Hello! So here we are at the beginning of December 2024 but can follow this weeks Cheat Sheet, I post every Monday and free to download, for years to come and it is good to have as an adult to Having Time to Yourself at Christmas such as one is having a girls or Men night in and delegate Christmas duties and have someone in charge of decorating or get your kids to do. Obviously staying safe but not falling into on your shoulders.
It is coming close to the season of cheer and joy, but for some it can be the worst time of the year if they have experienced trauma or a loss of someone. This can affect our feelings. When my spark had gone for Christmas it made me feel that I couldn’t wait for it be over. I felt under pressure because of my gift will not be good enough and how much I pay matters, but now I know that is not true.
Now I love it and the birth of my son has helped and loves it and it taking it step by step. I wrote a long time ago about changing traditions: Creating new traditions So I go for a walk, prep for dinner or my husband does that and just chill.
So now any celebration I acknowledge it and set into play good days out, seeing family and going for a drink (remember safety) can help with creating memories that my son can cherish and the tables turn when you have kids, like when my Grandad died (my mums dad), she’d come to us for Christmas dinner rather than her cook, we then went back over to hers when she was in Sheltered Housing, being elderly so couldn’t go we went to hers so she wasn’t on her own and that we still celebrated as a family.
It is time take it easy and not allow it to beat you over the head of can’t afford it because we think the more expensive it is the more reassured that our family or friends know you love them and we get into debt which causes you to fear it. Your presents and time is enough and not about causing guilt or anxiety because you have lack of funds and if you need support than ask. Going to the Food Bank is not to make you devalued but is about getting support so you can still celebrate Christmas and I feel strongly that we shouldn’t have family needing to go to a foodbanks because all families should be given support by our government and reducing cost and Foodbank isn’t a dirty word and there is no price tag when it comes to love.
I each month now I give to the local Foodbank to help families. This is not an ad, but how I feel about the world and love to give and we should all be helping each other so we can have happiness and enjoy the festive season.
A cup of tea and breakfast: I look forward to breakfast now and plan what I am going to eat that will boost my energy each day.
Reading: I love a good book to read and its nice to do a bit of reading and helps build my knowledge and helps me with my writing.
Go for a walk: I read at the doctors last Monday, as I had my Mental Health review and on the wall was a leaflet saying, that just a 10 minute walk is still exercise and vary my walks and routes I like to walk that is peaceful and love a pond or a river.
Do some studying: I have been doing a lot of courses and this has helped me use my time wisely as there is so much I’d like to do and helped me with writing my blogs and focus on my own wellbeing and understanding the body and mind, and love studying and learning new skills and building my knowledge on life to help me and pass on my knowledge to others, build their wellbeing.
Set your goals: A lot of time we can feel overwhelmed when we hear about setting goals and take a lot of time, but that is not the case. Focus on what you want and can be a small goal or a large goal. I did my 2025 goals and didn’t take long at all and looked the areas and things I enjoy and will help me feel good and enjoy life as much as possible as it goes to fast.
Change jobs and lifestyle: I have worked for many large companies, like I was a steward at Fulham Football club, the manufacturer Philip and International Tennis Federation and Diners Club and it has helped me shape my life and found the working world suited me, because I like earning my own money, but often found I would get bored and as soon as I found myself dreading the day, knew that it is not for me anymore and moved on. I currently do volunteer work and I really enjoy it. I work for Epsom Hospital Radio and have my own show on Sunday’s 4pm to 6pm, and been focusing on the things I enjoy and why I have been doing courses and getting back into fundraising. I am doing a Winter Walk in London in January and so glad to be able to do these events again as I have had battles with my Mental Health and so focusing on what I really want to do, like writing and working on radio, doing more volunteer work.
Family Time: I like family time and taking my son out and playing sports and walking. I feel privileged to be his mum and love that he loves my attention and this week after dinner and bath time, in the evenings been watching Deal or No Deal and playing table tennis. This week was his birthday and I was nervous about it but seeing him enjoy himself and love his presents make me appreciate time I have with him and with seeing other members of the family, because it flies by and like feeling like I have had a good day being productive and love the little things, as well as the big things.
I hope you all had a good time doing Trickle Treating and fire displays. I have done some gift guide videos. Please check out my channel: https://www.youtube.com/@financialliving
Now it is birthday season for me and then of course there is Christmas and hear is my first Cheat Sheet with gift ideas.
This is all those who love books and planners and great gifts as they are useful and I love to read and can be passed down and give old books too, if they are in good condition.
These Cheat Sheets I post on this site each Monday are completely free to download and print.
Hello and Happy Saturday. I am not often able to post on Saturdays as I spend time in Wimbledon. I thought I would post my this Months newsletter. I post them each month and are free to download and print. Please see below:
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If we didn’t have a Queen, we would have never had a King and now we have a King, he now will be head of the monarch and it has been a massive adjustment and I bet that he feels that too. It is not the title but the thing they do that has a massive impact and the Queen did that.
She had problems of her own, but she always showed up. You have Nelson Mandela who was imprisoned and became a figure head and helped stop black people being used as slaves and being mistreated and became a leader of his country and did so much to improve lives.
When I talk about Nelson Mandela, I think about Bob Geldof who used his talent of music to make a difference to those in Africa that were starving and created Band Aid, with it still to this day the song “Do they know it’s Christmas time” is still being played at Christmas and there have been different versions since then, but as far as I am concerned you can’t beat the original song. It sends a real message that we, including myself have taken special days and events for granted and there are many people who don’t because we still have people trying to have a normal life but because of money they aren’t able to.
Then there are children and Michael Jackson for example who were iconic because of his status in the music industry, that his music made a difference and with many being written by himself and still being played, long passed his life and his family lives. He was star from a child and he didn’t know anything else. Then there were the Spice Girls who became iconic, because they achieved success that beat male bands out of the air and still today they make an impact. Victoria Beckham, is now a fashion designer and Emma Bunton has been working on radio and helped the girl bands and that it okay to be a woman in music, and did get in touch with young girls and I remember when they became iconic, because I was living in a housing estate at the time a couple of girls upstairs were singing and copying the dance that they did to “Wannabe” and still today their music lives on.
I think it is because it takes people out of their lives for four to five minutes and helps them get through their lives. Music to me has had a massive impact and it takes me back to certain times and addresses how I am feeling. Sports like football helps you switch off from your life and that is how Paul Gascoigne became a famous because him crying made everyone else feel it, when we lost against West Germany in 1990. We saw them as human beings, which we can often forget and got in touch with people’s hearts. It boosted the football in England as we were so close in getting to the final and then the Premiership came to light and this changed the view on football and the leagues had all been shuffled and been changed.
Those who make such a impact has made us all wish to do the same and inspired us to be somebody by making a difference.
My grandparents and parents have been a massive impact on my life as it made me stand on my own two feet and that I do have a good effect support around me and grateful, rather than thinking of what I didn’t have, and embrace life now thinking of those who have helped me grow and will continue to do so.
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I thought that I would never be married at one point as I went through the phase of not believing in it and thought it was just a piece of paper and I never had a lot of boyfriends in my teens and twenties didn’t really want to be with anyone, but felt I should, to keep up with others who had boyfriends but realised no, I living by their means and not my own. I just enjoyed my Youth and in 2002 I made a decision that I needed to follow my dream in working at a holiday camp. I wanted to be a red coat, but it didn’t happen, because I met my husband and in 2006 got married and then in 2013 I fell pregnant.
Me and my son
Life is full of surprises, because when I first applied to work at a holiday camp was turned down and didn’t get further in the process of actually being employed and so it took two years, and so was a surprise that my second year of trying, I was successful and I was home sick, for the first two weeks but then stayed down there, for about 5 years. I never became a red coat, and part of me is sad about that, but it still was a life changing experience.
Be prepared for surprises by setting goals and when you want to achieve them. Back in 2013 my son was born premature and it was a shock. A week or so before reading a mother and baby magazine, I saw an article about premature births and ignored it, thinking “I didn’t need to read that” and wished I had.
When working at a call center there was a colleague who was a web designer and feel bad because I was unkind because I was jealous of her that she went on to be a Senior Agent and I didn’t, but it made me make changes to my life when I read a book, called The WAGS Diary and started writing a blog. I am not a WAG by the way and would be fully surprised if that ever happened. I like to watch football but on the TV or if I fancy going to see a football match, but not looking to date a footballer. No offence to those who do.
Back in 1990 after not really bothered about football I began to play in the school playground, as the other girls in my class were and so “If you can’t beat them join them” and cried for two hours after England got beat by West Germany in a penalty shoot out. Overnight became a full on football fan and fell in love with it and I changed my image, from being a girlie girl to a tom boy.
I had changed from wanting to be a singer to wanting to become, not a player but a coach and created this character in my head called Sherie, from a girl I used to go to school with, and be the first woman in a men’s team and later in 2012 I did my FA Coaching badge and ended up managing a football team, at youth level, and coached girls and boys team.
This is surprising myself that if I want something then I can get it but I have to do for myself and not rely on others, and standing on my own too feet. I fell in love with rugby league, with a friend who knew I liked sport, and followed the team for 8 years, and then stopped to work at a holiday camp.
Going through that really surprises me, as it felt such a long way off, for all those things happening, so follow your dreams as you will be surprised of what you can do in your life that will surprise you each and everyday, of your life.
I hope you have had a good easter so far, my mum is hosting an Easter Egg hunt today, so spending time with family and I will be planning activities and trips to different places for the holidays and will be posting more and I do film vlogs. Please check out my Youtube channel: Typical London gal: https://www.youtube.com/@typicallondongal
Hello and happy new year! It is so good that I have a better laptop because my other one was causing so many problems that it really was making me feel frustrated, but stuck with it and my mum got me a new one and so thankful.
I no longer set resolutions but life changes, and so I managing my mind to make sure I feel calm and if there are challenges by not dwelling on them. I would over analyse everything and that something must have happened for a reason, and would drive myself mad.
It can be draining, like I was watching a live Instagram post, and typed a comment on the live but when I read it back, it didn’t say what I wanted and so I was like, “I hope he doesn’t think I was being rude”, so now I read back what I have written before posting. How many of you have done that? Or texting to the wrong person, or found your phone calling an emergency number?
I hope it isn’t just me?
So, I learn to reflect and learn from it.
It is changing your thought process, and realise that you are only human. So getting out of my head, journal which always helps me and think okay next time I will make sure I check my text and put my phone on lock so if is accidentally sit on it, its not calling anyone.
If you’d like to share your life changes for 2024 then please leave a comment below.
Everyone can build a castle 