Georges attire tomorrow.

Then there is St Patrick, St Davids and the pop group All Saints. So who are now the Saints of this world, now we are in another century and another decade and another year?

  • Warriors

So, the warriors, the kids and adults who have made a different to this world, example Micheal Jackson. Now I know people may quiz this but honestly he is not a Sex Offender at all, and in fact the total opposite. He changed music and bought the music of the 80’s and 90’s to a whole different level and I trusted him with my life and this is from someone who knew of kids being abused and he was not that.

He used his fame to look after the world and kids, yet the price of fame lead him to his death as he was set upon and made into a monster which was not true. When a guy of him relm come along there are always those who want a slice of the cake and that is what happened.

Micheal, loved music and that was something that he knew could help him in his position to change the world, but often like Jesus they can put on trial for doing so. He was being used and drugged cause people around him pretended to love when they didn’t. I can identify myself with Micheal as this happened to me. I would never abuse or bully anyone, and isn’t in my vocabulary. Yet cause of people pretending to be on his side, made him into an enemie because jealousy and resentment.

He struggled with self image, and people were like, why? He is famous how can he have problems with the way he looks? Cause like many the image we see in our heads is not always what we see in he mirror, and he did have a generic skin condtion which effected his confidence.

To me though, I want to celebrate the art he created and he was a one off, as he made music into being cool when Disco, Mowtown and soul were seen old fashioned. He put music and started he 80’s and is why it is one of the most celebrated decades of music, on the map. Even now the the video Thriller is the top videos of music videos of all time.

  • Survivor

So that leads me to the next one. A Survivor. To me that makes me think of the people who Survived the disasters like Hillsborough, as this changed the world of football, and how matches were managed, and seeing this disaster unfold, I was in total shock afterwards, and made me feel fear like nothing before. I feel in some way an imposter for saying that because “I wasn’t there” but I knew that possibly my cousin had gone to the game, and I said to my mum to call my Aunty to check, but it was fine he wasn’t and it was one that will always be gut wrenching.

The supporters who were the saviours of that day, then were accused of killing other supporters, yet they were the heros. I am now working with the Police and on that particular day the Police failed them, as when they tried to get out of the massive surge of fan, the Police kept sending them back in. I think of the survivors, who have had to fight truth and nail, cause as the day carried on, it was obvious that there was a massive cover up. That some of the supporters (Liverpool) were drunk, that there had been fights breaking out, and that they falsed a gate open.

Being a Liverpool fan myself, which it has been one of the teams I have supported, and meeting Liverpool fans they would have never done that, it was because the Police weren’t checking tickets and as football crowds do they follow and if they aren’t to, “Go into the other Pens” they went to the first place to watch the game, not realising that there were a packed full of supporters already in there.

From seeing this unfold. I honour Liverpool FC and Everton on how they carried themselves and the game against Everton, I couldn’t watch and I remember turning as I was my living room, to go in my room. I have no idea of how they must have felt, yet they were the ones (the supporters) in trying to save the people who died and injured lives. THEY WERE NEVER CRIMINALS AGAINST THEIR OWN SUPPORTERS IN WAS A POLICE ERROR AND YES GROUND!

  • Inspirational

When I think of Inspirational I think of my friend Kelly who I knew from Peabody and people like Oprah Winfrey. She changed a chat show to a talk show. You think they are the same but no they are not. When I think of chat, i think two people having a natter but often you talking at someone, and I like it when I am talked too. She would talk through the audience to the people on her show. She never hid about problems with her weight and dieting, she was someone who didn’t have a good childhood, but it never stopped her, and became a household name, not just in America but all over the world.

I think of the Queen, especially now, as it goes to show that they are a famous family and she is a real Queen, yet like other families there are problems within it and she has to some how keep it together, and its never out of he public eye. If it were me I know I would be like I am not getting out of bed today, but she has to. That’s how people see it and its the attitude of people saying “Well she is the Queen so what does she expect”. Without seeing she is still a human being, and still bleeds like we all do, and yet has always put on a public appearance.

Anita Dobson I think of too. She put the pub landlady on the map as the pub world even when Eastenders came on our screens was seen as “A mans world” and they turned heads Anita the guy who played Dirty Den, by bringing London life into play. She was he first from the land of the soap to be on Top of the Pops, singing the theme of Eastenders.

I can not walk away without mentioning Cannon and Ball. They are to me Saints of the Double Act world. They have the best double act tune, and I loved The two ronnies and Morecambe and Wise but I was and am a massive Cannon and Ball Fan. Having been someone who hated school knowing they would be on the TV on Saturday made my school days bareable and I would feel so sad when their series would end. I, would say in terms of school Miss Conley was the Saints of Saint Pauls. who would want to walk out by 2pm some days, as yes it was that bad, and she would swear but was one of the fair few teachers who all pupils respected and could relate to, cause she felt like we did, that school was the last place you’d want to be in this world.

So who do you class as saints, going in these things I would love to hear.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

Life coaching blog/What should you be grateful for when nothing seems to be going your way?

26 Monday Apr 2021

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I have been a lot about the POSITIIVITY AND CHANGE YOUR MINDSET but what should you be grateful for when nothing sees to be going your way?

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Lets cut to the chase. You will always gonna have shit days. I know it hits me but that is it in a nutshell, and I suppose the question next is, Well whats the point of wanting to change my life then?

It is looking at the things that bring you joy like Marie Kondo says, and is like a plaster of life. He is what you can do to make it better to be grateful of friends and the outside world.

Well its do you want more better days rather than those days where you wish you could start again? #letssayittogether YES!

I did a midnight video just now as I write the blog post and you can find it via my channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUDFIqjVKLy7NhtcR6Hy0Tg

This blog is Sponsered by Mind.org who do wonderful work with people who want to change their life and support them with #mentalhealth and help get their life on track.

You can never control certain days and events that happen, like someone in the family getting sick and as parent do clean up pooh explosions, but we can make it better by giving ourselves time to view, address and reflect, and doing something like Self Care, which includes self development. This lighting a scented candel with a scent you love, with some chill out music.

Have an unplanned meal. Meal plans are good as I used to do this, but it is good to have a free choice meal day, for example and you do something not planned making meal time, even if the most of the day has been bad, good in the end.

This is where keeping a journal is good as this helps to view, address and reflect on those days and how you can learn from those days whenever they happen.

We can not control when a child or the whole family get sick all in one go, however much you sanitize and keep bad bacteria at bay, but will have a movie on or all go to bed early some days. Whenever I had a bad day when I was with him, I would go to bed when he did and often watch TV in bed together.

When I did this I would feel a lot better the next day and the thought “Well I got through that day and did I die?”, if you are reading this email after a bad day, then the answer is NO.

Set a date with yourself to take time out doing something different if you don’t often get to go out on your own. This can be meeting and going for a coffee with friend for lunch or going out in the evening, there is a drink with my name of on it mode, and go for that end of the week drink.

I loved it one time when on Fridays I would work up London, after a long week go to a bar afterwards and dance, sing on Karoake and paint the town red.

When the theatres open again, go and see a show, I love doing this, even if it is once or twice a year, even if it is a outdoor show, go and see it. Book that show, book a meal and take yourself out of the normal rushing week, and enjoy. I love seeing shows and I would recommend the Tina Turner Story show, Bat out of Hell and Chicago. I would go see these again, and even seen the stage show of Charlie and the Chocolate Factory.

Soon I will be working on some shows too in London at my favourite venues, Live at the Apollo and at the London Palladium and Hard Rock calling.

Remember those days where it is not going our way, that they won’t last long and there are still good days on the horizon. They always pass and take time to exhale and be with yourself to gather your thoughts and set a date to have a TV evening. I would often do this, Saturdays were mine as a kid and would watch endless shows, and Sundays would be seeing our friends in Fulham and Chelsea. It is good to see different; people some weeks, as we often just need a change of scene.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

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Sunday Post/Thank you

26 Monday Apr 2021

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Thank you so much your feedback!

It has been a long road to get to where I am now, and it has comes with challenges that I never thought would ever happen but I have and your feedback means the world to me. I started not knowing what would come my way when I blogged and if anything would come out of it at all, and it was at first a hobby, and I can not begin to tell you how your welcoming embracing mindset has helped me in a way I really can’t explain. One word “Wonderful” and so thank you and #letkeepbeinghappy however way possible and #buildourliveslikeneverbefore

Many thanks,

Carrie L.M X

Concentrating on Good Things In life that can empower you through the year

19 Monday Apr 2021

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Hello and I am writing this on Sunday, but I don’t post any live blogs on this day so will be up live tomorrow.

So Concentrating on Good Things In life that can empower you through the year.

Find what makes you tick, and look for inspiring videos that can give you empowerment. When I used to go running and I had that “I have no energy to do a run” I found some running motivation videos on Youtube and listening to one of those made me go out and run, before I changed my mind again.

We often at times look at our lives and our rooms, and homes thinking “My world cluttered, I feel overwhelmed and feel like I am never gonna be tidy or stress free”, but yes you can.

I wrote a book on amazon.com about making one change a day:

Things to Change one day at a time : Life doesn’t have to be fast pace but easy, simple and flexible by [Carrie Lee Holmes ]

Doing one thing a day can make a huge difference and what empowers me everyday is listening to music, just one or two songs, and that helps kick start my day.

Plan a day just for you, as we all deserve a day where we can be lazy or some people I know love Sundays For example to have a day in bed. I did this some weekends and it is just to relax not have to rush anywhere, no errands or to dos and just a day of Peace and Quiet.

Spend time documenting days where you see family and friends, or now we are soon I hope to be out of Lockdown that you can see family again and why not film to development more happy Memories and why not plan a Post Lockdown Family reunion.

Watch videos or documentaries that inspire you and make you get the most of each day. I sometimes if I have a Takeaway will watch a comedy series i haven’t watched for a while and I try to do different things at the weekend, and it is good to have a Takeaway Friday or Pizza Tuesday or Saturday. I even like today as i wrote this love having a Curry Sunday rather than roast.

I also have days where I don’t wear make up and days when I do, and have created a photobook to help me remind of looks I have done and it really has helped with my confidents and feel good about myself.

Have breakfasts at the weekend or during Holiday days that you wouldn’t have in a normal week. I love a cooked breakfast sometimes and i will eat a lot more fruit, and I have a separate Travel Journal that I keep especislly for holidays. I love documenting good days aswell some challenging days.

Jusr get as much out of each day as possible and make time for from the norm and use what inspires you to have a better, happy and fulfilling life.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

Get Your Life Together/Not too late to make Life changes/You don’t need the New Year to do it!

11 Thursday Mar 2021

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Hello and welcome! Here is a new blog post which is going to be added to my Life Coaching Programme “Project 2021”, and this is about Get Your Life Together, so time to start making changes so you are happier and have more to your life than being confined to four walls.

Before continuing on please see my Life coaching videos I have created for this #lifecoaching programme via this link:

My Life coaching Youtube video playlist

One of my favourite places I love to go and soon will be moving near here and can’t wait. Its good to have places that makes you happy and fulfilled aswell as people. This is in St James Park, Central London

Not too late to make Life changes, as it is March but so what, you can make life changes all year round, and You don’t need the New Year to do it.

So my routine is one that has helped me to get enough sleep but still even with a small amount of time there is left in the day I still get stuff done. The point of working for yourself is to give yourself time to rest and recuperate and spend time on not the “Got To List” to the “What I want to do list”.

Set challenges for yourself. I do this a lot and it helps me to have a good balance, and so I tend to do this with money and see when I go grocery shopping of how much I can get under £20 and that has at the minute been my budget and use what I have, so I have not had to spend money on food for the last 3 weeks and trust me makes huge difference and when I am with my new family soon, be doing the same. Now when I move into my new home I will be increasing my budget but still be seeing where and how I can save money still. Just because you are financially secure that its an excuse to flush down to the toilet, but invest wisely.

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I came across a video I kept in my Notepad APP from last year, but the method can still be applied this year by a popular Content Creator and Life Coach, Terri Savelle Foy called 5 Ways To Get Your life together for 2020.

Now I am someone that when I do sleep in I do have that “Waste of a day” guilt when it doesn’t matter what time you get up but What You Want to Get out of the Day. So the Life change I have started to apply is to Stop self punishment, as I have been so unkind to myself, that if that was someone else saying those things to me, I would tell them to leave alone and go away, so yes, #BeKind to yourself, have #selfrespect

I think we get so stuck on the New Year when it comes to making changes in our lives and feel some kind of New Year Pressure, and why we can fall, and not complete our resolutions, but I never make these, being someone who fell too. Never see it as failure as that is not right its because we are seeing a resolution being a one time thing, and not something that is long standing, so scrap resolutions and make a list of the thing you love and how wish to grow in the next years coming up. One way is to create a Career Tree, see below and an example of the one I have done, and I will add this to my Content Creators Planner I am putting together, so keep posted on details on this.

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I have done a Printable of the details of how to create a Career Tree and how it works.

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So to get back on track if you have lost your way a bit, that can happen sit down and spend time making notes and go through by keeping a journal which I use everyday to help find why your plans for this year have stopped as you can always get back into it.

Spring is a perfect time to make changes if not in the New Year, as that is when crops start to grow, animals come out of hibernation and give birth, and we have longer days and so don’t worry if it is passed the new year, You can’t still make a change.

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Have a Pjama day. I spend my Sundays in my sweats which are also my night clothes, and it is really nice to have a day where I don’t feel I need make up, but sometimes I will and use it as my Admin Free Choice Day and I think this has been something I have done religiously going on the bible not never thought of it that way. I am a kid who on Sunday’s it was a day of a lot of shops would be closed except pubs and some restaurants and so would use this day to go and see my friends in Chelsea, watch my brother play football, play pitch ‘n’ putt at Bishops park, ride our bikes along the river and often BBC 2 would put on some old black and white films I loved and football.

So have a day where you can just do what you enjoy and some people I know don’t even get out our bed and still do work, but in bed, and when I am in my new home, very soon being doing this again too.

I also have days where I will eat something different and there is a wonderful Comedian who I do know so well “My Love” who does this, “something different on tour or on holiday that you wouldn’t have at home” and watching a documentary of this wonderful human being, I do too. ALWAYS! Why not? YOUR ARE ON HOLIDAY SO DO WHAT YOU LIKE AND as long AS noone is at harm, MAKE HOLIDAY TIME TO BE DIFFERENT TO EVERYDAY!

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Then the other things is creating a good fitness routine which is a very common promise that people make to themselves including me and i am putting a new site together so I will keep you posted on this, but if you find working out hard just do it once a week, exercise whilst waiting for breakfast to cook or whilst the kettle boils. You can fit it in but In your own schedule not by somebodies elses, which is a common mistake.

Also to keep you fitness going each year introduce something new, to your regieme and fit in regular walking, as this is easy to do and easier to fit in and stick too. I also love doing dance workouts and boxercise exercises.

So do what you know you can stick to and if you would like to use my Goals list to set your Life changes you’d like to make then please check out my goal sheet I have created.

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This is a sheet I found on Google that can be downloaded via this link: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/pin/203928689347611071/

What you can do if you don’t want to set yearly goals set some for the day, week and month and I go through mine each month and with a vision board see my last post Creating a Vision board see if any of them have changed and often through the year update them and change, as often you can go in a different direction than the start of the year, so life is always revolving and I do live seasonally and change my life habits sometimes. There is always room in a year to start a fresh and using the different seasons in the year is a way of doing so. It is all about being current and being you still, but growing.

Here is a copy of my goals for this year on my Pinterest vision board for 2021:

So I hope you had a good week so far and see you in the next blog.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

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Life Coaching/Project 2021/The Vision you have always wanted in your life

10 Wednesday Mar 2021

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Hello and welcome to another blog post. This is another Life Coaching post, and if you would like to catch up on my Life Coaching Youtube videos then please check them out here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0AyektQNGDFmE8QBKFktqKMwZ2bswZoc

So in this blog post I am talking about The Vision you have always wanted in your life.

Now grab a notepad and if you have a vision of a career you want or a business adventure, start to Brainstorm. I do this all of the time, and I live in one main notepad, as I have separate ones for my book ideas, but one that I write down all my Daily Task lists, for brain dumping and also use it to Brainstorm.

Once you have done a brainstorm then Map it out, so like an organisation chart you often find in corporations do the same with a plan of how you will step by step do to get to the your dream career or business adventure.

Then it’s creating the vision by using pictures and post it notes, quotes or File Cards.

Make it to what you want to accomplish with your business, and places you want to visit or fashion shows you want to attend, for example.

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Look online for images and magazines, and Ask yourself, What is my main thing I want to focus on?

Also, What is my ultimate goal and how can I break it down?

Who is my vision board Icon? So if it is a Fashion type business, then add your fashion icon, as this will help you then create a vision to use their fashion to inspire yours. Not to copy, it is just using items that will inspire creativity and to help to find ideas and niches that have not been down before. This is a Vision board I created today as I am creating a Content Creator Planner, and going to add to my Pinterest board too and if I want to add to it, I can.

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Here are two Blank Versions of A4 and A3 Printable Vision boards, you can use to create a vision or use to sketch out a vision board and what many people do is actually create it on a Pinboard or A3 piece of card to put on the wall.

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If you like to see my Weekly fashion look books I do then check out my site:

https://carrieshomestyleandfashion.wordpress.com

(I am going to move this site above to a new platform so as of next week I won’t be posting on that site, and I will give details of the new platform once done).

So you have created your vision, put it somewhere, where you will see it everyday, like on your fridge, or an office Pinboard and with the one I have done I am going to print off and frame it to put up in my new home office once I have moved, which is happening very soon.

You could even Elaminate it, and have a version in a Work folder. Or like many Planner Guru’s do, have a version in a planner.

Then from the Vision board, create some goals, and this is important to do, so to accomplish each vision you have a goal to get there, so for me my vision is a new Look, Fashion and Skincare board for 2021, so first goal is to dye my hair and once Lockdown has been lifted set a date to have this done, go through my wardrobe to put together outfits for interviews, shows and TV work.

At the start of this year I created a 2021 vision board on Pinterest and it is a brilliant platform to use for Vision boards and then as above keep adding to them:

I also recommend invisioning it happening in your mind so you are almost touching it and you may take a different path than planned, but when you do reach the end goal it iis a wonderful feeling, and inspired to create more vision boards.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

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Monday Morning post/National Womens Month

08 Monday Mar 2021

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Hello it is a start of another week and this month I am going to write stories of Inspiring women who have inspired me and the world from teaching people about what is like to be a woman when it was a long time ago, seen as a “Mans world” and that many woman have changed the world.

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I will be sharing some Life coaching blogs and videos by some great Women Content Creators on Youtube and how real people are taking over on Social media and on the TV now.

In this post I am going to talk about the first women that I always think of and were part of my life as a kid and still continue on in me and they have helped to keep me grounded and got me through life, and yes that does include family members, but others who I knew that are no longer with us, and the first person is Sandy who was one of my playgroup leaders. She was very like a popstar come playgroup leader as she dressed like Stevie Nicks in a way and was very much her own person, and was very looked upon, along with Sue, who would often look after me on Peabody Estate, and help keep kids safe living on there and would help organize, days out for the tennants on my estate, kid clubs and fetes.

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Then there is one of my friends Lauren, who I would often play with on the estate and we would use the arches on the estate as our houses, and play endlessly with our dolls and always had time for her, as she was a lovely person and her mum and dad were sound. I remember at St Pauls someone had nicked her food, knowing she needed it because she had Type 1 Diabetes, and so many of the food she bought in was for her blood sugar level.

Then there was my two Nans on my Dad and Mum’s side who as a kid I would spend a lot of time with. I loved being with both of my grandparents because we would spend a lot of time singing, dancing, knitting, playing card games and would be where I would also write my stories I had created as a child.

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Then the next women I think of as a child, is Kirst McCall, as she was a local girl and such a Londoner and I loved her. She used to perform in a club in Chelsea and in Fulham, and went onto to having a huge career in America, Europe and the UK. She went over to Australia to live in the end, and I loved her so much, I would often as a real small child, that she was my sister.

So I would love to hear from you to know who your Inspiring women to you, and you can leave a comment below.

However, have a good week and see you in the next blog which will be an Inspiring Stories post aswell as a Life Coaching blog that is due.

So, many thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

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Monday Morning Post/Toxic People and it be contagious

02 Tuesday Mar 2021

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Hello! Yes this post is a little late, but that was because I slept in, but still want to write it. If you would like to read more of my Monday Morning posts then click on this link here: Monday Morning posts

So in this blog post I am going to be talking about Toxic people and it can be contagious. Well bascially they are those who feel that they are unworthy if they don’t stamp their authority and try to control every aspect of your life and they make days a challenge because you find that you get driven in a power struggle, and start to score points over them, which they do to you.

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They begin to nip pick over everything you do, and this is a form of abuse and bullying, and then you end up having to answer for everything you say and do. They drain you out of happiness and energy because they want you to have a bad day, because they are and don’t like anything you do that makes you happy.

This can then turn on you as you begin to lose faith in people and become angry and resentful yourself. They can make you hate the world and not want to get out of bed, and make you into being like them and not who you are. Feeling like you have lost your identity can summon up toxic people and they will use even going on holiday seem like the worst thing in the world and feel as if it is hard work.

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They will often guilt trip you and use emotional blackmail, and even when you try to agree with them they hold that against you, and you end up feeling like its just best to let them waggle on and don’t allow them to victimise you as this is a trait of a toxic person and you find that you have inner strength that they don’t, being the better person by standing your ground, and it is in fact a sign of weakness on their behalf, not yours.

I find that they are people who worry so much about time, and be the ones you end up leaving things to the last minute, and then they use that to attack you. Often they want you to hit them to justify their toxic behaviour and so I have learned since I was a kid to switch off, and you can do this too, just find a quiet place even if it is locking yourself in the bathroom, putting some chill out music and taking a bath.

“Noone should be bogged down because of someone elses stress”

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They use their behaviour to twist and turn everything you do and say, and if you have #mentalhealth issue, they will often use this as amunition to get at you, and you can have them arrested for Victimisation on this subject and now noone is allowed to challenge you if you have a mental health issue, but then they can use this to get at you because they are that toxic they use mental health as an attacking mechanism, and they can also control you so much that they end up imprisoning you because they are frightened of you having a better life, because they blame you because they haven’t and will never be, because they use their Toxic personality to be selfish and resentful of everyone around you and drain you of being a entraupner.

“They don’t like seeing people be successful and want everyone to drown in a puddle of uncarelessness”.

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So if you are surrounded with these kinds of people then,

  • Fight back
  • Call for help
  • Report

Noone should be drive by these types of people and be happy. Everyone deserves the life they love and not have that destroyed.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie L.M X

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Life Coaching/Project 2021/Not being bogged down but getting it done/Being super productive

27 Saturday Feb 2021

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Hello and welcome! So firstly if you have not been following my series of blogs for my programme “Project 2021” then please go to my Pinterest board which has all my recent videos and blogs, which has a lot of Life coaching tools and information. There is also new boards and sections I have created too, if you wanted to look at my other boards and pins.

So in this blog I am talking about How to not get bogged down but getting it done/Being super productive.

I firstly work with one notebook which is my main one and for me is a life saver. I did a video on one of my other sites which I write, on google and did a video about How I live in my notebook.

That is the first,

Tip 1# Find a system that makes scheduling your work simple and that can help you stick to it. I am creating a planner at the moment that I hope will help you, and will be for fello content creators.

Tip 2# If you have kids then separate your time, so when they are homeschooling give them tasks that they can do without supervision so you get work done, and spare an hour to help them and use the evenings to block time out to do your work.

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When I have my dinner or do my skincare of an evening I will use this time to watch a bit of TV on BBC iPlayer for example or watch a Youtube video, and it is great to just have that time and do a bit of reading a day. This is a new habit I am Implementing at the moment and it has helped me to read a bit of a book if it is only reading one or two pages. It just good to do things that help me wind down and in the morning wake me up.

Tip 3# Batch your work. So on some days I will pre-film a few videos or put together a batch of blog posts ready to go live. It can save a huge amount and then have a “Take it easier day” and have that time to catch up on reading or watching television. Or even some cooking or go for a walk if you have been cooped up within 4 walls all week.

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The other thing I try to do is the night before go through what I have done on that day and what else that needs completed, is there any overdue items not done? What is scheduled for the next day ahead?

Tip 4# Plan ahead on some days, but don’t over plan. Try to get what you still have left from the day before and then get todays list down, and make time for breaks.

Once I have my own home again, which is going to be soon in a few days it seems, I like to potter so I will be each day even though I don’t like cleaning I like to, just go around the home putting bits away, taking anything that needs to be put in a different room that hasn’t been put in its home and just go in each room, tidying and straightening out.

Tip 5# Set time to do this each day or twice a week. I find doing this helps the chaos that life can bring be stopped and get up to date with Home Projects.

So I hope these tips are helpful and I hope you have survived lockdown too, but waiting for it shift and be able to do more fun things again out of the home again.

Many thanks for reading, ‘

Carrie L.M X

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