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STOP Shaming Yourself Because Of Your Past/Last Blog for this years Summer Project 2025

31 Sunday Aug 2025

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This follows my the blog before this one: let go of the past.

Does your past making you feel ashamed? In my life I have not always been kind and had dark thoughts, but I know that this has made me put them to bed as thoughts are what they are and didn’t carry out anything that would have been harmful and often it just I quick thought, in the moment because if I didn’t say anything and been able to see the lighter side of life.

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My brother and I never got on as kids. We would argue and fight a lot, but now we are fine. If you constantly feel shameful then what specifically is making you feel that way?

I thought I was being unkind to a girl I work with and apologised and she didn’t have any ideas as to what I was talking about. So, I know longer felt shame and so talk. Let people know how you feel and speak to a psychologist, therapist or a Social Worker, if your thoughts of the past are haunting you and was as bad as what you thought?

Stop giving yourself such a hard time. Everyone has a past. Done the wrong thing or said something that was taken out of context. I remember when working in a Call Centre, one of the new people I spoke to I couldn’t see there face. I thought it was a man. I was chatting about it in the Staff Canteen and she comes over and says “Apparently I sound like a man” and she thought one of us (chatting to some of colleagues) called her a Cow, which we did not and she wanted to hit me, in particular. I felt dreadful and she spoke to one of the managers and I told it was an innocent conversation, and said I am sorry and I did feel ashamed, but it didn’t stop me from talking it made me be more self aware and next time I should have introduced myself and asked who the person was as I not met them and I not into gossiping.

In the end this was resolved she didn’t hit me, I didn’t keep on and the issue was solved, ,so I moved on.

Thinking of the past can drain you and be full of regret and not able to move on, but time has a different idea. Do you want to be happy with who you are? Take it one day at a time and address your feelings. I was so sad when my Nan died. She was my last grandparent and kept forgetting and would have dreams about her still being alive and it really changed a lot. I had a friend who lived by her and so whenever I could would pop in, I did. Suddenly I couldn’t do that anymore.

She would not want me, to not get on my my life. She lived to old age and it was her time.

My parents was getting divorced, I was in a very demanding job, but loved the social life. I then changed jobs but I hated it and it was the wrong move. I then decided I would follow my gut and had to be selfish and do what I felt would lead me to following my dreams. It lead me to a job where, it was a culture shock and what I needed and no longer regret the decisions I made and did what I was hopefully lead me to building a life of my own and it happened.

You never know what path to choose sometimes. It makes me think of a game of chess. What is the right move? Will I need to move my Queen or not? Reflect, write and leave it there. Take a step forward and trust your gut.

When I look back on events now, I loved the people met, good and bad. I like the journeys I have taken and will keep living and not feel ashamed. It happened, noone died so it is time to let the shame go and create more abundance and self belief.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching: Let Go Of the Past

29 Friday Aug 2025

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I had a real tough time letting go of what went before. I still remember how I felt when playing in the Estate I lived, when we were running to a car and back, the girl who’s parents who owned the car told me off, even though there was others doing the same and the parent even went to see my mum, has bothered me.

Can I change what happened? Of course, no and I still remember how I felt. It made me avoid playing on the Estate and wished I had spoken up for myself. I wonder if the girl who told her mum, is thinking about that time? Probably forgotten and so now, does it even matter?

No one can turn back time, no matter how many times we watch The Time Travelers Wife or Doctor Who. If I could choose a time to go back to, it wouldn’t be that incident with that girls parents car, but to the 60’s and visiting the Kings Road.

I’d love to be around for the Coronation of Queen Elizabeth 2nd and see Elvis Presley and the Beatles.

When I was a school the girls in my class at Primary school, ripped up my cards I gave to them for Christmas. I was alerted by it, when playing in the other playground, but I wasn’t angry, I was like “ok, so what?”. I didn’t react and suddenly they all started crying. I wonder if they remember?

So when I look back now i think of the lessons I have learned. I think of now and bless each day I live. We have all made mistakes and things like someone passing, can affect us, but I know my grandparents would not want me to be sad. They would have picked me up and told me to move on.

Change is hard and there are people who are set in their ways, but life will change, it is part of it, as looking back, I can’t amend it and people move on, met other people who they now want in their life.

People grow, give birth to form a different generation and it doesn’t mean they have forgotten about you and focused on the time you took their toy in nursery, but what you say to them now and the one thing I like is to be keep in contact with old school friends and on the good times and sending messages when it is their birthday. What do you want to focus on and learned? How can you deal with the times that burdened you from the past? Journal, chat with them and often the arguments you had, have been forgotten and now you can laugh back it, rather than beating yourself up, about it.

Living in the present tense is how I have overcome the past battles. The things that haunted me, are flowing away and a I am more awake. I have let the girl who used to cry a lot, because my time with friends has come to end for the day, who got hit by other kids, got called names and think well I am here now and I love my son and family and not vision of the life I didn’t have. The girl who day dreamed all day and stayed in my room afraid to go out and love being out. The past is exactly what it is and I found that I have become wiser and strong minded. I am glad that I didn’t react to those girls that tore up my cards. Often kids who do things like that, probably wanted a different kind of reaction, which they didn’t get and a friend I made, when following a sports team said “They felt guilty” because after that time, they didn’t do it again.

I have been a bit of a twat, as French Saunders one woman show is about. I was a girl who wore a Liverpool FC cap, a Chelsea Plastic Bag and a Tottenham Scarf and was called a twat by a steward and to some they would have wanted to ground to pull them down, but I didn’t, I felt proud and why should I support more than one football team?

In the end there is one team for me, but do like to also support other local clubs and love going to see a football match and as it is down the road from where I live in Wimbledon, go to see AFC Wimbledon. I even been to see Leatherhead team play.

I would like to take this opportunity for those that have read my blogs for this years Summer Project. I have one more blog to write and then it will be my Autumn Reset.

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Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Creating Long-lasting Habits

02 Saturday Aug 2025

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I have not always been happy with life. I would put myself down and it became a habit.

This was along with being bad with money. As a kid I was very good with saving and then I started earning and working in Camden I would splurge and would be reckless. I ended up in debt by spending money that wasn’t mine and what I didn’t have, avoiding my bank account and now thankfully being 46 saving again and be cautious.

Living badly can have long lasting effects and falling further down a hole and not sure what to do. I would be so self critical. it got on my nerves and wanted to feel good. I felt I was fat, got easily upset and alone. I never felt part of anything as a child and really wanted to fit in but it seemed impossible.

I never made my bed, I was untidy and was addicted to crisps. When I first lived away from home, I would wait until I had no clothes left to wash my clothes, never ate breakfast and just wasn’t respecting myself and my life.

It is hard to be happy all the time but I know how to manage my feelings and emotions now and I got help. I was in a mental health hospital and this helped me get back on my feet. I make sure I sleep well, I have things to look forward to and becoming a mum I didn’t want my son to be affected by my thoughts and feelings and he has his moments of not dong the right thing, but to me that is part of the process of being a child. I want my son to know what is right and what is wrong. Also express himself. I will say now if I am unhappy but not getting angry, but by chatting rather than it be an heated argument.

I will be honest if I don’t know something and feel comfortable in doing so. I will ask myself questions to challenge the critical mind such as “No” when I get anxious about going out and What My focus is. This has really helped. It has slowed me down. I remember a colleague called me “Mrs. Rush Rush” because I would speed around the call floor and a colleague when working at a holiday camp asked me, why I was always rushing and it was a habit. I think part of it was living in the city and following others.

So I take my time now and give myself plenty of time to get ready for the day, have a cup of tea and read. I will make my bed now and make sure my son and I have breakfast and plan ahead.

I look after my body. My nutrition needs a bit of work but doing this a bit at a time, by eating different things, like I will have a yogurt, cereal or toast and not deprive myself, but insuring I do eat some fruit and vegetables and that I take care of my skin and journaling a lot, addressing issues and challenges but keeping a good open mind, allowing myself to think things through and having days away from my laptop and cleaning, tidying. I love taking my son out and playing sports and just living a good happier life. I set myself goals, I do workout and active. I walk a lot and do weights and other exercises and just listen to my mind and body.

Habits are not just a one time thing but something that grows into being good and get rid as you grow, the bad.

I hope you enjoy my blogs and what habits have you changed? Please leave a comment below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Blog: Creative Planning

23 Wednesday Jul 2025

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I like to Plan a lot. It is something I have naturally done and was bread in me. People think because you are planning, that your organised. That is not the case. Its because I am disorganized I plan, I have forgotten when my son has had own clothes day, when he was doing a show at Christmas and not ordered his lunches for school, as he has school dinners, so I see it as a tool but also, a fun exercise.

I keep a written diary and use a Calendar on Notion and google Calendar and make sure I check my emails daily. It is good to have a nice diary or planner as it can feel like a chore but it doesn’t have to be.

I love journaling too and I like to design them so I can flick through and to remind myself of the main things I want to focus on.

I like using photos, images on line to create vision boards along with Pinterest and Canva, and mind maps.

It is great to get your kids involved too and designing and being creative.

Have a Family Planner that your kids can design and write on. Having a List for your children to complete where they can add stickers too once they have completed a task, adding a treat once they have done four things on their list.

I have a writing journal as love to write books, a daily one, gratitude journal and cooking.

You can create your own stickers and cut out words from a newspaper or magazine and books. I have been cutting out notes on my notebooks into my journal. I like to use colouring pens and washi tapes along with labels.

You can be a inventive as you like and can take no more than 10 minutes.

So get Creative and Get Planning.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching: Treating life As If It Is a Competition

09 Wednesday Jul 2025

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Have you ever chatted with with someone about say, You had a nose bleed and they then say “Oh well last week I had a massive migraine and was in bed for two days”. Now I am not saying you should not be sympathetic, yes migraines can be painful, but a nose bleed is still bad and then you say “Well that is bad yes, must have been painful” and now the conversation has swept passed your problem because that person feels that theirs is a lot more worthy and now you feeling somewhat like “oh mine is not so important.

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We are all allowed to have fears and we all face challenges but we are all worthy of someone sitting down and listening to you and that your problem is not worth the attention because that persons felt more hard done by, by what’s happened to them.

Yes of course there are people who can’t climb stairs, but you can. #in meeting people who have a disability, never allow their problems to affect on yours and we are all have bad days or challenges and so life is not a competition. It is being on an even ground and have a good chat, without any resent or judgement. EVERYBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO SAY OUCH, HAVE A COFFEE AND BREATH IN AIR.

The one thing I like is to have is a good chat or discussion. I loved the team of people I worked with in a call center because we would just chat. A conversation works both ways and we all like to be heard and to feel that they’re not wasting someone’s time. There was one or two who wanted me to move aside for them to be the center of attention, but I would not entertain them and if they wanted to fly a flag to be noticed I’d just let them continue and put my head down to do my job no matter their feelings were and that when that happens its their own insecurities and in the end they went elsewhere.

Working for me is important to me and doing the job I have been asked to do. I would represent the department too as we did a good job and I felt that there was a resentment towards the department because we would work our butts off.

The best relationships are where you are on the same page and yes I am not saying we shouldn’t have a different point of view, its about having equality and not be snubbed because they are self centered and just think they’re story is more important. So life is not a competition and if you want a good relationship then give eachother the same amount of time to listen and talk.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching: Having it all, coming to the end of the Summer Project 2024.

27 Tuesday Aug 2024

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It is now the last week and if you haven’t checked out my videos then here is the link for you to check them out: https://www.youtube.com/@CarrieEducationalYoutube-ws4xp

Images of places visited in the Summer of 2024 and places I have visited and walks

So I have had a really good summer, by doing some wonderful things and I think it is having more positivity, and one of my dreams from when I left school back in 1996, was working on a radio by working for a hospital radio and it has happened and I love it.

I am doing courses that I have wanted to do and feel that my life is taking shape and to continue to follow my dreams, and yes there have been bumps on the road, but that is part of how we can have a different outlook on life, by pushing forward and not allowing those bumps, stop me, from having a good day now and have been less stressed over it.

There was a time I just didn’t want to be alive and felt my life was boring and I had become a different version of myself, someone who didn’t want to get out of bed and go out. I was sleeping through most of the day and needed help.

I got the help, from spending time in hospital and it helped me get back on my feet and back to feeling good about my life and now I have cleared my debt, gone for long walks again and exercising, taking my son swimming, finding my son a good school that met his needs better and having fun with my son, and with family and writing books. I have one that is being proof read and working on a series called Mum&Me, and working on book 2 and got other books I am writing and reading a lot.

So you can change your life into a more positive one, no matter what hurdles you face?

Absolutely and being in my 40’s my love of life has grown and have so many things I am loving, like seeing my son ride his bike, going to pubs and having some food, enjoying what I have in my life and not focussing on what I don’t have and that life is about, how you make it and what it means to you.

Please check out Pinterest where you will find my videos, blogs and resources for this years Summer Project 2024. Please give me some feedback and what blogs you liked and what you’d like to blog and film about in next years, in 2025. You can leave a comment below.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching: Being Your Authentic Self, what does it mean?

13 Tuesday Aug 2024

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I told this bit of advise from a lady who is on Youtube and sent her a message on her channel as I am now presenting on Epsom Hospital Radio, and I was a bit unsure of how to take on this opportunity. As I naturally do, out of habit, question myself, and so asked her for advise and she said to be my Authentic self. This for me means be who you are and not what others want you to be.

This is me in a rare selfie and has helped me be Authentic and be thankful for who I am.

Never be someone your not and be honest, and true to yourself and grow, but remember who you are and what you can bring to the table. Take each show as it comes and see what happens, and stop jumping in with both feet and take my time, so I don’t put too much pressure on myself and enjoy the experience, and be open to honest feedback by the person training me, and I have loved it.

Going to be hosting show on Sunday 4 to 6 so if you want to listen if you are in the UK then please listen and will be some real good chill out music and is a dream job.

In learning, as you do each day, I feel that you have to admit to yourself of when I’ve been wrong about things and I did in a video for my Life coaching programme, about, Its okay to not to always be right, https://youtu.be/VZ69j6csoXA and that planning ahead is me, but owning loads is not and that I am changing again, you go through changes in body and mind and been learning to love myself, of what I am about and yes I have done wrong, so not perfect but am a giver and why connecting with others.

There was a time where I loathed my life and wished I had a different story to tell, but actually my life has been good and stopped feeling sorry for myself getting on with life and focusing of what I have in my life, not what I don’t.

Please check out my new Life Coaching video: https://youtu.be/XuAkkcN-Pwo

Life can be good if you allow it. It is not always full of doom and gloom, but it also okay to feel different motions to manage them so they don’t stop you from living a happy life.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching: Happy Habits that I like to do each day, week and changing seasons

06 Tuesday Aug 2024

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It is good to just take my time to drink a cup of tea or coffee and gather myself to set the tone of the day and not rush. It is good to set up your day so you look forward to it, like a nice cool shower with a lovely shower cream you like, that makes you feel fresh and alive.

My choice is Radox, Nivea, Sanctuary Spa and just enjoy the water on my body, with a hair wash with Dove, head and shoulders and others I like to use different ones and do this each Sunday morning feeling properly awake, ready to take on the day and week ahead.

I do like a bath too but I save that for evening and good to have a lovely soak after a very hot day and just wind down after the eventful day to ensure I get a good nights sleep. I am been using Sanctuary Spa bath soak.

Then it is going through my plans for the day. I love planning and setting goals. I am going to set up some goals for the next season that is coming up (Autumn) and prepare for the next year of school, so my son is prepared to go back and completing my Life Coaching programme “Summer Project 2024” and if there something you liked that I have covered in this years (2024) life coaching programme, please give me your feedback of what you’d like me to talk about on this blog. You can leave a comment below.

The other thing is journaling. I love to journal and going to get back into scrapbooking, to store memories and get some pictures printed to help store them and creating more art and started to create my own prints as I am going to be doing up my room in Epsom and also going to use the shed, which we having work done. We are getting the roof of the shed redone and plan for my programme, Autumn Reset which I do each year and helps to get areas of my life completed, to start new projects and also complete another course. I have completed many as there are many things I want to do and create and continue to grow online and on the outside too, by making a difference for people.

It is important to have things set up so you can ensure that every gets done and you enjoy life.

We can get so bogged down with to do list and feel “Why?” can’t I do that another day? And so think about it, what do you want to do? What would make it easier? Perhaps you are thinking too much about it and thinking about the process, and that is putting you off.

One of habits to get bits done is to jot if down and what is the first step I need to do. Example: Cleaning my room. So I think about what one thing can I do write now that will help make it less painful? So I started clearing receipts and put them in a small folder. I then it charged it up and then went through what can I do next, and then found myself taking it all cleared and it took literally five minutes to do.

So take your time and clearing one thing is still getting it done.

I will spend my time each day checking my bank accounts and what has come out and gone in. Every Sunday I will go through what I spent in the week, and helps me to monitor what I buy and how it is spent as I do prefer spending cash and not debit.

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just staying stop of things, gives me that piece of mind.

So go through your habits and what habits you want to implement in your life, and what is working in your life and what is not. Set your goals and what the outcome do you want.
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Carrie X

Life Coaching Blog: Taking Chances with life

23 Tuesday Jul 2024

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I know a lot of coaches and health experts say to get out of your comfort zone, and that is me included and have changed that mindset. I have begun to realise that this can often lead to stress and anxiety, and so from my own self I like to take it step by step, rather than jumping in with both feet and hating every minute of it.

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There are many things I have wanted to do something that I never thought I could do and that is speak publicly to people and from watching others film their life, to help others I have three Youtube channels and now working on radio.

At school I was mocked when we had to play game, where we had to, for one minute talk about an object or subject and I was stuttering and wanted the earth to swallow me up and it made me for a while fearful of talking in front of the class and yet, as a young child performed in shows when I did tap and ballet had no fear and loved it.

When you grow from being a child into an adult your awareness increases of ourselves and begin to have feelings we have never had before and I was super shy at one point. I attended a drama school and was fearful, and I just froze and just sat there and didn’t know what to do and the teacher watching,f was really looking at me as if I poohed in the class and just wanted to run and not come back.

Yet I loved dancing and when I got to be in a school play again loved it and performed in assembly’s but when it came to speaking out I was a nervous wreck.

Doing Drama helped me and how I gained my confidence to talk in front of people and planning on what I was going to say and I was shy going to my first session of ballroom dancing and soon overcome my shyness and found the skill I was good at and it bought me out of shell and glad I took the chance and it was through a friend, and going with a friend can make it less daunting if you want to do something that you have always wanted to do, and can make it fun and take the fear away.

So never allow your fear to avoid chances because it can have a real positive effect to lead to other chances.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X

Life Coaching Programme: Having A Proper Day Off

16 Tuesday Jul 2024

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Are you so busy you don’t know what the day is? I thought with my son being off school last Tuesday that is was a Sunday and forgot that it was Tuesday and today he is off and inspired me to write this post because I often will be so lost in getting my son ready for school, making sure he has all he needs for the day, to plan the meals and food to be used for the week and spending time writing and editing books I am writing, blogs and Filming vlogs and doing my courses I have enrolled in and get so sucked up by business and not having time to just sit and not be on my laptop and looking at my phone.

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Pre-plan: We have so many ways to book a day off one with no phone, no laptop or looking at social media and not rushing to get out of bed, and let your family know that this is your day off and take yourself out on a date.

Get the kids do it: I do enjoy doing my sons dinner, but also like to have time off so depending on the age, and can use the oven, microwave and hob, then get them to make a meal or their own meal. This is not being mean, I just feel they need to be responsible and a essential skill is to know how to cook a meal. It is giving them more freedom.

Have a routine: So not being contradicting, but mean decide on what to drink, wear, listen to and watch and put up a do not disturb notice and make the time to have good old fashion “Me time”. This could be reading a book, going for a walk and tell family that you will be putting phone on silent and watch a TV Series. The programme I last watched was Outlaws on BBC iPlayer and was very funny and so looking for a new series to watch. I love a documentary and watched Lilly Allen Rags to Riches on Youtube and one thing I am dying to make when I have a day off, is homemade Nacho’s with the works. Guacamole, sour cream, salsa and a few chillies. So going to see if I can do this.

Meal for one. Do a meal for one and the Nacho’s could be it, but you can also buy yourself a steak dinner with a bottle of wine, as long as you drink safely and go to the cinema, or choose a movie at home and remember Ice Cream and popcorn if not doing Nachos.

Picnic season: This I love doing in the summer in the park with a coffee and going to use this time to write, or read a magazine.

A time to cleanse: I love my skincare regime and not just my face but other parts of my body and having a bath and hair wash. I like to use my Sundays to wash my hair whilst my son is still a sleep or watching his tablet, watching something with a cup of tea.

So look after yourselves and just enjoy the free time and just taking a break just for yourself can really help the mind and the body.

Many thanks for reading,

Carrie X