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Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Feeling unaccomplished: Dealing with knock backs

25 Sunday Jun 2023

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Ok so you went for a job interview, got ready and put on some make up, did your hair and dressed smart and prepped for it, only to hear that once again you haven’t been unsuccessful. Often we can feel that we have wasted our time, but your not able to see who else applied for that job and what skills they had that you didn’t.

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Often it could be that the company who you applied for, may have already had someone in mind and so you didn’t stand a chance anyway, even if you had worn your best suit or dress. I felt like that when I applied for a position to work with the email and chat team at a call centre I was working for. I had been there for a while and felt that it would be a perfect fit, but no someone else got it, who had been there less, and I felt a bit like, “Thanks for being loyal” being that I had been there four years and not had a day off sick, never been late and did a good job because they’d tell me, and so would the customers I would help. I was doing technical support.

Also I was the first person to work on the chat system they created, and I changed departments because I was finding it hard doing technical support for certain products that I didn’t understand and wanted a change, and so it was agreed that I could change, but then the deal was that I would work on the chat system which they wanted to test for a new product and see how effective it was, and whilst on chat would do emails to help out the email team, and it wasn’t just me others had joined me and it would be rotated so others worked on the chat system, did emails, whilst I help customers on the phones. I then was called into the office on one shift and offered the chance to move to the email team, along with working on the online chat service, and so, never give up. Just because you didn’t get the job this time, round doesn’t mean you won’t, you just have to keep trying and show them what you are capable of and worked my hard and was eventually awarded by the job I was doing.

Determination for me is everything and I have had a lot of knock backs, and I did when I was looking for work to work at a Holiday camp. I gave myself two years and it was the second year I was successful. Often people want to see how keen you are, and you see singers on the voice, who have already had record deals, and had to start their career from scratch again. Like Wendy Moten, who won the Voice on the USA version and was shocked because she did do some brilliant records, her famous one “Coming out of the rain”, and so knocks backs are okay, and learn from them to help continue building the life you want, and the job you want.

When it comes to relationships. I have been dumped by boyfriends, not having that many, and yes at first I’d be upset but then soon got over it, and if they aren’t meant to be so be it, but never fear, I did get married and had a son so now looking back, glad I was dumped because I would never have met my husband or had my son.

Life is full of hurdles Obstacles (jumping hurdles) and never should stop you for following your dreams and achieving your goals. I am never gong to allow anyone stop me from living my life and the same should be for you. You deserve a life full fun and happiness. So allow the knock backs in your life to help you not destroy you.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching programme “Summer Project 2023” Life full of happiness: Finding the jigsaw pieces to your life

19 Monday Jun 2023

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What pieces of the jigsaw puzzle in your life are you looking for?

Picture above is the thumbnail to my last week in a life video on my main youtube channel.

Yes, finding things that have a huge impact on you. This can be that you want more love from people because you feel a lone at the moment, so it is time to go out and find like minded people and this could be going to church or just on a date with yourself, keeping safe of course, but listening to @RealTalkKim she says that you aren’t likely to meet anybody if you are with a group of girls, and I met my husband working at a Holiday camp and it for once felt comfortable and didn’t feel nervous at all, and you can meet people in many different places like that. I was quite late in my life in the dating game

If you want more friends in your life then go out with your existing friends and rather than saying no to meeting up, say yes, and set a date of when you can and go out. I have met a lot of people through other friends. Example I made friendships through a friend when going to watch a Rugby League team and met others along the way, when I kept going, and was a fun and with a fantastic group of people.

You may want more structure in your life and for me I want to be a minimalist and not be surrounded by stuff and not be bogged down, so slowly I am making that happen by having a sort out each day and looking at pictures on Pinterest of how I would like my work station to look like, and still have all I need around me, its just overcrowded and so want to have less space to do more.

Then there are physical changes. I have lost weight and a lot of my clothes are now too big, so been going through my clothes and shoes and items that no longer make me happy in wearing and put them in recyclable bin where my son goes swimming at the weekend, and also invest more in looking after my skin.

I have been really enjoying my weekend walks with my son in the mornings in the day time, and makes me feel that my physical health as got a lot better and no longer feeling fatigued all day and do take Iron tablets to help with that and feels good to have my energy back.

It is simple things like that, that can really matter to you, and either gives you joy, or not. Fitting things in your life that makes you excited rather then dread, help you grow and find the pieces to your jigsaw that brings you endless amounts of love and compassion.

Many thanks for reading

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Life Full of happiness: Getting your life together

15 Thursday Jun 2023

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I wanted to write this because to have life full of happiness, you got to make changes that will help you grow into the person you want to be and the life you want to live. Check out my blogspot blog about Getting all done, as this is linked to this blog post.

You have to create a plan, one that gives you excitement as soon as you start to write it down, and build a mind map. I use this technique a lot, along with brainstorming. Create a vision board. I use Pinterest like many, but you can do this on a white board, or on a piece of paper even. It’s about building and improving how you feel about yourself, and the life you have.

Perhaps you need to change your job, because you are bored or feel overworked and resenting it each day. Boy have I been there. Researching though it is believed that 74% of people are very satisfied with working in the UK, according to google. It all depends what the employer offers you in return to the work you do, for their company. Travel can be an issue and pay.

Whatever area in your life you are not happy about, it is time to make a change.

Set yourself a challenge or challenges. The one area I have been trying to sort out is my finances and rebuilding a positive relationship with it. So I have been doing a weekly check on my money and write down everyday of any money spent and having no spend days, and go through what I have paid out at the end of the week and what has gone in.

I have been doing a lot more walking again to cut down on my travel costs, on a daily and weekly basis and because I want to take part in Charitable and fundraising walks again. I want to build more income to save, and invest in having a big holiday again. I am going through where I can save money wherever possible. Example: not buying coffees from the coffee shop, and use my instant coffee, that takes me ages to use up, and not buying snacks all of the time.

I did no spend January challenge this year and will do again, because I have been able to put money into my savings again, and cut down on where my money goes.

By setting challenges, it helps to make quick changes, and complete unfinished task.

Set yourself an Itinerary. I did this whilst sitting in the garden and what are my main goals for 2023 and 2024. I find it hard to concentrate on one thing at a time, and so doing things like this helps me stay focused, of what I really want to complete and accomplished by the end of these two years. I suppose it is a bit like doing forecast.

Check out this free printable, to see what I mean:

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I was watching an event that Tony Robbins was hosting on Youtube last night and so glad I manage to catch it as it was really good to map out a plan of building areas in my life I not happy with. I will link here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kPchhI_fPQk

He talked about do a like a wheel of life to measure where you life is at, here’s an example:

With Tony’s he separated them into seven different segments, Physical/body, Emotions and meaning, Relationships/conspire, Time, career and mission and finances. and contribution and spirituality. Then mark between 0 being nothing, you are not in a relationship to 10, you are in a relationship and are completely happy with it.

So, next tips, take part or join in live events. They are such an insight into how to manage your life and getting a lot out of it. Rather sitting doing nothing, hoping that someone will come an rescue you. You have to do it and last nights was completely free.

You want to get life together then it is time to do it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Build your dreams: Can music have an influence on our dreams and motivation?

31 Wednesday May 2023

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I am living to build my life and make it better each day. The one thing that can effect my mood is music as some gives me good memories and others that helps to motivate me and feel good. There are songs that reminds me of sad times, but I use a lot of that to help write my books, depending on what the books are about. I tend to write biographical, like my The Parenting Adventures books, check them out on amazon, along with serious novels on real life issues and comedy.

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I do have a lot of ideas on writing children’s books and I have created a playlist to help me write.

Then there are darts players who each have a song they walk on to and you can tell that the music to them is what makes them with their confidence and excitement by the supporters that are there at the matches to support their favourite places. The music helps with the build up and entertainment of the sport.

When I see videos on Instagram by The Rock, Dwayne Johnson, he is working out with music and you can tell that the music he plays has influenced him in building his body and staying in shape.

Music is powerful and when I did dancing the music played a key part in the dancing routines we would do and it had to be the right music to help with the enjoyment of the doing the different routines we would do, and with the disco part we often the children would make up new routines but it had to be the right song, for the dances to work, and help complete the creation of the dance.

When you watch American Wrestling each wrestler have their own song, and whenever there is a change of president in the United States they have singers on stage singing supporting them like when Barracker Balmer became president it was Beyoncé and sang At Last and always think about that when the song plays and it was the music that was created for World cup 1990 in Italy that made me fall in love with the football and so music can have a massive influence on our dreams.

I have written other blogs about music check these out here: Inspiring stories: The Little kid to adult who uses music as a good source of medicine The Power of music/Inspiring stories If you need a lift of empowerment then play that music

If you have entered in a free Webinar online with Tony Robbins, I mean the free ones, well they play music as they encourage you to dance off your feelings to boost your energy before they start and during and really helps the mind, and so music can play a huge part in your body, mind and spirit, to help towards dreams and a great source of free medicine.

So choose music to motivate as it can tick all the boxes for therapy for me and would not live without it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Build your dreams: What do you want out of this year?

28 Sunday May 2023

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So we are now heading towards the end of May and so far I have seen progress in things in my life, like I have built up my Youtube channels, I have more follows and likes for my blog posts and that means the world to me. I feel things are taking shape in terms of managing my finances, staying on track with exercise and keeping track of my son school events and helping him with his learning, as I was finding it hard to stay on track in these areas, this is helping me to see what other areas of my life I want to sort out and accomplish this year. I want to get my next book finished so I can get my Christmas book started, along with other tasks.

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I want to continue this life coaching programme and really hope you enjoy this year’s posts and videos I have put up on my main channel: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal I have a weekend in a life to edit and put up and at the moment filming a week in a life.

I wanted to go out and meet with friends again,and so going to see some friends I made when I worked at Butlins, which is a holiday camp, again was brilliant and planning to do this again. Last weekend we went to a festival which I love. It was called Pub in the Park and many people with families went and want to do more just like that, and really looking forward to the Summer, and this week it is half term and got some birthdays next week, and life for me is about having as much time with my son Henry as possible and having different experiences, taking my time and getting out, enjoying what is around me and making time for myself.

Then there are courses I want to finish and want to get back in creating my own again.

So what are your plans? What do you want out of this year?

Take some time to decide if you haven’t already and don’t worry how big it is and when you want to do it, how long will it realistically take.

I wanted to do another charity walk and run, but I keep getting a pain in one of my legs, and so decided that I will continue to do walking along with running, to take part in these events again next year, but just want to build the strength in my legs again to do so.

Perhaps you are worried about going it alone and that you’d like to have someone else on board and they to want the same in their lives like you. Why not do it together as some people feel better in a group. It was good to do walks with others raising money together for charity. The ambition I had in doing the Great North Run was because I went out with friends and got talking to their friends, and said we’d do it together, but then they backed out, so went it alone but in doing that half a marathon saw many doing it as a group.

What do you envision? And who do you want to be in your life? What relationships do you want to be better and where do you see your life? What do you want to feel? Who is there?

I want to see different places this summer in the UK as Henry loves trains so would like to take him on trips, but of course if there may be industrial action on the trains means using other ways to travel, but still going to see if this is possible, and doing more work either in Childcare or Healthcare.

What do you not want to do this year? What areas do you want to change and make it better? What would you like to spend more time doing? It could be learning a new skill, well there are Adult Community colleges, and I did a few in writing, dancing and cake making as I wanted to make my son his first birthday cake, and dancing.

There are many online courses you can do. I am doing a life coaching course, enrolled in doing a psychology course and will help me towards learning about Child Psychology and want to do another writing course to help me and why not if you have always wanted to, write a book. Check out Youtube as there is a lot of training on doing this on there, along with many different things. I did a video on my other Youtube channel about how Youtube has saved me money: https://youtu.be/tBR1rN3Ti_8 there is a lot of training you can do for free.

If you want to have more holidays,but you have a tight budget. There are hostels you can stay in and I found booking the hotel and flights separately can save you a lot. I booked a brilliant hotel when I last went to Florida via Booklings.com and then booked flights and you don’t always have to pay for the hotel when you book, using Bookings.com.

Yes I had to save, but it is possible and check last minute deals. So your dreams can happen by asking and planning what you want out of this year.

Remember you can keep informed of my blogs on this site if you follow me and please like, as this helps me to know what to write about Let me know by writing in the comments below of what you want out of 2023.

Lets work together to build our dreams and enjoy life.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Build your dreams: Not allowing others bad Actions, habits and unkind behaviour effect you and effect your dreams

26 Friday May 2023

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So yesterday was a day where some people were just being rude and reckless. First of all I let some guy pass me with his dog and got no thank you or acknowledgement, then a car pulled up close to the bus on the way home making the bus do a sudden stop, and then getting on the other bus I have to get on to go home, this person who got of the other bus aswell and get on the other decided to jump in front of me. This really annoyed me in that it did effect my mood. I made it clear to this guy that I wasn’t happy with what he had done and think of all the bad things I could do to make my case to him even more, but then thought to myself, “What would that achieve?”

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There are always going to be people who will test you, and like that guy getting on the bus, he won’t change, there will always be those who push in, and I found now that I get a bit like that too and push in front, but then I will rein myself in and wait. At the end of the day never allow others people’s actions rub off on you as it reminds me that I will give up my seat whenever other people won’t and will acknowledge other people who have waited for the bus before me. I am not a saint but I do believe that if you do good for people you will get rewarded and it just makes the world a better place to live.

When it comes to being a good citizen is to not to allow others bad habits rub off on you and show especially when you have kids how to behave even when someone has been unkind and what is the right thing. I have over reacted on some occasions, for example when I thought I had left Henry’s water bottle at his swimming class had to go back and a women had a go at me for having the door open to the outside and so I said “Have you never forgotten anything?” and called her a horrible person and then started to get super angry.

This effected me in thinking will I ever reach my dreams because of that incident, but actually makes me more determined and if she wants to be unkind then let her be and the best thing is to learn about what not to do and how to be if someone I see has forgotten something and would help them find it, rather than be rude because they have the door open for a second.

I will keep being good to others and not allow people who are unkind effect my habits towards others it just leads down the wrong road and can escalate to not wanting to go out and having a good day Working in a call centre was tough as you did get people calling you names on the phone and be rude from the moment you have picked up the call, and so you had to hold yourself together and not to take it personally. Yet I would go home feeling my blood boiling and take my mood out on my husband and it would effect his mood and this became a habit, and made me feel that my life isn’t going anywhere, when that wasn’t true It was actually motivating me to be stronger and learn how to help people that aren’t so nice. This would make me feel also “Stop being nice” but then would ask “What would that Achieve?” I like being kind to others, and not all calls were bad some just needed help and would be happy, so it wasn’t that bad and helped me be better socially and would respect those when I called a call centre be kinda and politer, and not allow others bad habits of behaviour affect me in chasing my dreams and move on in my life.

So don’t allow other people’s actions cause you to think there is no other life out there, but use these challenges to help you to conquer your dreams even more.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching programme “Summer Project 2023” Building your dreams: What do you want out of your life?

23 Tuesday May 2023

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Life is about living and having the most amazing time. I never thought I would ever run it was alien to me. I would watch others and think “I wish I had the confidence to do that” and when living in the South Coast and working and met my now husband I had put a lot of weight on. This was due to one of the side effects being on the contraception pill (birth control) and I didn’t like how I looked, so I stop taken The Pill and the weight poured off me.

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Now I am not saying not to take Contraception and there are other pills out there but because of the side effects I was fearful. Do what is right for you, some women don’t get any side effects. Always speak to your GP, but then I also wanted to run, and so I did. The other side effects is that it can make your legs ache, so I got up off my backside and exercised and reduced me portions.

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If you don’t start to work towards your dreams then they won’t come true, but if you begin to realise you want a different life then write down what you want to see in your life. I wanted to work at a football club when I left school and using the Yellow pages wrote to all the football clubs in London to find work, ones that had an address and telephone number in the yellow pages which was a large yellowy book with addresses of companies along with other details.. I talk about this in a new video I filmed for my Educational Youtube channel of this story. Check out: https://www.youtube.com/@carrieseducationyoutubecha4891 this video will be up by end of the week, and I got an interview at Chelsea Football club for a Junior Receptionist and then someone at Fulham Football club called me and asked if I’d like to do some Stewarding and if I was able to work the next day, and it lead me to doing work experience with the Groundsman. I have mentioned this before, but I like sharing it because it was amazing and then I found some work up London and so had to give it up, but then still wanting to be involved in football I did my Level 1 Football Coaching qualification, as I wanted to be a coach, and assisted for a bit and then went onto coach my own team, it yes it was challenging but was so good to do.

You have to go for it and never limit yourself. Try not to hold yourself back by thinking it is impossible to reach your dreams and goals. Write your dreams down and circle the ones you want to focus on first.

You don’t have to be a millionaire to have your dreams come true but be determined and persistent.

Set a goal a day if you don’t want to do whole list, and make them reachable. You can’t climb Mount Everest without walking at all. You need strength and stamina. That isn’t saying you can’t do it, I will leave that up to you, but creating little steps will make you strong and resilient to those who may challenge you on your dreams.

I have found as I continue to reach my dreams and goals that other things fit into place, example when I was looking to do volunteer work, helping with the Sports Awards for Epsom and Ewell, and at the time was also working in a call centre, this lead me into asking about football coaching and asked the lady in charge of the awards knew of she knew anyone locally needed a football coach. They then put me in touch with a lady who was the Co-ordinator and coached a girls team, but then my step dads brother was a football coaching asked me I’d like to help him and this lead me to having my own team. I as a kid wanted to work at a holiday camp, and gave myself two years and it was a different world to what I imagined but lead into getting married and it was amazing. I didn’t continue on and I never became a red coat which was the ultimate dream, but still such a good experience, and made a lots of friends, who I do still keep in contact with today, and there are still things I want to do.

Always wanted to be a mum, fly first class and go away to America, and did. So make it happen. Life should be about what makes you feel good and not allowing your fears and you self doubt stop you. Set goals and dreams with friends and family, you don’t have to do it alone and it can inspire those close to follow their dreams and goals.

Create a vision board, journal and set a plan to help you. Go through the hurdles you may face, but really vision it and what the outcome will be.

Please remember to follow me if you’d like to be notified of my blogs I post. I have a Pinterest board dedicated to my Summer Project 2023 https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/life-coaching2023-project/and thank you for your likes and there will be more blogs to come.

I have created some videos for this Life Coaching programme so check them out here: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Build your dreams: What you want your life to look like

21 Sunday May 2023

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Here I am it is Sunday and feel a little bad that I didn’t do my morning walk that I have been doing because I was lazy and so I wrote down in one of my notebooks of what I want my Sundays to look like, and so going to make sure that me and my son will have this time as it does feel so good and not allow my lazy part of mind set in, so I miss doing this again.

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It is up to me to do this not on anyone else. You have to take ownership of your life, to make changes and what you gonna do to build your dreams. I still had a good day, met my husband (m son’s dad) for a coffee and then did a bit of walking and so wasn’t completely lazy but we have such a good time together and we did some walking on Friday and played some rugby on Saturday, but I love my walks on Sunday.

When it is raining it can be tough but whenever the weather is good I like to go out for a walk and it really is refreshing and so what do you want your days to look like? Like Sunday’s. What can you do on Sunday that you can’t do in the week? I did have two lovely coffees this morning but next time I will take my coffee with me and get outdoors on a Sunday morning and explore.

It was even helping me with my running and don’t want to stop. I have got to grips in managing my life , but I want to create more good habits. I like feeling alive and ready for each day and I like doing my tidy in the mornings and catching up on a Sunday on my lists and set myself up for the week.

It is also is a day where I have a good dinner thanks to my step dad and have a home cooked meal, and now I want reshape my afternoons. I want to be productive and use them to exercise, by walking more and with the son, and walk through the parks and common near by. This will really help lower my travel costs each day and eat more sensibly and do some writing and drafting more blogs and videos to build my blogs and Youtube channel.

So it is up to me to take action and what I want my days to look like. It is the little things that makes a difference to me and use my time wisely and productively. I like my mornings and evenings, and when my son comes home from school, making his dinner and playing football, along with some dancing, as we do with the radio on do some dancing and just be active which I want to keep doing, but simple logical ways, that make me feel I have had a good day and moving forward to my dreams and ambitions.

I want to work outside as want to do more to make a difference and not feel I can’t because I don’t have the experience, as I was watching an interview and she talks about how she applied of a secretarial job and was wondering whether to apply for it because it said you need experience and got the job.

I have always been super ambitious and always had aspirations, and that has never changed. I have lived and I had always wanted to go on holiday during Christmas time and I did went first class to america and it was my last big holiday for a while and was a dream I had always wanted, and if I did that once I know that is something else I tick off my list.

You should never give up your dreams and what you do today can effect your life tomorrow.

We as humans can make a difference to the world and create so much. Only have to look at people like Bob Geldof who created Band Aid and King Charles who created The Princes trust helping young people have a better life and create amazing things for other people. I remembering a story in a magazine I used to read and she talked about how she was made redundant and didn’t know what to do, so she saw that the Princes trust did a Mentor’s programme and she helped a guy to find work and changed her life.

Youi never know whats on your doorstep but if you believe in yourself check my blog I wrote : Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Developing your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish in your life

So if you have dreams and you want them to become real then go for it. Never allow your doubt stop you.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Not feeling good enough

15 Monday May 2023

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This blog hits on imposter syndrome where we feel we don’t deserve to be successful because we doubt what we are capable of and any failure feels such a big deal and feel that there are loads of people doing what you want to do already, and think “Who do you think you are?” “You can’t compete” and what chance you have in becoming successful too. Like music as I start this blog I am watching Eurovision Song contest, and really anyone can win it, but there are some many countries taking part and I bet some have thought they don’t stand a chance. This is from watching interviews of Bucks Fizz because watching many interviews they have all said that they didn’t think they’d win it, but they did.

This was when my mum and I did the Thames Path challenge completing 25KM and never thought I’d do that but I did.

When I first began to learn Ballroom dancing there was a girl called Claire and one other girl who were on their Gold, as when I first started I did my Bronze, then you did your Silver and Claire when I went to my first dancing presentation night, won the Cup for having the highest marks. I remember getting goosebumps and my heart pounding thinking could it be me, but I had only first started, then a girl name Lesley had won by one of the adults who had won before wanted the next person to win it and was Lesley who passed her exam, her Silver with flying colours and did hope it would be me one day, but didn’t think I’d ever win it.

This is related to my last blog.Check it out Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Developing your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish in your life

Often we can feel that we are punching above our weight and “Who would want to be interested in us?” and when we hear someone say something negative about us that can contribute to your feelings of not good enough. When I played football at my Secondary school I remember a girl saying I couldn’t even kick a ball and so I stop going. Yes should have taken no notice and carried on but didn’t, but learning from that I have become resilient to criticism and it makes me more determined to succeed and when running a football team I could see that many of my players confidence would be affected when playing in matches, because they make mistakes but this also showed me how much they really cared, and not being biased they were good and we did win many of the matches they played.

We all can a level of doubt its a human feeling but for me I see this now that it prepare’s me of what if it goes wrong and then visualise me succeeding too, and the question I ask myself reading many books by Paul McKenna is,”What if I was unstoppable and visualise that” and it has helped, and listening to Mel Robbins, who wrote about the 5 second rule, who asks the same thing. What do you picture? looking at this person how is she standing? is she smiling? what is she wearing?

Create a plan. I always brainstorm, I will write a list of each project and goals I want to achieve and this really helps me a lot.

When we put our mind to it we can achieve so much. It is perseverance which is a word I have used a lot but it is and any setbacks address them and learn from them. We all meet bumps in the road, but it is our actions that speak louder than words and make a difference.

Si what are you going to do today that can make a difference to your life right now?

I wanted to take my son to a music concert and I did yesterday, I wanted to take Henry to his first football match and we did on his first birthday, like my mum and dad did when me and my brother were kids, and is like a tradition and wanted to win the cup for the highest marks in dancing and I did. I wanted to do the Great North run and did, this helped boost my confidence to continue to charity runs and walks and inspired others because it helped my fitness my feelings with life and people when doing these events are so friendly and are complete strangers and they showed me what I was capable of. Set goals, continue doing positive habits and keep visualising and keep taking action.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Developing your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish in your life

11 Thursday May 2023

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So if you have dreams and ambitions then it is time to take action, but yourself belief has to be good because what you project you will receive back and so what is causing you to not believe in yourself? What is your self belief saying to you?

Keeping a journal and writing notes on how you feel about yourself can help and where did these feelings stem from?

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I have never been seen as clever or artistic, and school played a huge part in it. I remember when I did a school play a lot of the pupils at the school said how pretty I looked with make up on and so thought “Oh so I am not pretty without make up?” and it did make me feel sad, and then I was told by another girl when I was at secondary school that I am basically boring, because of keeping on about The Bill which was one of my favourite programmes on TV, but then she became a fan, and I didn’t resentful of shout, and respected her honesty and so I did stop, and it never became a slagging match but she would cause arguments so not sure of her true intentions but looking back I could be annoying and I could have been defensive but I wasn’t. I was not cool about it after school but now when thinking about it feel differently and I took it on board of what she was saying, and yes I could get on people’s nerves and it takes a lot to speak up and say it, so I stopped and didn’t see it as a personal attack, which could have happened but that she was being true and we still remained friends and still hung out, so I respected her for talking with me and talked it through rather then it lead to a disagreement.

Dwelling has played a huge part, and I think about what I could have done, when thinking about those events at school mentioned above, and thought perhaps I should have punched her on the nose but what good would that had done? I would have gotten detention and suspended so it wouldn’t have been worth it to lash out, instead I took it on the chin, and we carried on being friends as said, and she wasn’t saying she hated me and that we should stop being friends but was calm and I understood.

If they are being rude to you and just being spiteful, then rise above it and it tends to not be about you, but about them. Noone is your dictator but yourself and this doesn’t mean being ignorant and not listening to others but if they are vicious to you because in fact it can be their own insecurity that is talking and not actually you, is to say something like “Okay I heard you and thank you for your honesty and how you feel and will take your comments on board and will stop doing, I am sorry it annoyed you”.

In order to build our belief with our self we need to listen to others and when they compliment you never throw it back into their face, and use it to build your mindset of seeing that you are an amazing person with a good heart and mind, and good that people look up to you, because people do, and when someone wanted to join me when I began to do running or walking for charity, it really made me feel amazing and rewarding.

I have accomplished a lot in my life now at the age of 44 and there is still more I want to achieve, but I have had to do some work on my mental health and self belief. I have had to stop being afraid and take risks and learned from my mistakes and get rid of scars and keep moving forward.

I never thought I would run a half marathon but I have and it was tough and I was done by the 5th mile but I kept on going and struggled to walk the next day but still did it and felt so amazing and surprised in what my body can do. I carried a child in my tummy, I inspired others in doing my runs and walks to fundraise as said, and made a difference in peoples lives.

When I see ticks on my lists is an accomplishment and another step for me to grow and learn and continue to build my knowledge and understanding of life and where I want to go, and where I want them to lead to..I want to get back into doing charity walks and runs, and so I try to do some walking each day and when my son goes out on his scooter will run. I want to finish my next book, so been doing a bit of writing each day, and I want to help my son with his learning so will make it a must on a Sunday for him to do his homework and do some extra learning when at home, by playing different games and want to set a good example for my son, as he has helped me to grow and get to grips with my life, and self belief.

Stop being resentful I wrote a blog check out for this section of my life coaching programme called Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Learning to control my Thoughts and Actions That will only soul destroy but make their accomplishments a way to build yours as if they can do it then so can you.

Sometimes we have to learn to lead others and felt I did that when it came to doing dancing, which I did until I was 16 and looking for work when I left school and then like I say go into to running and walking to raise money for charity. I did football coaching which was a dream I had and enjoyed it and would like to do that again as it was rewarding and then worked at a holiday camp which is something I wanted to do as a kid and I feel proud in myself in that I did that and as said there is still so much I want to do and to do that I have to have self belief, and so do you.

So lets build up our lives to help build others lives too and believe in conquering your dreams.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X