Hello, it is time to start a new week, and means getting our to do’s written on what you want to accomplish today, and in forming good habits, can help with having a good day and week, so check out this weeks, Cheat Sheet which I post on this channel and parenting channel, https://theparentingadventurestipsandtricks.com
Many thanks for reading, and if you wish to share this sheet and blog then please do. Lets work together to help us to enjoy life and getting out life together.
You have to make the right choices for you. It means saying no, but finding what is right, and if it doesn’t then that is fine. Saying yes because you feel obliged to, is not making the right choice, because you are not doing it for you and if it is going to stress you out and fill you with dread, then means you have to change it and go down a different path. This doesn’t mean you won’t succeed it just there can be many roads to take to reach the things you want to do in your life.
If it is not for you, then it is not for you. Not everything is going to workout, and if someone says no to you, then that is okay too. Trust yourself in making the right decision, journal or talk to someone who can help you, and reflect on why on this occasion something has not worked out, or doesn’t feel right.
Dip your toe in. Test it out. Research and try it out. There is no harm in giving things a go, before you make your mind up. I remember when I was first looking for work, just leaving school and was interested in working in fitness, and was offered work experience for the day, to see how it felt and it wasn’t for me at that time and wanted to work in a football club, and was successful, and worked at a local football club as a steward and did work experience too helping the Groundsman and then found my office job whilst doing that in London.
I did some football training, with the Fulham ladies and it was only a few sessions, and made me decide that I wanted to coach, and gain experience. I was a little regretful as my confidence really affected me in going, but I am glad I still gave it a try. Twenty or so years later I did an FA qualification whilst working in a call center and got to manage my own team, and learned from it, so it still taught me a lot and now we are in 2024 going to “Grow” which is my word for this year. It was progression but grow fits better and get another book published, do more training and looking for work outside and continue to grow as a writer, and have a lot of great things planned and it is planning that can help decide on where you want to go next in your life that will boost your feelings and raise your happiness, to not allow times when it didn’t workout, affect you, in following your dreams.
I always wanted to write a book, and as a kid I liked writing, but stopped and now found my love again, in writing and now written 5 books, which are on amazon my most recent being a comedy called Mum&Me. I now am writing three books, a book called When Mothers Are Real and Behind the eyes of the other woman, and Mum&Me book 2, and it was by watching TV that I discovered self publishing, and I really enjoy it, and now looking to work outside, and finish my courses I have enrolled on, to help build my knowledge and understanding of the human mind, and children and young people by educating myself, to help grow my blogs and books, to help you my audience, to find happiness and live a life they love.
Listening to the right people, who can give you the right support you need can make all the difference, and there are many ways to train and learn, without it being too much and if it is affordable. Last year via a careers service received some free training and I want to learn more interventions, to help people and getting to know the mind.
Our minds are constant running machines and it can either work for you or against and want to learn about how to, being a mum for example communicate more affecting to my son who had ADHD and is on the Autism Spectrum. Why we can be positive one minute and down the next.
Reading books about topics you want to learn more about, can be really helpful. I am currently on Audible listening to Atomic Habits and want the physical book, I have read to help me with my writing, Save the Cats Write a Novel and again want the physical book because I felt it helped and continue to learn as a writer, and want to do more writing courses.
So, never stop believing in yourself and trust your gut instinct. If you say no that is fine. It is all about what makes us happy, and lowering the expectation we set for ourselves.
Hello and happy new year! It is so good that I have a better laptop because my other one was causing so many problems that it really was making me feel frustrated, but stuck with it and my mum got me a new one and so thankful.
I no longer set resolutions but life changes, and so I managing my mind to make sure I feel calm and if there are challenges by not dwelling on them. I would over analyse everything and that something must have happened for a reason, and would drive myself mad.
It can be draining, like I was watching a live Instagram post, and typed a comment on the live but when I read it back, it didn’t say what I wanted and so I was like, “I hope he doesn’t think I was being rude”, so now I read back what I have written before posting. How many of you have done that? Or texting to the wrong person, or found your phone calling an emergency number?
I hope it isn’t just me?
So, I learn to reflect and learn from it.
It is changing your thought process, and realise that you are only human. So getting out of my head, journal which always helps me and think okay next time I will make sure I check my text and put my phone on lock so if is accidentally sit on it, its not calling anyone.
If you’d like to share your life changes for 2024 then please leave a comment below.
It is less than a month away until we reach a 2024, but I am not finished with 2023, and making sure I end the year being thankful and reflect on it, and go over the wins and the non wins and let go of the year, by setting new goals, implement new habits that will help me to grow, and make some more Life Changes, that will build my life up more, and setting myself challenges.
This picture was from when my son, step dad and mum travelled on UberBoat from Canary Wharf to Putney. We’d been to North Greenwich and would love to do this again, and enjoyed exploring my city London and these highlights made my year for me, along with shows I went to and making the most of the things I have around me, and being thankful for 2023, for these wonderful memories that I will look back on with a smile.
I remember my dad used to hate New Years eve, and I even after all these years, and my dad no longer alive, not sure why, but speaking of myself I often felt emotional about it. I felt fear, and all that I hoped for didn’t happen and let myself down. Yet now I feel excited and thankful for the years I have lived.
Looking at 2023, I created another book, that I hope will be published in the New year, and my Youtube channels have been building, please check them out.
I received more subscribers and followers on my blog sites, along with my Instagram, and on Facebook, and got my energy back and not spending too long on my computer and moving. I love going for walks with my son and spending time going to shows and exploring, by going for walks in the morning and indoor workouts in the afternoon and sleeping well, which I have always had trouble with.
It is making simple changes. I know longer have my phone by my bedside when it is bed time, not spending too much time on my laptop, and will use my laptop, when my son has gone to school, and gone for a walk in the morning, and put my phone on silent and get dressed as soon as I get up. Only drinking alcohol at weekends, but even the weekends I won’t have a drink, it depends on what I feel like having and love a cup of tea, and still want to work on my diet and continue getting fit, but reflectoing and going through of what I want to do next, and what I want to let go of.
I want to close this year off as it started on a good note, and got things to look forward too. Like my next book finished, and started to continue writing another book, and going to a birthday party in Bognor and off to see Bruch Springsteen, and the next will be choosing what fundraising walks I want to do, as I really miss doing these, so gonna get back to walking and use it to make a difference to other peoples lives and going to donate cash or products to my local foodbanks. Gonna continue writing to work on content for the new year, and get ready for my Life Coaching programme, “Summer Project 2024”. This is what I created a few years ago, and was very well received, and help you to have a better life and better year.
If you like a comical book, then check out my book Mum&Me and going to be working book 2, and so many writing projects to come, and have a good year, no matter what challenges arise and have plenty to enjoy.
It is coming to the end of 2023 and soon it will be 2024 and it is time to celebrate another year, whether it was good or bad, and there we can’t change whats gone but can start a fresh and let go of regrets and live for each day that you are alive.
I will be setting goals and thinking of the habits I want to continue with, and what I need to change to have more shape in my life and not be so far ahead but enjoy each day the best I can and not thinking all about the future but now. Today I went for a walk and was getting anxious about going and had was having second thoughts, but went and felt so good, and take in my surroundings and check out the shops and managed to buy more gifts and got one more to get, and then I am done, but forget that I need a few things still for my son to buy, but for others, are done for 2023.
I do like planning and making lists, but as I grow each day and making sure I am present with my son and other friends and family and let go of the passed, and the wins I have had. I would like to take this opportunity in saying thanks to those subscribng to my blogs on this site and others, and on my Youtube and Instagram and my other sociall media platforms.
I wrote a blog post a while back called Letting it go, Autumn Reset Day 11: Letting things go if there are things that serve no purpose in your life anymore, then let it go, to pass it to someone else, who may want it instead.
Your commitement to your life, is about you before helping someone else and thats not being selfish. I need to make sure I am fully rested to spend time with my son and meet his needs and making sure I wake up to see him off to school and when he comes back, and develop my own knowledge of life, to help support his.
I need to manage my personal hygiene, so my son knows how important it is, and help to stay healthy and helps with my confidence to help his, and that I wake up to start the day on a good knote, so my others around me can feel the same. This world is not for one person but for everyone on it, and that I look after stuff to look after my sons stuff. Helping one another through life challenges and that I get back on my feet to set an example for others to follow.
So, make a commitment to manage your life and that you learn to love yourself to love others.
I have created a new video for my Youtube channel My way of living, about Committing to using up what you already have: https://youtu.be/8fj0u2RHyGY
Just to let you know I write a daily blog now, that I did before and then took a break, but wanted to get back into posting on that blog site, because I enjoy it and sharing many things. Here is a link: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/
A picture I took from this weekend as I write this book, and visited Wimbledon Common on a Winter walk
If you didn’t know I have uploaded a new Newsletter so here is the link to that: November Newsletter 2023 I post one each month, and so check it out.
So getting from A to B. We spend a lot of time rushing around, travelling to different places and means dealing with delays on transport, the weather and errands you can’t avoid like getting ready for the different seasons, and Christmas can be so stressful that can make us become humbugs. Then there is dealing with emails, appointments and getting ready, if you have Children ready for school. So getting to A to B in life can come with many hurdles.
We will face challenges in our lives, and there is no avoiding them. Getting through childhood I found was hard, because I did find it hard to make friends and get to grips with things that happened, through childhood, like people dying, I didn’t understand life and death, and feared it for a while. I would live in a daydream a lot, and wished I spent more time taking it all in, and appreciated the things we did, like the weekends, where I’d played at my nans houses, did dancing lessons, whilst my brother played football. This was each weekend at a local recreation ground. We would spend time in pubs and all I wanted to do was go back home, and when those times stopped I really missed them. Those days were great and would be around lots of people that made me laugh and this was before the internet and social media and would go on some really good fun holidays. We’d go round to peoples homes, and stayed over, or they came round to us, and would squabble, trying to torment my brother a lot, and we’d have toy fights and would go to birthday parties and Christenings and it was such a brilliant time, and thanks to social media I have got back in touch with people, from those times and thankful for that.
When it comes to school and doing homework I couldn’t wait to those days to be over. Thinking and understanding my life, I actually did alright, and writing that, its the first time I felt that it was okay, and it was only the food at school that was bad, thinking about Primary School. Going on day trips, and spending time with friends and make the most of what we had in the UK, being British. It was my confidence that affected me, and feeling like I was climbing up a mountain and not making it up to the top, unless it came to playing sports or dancing, and because I would do badly in tests and remember dreading Secondary School, being so different to primary school.
I did go on to the sixth form year of my school, and felt I had a good level of freedom, but to be honest I had enough of education, and then started working, and I did write a blog about how I found work life, was good for me, and my knowledge of the world thrived and enjoyed the working environment and started going out around London, and on the first full time job, was taken from London to Lille on The Euro star and, parts I found hard, it wasn’t always great, but loved the fact I was earning my own money and forming relationships that was fun, and I am so glad I had that time to just enjoy my teens and early twenties.
It is important to enjoy the early years and when it comes to Christrmas, to embrace the people you love in your life and not worrying about it being better than the last, which I often have felt, because life isn’t a competition, and getting rid of resentment and begruding each other success, is important, because that is only going to flare other negative emotions and can lead you being alone. Pay each other compliments and really listening to people and celebrate each others achievements and how they are building their life.
Live life together and stop knocking it down.
If you feel your life is going backwards then Reset, and Relfect. This is where keeping a journal helps, going through things that you feel is causing you to have these feelings. That is what they are, feelings that can be controlled. This is where my Autumn Reset can help, and help finish tasks, to then start a fresh, and I will go through my lists and set a plan to get things finished, making sure I leave time to have some fun. Weekends I spend with my son, having plenty of exercise, watching TV I don’t always get to watch, in the week and just having time to hug, kiss and take in every minute. Life can be tiring, and it okay to be tired, we are all human, and that we spend time having a nice hot bath, read a book, doing some retail therapy, and not to be buy clothes but food we love to eat, stuff to decoarate our homes with and buying new things for our kids and bringing smiles to everyone in your life, faces.
Getting to A to B in life shapes you, depending on the paths you have chosen and if things haven’t worked out, brush yourself off and carry on.
When you see that you no longer fearing life, and that you feel good each day and able to shake off the anxiousness, you have turned a corner and that your life is taking shape, perhaps with surprises but I feel that I am enjoying the days and feel positive no matter the challenges that come my way.
Getting out and exploring has helped and having time with my son and family, along with making the most of the weekends, rather than doing nothing, has helped me be more present that has helped me get some shape in my life.
Really dig deep into what you want out of life and who you want to spend it with. Have new experiences. I want to do some more courses via Adult Community colleges to help, aswell as doing some online, and really learn about the mind and body more, to help build awareness, when it comes to happiness and wellbeing, and how our minds operate.
Yes it helps us to think and feel, but look into why we feel up and down a lot. Perhaps you feel like you are like a Yoyo. It could be food, and that leads you to feel sluggish a lot and that you want to change but your urges get the better of you, and feeling that you will always be punishing yourself over your diet, and will never change. Yet we all know deep down that we can, its often fear that other foods don’t give you the same joy.
Take each step to improve at having a better diet and allow yourself chocolate but work for it. I will if I have done all I needed to do in the morning for example will then make a coffee, or a treat and not talking just food, but like you would when you child does something good. I stop with the guilt, and as long as I get some exercise will have a treat or two, along with saving myself for my dinner and having a mixture of meals.
I have realised that I enjoy buying food and love mouching around the big stores but also budget, and making different meals. I do like cooking whilst listening to music or an audio book and found my real joys and using it to be happy each day. I also like it when I don’t need to cook, and help with the washing up. like as I write this blog had a lovely roast dinner, made by my husband and today took Henry up London as it was his birthday on Saturday and doing different things and experiences can help.
So make each day count and when you are no longer feel stressed, feel good and that days aren’t hard, and you enjoy life more, means your life is taking shape.
So, three days left of my Autumn Reset, and I have happy with the progress I have made to get my next book completed, almost got the areas of my room done and tomorrow going to do my Sunday reset, to help me in these last days and I like what I have done so far, by sorting out my top shelf above my desk, sorted out my wardrobe and closet/cupboard I decluttered and just got my shoes to do.
I have filmed these areas and I hope they help you, and motivate you to have a reset, and if not Autumn then Winter and before Christmas, so you can celebrate without having so much to do, and have more time to celebrate.
Writing books can take a while, and make sure I some spend time with my son, so have to manage my time so I don’t stress, but take time away from the computer, to stop with burnout and moving from my desk helps the process and why I wanted to sort out room too, to have more time to write and not having so much stuff, but what I need and know I am gong to use.
This is my desk and I love how it looks, I do need to clean it which I am going to do tomorrow and still like to make changes to it, but I like that I don’t have too much on it and helps me write, having a nice clear space.
I was also trying to finish a course I enrolled in, and glad to be getting this done, as there are others I want to do, as there is still so much I want to learn and grow my writing and knowledge in helping people through my blogs, books and videos, along with face to face. As I want others lives to be happy and use the tools I have learned and learning so I can do that.
It still feels surreal that it is coming to the end of October and have to get my Christmas planned, along with birthdays, including my sons and so using my evenings like now at the weekend to catch up on tasks, being it has been half term, and spending time with family, and enjoying the week with my son and not sat in front of the computer all day long, and like going outdoors. This helps to clear my mind and boosts my energy.
I have realised I love food shopping and in big supermarkets, mainly Sainsbury’s, ASDA and M&S, because of what is on offer, and like planning my dinners, with some treats and when I need clothing essentials. This morning we took a trip to ASDA and bought some socks, and went to Sainsbury’s on Friday and bought cake mix as we made some cupcakes which I have filmed for my main Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal Along with items for dinner and I enjoy it.
So what have you discovered since you did a RESET? How has it made you feel if you have completed your tasks for it. You can leave a comment below.
I do have another video where I talk about how I manage my money and post every week, and hope they help you too, to manage your money: https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602
So another weekend and today me, my mum and step dad decluttered a cupboard that we use for many purposes such as clothes, books and the bar holding our clothes fell down, so had to sort through and it feels so good to let go of stuff and having a sort through.
It meant that I had to store items in my wardrobe in my bedroom, that I cleared out but that is okay because it is stuff I want to use and not still be sitting there in days to come. I may have another sort out, but have some bits for my son and I to paint, and want to use for Halloween. And I feel it is okay to do that, as long as they do get used, and look after my walking boots and it items that I care about.
Today I sorted through my notebooks by my desk and tidied up, and kept notes from them in folders as great for keeping ideas and goals not achieved yet, and I like going through old notes, as seeing the list it made me see that I have achieved many of my goals, I had written in these notebooks, like sorting out my bedroom and books written, and anything not used for the last two years where I began my life coaching programme I will go through and help me plan the next one in summer 2024.
I still got to go through my shoes, and I like the fact that my desk is clearer and uncluttered, and got a blue box near my bed that I want to sort through too. I have asked my husband, if I can use the shed once this has been sorted out, to stock my craft stuff, as since I found a notebook I made into a scrapbook, I want to get back into it.
My videos that features the areas I want to get done for my Autumn Reset, will go up starting this week ahead, and if it is the future, then they will be up on my main Youtube channel:
Next week it is half term but my son is at a holiday club for two of those days so going use the spare time from completing the work I am doing on my next book, and have included that, and then it is time to get ready for the festive season, and I do plan of having a new programme set up for this period, and so, more content to come.
I have a book out that I published at the beginning of the new year. It is called Mum&Me and is about a mother and daughter who live together and see things very differently, and the mum is obsessed with ordering goods from TV shopping channels and online and of things she didn’t actually realised she’d ordered, and Elizabeth the daughter, is a stay at home mum, and has a son called Freddie and has a little baking business on the side, and has arch rival, a neighbour called Gloria, who tries to gate crash Elizabeth birthday party and obsessed with beauty and cosmetic surgery and her kids go to the same school as Elizabeth and are on the school PTFA, and Gloria happens to be the head, and only her opinion counts. So if you like a good comedy and want to have a good read whilst you have some free time,check it out. Its available in paperback and Kindle: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mum-Me-Gucci-Tits-Virtue-ebook/dp/B0BGSS7H9K/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1697392250&sr=8-1
So, let me know what you have finished if you too are doing an Autumn Reset. You can leave a comment below and lets inspire one another and get family involved or friends, and put on a good Podcast or like I did today, listened to an audio book, called Save A Cat Writes a Novel.
Everyone can build a castle 