Hello it is time to post a new Cheat Sheet. They are free to download and print and post every Monday accept UK Bank Holidays and this week it is all about the Enjoyments of life.
It can be full of rollercoasters is life and you never know really what is going to happen each day. It is good to do things that help create good days and getting the most out of it, as much as possible.
It is good to go for walks. One of my colleagues on Epsom Hospital Radio does Walking Football and my brother does Walking Rugby. I like to do courses, read books and go for a coffee with my son and Swimming. The little things are just as good as the big things in life and life is about living.
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I was finding it tricky to film for my other Youtube Channels, but in the week I filmed for my channel Financial Living and listening to Henry Winkler when he did a interview once on the TV, said, “If you really want something or do something, you’ll always find a way”.
Yet if you find that you need to hold off from completing one of the areas you wanted to finish, then fine. You can add projects too, I decided because I knew it wouldn’t take long, wanted to go through my emails, to clear it out, so I as part of my Autumn Reset when through my email, get rid of spam. I do subscribe to different things, but before you know it, I’ve ended up having a thousand of emails and it can get out of control. You may find that to complete some tasks, you have to do other tasks. Life is full of challenges and so other things will crop up.
I have also been doing some training to help complete my next book. My son has not got a Secondary School Placement and I love my son, but he wants to go to Secondary school and it has been a real mission. In the meantime I am home schooling and so had to put some bits on hold.
It means adjusting because to my son, I am mum and not a teacher and why when he is at school he gets more out of being in a different environment. We are going out a lot which is a good thing and he goes to clubs at the weekend and because I do a radio show on Sunday’s have to commute and setting time to plan my show ready for Sunday.
I have been using my mornings and in the afternoons. Me and son like to ride on trains and buses, or walking various bus routes. I use that time, when travelling to think about my book, my blogs and chill watching a bit of quizzes in the afternoon. Parenting is a job. I can’t split myself in half so if somethings have to hold. Do things at your own pace and just one change a day, is still getting tasks done.
If you didn’t know I have a new book out it is called Mum&Me. It is available from Amazon, by Kindle and Paperback: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0BGNF4LNF
I also have a Vlog Channel. Taking some time off but I will be filming again in October and share my home life as a mum, writer, coach and Radio presenter: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
Does your past making you feel ashamed? In my life I have not always been kind and had dark thoughts, but I know that this has made me put them to bed as thoughts are what they are and didn’t carry out anything that would have been harmful and often it just I quick thought, in the moment because if I didn’t say anything and been able to see the lighter side of life.
My brother and I never got on as kids. We would argue and fight a lot, but now we are fine. If you constantly feel shameful then what specifically is making you feel that way?
I thought I was being unkind to a girl I work with and apologised and she didn’t have any ideas as to what I was talking about. So, I know longer felt shame and so talk. Let people know how you feel and speak to a psychologist, therapist or a Social Worker, if your thoughts of the past are haunting you and was as bad as what you thought?
Stop giving yourself such a hard time. Everyone has a past. Done the wrong thing or said something that was taken out of context. I remember when working in a Call Centre, one of the new people I spoke to I couldn’t see there face. I thought it was a man. I was chatting about it in the Staff Canteen and she comes over and says “Apparently I sound like a man” and she thought one of us (chatting to some of colleagues) called her a Cow, which we did not and she wanted to hit me, in particular. I felt dreadful and she spoke to one of the managers and I told it was an innocent conversation, and said I am sorry and I did feel ashamed, but it didn’t stop me from talking it made me be more self aware and next time I should have introduced myself and asked who the person was as I not met them and I not into gossiping.
In the end this was resolved she didn’t hit me, I didn’t keep on and the issue was solved, ,so I moved on.
Thinking of the past can drain you and be full of regret and not able to move on, but time has a different idea. Do you want to be happy with who you are? Take it one day at a time and address your feelings. I was so sad when my Nan died. She was my last grandparent and kept forgetting and would have dreams about her still being alive and it really changed a lot. I had a friend who lived by her and so whenever I could would pop in, I did. Suddenly I couldn’t do that anymore.
She would not want me, to not get on my my life. She lived to old age and it was her time.
My parents was getting divorced, I was in a very demanding job, but loved the social life. I then changed jobs but I hated it and it was the wrong move. I then decided I would follow my gut and had to be selfish and do what I felt would lead me to following my dreams. It lead me to a job where, it was a culture shock and what I needed and no longer regret the decisions I made and did what I was hopefully lead me to building a life of my own and it happened.
You never know what path to choose sometimes. It makes me think of a game of chess. What is the right move? Will I need to move my Queen or not? Reflect, write and leave it there. Take a step forward and trust your gut.
When I look back on events now, I loved the people met, good and bad. I like the journeys I have taken and will keep living and not feel ashamed. It happened, noone died so it is time to let the shame go and create more abundance and self belief.
Originally when I wrote this down it was about Body Image, but I now realise it is not just about that. It is all to do with how you treat yourself. This is not treating yourself with a box of chocolates, I mean being verbally kind to yourself and in your mind.
I am in a good place now. I have changed my thoughts of myself and my life in general. There are times in the mornings where I see my hair is all messy, I see unwanted hair growth but also, my room or home is chaotic and have no sense of, Is this it. Is this what my life looks like?
I have just come back from Wimbledon with my mum and step dad and I have case full of clothes, bag full of my notebooks and journals and I have believe it or not I did a declutter. So I am working on it. I will spend time tidying, unpacking and know I can get it back into shipshape.
This is free to download. It is reprogramming your thought patterns. I now make sure I read each day, because it slows me down and feel calm in the mornings now. I will have breakfast and go for morning walk. I do a bit of writing each day. These have really helped with stress and anxiety.
What one thing do you want to change in the mornings?
Write down in the printable or notebook of What is the first thing you in the morning. It used to be, for me get up, watch Youtube and before getting my son ready for school and it became a habit that would not help my day, because I would be lazy. It should have been to get my son ready for school. My son was close by, but had to get my priorities right and me and my husband would argue, because of it and if it were the other way around, I wouldn’t have been happy.
There was a time where I would come home angry. I was working in a Call Center, where people would call in, not happy, because I worked as a technical advisor/call agent and would go home and would bring what happened each day, home.
So are you have a lot of arguments?
Is a job, sleep or a relationship?
Is the food that you eat?
It is making sense of it all and creating a picture of yourself and your life and what do you want out of life?
Who do you spend time with?
I make sure that my son is okay and say good morning to him, have breakfast together, read and make sure my bed and his, is made and that my life is functional and do the things in my life that will help me grow and everyone in my life grow. Checking in on them and make the effort to have a good day, facing challenges but not making them stop me, from living.
Not having too many commitments, but that I have some social interaction and my son does too. I like to have a day off from everything and last Tuesday had a proper lazy day. I still worked on some content but stayed in and it felt so good.
I wish you all the happiness in the world. Life can be joyous and the image of it. Feel good about yourself. I write another google blog site, called Building Self Confidence – The Ugly Duckling: https://buildingselfconfidencetud.blogspot.com/
I really hope you find my Life Coaching Programme helpful and please give me your feedback and what would like to see in my next one.
What is coming up?
My Autumn Reset. Where I will be working on various areas and getting ready for the new season.
It is August 2025 and the last month of this years Summer Project and the it is my Autumn Reset programme and so more to come.
In this blog I talk about How Life Is Full of Lessons.
Shouting: I have found by shouting has made matters worse when my son wouldn’t eat his food and one work place, there was a manager who screamed and shouted a lot and it just made you want to pack your bags and go. I am not saying that I am perfect, it can be the first thing you do but it has made matters worse. Go into another room, stay calm and with my son now, giving him two choices, as soon as I feel like shouting I will take breath and say “You got two choices and if you do not choose I will choose for you. Check out his video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jQs5l6ojlOI&list=PL0AyektQNGDGF_ms_qIrBILXsIM_rTjp_&index=6 I give into my son when he begins to get annoyed and have a tantrum but you can’t please your kids all the time and staying calm and not shouting, has better results in your child see getting angry and kicking off leads to me make the choice and take my seriously. In shouting my son would laugh and it really got to me. Now I have stopped myself, it has had a better reaction.
Switch off: One Saturday I was seated on the sofa and every five minutes I was looking at my phone. This was driving me mad and so now I don’t have my phone always near me. I am not always on laptop and found sometimes, to do bits in silence. Like writing, cooking and having a drink.
Being out of debt: It feels so good not to be in debt. I do have a Youtube Channel dedicated to money. https://www.youtube.com/@financialliving I needed to rebuild my relationship with money. My spending was getting out of hand. I did have store cards, catalogue Accounts, overdrafts and an Amazon credit card. I was doing buy now pay later. Now out of debt my life has changed financially and monitor what comes in and what goes out. It feels so good to not to have so much “Money Stress” I call it and I do no spend days and use what I got.
Feeling defeated: Began Park run this year and it was good but wasn’t enjoying it. I was getting self conscious about being last. Since then I have been doing walks with my son, walking in the mornings when he was at school and this week did 30,000 steps. Now I feel ready to go back to doing Park run and even run part of it.
So what have you learned. What is now good in your life and how did you go about improving the way you feel about yourself and your life. Please leave a comment below. It is good to see your life changing for the better by what we have learned about areas in our lives.
Have you ever chatted with with someone about say, You had a nose bleed and they then say “Oh well last week I had a massive migraine and was in bed for two days”. Now I am not saying you should not be sympathetic, yes migraines can be painful, but a nose bleed is still bad and then you say “Well that is bad yes, must have been painful” and now the conversation has swept passed your problem because that person feels that theirs is a lot more worthy and now you feeling somewhat like “oh mine is not so important.
We are all allowed to have fears and we all face challenges but we are all worthy of someone sitting down and listening to you and that your problem is not worth the attention because that persons felt more hard done by, by what’s happened to them.
Yes of course there are people who can’t climb stairs, but you can. #in meeting people who have a disability, never allow their problems to affect on yours and we are all have bad days or challenges and so life is not a competition. It is being on an even ground and have a good chat, without any resent or judgement. EVERYBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO SAY OUCH, HAVE A COFFEE AND BREATH IN AIR.
The one thing I like is to have is a good chat or discussion. I loved the team of people I worked with in a call center because we would just chat. A conversation works both ways and we all like to be heard and to feel that they’re not wasting someone’s time. There was one or two who wanted me to move aside for them to be the center of attention, but I would not entertain them and if they wanted to fly a flag to be noticed I’d just let them continue and put my head down to do my job no matter their feelings were and that when that happens its their own insecurities and in the end they went elsewhere.
Working for me is important to me and doing the job I have been asked to do. I would represent the department too as we did a good job and I felt that there was a resentment towards the department because we would work our butts off.
The best relationships are where you are on the same page and yes I am not saying we shouldn’t have a different point of view, its about having equality and not be snubbed because they are self centered and just think they’re story is more important. So life is not a competition and if you want a good relationship then give eachother the same amount of time to listen and talk.
So with your worksheets I had created in this blog, here The Beginning of My Summer Project 2025 jot down. on Page 7, of what you want to improve. I am always trying to improve my skills and knowledge to help me with my writing, by watching other writers who have been successful and doing short courses online.
It could be to improve your fitness, your communication with others, having more time off and just clear your mind and then go through each one you’ve written down and start taking action.
I am still that girl who has clothes at the bottom of my bed, forgot to pick up something from the shops and gets lost quite a bit. So I will spend time to fold my clothes each day and each week and its having good systems set up. Managing Your Life With Different Systems for better Productivity. I will make sure I have a shopping list at hand and I have preplanned directions.
There is always in my book, room for improvement. When working on radio which I do on Sundays 4to6pm for Epsom Hospital Radio. Being doing this for about a year and still learning and improving my radio skills, to make sure I ask my Manager if I am unsure about something and listen to my colleagues shows to help improve my show and improving my Youtube videos. Check out my Channels:
Hello and welcome! I hope you are okay and adapting to the weather. This is being written in June 2025 where (I’m on the UK) we have had a massive heatwave. It is nice to see the sun but the heat has been getting too much. If that annoys you and should be grateful with nice weather, then Sorry and you can skip this bit in this blog if you want to.
So this weeks Cheat Sheet is about Having A Simple Schedule. I like to plan my days, weeks and months, and so developed a system whereby I do things on a selective day, time and write down my plans as well using google calendar and Notion, so they stay in my head.
These are free to download and print. If you’d like to be notified when I post on this blog then you can, just select subscribe with no cost and just helps me build my content and be some kind of support to you so you have a life where you aren’t stressing. I have always been super stressed but would wear me down so doing Simple Systems when it comes to planning and scheduling, has made me less stressed and enjoy each day.
Did you ever do the puzzle where you had to connect the dots that would form a picture? Well you can do that with life.
I have filmed my first video for this years Life Coaching Programme and so please check it out: https://youtu.be/bcHG7Dx_3ck?si=W4nzQka-oHxQ_yLr That is about Habits and with changing your habits it can help to join things together. Once that starts you will see changes in your life. In the printable I created check this blog which had the link to my printable I have created for this programme The Beginning of My Summer Project 2025 I am a Radio DJ/Presenter and connected another dot to having the life I want.
In my free printable I do each week, my cheat sheet I talk creating a Map Do Ten Things it helps me with writing my books. So the first ones I did were parenting books and wrote and published my first novel, A Lonely Walk to Happiness and now creating a series, and drawing out a map of ok so first book this year is to republish book 1 of the series, then continue to work on another book which is a stand alone and then work book 2 of my series.
Create a chart to see your progress or journal.
With WordPress it shows you how engaged your readers are and how much traffic you are getting.
With that it helps to see what blogs they are particularly interested in and why I continued with this programme because of the positive response to them.
So spend time mapping out what you want to work on and with that set goals, develop new positive habits. Example: I know when I brush my teeth how better I feel and there was a time I would miss days but lead me to not feeling good and having bad dreams about it. I like to be active and do a bit of walking each day, even if it is for 10 minutes and this leads me having better energy to write which I enjoy and clears the brain and when I don’t feel clogged up, feel good.
Concentrate on one area at a time, brainstorming is affective too and researching. I read books on writing, watch youtube videos of other self published authors and watching other peoples routine. Add Mind mapping to your routine as I do this a lot as I see my blogs grow and the writing of my books.
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