Hello it is the first full week of the School Summer Holidays for my son. We have been doing some walks and bus and trains rides. This lead me to write this weeks Cheat Sheet, Fitting Exercise around your kids.
I post them every week and are free to download and print:
I have had a successful week and please tell me how you are getting on if you are doing the Autumn Reset. There is a comment box below. So the one thing I wanted to completed was my courses I was doing. I did one in life coaching and then counselling and have now been completed and it is good feeling and so I can focus on the other areas, like my next book of a series I am creating called mum and me. My first one has already been published and so here is a link if you’d like to check it out: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mum-Me-Gucci-Tits-Virtue/dp/B0BGNF4LNF
I want to complete the first draft of the second book and sort out my bedroom. Yesterday, I did film a quick declutter of my closet and getting rid of items and what I want to keep and feels good to say good bye to stuff and the clutter is going.
I am using my mornings to focus on my book and reading to help get it together and going through the first book and going to do a bit more plotting and using my notes to help build my story and it is taking shape.
What one thing can you do each today that will help you stay on track?
So I have a weekly planner on Notion but you can us a piece of a blank paper and with open with a calendar in front of you to work out the time you have to spare. If you do the school run mark this down, along with appointments and travel, and what gaps do you have. I remember watching Sunday brunch ( a UK TV programme on Sunday’s on Channel 4) they had Tom Fletcher from McFly sister, Carrie and she writes her books on the train to work and what time of the day do you have the most energy? I find it is the mornings.
I use google calendar and to block schedule.
What’s your main focus to reach the outcome in doing this years autumn reset?
So why are the areas you want to complete important to you in completing?
For me it is having the items that make me feel happy and have a good more productive space where I can write and want to get back into crafting and so the more I can sort out the more I can have a space to do my crafting, writing and sleep in.
I like to have a space to have a cup of tea beside my bed and a mirror and just make it a perfect nest for me and not have too much on the floor and not feel so closed in.
I want to eventually do everything in the shed and workout there and this will take time, because we have had the outside and roof sorted and cleaned and decluttered in there, but still needs to be decorated and made so it not cold being in there.
Do what you can and set your goals for it and reflect.
I have learned to trust myself which is helping me believe in my own mind, and journaling and learning from others. Following good habits like seeing I can be organized, tidy and letting things go, and trying to change my hoarding and be ruthless and prioritizing.
Yes still a long way to go, when it comes to not hoarding, yet I have reined myself in and realising that I can save and not buy anything else, until I go through clothes that I still not worn or toiletries and beauty and stationary. I write a blog called Carries Versatile Fashion, and have Youtube channel where I talk about managing my money, and using what I have got, before buying anything else (https://www.youtube.com/@mywayofliving1602) . I enjoy building my wardrobe, having plenty of shower gels and make up, but if they are taking up too much space then, I know I need to use or let go. I know in my mind I can do that.
I believe that I can write a book and publish it. I can look after my body and mind, by exercising, but doing less to achieve more. Being kind to myself, by not criticizing myself all the time. Not giving myself a hard time If I make a mistake or when there are daily challenges, like yesterday I got caught out in the rain, still enjoyed the walk I like to do and achieved my tasks for the day.
It can be an event that can influence your thoughts, like when Princess Diana died it made me get off my arse and do something useful and made me see that you can’t waste life. Life changes come with changes to your own thoughts with yourself and others. I know if I just sit in front of my laptop for too long, loose concentration and get restless, and taking a break can influence your mind, and noticing your thoughts to rest and do something else. The mind likes variety not doing the same thing all of the time, and mixing it up so you feel good each day and now I write in my journal on my phone everyday on my thoughts and feelings and in my notebook journal, where I write about what has made me happy each day.
This helps believe my own mind and trust my instincts. I was working on my Life Coaching course and some of what the course covers is self doubt, and how you need self doubt to overcome it, like when I write a blog I often think “Should I post it or not?” but this stirs me on to get it done and part of building a blog is to write it and learn from each post, what type of audience do I want to get in touch with on my blog and how they respond to it, making sure it isn’t offensive, but real life.
I believe in my mind in a way that I reduce worrying. At one point I would live by my worrying and it can be so draining. I know for my mind to function well to eliminate feelings of worry, by taking action. Like I feel anxious about getting my son ready for school, so I will get up early now, to do a bit of work on the computer as at the moment he will sleep on passed 5am now, but after 6am and do his breakfast or his dad will, and not rushing around, but give myself enough time to look after myself in the morning to help get my son ready for school, and plan each day, so things get done and not playing catch up that can cause me to worry.
In the evenings I will make sure that I not on my laptop too late and listen to my mind when it gets tired and being on my laptop in the evenings would make my mind active again and would struggle in getting to sleep that would affect my mind the next day and so will read, get myself and my son ready for bed and will do stories and I sleep better than I have ever done. I do take medication to help too, but lowering my mental activity on my phone and laptop in the evenings, has helped too.