It is okay to put yourself first.
It is okay to say your tired and have someone else cook.
It is okay to sleep in and read, whilst your kids are playing with the other parent or with a friend, relative.
We all need to recharge, go for a walk without your kids hanging onto your ankles.
We are all here to live a blissful life and life can become too much, so don’t feel bad if you need some time to yourself.
Forget the guilt and put a DO NOT DISTURB sign on the door whilst you write or chilling listening to a podcast and I like to often have time with the TV off and sit in silence as we all need to switch off. We are human and living beings, who need to step back, putting yourself first for once.
It okay to meet with friends rather than hoover the house and not chat on WhatsApp, but see them face to face.
I enjoy spending time with others but at the same time, I like my own company and going for a walk, grab a coffee and sit by the river or by a local pond and let my mind wonder and watching the world go by.
Learn a new skill. I have done courses at a community college and did a singing class, drama, but then got a job working at a holiday camp, so didn’t continue but was fun and done football coaching, courses on mental health and it is good to learn and grow your knowledge and you don’t have to tell the world, but be a personal project.
I like to take trips, with no real plan but just travelling on a bus or train listening to a audio book or music, looking in charity shop, not for entertainment but to see if I can find some items on my list of things I’d like to buy.
I like to eat out occasionally when my son is at school and my husband is at work.
Check out my new vlog of me going to Putney: https://youtu.be/xJ4-5dYDUAk
So be selfish and make the time yours and yours only, then once you’ve had some time to be with yourself then meet with others again and schedule some more down time.
This is part of my training I am doing for April 2025 because following these practices and loving my own company aswell is socialising, has helped to have a better relationship with myself and my life.
Please check out these two blogs written before for training. See the links below:
Many thanks for reading,
Carrie X
Everyone can build a castle 
