Hi yes it is that time of the month again where I share what I have been up to and what is coming up in my content. If you didn’t know I am a mum and this month been writing blogs on this site and creating videos on my Youtube channel (https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal)
So here it is, and I hope you like the new look and that you enjoy reading my other ones for this year, I love putting these together and sharing what I have been up to and what is to come, and your response to my blogs and videos means the world.
Here I am it is Sunday and feel a little bad that I didn’t do my morning walk that I have been doing because I was lazy and so I wrote down in one of my notebooks of what I want my Sundays to look like, and so going to make sure that me and my son will have this time as it does feel so good and not allow my lazy part of mind set in, so I miss doing this again.
It is up to me to do this not on anyone else. You have to take ownership of your life, to make changes and what you gonna do to build your dreams. I still had a good day, met my husband (m son’s dad) for a coffee and then did a bit of walking and so wasn’t completely lazy but we have such a good time together and we did some walking on Friday and played some rugby on Saturday, but I love my walks on Sunday.
When it is raining it can be tough but whenever the weather is good I like to go out for a walk and it really is refreshing and so what do you want your days to look like? Like Sunday’s. What can you do on Sunday that you can’t do in the week? I did have two lovely coffees this morning but next time I will take my coffee with me and get outdoors on a Sunday morning and explore.
It was even helping me with my running and don’t want to stop. I have got to grips in managing my life , but I want to create more good habits. I like feeling alive and ready for each day and I like doing my tidy in the mornings and catching up on a Sunday on my lists and set myself up for the week.
It is also is a day where I have a good dinner thanks to my step dad and have a home cooked meal, and now I want reshape my afternoons. I want to be productive and use them to exercise, by walking more and with the son, and walk through the parks and common near by. This will really help lower my travel costs each day and eat more sensibly and do some writing and drafting more blogs and videos to build my blogs and Youtube channel.
So it is up to me to take action and what I want my days to look like. It is the little things that makes a difference to me and use my time wisely and productively. I like my mornings and evenings, and when my son comes home from school, making his dinner and playing football, along with some dancing, as we do with the radio on do some dancing and just be active which I want to keep doing, but simple logical ways, that make me feel I have had a good day and moving forward to my dreams and ambitions.
I want to work outside as want to do more to make a difference and not feel I can’t because I don’t have the experience, as I was watching an interview and she talks about how she applied of a secretarial job and was wondering whether to apply for it because it said you need experience and got the job.
I have always been super ambitious and always had aspirations, and that has never changed. I have lived and I had always wanted to go on holiday during Christmas time and I did went first class to america and it was my last big holiday for a while and was a dream I had always wanted, and if I did that once I know that is something else I tick off my list.
You should never give up your dreams and what you do today can effect your life tomorrow.
We as humans can make a difference to the world and create so much. Only have to look at people like Bob Geldof who created Band Aid and King Charles who created The Princes trust helping young people have a better life and create amazing things for other people. I remembering a story in a magazine I used to read and she talked about how she was made redundant and didn’t know what to do, so she saw that the Princes trust did a Mentor’s programme and she helped a guy to find work and changed her life.
I have this morning getting my sons bed ready for the weekend, cleaning a pair of trainers as they got super muddy, at a festival in London, which I have filmed so a new weekend in a life video will be put together as it was really good fun and I have just put up a week in a life video check it out via this link: https://youtu.be/w06X8BlQx8s
It took me a while to wake up this morning but now when I get up will do a tidy up, and it has made a huge difference to how I feel and feel that I have taken action so I can concentrate in working on my blogs, filming, uploading and writing my new book.
Many may say “Good for you” but this not gloating but sharing how I like to live and how changing my morning routine has helped me get stuff done and not procrastinating and love being productive in the morning and running errands rather than later on in the day. It does depend on lifestyle, check out my Pinterest board that I have created for lifestyle topics and tools:
If you find in the mornings hectic then then what takes the most time? Choose a time in the day when you can get things done and use the morning to get the kids out of the door and choose what you want to do, until you feel ready to tackle errands and chores, then break them up, rather doing so many things at once.
I do put things off, like I want to dye my hair but by the time I get home it can be late and then tiredness sets in so going to get it done at the weekend in the morning and I know I don’t have to dye my hair, but I like changing my hair colour and changing my image as I get bored with the way I look, and so to help reset I like to give myself a make over and you do have to look after yourself and so getting it done in the morning will set my day on a high, and I know once I get it done I will feel better and planning my wardrobe and adding to it and I like to plan what I like to wear each day in the evening and get dressed as soon as I have a shower, but will be a bit lazy at the weekend but I like taking it easy at the weekend and now in the mornings my son and I go for a walk and I love this time we have and so if you want to make changes to your lifestyle then get it done in the morning and then you have a whole day to yourself.
Now I will be doing some more Reset videos for my Reset series for 2023 as it has really helped in rein myself back to go back on lists not completed and go through what still needs to be completed before planning anything else and change my habits to stop putting things off and I did a video on my main Youtube channel about Resetting your life, https://youtu.be/kmR-iY_qQNU because it has made a difference with trying not to do too much, and break down all the things I want to do, like spending time with my son and I keep myself informed of what my son has been learning at school, if he has any school trips and I will often volunteer to go with my son to help and that I write each day and stay on track with my blogs and working on different projects I like to do each year, aswell taking time away and taking regular breaks and making sure I sleep well,and be properly rested.
When we have many tasks to complete it can make us procrastinate and not be bothered. So I will do a brain dump and recently using one note created a tab called “What I really want to do this week”, and this has helped to go through what is important to me and what can be put on hold and be done on another day. See screen shot I took of this new tab.
I will be making changes to the videos I do for my channels and thinking of creating a different channel for my Life coaching videos and like doing days in a life videos, but I would like your feedback. So check out my channels see listed here and let me know what type of videos would you like me to do and if you have topics you’d like me to talk about.
Anything that is going good for me I continue, but if I feel that there are areas of my life not working like changing my morning routine, I will then go through it and change it so it is better and I am liking my mornings now.
I like my evenings, but not liking my afternoons because of my diet, and want better lunches, because I find myself going for snacks, rather then having a more healthier lunch that fills me up and boosts my energy as the one thing I have been doing after lunch time is a workout.
Set yourself time to spend in working on you. If you want to have a bath but you worry in case you get interrupted or you feel you don’t have time, then schedule it and pre-plan to see if someone can look after your kids so you can have a nice bath with a glass of wine.
Have a bath with your kids, I used to take baths with my son and I know some people will frown upon this, but sorry it is a great way to save money and bond with your kids and then he took baths on his own I would sit on the toilet sit with lid down and sing songs and talk and good time to catch up on your kids day and now we have a good night time routine too. Let me know if you’d like me to do routine videos on my main channel Typical London Gal.
I have created a board on my Pinterest called Planning your life check it out:
And I will be adding to this board and check out my Pinterest as I have a lot of my content on there that I write and am on Social media so check these links to check these out:
This blog hits on imposter syndrome where we feel we don’t deserve to be successful because we doubt what we are capable of and any failure feels such a big deal and feel that there are loads of people doing what you want to do already, and think “Who do you think you are?” “You can’t compete” and what chance you have in becoming successful too. Like music as I start this blog I am watching Eurovision Song contest, and really anyone can win it, but there are some many countries taking part and I bet some have thought they don’t stand a chance. This is from watching interviews of Bucks Fizz because watching many interviews they have all said that they didn’t think they’d win it, but they did.
This was when my mum and I did the Thames Path challenge completing 25KM and never thought I’d do that but I did.
When I first began to learn Ballroom dancing there was a girl called Claire and one other girl who were on their Gold, as when I first started I did my Bronze, then you did your Silver and Claire when I went to my first dancing presentation night, won the Cup for having the highest marks. I remember getting goosebumps and my heart pounding thinking could it be me, but I had only first started, then a girl name Lesley had won by one of the adults who had won before wanted the next person to win it and was Lesley who passed her exam, her Silver with flying colours and did hope it would be me one day, but didn’t think I’d ever win it.
Often we can feel that we are punching above our weight and “Who would want to be interested in us?” and when we hear someone say something negative about us that can contribute to your feelings of not good enough. When I played football at my Secondary school I remember a girl saying I couldn’t even kick a ball and so I stop going. Yes should have taken no notice and carried on but didn’t, but learning from that I have become resilient to criticism and it makes me more determined to succeed and when running a football team I could see that many of my players confidence would be affected when playing in matches, because they make mistakes but this also showed me how much they really cared, and not being biased they were good and we did win many of the matches they played.
We all can a level of doubt its a human feeling but for me I see this now that it prepare’s me of what if it goes wrong and then visualise me succeeding too, and the question I ask myself reading many books by Paul McKenna is,”What if I was unstoppable and visualise that” and it has helped, and listening to Mel Robbins, who wrote about the 5 second rule, who asks the same thing. What do you picture? looking at this person how is she standing? is she smiling? what is she wearing?
Create a plan. I always brainstorm, I will write a list of each project and goals I want to achieve and this really helps me a lot.
When we put our mind to it we can achieve so much. It is perseverance which is a word I have used a lot but it is and any setbacks address them and learn from them. We all meet bumps in the road, but it is our actions that speak louder than words and make a difference.
Si what are you going to do today that can make a difference to your life right now?
I wanted to take my son to a music concert and I did yesterday, I wanted to take Henry to his first football match and we did on his first birthday, like my mum and dad did when me and my brother were kids, and is like a tradition and wanted to win the cup for the highest marks in dancing and I did. I wanted to do the Great North run and did, this helped boost my confidence to continue to charity runs and walks and inspired others because it helped my fitness my feelings with life and people when doing these events are so friendly and are complete strangers and they showed me what I was capable of. Set goals, continue doing positive habits and keep visualising and keep taking action.
So if you have dreams and ambitions then it is time to take action, but yourself belief has to be good because what you project you will receive back and so what is causing you to not believe in yourself? What is your self belief saying to you?
Keeping a journal and writing notes on how you feel about yourself can help and where did these feelings stem from?
I have never been seen as clever or artistic, and school played a huge part in it. I remember when I did a school play a lot of the pupils at the school said how pretty I looked with make up on and so thought “Oh so I am not pretty without make up?” and it did make me feel sad, and then I was told by another girl when I was at secondary school that I am basically boring, because of keeping on about The Bill which was one of my favourite programmes on TV, but then she became a fan, and I didn’t resentful of shout, and respected her honesty and so I did stop, and it never became a slagging match but she would cause arguments so not sure of her true intentions but looking back I could be annoying and I could have been defensive but I wasn’t. I was not cool about it after school but now when thinking about it feel differently and I took it on board of what she was saying, and yes I could get on people’s nerves and it takes a lot to speak up and say it, so I stopped and didn’t see it as a personal attack, which could have happened but that she was being true and we still remained friends and still hung out, so I respected her for talking with me and talked it through rather then it lead to a disagreement.
Dwelling has played a huge part, and I think about what I could have done, when thinking about those events at school mentioned above, and thought perhaps I should have punched her on the nose but what good would that had done? I would have gotten detention and suspended so it wouldn’t have been worth it to lash out, instead I took it on the chin, and we carried on being friends as said, and she wasn’t saying she hated me and that we should stop being friends but was calm and I understood.
If they are being rude to you and just being spiteful, then rise above it and it tends to not be about you, but about them. Noone is your dictator but yourself and this doesn’t mean being ignorant and not listening to others but if they are vicious to you because in fact it can be their own insecurity that is talking and not actually you, is to say something like “Okay I heard you and thank you for your honesty and how you feel and will take your comments on board and will stop doing, I am sorry it annoyed you”.
In order to build our belief with our self we need to listen to others and when they compliment you never throw it back into their face, and use it to build your mindset of seeing that you are an amazing person with a good heart and mind, and good that people look up to you, because people do, and when someone wanted to join me when I began to do running or walking for charity, it really made me feel amazing and rewarding.
I have accomplished a lot in my life now at the age of 44 and there is still more I want to achieve, but I have had to do some work on my mental health and self belief. I have had to stop being afraid and take risks and learned from my mistakes and get rid of scars and keep moving forward.
I never thought I would run a half marathon but I have and it was tough and I was done by the 5th mile but I kept on going and struggled to walk the next day but still did it and felt so amazing and surprised in what my body can do. I carried a child in my tummy, I inspired others in doing my runs and walks to fundraise as said, and made a difference in peoples lives.
When I see ticks on my lists is an accomplishment and another step for me to grow and learn and continue to build my knowledge and understanding of life and where I want to go, and where I want them to lead to..I want to get back into doing charity walks and runs, and so I try to do some walking each day and when my son goes out on his scooter will run. I want to finish my next book, so been doing a bit of writing each day, and I want to help my son with his learning so will make it a must on a Sunday for him to do his homework and do some extra learning when at home, by playing different games and want to set a good example for my son, as he has helped me to grow and get to grips with my life, and self belief.
Sometimes we have to learn to lead others and felt I did that when it came to doing dancing, which I did until I was 16 and looking for work when I left school and then like I say go into to running and walking to raise money for charity. I did football coaching which was a dream I had and enjoyed it and would like to do that again as it was rewarding and then worked at a holiday camp which is something I wanted to do as a kid and I feel proud in myself in that I did that and as said there is still so much I want to do and to do that I have to have self belief, and so do you.
So lets build up our lives to help build others lives too and believe in conquering your dreams.
So if you are new here on this blog site then I have been doing monthly challenges. January was no spend, February was finding good deals, March was to declutter and April was trying to finish my book I am writing and see if I can at least my first draft done but that didn’t happen.
It has made me see which areas I need to change so I can get the first draft written quicker. It isn’t about racing through it but spending time plotting rather than just writing it up with no plan. I did make notes and plan as I write, but should have done this at the beginning.
I take on these challenges because it helps me to see how I use my time and if I do need to make further challenges to get parts of my life I need to take control of better.
I am at the moment doing my Life Coaching programme Summer Project for 2023 and so prep for me is key, and so I know I need to do this more with my books and not put it off. I love to write and create stories but I like to do it in chunks, and I write a blog called A Life as a writer and so if you’d like to visit this blog then here is a link to it: https://inalifeofawriter.blogspot.com/
Writing fulfills me like music does and always wanted to write a book, so when my son was born wrote my first one called The Parenting Adventures pregnancy to the first nine months and then wrote my first novel A Lonely Walk to Happiness and wrote some EBooks and then published my new one Mum&Me and for me it just is therapy and I love reading books.
My first self published novel
If you have dreams to write then start. I like writing comedy and books on real issues like A Lonely Walk to Happiness is based on a girl called Claire and she has a severe eating disorder and shuts herself away but then lives with her mums best friend, because her mum has a car accident yet her mum thinks that Claire is old enough to look after herself which is clear she can’t and ends up in hospital herself and hopes when she goes to university in Plymouth life and the way she feels about it will change.
This is not me selling this to you, but in case you were interested and if I can write a book so can you and why not try it yourself to see if you can complete a book in a month or just the first draft if you’d like to write a book. I have not set a challenge for May but will do more and will let you know when. If you’d like to see my videos and I have one more to go out then check out my main channel, check out link here: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
I hope this inspires you to challenge yourself and it can be whatever challenge you want to do, as long you know what you want the end result to be. Example for me so I complete another book to help talk about real issues. Like my book above is talking about Eating disorders and online bullying and help people who have experienced or going through these things and like Mum&Me to make people laugh and have a good read whilst on holiday having cocktail or at home, and having a bit of peace and something to make you chuckle.
When it comes to our growth we find that often our actions were unreasonable and it is too late to heal them, and say sorry.Yet it is never too late. If you have had a mental illness it can affect how we are with other people, but shouldn’t be an excuse to be unkind, It can be because we feel that we are being misunderstood and want people to resonate with how we are feeling and that our love ones can read our minds.
A lot of it is fear, like I get worried when I am on a bus and someone sits next to me. I know I have paid for one seat but instantly my mind will go through the image of what if this person won’t let me pass to get off the bus, and I think this is from when I would travel from Wimbledon to Kingston the person next to me made me wait until he was ready to get up and because he was getting off too, and need to not allow that experience to be in fear of others but use it to learn and if I know my stop is next I will say excuse me and if they are getting off the same stop it has been fine.
With psychosis you can get paranoid and think that everyone is against you, when that is not the case, a lot of the time and when once at work I thought my team manager had said something rude about me and it upset me, I spoke to her after thinking about in tears and it was fine, I miss heard. The one thing is to not be confrontational and just talk not throwing accusations and “You said this and you said that”, but how there actions have made you feel and how you and them can rebuild the relationship to heal the wounds of there and our actions.
When we are stressed we can project our feelings towards those that are close to us and find it hard when we aren’t happy to see someone happy when we aren’t and you can get competitive over who’s life is the worst and feel like we are hitting a brick wall, and if it is something we don’t want to hear when often we need to hear it, it can make us even more resentful.
It used to eat away with me when I felt like this and feel insignificant, but it is not their fault and the question I ask now is whenever these feelings are being triggered, “Do I want people to be unhappy?” and “Do we want them to feel that way about me?”and would reply of course not. I want the best for other people and helps us to see how we can be as happy as they are. We are in charge of our own happiness and the feelings we project and to build a relationship with ourselves is to admit we are wrong and instead of waiting to see if someone is nice to you, be the first one to make the move and if I see someone wearing a nice piece of clothing or their style, even strangers I will say and I like complimenting others, not for someone to like me back, but just saying it but have meaning and so I have had to amend my ways and it is taken a lot but it’s as if I have woken up and realised I have nothing to be resentful for or angry about, and be thankful of what I have.
I have been there and said the wrong thing, and it is not really what I did but how I have come across and see it from their perspective and learned, and thought “How could I have reacted that would have been better” and be more aware of my actions and feel towards someone.
I have created a video on my main youtube channel of what I will be talking about within this years programme and so click here to watch, if you would like: https://youtu.be/mbAJQtjpZ68
As humans we are always growing and as we go through life with each age and milestones our view on life and the world can change. I now see that life is to be worshipped and enjoyed rather than dreaded and resented because someone is doing better than you and wishing our life away. Worrying we aren’t meeting other peoples expectations of us and that life is hard all the time.
As a kid I couldn’t wait to be an adult as it meant that I can do my own thing and make my own choices but you can do that as a child too. As a kid it was seen by many that Children don’t know their own minds but yes they do, and I think we underestimate our children and what they are capable of, and my son is so technically savvy that he could control a cashier desk without needing to be shown, because he just naturally savvy when it comes to electronics and so I have to watch him to be able to be technically savvy myself. When we play he will tell me where to stand and give me direction and correct me if I say something wrong, like if I say pants when he is wearing shorts, will say “No they are’t pants they are shorts, don’t do it again”.
I see that with kids they take tiny steps, like they will tempt to roll over several times before they can do it and then will begin to pull themselves up on all fours and then try and crawl. Some kids can go from being on fours to walking skipping the crawling but it will as they develop take time and we should never rush them but give space for our kids to grow to help us grow too. I think as adults we feel pressure to do so many things at once and then wonder why we have no energy and depriving ourselves from luxury as our family grows. Never neglect your own wellbeing and growth, so we can be good role model to others, like our kids and ask for help if you are finding things a struggle. Often we feel like, there is nothing to worry about, but it is if you can’t face the days ahead and you begin to have a break down.
Allow some time to relax and give yourself some space. Take on other peoples help, like other mums who have experience and meet or facetime and get tips and advice. I write a parenting blog if you’d like to check it out: https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.com
So I am now all about taking my time. I have to take little breaks and find it hard to concentrate if I don’t. It is all about taking your time and breaking your to do’s down and allocate days to get things done and if things are getting too much then to keep growing, rein yourself in, reflect and then make changes as you continue to grow.
It is good to have a good foundation around you that can help you grow but you have to do it for yourself too. You are on this planet for a reason so spend time to find out what it is. Look at what areas are you happy with in your life and what you are not happy with and take action to change so they become something you do like.
I don’t like tidying so I will do as the first thing when I get up, this helps to kick the day off and I make sure that the things I need daily are easily accessible and use waiting time, Example:I will when waiting for a bus or train to go through my emails rather than avoid them and is an area I have to change, so made it my goal to check my emails everyday and unsubscribe if there are ones from companies that no longer serve any purpose to me, and help reduce my emails, so they are manageable and I stop me from feeling overwhelmed.
My son is never overwhelmed and wants to be doing something in the days otherwise he start to muck about and he helps keep me fit and active by playing sports or when he is watching his tablet will push me away and want to be in his on space and I respect that.
I have learned a lot about how my actions are when it comes to my son and if he asks me to put my phone down I will as being a mum I love that he wants my full attention, and I have wised up.
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So it is here my printable for my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2023 and topics I will talking about in my blogs and will do some videos too.
Let me know if you prefer blogs or videos, as this programme is for you and if you have anything you’d like to share then please do in the comments below.
If you have any questions please leave below and what you’d like me to share. Life is precious and so is time. We try so much to make others happy but we forgotten about yourself and so I want you to put yourself first for a change and make time just for you to recharge and reset your life and that is my motive and intention to help build your happiness like I have in my life and things I have learned now being 44 years old.
Everyone can build a castle 