So I have a cut of point of how long I will be working on content, checking emails, writing and filming, so I can focus on doing dinner, getting ready for bed and allow my body and mind to wind down, to relax and I stop working on my laptop around 2pm and do bits from 5pm to around 6pm and is working for me. So set yourself a time to stop being on your devices and have a bath or I will read.
In the mornings I am currently working on my next book of a series I am creating, then I will have breakfast with a few cups of teas, get dressed and ready for the day. Today I walked on the treadmill, helped my son get ready for school and I did some leg exercises and weights and helps me to wake up and then I stop on my laptop before 7am and then back to it when I my son leaves for school, up to the times I have written above and so I used it to sort out my room as it needs decluttering.
I find if I am on my laptop late at night I struggle to get to sleep because my mind is still active and by setting a time now to stop has helped me sleep well and spend time watching TV with my son and have him to some reading and some days I will pop out to be out in the fresh air. It does me wonders for my productivity and having a time to be with yourself and your mind, helps me to be present and love walking where there is a lot of nature or plenty of things going on and being a different environment.
Being in the same walls can make me so claustrophobic and so just being out doors, hearing the birds, saying good morning to people, doing some writing in a coffee shop once a week and tomorrow I am off up to London, helps re-energize and not be stuck in one place all of the time.
So make it a ritual of settling down with a book, with a cup of tea or coffee and allow your body relax and many meditate, but for me it is reading or watching a bit of TV at the end day and then set time to go to bed once I am fully tired, by setting a time to stop looking at my phone, switching it on silent and not on my laptop has made a huge difference for my wellbeing and health.
My mental state was bad and it has taken me a lot to get my life back on track, but planning is always the one thing that gets me through it. I like planning my days and focusing on having a good day, whatever has tried not knock me off the path I have been going through, to be fully recovered. I did a video talking about a couple of days ago, when I went to pick up my prescription and bought a cold coffee, only to drop it as I was running for the bus back, check out my video here: https://youtu.be/L_bU-FKqtOQ and so not everything goes to plan, but I still got my prescription and I still made it back indoors to record the video above, talking about Using what you’ve got .
When unplanned events happen, it can take a while to get over and I believe in, allowing yourself to grieve and take time in coming to terms that sometimes you have to start again, to continue to grow as a human being, and that is exactly what I have had to do.
I started to get back on my feet by spending time away from my friends and family, and was helped with getting my life together, by having an income again and being reunited with, family and my son, and able to see him off to school and back. Getting in contact with friends via social media, and now looking to be connected to others again, as I do miss going out with friends and family again.
Never plan too big at first, and focus on one or two things, at a time. I began to Understand the condition I had and learned about the triggers, should I feel like I am having relapse, and learning about different mental health conditions. I did this by doing some free courses, and they have helped me, with these blogs, because I love to learn and educate myself. It is a great way to rebuild your life. I did some painting which I haven’t done in years and started walking again. Walking small distances, and exploring new places, getting back into writing books, and exercise is good for recovery as it does give you, good energy and it helps me to listen to my body that can help with my mind, by retuning positive feelings.
Healing relationships by forgiving and forgetting, and addressing the causes. Make a plan to see your friends again and spend time with family, and have them help you in recovery, You don’t have to go through recovery on your own.
Having a good sort out on things that you want to let go off and make plan to do this. Again get help. My mum helped me when I came out of hospital, and recently done a declutter, and doing this regularly can help the feelings of being overcrowded with stuff.
I am in a good place now and feel like my life is taking shape. There are still so much I wish to do, but taking it one step at a time.
Remember I do have books available on happiness and wellnesses, along with fictional books. You can find these on amazon, under the names, Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes.
I have always wanted to make the most of my life and build it step by step to have a good life. This has never changed and never thought that I would be doing what I do now, and that is writing and creating books, making videos on Youtube and writing blogs.
There was no such thing as a kid born in the late 70’s and so seeing the opportunities we have now I am now getting excited about life. I have a son that has shaped my life. Life hasn’t been a piece of cake, there have been some difficult times like my dad getting badly hurt when I was secondary school and sustained a very bad head injury and then being there when my grandparents died. These things that have happened has made me see how life is so precious and you have to make the most of everyday.
First of all make a list, set some goals you know you can achieve and start changing your life. I always new I wanted to be a mum one day and it happened unexpectantly, and didn’t always get it right and still don’t but seeing this little human grow has been one of the best dreams I have ever had that has come true and it has changed my perspective of life even further, by seeing the world through his eyes, and life doesn’t have to be difficult it is changing the way you look at things. I no longer multi task and do one thing at a time, and not having any sense of fear but life is about trial and error.
When achieving the dreams, accept challenges along the way, that is how we grown and when we do achieve our dreams it is so fulfilling.
Please check out books on amazon.co.uk as I have written many EBooks, on parenting, wellness and changing your life. I write under the names of Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes.
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So we are now heading towards the end of May and so far I have seen progress in things in my life, like I have built up my Youtube channels, I have more follows and likes for my blog posts and that means the world to me. I feel things are taking shape in terms of managing my finances, staying on track with exercise and keeping track of my son school events and helping him with his learning, as I was finding it hard to stay on track in these areas, this is helping me to see what other areas of my life I want to sort out and accomplish this year. I want to get my next book finished so I can get my Christmas book started, along with other tasks.
I want to continue this life coaching programme and really hope you enjoy this year’s posts and videos I have put up on my main channel: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal I have a weekend in a life to edit and put up and at the moment filming a week in a life.
I wanted to go out and meet with friends again,and so going to see some friends I made when I worked at Butlins, which is a holiday camp, again was brilliant and planning to do this again. Last weekend we went to a festival which I love. It was called Pub in the Park and many people with families went and want to do more just like that, and really looking forward to the Summer, and this week it is half term and got some birthdays next week, and life for me is about having as much time with my son Henry as possible and having different experiences, taking my time and getting out, enjoying what is around me and making time for myself.
Then there are courses I want to finish and want to get back in creating my own again.
So what are your plans? What do you want out of this year?
Take some time to decide if you haven’t already and don’t worry how big it is and when you want to do it, how long will it realistically take.
I wanted to do another charity walk and run, but I keep getting a pain in one of my legs, and so decided that I will continue to do walking along with running, to take part in these events again next year, but just want to build the strength in my legs again to do so.
Perhaps you are worried about going it alone and that you’d like to have someone else on board and they to want the same in their lives like you. Why not do it together as some people feel better in a group. It was good to do walks with others raising money together for charity. The ambition I had in doing the Great North Run was because I went out with friends and got talking to their friends, and said we’d do it together, but then they backed out, so went it alone but in doing that half a marathon saw many doing it as a group.
What do you envision? And who do you want to be in your life? What relationships do you want to be better and where do you see your life? What do you want to feel? Who is there?
I want to see different places this summer in the UK as Henry loves trains so would like to take him on trips, but of course if there may be industrial action on the trains means using other ways to travel, but still going to see if this is possible, and doing more work either in Childcare or Healthcare.
What do you not want to do this year? What areas do you want to change and make it better? What would you like to spend more time doing? It could be learning a new skill, well there are Adult Community colleges, and I did a few in writing, dancing and cake making as I wanted to make my son his first birthday cake, and dancing.
There are many online courses you can do. I am doing a life coaching course, enrolled in doing a psychology course and will help me towards learning about Child Psychology and want to do another writing course to help me and why not if you have always wanted to, write a book. Check out Youtube as there is a lot of training on doing this on there, along with many different things. I did a video on my other Youtube channel about how Youtube has saved me money: https://youtu.be/tBR1rN3Ti_8 there is a lot of training you can do for free.
If you want to have more holidays,but you have a tight budget. There are hostels you can stay in and I found booking the hotel and flights separately can save you a lot. I booked a brilliant hotel when I last went to Florida via Booklings.com and then booked flights and you don’t always have to pay for the hotel when you book, using Bookings.com.
Yes I had to save, but it is possible and check last minute deals. So your dreams can happen by asking and planning what you want out of this year.
Remember you can keep informed of my blogs on this site if you follow me and please like, as this helps me to know what to write about Let me know by writing in the comments below of what you want out of 2023.
Lets work together to build our dreams and enjoy life.
When I worked at a Holiday Camp back in 2002 to 2005 was told when working in the Residential Catering Department working with the chefs, that a sandwich should taste good from the first bite to the last and life for me should be like that too. How you feel when you wake up can affect you when you go to bed, whether it has been a good day or bad day.
Routine: I live by a routine and one day a week I will go for a run, or do a workout indoors or later in the day by using a Crosstrainer and has made a massive difference and had reminded me of how much I have missed it and exercise in the morning really wakes me up. There are days when I don’t because I need that balance, but I make sure, if I don’t workout indoors or running I at least do some walking. Each day I have to have my first cup of tea and some breakfast. I make my bed except Saturdays because I am out with my son and wants to play as soon as it he gets up, I know say it “It shouldn’t make a difference and can save play until I have made the beds” This will be changing. I don’t feel right too if I don’t have a coffee at least one and make sure I hydrate throughout the day. Very important to me. I do have a bedtime routine too, whereby I will plan the next day using my diary I keep on my desk, my Reminder APP on my phone and on OneNote. Then I will take my medication that helps me sleep and then read, and if my mind is starting to come active again, and I do have a overactive mind, usually at bed time, I will get up like this evening and empty my mind, onto paper or on a blog, before the idea goes out of brain and forgotten by morning.
Rhythm : I have to have a good rhythm, to push down anxiousness I feel growing inside me each day and that I have quiet time aswell being super productive and have that time to myself. On Sundays I love getting outdoors with my son and go for a long walk and he will count the door numbers as we walk and enjoy the fresh air and love the peace, especially when we walk along the river. It is so nice to just let our feet travel while we take in what is around us. We will look at the different wildlife we see, like the birds, squirrels and ducks and watch trains as they go passed and just enjoying our surroundings.
Family time: It is good to spend time with family and so we all today as I continue to write this blog spent time watching the Rugby o the TV, along with a nice roast dinner and when my son goes home, which this week he is staying with me, but will make sure I have tidied up. I am still going to do this but when my son is at a school holiday club and going to do a total reset this week whilst he is there and doing a reset. THIS WILL BE FILMED!
Food: I know, I have already talked about this one, but having a good meal in the morning, through to the evening really good to fuel and I love dinners and is my favourite meal of the day and so make sure I am hungry to have dinner and am thankful that I don’t have to cook each day as I live with my Mum and step dad, but if they are out then I will buy food for myself, and try to use what is already indoors that I can have. I love leftovers so I do take advantage, and never rush but eat making sure I food is properly digested.
So how do you like to start the day and end it? You can leave a comment below.
Hello, here is my new Newsletter for June 2022, it talks about the Platinum Jubilee and what is to come now we are in Summer and is free to view and about my Life Coaching programme “Summer Project 2022”.
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Hello and welcome! Thank you for the follows and the likes of my blog it really means the world to me. In this post I am talking about The Power of the mind/Looking after your wellbeing.
All our minds are our own and taking charge of your mind is the key to unlocking the endphorines that come with The Power of the mind.
What do I mean?
Well, it is controlling the inner critic and having the positive critic heard more than the one that says “No work today lets sit around all day”, then you feel “I’ve wasted the day and now I feel like I have accomplished nothing”.
Does this sound familiar?
So listen to the inner critic and ask it “If I listen to you how will I feel if I don’t wash my car or take a shower that day?”
Am I gonna feel good, bored or frustrated by the fact the car is still dirty and I feel clammy?
When I was getting up and then going back to bed for an extra snooze I would wake up about 12 and then feel I had lost part of the day, yet now I wake up early and start writing blogs, creating books and other tasks I have, I now feel I have more energy to work on, and then everything else fits into the day too.
Our minds work like a train station, where we start at one platform and place and then once we have completed those tasks and routine of our morning move to the next platform and station. We run by blood, water and bone, and when we run out of steam we can delay our work and proscrinate. We can avoid tasks as we see them as a huge problem and a burden and feel pressure because if we don’t it delays the other tasks we want to do.
Take your time with tasks and block them in the day and the more challenging the task reward yourself so next time we do something we have to do but don’t like we have an incentive to complete it to then move to the next station and do the things we love again.
The more difficult the task the bigger the reward.
It helps to look after yourself and stop neglecting your wellness because we need to let people hop on so we can then move for the second party of the journey and reach the final destination.
I talk about goal setting a lot and when we give ourselves too much to do it can make us more pressured and ends up delaying part of our jobs to move onto the next stop.
When you give yourself just 5 things perlist it eases the pressure and furthers our wellbeing. We aren’t robots but humans and so we need to for our wellness by kinder to ourselves, check out this video where I share the ways in which I do will be doing that: How should we be kinder to ourselves. It is important we give ourselves slack, as we aren’t made to multi-task but me focussed on one thing at a time.
Our minds can get clogged up and so anything you can jot down to schedule do so and then go through the wants to the haves and then circle a few and the less to do’s the more goals we can set.
Look after yourself and give yourself some credit rather than piling on the amount of things to do and enjoy life more.
We aren’t put on this planet to work ourselves to the bone but with balance and stability we can do more by giving ourselves less.
Everyone can build a castle 