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Life can take many routes and before you know you see doom and gloom. There is no point getting up because soon enough it will be time to get back in bed, and the days are just fading away. This can lead us feeling that we are no good to the world, that we have nowhere to go and slip further down and that there is no use in living, as this is all you have to look forward to.
Planning your life: Create a plan for yourself, like if you have wanted to write a book, like I did then create a writing plan and do a bit a day or if your house is cluttered, create a plan to declutter one area a day and time yourself.
Feeling unaccomplished: Write down all the things you would like to accomplish, and start with home, then work and then play. By doing this you will see, that these are actually goals you’ve as often we think goals are running 5k in the morning, which is fine, but breaking it down makes it easier to accomplish and not piling to much pressure on yourself. As yourself, what you want your life to look like? Check out the printable I created for you: My Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2024” helping you have a better year and a better life is coming at the start of May 2024
Find your word: My word last year was Build because that is what I wanted last year, and build my content, build the relationship with my son and others, and build my knowledge and so did some courses to help with that, as I have had mental health issues and wanted to help others who may have had mental health problems and reach out. This year is it grow, which some may say is the same thing as build, for me building I think about bricks and grow I think about a seed. For me I needed to build my life up to make room for growth, and has helped me create projects like this one and I wrote a daily blog which I shared on my daily blog: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/2024/04/learningbuilding-your-knowledge-and.html
Making choices: Do you want to feel low about yourself all your life? When I read a book by Paul McKenna it asked this question and made me think, no I don’t. I need to get out of the bed, and get dressed, not wasting my life lying hear feeling sorry for myself. So address, using my work book, of what areas of your life you are not happy with and make the choice, to be happy or not to be happy.
Reduce your consumption of negativity: I try to avoid watching things on TV that are overly violent, or has a lot of blood in, as it can affect me. As a kid I avoided horror films because it would effect my sleep and so now I will listen to true stories, but it depends on what it is and selective on what I consume online. Now I do that, I feel better and the same with certain music.
I love my life now. It has taken a lot for me to feel this way and we all deserve to feel like this. I hope you find these tips help you and remember to check out my Pinterest and social media platforms as I have content on there too, for this years Summer Project Programme.
Last year it really made me look at where my money was going, and did a yearly budget which I have started to do this year, and it helped me manage my money effectively, and that bought me results. I spent time avoiding things like my bank account knowing that it could go down to zero and asked do I want this to be the rest of my life? Do I want die being in debt? If I want to go on a holiday, buy new clothes or notebooks and put money beside for my son, I needed to change my habits and so doing No Spend was so rewarding. I now check my bank account everyday and do a spending plan each week and month and just by making these changes in your life, like prioritizing on what is truly important to you, can grow your money for it to go further.
This year I decided to do No Spend because I want this year to be the end of debt and now setting in place a strategy by giving myself a monthly allowance to buy whatever I want and the same online, and this helps stop and save on many things and limited how much I wish to spend on the things I want and measure the need for an item, when using my allowances.
I have decided to pay off my credit card debt by August this year and this will be free up space to save and build my income. Rather than spending money on courses, I having been doing some that are free and complete the ones I have paid for and make my spending useful, by donating money or food each month to a foodbank, whenever I go to the newsagents use the change to donate to their charity box, and now I pay my son a pound for when he reads his book, so he can build his pocket money, and have him pay for the things he wants.
My son needs to learn about money and buying things for himself, and it has been very effective, as he is at the age to understand and I learned this from when I was a child. I the other day went through my stuff in my plastic draw unit in Wimbledon, as I travel and spend time in Epsom and Wimbledon each week, and found more notebooks still not used, and has stopped me from buying any more, and use what I have already got.
I am realising that I can save by shopping in my own wardrobe and room, and see that I have enough of what I need and its not about quantity but quality, and if its going to be beneficial to me in the long run.
To track my money I use a spreadsheet for myself on Excel and using it to see where my money is going towards and if I need to change my budget in some areas and cut down, like food shopping and perhaps being a bit too tight about it.
It has helped me to see what I enjoy, like meeting my mum for lunch, or going to a coffee shop and write and not stuck in doors, or going for a walk which is free exercise and buy a coffee whilst I enjoy a walk and can shop now without buying.
So, I challenge you to do No Spend January when it comes around again, and begin like I did at first have No Spend days and set a budget for each area of your life to invest in the things you love.
I hope it helps you, and my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2024 is on its way and so will be posting the workbook printable which is free, like these Cheat Sheets and there will blogs and videos on my new Educational Youtube channel, which I will also post on here so lets get ready for the week ahead.
I have learned to trust myself which is helping me believe in my own mind, and journaling and learning from others. Following good habits like seeing I can be organized, tidy and letting things go, and trying to change my hoarding and be ruthless and prioritizing.
Yes still a long way to go, when it comes to not hoarding, yet I have reined myself in and realising that I can save and not buy anything else, until I go through clothes that I still not worn or toiletries and beauty and stationary. I write a blog called Carries Versatile Fashion, and have Youtube channel where I talk about managing my money, and using what I have got, before buying anything else (https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602) . I enjoy building my wardrobe, having plenty of shower gels and make up, but if they are taking up too much space then, I know I need to use or let go. I know in my mind I can do that.
I believe that I can write a book and publish it. I can look after my body and mind, by exercising, but doing less to achieve more. Being kind to myself, by not criticizing myself all the time. Not giving myself a hard time If I make a mistake or when there are daily challenges, like yesterday I got caught out in the rain, still enjoyed the walk I like to do and achieved my tasks for the day.
It can be an event that can influence your thoughts, like when Princess Diana died it made me get off my arse and do something useful and made me see that you can’t waste life. Life changes come with changes to your own thoughts with yourself and others. I know if I just sit in front of my laptop for too long, loose concentration and get restless, and taking a break can influence your mind, and noticing your thoughts to rest and do something else. The mind likes variety not doing the same thing all of the time, and mixing it up so you feel good each day and now I write in my journal on my phone everyday on my thoughts and feelings and in my notebook journal, where I write about what has made me happy each day.
This helps believe my own mind and trust my instincts. I was working on my Life Coaching course and some of what the course covers is self doubt, and how you need self doubt to overcome it, like when I write a blog I often think “Should I post it or not?” but this stirs me on to get it done and part of building a blog is to write it and learn from each post, what type of audience do I want to get in touch with on my blog and how they respond to it, making sure it isn’t offensive, but real life.
I believe in my mind in a way that I reduce worrying. At one point I would live by my worrying and it can be so draining. I know for my mind to function well to eliminate feelings of worry, by taking action. Like I feel anxious about getting my son ready for school, so I will get up early now, to do a bit of work on the computer as at the moment he will sleep on passed 5am now, but after 6am and do his breakfast or his dad will, and not rushing around, but give myself enough time to look after myself in the morning to help get my son ready for school, and plan each day, so things get done and not playing catch up that can cause me to worry.
In the evenings I will make sure that I not on my laptop too late and listen to my mind when it gets tired and being on my laptop in the evenings would make my mind active again and would struggle in getting to sleep that would affect my mind the next day and so will read, get myself and my son ready for bed and will do stories and I sleep better than I have ever done. I do take medication to help too, but lowering my mental activity on my phone and laptop in the evenings, has helped too.
Hello and welcome to Everyone can build a castle. This is my weekly Cheat Sheet that I post every Monday and this one is all about Getting back from the Holidays. I also posted this on my blog site: The Parenting Adventures tips and tricks.
The idea of this blog, was this morning when I woke up around 4am and for the first time since I begun getting up between 4:30am to 5am, wondering about going back to bed, but I find when I sleep on I feel more tired.
I am like this new habit, of waking up early, check out my blog I’ve become an early bird But that little voice was like “Are you sure?” and responded in my head “Yes”.
Well I have had psychosis and so hearing voices isn’t new, but no its that critic that comes from the brain, that everyone has, and tests you and annoys you. There are people who can block this out, because we look at our beds, as if we may not return, but it has really changed my habits, and making progress of building a life I love and enjoy each day, no matter what the day brings.
As a kid I was a terrible sleeper, but due to my body clock, I would still wake up early and my idea of lying in, didn’t happen. I got to the point where I would worry about not getting a good nights sleep and it had bad affects and I understand now why many successful people go to bed at the same time every night and wake up, at the same time.
I am sleeping so well and my son now is started to sleep in. This may change, as having children, they can be unpredictable, since 2 months old (now he is 10) wakes up early, but this week he has slept on. This morning he woke up around 6:45am which is late for him.
There was a time I’d have lazy days, and staying in bed all day, not gotten dressed and I know people who still love doing that and that is okay, and part of me misses those times, so perhaps start having these days again, but at the moment like being active and getting up with a nice cup of tea getting some writing done. Not saying I wouldn’t do it again, but now and then, watching some movies with popcorn, homemade pizzas and a drink of choice. Or have a sort out wearing slacks. Catching up on cleaning tasks and still have a shower but put on some nice PJ’s and still feel like you have still kind of, made an effort.
A lady called Mel Robbins, is to do nothing and just rest. Jordan Page, talks about taking naps and there was a time when working at a Holiday Camp where I would nap in the day but when I did I would feel groggy and be confused with the time of the day, so I don’t nap. My brother can easily sit on the sofa and snooze like my husband, and in the mornings it would take me ages to wake and be lazy watching TV on the sofa and found it hard to kick start my day.
So being lazy can help with recharging batteries and it is good to just take a break from whatever you feel you need a break from and get back on the road and carry on once refreshened. Listen to the body. Our body are machines and it is important that we look after it. We are not here to be on the go all of the time, but take on experiences, where you can take a breath and feel the air coming into the body and out. We need to watch that TV series or read a book, or meditate. So I will still be lazy when I feel I need to do nothing and switch off as I do find that hard to do, and just live, be happy and take it step by step.
I hope you have had a good easter so far, my mum is hosting an Easter Egg hunt today, so spending time with family and I will be planning activities and trips to different places for the holidays and will be posting more and I do film vlogs. Please check out my Youtube channel: Typical London gal: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
How many of us struggle with that, Putting yourself first?
We feel guilty when our kids want us to play but we want to catch up on resting as you come home from work or been doing chores, and want a nice hot bath or shower.
You need that time, and today as it is Easter Sunday going to have a day indoors which is something I do often, and get ready for the week and adjusting to the time, as the clocks went forward last night and set a day or time for yourself in the day or week and develop or buy a “Do not disturb” sign on the door.
My son and my husband are going to get their hair cut and I am going to take a bath, do a bit of sorting out and continue to plan for the week, do a walk on the treadmill and read. I want to go through my finances and I have already worked on my book this morning, and continue filming a vlog, and having that time just helps me to get myself in shape to get more bits done and take my time.
Why do we rush around? Because we haven’t allowed ourself time to fully wake up, we have no plan for the day and accept that we are that kind of person that is always late, yet if you allow yourself to wake up by having that time for your first cup of tea in the Morning, planning for the day and say I can be on time and late just adds stress and panic. Do you want to keep getting stressed or have peace?
I am not saying I have never been late, because relying on public transport not easy now I stay in two different places, pre plan, by checking the timetables of the train and bus, and print off a map and if I can walk I will, and I will leave extra early.
Do what it takes for your life to be easier, as stress can have health implications, and so it is important to help your wellbeing aswell as others, and so now it is Easter and your not having to do the school run have your kids help with chores and their care, depending on the age, and have that time to do what ever helps you to have a stress free day.
Sorting stuff out. This may sound counterproductive but no. It can be a lower level task, with some music or audiobook sitting down and clear out a bag or a draw, just pottering around, which is one of my favourite things. I am going to sort out the closet in the guest bedroom. Doing a sort out can really make a huge difference to our feelings and emotions, because we can easily procrastinate and put it off, but just builds and builds. I feel weighed down by stuff and have changed my hoarding habit as if you think it is unnecessary spending, check this video out where I talk about this https://youtu.be/UfiHwsm71F8, to wanting minimal, and do my bit to reduce waste.
I also like to go to a coffee shop to do some writing, on some days when my son is at school or go and get bits of shopping. I like creating ideas for dinner as this is my favourite meal of the day and like time when it is me cooking dinner, spend time listening to music and sing, or an audiobook. My step dad does this when he is cooking, and I am lucky because when I am in Wimbledon, where I live, I rarely have to do the cooking. I will help with washing up instead and tiding my bedroom there too and this week when I am there, going to be sorting this out more too, and yes I will film it. Check out Vlog channel: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
So just take that time and enjoy the Easter Holidays and if you’d like to be notified when I post a blog on here, then click subscribe and you will, and please check out my Pinterest where I post my content along with my Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.
I hope you are having a good week, and if you didn’t know I am a mum and a writer and I do a yearly Life Coaching programme, and it is the Summer Project and is to help you have a better life and better year, and will write and create blogs and videos and is completely free and will begin from the first of May to August 2024. So more information to come.
So I now have changed my habit in the morning that I get up between 4 and 5am in the morning and it was a goal I actually made, because I knew it would help me, when I did for a while, but started to struggle to do so, and it just happened. It was last week when I didn’t sleep well, and woke up at 4:30am fully awake and ready for the day and had energy like I have never known it.
It is funny because I am not a morning person and not sure if this my life now getting up so early and before then, my son would be getting me out of bed even when my alarm went off would have to have 5 extra minutes to gather myself to get up. Now though feel like I have finally got my sleep under control and getting more done, exercised and feel so elated by this new habit.
This is not to make anyone feel bad, because it is what suits you, but to show that your life can work out to how you wish it to be and can happen naturally, and so yes wanted to share because we feel we have to force ourselves to develop new habits, when they can just happen.
Grab your reins and pull yourself back.
There have been times when I have had to grab my reins to stop myself in going full steam ahead and get burn out but now since last week, I have not rushed, which has lead me to feel less stressed and got control of my anxiety and anxiousness. Before, when getting up later would find time speeding ahead and trying to complete my tasks each day to then come crashing down, and feel totally exhausted.
Who can relate to that?
Let go of the pressure and let your life lead you, and stop feeling that we have to be in control of our lives all of the time and not allow life to take its course.
Stop trying to meet others expectations of you.
Take your time.
Listen to your body.
Then honestly before you know you will be living the life you want and be the person you want, develop natural habits that makes your life better than ever, and achieve your goals and to do’s, have time for your kids and more time for you, to have down time and one of Mel Robbins tips is to do have time doing nothing, and the other habit I have started is to journal and write down what I have been happy about each day.
So live and grow, and lets support each other to grow and make love as happy as possible.
Everyone can build a castle 