There was a time where I took things for granted and not opening my eyes to the world. The moments I spent with my grandparents, forgetting that one day they will be gone and like with my dad, not realising that one day I will have to go it alone without him. I am very aware now that, the small moments are precious and everyday should be lived. My life is not all put together, there is still so much out there for me to learn and not an expert of laying things to rest, and still have no sense of direction and still struggle with socialising, but I love the time I spend with my family, my son and he has really taught me a lot.
He lives in the moment and see that we are not meant to be good at everything, but why each day should teach you something. Example: Learning how from others, like my mum, my husband and from other parents. My husband today got my son to help cook and make his own breakfast. I felt a little begrudged., but that’s my own insecurity and I like cooking for my son, but if he asks to help then I need to not get nervous about it, and its my duty as a parent, as I see it, to teach him life skills, to have him learn to cook but I am no master chef so I have had to learn to cook too.
When I make a nice meal I do feel so proud, when I have not burnt the scrambled egg or invented a meal that’s gone well, feel like I could get a Michelin star for parent cooking and hope my son asks for beans on toast on some days.
I do dwell on the passed and I still remember as a kid where I got in trouble with touching someone in the flats I lived, car, when all the other kids were doing the same, but the girl who told her mum did it because she had decided not to like me. I still remember how I felt about that, but what can I do, I can’t go back but use it to learn and there will always be someone who doesn’t like you and will never see it from your opinion, as many, as learned, in customer service, have already decided what they want to hear and so when they don’t it is a travesty, to them. Your their enemy and everyone should bow at their feet and I am no, you have no morals and learned that there isn’t good in everyone and people who just want to hate on others.
I am not here to change the world and what is important to me and what direction do I want to go.
Life is full of surprises example I never thought I’d be doing this writing a blog and making videos. Dancing was my skill I naturally had and then playing football. I love coaching and teaching and was good at training others and so why I created this blog because I have find life a struggle but now I embrace it and it is taken a lot to get here, to feel this way.
I am learning that I am no rugby player, when I go to kick the ball and completely miss it and when my son wants me to do be on all fours to pretend to do a scrum, how the Astroturf hurts my knees. but its all about doing your best and my son gets annoyed with me if it takes me ten times to kick the ball that he can catch. Then he wants me to tackle him and go and get the ball. I do it because I love my son and it builds my steps and saves an argument. Yes I know I should lay down the law but makes it hard and then I am having tantrum.
When it comes to singing my son will tell me to shut up and wish I had a voice like Celine Dion and be able to bale out The Power Of Love and then visioning myself as a member of the Bangles or Cyndi Lauper. But I now work on radio and love it and getting compliments of the music I am playing, so I am never going to get a record deal so getting to play it, is just as good.
At the same time I enjoy it and that is the biggest lesson. If you don’t enjoy it, then stop feeling you have to continue. We aren’t here to enjoy everything. You’re still a human and will have dislikes and that is okay.
This blog is part of my Change Your Life training to enjoy life more and to love your life and yourself. I did my first video for it and so check this out. It is about Coming last: https://youtu.be/xOfn9eS8hxU
Hello! It is the start of a new week and today I have been updating my google calendar and lists on Notion, getting tasks that are Overdue. This weeks Cheat Sheet is tips on Having a Fresh Start to having a Reset.
It is now the 14th January 2025. I have already started to do Good Practices like reading every day and training myself on my various interests. I am building my knowledge to extend my online platforms and social media posts. I hope these efforts will boost my online content. They will help me get the most out of the online tools available.
Studying once a week can be a good practice. It is true, yes, “We Learn Everyday.” I like to spend time learning from self-published authors and finance. I also enjoy learning about good books to read, beauty, fashion, skincare, and organization.
I build my fitness subconsciously by walking and using dumbbells. Also housework. This morning, I put some clothes away in my closet and tidied the breakfast ware. I went through my notion planner. I am finding different ways to work towards the life I want. Have more experiences that help me to feel good and ready for each day, month, and year.
I have Chosen my word for the year. This has really helped encourage me to take on new challenges. Working on radio is challenging. It is very technical, and you need to have good attention to detail and I am loving it. I am glad I applied and did not allow my inner critic to talk me out of it.
Each day I will journal. This really helps clear my thoughts, even if I write just one or two sentences. It helps me to have a better mindset. Writing it down puts my thoughts, whether good or bad, into perspective.
Cleansing and looking after my skin and body. I need to control what I because it can affect my mood. In winter, I don’t feel like eating fruit, but I eat plenty of vegetables. I’m starting to take my supplements again, which helps with my immune system. It also supports me during that time of the month by affecting my thoughts and feelings.
Having Good Practices can help with getting through the colder days. They can also aid us financially when you can’t afford electric or gas. This strategy makes you focus on survival. I have had financial struggles because finding work has been tough. I was made redundant. Then, there was Lockdown, which had a huge impact on everyone. I was working in Childcare. The nursery where I was a Bank Staff member closed. Because of this, I was furloughed. Then my husband changed his job, which was fine. He must make sure he has a stable living. Still, the agreement I had with the Nursery was that I worked up to 6pm. I couldn’t do this, and I was mentally struggling. Now that I have financial stability, I check my bank account every day. I control what comes in and out and paid off my debt. These actions have helped me get back on the ladder of building my life. I am doing voluntary work now for Epsom Hospital Radio as mentioned. I would like to do more and build up my income.
I hope these blogs helps you to succeed. That means building the relationship you have with yourself. Follow your hearts and dreams by staying in some days. We joined my son and I, in doing a Parkrun. It was a good way to meet people. I received financial advice and support. This was during my time in a Mental Health Hospital. I had terrible anxiety and didn’t want to go out and wanted to hide away. I got back on my feet, and so can you. Plan and make changes to your life by doing Good Practices. So lets support each other as we all succeed.
Hello! Today is the beginning of my Winter Wellness programme that I have created to help you have a good winter when we can feel gloomy and fatigued all day and not wanting to get out of bed.
As I write this blog I am listening to Enya who I love playing when it comes to winter time. Yesterday I posted my printable on introducing this new programme I have created Winter Wellness Programme Begins
Image I took when we took my son and his cousin to the Winter Christmas event in Wimbledon.
So going to cover in this programme:
Wrapping up the year to get ready for the new year.
How to get through the darker days and nights
Cozy nights and what would you like to do in the Winter
Slowing down and do less
Setting goals for winter
Making the most of the daylight
Good Wellness Practices I use to enjoy the Winter time
My dad was never a fan of New years Eve as it is Winter here in the UK and I tended to get emotional about it. I would set resolutions that I never followed through with. So what I did instead was make life changes and helped me with following through and stick to the changes I wanted to make.
In the printable I have included a section to write down goals, go through your current routine and what you want to change and enjoy. Like what TV do I want to watch, meals I enjoy having and drink too.
I like winter walks and taking part in a Winter Walk this winter in January, in London and going to a pantomime or show. I like winter drinks, such hot chocolate, a mulled wine and winter ciders, making sure I am sensible, but just slow down and using the bleak days better by doing things I enjoy.
So in the work book go through what you enjoy and if it is to go on holiday to a warmer country then that is fine. One year I went away on holiday at Christmas. It was a brilliant experience and would like to do that again one Christmas time. I love Christmas and winter markets. I like to watch some old films and repeats of TV specials and new ones.
I am doing No spend January again this year where by I buy only what I need and still go out for a coffee to help stop me being on my laptop all of the time, but not spending money on clothes I don’t need or get carried away because of the New Year sales.
I like to plan my budget and planning for the new year and reflect on the year gone.
I really hope you get a lot of out of it, my Winter Wellness programme and if you’d like to be alerted when I post on this site and will be making videos too on my Educational Youtube channel too, please subscribe. Here is the link to this channel: https://www.youtube.com/@CarrieEducationalYoutube-ws4xp
Images of places visited in the Summer of 2024 and places I have visited and walks
So I have had a really good summer, by doing some wonderful things and I think it is having more positivity, and one of my dreams from when I left school back in 1996, was working on a radio by working for a hospital radio and it has happened and I love it.
I am doing courses that I have wanted to do and feel that my life is taking shape and to continue to follow my dreams, and yes there have been bumps on the road, but that is part of how we can have a different outlook on life, by pushing forward and not allowing those bumps, stop me, from having a good day now and have been less stressed over it.
There was a time I just didn’t want to be alive and felt my life was boring and I had become a different version of myself, someone who didn’t want to get out of bed and go out. I was sleeping through most of the day and needed help.
I got the help, from spending time in hospital and it helped me get back on my feet and back to feeling good about my life and now I have cleared my debt, gone for long walks again and exercising, taking my son swimming, finding my son a good school that met his needs better and having fun with my son, and with family and writing books. I have one that is being proof read and working on a series called Mum&Me, and working on book 2 and got other books I am writing and reading a lot.
So you can change your life into a more positive one, no matter what hurdles you face?
Absolutely and being in my 40’s my love of life has grown and have so many things I am loving, like seeing my son ride his bike, going to pubs and having some food, enjoying what I have in my life and not focussing on what I don’t have and that life is about, how you make it and what it means to you.
Please check out Pinterest where you will find my videos, blogs and resources for this years Summer Project 2024. Please give me some feedback and what blogs you liked and what you’d like to blog and film about in next years, in 2025. You can leave a comment below.
I know a lot of coaches and health experts say to get out of your comfort zone, and that is me included and have changed that mindset. I have begun to realise that this can often lead to stress and anxiety, and so from my own self I like to take it step by step, rather than jumping in with both feet and hating every minute of it.
There are many things I have wanted to do something that I never thought I could do and that is speak publicly to people and from watching others film their life, to help others I have three Youtube channels and now working on radio.
At school I was mocked when we had to play game, where we had to, for one minute talk about an object or subject and I was stuttering and wanted the earth to swallow me up and it made me for a while fearful of talking in front of the class and yet, as a young child performed in shows when I did tap and ballet had no fear and loved it.
When you grow from being a child into an adult your awareness increases of ourselves and begin to have feelings we have never had before and I was super shy at one point. I attended a drama school and was fearful, and I just froze and just sat there and didn’t know what to do and the teacher watching,f was really looking at me as if I poohed in the class and just wanted to run and not come back.
Yet I loved dancing and when I got to be in a school play again loved it and performed in assembly’s but when it came to speaking out I was a nervous wreck.
Doing Drama helped me and how I gained my confidence to talk in front of people and planning on what I was going to say and I was shy going to my first session of ballroom dancing and soon overcome my shyness and found the skill I was good at and it bought me out of shell and glad I took the chance and it was through a friend, and going with a friend can make it less daunting if you want to do something that you have always wanted to do, and can make it fun and take the fear away.
So never allow your fear to avoid chances because it can have a real positive effect to lead to other chances.
It is so hard not to be self critical, about your life and put ourselves down, but doing the laundry and clearing it each week is a win, getting kids to school okay is a win and working out on the treadmill is a win. It is anything where you feel you have achieved what you have set out to achieve and brings out the endorphins within your mind and body. It gives you confidence and makes you feel good about you as a person and recognise the things we do for others and for yourself, that has made a difference and recognise your own value.
Celebrating who you are by making yourself makes you feel that you can live each day at your own means whilst respecting others. Value yourself and recognise when you have had a good successful day because you got the TV fixed, you saved money on groceries and was done because your kids are your life and what a person you are by looking after others, and got yourself out of debt, something that has been a burden but has been worth it because of how it makes you feel.
Each day I acknowledge myself by recognising the highlights in my life and focus more of the now.
For a long time lived in a dream world, because felt that there was no purpose in my life, my friends were busy with their jobs and growing their life and felt left behind.
Now though I give myself credit and celebrating my wins each day has helped with that.
Every time I pay off my credit card is a win and getting bits I need for the week is a win, it is making me see that I am growing into the person I wish to be. I no longer want to rely on others and take responsibility of my feelings, so I can be there for my son, spend time with family and build my knowledge to make a difference to the people around me through my content. You can find my books, blogs and videos on my Pinterest site. Please check out my social media pages where I link my content: https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/
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This weeks is all about Lessons I have learned and hope they help you to with creating a better life and being happy with yourself and accepting who we are.
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If you want to make changes in your life then start from going through what is getting at you, and needs sorting out. This time four years ago I lost sense of myself and things were happening according to my mind, to realise that actually it is okay and I was in debt, staying in bed all the time and felt very alone and that my life was just too hard to face.
Now it is June 2024 I feel so much better taking on new opportunities as I am now working Voluntary for Epsom Hospital Radio, which I wanted to do when I left school, but had no idea of how to go about it, I published another book I Mum&Me and editing another to publish and got back into my fitness, building steps and doing weight training and focusing on my son as there was a time where I hardly saw him at all and have a stronger bond than ever before and I love him more each, playing sports with him when he is not moaning, and got my life back and is growing more and more each day.
There are still so much I want to do and as humans we are growing everyday, and ask yourself, what do you value in life? I had to change to get to the next stage in my life and not holding back from opportunities and building back my confidence within myself and belief, and planning what else I want in my life and taking action.
I’ve being watching a lot of Amy Winehouse, who build her own successful writing music and singing and raw songs as she wrote about what was happening in her life, but sadly she left the world when she was at the height of her career and it feels me with such sadness that she was not in a good place, yet had major success.
So it is not about having it all but finding what makes you happy in the world we live in and not allow life get to us and to make your stronger, and live your life to the best of your ability.
Everyone can build a castle 