Category Archives: having bad days

Do It Your Way In Managing Your Lifestyle

22 Wednesday Oct 2025

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What is a form of self care. I remember watching one of Mel Robbins Podcasts, which are very good, I do get a lot of inspiration, but there was one guest that talked about how having a bubble bath is not a form of selfcare. Well may be not?. I love the whole process of having a bath whilst listening to an audiobook. So why can’t it be seen as a way of giving myself, self care? It is what helps you when you have had a busy day and Oprah for example reads in the bath and so I feel that was, when listening to the podcast a bit of a misconception. Zoe Sugg for example loves to be in the bath scrolling on her phone, and I bet there are people saying, that that’s a bad thing. Why? If it is relaxing. Selfcare is not the same for everybody.

Budgeting is the same as dieting. I love to budget it helps me from buying another pair of boots and another collection of notebooks. It is not depriving me from anything. Not in my case anyway, but helps me make sure I put money into my son’s account, I pay my phone bill and if I need to buy an emergency item, having budget ensures me that I will have the money should that happen. Its covering anything that may breakdown, like my laptop, a household appliance we use like our Airfryer and so for me it does not feel like a diet.

Going to bed early and you will wake up early. Not for me. I have suffered with Insomnia since a child and would wake up between 3am and 4am and when I tried to go back to sleep I would feel more tired or have a nightmare. When I’ve gone to bed early, to see if helped, I just wake up at midnight and find I have over slept, so for me I now go to bed later. I read my book so as soon I feel the most tired, I drift off nicely and wake up at 5am. Going to bed later has helped me sleep all the way through the night and lowered my Insomnia. It all depends on each person and so if going to bed early helps you, fine, its not one way fits all, but what suits you and your lifestyle.

Eating three meals day. Now I am not saying this is wrong or right. For me I not always a lunch girl and love dinner but not able to do large amount of food, whether it is healthy or not. I find I get indigestion if I eat too much. I have listened to those experts on the TV and on Social media of you can eat large amount of food, as long as it is healthy and there are people who can eat larger amounts, of food and I am working on my food consumption by trying different foods, but eating when I know will fill me up and reduce waste.

I have the mentality to know when I am full. My son is starting to. My husband will skip a meal to have a big meal in the evening, if we have for example Fish n Chips. Chatting with my diabetic nurse she told me not to eat too much fruit, as it is still sugar and that you eat more vegetables and that has worked, but again I not able to eat to much even if it is vegetables. I do think home cooking is good and like cooking. So feel that people should do what works for their body and the recommended portion for their body type by getting help from a dietician, diabetic nurse or your GP.

Scheduling and Planning. I like to now use post it notes. Check out this blog on one of other blog sites: https://organize4thebetter.blogspot.com/2025/10/new-way-of-planning-and-staying-on.html I now have a pinboard that I claimed as my mum and step dad was getting rid of it and it really making a huge difference. I have used Google Calendar but just kept filling up my Inbox and so I now use Notion, Post its and my phone. It is what suits you best. Some like doing Block Scheduling. I tried this method but I found it to restricting. On my phone I use the Notes APP on my phone but it can use up storage. Again depends on your lifestyle.

It is good to listen to others about Selfcare, Finance, getting a good nights sleep, eating nice foods and scheduling and planning, but not to the word because it is what helps you, to manage your life, that fits around your lifestyle.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Weekly Cheat Sheet: Having A Seasonal Reset

20 Monday Oct 2025

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Hello Happy Monday! It is a new week and means it is time for a new Cheat Sheet, which I post each week and are free to download and print.

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This is tips on Having A Seasonal Reset:

It is so good to have a reset especially when you have a lot happening. We have been trying to sort out Henry, my sons, learning and get a school placement, do homeschooling until he gets a school or tutoring and then sort out his and my bedrooms and just life things like laundry, cleaning the home and at the moment I do voluntary work.

So have a great week and if you’d like to be notified when I post on this site them please subscribe.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

You Don’t have to go it alone

15 Wednesday Oct 2025

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When I ran a football team and felt “Oh I can do this by myself” I soon realised that I needed a bit of help. It doesn’t have to be One Man Band and asked a parent to help. I was hesitant in asking and running a football team, there was a lot to do. It was up to me to choose the training I wanted my players to do, pick the team for matches and collecting subs.

I think I was a bit naive too. I had this picture of it but the reality hits and realised it is totally different to what I imagines and underestimated it too.

If I was to run a team again I’d make sure I had someone helping me and have an assistant.

“It is okay to ask for help”.

If someone offers to help then say yes or have a chat and decide what their role will be and that they have the same mindset as you. When I working at Butlins I struggled with working Front of house and so asked if I could go back of house and felt good that I had the guts to talk to the manager of the restaurant. One of my friends said to try back of house and we were put together and we had a brilliant relationship. She got me and I got her and so glad I asked instead for help and I still did a bit of front of house work but not all the time and I felt pleased that I took the initiative to share how I felt and thankful to the Manager for listening to me and I felt better.

If you are stuck

I worked for a company that sold tickets for some attractions in the UK and I was finding one attraction booking difficult. I asked if I could have a bit more training. You should be supported by your manager or Team Leader because it shows them that you want to do well and it is the employer duty to help you if you are finding some things tricky.

Write things down. I am now working on Radio for a local hospital and if there is an issue I will flag it up and it helps me and my colleagues to inform one another and I make sure if there is something I am not sure about, I ask. I write in my journal of how I felt about my show and if they have told me how to do something, I go through each step in my mind and journaling is a great tool and do it everyday and write down what you are not sure of and who is the best person to ask. Or ask someone if they know of anyone that can help and worked in an area.

It is better to ask then not.

If you make a mistake

We all make mistakes. It is part of our learning as human beings. It is also shows you what you want to do and talking to others, that if they have made the same mistake and what they did to fix it. Don’t hide behind a mistake, but apologies, move on and learn so you know for next time.

I have made mistakes and it would cause me stress but then it can be down to the fact that they hadn’t communicated properly. I found in some companies, especially when I did temporary work that they assumed that you should already know. I worked for a holiday company, processing data but struggled to understand what I had to enter and the manager spoke to me as if I was dumb said “Oh it is easy” and telling a friend she said “Yes because he had probably done it for 20 years and so of course it is obvious to him” and so if they assume you know, say “I need to be shown again so I don’t make the same mistake”. Ask if there is someone you can sit with to go over it and them give you written instructions too.

Do they want to do a good job or a bad one

It is all about what works best for you, but never be afraid to ask someone to help you and feel you have to go it alone.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Saying Things You Don’t Mean

14 Tuesday Oct 2025

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“Why say it?”

Have you said that?

I have. When having an argument said something you shouldn’t have.

Take a moment to breath and go somewhere you can cool off and reflect.

People clash, its human nature and its a form of protection. It can affect the environment and escalate so do you want to put the fire out or keep it burning?

I have hit out and I am not proud of that. I find anger overwhelming, to the point I am not able to calm down, so I will leave the room or take two or so minutes, but then come back apologised and all has been right again.

It is good to have your say and give your point of view, but calling someone a nob head is not the way. Yes we want to vent and glad I have a journal and this has made a huge difference and use it for my books and looking back, realising that I lost control and I have learned from arguments and to put the smoke out, before its turned into fire.

I have looking back, laughed at myself. I remember when I was with my husband, when he was trying to give up smoking and we argued over a plate of chips and a draw. I remember saying “Have a bloody cigarette”. That wasn’t the best form of advice and should have been a lot more supportive as it can be hard to give up a habit and a lot of people smoke because it to them is calming and a break.

I felt like it was a personal attack, but no it just was that I wanted to share a plate of chips but not draw and now writing this, makes me laugh as actually I get his point.

He did when people were band from smoking in a pub, gave up smoking and he has never gone back. So often it can be that someone is fighting against a addiction or a habit. He just wasn’t in the right mindset to give up smoking. I am very good at weighing up my emotions, by thinking, “Is this going to lead to an argument and is worth venting about?” This helps me think before I speak and defuse the smoke before it turns into a fire.

No human being is perfect. Some may think they are, but noone is. Not that is some excuse to be verbally abusive. I have through habits controlled my feelings. This is journaling, walking and writing. As said weighing up. I will ask myself “How would you feel if someone said that to me?”

I dislike people who are hypocritical and have double standards. It should be one rule for all not specific people and being fair.

There have been times that I know I am right and finding myself wanting to say “Oh shut you shit bag and listen” but stopped myself and asked, “Do I want a good day or not?” and kept my thoughts to myself.

So try to stay calm and write it down. Turn it into a story, write a letter to yourself and if you can take yourself out of the situation, to defuse it before you say anything you will regret later. Try to remain in a good mindset and not lash out.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Weekly Cheat Sheet: Enjoyments of Life

13 Monday Oct 2025

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Hello it is time to post a new Cheat Sheet. They are free to download and print and post every Monday accept UK Bank Holidays and this week it is all about the Enjoyments of life.

It can be full of rollercoasters is life and you never know really what is going to happen each day. It is good to do things that help create good days and getting the most out of it, as much as possible.

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It is good to go for walks. One of my colleagues on Epsom Hospital Radio does Walking Football and my brother does Walking Rugby. I like to do courses, read books and go for a coffee with my son and Swimming. The little things are just as good as the big things in life and life is about living.

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Have a good week.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Weekly Cheat Sheet: Home Comforts

22 Monday Sep 2025

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Hello! Beginning of the week again and already I have completed a blog: https://mybooksandstories.wordpress.com/2025/09/22/how-do-i-come-up-with-characters-find-your-own-writing-style/ , my son has had a bath, made his bed, brushed my teeth, write in my journal and reading, aswell getting dressed for the day and been out for a walk.

Last week I was full of cold. I blame my husband as he had “Man Flu” and so this Cheat Sheet is about Cozy Comforts:

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My cheat sheets are free, so you can download and print. I missed a few weeks, My Autumn Reset has started and also had a break from my Vlog Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

I will be back doing my vlogs in October 2025.

So I hope you have a good week and if you’d like to keep up to date of, when I post, on this site, then you can do so, by Subscribing and so see you in my other blogs, I plan to write.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Autumn Reset: It is okay to change your routine and take some tasks out of your original list

15 Monday Sep 2025

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I was finding it tricky to film for my other Youtube Channels, but in the week I filmed for my channel Financial Living and listening to Henry Winkler when he did a interview once on the TV, said, “If you really want something or do something, you’ll always find a way”.

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Yet if you find that you need to hold off from completing one of the areas you wanted to finish, then fine. You can add projects too, I decided because I knew it wouldn’t take long, wanted to go through my emails, to clear it out, so I as part of my Autumn Reset when through my email, get rid of spam. I do subscribe to different things, but before you know it, I’ve ended up having a thousand of emails and it can get out of control. You may find that to complete some tasks, you have to do other tasks. Life is full of challenges and so other things will crop up.

I have also been doing some training to help complete my next book. My son has not got a Secondary School Placement and I love my son, but he wants to go to Secondary school and it has been a real mission. In the meantime I am home schooling and so had to put some bits on hold.

It means adjusting because to my son, I am mum and not a teacher and why when he is at school he gets more out of being in a different environment. We are going out a lot which is a good thing and he goes to clubs at the weekend and because I do a radio show on Sunday’s have to commute and setting time to plan my show ready for Sunday.

I have been using my mornings and in the afternoons. Me and son like to ride on trains and buses, or walking various bus routes. I use that time, when travelling to think about my book, my blogs and chill watching a bit of quizzes in the afternoon. Parenting is a job. I can’t split myself in half so if somethings have to hold. Do things at your own pace and just one change a day, is still getting tasks done.

If you didn’t know I have a new book out it is called Mum&Me. It is available from Amazon, by Kindle and Paperback: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BGNF4LNF

I also have a Vlog Channel. Taking some time off but I will be filming again in October and share my home life as a mum, writer, coach and Radio presenter: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

STOP Shaming Yourself Because Of Your Past/Last Blog for this years Summer Project 2025

31 Sunday Aug 2025

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This follows my the blog before this one: let go of the past.

Does your past making you feel ashamed? In my life I have not always been kind and had dark thoughts, but I know that this has made me put them to bed as thoughts are what they are and didn’t carry out anything that would have been harmful and often it just I quick thought, in the moment because if I didn’t say anything and been able to see the lighter side of life.

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My brother and I never got on as kids. We would argue and fight a lot, but now we are fine. If you constantly feel shameful then what specifically is making you feel that way?

I thought I was being unkind to a girl I work with and apologised and she didn’t have any ideas as to what I was talking about. So, I know longer felt shame and so talk. Let people know how you feel and speak to a psychologist, therapist or a Social Worker, if your thoughts of the past are haunting you and was as bad as what you thought?

Stop giving yourself such a hard time. Everyone has a past. Done the wrong thing or said something that was taken out of context. I remember when working in a Call Centre, one of the new people I spoke to I couldn’t see there face. I thought it was a man. I was chatting about it in the Staff Canteen and she comes over and says “Apparently I sound like a man” and she thought one of us (chatting to some of colleagues) called her a Cow, which we did not and she wanted to hit me, in particular. I felt dreadful and she spoke to one of the managers and I told it was an innocent conversation, and said I am sorry and I did feel ashamed, but it didn’t stop me from talking it made me be more self aware and next time I should have introduced myself and asked who the person was as I not met them and I not into gossiping.

In the end this was resolved she didn’t hit me, I didn’t keep on and the issue was solved, ,so I moved on.

Thinking of the past can drain you and be full of regret and not able to move on, but time has a different idea. Do you want to be happy with who you are? Take it one day at a time and address your feelings. I was so sad when my Nan died. She was my last grandparent and kept forgetting and would have dreams about her still being alive and it really changed a lot. I had a friend who lived by her and so whenever I could would pop in, I did. Suddenly I couldn’t do that anymore.

She would not want me, to not get on my my life. She lived to old age and it was her time.

My parents was getting divorced, I was in a very demanding job, but loved the social life. I then changed jobs but I hated it and it was the wrong move. I then decided I would follow my gut and had to be selfish and do what I felt would lead me to following my dreams. It lead me to a job where, it was a culture shock and what I needed and no longer regret the decisions I made and did what I was hopefully lead me to building a life of my own and it happened.

You never know what path to choose sometimes. It makes me think of a game of chess. What is the right move? Will I need to move my Queen or not? Reflect, write and leave it there. Take a step forward and trust your gut.

When I look back on events now, I loved the people met, good and bad. I like the journeys I have taken and will keep living and not feel ashamed. It happened, noone died so it is time to let the shame go and create more abundance and self belief.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching: Loving The Image you see.

24 Sunday Aug 2025

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I did a video about this, please click here to see it: life Coaching Video for my Summer Project programme about Changing Your image

Originally when I wrote this down it was about Body Image, but I now realise it is not just about that. It is all to do with how you treat yourself. This is not treating yourself with a box of chocolates, I mean being verbally kind to yourself and in your mind.

I am in a good place now. I have changed my thoughts of myself and my life in general. There are times in the mornings where I see my hair is all messy, I see unwanted hair growth but also, my room or home is chaotic and have no sense of, Is this it. Is this what my life looks like?

I have just come back from Wimbledon with my mum and step dad and I have case full of clothes, bag full of my notebooks and journals and I have believe it or not I did a declutter. So I am working on it. I will spend time tidying, unpacking and know I can get it back into shipshape.

I wrote a blog about if you were looking in the mirror, what would I’d like to see. Not self image but your life and what changes do you want to make. Self Development: If you had a mirror showing Your life what would you like to see?

Spend time filling in my printable to go through your days, what would you like to focus on and making changes to how you feel now.

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This is free to download. It is reprogramming your thought patterns. I now make sure I read each day, because it slows me down and feel calm in the mornings now. I will have breakfast and go for morning walk. I do a bit of writing each day. These have really helped with stress and anxiety.

What one thing do you want to change in the mornings?

Write down in the printable or notebook of What is the first thing you in the morning. It used to be, for me get up, watch Youtube and before getting my son ready for school and it became a habit that would not help my day, because I would be lazy. It should have been to get my son ready for school. My son was close by, but had to get my priorities right and me and my husband would argue, because of it and if it were the other way around, I wouldn’t have been happy.

There was a time where I would come home angry. I was working in a Call Center, where people would call in, not happy, because I worked as a technical advisor/call agent and would go home and would bring what happened each day, home.

So are you have a lot of arguments?

Is a job, sleep or a relationship?

Is the food that you eat?

It is making sense of it all and creating a picture of yourself and your life and what do you want out of life?

Who do you spend time with?

I make sure that my son is okay and say good morning to him, have breakfast together, read and make sure my bed and his, is made and that my life is functional and do the things in my life that will help me grow and everyone in my life grow. Checking in on them and make the effort to have a good day, facing challenges but not making them stop me, from living.

It is also good to be selfish at times, check out this blog: Its Okay to Be Selfish

Not having too many commitments, but that I have some social interaction and my son does too. I like to have a day off from everything and last Tuesday had a proper lazy day. I still worked on some content but stayed in and it felt so good.

I wish you all the happiness in the world. Life can be joyous and the image of it. Feel good about yourself. I write another google blog site, called Building Self Confidence – The Ugly Duckling: https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/

I really hope you find my Life Coaching Programme helpful and please give me your feedback and what would like to see in my next one.

What is coming up?

My Autumn Reset. Where I will be working on various areas and getting ready for the new season.

My new book is out. It is available from amazon: https://read.amazon.co.uk/sample/B0BGSS7H9K?clientId=share

There are two more blogs to come and so this Programme, I had created two year ago, is ending for 2025, making room for Summer Project 2026.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Is Full of Lessons, Summer Project 2025

08 Friday Aug 2025

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It is August 2025 and the last month of this years Summer Project and the it is my Autumn Reset programme and so more to come.

In this blog I talk about How Life Is Full of Lessons.

Shouting: I have found by shouting has made matters worse when my son wouldn’t eat his food and one work place, there was a manager who screamed and shouted a lot and it just made you want to pack your bags and go. I am not saying that I am perfect, it can be the first thing you do but it has made matters worse. Go into another room, stay calm and with my son now, giving him two choices, as soon as I feel like shouting I will take breath and say “You got two choices and if you do not choose I will choose for you. Check out his video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jQs5l6ojlOI&list=PL0AyektQNGDGF_ms_qIrBILXsIM_rTjp_&index=6 I give into my son when he begins to get annoyed and have a tantrum but you can’t please your kids all the time and staying calm and not shouting, has better results in your child see getting angry and kicking off leads to me make the choice and take my seriously. In shouting my son would laugh and it really got to me. Now I have stopped myself, it has had a better reaction.

Switch off: One Saturday I was seated on the sofa and every five minutes I was looking at my phone. This was driving me mad and so now I don’t have my phone always near me. I am not always on laptop and found sometimes, to do bits in silence. Like writing, cooking and having a drink.

Being out of debt: It feels so good not to be in debt. I do have a Youtube Channel dedicated to money. https://www.youtube.com/@financialliving I needed to rebuild my relationship with money. My spending was getting out of hand. I did have store cards, catalogue Accounts, overdrafts and an Amazon credit card. I was doing buy now pay later. Now out of debt my life has changed financially and monitor what comes in and what goes out. It feels so good to not to have so much “Money Stress” I call it and I do no spend days and use what I got.

Feeling defeated: Began Park run this year and it was good but wasn’t enjoying it. I was getting self conscious about being last. Since then I have been doing walks with my son, walking in the mornings when he was at school and this week did 30,000 steps. Now I feel ready to go back to doing Park run and even run part of it.

So what have you learned. What is now good in your life and how did you go about improving the way you feel about yourself and your life. Please leave a comment below. It is good to see your life changing for the better by what we have learned about areas in our lives.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X