05 Monday Aug 2024
Yes it is August and the last month of summer and means that going back to school is on the horizon and here are some tips on getting your life together post holidays.
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Carrie X
31 Wednesday Jul 2024
It is important to develop Habits that change the way you feel about life, example I will do bit of computer work in the morning then drink my tea in bed and enjoy the morning getting ready for the day and having a good nights sleep.
Sleep can dictate how we feel each day and its important that you can switch off and turn your devices off and allow yourself to read a book, watch a bit of TV and properly wind down. I don’t have a TV in my room so will watch something on my laptop but again limit it.
Then it is waking up and getting ready.
What steps could you take in the morning that you could change to make it better?
Just think about it. Now I am not saying I am perfect but now I make sure I give myself enough time so I can blend into the morning and take steps so my days are set out, and that I spend time getting my self and my son ready for the day, sorting myself out and go through what I need to get done.
How could you plan better?
I have begun using google calendar again and Notion to have help because I can update them wherever I am using the APPs. One Note is good and free but can get full and so using Notion which if you use the Personal format it is completely free.
I like to break my day up by taking a break from laptop during the day and has really made a huge difference as I was struggling to write and taking time away is important to rest the mind and why I like to break it up by doing my laundry, a bit of cleaning and watch TV or Youtube.
Planning my days has helped make sure I stay up to date with my sons schooling, any appointments I have and exercise. I love building up my steps by walking everyday, including using a treadmill and I do workouts with dumbells, and just having habits that has a good effect on my body, my mind and most important my health.
Just set it out and once you look at your routine and how you plan and why you can’t complete anything and miss appointments. It could be ADHD as adults can have it and that you are giving yourself too much to do each day and not breaking it down.
Are you having trouble trying to stick with good habits
Like I said I have and so if something not wrong that I need to find another way that makes me stick with it until I have found that works for me. I do like to bet up early because I always done so and so immune to it, but it not a necessary, Steven Bartlett doesn’t and doesn’t book any appointments before 11:30am so you may find that you are an night out, which I thought I was but no, but it what works for you that makes your life feel easier rather than a fight.
Change one habit at a time and some will come naturally like I like to be ready each day but 7:30am when my son goes to school or kids holiday club, this includes breakfast and taking my medication and set a time to get ready by.
At the weekends I like to stay in my night gear a little longer and watch a bit of morning TV because I have stopped watching a lot of TV as this can effect your mind and body and I get bored quickly so I will make sure that I am done all that I needed to do in the day by 2:30pm and then go if it is sunny sit in the sunshine.
So change habits not just for short term but that gives you a better wellbeing and feel happy about your life and where it is heading.
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Carrie X
23 Tuesday Jul 2024
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I know a lot of coaches and health experts say to get out of your comfort zone, and that is me included and have changed that mindset. I have begun to realise that this can often lead to stress and anxiety, and so from my own self I like to take it step by step, rather than jumping in with both feet and hating every minute of it.
There are many things I have wanted to do something that I never thought I could do and that is speak publicly to people and from watching others film their life, to help others I have three Youtube channels and now working on radio.
At school I was mocked when we had to play game, where we had to, for one minute talk about an object or subject and I was stuttering and wanted the earth to swallow me up and it made me for a while fearful of talking in front of the class and yet, as a young child performed in shows when I did tap and ballet had no fear and loved it.
When you grow from being a child into an adult your awareness increases of ourselves and begin to have feelings we have never had before and I was super shy at one point. I attended a drama school and was fearful, and I just froze and just sat there and didn’t know what to do and the teacher watching,f was really looking at me as if I poohed in the class and just wanted to run and not come back.
Yet I loved dancing and when I got to be in a school play again loved it and performed in assembly’s but when it came to speaking out I was a nervous wreck.
Doing Drama helped me and how I gained my confidence to talk in front of people and planning on what I was going to say and I was shy going to my first session of ballroom dancing and soon overcome my shyness and found the skill I was good at and it bought me out of shell and glad I took the chance and it was through a friend, and going with a friend can make it less daunting if you want to do something that you have always wanted to do, and can make it fun and take the fear away.
So never allow your fear to avoid chances because it can have a real positive effect to lead to other chances.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
16 Tuesday Jul 2024
Are you so busy you don’t know what the day is? I thought with my son being off school last Tuesday that is was a Sunday and forgot that it was Tuesday and today he is off and inspired me to write this post because I often will be so lost in getting my son ready for school, making sure he has all he needs for the day, to plan the meals and food to be used for the week and spending time writing and editing books I am writing, blogs and Filming vlogs and doing my courses I have enrolled in and get so sucked up by business and not having time to just sit and not be on my laptop and looking at my phone.
Pre-plan: We have so many ways to book a day off one with no phone, no laptop or looking at social media and not rushing to get out of bed, and let your family know that this is your day off and take yourself out on a date.
Get the kids do it: I do enjoy doing my sons dinner, but also like to have time off so depending on the age, and can use the oven, microwave and hob, then get them to make a meal or their own meal. This is not being mean, I just feel they need to be responsible and a essential skill is to know how to cook a meal. It is giving them more freedom.
Have a routine: So not being contradicting, but mean decide on what to drink, wear, listen to and watch and put up a do not disturb notice and make the time to have good old fashion “Me time”. This could be reading a book, going for a walk and tell family that you will be putting phone on silent and watch a TV Series. The programme I last watched was Outlaws on BBC iPlayer and was very funny and so looking for a new series to watch. I love a documentary and watched Lilly Allen Rags to Riches on Youtube and one thing I am dying to make when I have a day off, is homemade Nacho’s with the works. Guacamole, sour cream, salsa and a few chillies. So going to see if I can do this.
Meal for one. Do a meal for one and the Nacho’s could be it, but you can also buy yourself a steak dinner with a bottle of wine, as long as you drink safely and go to the cinema, or choose a movie at home and remember Ice Cream and popcorn if not doing Nachos.
Picnic season: This I love doing in the summer in the park with a coffee and going to use this time to write, or read a magazine.
A time to cleanse: I love my skincare regime and not just my face but other parts of my body and having a bath and hair wash. I like to use my Sundays to wash my hair whilst my son is still a sleep or watching his tablet, watching something with a cup of tea.
So look after yourselves and just enjoy the free time and just taking a break just for yourself can really help the mind and the body.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
09 Tuesday Jul 2024
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It is so hard not to be self critical, about your life and put ourselves down, but doing the laundry and clearing it each week is a win, getting kids to school okay is a win and working out on the treadmill is a win. It is anything where you feel you have achieved what you have set out to achieve and brings out the endorphins within your mind and body. It gives you confidence and makes you feel good about you as a person and recognise the things we do for others and for yourself, that has made a difference and recognise your own value.
Celebrating who you are by making yourself makes you feel that you can live each day at your own means whilst respecting others. Value yourself and recognise when you have had a good successful day because you got the TV fixed, you saved money on groceries and was done because your kids are your life and what a person you are by looking after others, and got yourself out of debt, something that has been a burden but has been worth it because of how it makes you feel.
Each day I acknowledge myself by recognising the highlights in my life and focus more of the now.
For a long time lived in a dream world, because felt that there was no purpose in my life, my friends were busy with their jobs and growing their life and felt left behind.
Now though I give myself credit and celebrating my wins each day has helped with that.
Every time I pay off my credit card is a win and getting bits I need for the week is a win, it is making me see that I am growing into the person I wish to be. I no longer want to rely on others and take responsibility of my feelings, so I can be there for my son, spend time with family and build my knowledge to make a difference to the people around me through my content. You can find my books, blogs and videos on my Pinterest site. Please check out my social media pages where I link my content: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/
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Carrie X
02 Tuesday Jul 2024
Yes we have all failed.. Doesn’t sound good does it? But actually Failure is a good thing, because it is helping us learn where we have gone wrong and what we can do that works out better.
Not everything works out, so getting back up and brush yourself off helps you to make changes to prevent failure happening again. In one of my dancing exams, I was fine and I did the waltz and then it came to the tango and my mind went blank and forgot some of the steps but I carried on and got through it and then went wrong in the disco part.
I was determined to get it right and so didn’t miss a lesson, and when one of the girls in my class won the cup for the highest marks made me open my eyes and wanted that trophy.
Tony Robbins has not always been at the top and had a time in his life where he had hardly anything and it was changing his mindset and going through the lessons he had learned not having much to show that has made him the man he is now. I am not a millionaire but it doesn’t mean that I don’t have the chance to be one if I save and don’t waste my cash and did Binary Trading and when I instantly lost £500 my heart sunk and so now know not to do that again but I had to dip my toe in and that all the talk about this money building was total BS and just taking money from people.
Life is about learning of not what to do, and yes learning the hard way at times. I now have my life back on track and now working on a radio which I have wanted to do since a kid and love music and doing counselling and Life Coaching course that I have wanted to do and my son is now at a school that is more suitable for him and took three schools, not due to bad behaviour, it was due to not able to cope with big large size classes and had one to one but isolated him so now he is learning in a group setting with smaller number of children, whom also have learning difficulties and doing really well.
So what Failures have you had? How have you turned your life around since then. I love learning and listening to other stories of their experiences as I feel it is so inspiring. Please use my comment box below.
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Carrie X
25 Tuesday Jun 2024
Life will often hit you like a sudden death of someone, job loss or a holiday that has been cancelled that you were really looking forward to and so what can you do? How can you change the feelings of sadness and shock?
It takes time and grief is a personal thing and it dependant on the person but just take each day as it comes and allow it to build your strength and I miss my dad, and everyday I think about “What could I have done?” “What would he say if he was still alive?” and I wish he was here still but I know that dwelling on that is like hitting a dead end, so the importance for me was to move on for my own sanity.
You can’t fix everything and life is challenging at times and it can affect us in what we do each day. Its change. When my parents divorced I tried to block it out and was going out a lot to avoid what was going on and I was working up London and then it hit me and it really sent me down a downward spiral.
Yet I pictured it along time before it happened, but I had to take time to face it and the first Christmas of that year in 2000 was tough, and my spark of the festive season went and dreaded it.
Then in 2002 I went to the Southcoast to work at a holiday camp (Butlins Bognor Regis) and met my now husband and for a while I didn’t realise we were going out but we were, so in 2006 got married and moved back to London and then 2013 my son was born.
I am sad that my dad never got to meet him but he did know about it, as my brother saw him and so I had to come to turns with it as my mind can analyse everything and it drives me mad, so to help me to grow and going on my dads mistakes made sure I didn’t follow suit and remembering the good times and not worry about the bad.
Life will stop you in your tracks and this is good and bad, so I spend a lot of time in focusing on today and not rushing into things. I have had the intensity to think about the Autumn when we are still in Summer and being thankful of what I have in my life today. I was struggling with this blog because I felt I was rambling on and talking all about my passed and that I have had a good day so far today. I got the shopping I needed, worked on completing my Counselling course and watching a bit of Youtube and did a bit of tidy up.
I am having my first coffee for the day and journaled to help get this blog written for my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2024 and filming a vlog and just enjoying each day, letting myself think about the now and not tomorrow and next week unless it is important and can help to not have too much to do and what I am looking forward to, to stop thinking of the bad feelings and what I don’t have right now.
I just as I write this blog, started journaling to figure out what to do about my restlessness and what I want next in my life, visioning my growth, building my life but focus on what I can do today to get to doing those things and listening to a self help video, listening to music or a podcast.
So today I am filming a vlog, going to make an apple crumble and then see what I can do today to complete my tasks planned for today.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
18 Tuesday Jun 2024
If you want to make changes in your life then start from going through what is getting at you, and needs sorting out. This time four years ago I lost sense of myself and things were happening according to my mind, to realise that actually it is okay and I was in debt, staying in bed all the time and felt very alone and that my life was just too hard to face.
Now it is June 2024 I feel so much better taking on new opportunities as I am now working Voluntary for Epsom Hospital Radio, which I wanted to do when I left school, but had no idea of how to go about it, I published another book I Mum&Me and editing another to publish and got back into my fitness, building steps and doing weight training and focusing on my son as there was a time where I hardly saw him at all and have a stronger bond than ever before and I love him more each, playing sports with him when he is not moaning, and got my life back and is growing more and more each day.
There are still so much I want to do and as humans we are growing everyday, and ask yourself, what do you value in life? I had to change to get to the next stage in my life and not holding back from opportunities and building back my confidence within myself and belief, and planning what else I want in my life and taking action.
I’ve being watching a lot of Amy Winehouse, who build her own successful writing music and singing and raw songs as she wrote about what was happening in her life, but sadly she left the world when she was at the height of her career and it feels me with such sadness that she was not in a good place, yet had major success.
So it is not about having it all but finding what makes you happy in the world we live in and not allow life get to us and to make your stronger, and live your life to the best of your ability.
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
11 Tuesday Jun 2024
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Life wouldn’t be life if we didn’t have a bad day and not saying that I want things to go wrong but like yesterday going up stairs my sons tipping point machine fell on the floor, so all the tokens from it fell all over the floor. Yet I didn’t dwell on it as with the help of my son we put he tipping point toy together and picked up the tokens then as planned I went to bed, and no one got hurt so didn’t give myself a hard time over it, like have done so in the passed.
It is so good to take time out from the outdoor world, but then change of scenery is also good so not being cooped up can help you feel good about each day and listen to your mind and body to enjoy the days whilst alive as life can go so quickly.
I like to do different things each day and have plenty to do.
There will always be unplanned events like if you have children, have picked up a bug, the trains being delayed and caught up in Traffic, making you late. This can cause stress, so to avoid this plan ahead and have a back up plan, something I learned from being a manager of a football team, because of the weather which we have no control over but can help us be prepared like having an umbrella and going through different routes to find which will be best, to avoid the bad weather.
If you haven’t slept well and everything is irritating you.
Plan a ritual like reading book, practice mindfulness and going for a walk always helps me and take a nap in the day if you can, or just plan for bedtime to have a good nights sleep and make sure your body is properly relaxed. As soon as I put my head on my pillow ideas of blogs and videos start and that happened last night so brain dumped and have something you can jot down to clear your thoughts and have a proper restful mind and not being on my laptop too late in the evening has made a difference too.
Do a evening checklist.
Before I got to bed I check the back door is locked and the front door, everything is turned off and switch my phone on silent and volume down so the only thing that will sound is my alarm.
I also do a check list when leaving the home. I make sure that nothing is on that shouldn’t be and check my emails daily in case my sons school have sent something to me, for my son and appointments, and that I empty my inboxes daily. Then check my phone as I get alerts on there too from my sons school and health check ups and I make sure I remember appointments made, as last week I nearly forgot about a school we (my mum and I) checking out as we got to start looking for a secondary school for my son and that I had a telephone appointment, so doing a daily check in the evenings helps to clear my mind, so my mind isn’t stirring and can properly switch off and helps reduce bad days and take more time for myself so I wake up refreshed and not more tired in the mornings, and tired enough in the evening to get a good sleep and reduce my anxiety and anxiousness that I can feel each day, when I do have a good nights sleep.
Things will go wrong in life and it is part of living. It’s all about how to handle it, should we dwell on it or take into our stride for it to go right and that is part of the living process.
So try not to beat yourself up when things don’t go to plan and if you need time to readjust then take that time.
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Carrie X
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You don’t have to follow others if you don’t want to, but find those who like to live the Simple Life and I am not talking about 80’s sitcom the Good Life, growing your own veg or herbs, which you can if you want, but where you know what you have to do each week and what suits your lifestyle.
I think we are in the “Now Culture” and yes sitting and waiting doesn’t always help but when you are exhausted each day, it is worth taking a back seat and let life take its course. I plan a lot, but sometimes it is good to just relax and do things not on the to do list. Example yesterday we watched a film, today instead of editing my book, spent time working on my blogs and catching up on Youtube and write my daily blog: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/2024/05/making-most-of-weekend.html
I use one note, my diary and google Calendar of what I want to get done each week. I use my Filofax to plan my writing and courses and go through my finances and go through my expenses and use an Excel Spreadsheet and go through important dates, such as appointments and birthdays.
When it comes to getting things done, I like to have music or something on at the background and to exercise I walk and use my exercise mat and dumbells. When it comes to cooking I like to have things in the cupboard and fridge because my husband didn’t want to use the freezer anymore, and also because like the week just gone my son and I was in Wimbledon, for half term (school holidays).
Having a simple picnic or a train ride and time to go where we want and not worry about time. I this week are going to make time to have a good clean and tidy in the kitchen again, as I did this the last week before half term, and doing more walking at home on the treadmill and outside. I like doing weights and using my exercise mat.
I like to cook and have things to hand that will keep me below budget but fulfilling and so like to have sauces to make our family favourite meals, like Meatballs and spaghetti, I am getting some left over bolognaise we had on Saturday so it doesn’t go to waste and tonight it is curry and my sons favourite meals is beans egg, and toast.
Simple meals, planning and organizing in simple ways and simple living is how I roll and will continue to do. Life doesn’t have to be hard and enjoyment is the key ingredient and feeling free from stress to make each day as good as the last one.
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Carrie X
Everyone can build a castle 