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Introduction To My Self Development Training

04 Tuesday Feb 2025

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Hello! Please check my blog where I posted a printable for this training: Self development

So there will be three videos for this training. Please check my video where I share details of what you can use, for the 3 sections of this training. So in this training we will cover for example: What is Self Development, Suffering with anxiety, then section 2, Changing my financial choices, an area I have had to work on and planning, example: Setting up your day.

Here is the introduction to this training:

This training is completely free and please give me feedback or ask any questions training. You can write into the comment section below blog to do so.

I am someone who has battled through life dealing with insecurities, not feeling good enough. I would be so critical of myself and so I had to make changes, especially as I grew into adulthood. I thought that by then would feel better about myself but no and they grew even bigger. I feel better once I finished school, which for a while it did. I liked working. Yet had some not so nice jobs and was fired by some of them an lost my confidence.

I have become fed up of allowing those time to bully me. I knew to move forward in my life I had to feel better about myself and my life.

Then I hit rock bottom when I thought that there was someone being hurt, but there was other things going on too. I was finding motherhood hard, felt isolated and had this inner fear that I had never felt before. I went to hospital and found that I was hearing voices and diagnosed with Psychosis and got home help. I began to feel like I had no energy to do anything. It was like being on a wheel that I couldn’t get off from. I spent time in a mental health hospital and recovered and wanted to help others with their mental health and wellbeing. It can feel you are in a dark place with no light.

I want you to love who you are and not be so unkind or resentful of yourself and start living and living beyond your needs. Life doesn’t have to be a battle, but be the best it could ever be, by making changes in the different areas and changing your mindset.

I hope you find this training helpful and share your story, if you have have found life hard and support one another.

Many thanks,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Powerful Living: We are all capable of living the best life

11 Friday Aug 2023

Posted by Carries Blog Network in career building, Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, Financial Living, having bad days, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Positive Habits, productivity, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

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Life is worth living! Life doesn’t have to be boring, which can be the feeling you get when you feel your life isn’t going nowhere and that this it is how it’s going to be and nothing will change.

  • What would you like to be doing?
  • Where would you like to be in your life?
  • What do you wish your life to looked like?

Check out this EBook I wrote about Creating a new Journey to your life. It is available in Kindle and Paperback.

Set up a plan for yourself, of making your life better. For me a reading or listening to a book a great way to get out of a rut. Learning from others who have experienced how you have felt, is a great way to get a hold on your feelings to change your life.

I found Mel Robbins 5 Second Rule really helpful and reading a book by Paul McKenna and Tony Robbins to be good. Also doing free courses on the areas I want to learn more about. I want to help support people who have mental health difficulties, from child to adulthood and going to be doing Voluntary work soon, helping Children to read and would like to do online teaching on other topics, to help others like those who feel stuck, and that they not sure how to get over the low feelings and have a better life.

Managing my finances better has made a difference for me. There is still a long way and stop spending on things I do not need and focus on what is more important to help my wellbeing, and the way I feel about my life and you can do the same, just set aside 2mins to 10mins, can really help stop the worry that money can cause and get help.

I like watching Youtube channels like, Sugar mamma TV on money, because they have really helped with managing my money. I have listened to Canna Campbell, the 1000 Project and listened to the Audio book by Grant Cardone book, Sell or to be Sold.

I also watch Jordan Page, and Kate Kaden, and really inspirational and I have a Youtube channel, dedicated to finance and how I manage my money too: https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602

It’s all about changing your mindset and not have limited beliefs. Anyone in my opinion can be successful in building happiness and a better wellbeing, but you have to change your habits and have a hold on your life and where it is going.

I do have time off Social Media, which really helps and today I spent like I try to do on other days, away from my phone and enjoying the time with my son, not worrying about checking Instagram or Facebook.

Doing something different on some days. On Wednesday I took Henry to a football match and it was great. It helped that the team we went to support won, but made a difference on our feelings that my son couldn’t wait to share with his my mum and step dad and with his dad. He was buzzing and just made a great change.

Making time to see friends and having a night out or a girls night in. With the prices increasing on things it is affording things, so just meeting up one evening a week can really help ease the stress of life and taking time out for you.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Feeling Fulfilled: Letting our selves down

06 Thursday Jul 2023

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Dreams and ambitions, empowerment, Everyday living, having bad days, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

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Feeling fulfilled, health and wellbeing, life coaching blog, living the best life, self help

Hello and welcome to a new blog. There has been times where I have felt I have let myself down, like when I had a chance to join the Fulham Ladies football team back in 1998, via my brother as he knew the Manager of the ladies soccer team, and I went twice and met a friend of mine from when I used to go to a dancing school, but getting myself there would take a lot and I would play images of not being good enough, not having natural skill and was way out of my comfort zone. I did play at Primary school and at Secondary, but because of hearing from one girl I played football with at school, said “Couldn’t even kick the ball” stopped playing at school. I feel that effected me when I should have ignored her and used it to show actually, I can kick a ball.

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I felt bad, because my brother had gone to that effort and he bought me my own football boots, but I just couldn’t get myself there due to the movies I would play in head of feeling out numbered, and not being good enough.

This has helped me to make sure I take on opportunities as I did my Level 1 Football coaching qualification and did run a children’s football team for a while, and then I was going to do my level 2 coaching badge but once again my confidence got me and so decided not to continue.

Yet I did Manage a Football team The football team in that I was coaching was taken over my some of the boys dads, and was disappointed about that, and was going to suggest it, but when the Charmain of the club said that I can coach the next under 8’s team, and then coach a girls team they wanted to coach, I felt like, “What so because I am a woman I should be coaching women?” and left.

Anyway I found out I was pregnant and didn’t feel wise to continue, and so stopped and was good experience and did feel let down a little, because I was running the team by myself and should have had one of the parents to help manage the team, to help me. However I felt I did okay and would like to continue one day and do sports coaching again, and my aim was to coach a team from kids to teenage years, and further. This is still something I’d like to do, but it is a massive commitment and so see what the future holds.

When I worked in Contact Centre often felt like I let myself down by not getting good feedback on the telephones and I wasn’t rude, but found real tough when people would ring and complain and not knowing what to say and felt I could have done better. That’s life though we won’t always get it right but you have to get it wrong to make sure you get it right, whatever you do and life is about learning and growing.

Football teams for example like Manchester United were Champions of the Premiership, yet it took Alex Ferguson 4 years when he began managing the team that they started to win trophies and was put under enormous pressure and became unbeatable.

You know when you feel you have let yourself down, because you go through what if’s and play scenes of if I had taken up that opportunity where would I have been right now? Would I have gone on and become a professional Football coach by now? and really life is about choice and often we do choose the wrong path or it goes into a different direction, Again that is life.

Doesn’t mean that it won’t ever happen, and I didn’t always get it right being a football coach but they did win games and did improve their ability, and their skills, and did get messages from parents when I left thanking me, so it wasn’t all bad and I did enjoy it, just didn’t like how it ended.

As said you are never going to get it right but never allow it to knock you down, but to boost your confidence and self belief, check ot this blog: Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Forever Growing: Developing your belief in yourself and what you can accomplish in your life

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Feeling Unaccomplished: Your Expectations of yourself and the things we do.

04 Tuesday Jul 2023

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, Goal setting, Monthly Newsletter, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Positive Habits, productivity, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

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I have written about this before Summer Project 2021/Build your expectations on your terms we all have expectations of ourselves and other people, because we fear disappointment. Yet it is good to have a level of expectation because it means we care about the things we have in our life.

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Your expectations of ourselves can be tough, because we put so much on our shoulders that we can’t handle and leads us wanting to run rather than finishing tasks and get on with living our lives.

Lower the expectation, by taking your time and breathe and take in what is around you and keep planning your life and setting goals.

I would like to wish those who read my blogs in America a Happy 4th July and I bet you guys have a expectation for that, celebrating yearly events and special days. I have an expectation on my life coaching programme, because it is important that my audience, you guys, are getting something from them and writing my books, please check them out there are EBooks, about happiness and wellness, and have parenting books and fiction books.

You can find my books on amazon.co.uk under the names, Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes.

Having expectations sets us up but not to over do it. It also helps us to set boundaries and doing 1-5 tasks a day and set a time for each one. I love doing sprints when it comes to writing my books and at the moment I am editing my new book as my expectation is for it be better than my previous books and increase my skills and ambitions.

That is the good part of expectations and it is good to set challenges for yourself but ones that you know is going to help build your life but not stress and anxiety.

So set the bar each time to take action to complete goals but a height that you can reach and not make you give up.

Many thanks for liking my blogs so far, of my Summer Project 2023 and followed me it really means a lot and would suggest to do so if you want to be kept up to date with my blogs. I do write a newsletter each month, which I publish on this blog so check out June’s 2023: My Monthly Newsletter June 2023

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2023 Printable

03 Wednesday May 2023

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, Personal care, Personal Development, Planning 2023, Positive Habits, Printables, Summer Project 2023, Weekly posts

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creating happiness and wellbeing, life coaching, Personal care, printable, Self development, self help

So it is here my printable for my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2023 and topics I will talking about in my blogs and will do some videos too.

Let me know if you prefer blogs or videos, as this programme is for you and if you have anything you’d like to share then please do in the comments below.

If you have any questions please leave below and what you’d like me to share. Life is precious and so is time. We try so much to make others happy but we forgotten about yourself and so I want you to put yourself first for a change and make time just for you to recharge and reset your life and that is my motive and intention to help build your happiness like I have in my life and things I have learned now being 44 years old.

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I really hope you enjoy this years Life Coaching programme like you have since I began this two years ago and bring more joy to your life.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Reset for 2023

09 Monday Jan 2023

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, new year, Personal Development, Positive Habits, productivity, Weekly posts, Yearly Reset

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building your life to be a success, getting tasks finished, reset your life, self help, taking control for your life

Are you ready to make some changes in your life? I am and started a Reset for 2023, starting with tidying my desk that I use for writing, doing courses and as a dressing table and so needs to be functional and has everything placed at arms length.

So check out my video and remember if you Subscribe to my Youtube channel you will notified of when I put up a new video and currently put up 2 to 3 videos a week.

This means sorting certain areas of my life and really helps to get different projects and tasks done and really helps achieve my goals.

I hope you like this video and there is more content to come.

Many thanks for reading and watching,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

“Summer Project 2022” Finding the right Station

17 Wednesday Aug 2022

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When we get off a train it is because we want to go to a known destination and an idea of where we want to go, but with life there are stations we never get off on, because we have no need too, but often when I used to travel into the central London, would forget where I was going or I’d be trying to keep my eyes open, missed my stop. I’d get into a panic state because now I have no idea of where I am going and the fear was getting stranded and so now I travel I often will be looking at the map on the train, numerous times to make sure that I get off the right station.

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So what happens when we forget and miss our stops?

Be glad that I had realised and didn’t travel any further and hope I can get back where I forgot to get off to go too the right destination? I would instantly get panicky and feel really stupid, and start to demolish myself. Yet if someone actually said these things to me and not in my head, I would be like “No you are wrong and I am not the only who’s done that”, but its fine to say it to ourselves.

We have all got off the wrong stop, and we will make mistakes which I did a video on, which was a chat video: https://youtu.be/SUw2pGZlPoI All about when my son had a new teacher teaching him swimming and one of the dads got a bit annoyed about it, as she wasn’t as thorough unlike the usual teacher and was being supervised whilst she taught, but did okay and we all make mistakes.

Did she panic? No

Did she get angry? No

She got on and taught her lesson, and the kids learning including my son, were fine. So getting off the wrong stop doesn’t mean your going to be stuck forever, you learn, THAT IS LIFE, and you will still be a success and you’ll know soon where to get off and get on. As Dean Graziosi, life is about repetition, and so as keep doing the journey you’ll always know, and when you do, then the panic will fade.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

Summer Project 2022: Doing what we should rather than what we want

28 Thursday Jul 2022

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Do you feel sometimes that life is full of errands, like doing laundry, cleaning, checking my finances, packing for the school holidays and on emails, that you avoid these tasks?

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Yes my hands are up, and I think its because we build too much of hard expectation of ourselves and it usually because we are pleasing others in doing so. I mean we pay our debts because we began not to care anymore about where it is going, and have a load of books still to be returned to the library, but know we are pissing off the bank we are debt with, and return our books to stop the library being annoyed with us and avoid visiting, and not because we actually want to be these things off.

Of course these things need to be done, because of our own insanity and we don’t want these things hanging around our heads, growing and know we want them to be gone. You feel begrudging about the bills you have to pay. So what is the answer?

Well do we want to be debt for the rest of our lives and still have those library books? Of course not and so set a date and each day go through what will help face them to get them done. Create a plan and a goal.

I have used a bit of paper on my wall and set myself a target of paying off my credit card and plan my finances of what needs to come out and what I want to come out. I also go through where I can save money, by going to parks which are free to use, not always having a coffee out and if it a store I use of the time do they have points cards that would lower the amount you pay, like Boots for example I love their points system and use the points I build up on items from their stores.

I enjoy setting myself goals and I do it bit by bit, rather than all in one go.

Invest in what you want and not what you don’t. Go through the things in your life that makes you avoid errands and can you delegate? I am no good at making beds, but I do it because it does help set up my day, but if someone offers, of course I am not going to say no. and the same with having a reset each week. I find that I avoid them because I make them bigger than what they are, rather than seeing that it is not a hard task. Example: Worried about getting up to London and not being up there on time.

So I packed my bag the night before, saw a cash machine on route yesterday as took my son to Wimbledon park, and withdrew some cash and checked the trains the night before and then in the morning, set an alarm and just prepared myself.

Separate errands into sections, and think about how you will feel once the task is done and what it will lead to. I know when I complete tasks I feel a buzzed and that the preparation is the the key.

So don’t avoid get them done, do them but then reward yourself, very important and then go onto the things you want to do and do one together. Example when I have written a blog, I reward myself with watching a video, which is what I want to do, because I love writing blogs, but often will be my own worst critic and editing it can be a process, but I feel really good afterwards and so will then watch a bit of TV, what I want to do. If someone could in help me with editing I would be truly thankful.

It’s all about balance and not getting left behind, as this can be a factor, the time you have.

So break things down, prep and break each task down so its not such a burden to get the errands we plan done and make it enjoyable, example when I write I may listen to a podcast or music, with a cup of tea or coffee, have the window open and wear a favourites T-Shirt, anything that helps boost your enthusiasm to get errands completed so you and focus on the want items.

It is all about living life and making the most of it, why we have it.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Typical London Gal

Prepping for my Life Coaching Programme Summer Project 2022

06 Wednesday Jul 2022

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Dreams and ambitions, Personal Development, Positive Habits

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life coaching blogs, self help, summer project 2022, support people who want a better life, yearly life coaching programmes

My Summer Project 2022 programme and It will begin on the Sunday 10th July until the end of August 2022. So I will see you then.

Many thanks for your support and your feedback.

Carrie X

The Summer 2022 Project

01 Friday Jul 2022

Posted by Carries Blog Network in Dreams and ambitions, Everyday living, Personal Development, Positive Habits, Summer Project

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