Today I have a few videos to be edited and uploaded, yet right now I don’t feel like it. Not because I don’t like the videos, because I do. It is about “Will my laptop shut down when I try?” as it is a bit temperamental and feel like I want a day off, which once I can get into the right mindset I know I will get it done.
I tend to feel like this each morning because of self doubt of “Am I capable?”. It is only a video some may say but for me it is the process of listening to myself that stops me in my tracks to ask “Is it good enough?”, “Will people like it?”. Imposter syndrome is very common and I feel it a lot at times, and have to remind myself that “I am good enough” and “I am worth it”, but I find it so hard to say because of how much others are doing compared to me.
That needs to stop I know so I allow myself to get bits done but with a break and as I get through the morning feel better, because I know this is just a habit I have got myself in and can be detoured by just acting not thinking.
The more I think about it the more I resist it, so I just need to “Bite the bullet” and get it done, and that is the answer. No more dwelling but doing.
So lets take action today. Do you ever feel like this? Leave a comment below.
Hello it September 2022 and it has taken a few days to get over the events of the Queens passing as it was so amazing to see so many people paying their respects and when it comes to a loss of someone it can take a while to readjust and it was such a historic event that kids will be able to tell their kids one day of the last ten days.
Now it is time to get back to normality and so getting bits done and today I have really had to push myself as I am struggling with my energy levels and been gradually getting bits done but at a steady pace and that the key is “Not to stress over what I needs to be done”, and do it because you want to. It is a bad habit to fall into as when we rush we aren’t using our full potential. It can make us even more unmotivated, and make mistakes, so this morning I have been filming as filming in the mornings works better for me and I don’t always wear make up, but I want my videos to be about me and that is what it is, it’s showing parts of my life that may inspired others, but finding what works for them, using my methods of getting parts of your life sorted out.
I separate my time by doing some work in the mornings and in the evenings and it really is a system to manage what I need to do. Doing a Autumn Reset means Managing your life but for me it has to be “One area at a time”. I can’t do it for my sanity “All at once”. So for example this week I have been filming some videos that were due and wanted to get done, I have been going through my financial goals, then writing this blog post and will be working on my other blog sites and get my Autumn Reset Printable completed to post and work on this months newsletter and then work on my emails.
I have no posh system. I use my diary from TK Maxx, a notebook from the store The Works, One Note and Notion to manage my life. I use a teacher planner for my son Henry to help with managing his life to help keep track of dates and what he had for dinner, what he has been doing and just keeping track, to help him and me. It is have “A I can do it system” and now I have started to feel a live and so gonna use it to manage my life and listen to music, and “Be comfortable”.
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So it is Day 7 and not doing this on continuous days, but the areas I want to go through and make changes, as sitting here being September, catching up on watching Youtube videos I realise I go through different cycles and do live seasonally, example: I start to want to do crafting and decorate my notebooks and journals, and want to have a hot chocolate and tend to have a bigger sweet tooth.
It is seasonal habits that I subconsciously do and so I do have to watch my weight and find that I find it hard to take a shower because of the cold and want to get ready for bed earlier too.
Getting out of bed is another issue because of the dark mornings and soon the clocks will change again and not wanting salads but hot meals and have a hot drink at the end of the evening, rather than a can of coke. This can effect your wellbeing because it just makes me want to hibernate.
This is why I make it a habit to make my bed now as it can be easy just to leave it, because if not I will get back in and stay there the whole day. I want to stay in my pyjamas all day, which is good to do, I love lazy days but then get that sense of guilt for doing so and feel unproductive, so I have changed and so as much as loved lazy days, I still like to get dressed but do more cozy things like watching a film or documentary.
I like to read and listen to chill out music, then watch repeats of things on TV and so I really have to try my best not to stay in more, but still get outside, so I will layer up because of the cold and just want to be comfortable and still be productive.
I like to go over my habits and I don’t want to be sleeping in, but still get at a reasonable time to get things done and get to where I need to be. I find I don’t want to exercise but this year want to go on regular walks and I love it. I like walking and still do workouts indoors too.
I want to make a habit into doing a new Make up routine where I want to still put on some but not too much and have no make up days still, but not wearing any effects my confidence so I have started a new regime and want to have a clear out of my make up, so I put some on each day of the week perhaps and have no make up days at the weekends. So I go through changes and will be setting myself some academic yearly goals.
Do you live seasonally let me know and what habits you wish to change this part of the year to continue into 2023. You can leave a comment below.
When it comes to doing a Reset it is clearing out the feelings you have as you move from Summer to Autumn, get rid of negative thoughts and welcoming a new change of weather and time. Getting up the dark and going home in the dark, can have an impact on our feelings, so to help with this is to get to alter your way of thinking, by making changes to it.
Use a SAD light, as getting up when it is dark and make us more prone to put our alarms on snooze and so getting a SAD light still make you feel more awake if you suffer with SAD, or for me I use m little lamp to help me become awake and I set my alarm earlier to help me awake better. Cold showers can help too and go for a run or walk if you can in the morning wake us up also.
Have a daily ritual where by in the mornings you have a drink, have your clothes ready to put on and your croissant, anything that helps you to function through from the morning to the evening, where you wind down ready for bed.
Set out your day. I plan the night before and use my weekly block schedule I showed in a previous blog, where I have set different task for each day to help what been done, going to do next and what to do after those tasks have been completed.
Change your home. A lot of people, watching Youtube mainly, change their homes for the Autumn and winter, and when I do get a new home of my own again, will be something I will be doing, and it can really help prepare and enjoy each season through the changes you have been making in your home.
Spend time getting extra rest. Doing the school runs, fitting in some writing and making a meal for each day can be tiring so set a time to have some extra rest.
Go for a family walk. If you don’t get time to spend time as a family then set time. Like the weekends to go on a autumn or winter walk, and why not pop in a coffee shop together and have coffee and and walk regularly.
Remember to have a good weekend meal. I love Autumn as it can be a great time to have a traditional Sunday Roast and so why not make one whilst watching a good Sunday and Autumnal movie, followed by a nice tea in the evening whilst watching a good Sunday Drama on the TV or Netflix.
It is so good to try these ways to get used to a different season again, and make the most of each day and create more happiness in your everyday life going with the changes of the seasons.
This blog has been influenced by the passing of the Queen because how huge it is when someone who did so much for the world dies and she meant so much to other people. When it comes to resetting, you have to prioritize family time, because time is precious and I have learned that by becoming a mum and yes it can be tiring as a mother, it is my life and I love being a mum.
I want to create forever memories that he can keep, and time is short. I want to see my son enjoy school and have friends, and learn to forgive any issues with family members that may have upset you.
Living a more happier life, involves having good family around you and that supports you. I see friends as family and so love keeping in touch and spend time sending them a message or liking what they are sharing via social media. It is good to come off social media, because I think there are downsides to it, but I love it for keeping each touch with my family and wishing them a happy birthday, or what ever occasion they are sharing.
Spend time going with your children of family that have passed on, like I do with Henry. Yesterday we went on trip up central London to wish our condolences to the Queen and this will be something that our kids will be talking about, but as we travelled back by bus, went through family who lived near where we were travelling, and talking to my son about his relatives.
He won’t get to see all of our family as it is big, so it is good to talk to your kids about those who are still around and who have passed away. I want my son to know who my dad was, and so have a family reset and go through pictures and letters, and just make the time to be with family.
Time passes and once it has gone it won’t be there again so make time for family and why not play some old fashion games, like card games. The one thing I loved about my family was when we had a game of cards or dominoes.
Just never forget those who you love, and today I am going to help Henry write a message to King Charles III. When I was at school we were told to write a letter to Prince Williams, I went to St Paul’s Primary in Hammersmith and wished I had kept a copy but we didn’t have equipment back then to do so, and it is good to mark these occasions as we won’t many of us see a Queen again or a Jubilee so you have to take the time to restore that with your children, for when they grow up can tell their children, if they want children and their grandchildren one day..
This is the same when it comes to the ones you love. Create enough memories as possible, and never allow too much time as it could be too late. My grandad always gave my nan a kiss at nighttime because as you never know if you’ll wake up the next day.
Make time for a family day and I think the Royal Family have continued because they are very much joined and make the time for each member, and is something we should do the same. Make a meal that you can all enjoy, or reading time, and just be together even if it is once a week. This you could do a menu and make it fun, and have a tea party and write a gratitude journal and a happy journal to jot down memorable moments.
Welcome to day four and I filmed a video today clearing out one of my storage bins that sits on my bedside set of draws near to my bedside table, and so if you’d like to watch this, then click here https://youtu.be/ZBpYIFOUSZM
I will film another video tomorrow to clear out another storage bin which is placed under my desk at the moment and then I going to sort out my small wardrobe I have and see what can stay and what can go.
Managing life when there are many areas to clear up is the process of turning a corner. It felt good to sort out that bin today because it is another area I don’t have to stress about, and that is the main point. If it causing you stress get it sorted out as the stress is just going to build up even more.
Get inspired by others. That is what happened to me today when watching a Youtube video of someone giving tips of sorting out the stuff they have, called the Sunday Stylist and just now watched another video by Clutterbug, which has now made me want to sort out my wardrobe and clothes. I hope these blogs inspire you. It really is worth it.
IT IS GOOD TO SPREAD THE WORD!
I am going to put together, like I did for my Life coaching programmes, a printable together with tips and ideas in sorting out your life. I do also have EBooks on Amazon that may interest you under the names of Carrie Challoner, Carrie Lee Holmes as I wanted to be original but then have stuck with my maiden name, Carrie Holmes as it is easier to remember.
It means going through your finances too, and do take notes of what I have spent each day is making a difference, and checking my bank account each day and and now being able to save again and be more vigilant. It so easy to spend money now when you just have to tap your card on a little machine and so really making sure I spend wisely and still looking for inspiration on looking after my finances still. I currently use a notebook which I use daily to write tasks down and for a lot of things, so would like a better system still. If you know of ideas then let me know.
I even had a Filofax to help me look after my money but this didn’t work for me at all. I will keep researching and need to update my budget which is one thing I do through out the year. I budget on everything, like buying clothes, food and yearly celebrations, such as birthdays and dare I say it, Christmas.
So lets keep on and see what else I can sorted out. I think I am going to do another chapter of my book I am working on and then a bit more motivation to help me continue for tomorrow., to get to grips of the areas that need to be dealt with and can get finished items done too.
When you have so many tasks to complete you can feel bogged down and want to some way scrape them to one side and says continuously “I’ll do it tomorrow” and that tomorrow comes and you procrastinate and do what you can to put if off once again.
I like writing and on my 10th I think book and I love the writing process, but not the editing part, yet it needs to be done before it is completed and so I then want to write a blog, then put some laundry on and then watch another video and then film a video, and it just never going to be finished if I don’t get my arse in gear. Yet when I do get it done I do then feel better for it, and tell myself “See it’s not that bad after all”.
When it comes to planning I take small steps and have created a block schedule for my week and going to alter my google calendar as there are some things I want to change to fit what I like to do each day, like have a new fitness plan. I want to do more walking each day and do more early morning indoor workouts again, along with a new make up routine as I don’t want to wear it everyday, but because it helps boost my confidence going to put it on and do a quick routine for everyday.
I have a new online course that I want to get finished for my Educational network and alter my existing courses I have created. You can check these out here: https://carrieseducationnetwork.thinkific.com/
I have a few courses I have been doing and so adding time to do these in my week and due to do some other courses in Childcare, as I want to help support other parents and feel I need to work on my skills and knowledge. Now we are in new academic year feel that I am ready to tackle unfinished projects and that is all you need, making a fresh start can really be great for the mind and for the body.
So do you have some unfinished projects? now it is time to get them done and set a plan. Let’s help each other and please share if you’d like and wish you good luck.
So to build your life you have to take a step back not too far, but so you can observe what is currently in your life and what needs to change. I need to change my schedule back from the Summer to the Winter. This means going over my calendar and what important dates are happening, and following the next academic year.
What is the one change you want to make right now? could be a piece of furniture that looks out of place, someone in your life is causing you pain, or your working life needs more balance? We can get so caught up and forget about what we truly want. So schedule times to have a sort out. This September I am going to go through my Youtube videos as I feel that I get behind, along with my finances, and have made a better block schedule to keep writing.
This really has really helped balance the things I need to do and I am going to do some training recommended to me and it is good to spend time building my skills and knowledge. I will be working on a new Life Coaching course too, and there areas which I want to build on, because of the plans I have. I want to work with kids again and that works with the school run, as I do enjoy writing but would like to do more outdoor work too.
It is good to have different eggs in baskets and support my son and help develop other kids so they become more independent, and having a son that has ADHD and Autism, can be tricky so it good to do training as I am a parent and fill it is my job to build my knowledge as a parent, to support other parents.
I am currently getting a new book published, which will be my second fictional book and so it is good to reset to set my life so I can manage this area more too.
This isn’t plugging but showing that like many have different areas of my life that I can feel bogged down, and so to manage this I need a good functional schedule and take regular breaks in between and spend time with family. That is another area that we can forget because of the everyday living to spend some family time.
So, lets reorganize and get our life ready for the new season and tell me one area are you gong to sort out. I’d love your feedback.
Tomorrow it is the last day of my Life Coaching programme “The Summer Project 2022”, and managed to fit a new video, check it out here: https://youtu.be/PAl0RT4OUSY
Image I took of my son’s and I trip into London School Summer Holidays 2022
Thank you for all the likes and follows, it really means the world to me. I can’t believe this week of the School summer holidays and I have had so much fun, and it be back in the routine of school and my routine changes, in that I work in the morning, and I have new programme beginning, which is the “Autumn Reset 2022” and is all about resetting your life for a better Autumn and get back into the winter time zone and when the nights get dark early.
This will run as of the beginning of September to the end of October and will be getting back into colder days and nights. It is good to get ready for it, and time for birthday planning and Christmas. It stuns me how close it is and feel a little bit anxious knowing it is leading close by and so be thinking about cards and gifts.
I will be doing gift guide videos and will be prepping for the festive cheer and setting more challenges for myself and going to have a more fun this year. I no longer want to be a humbug, even though many of us will be struggling with the price of things and many family scrimping and scrapping, and so it means lowering the budget but still have a good time.
I find it makes me want to be a bit inventive and not buy the same thing, in terms of presents and will be doing all I can to reach out to you in helping you get through the Winter slump.
So, I am going to enjoy this last week and then will be having a revamp of my life and getting rid of items I no longer need but may be for someone else, and sensible about where my money is going too.
It is all about making the most of what you have and how you can save without living for each paycheck.
I now use Sundays as a Reset and it really gives a kick start to the week ahead. I am not a massive fan of cleaning and so it does take a long to get myself to do it, but feel good once done and seen the results.
I use Sundays and Mondays to reset and that is clearing rubbish, go through lists not completed and just go through what I have done and what I do next.
It revaluates your life, as you can see what area of my life you need to work on, example for me I need to fit in time exercise more, and so I will go for a walk each day and once I get the message “Do a workout” that is exactly what I will do, and you can use exercise to reset your life.
Exercising has so many benefits. Example I find it gives me a good boost of energy and feel good about my body and how I feel about myself. I will make sure I give myself time to look after my skin and going through what I have that I still love and what I don’t.
I will vacuum my bedroom each week and do a bit of dusting, and just getting things in shape. I like space and allow myself time to gather my life and keep growing.
Spend time to journal and gather my thoughts and fears. Have time changing my bedding and just spend time working and building on different areas of my life.
It can be anything that is making you feel overwhelmed and you need more shape in your life.
So have time to reset your life and help you be in a positive mindset.
Everyone can build a castle 