Category Archives: Personal care

Autumn Reset: Keeping track of tasks and feeling behind

21 Thursday Sep 2023

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So when it comes to doing a reset there are times like today where I have been trying to upload my weekly vlog for my main Youtube channel and it is not uploading so having tried all morning hopefully it will finally save, to be uploaded.

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Rather than getting stressed over I took a break and re edited and cut it down and will then upload on Youtube and then work on editing my book for today and check tomorrow as I have joined a walking group and was supposed to it today, and went but couldn’t find the meeting point, so I still did some walking and going to go there tomorrow to find it for next time. I yesterday prepped for that, but I didn’t do some of my coaching course. If I haven’t managed to do the tasks I planned for the day I am not going to stress and do it the next day.

I will make notes as I go through the day of other things I want to get done, and make sure I get plenty of relaxation too. Rest is just as important aswell as getting tasks done, and so it is prioritizing and being flexible about getting tasks completed, as other things may crop up, like Tuesday, I had to make changes to what my son has for lunch at his school, because he wasn’t keen on the dessert I had selected, and so there will be times that the tasks you had planned get push aside, that is life, and the worst thing is to stress about it.

So you have to put things off, it happens, this doesn’t mean it can’t be done, it just means rescheduling and moving things around. We can’t be everything to everyone, we are only one person and if someone wants to help with something, to help you complete a task, then accept.

Check out my last weekly vlog I was trying to upload, this took me all day yesterday to upload it, hence why wrote this blog, and may motivate you to have a reset and declutter: https://youtu.be/yAC1ewpoja0

It meant I couldn’t edit my book, as from the time my son goes to school and comes back, it seems to fly by and so was putting dinner together to get this video uploaded and published it this morning, so check it out above.

Let me know how you are getting this Autumn Reset, I want us to inspire and help each other. All comments can be left below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Self care and development: Personal Growth

08 Friday Sep 2023

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So this years Summer Project is nearly over and have one last blog to share. I really hope you gained something from it, and please in the comments below, give me your feedback as it really helps me grow my blogs and that you keep on liking these blogs and subscribe, and you will be alerted everytime I publish a new blog.

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Self care and development is what is is all about, and making sure you put yourself first on some days and have a life you are happy with. Of course there are events that are beyond our control, like a loss of someone and something, but having resilience and determination, you can rebuild your life to be better and listen to your feelings, and address them.

Taking time out from everyday life and having new experiences and meeting new people, to build new relationships and making existing relationships stronger than ever, and being with people who will listen to you aswell as listening to them.

See that you deserve a happy life and you are worth the things in your life, and the relationships. You should treat yourself and make deals with yourself as I find rewarding helps me to get things done, and not procrastinate and taking my time, and taking it easy.

Life isn’t about rushing around, but having peace and if you can’t be bothered then it could be that you are doing too much and need to reevaluate your life and making changes, so you feel excited and not crawling through tasks, but will give you good results. Also taking a break and getting rest, so you properly recharge and feel full of energy to have a good life that you love.

Soon I will be starting my Autumn reset and so once I do my final blog then my Autumn Reset will begin and so a lot more content to come.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Having a good system that can lead to building the life you deserve: Make your life your own

04 Monday Sep 2023

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Today I spent time celebrating my nieces birthday. She turned 16 and I remember at that age I had enough of education and so once I did sixth form, it was time to find work. I was never ever going to university, because I just don’t have the concentration spam to do higher education.

So I started to do stewarding at Fulham Football club and did work experience working with the groundsman and I loved it. This was before you had the internet and so used the Yellow pages to help me find work and back then they had Career Offices and even though the Careers Man wasn’t exactly the politest I managed to find my first full time job in a Marketing company.

The work I have done I have found myself and it was working where I found my feet and way into the world. It was a lifestyle that worked for me, and seeing kids at that time going to school I was glad that school life was over, and began to socialise a lot and met up with friends, and got a buzz from the working life.

You have to get yourself out there and yes it can take time to find a life that you are happy with, but when you find it, it feels like a massive weight off your shoulders. I am not a millionaire, but I have my son, a roof over my head and family. I know there are people that don’t have that, and when I think that, it makes me more happy with my life, and thankful. I have good health and can walk and run, and hands that can write and a body that I can finally say, I am happy with.

Give yourself credit and take time in finding yourself. I would question why I am here? Why was I put into this world? And for me is to help others and to be a good mum to my son. Being a good daughter and niece, and Aunt and help others to live their lives that they can get up for and not feel down and alone.

Keep growing and building your knowledge. Even though I didn’t go to university, I have done short courses and learned a lot. I am doing some other courses online, on a course site, called, Ofcourse and I love to build my knowledge and skills. There are more I’d like to do, and I do have a Youtube Educational Channel, and check out TED Talk and Using Youtube. I also use Youtube to help me with my writing and building my knowledge to build books and getting writing tips, and have published a lot of EBooks, Books on parenting and happiness and well being. Check out amazon under the names, Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes and Carrie Holmes.

Map it out. I have written about this in my books and is a good way to plan what you want to do and turn your life around, and do it as you keep growing. It helps to work towards building a life that you are happy with and gives me direction and use it to plan what projects I want to do next/

Learn a new skill. I suppose this relates to Keep growing and building your knowledge, but you can teach yourself too if you don’t want to do a course. If you want to be able to cook, buy a recipe book or look online and there are loads to choose from. Its about what works for you, and what will make a difference to how you feel about your life. Check out Women and Home Magazine. They have stories of people who have done this and started as a hobby into a livelihood, and I get so inspired by reading them.

There is space for you. Just because someone else has done it, doesn’t mean you can’t do it too. Never compare, use it to learn, to help you to be find you path into what somebody has done and put your stamp on it. There is a video by Mel Robbins, who talks about Jealousy and envy check it out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdYfAc3mMnQ&t=34s

So I hope this blog helps you and have belief in yourself developing self belief

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023″Is it good to cry/Dealing with Trauma: Taking one day at a time

24 Thursday Aug 2023

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When my son was born premature it really scared me and didn’t have any idea of what was going to happen next. I had no inkling that Henry was going to be born early and I shut down any thinking of the future, and I am a planner. The evening my waters broke I was going through my diary of how many weeks I had to go and that evening i went to hospital and then on the Monday of being in hospital from the Saturday, my son was born, and I never felt so frightened in my life and if my son was going to be okay.

I love taking pictures of London and good way of helping trauma that has helped me, is taking pictures and people I love.

Yes having a child is a miracle and I did want children but it was the shock, that made me shut down and for once was not worrying about what was going to happen tomorrow.

I cried a lot. Taking one day at a time I just concentrated on doing what I could to feed Henry my milk and readjusting, when I could visit my son in hospital I did and helped with feeding, having cuddles and changing him, and take it step by step.

For me that is the best way, and just taking it slow.

Life has a way of surprising us, so it is important to live each day at a time. Yes I am into goal setting, but I do set goals daily as they arise and try not to worry about tomorrow all of the time. My Keyworkers, when my mental health wasn’t good, both said to take each day at a time, and is about getting back to recovery state so enjoy the days with my son, and rebuilding relationships that were on the brink of falling apart and concentrate on my health and on my environment. Getting back to doing the things I love, like blog writing, going for walks and spending time with my son.

I hope these blogs help you and lets support one another.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching programme “Summer Project 2023” Is it good to cry/How to heal after trauma: Tips and Getting Support

23 Wednesday Aug 2023

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A good cry can do wonders, yet many say it is a sign of weakness which I do not believe. If you have had trauma in your life it can take a long time to heal, and everyone bodies way of grieving is personal to them, and the words that get me is when someone says “Cheer up”, because it is more than having a bad day, it can be the hardest thing we’ve ever faced.

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Trauma can happen at any time and really knock us off our feet, and so often a person needs space and given comfort and compassion, and support to help recover.

Find someone who will truly listen to you, without making judgement but will just take in what you are telling them and help you make sense of it. Also writing, this has always helped me and when my Dad was badly hurt and was in hospital for a while, it was spending time playing out with my friends, and was looked after by my grandparents and neighbours in the housing estate I used to live. I will always be grateful for that, because I remember feeling some confusing and tried to lower the trauma I was facing at that time, by playing out, it helped take my mind away with what was happening.

Allow yourself to feel and if you need a bit of space then let people around you know and have that time to just feel and think, and when my son was born, which was early, at 31 weeks, I couldn’t see him for the first week as I had a viral infection, and it broke my heart, so took time to rest to recover, as it was a traumatic birth and so got as much rest as I could get, but even sitting some where like near a pond or the sea, if possible, it can help with being peaceful and calming, and can do wonders in dealing with your feelings.

If you feel you need medical help then talk to the doctor and don’t get fogged off, they are there to help you and can put you in touch with the Mental Health teams in your area, I was supported by Surrey Mental Health team and then the Merton Mental health team. They have many thing that they can help you with. like, putting you in contact with a Career Specialist, that they put me in contact with when I was ready to work outside again , and with my finances and free courses, in the fields I have been interested in, and there is a Recovery College which do free courses, and will continue to help you as you recover.

So, I hope these blogs are helping you and if you’d like to be updated when I post a blog on this site then press the Subscribe button on the top left of this site.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” What you currently love: Practicing Gratitude

21 Monday Aug 2023

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When we feel low it often feels like we are falling down a hole and that there is nothing to enjoy and feel like hiding away. Start by going through your home that gives you comfort. For me right now I love sitting in front of my desk, listening to a video and writing this blog. I love sharing and helping you, and since I began this blog so much of my life has changed.

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I am not going to force you to be thankful, because I have no knowledge of your life, but give tips, and so when I began to change my life, was when I had put on loads of weight and took up running. It was tough and I could have easily given up. I kept going, and went running along he seafront early in the morning so noone would see me, and with each run, my feelings towards my life, got better.

Now I enjoy walking, and I discovered my love from walking through running and so began to be thankful I had legs that can run or walk. You may be different, but finding a skill you didn’t know you had, can change that, and will help you to be thankful and there is a reason you are still here, and developing new relationships and visiting new places.

Moving away from home and following dreams to work in a holiday camp, I started to question my decision on deciding to do this, and was home sick for the first 3 weeks, but as I kept on getting used to living and working there, I began to enjoy being away and was grateful for this experience and met my husband and for while I was happy, this was before I began to feel low that I wrote about at the beginning of this blog.

There will always be bumps in the road in our life, but you can change it to be able to practice gratitude and has to begin right now, because if you are unhappy, with your life currently, it is time to make changes and enjoy life, to then be grateful.

When I became a parent I felt overwhelmed, and love my son, but felt like I had no idea of what to do, and kept feeling I was doing something wrong,, but watching him grow and becoming his own person, it has made me thankful that I am his mum and he is, my child and never thought I’d feel love like it. When he comes to have cuddles, it destroys my negative thoughts, as a parent and thankful for being able to grow this human being that I helped to create. I love at the moment playing football, with him and with his balloon. The other day we created a game with his balloon and so grateful for being able to play and create games to have fun and play.

I had really bad mental health illness, psychosis and it took me a lot to get back on my feet and recover, but with the help of my parents and mental health teams in Surrey and Merton, I am now recovered and can stand on my own two feet again, and thankful to my family and to my keyworkers, and the hospitals I stayed in, that helped me in this dark time I experienced.

So, as you build your life you will, hand on heart, start to see your life differently and who are thankful for you too.

Many thanks for reading

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Mind Management: What is important to you right now?

15 Tuesday Aug 2023

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This is something I journaled when away near the south coast of Britain in a caravan and is important to me because I do go back to the passed in my thoughts and of the future, but in order to plan for the future you have to live each day and be present, rather in a dream world all of the time.

So when I wrote this, it was to enjoy myself with my husband and son, and seeing friends and were friends who hadn’t met our son, and being present helped I feel, have a good weekend.

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Write it out and I have just did a new page of my journal, to what I want to do right now and helping me to slow down and focus on one task at a time.

It helps me to prioritize, so I have laundry to sort out so going to, once written this blog, go and check to see if my clothes are dry and put another load on. I have an telephone appointment and so need to prepare for that and having breaks in between and not feel overloaded with stuff to do.

It helps manage the mind to prevent burn out, and not being stuck in one place all day, as this can effect concentration and our feelings along with our thoughts

So lets keep building and keep living.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023″Powerful Living: Have your coffee and enjoy it

13 Sunday Aug 2023

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I listen to experts about coffee, is it good or bad for you? I say if you like your daily coffee then have one. I enjoy my coffee each day and helps me through the day, I don’t always buy coffee from the coffee shop and have instant, because I enjoy having my coffee and will not sacrifice this, in anyway.

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Researching coffee, it was said that it can cause anxiety, but someone who never for a long time drunk coffee, it was in my adulthood, had anxiety before I got into drinking coffee and It doesn’t trigger it at all. In fact I am a lot calmer now and yes I am on medication for my anxiety, but having a coffee helps my energy levels and I like to make the most of each sip, so if you like coffee then have one, and enjoy.

When I have appointments I like to have a coffee before or after, and use it to help me write and just good to be out of four walls. I like walking with a coffee and be out in the fresh air, and if you like this too, then enjoy.

When going out with my son Henry along with his dad, we’ll have a coffee and a chat. I couldn’t drink coffee all day, but like to have 2 cups early in the day, and is a ritual to me. Cold coffees never appealed to me, but now I actually love treating myself with a cold one, and sitting in the park and reading a good book.

I know with the weather it has been cold for a cold brew, but when it has been hot, I have made the most of it.

I wrote a blog like this one one of my google blogspot blogs:

https://mystylewayofliving.blogspot.com/2023/02/nothings-better-than-brew.html

I remember watching Vearn Cotton in one of her podcasts called Happy Place said that she loves her coffee in the morning , and not going to give it up. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCw0wGD–N6e1y5BO15NXAVg

It helps with my concentration and with being productive, and waking me up as it can take a while for me in the mornings to wake up, and helps kick start my day.

So if you want a coffee then have one., and why not check out my book, Mum&Me, great to read whilst relaxing in sun with a coffee: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mum-Me-Gucci-Tits-Virtue-ebook/dp/B0BGSS7H9K/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=mum+%26+me+carrie+holmes&qid=1691956634&s=books&sprefix=Mum%26Me+%2Cstripbooks%2C82&sr=1-1

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Effective Living: Being super productive

31 Monday Jul 2023

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Today after being away at the weekend did a tidy of my bedroom, took Henry on a bus ride and on the train and then came back and sorted out my clothes that I had been meaning to do and tomorrow going to continue.

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>It does mean having a good amount of sleep and relaxing properly so you can start each day fresh faced.

>It means taking time to have some self care so I had a shower and washed my face, hair and body.

>It means taking time out from being on my phone and being present and having a good daily routine

>This weekend away I journaled which I hadn’t done for a while and drafting for videos I want to film and blogs I want to write

>Making time to visit and meet with friends, having a night out doing something different that you don’t always get to do, and went to social club this weekend away where they were playing Bingo

>We walked along the seaside and had fish ‘n’ Chips and went to a pub we hadn’t never been to before and had a climbing frame for kids

>I caught up on my steps I like to do each week and went swimming with my son and my husband. something we rarely do together, it was such a shame that on that it was windy and rainy

>I did some laundry and unpacked from being away this weekend

>I did some reading and had a cooked breakfast which is very rare these days

>Now I am catching up on posting my blogs, whilst I watch a live video

>Started to go through my finances that I like to do each week

>Tomorrow I will be getting my son ready as he is going to a holiday club and getting myself ready for the day and got to have a blood test and catch up on editing my book I am writing and dusting my bedroom.

I like having things to do because it helps to manage my mind and not wasting my days and getting as much out of them as possible.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Effective Living: Looking after yourself body and mind

23 Sunday Jul 2023

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So yes Effective living is creating time that helps you to have peace and tranquility and putting yourself first for once and for me that is reading a book. watching some Youtube or TV or some music and be completely relaxed.

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Even exercise can be a great way to unwind, I take time doing an indoor workout, and in Epsom there is a Treadmill and I do 10 minutes of walking on there, and exercising whilst dinner is cooking, that is what I did yesterday whilst putting dinner together, thanks to my step dad who gave us leftover Bolognaise sauce and even gave me some spaghetti and was a lovely meal to have on a busy day. And having a meal with family can be relaxing and a good way to look after yourself. I love a proper home cooked meal and was a real treat.

Having a time to have a bath can be tricky when it comes to life, but yesterday my son was in the bath and decided as he was finishing I’d jump in the bath and made a nice change and was relaxing and it can really help with getting a good nights sleep which is so important.

I do eliminate the amount of time I spend with my phone and each night I will put it on silent and away from my bedside, and I stop myself in using it first thing in the morning and only thing I will put on in the week, is the alarm but have the sound turned off.

Then it is the mornings. With my son it is all systems go and my son has so much energy I find that I have to be wide awake which I struggle with. He gets me out of bed and I do what I did as a kid when my mum would wake me up , and that is sink down into my bed as further down as possible and hopefully be left alone and forgotten about.

The one thing I do enjoy is going for morning walks. Check out my Week in a life videos on Youtube as I have filmed doing the walks that me and my son do and on my Instagram, (check out links below) and so good to just me and him in the sunshine when there is any, and we did this today, and it is so nice to be outdoors first thing in the summer time and I feel so good during and afterwards and sets my weekend mornings up and later in the day too.

Link to Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

My Instagram is: https://www.instagram.com/typicallondongal/

Hearing the birds singing and being near water helps me feel peaceful. Next weekend we are off to the seaside and see some friends we don’t get to always see and they haven’t our son yet so will be nice to finally meet up so they can. and so just being in a different environment seeing different people can be a good way to look after yourself.

It just about what gives you a good peace of mind and properly relax and be free for a bit of time.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X