Yes a new week and time to start a fresh. It means getting up ready for work, taking your kids to school and planning so you are organised for the week. So in that, I have created this Cheat Sheet of things you can do that will lower the stress and make yourself priority of once and you follow these tips, that I have shared in this week Cheat Sheet.
I hope this helps you, I post these Cheat Sheets every Monday and share on this blog site and on my other blog site The Parenting Adventures tips and tricks site. They are completely free.
Life will often hit you like a sudden death of someone, job loss or a holiday that has been cancelled that you were really looking forward to and so what can you do? How can you change the feelings of sadness and shock?
It takes time and grief is a personal thing and it dependant on the person but just take each day as it comes and allow it to build your strength and I miss my dad, and everyday I think about “What could I have done?” “What would he say if he was still alive?” and I wish he was here still but I know that dwelling on that is like hitting a dead end, so the importance for me was to move on for my own sanity.
You can’t fix everything and life is challenging at times and it can affect us in what we do each day. Its change. When my parents divorced I tried to block it out and was going out a lot to avoid what was going on and I was working up London and then it hit me and it really sent me down a downward spiral.
Yet I pictured it along time before it happened, but I had to take time to face it and the first Christmas of that year in 2000 was tough, and my spark of the festive season went and dreaded it.
Then in 2002 I went to the Southcoast to work at a holiday camp (Butlins Bognor Regis) and met my now husband and for a while I didn’t realise we were going out but we were, so in 2006 got married and moved back to London and then 2013 my son was born.
I am sad that my dad never got to meet him but he did know about it, as my brother saw him and so I had to come to turns with it as my mind can analyse everything and it drives me mad, so to help me to grow and going on my dads mistakes made sure I didn’t follow suit and remembering the good times and not worry about the bad.
Life will stop you in your tracks and this is good and bad, so I spend a lot of time in focusing on today and not rushing into things. I have had the intensity to think about the Autumn when we are still in Summer and being thankful of what I have in my life today. I was struggling with this blog because I felt I was rambling on and talking all about my passed and that I have had a good day so far today. I got the shopping I needed, worked on completing my Counselling course and watching a bit of Youtube and did a bit of tidy up.
I am having my first coffee for the day and journaled to help get this blog written for my Life Coaching programme Summer Project 2024 and filming a vlog and just enjoying each day, letting myself think about the now and not tomorrow and next week unless it is important and can help to not have too much to do and what I am looking forward to, to stop thinking of the bad feelings and what I don’t have right now.
I just as I write this blog, started journaling to figure out what to do about my restlessness and what I want next in my life, visioning my growth, building my life but focus on what I can do today to get to doing those things and listening to a self help video, listening to music or a podcast.
So today I am filming a vlog, going to make an apple crumble and then see what I can do today to complete my tasks planned for today.
This weeks is all about Lessons I have learned and hope they help you to with creating a better life and being happy with yourself and accepting who we are.
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Hello and I hope you have had a good month so far and soon it will be July and time is moving so fast that finding it hard to catch up, but has been good. My son yesterday was told he goes up to stage 4 next September. He has swimming lessons every Saturday and so that was good to to find that out, and planning for the Summer Holidays which my newsletter I post each month is about and giving ideas of places to go in the UK, like last year we went to North Greenwich on an Uber Boat and was such good fund so planning more trips this year and ready for them.
I once post this will be having a coffee and getting things done and I forgot to email about my video I did last week for my Life Coaching programme called “Summer Project 2024” helping you have a better life and a better year. So here it is: https://youtu.be/cT2g1fTWHFk
If you want to make changes in your life then start from going through what is getting at you, and needs sorting out. This time four years ago I lost sense of myself and things were happening according to my mind, to realise that actually it is okay and I was in debt, staying in bed all the time and felt very alone and that my life was just too hard to face.
Now it is June 2024 I feel so much better taking on new opportunities as I am now working Voluntary for Epsom Hospital Radio, which I wanted to do when I left school, but had no idea of how to go about it, I published another book I Mum&Me and editing another to publish and got back into my fitness, building steps and doing weight training and focusing on my son as there was a time where I hardly saw him at all and have a stronger bond than ever before and I love him more each, playing sports with him when he is not moaning, and got my life back and is growing more and more each day.
There are still so much I want to do and as humans we are growing everyday, and ask yourself, what do you value in life? I had to change to get to the next stage in my life and not holding back from opportunities and building back my confidence within myself and belief, and planning what else I want in my life and taking action.
I’ve being watching a lot of Amy Winehouse, who build her own successful writing music and singing and raw songs as she wrote about what was happening in her life, but sadly she left the world when she was at the height of her career and it feels me with such sadness that she was not in a good place, yet had major success.
So it is not about having it all but finding what makes you happy in the world we live in and not allow life get to us and to make your stronger, and live your life to the best of your ability.
Life wouldn’t be life if we didn’t have a bad day and not saying that I want things to go wrong but like yesterday going up stairs my sons tipping point machine fell on the floor, so all the tokens from it fell all over the floor. Yet I didn’t dwell on it as with the help of my son we put he tipping point toy together and picked up the tokens then as planned I went to bed, and no one got hurt so didn’t give myself a hard time over it, like have done so in the passed.
It is so good to take time out from the outdoor world, but then change of scenery is also good so not being cooped up can help you feel good about each day and listen to your mind and body to enjoy the days whilst alive as life can go so quickly.
I like to do different things each day and have plenty to do.
There will always be unplanned events like if you have children, have picked up a bug, the trains being delayed and caught up in Traffic, making you late. This can cause stress, so to avoid this plan ahead and have a back up plan, something I learned from being a manager of a football team, because of the weather which we have no control over but can help us be prepared like having an umbrella and going through different routes to find which will be best, to avoid the bad weather.
If you haven’t slept well and everything is irritating you.
Plan a ritual like reading book, practice mindfulness and going for a walk always helps me and take a nap in the day if you can, or just plan for bedtime to have a good nights sleep and make sure your body is properly relaxed. As soon as I put my head on my pillow ideas of blogs and videos start and that happened last night so brain dumped and have something you can jot down to clear your thoughts and have a proper restful mind and not being on my laptop too late in the evening has made a difference too.
Do a evening checklist.
Before I got to bed I check the back door is locked and the front door, everything is turned off and switch my phone on silent and volume down so the only thing that will sound is my alarm.
I also do a check list when leaving the home. I make sure that nothing is on that shouldn’t be and check my emails daily in case my sons school have sent something to me, for my son and appointments, and that I empty my inboxes daily. Then check my phone as I get alerts on there too from my sons school and health check ups and I make sure I remember appointments made, as last week I nearly forgot about a school we (my mum and I) checking out as we got to start looking for a secondary school for my son and that I had a telephone appointment, so doing a daily check in the evenings helps to clear my mind, so my mind isn’t stirring and can properly switch off and helps reduce bad days and take more time for myself so I wake up refreshed and not more tired in the mornings, and tired enough in the evening to get a good sleep and reduce my anxiety and anxiousness that I can feel each day, when I do have a good nights sleep.
Things will go wrong in life and it is part of living. It’s all about how to handle it, should we dwell on it or take into our stride for it to go right and that is part of the living process.
So try not to beat yourself up when things don’t go to plan and if you need time to readjust then take that time.
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Hello and happy Monday! A new week and a new cheat sheet. I post these every Monday to help give you motivation and ideas on doing what you love, getting things done and getting more out of life and in the days and the weeks.
This Weeks Cheat Sheet is sharing the Things I like to do each week.
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Hello and welcome to another post. This week was a bit rushed as there were appointments were made ages ago and so was thinking I had a clear week had to reschedule and manage my content in the little gaps and doing two courses so had to change my plans but that’s life.
In this video I am sharing https://youtu.be/H4L8hdfj_mE getting to grips with life and getting my arse in gear as I guilty of putting things off so I schedule when I know I have a clear day to get it done. I am giving my kitchen in Epsom cupboard cleaned inside, and cleaning is not my favourite thing, so I need a clear day to know not to put it off and get it done.
I filmed a vlog that is coming on my vlog channel, Typical London Gal Carrie Holmes, of cleaning my packaging and cutlery draw. Jobs that I like to do, but want to take my time in doing and not rush. I am not a fan of rushing.
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Image of Rosbery Park in Epsom and where I like to walk through, as feel so good when I do.
I think we are in the “Now Culture” and yes sitting and waiting doesn’t always help but when you are exhausted each day, it is worth taking a back seat and let life take its course. I plan a lot, but sometimes it is good to just relax and do things not on the to do list. Example yesterday we watched a film, today instead of editing my book, spent time working on my blogs and catching up on Youtube and write my daily blog: https://mydailythougthsandfeelings.blogspot.com/2024/05/making-most-of-weekend.html
I use one note, my diary and google Calendar of what I want to get done each week. I use my Filofax to plan my writing and courses and go through my finances and go through my expenses and use an Excel Spreadsheet and go through important dates, such as appointments and birthdays.
When it comes to getting things done, I like to have music or something on at the background and to exercise I walk and use my exercise mat and dumbells. When it comes to cooking I like to have things in the cupboard and fridge because my husband didn’t want to use the freezer anymore, and also because like the week just gone my son and I was in Wimbledon, for half term (school holidays).
Having a simple picnic or a train ride and time to go where we want and not worry about time. I this week are going to make time to have a good clean and tidy in the kitchen again, as I did this the last week before half term, and doing more walking at home on the treadmill and outside. I like doing weights and using my exercise mat.
I like to cook and have things to hand that will keep me below budget but fulfilling and so like to have sauces to make our family favourite meals, like Meatballs and spaghetti, I am getting some left over bolognaise we had on Saturday so it doesn’t go to waste and tonight it is curry and my sons favourite meals is beans egg, and toast.
Simple meals, planning and organizing in simple ways and simple living is how I roll and will continue to do. Life doesn’t have to be hard and enjoyment is the key ingredient and feeling free from stress to make each day as good as the last one.
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