So with your worksheets I had created in this blog, here The Beginning of My Summer Project 2025 jot down. on Page 7, of what you want to improve. I am always trying to improve my skills and knowledge to help me with my writing, by watching other writers who have been successful and doing short courses online.
It could be to improve your fitness, your communication with others, having more time off and just clear your mind and then go through each one you’ve written down and start taking action.
I am still that girl who has clothes at the bottom of my bed, forgot to pick up something from the shops and gets lost quite a bit. So I will spend time to fold my clothes each day and each week and its having good systems set up. Managing Your Life With Different Systems for better Productivity. I will make sure I have a shopping list at hand and I have preplanned directions.
There is always in my book, room for improvement. When working on radio which I do on Sundays 4to6pm for Epsom Hospital Radio. Being doing this for about a year and still learning and improving my radio skills, to make sure I ask my Manager if I am unsure about something and listen to my colleagues shows to help improve my show and improving my Youtube videos. Check out my Channels:
It has been a life of regret, struggles and low self belief. I had no respect for myself and would avoid looking in the mirror. Check out this video about Changing your Image:
I go through the issues I had and doing things to get over those feelings and feel good about myself.
It has taken many years, learning and understanding to accept myself and proud of the person I have become but do need to recover certain relationships as often it is the inside the person that matters and not calling someone a name and hitting out to the people that I love and who love me back and recovering from a Mental Health diagnosis, psychosis and having terrible anxiety.
Things that were happening to me growing into a woman I found tough, being an early developer and felt out of control as my body changed and so my insecurities grew.
Life has a way of hitting you in the face and making you feel lost. I lost myself for a while, battling with my Mental Health, but from the knocks that life makes, where you fall of the rails to make you stronger and feel I do have courage and resilience to not to allow my inner critic get me down and spending time with the right people who do really do love me, has made me see that I Iook fine and the right shape for my height and body.
I blamed others for the way I felt and I had to take responsibility that noone is to blame I just needed to get a hold of myself and stop worrying what I don’t have but what I do have.
It has been a rollercoaster but I now know how to stop it and make an effort to help me to feel good about myself. I hated my teeth, my boobs and my stomach.
So I please enjoy the video and please subscribe if you’d like to be notified of when I post on this site and my educational Youtube Channel.
Last Saturday completing 5KM doing Parkrun. I kept thinking about it but too the plunge and now really enjoy even though I get nervous every time.
This is part a series of blogs to Help you make changes to your life and will be for the Month of April on this website along with some videos on myEducational Youtube channel.
Here is the first blog.
Every Friday when I know I am going to be doing Parkrun on Saturday, I get the usual anxious feelings in my stomach. It is nerves and find it hard to think of anything else, until I have done it. It is breaking a barrier of what I know is challenging but know by doing the Parkrun I am going to feel on top of the world.
As a kid I remember watching Samantha Fox she was a page three girl, who poised topless on in the Sun Newspaper everyday. She had already been singing but got the page three girl job, only to cross the barrier once again and her debut single “Touch Me” was released in 1986 and was a success.
Kylie Minogue had sung as a kid but was firstly known for her acting and then became a pop sensation and both Samantha Fox and Kylie Minogue have had brilliant careers, in music. Gary Lineker who was a brilliant Striker for clubs and England, being part of the famous, 1990 World Cup squad, now is known from his presenting on Match Of the Day and now going to be leaving. Many may not remember his goals for Tottenham, playing for Barcelona and playing for England.
I went from hating P.E at school when we had to do running and took part in the Great North Run and made me change my mindset of seeing what I could accomplish if I crossed a barrier that I never entered my brain to do, a half marathon?
Have faith in yourself and yes your fear can contribute you in not crossing a barrier, because of what if this happened and that? You will never know unless you get up and give it a try. If you find it is not for you and noone got hurt then that is fine. You have to challenge yourself to see what you are capable of and think “What if it is a success?”. Give it a try.
I love Strictly Come Dancing. Watching Chris McCausland dance and he was amazing and Rose Ayling-Ellis. Not saying that because of their disability, but the fact that they didn’t restrict themselves and opened our eyes to “Its anybody’s competition” not matter of what, may be a barrier to some but them not and having self belief.
So break a barrier and see what you can do and accomplish. It’s never too late and will be writing a blog on this too.
Hello and welcome! It is a new Week and means it is time for a new Cheat Sheet. These are free to download and print. I post them every Monday. This week is all about Ten Ways To Help You Feel about Yourself and Your life.
It is a new week and today my Self Development training begins. I will be filming for my Educational Youtube Channel and I am really looking forward to it and hope it will help follow your dreams and have a life you love.
For me Self Development is simple. Change what you are not happy with. Go through the passed but in a way where your not dwelling but learning. Learning what you have done that turned out to be the best thing you have ever did, so far in your life and what didn’t work out. What is holding you back.
It can be that you failed your driving test. So the first thing is to reflect what happened. Was you driving too fast, you stopped when you shouldn’t have or your nerves distracted you. I made a mistake yesterday where I was playing a song on my radio show and accidentally turned it off but it was okay as I rectified it, reflected well I know that I was rushing and needed to take my time, but the rest of the show went according to plan. Your going to slip up, that’s life. The worst thing to do is allowing it to dominate. Not moving on.
I have created a free Printable which you can download and will give you the details of what the training will be covering.
I will be posting three videos for this training each week and can use it not just for February but throughout your life.
It will be three sections and a conclusion. What you will need, which is basically your time, if you want to write things down and a drink whilst you watch and listen to my training for this Self Development training and please if you want to give me your feedback, then please do.
It is the last week of January 2025. We have covered a lot in this new programme I created. Thank you for the likes. If you are new and subscribed, thank you. It really means a lot.
So the outcome. How did it go? If you have just seen my content for this programme, don’t worry. They will still be on this blog site. Please give me some feedback. You can leave a comment below.
What did you change? I started taking my vitamins and other supplements again. They help me with my energy. I find during the winter I have a lack of energy. In the mornings, I struggle at the start of the day, but by taking supplements I’ve seen a big transition. I am completing tasks. I finished a first draft of a book series I am writing. I have been walking a lot. I am sleeping really well and reading more and discovered new loves.
I’ve started take Magnesium and Zinc. I recommend them, but always ask your GP before taking them, if you are not sure. It has really made a difference. Not sponsored, but I was experiencing a lack of energy and kept getting twitching of the eye. I spoke with my doctor, and she recommended it to me. It has been a massive change.
They were from Holland and Barrett.
I have taken on new challenges. I started Parkrun. I try to walk each day, even if it’s indoors, because I am lucky to have a treadmill. There are walking exercises. Check out Youtube. Today, I did some weights. I am really focusing on looking after myself. This helps me look after my son. I can do jobs around the house. I can go for walks without feeling that my eyes are on the floor. This is changing my lifestyle, my word for 2025. This has helped me see the new year in a different light. I no longer get upset and can look back and think, “I did good” and you can feel that too.
So thank you and next month I am doing some Self Development training. I will doing videos and blogs and begins on the 3rd February to the 28th February 2025. I have been studying mental health and counseling. This has helped me in developing my skills in helping others. It’s important to help others feel better about themselves and their life. Once you learn, you can help others too.
I have signed up to do Race for life this year. My goal is to help raise money for Cancer Research. The event will take place on the 22nd June 2025 up at Epsom Downs.
So if you’d like to donate to this cause then check out my JustGiving page in the link below:
I also have three Youtube channels. One is a Vlog Channel called Typical London Gal. Another is Financial Living. Finally, there is Carrie’s educational Youtube channel, where I will be sharing my videos for my Self Development programme.
It is now the 14th January 2025. I have already started to do Good Practices like reading every day and training myself on my various interests. I am building my knowledge to extend my online platforms and social media posts. I hope these efforts will boost my online content. They will help me get the most out of the online tools available.
Studying once a week can be a good practice. It is true, yes, “We Learn Everyday.” I like to spend time learning from self-published authors and finance. I also enjoy learning about good books to read, beauty, fashion, skincare, and organization.
I build my fitness subconsciously by walking and using dumbbells. Also housework. This morning, I put some clothes away in my closet and tidied the breakfast ware. I went through my notion planner. I am finding different ways to work towards the life I want. Have more experiences that help me to feel good and ready for each day, month, and year.
I have Chosen my word for the year. This has really helped encourage me to take on new challenges. Working on radio is challenging. It is very technical, and you need to have good attention to detail and I am loving it. I am glad I applied and did not allow my inner critic to talk me out of it.
Each day I will journal. This really helps clear my thoughts, even if I write just one or two sentences. It helps me to have a better mindset. Writing it down puts my thoughts, whether good or bad, into perspective.
Cleansing and looking after my skin and body. I need to control what I because it can affect my mood. In winter, I don’t feel like eating fruit, but I eat plenty of vegetables. I’m starting to take my supplements again, which helps with my immune system. It also supports me during that time of the month by affecting my thoughts and feelings.
Having Good Practices can help with getting through the colder days. They can also aid us financially when you can’t afford electric or gas. This strategy makes you focus on survival. I have had financial struggles because finding work has been tough. I was made redundant. Then, there was Lockdown, which had a huge impact on everyone. I was working in Childcare. The nursery where I was a Bank Staff member closed. Because of this, I was furloughed. Then my husband changed his job, which was fine. He must make sure he has a stable living. Still, the agreement I had with the Nursery was that I worked up to 6pm. I couldn’t do this, and I was mentally struggling. Now that I have financial stability, I check my bank account every day. I control what comes in and out and paid off my debt. These actions have helped me get back on the ladder of building my life. I am doing voluntary work now for Epsom Hospital Radio as mentioned. I would like to do more and build up my income.
I hope these blogs helps you to succeed. That means building the relationship you have with yourself. Follow your hearts and dreams by staying in some days. We joined my son and I, in doing a Parkrun. It was a good way to meet people. I received financial advice and support. This was during my time in a Mental Health Hospital. I had terrible anxiety and didn’t want to go out and wanted to hide away. I got back on my feet, and so can you. Plan and make changes to your life by doing Good Practices. So lets support each other as we all succeed.
There will be people who think differently to you and we try to think okay “Lets see if I can alter their way of thinking”, but there are people who won’t change their opinion, no matter what. I have come to realise that there are people who will always think that they’re right and your wrong.
Yet there are people who will be like “I didn’t think about that” and start to change their point of view and you agree to disagree. So how can you mend your differences with others?
Well think about it. Would it be good if everyone agreed with you? It would be great but people aren’t like that, different minds make you evaluate a persons persona. It can trigger emotions such as, “There is nothing in the world for you” “Everyone is against you” because you seem to get struck down and then you resent them.
Are they worth your time? Yes there is the political points of view. Hence why we have different parties in our government and wars. Yet if it is just a different view on something and doesn’t cause a death then just settle it by acknowledging them and say “Okay well that is fair enough” or “Okay” and move on. It doesn’t have to mean your life is over because they think that something is straight and you think it is wonky.
Is it worth having a heated argument?
I remember me and my husband had a argument about a draw and looking back at it, it was just a draw and the way we organise will always be different. It was around the time where he was trying to give up smoking so was extra agitated and it was that I could share a plate of chips but not a draw and as I edit and write this blog, is making me laugh over it, because I can imagine being in court being asked “So what was the issue?” “Oh a draw and a plate of chips”. Is this worth spending money on a divorce lawyer, how important was the draw? Not a lot.
Things have changed, but we do still respect each other and it is what is best for our son.
I like to eat and wash up and when I finish, but my husband gets pissed off so to stop the argument I will do it as I go and it does save time. There are people who like to lay out their make up, but I like it to be in a storage bin but still be accessible but when it comes to cleaning the window and windowsill in my bedroom, I can lift it up and put it back.
I like a cupboard but believe in out of sight and out of mind, so if it something I don’t use all the time I put it away. My husband hates reading but I love it and love reading, but I am not going to think “Oh wow you should read blah blah” because it is up to him. He likes playing games on his phone and I use mine to make notes, go through emails and listen to music and watch Youtube along with some TV and use a Journal app.
Not everyone will be on the same page no matter how much we try to make them see, so now I just evaluate and think is it worth fighting for? Is it worth slamming doors to get them to see it from your eyes?
Not saying that people aren’t entitled to have point of view, of course they are, but chatting about it, not using it to have a slagging match, calling each other names, but just with a coffee or tea, and if they still don’t agree then end it and let them believe what they want, unless it is causing harm to others, but keep it civil. Arguments don’t need to last forever and just put it to rest, rather than brewing and not getting upset and angry.
Life is how you make it and it time to let things go and be happy as best as you can I believe looking after each other and giving support to others. If you’d like to this blog then please click below this blog and if you’d like to be notified when I post a blog then please subscribe.
We all have pressures in our lives or we have the same battles and arguments that have ended into saying hurtful things, lashing out, leading to the same feelings of hatred and bitterness. If it’s going to cause you unhappiness and then have your say, keeping it Civil and then hear there’s and leave it as a difference of opinion and move on. Often it isn’t actually a personal attack it can be that they have noone else to talk to about it and anger is often meaning that they are scared, not actually that they are confident and strong.
I have been jealous of friends and family to the point I’d feel low about myself and that I am never going to be good enough, but that has not been the case and so I had to do a lot of work on that and watched a Mel Robbins video about being Envious and Jealousy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RS_Lu5IIFBI
She says that we feel this way because we feel that the person your jealous of has robbed you in having success in your life to have the same dreams come true and to turn it around and yes I would feel like “What is wrong with me?” and “I am never going to get that dream because they’ve taken it”.
It can make you feel resentful and looking at the way they talk, walk and gain success in their life, which leads us thinking we belong in the audience but not the stage. If it is making you not eat, sleep or go out, then it is time to look at yourself and why they are where they are, because they’re not bothered. Your bothered but you needn’t be because they not losing sleep over you, so use it to make you determined and find your spotlight by giving yourself time to focus on you and can often mean that there is a different stage for you and not feeling that you have lost out. Everyone in this world deserves to be happy so work on letting your negative feelings go to be happy and proud of your life no matter what some else has been doing to have a success career and that your never going to compete. I use others success to make me hungry of succeeding accomplishing my goals to have a life I dream of and that meant stepping back and working on my Mental Health and bring up my son and help him with his development and things he’d like to do.
I am all about working together and encouraging others to be happy with their lives. Be the person you want to be, as long as there is no bad intentions but that is good and not feel that we are never going to change and that we will miss out because of someone else’s success. So let it go.
A cup of tea and breakfast: I look forward to breakfast now and plan what I am going to eat that will boost my energy each day.
Reading: I love a good book to read and its nice to do a bit of reading and helps build my knowledge and helps me with my writing.
Go for a walk: I read at the doctors last Monday, as I had my Mental Health review and on the wall was a leaflet saying, that just a 10 minute walk is still exercise and vary my walks and routes I like to walk that is peaceful and love a pond or a river.
Do some studying: I have been doing a lot of courses and this has helped me use my time wisely as there is so much I’d like to do and helped me with writing my blogs and focus on my own wellbeing and understanding the body and mind, and love studying and learning new skills and building my knowledge on life to help me and pass on my knowledge to others, build their wellbeing.
Set your goals: A lot of time we can feel overwhelmed when we hear about setting goals and take a lot of time, but that is not the case. Focus on what you want and can be a small goal or a large goal. I did my 2025 goals and didn’t take long at all and looked the areas and things I enjoy and will help me feel good and enjoy life as much as possible as it goes to fast.
Change jobs and lifestyle: I have worked for many large companies, like I was a steward at Fulham Football club, the manufacturer Philip and International Tennis Federation and Diners Club and it has helped me shape my life and found the working world suited me, because I like earning my own money, but often found I would get bored and as soon as I found myself dreading the day, knew that it is not for me anymore and moved on. I currently do volunteer work and I really enjoy it. I work for Epsom Hospital Radio and have my own show on Sunday’s 4pm to 6pm, and been focusing on the things I enjoy and why I have been doing courses and getting back into fundraising. I am doing a Winter Walk in London in January and so glad to be able to do these events again as I have had battles with my Mental Health and so focusing on what I really want to do, like writing and working on radio, doing more volunteer work.
Family Time: I like family time and taking my son out and playing sports and walking. I feel privileged to be his mum and love that he loves my attention and this week after dinner and bath time, in the evenings been watching Deal or No Deal and playing table tennis. This week was his birthday and I was nervous about it but seeing him enjoy himself and love his presents make me appreciate time I have with him and with seeing other members of the family, because it flies by and like feeling like I have had a good day being productive and love the little things, as well as the big things.
Everyone can build a castle 