I can’t wait to see the back of this year, it is an understatement that it has not been good, I am going to make sure that things change for me and be with those who I absolutely love and adore.

All I have ever wanted in my life was to be happy, and yet I am still in 2020 and I don’t care how many times I say it is true. I am never going to stop wanting happiness, doesn’t everyone want that?

Of course!

So anyway, if you had a shitty year then fear not as it can get better and I am going to make sure that all those bad ones go away.

There are gonna be times where hurdles will arise but just keep going and never stop believing.

I thought COVID would change lives but not like they have and some may see this as bullocks, but it has been a life changer and want to move on, be with my new man and new family, to start all over again.

So I am listening to the Pogues, with Kirsty MacColl, The Fairytale Of New York, and is such a comfort blanket and helps me to block all the bad things away. OK so some may see this as crap, but do I care, no.

I will continue to set goals, follow positive habits and be productive, and do more of what I enjoy rather than listening and doing things because some people see it that I have to, not that I want to.

So, where to begin with a new year,

• Drink and eat what I like when I like
• Watch TV when I want to
• Keep watching TV that is funny
• Wash up when I want to
• Laugh when I want
• Go out when I like and not being told
• Be with my kids
• Have a bloody good holiday

I will be watching Jools Holland New Years show, hoping it will be on this year and watch the fireworks up London to begin the new year.

So lets get ready and raise our glasses, and say fuck it and lets start again with a bang and all those that aren’t happy about that, jog on.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

First all I hope you are having if possible due to the coronovirus, are having a reasonable easter. I did and I not going to get into too much detail but I was picked up by the Police as they thought I was at the wrong address but I wasn’t.

I am now having to take a new medication due to my depression and anxiety and so don’t feel like I am being a slob due to the fact I am still in my pJ’s I just found this new medication to be really strong, but I don’t see that my life has gone down hill I see it as it has gone up, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

I have been feeling suicidal not gonna lie and it can be a day to day battle with myself continuously, seeing people die of this virus is what is keeping myself at bay.

I wrote a blog about Suicidal on my related site:

https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/2020/03/feeling-suicidal.html

People say it is selfish and attention seeking, but it isn’t. It is a terrible feeling of isolation, thinking you don’t belong and unwanted by people.

You can come out of it though by doing something still incorporating abundance in your life and keep going.

https://everydaylivingandlifestyle.wordpress.com/2020/04/16/getting-through-this-pandemic/

Create conference or Skype call with friends, and if you have what I do home help where by I have Keyworker who visits, speak to them with a love one so they can get to know what to do should you have a break out of depression and anxiety. They are there to help.

So if you do feel worthless, look around you as you will see that Life is worth living. If you have negative people in your life then I have written a blog on my related site to this one about Dealing with Negative people.

https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/2020/04/dealing-with-negative-people.html

Please check out my last weeks blog newsletter wishing you a happy easter!

https://newsletterthoughtsandadvicefortheweek.blogspot.com/2020/04/first-of-all-happy-easter-to-everyone.html

So I hope we all can get through this week and the effects of the coronovirus begins to reduce so we can all return to normal.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

How to manage feelings of being overwhelmed can be a hard task as we keep piling more items on our to do lists and being wanted in many different places at once, it just can feel endless.

My first tip is to take some time out for yourself and do some self care, this can be journalling, taking a hot bath, going for a walk or exercising for 5 to 10 minutes each day. Self care means looking after yourself, and if you have kids that is even more important to take some time out for yourself.

Second tip is to be more productive, check out my blog about ten hacks of being more productive, and set a side time for each item on your list, and be realistic as to what you can achieve in the time you have.

Delegate, if there is something for example my husband can do, then I let him, like he will vacuum whilst I go round and dust, he will pop to the shops whilst I am working, life can be a juggling act and why not share the responsibility if there is two of you.

Take time out, and do something other than work, sometimes it can feel like we are glued to our computers, rather than reading a book or watching TV. You are allowed that time, rather than working all the time.

Practice mindfulness, can really help and can help concentrate on what is around us and take in our environment for two to three seconds. That is all it takes.

So next time you feel overwhelmed listen to your mind, if it needs a break take one, everyone needs to be able to recharge their batteries including humans.

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Let me know how you stop yourself from being overwhelmed I would love to hear, you can comment below or fill in form below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

If there was a pill that would make us naturally more productive, rather than sitting on the couch all the time, would you take it?

Of course we would, so how do you become more productive?

Here is Ten hacks to being more productive.

1. Make your bed. Sounds simple, but it can be so easy to slip back in, if it is still all over the place, so make it as soon as you get up
2. Write a to do list the night before and circle the items that need to be done first
3. If you have tasks that take 2 minutes do them straight away
4. Brush your teeth, no one likes a gammy mouth, and I hate talking to people knowing I have bad breath, so brushing your teeth helps you feel better about yourself and sets up the day
5. Block time out to do things, so if you have ten minutes spare then mark it down, and then if you want to chill for that ten minutes before you continue your day then do so. Use Google Calendar as you can set alerts on your phones, helps keep track on tasks
6. Listen to an audio book whilst you doing errands. I love doing this when doing some cleaning for examples, makes it seem less of a chore
7. Learn to say “No” there is nothing worse than double booking yourself, so if you can’t make that party or that event say so, don’t leave people hanging, you wouldn’t like it, so neither will they
8. Restrict your social media usage through out the day, as this can easily cause us to waste time, unless we are using it to promote our work if you to run a website, a blog or have a Youtube channel
9. Set days a side to update your Instagram, Facebook or Pinterest account, I do and it helps make sure I don’t spend to long on each task
10. Schedule time to check your emails, or do this whilst travelling on a bus or train some where, can help speed up the travel time.

So I hope you found this hacks useful and if you have any hacks then let me know by filling in the comment section below or filling in the form below.

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

As it is coming up to Mental Health month I thought I would speak out, as I too have suffered with mental illness wanted to share how I manage my Mental Health.

It has taken over my life in some cases, to point I needed to be taken to the hospital. Too much was going on in my life, I was in debt, recovering from Post natal Depression, which I was to scared to speak out about, and I felt like I wasn’t happy with myself.

The one that tells you, your fat and ugly, the one that tells you that life is so terrible and that everyone is better off without you.

All you want to do to that inner critic is shout SHUT THE F**K UP.

You feel like you are falling down a hole that you can’t get out of, as much as you try. There are still days where I get so depressed or my anxiety gets the better of me, that I don’t want to do anything, and it can take over my whole wellbeing.

The constant battle I have had with myself still continues, but I have learned through developing good habits and changing my life around of how to overcome and control my mental health, but it can take a lot of work.

You have to be patient and learn to breath. Mindfulness can really help and makes you look around you, take in your surroundings and just listen to your breathing.

No you don’t have to sit on the floor with your legs crossed, you can practice mindfulness anywhere, check the book Mindfulness On the Go.

If you are sick of seeing the same four walls then get out of there and see something new.

Speak to that friend you have been meaning to contact for ages

Take yourself out of your comfort zone even if it is for 5 seconds, and count 5, 4. 3. 2, 1

Check out my blog about Mel Robbins, The 5 Second Rule

Be willing to make that change and do it gradually, taking as much time as you need.

Let’s support each other, as creating a good foundation is important, check out my blog about Creating a Foundation.

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Do you suffer or have suffered with Mental Health? How do you manage it? I would love to hear from you, you contact me by filling in the form below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Came across this tune speaks volumes all there is, is to listen to the lyrics. Brilliant!