So it is end of April and means that my Change Your Life training has come to an end. Please check out my last video I did. The videos will be left up on Youtube and on this site and so if you hadn’t managed to do this training then you can do so I am all about flexibility.
So I hope you enjoyed it. I hope that you no longer feel you have no life and nothing to be credited for, but you do. WE ALL DO! Have self belief and take your time. Changes can take time but when you start to do changes each day you will see the results and so be lifted and have time for yourself. I want to help you In getting a job you love, or in a home you’ve been wanting to live in, take on a hobby or a trip to a city you’ve always wanted to go and visit and feel brighter in the mornings and look forward to each day.
I enjoy my life now. Know I am not on a huge income, I still have a bad days, but now I have more resilience and not allow things to get me down. I want to help you all to give yourself credit and celebrating you and your life.
So next will be my Summer Project 2025 and so lots more to come.
I have a new set up now and going to show in a vlog and it is to stop me from getting neck ache that I often get when working on my laptop. Sometimes you have to try a different system to find out what works for you. Finding out what is more productive to the way you work.
Picture taken out having a coffee editing my book I am editing with a coffee and great way to stay productive and not spending too much time in one place.
Changing the environment so you need use a different area of a room for better lighting and have a better system where you can work more effectively. Having a desk lamp if you share the room with your spouse, so he can still watch TV, whilst you are on the computer and not getting into each others way.
You may find working in the kitchen is better and you have all your to do’s on a notebook ready, written the night before, rather than on your computer. I like to write down my plans aswell as using online tools, it is good to have it as a back up and also I find it goes into my head better and make notes on my phone when I am, out and about so not having to carry a lot. Well still working on that. I like to spend time writing, planning and reading, in a coffee shop, just nice to be out but carry my current notebook, diary and book I am editing.
Playing music by making good playlist or a place you can throughout the day, to have some silence. Too much noise can really clog up my head so like to turn off the TV and not get disrupted. Have base where you can read for half hour or where you can do some exercise and workout in your garden whilst the kids are at school.
I see people going out for a walk around the park and taking their dogs for a walk and I like doing that aswell and walking though commons, such as Epsom Common or Wimbledon. I now do parkrun and it is really good fun but see many families not doing parkrun still having a morning stroll and it is so good. I enjoy walking and I post a lot of my walking on my Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/typicallondongal/
Have your kids do some reading and writing each morning once all the breakfast items have been put away, or have them read to each other, whilst you get ready for the day. When they return from school have a place or system of putting their bags in a place where they can unpack and pack for the next day. Order their school dinners every Monday rather than later in the week where you are likely to forget. This is from experience and reduce the amount you have to think about.
The one system I do is whilst making myself a coffee once my son has gone to school, is put away the breakfast items and that I am dressed before my son is in the morning and once my son has had breakfast is dressed for school. We have all his uniform set out and is ironed which my husband takes care of.
It is good to have a system when it comes to daily chores. This morning I cleared the Living room windowsill into my bedroom and have made changes to my room too to have more hanging space for my caps and bags.
It is really has made a difference to how I feel about my environment, to feel good about myself and my life. I am today sorting out my Pinterest and organising it a little better and can be added to your system by putting all your vision boards and plans on there and is a great resource for planning. Please check out this board of Planning ideas: https://uk.pinterest.com/thetypicalLondongal/planning-your-life/
We all need to recharge, go for a walk without your kids hanging onto your ankles.
We are all here to live a blissful life and life can become too much, so don’t feel bad if you need some time to yourself.
Forget the guilt and put a DO NOT DISTURB sign on the door whilst you write or chilling listening to a podcast and I like to often have time with the TV off and sit in silence as we all need to switch off. We are human and living beings, who need to step back, putting yourself first for once.
It okay to meet with friends rather than hoover the house and not chat on WhatsApp, but see them face to face.
I enjoy spending time with others but at the same time, I like my own company and going for a walk, grab a coffee and sit by the river or by a local pond and let my mind wonder and watching the world go by.
Learn a new skill. I have done courses at a community college and did a singing class, drama, but then got a job working at a holiday camp, so didn’t continue but was fun and done football coaching, courses on mental health and it is good to learn and grow your knowledge and you don’t have to tell the world, but be a personal project.
I like to take trips, with no real plan but just travelling on a bus or train listening to a audio book or music, looking in charity shop, not for entertainment but to see if I can find some items on my list of things I’d like to buy.
I like to eat out occasionally when my son is at school and my husband is at work.
So be selfish and make the time yours and yours only, then once you’ve had some time to be with yourself then meet with others again and schedule some more down time.
This is part of my training I am doing for April 2025 because following these practices and loving my own company aswell is socialising, has helped to have a better relationship with myself and my life.
Please check out these two blogs written before for training. See the links below:
Please check out my new Life Coaching video for my Summer Project 2024 talking about Everyone’s Capable of Living the best life.
I am not a rich chick, not saying I don’t want to be, but happy now, but growing and growing so it develops even better and set goals and practice positive habits and creating a plan, to grow my life to the best that it can be.
Life can take a turn where it is full of bad luck, then good luck. How do you deal with bad luck? Allow it to come through and it will pass. Life is full of chapters, and my life has begun a new chapter. I am now working on radio for Epsom Hospital, today I met some of the other volunteers and was really great to meet them, and shared their stories of those who are also doing shows for the radio station.
There was a while where I took a different path and my life turned upset down. I have now gone through this and realised a lot about me, how strong I am and come resilient to bad luck and that parts of life need to end for a new Chapter to begin, and whenever I have had a bump in the road I have come through stronger than ever.
I’m eating a chocolate cookie, which I don’t eat often, but my eating habits have changed. I have been working on my walking and fitness, by walking once a week to my sons school when he does his afterschool club, trying different meals. We tried a Chicken White Wine Sauce from ASDA and was really nice and started to do cook again.
Life has different chapters through it and some people, like I do, find change hard. It can be tough but for new things to happen, we have to let go of things in your life, for you to continue. This doesn’t mean a break up but a change of plan, if something is not working anymore. It could be sleep, money, an injury so you have had to stop the exercise you were doing, or had a terrible illness and it is cleared.
It can be hard to accept that you’ve changed the path to your life, and had to take another route, but change can be good as it stops us from being bored and feeling unhappy about life, and stops it from coming to a standstill.
I moved to the South Coast of England for a while and felt so good to have done that, because working for a holiday camp was something I wanted to do since a kid too, along with working radio and never became a red coat but it still helped me to build a life of my own, which back at London, I felt my friends lives were growing and mine wasn’t. So going away for a while to complete another goal, it helped stop the feelings that my life was going nowhere.
So I hope this new chapter in my life continues to form and please subscribe if you’d like to be alerted when I put up another post.
I have learned to trust myself which is helping me believe in my own mind, and journaling and learning from others. Following good habits like seeing I can be organized, tidy and letting things go, and trying to change my hoarding and be ruthless and prioritizing.
Yes still a long way to go, when it comes to not hoarding, yet I have reined myself in and realising that I can save and not buy anything else, until I go through clothes that I still not worn or toiletries and beauty and stationary. I write a blog called Carries Versatile Fashion, and have Youtube channel where I talk about managing my money, and using what I have got, before buying anything else (https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602) . I enjoy building my wardrobe, having plenty of shower gels and make up, but if they are taking up too much space then, I know I need to use or let go. I know in my mind I can do that.
I believe that I can write a book and publish it. I can look after my body and mind, by exercising, but doing less to achieve more. Being kind to myself, by not criticizing myself all the time. Not giving myself a hard time If I make a mistake or when there are daily challenges, like yesterday I got caught out in the rain, still enjoyed the walk I like to do and achieved my tasks for the day.
It can be an event that can influence your thoughts, like when Princess Diana died it made me get off my arse and do something useful and made me see that you can’t waste life. Life changes come with changes to your own thoughts with yourself and others. I know if I just sit in front of my laptop for too long, loose concentration and get restless, and taking a break can influence your mind, and noticing your thoughts to rest and do something else. The mind likes variety not doing the same thing all of the time, and mixing it up so you feel good each day and now I write in my journal on my phone everyday on my thoughts and feelings and in my notebook journal, where I write about what has made me happy each day.
This helps believe my own mind and trust my instincts. I was working on my Life Coaching course and some of what the course covers is self doubt, and how you need self doubt to overcome it, like when I write a blog I often think “Should I post it or not?” but this stirs me on to get it done and part of building a blog is to write it and learn from each post, what type of audience do I want to get in touch with on my blog and how they respond to it, making sure it isn’t offensive, but real life.
I believe in my mind in a way that I reduce worrying. At one point I would live by my worrying and it can be so draining. I know for my mind to function well to eliminate feelings of worry, by taking action. Like I feel anxious about getting my son ready for school, so I will get up early now, to do a bit of work on the computer as at the moment he will sleep on passed 5am now, but after 6am and do his breakfast or his dad will, and not rushing around, but give myself enough time to look after myself in the morning to help get my son ready for school, and plan each day, so things get done and not playing catch up that can cause me to worry.
In the evenings I will make sure that I not on my laptop too late and listen to my mind when it gets tired and being on my laptop in the evenings would make my mind active again and would struggle in getting to sleep that would affect my mind the next day and so will read, get myself and my son ready for bed and will do stories and I sleep better than I have ever done. I do take medication to help too, but lowering my mental activity on my phone and laptop in the evenings, has helped too.
It has taken a long time to learn about myself, and who wanted to be. There are days that I still ask myself this question, when things get challenging. For me it is the girl who loves to save, being a mum that sets a good example and play my part in helping others, and looking after those I love and inspire others to become who they want to be.
I want my life to continue to grow, and want my life to be spending time with my son, watching him grow and support him, so he becomes who he wants to be. When I feel I am being negative, I remind myself that my life is good, and it is up to me to make a difference to my life and like those people have done that for me, and lead me to helping others. My community.
You have to get to grips with of what is really important to you and who. Who makes you feel good about yourself and will give you full support in living the life you want and let your happiness grow.
I like others dreamed of being rich, but now I want to continue to build a writing community and write more books, that touch on real issues, and entertain people through writing and filming videos. I have three Youtube channels, which you can check out via these links:
I want to continue to teach my son and what he has taught me, and go on more walks and explore different places. You don’t have to be rich to do that, but be happy with life for all the wonderful things life gives, not allow setbacks bring you down, and others who may be against you.
Not everyone will like you, and think what you are doing is wrong, but you have to continue on regardless, and allow the critters to make you even more driven to be who you want.
So, it is coming to the end of 2023, and so lets get ready to say goodbye Saying Goodbye to 2023 and kick start 2024. Check out this printable:
Just to let you know I write a daily blog now, that I did before and then took a break, but wanted to get back into posting on that blog site, because I enjoy it and sharing many things. Here is a link: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/
A picture I took from this weekend as I write this book, and visited Wimbledon Common on a Winter walk
If you didn’t know I have uploaded a new Newsletter so here is the link to that: November Newsletter 2023 I post one each month, and so check it out.
So getting from A to B. We spend a lot of time rushing around, travelling to different places and means dealing with delays on transport, the weather and errands you can’t avoid like getting ready for the different seasons, and Christmas can be so stressful that can make us become humbugs. Then there is dealing with emails, appointments and getting ready, if you have Children ready for school. So getting to A to B in life can come with many hurdles.
We will face challenges in our lives, and there is no avoiding them. Getting through childhood I found was hard, because I did find it hard to make friends and get to grips with things that happened, through childhood, like people dying, I didn’t understand life and death, and feared it for a while. I would live in a daydream a lot, and wished I spent more time taking it all in, and appreciated the things we did, like the weekends, where I’d played at my nans houses, did dancing lessons, whilst my brother played football. This was each weekend at a local recreation ground. We would spend time in pubs and all I wanted to do was go back home, and when those times stopped I really missed them. Those days were great and would be around lots of people that made me laugh and this was before the internet and social media and would go on some really good fun holidays. We’d go round to peoples homes, and stayed over, or they came round to us, and would squabble, trying to torment my brother a lot, and we’d have toy fights and would go to birthday parties and Christenings and it was such a brilliant time, and thanks to social media I have got back in touch with people, from those times and thankful for that.
When it comes to school and doing homework I couldn’t wait to those days to be over. Thinking and understanding my life, I actually did alright, and writing that, its the first time I felt that it was okay, and it was only the food at school that was bad, thinking about Primary School. Going on day trips, and spending time with friends and make the most of what we had in the UK, being British. It was my confidence that affected me, and feeling like I was climbing up a mountain and not making it up to the top, unless it came to playing sports or dancing, and because I would do badly in tests and remember dreading Secondary School, being so different to primary school.
I did go on to the sixth form year of my school, and felt I had a good level of freedom, but to be honest I had enough of education, and then started working, and I did write a blog about how I found work life, was good for me, and my knowledge of the world thrived and enjoyed the working environment and started going out around London, and on the first full time job, was taken from London to Lille on The Euro star and, parts I found hard, it wasn’t always great, but loved the fact I was earning my own money and forming relationships that was fun, and I am so glad I had that time to just enjoy my teens and early twenties.
It is important to enjoy the early years and when it comes to Christrmas, to embrace the people you love in your life and not worrying about it being better than the last, which I often have felt, because life isn’t a competition, and getting rid of resentment and begruding each other success, is important, because that is only going to flare other negative emotions and can lead you being alone. Pay each other compliments and really listening to people and celebrate each others achievements and how they are building their life.
Live life together and stop knocking it down.
If you feel your life is going backwards then Reset, and Relfect. This is where keeping a journal helps, going through things that you feel is causing you to have these feelings. That is what they are, feelings that can be controlled. This is where my Autumn Reset can help, and help finish tasks, to then start a fresh, and I will go through my lists and set a plan to get things finished, making sure I leave time to have some fun. Weekends I spend with my son, having plenty of exercise, watching TV I don’t always get to watch, in the week and just having time to hug, kiss and take in every minute. Life can be tiring, and it okay to be tired, we are all human, and that we spend time having a nice hot bath, read a book, doing some retail therapy, and not to be buy clothes but food we love to eat, stuff to decoarate our homes with and buying new things for our kids and bringing smiles to everyone in your life, faces.
Getting to A to B in life shapes you, depending on the paths you have chosen and if things haven’t worked out, brush yourself off and carry on.
When you see that you no longer fearing life, and that you feel good each day and able to shake off the anxiousness, you have turned a corner and that your life is taking shape, perhaps with surprises but I feel that I am enjoying the days and feel positive no matter the challenges that come my way.
Getting out and exploring has helped and having time with my son and family, along with making the most of the weekends, rather than doing nothing, has helped me be more present that has helped me get some shape in my life.
Really dig deep into what you want out of life and who you want to spend it with. Have new experiences. I want to do some more courses via Adult Community colleges to help, aswell as doing some online, and really learn about the mind and body more, to help build awareness, when it comes to happiness and wellbeing, and how our minds operate.
Yes it helps us to think and feel, but look into why we feel up and down a lot. Perhaps you feel like you are like a Yoyo. It could be food, and that leads you to feel sluggish a lot and that you want to change but your urges get the better of you, and feeling that you will always be punishing yourself over your diet, and will never change. Yet we all know deep down that we can, its often fear that other foods don’t give you the same joy.
Take each step to improve at having a better diet and allow yourself chocolate but work for it. I will if I have done all I needed to do in the morning for example will then make a coffee, or a treat and not talking just food, but like you would when you child does something good. I stop with the guilt, and as long as I get some exercise will have a treat or two, along with saving myself for my dinner and having a mixture of meals.
I have realised that I enjoy buying food and love mouching around the big stores but also budget, and making different meals. I do like cooking whilst listening to music or an audio book and found my real joys and using it to be happy each day. I also like it when I don’t need to cook, and help with the washing up. like as I write this blog had a lovely roast dinner, made by my husband and today took Henry up London as it was his birthday on Saturday and doing different things and experiences can help.
So make each day count and when you are no longer feel stressed, feel good and that days aren’t hard, and you enjoy life more, means your life is taking shape.
So this years Summer Project is nearly over and have one last blog to share. I really hope you gained something from it, and please in the comments below, give me your feedback as it really helps me grow my blogs and that you keep on liking these blogs and subscribe, and you will be alerted everytime I publish a new blog.
Self care and development is what is is all about, and making sure you put yourself first on some days and have a life you are happy with. Of course there are events that are beyond our control, like a loss of someone and something, but having resilience and determination, you can rebuild your life to be better and listen to your feelings, and address them.
Taking time out from everyday life and having new experiences and meeting new people, to build new relationships and making existing relationships stronger than ever, and being with people who will listen to you aswell as listening to them.
See that you deserve a happy life and you are worth the things in your life, and the relationships. You should treat yourself and make deals with yourself as I find rewarding helps me to get things done, and not procrastinate and taking my time, and taking it easy.
Life isn’t about rushing around, but having peace and if you can’t be bothered then it could be that you are doing too much and need to reevaluate your life and making changes, so you feel excited and not crawling through tasks, but will give you good results. Also taking a break and getting rest, so you properly recharge and feel full of energy to have a good life that you love.
Soon I will be starting my Autumn reset and so once I do my final blog then my Autumn Reset will begin and so a lot more content to come.
Everyone can build a castle 
