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Body and Mind: Letting things go by changing your thoughts of Jealousy and resentment of others.

26 Tuesday Nov 2024

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We all have pressures in our lives or we have the same battles and arguments that have ended into saying hurtful things, lashing out, leading to the same feelings of hatred and bitterness. If it’s going to cause you unhappiness and then have your say, keeping it Civil and then hear there’s and leave it as a difference of opinion and move on. Often it isn’t actually a personal attack it can be that they have noone else to talk to about it and anger is often meaning that they are scared, not actually that they are confident and strong.

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I have been jealous of friends and family to the point I’d feel low about myself and that I am never going to be good enough, but that has not been the case and so I had to do a lot of work on that and watched a Mel Robbins video about being Envious and Jealousy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RS_Lu5IIFBI

She says that we feel this way because we feel that the person your jealous of has robbed you in having success in your life to have the same dreams come true and to turn it around and yes I would feel like “What is wrong with me?” and “I am never going to get that dream because they’ve taken it”.

It can make you feel resentful and looking at the way they talk, walk and gain success in their life, which leads us thinking we belong in the audience but not the stage. If it is making you not eat, sleep or go out, then it is time to look at yourself and why they are where they are, because they’re not bothered. Your bothered but you needn’t be because they not losing sleep over you, so use it to make you determined and find your spotlight by giving yourself time to focus on you and can often mean that there is a different stage for you and not feeling that you have lost out. Everyone in this world deserves to be happy so work on letting your negative feelings go to be happy and proud of your life no matter what some else has been doing to have a success career and that your never going to compete. I use others success to make me hungry of succeeding accomplishing my goals to have a life I dream of and that meant stepping back and working on my Mental Health and bring up my son and help him with his development and things he’d like to do.

I am all about working together and encouraging others to be happy with their lives. Be the person you want to be, as long as there is no bad intentions but that is good and not feel that we are never going to change and that we will miss out because of someone else’s success. So let it go.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Weekly Cheat Sheet: Acts of Kindness

29 Monday Jul 2024

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I thought of this cheat sheet this week by doing my monthly shop where I by bits for the local food bank in Wimbledon/Merton to give back and also because my step dad helps an elderly lady and it is so rewarding to help others and we should all be working together for no more war, hunger and seeing families struggle to put food on the table.

These are tips on how you can do different acts of kindness if you know people that on their own and just need to see someone who wants to give them some company each day or week, but brightens up their day and not left all alone.

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These are completely free to download and print and let me know your feedback on them and if there are other printables you’d find useful based on the content on this blog site and I do have many and do post a lot on my Pinterest and my social media platforms too:

https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

https://www.youtube.com/@financialliving

https://www.youtube.com/@CarrieEducationalYoutube-ws4xp

Blogs:

https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/

https://carriesversatilefashion.com/

https://sportsandfitnesspassion.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

mybooksandstories.wordpress.com

https://mystylewayofliving.blogspot.com

https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/

https://organize4thebetter.blogspot.com

https://thestylishmamma.blogspot.com/

https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/

https://getfitgetactivewithme.blogspot.com/

Link for my Pinterest:

Social media:

https://www.instagram.com/typicallondongal/

https://www.facebook.com/typicallondongal/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Turning my feelings around and being happy with your life and yourself

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My life has not been pain sailing, like us all, there has been ups and downs and when my mum or dad told me off I would be like, it was the end of the world and that I am right and they’re wrong, and so unfair, and would envy my brother, because he is super confident, and girls running after him, whilst I sat on a bench at school by myself.

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I have had to really work on my self. I could get jealous, bitter and self centered, like “How have they earned that?”, “Oh they are showing off and trying to be super popular”, or like when I was a primary school, a girl named Sherie, was so popular and all the boys fancied her, and everyone wanted her company and be friends with her. I felt ugly and envious, that I will never be her, like I wished to be.

My mental health took a turned for the worst, and battled with my feelings for a long time. There were times when I didn’t get out of bed, and would stay in, and now I have been discharged from the Mental Health hospital, so proud of myself that I got through my fight with my mental health and not allowing my inner critic to hold me back and stop feeling that I haven’t had a exciting life compared to others, and that the world is against me.

Here are some questions to ask,

Who do you want to be?

Do you feel unworthy and that you’ll never be as good as someone in your life?

Do you feel that noone understands you?

Writing a journal, can really help address your feelings and what is it that is really bothering you?

For me it was, well if I look like that, like Sherie, then I will be as popular and the kids would want to hang with me, but that wasn’t the case and started to form friends as I gradually went through school, but it took a long time, and would have fights and arguments and was bullied. In the end I was well respected at Primary school. It took the last year to experience that, but that I had come so far, and then wanted to start a fresh beginning, at secondary school.

The feelings didn’t disappear, and got stronger. I now look back it was once again that I wasn’t fitting in, and was told by a girl that I was boring, because I was a fan of a TV show The Bill, and would talk about it a lot, and took it, and glad for her honesty and yes it hurt my feelings, but then she wasn’t perfect and would get on people’s nerves, yet we did have fun together, so I let it go.

With those group of friends, they would be into wrestling and one of my friends did canoeing, and shared our love of music. They were the ones who got me into following a rugby team and when I felt like I couldn’t buy chips in McDonalds they got them for me, and introduced me to rock music and went to concerts together, and made friends at my dancing school, and my confidence began to increase.

I have been unkind, and blocked people, because I was feeling excluded and it really was affecting me, because felt it was a personal attack. Now though I glad that they have done well in their life and now in jobs that are high powered, and looking after themselves.

Our negative feelings can rub off on others. I have been with people who would constantly be complaining. I am lucky for having the people around me that keep the roof over my head and support me in looking after my son, and at the weekend I met up with friends who I met when I was working at a holiday camp, and felt so privileged to be in their company as we had a good catch up, and that we all, trying to build our lives and be happy. I can be awkward and shy still but when you meet people, and makes you feel that you’ve never been apart, the fear instantly goes, your inner critic gets pushed away making you feel that you are worthy and people love you, and stop putting your guard up, and not allow your fears get the better of you, but make you grow and be the person you wished to be, and telling people that you love them, can help you and them. There are a lot of people I love, because they have been a huge importance to my life, and been a great influence. I am kind, I will be on time, and I will make the effort.

When you have been through trauma, it can make you angry, and “Why me?”, “What have I done to deserve it?” and often its nothing, its life, it can be unpredictable. Noone knows what is around the corner for us, and so, talking about growing our happiness, ask yourself, do you want to be unhappy all through your life? I have had to rebuild, and make sense of situations, but often there isn’t an answer. I no longer want my inner critic stop me from going swimming and going for walks, from spending time with my son, and go for opportunities, that can open many doors for me. I no longer want to be counting calories, and worrying about my weight. If biscuits are going to make me feel guilty, then I am not going to eat them, if someone doesn’t say thank you when you open the door for them, because what’s the point, they don’t care and not allow me to have a bad day, but continue to be kind and not allow their ignorance to rub off.

So lets all work together in building and growing our lives, its never too late to be happy and grow your feelings, to feel better about yourself. I do write a blog where I talk about building confidence. Check it out via this link: https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Trying to be like somebody else

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This is a lyric from an Adele song, “I Drink Wine” and from watching a video about That Girl, I for a long time would copy friends because I felt well they’re doing that and feel to meet my own high expectation of myself, had to be like that too.

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Be yourself. Wear clothes that represent you. Cook meals that you like and find your own style. I love clothes and I enjoy putting outfits together, check out my blog carries versatile fashion and getting the most out of them, and yes I do save pins on Pinterest on Fashion, https://www.pinterest.co.uk/thetypicalLondongal/ because I like different looks but that I know I am wearing that outfit because it actually suits me, and not feel I have to wear an outfit to impress someone else.

That’s not me.

I like to put my own stamp on looks that I like and styles that suit me and having fun with clothes and not taking it too seriously and feel free as a bird now when it comes to my self image. I write a blog called Building Self Confidence the Ugly Duckling, and talk about how I struggled with not be happy of the way I looked. I remember saying once, when one of my friends commented on my earrings, “Well because you were wearing earrings” and as soon as I said these words, was like “No don’t say that” and couldn’t come back from it and saw them look at each other, like oh really, and the reason why they were friends was because we all had our own style.

They were more confident than me and seemed to be in jobs that were better than mine and had a lot going for them, whilst I felt inadequate, and they were better than me, and knew more people than me. Which now that is not the case.

I have a lot of friends and going to see some this weekend, and no longer feel that I don’t fit or that I have to be like them, but because I love seeing and hanging out with them, because they are different and feel I got to look a certain way for someone else’s approval.

That is not the case. I have had to learn that noone is out to get me and that feel not good enough because my friends are doing better than me in life and in fact using their success to help me to grow and build my life into one that I like, and accept myself at last.

I like admiring other people and I do have a style icon, Jennifer Aniston, and am influenced, but still remembering her clothes suit her because that is her style and that her body shape and appearance is hers and not mine but can use it to try different looks that potentially suit me and I never going to be Jennifer Aniston. She is her own person, and I am mine, so no longer feel pressure that I have to look a certain way.

Let me know what you think. I like feedback so please leave a comment below. I’d like to take this opportunity to say thank you to my subscribers and welcome if you are new here and please subscribe then you will be alerted each time I post.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Committing to your life by looking after yourself to help others look after theirs.

07 Thursday Dec 2023

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It is coming to the end of 2023 and soon it will be 2024 and it is time to celebrate another year, whether it was good or bad, and there we can’t change whats gone but can start a fresh and let go of regrets and live for each day that you are alive.

I will be setting goals and thinking of the habits I want to continue with, and what I need to change to have more shape in my life and not be so far ahead but enjoy each day the best I can and not thinking all about the future but now. Today I went for a walk and was getting anxious about going and had was having second thoughts, but went and felt so good, and take in my surroundings and check out the shops and managed to buy more gifts and got one more to get, and then I am done, but forget that I need a few things still for my son to buy, but for others, are done for 2023.

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I do like planning and making lists, but as I grow each day and making sure I am present with my son and other friends and family and let go of the passed, and the wins I have had. I would like to take this opportunity in saying thanks to those subscribng to my blogs on this site and others, and on my Youtube and Instagram and my other sociall media platforms.

I wrote a blog post a while back called Letting it go, Autumn Reset Day 11: Letting things go if there are things that serve no purpose in your life anymore, then let it go, to pass it to someone else, who may want it instead.

Your commitement to your life, is about you before helping someone else and thats not being selfish. I need to make sure I am fully rested to spend time with my son and meet his needs and making sure I wake up to see him off to school and when he comes back, and develop my own knowledge of life, to help support his.

I need to manage my personal hygiene, so my son knows how important it is, and help to stay healthy and helps with my confidence to help his, and that I wake up to start the day on a good knote, so my others around me can feel the same. This world is not for one person but for everyone on it, and that I look after stuff to look after my sons stuff. Helping one another through life challenges and that I get back on my feet to set an example for others to follow.

So, make a commitment to manage your life and that you learn to love yourself to love others.

I have created a new video for my Youtube channel My way of living, about Committing to using up what you already have: https://youtu.be/8fj0u2RHyGY

The other thing is I also write a daily blog now, so if you’d like to read more of my content that I write daily then check it out here: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Looking after your Wellbeing Celebrating Christmas

15 Wednesday Nov 2023

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Yes it is time for goodness and spending time with those you love, but it can also be tough for others. There was a time I dreaded Christmas and was a humbug. I was angry about it. Now though since my son has come into my life, love it again and looking forward to it

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  1. Delegate: If you are worrying about hosting Christmas and it is your first time, then delegate duties, example have someone cook, and you concentrate on decorating and get your kids involved, depending on their age, and have those in your family contribute to it, by having those coming bring some wine and other bits of food, so it is not all landed on you.
  2. Budget: Yes I will be talking more about this on my channel My way of living and helping you not to over spend and what you can realistically afford. At the end of the day it is a day to bring people together and not on things you can’t afford.
  3. start buying groceries and treats, like chocolates before the prices increase. ASDA do some offers and I also like checking out M&S and Sainsbury’s, so take note, and have a folder to help plan and that is a good budget that fits into your lifestyle and you don’t leave yourself out of pocket, because of Christmas.
  4. Family feuds: Yes, not all families feel good to share Christmas if there is a fued and you don’t want it to escalate, by not including them into your plans, so set it out that you get to see some family on Christmas and the other family on boxing day and swap it round, so they don’t miss out and neither do you. Do the same for the new year, so you can still include all those in your life and noone ends up on their own.
  5. Music: Put on those records and create a playlist using Youtube or iTunes. I love having a good selection of music, that brings back those you have lost and miss over Christmas and creates a good atmosphere and have a Christmas party, with a Christmas Buffet and again have people bring food and drink and play games that everyone can join in. I love playing games a Christmas and always been such good fun. That helps if you have troubles and forget them for one day, and helps create a good setting so people feel good and relaxed.
  6. Drinking: The one tradition we did as a family was we’d go to my nans and my dad and uncles would go to the pub. It can be a great atmosphere. If someone over drinks then make sure you set out some rules beforehand and that people can get merry but doesn’t lead to bad behaviour that turns into a fued.

I have created a printable for parents and included it into my parenting blog: https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.com

So I hope this helps you and I will be doing more as we head towards Christmas and don’t feel alone in the worries and stress, Christmas can bring, as many like me feel the same, and just want to be a good day of cheer and love.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

When you see your life taking shape

12 Sunday Nov 2023

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When you see that you no longer fearing life, and that you feel good each day and able to shake off the anxiousness, you have turned a corner and that your life is taking shape, perhaps with surprises but I feel that I am enjoying the days and feel positive no matter the challenges that come my way.

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Getting out and exploring has helped and having time with my son and family, along with making the most of the weekends, rather than doing nothing, has helped me be more present that has helped me get some shape in my life.

Really dig deep into what you want out of life and who you want to spend it with. Have new experiences. I want to do some more courses via Adult Community colleges to help, aswell as doing some online, and really learn about the mind and body more, to help build awareness, when it comes to happiness and wellbeing, and how our minds operate.

Yes it helps us to think and feel, but look into why we feel up and down a lot. Perhaps you feel like you are like a Yoyo. It could be food, and that leads you to feel sluggish a lot and that you want to change but your urges get the better of you, and feeling that you will always be punishing yourself over your diet, and will never change. Yet we all know deep down that we can, its often fear that other foods don’t give you the same joy.

Take each step to improve at having a better diet and allow yourself chocolate but work for it. I will if I have done all I needed to do in the morning for example will then make a coffee, or a treat and not talking just food, but like you would when you child does something good. I stop with the guilt, and as long as I get some exercise will have a treat or two, along with saving myself for my dinner and having a mixture of meals.

I have realised that I enjoy buying food and love mouching around the big stores but also budget, and making different meals. I do like cooking whilst listening to music or an audio book and found my real joys and using it to be happy each day. I also like it when I don’t need to cook, and help with the washing up. like as I write this blog had a lovely roast dinner, made by my husband and today took Henry up London as it was his birthday on Saturday and doing different things and experiences can help.

So make each day count and when you are no longer feel stressed, feel good and that days aren’t hard, and you enjoy life more, means your life is taking shape.

Many thanks for reading.

Carrie X

Going through tough times to getting back on your feet

07 Tuesday Nov 2023

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Life is terbulent and you made the wrong decision. How do you make it right, and can I get back on my feet? I had terrible anxiety at one time over an event that I thought was happening, when it wasn’t and then thought I was being followed and kept having fears that others were being hurt and I was frightened, and that other things were going on, and I hit rock bottom.

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I was scared about my son going to school, and went into hospital and it really helped me. Life was getting too much, and going into hospital finally helped get over it. I am now back on my feet, Making sense of my life and concentrated on looking after my son, writing and getting an income again and get back out in the world and put it all behind me.

You have to move on. It takes time, and just making changes just one change, can really help you to move on and be happy and content, and become resillient and aware of triggers that an cause the anxiety and not feeling in fear and thinking terrible things were going on.

I was very depressed. I felt like the world was against me and was thinking things that wasn’t true and with help of my family, I found myself again and now I am in full recovery, I am no longer having home help, which I received by the Surrey Crissis Intervention team and then Merton Mental Health Intervention team and I am still on medication, but I no longer have to visit every two weeks or so and am back in reality and been doing courses, published another book, Mum&Me on amazon, and been looking for outside work, in healthcare and Childcare and exercising too.

My son and I spend time travelling on trains and walking. I back doing Youtube weekly vlogs, and sit down videos talking about managing my money, and have an educational channel too.

Check these channels here:

https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal

https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602

https://www.youtube.com/@carrieseducationyoutubecha4891

Anyway to get back your feet, live for the now and each day. I don’t want you think that I am boasting, about getting over my Mental Health problems, just showing how I got back on my feet, and this was by making sure I went to my regular hospital appointments and taking their advice, and concerntrating on the things that give me joy and understanding mental health, and using techniques given to me, to help me manage my mind and look after my wellbeing, so I don’t feel scared and that it happened, but now is over, and using what happened, to help me feel stronger than ever, and focusing on the good things I have in my life.

I want to learn about the mind, that I don’t already know and help others to rebuild their life and helping other parents, with understanding a childs mind and new interventions, and trying methods to continue to build my own wellbeing and learn using the free tools given to me, to help stop me from going back down that road. One was traffic light system, so green where it is steady and your in control of your thoughts and feelings, amber that you are in between feeling good or bad and red that you are back to having dark thoughts, following a pattern of negative behaviour and feeling low and scared again.

This is just an example. When it comes to Mental Health, it is unique for each person, but it is following good habits and educating yourself on how to manage your thoughts and feelings, It can really help you get back on your feet. Also learning not to panic and be calm if for example, my fear of losing stuff and just concentrate on finding it and having people help you and not allowing it to affect your wellbeing to take action to find what you have lost and not have sleepness nights.

I am no longer dreading each day, but look forward to what the day will bring, and keeping myself busy and enjoying my days going out and to different environments. Last weekend it was my mums birthday lunch which was a surprise and got to see my cousins again, and friends. It didn’t go smoothly, due to traffic problems and good to have a meal and catchup and would like to do that again, and was good to see those that I don’t always see because my family live in various places and so it is hard to get my whole family together, but seeing those not seen for a long time, reminded me how I have missed those times and enjoyed it, and seeing different faces and visiting new places can help, when it comes to your wellbeing and plan your days so you can have a good day without living in fear of life.

So, first of all:

  • Get help
  • Take action by making step by step changes and habits
  • Learning the triggers that can make you relapse and get support
  • Change your habits and get back into doing things you enjoy and make you feel happy about life
  • Get outdoors and meet up with friends and family
  • Ecucate and learn about your mind and share your story if you feel comfortable to help others and build a community to support each other and get back on your feet

Many thanks for reading.

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Selfcare and development: Summing up and having challenge days

10 Sunday Sep 2023

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My last blog for my yearly Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” and finishes on a high. Today I took my son with his dad to a rugby match and was a good result, but also challenging because my son is moaning a lot at the moment and so it is getting tricky for him to be happy, yet my blogs is all about being happy.

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To grow this channel it is important to me in not cover over the tracks, that I talked about in this blog, that form with life, and I think it is my son saying “that he enjoyed himself and doesn’t want it to end” which I was like as a kid, and used get so upset when it came to the end of a fun day, and didn’t want it to end.

I love the weekends in doing different things that is different from the week and it is important to have things to look forward to and taking time off from everyday living, and exploring different places and enjoying every day and having a life full of happiness.

Noone life is perfect, and that is not being a pessimist, but the truth. There are always unplanned events that happen in our lives as much as we try to stop it, and when like a death of someone happens which can cause trauma, life suddenly changes and not as you knew it.

So you have to allow yourself to recover and be able to grieve that can help to recreate your life, and not get over it, but that it becomes easier to deal with and develop other relationships in your life and make amendments to relationships, and to get your life back to feeling good again and that you are worth the life you want.

Start making those changes, by changing one habit in your life a day and write down what it is you want in your life and what you want your life to look like.

So thank you for those that have liked the blogs in this yearly programme I have created and for the follows, and next it will be my Autumn Reset so, I hope you did all have a good summer and now it is time to embrace the change of season and finish tasks for the new academic year.

Many thanks for reaching,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme “Summer Project 2023” Powerful Living: Habits you learn that can last a lifetime as a parent and at work

07 Monday Aug 2023

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As I write this it is a Saturday night and today I have been booking more things for the UK School Summer holidays as they continue and making the most of the time me and my son have together. Being a parent you begin to change habits. At the beginning of being a parent you are finding your feet and getting to know your child you just gave birth too (I do have two parenting blogs sites: See below).

https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.wordpress.com

https://theparentingadventuresthebirthofmyson.wordpress.com

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You get in the habit of sleeping when the baby sleeps or see if you can get any housework done whilst your new baby is sleeping and going to bed early, finding time to shower and get dressed, but you spend the first month in pyjamas and wearing breast pads and expressing milk and sterilising bottles and feeding and finding time to eat.

When you start a job you have to be in a certain time and make sure your personal hygiene is good and make an impression by following habits that helps you to start the job, like turning getting there early to set up ready to begin so you can get your computer ready or other equipment, following a dress code and checking information and showing the employer of what you can do and they will look at how you dress, your attitude and body language.

The one habit I have always possessed is time management. I believe you have to show your time keeping because of reliability.

  • Can they trust you?
  • What do you do that makes the job a lot more easier to get tasks done in plenty of time?
  • do you work well under pressure? This is something that when looking at a lot of jobs adverts, employers will want to know, as like in a hospital, working in restaurants and in a call centre, which I have worked in along with catering, can be stressful.

The habits I have picked up since becoming a parent and working for many companies can last forever like how to talk, so working on your communicate to make it better that will help you, because when working in a call centre customers wanted compassion, and people want that too outside work, life friends and family, and has taught me how to be organized, by being clean and tidy, and looking after my workplace. I like making a good impression. That is important to me. Not everyone is going to like you, well that’s what I have come to realise but you can change their minds, its spending the time so they get to know you better and you getting to know them. An example when I worked at a holiday camp and working in the residential catering department there was a woman there called Natalie and she didn’t like me at first, at all and didn’t really understand me, and she split up from one of the team leaders, who she was going out with and they split up, and when we went out for the evening off camp, she thought I would laugh at her being that she was really upset. My friend I shared a chalet with, said to her, “She’s not like that” and she began to like me, and then we became friends.

I have learned to listen better, because I was guilty of talking over, someone talking when having a conversation and being interrupting is rude. I hate when having a conversation someone interrupts when you haven’t finished, but for it to change you need to do it before you expect someone else to do the same. I like to listen and take in conversation and pay more attention to what someone is saying as I can get the wrong end of the stick and I get annoyed when having to repeat myself, or when someone is not truly listening to me, so with working in different places it has helped me to have better conversation where I will listen and then when I know when they have finished I will then talk.

Pulling your weight and not waiting for someone else to do it. Yes delegation can help but not when they are doing all the work. To build a good workforce it is important that everyone does their bit. I always worked for my wage when others would be doing all they can to do less. It is not a competition, but a good work place is where everyone knows what they need and gets it done and if someone is finding some tricky, that you help them and when working in a holiday camp once I had finished my bay when I was front of house, I would go over to help someone else’s bay.

I do this now when it comes to tasks at home I will clean and tidy my room, I will help clean the landing and when having dinner I will help to wash the dishes and keep the kitchen clean.

When it comes to look after my son, I will make his breakfast, take him to do different activities and give him a bath and ready for school and making him his dinner. Being a parent it is important, where me and his dad work together to help with his development and learning. I make sure that I expand my learning as a parent along with my husband.

Planning and preparation. As said organisation is the key to getting stuff done and completed, but its finding a plan that works to prepare for each day, and being a mum I have to make sure that I keep an inventory of food for Henrys to eat each day, has clothes out ready so he can get dressed and has his bag packed and that I do his packed lunch or I plan his meas for school, as he has school dinners and that I make sure there is food for dinner.

Each day I will have my list of the tasks I want to get done on that day and week, and make the beds and got my clothes ready for the day, and at what blogs I want to post and videos I want to film and when I want to check and make time to go through my emails and plan my writing of my next book.

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Before having a baby you have to pack a bag ready as it is getting nearer to the due date and if you want to do anti-natal classes and have items for after the baby is born and find a routine so you get enough rest and recover, and when to feed your new born baby and spending time to adjust to this massive change to our life.

So use the skills you already possess along with the habits that has taught you so much, and live for each day and spend time going the skills parenting and working can help you now and to help teach others too, to expand and that work around your life.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X