I have regretted things. I have really punished myself over them. Life is about moving on and going as the times goes and letting things go: Autumn Reset Day 5: Letting things go If there is a photo that makes you unhappy delete it. If there is a piece of clothing or furniture that makes you quiver and upset you then addressing your feelings can help aswell as letting them go.
There are certain songs that can trigger it and so I will play a song that makes me happy or change the thought because of that song. Listen with fresh ears and the same with films or certain TV.
Time is not going to wait and as humans we grow from our mistakes. I have said the wrong thing. Can I turn back and correct? Not I can’t.
Life is full of lessons and we need to forgive ourselves and stop obsessing. If you can imagine being constantly being hit on the head or anywhere with a mallet how would it feel? It would get on your nerves and that is what regrets do.
It is up to you to of how you want to keep pestering yourself. Cut yourself some slack. You can’t fix what’s gone and so why should you? Will the person you have a regret about or an incident that happened involving someone, be restless about the regret you have? Do they still talk to you?
What is it that is bugging you? Write it down. I when my son was doing some tutoring, went through my fears and past worries and why they were bugging me and it just made me come to my senses of it all and felt ten times better. I have begun to realise that somethings are meant to be, because that is how we learn about relationships, good communication, living better and building our inner self to be the better person you are and reinvent yourself and start a fresh.
No being rude to someone is not good, but I wonder how bothered they are and teaches to stop regretting and just learn. Think of all the good things you have done and how is your life now? So stop regretting and start living.
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We can lose our sense of self worth when things go wrong and feel that we are inadequate. Comparing ourselves to others. Not wanting to be face to face with ourselves.
The question I ask myself when I am having a down moment is, “Why do I feel this way?”
It can be influence, but I feel it is deeper than that. I feel it is because it becomes habit, i have done for so many years to the point it can be draining. I remember at Primary school and a girl I was sitting with said when I was touching my hair “You love yourself” like there was something wrong with that. Why shouldn’t I love myself? Why can’t we feel good and be happy with who we are?
There is no shame in feeling good about yourself. No more underestimating yourself and celebrate what you bring into the world. The world is happy that you are here and what you bring to it.
Document your feelings.
Have some quiet time
Leave the chores
Be in a different environment
Meet a friend or relative not seen for a while
You should never live your life by somebody else’s means. It is a personal choice and what makes you feel good about your life and doing things that help to create abundance and that your not just a number but a human being who is kind to others but also to yourself.
I got my hair done this week, I now take my supplements again along with keep getting out. That is important to me. I am fed up of feeling like I don’t matter and dread. I am done with those feelings. I like who I am and feel proud to be me.
Give yourself praise by writing down what you like about yourself aswell as what is bothering you and is there someone who always puts you down and speak with them to address, what they have against you. Don’t pay attention to them. I have come to realise that I am not to everyone’s tastes. I know I can get on people nerves as I can be up and down in terms of mood and indecisive.
Its what is important to me and be the person I wish to be, as long as it isn’t lashing out like I did once upon a time. I have been jealous and critical of others and now I know better than that and want to see people happy not sad and really focus on building my self worth, being Selfish check out this blog: Its Okay to Be Selfish at times and if you continuously feeling down then perhaps speak to someone. I got help. I was falling a apart. I didn’t know what was real and what was not.
I am fully recovered now and no where to go should I relapse and not allow my mind to go crazy but listen to my gut and building my self confidence that I am back to being happy go lucky and living for each day and enjoy who I am and my life.
So today what is important to you? Take time in going through it.
Hey happy Tuesday! It is a new month coming to a close and we had some good days. World Book Day and International Women’s day and Pancake day and now we are heading towards Easter. So time for those Easter Egg Hunts.
I did some Self Development Training and have more planned for April.
These newsletter are free to download and print and of a events and projects coming up.
If you had a mirror where you would picture your life what would you see? What would it say to you or show?
Would it make you feel happy or sad? There was a time I hated my own reflection. I wouldn’t try on clothes in a fitting room. When I was at school we didn’t have cubicles but one big changing room and would feel so uncomfortable. The same at Primary school and would get remarks from my fellow pupils. I hated having boobs. I was not ready for teenage hood. Mother nature decided it was time for me to form early and I didn’t like it.
Now I am comfortable in looking the mirror and see someone who has lived and got plenty to give. It has taken a lot to see myself in a positive light and my life too. I loved going to dancing school as a kid. Now, I like that I can share my life. I found growing up daunting, because the way you looked mattered. I didn’t want to be trendy. I wanted to be happy with what I saw. So I began to get fit and take on challenges like running and walking events. This made me see, what I was capable of and feel proud of myself.
What challenges would you undertake? What changes would you do, to feel good when looking in the mirror and be proud of yourself and write down how you feel.
I was fed up with giving myself such a hard time. I had to change my mindset. Being healthy is what I need, not a hourglass figure. All bodies are beautiful. I remember going to rugby. There was a guy who I didn’t like the look of. When I learned he had a heart of gold, I realized I was being unkind. Since he was nice and was a good laugh, that was important. So, I worked on my own stereotypical mind.
We have kept in touch via social media. I have not heard from him for a while. Yet, it also taught me that men and women can be friends without it ending in romance. I have male and female friends and I love my friends and my family. They have been my teachers of life and am grateful of those I have met and still in contact with.
Being a good friend, mother, sister, daughter, and aunt is important. I love watching my nieces and my son grow. My son got an award at school. We went to a Christmas Event at his school last year. We also went to see an art exhibition he did at school. This year, he will be going to his third Residential trip.
I am enjoying my life with my son, friends, and family. This is something I would like to see in a mirror. I have got back into walking and joined Parkrun. I am registered to do Race For Life. I am working on radio now and have fully recovered from my Mental Health Battle. I am writing more books and blogs and expanding my Youtube channels. I enjoying meeting people and about other peoples lives and what they have gone through.
So now spend some time considering this question. What would you see if you were able to see your life in the mirror?
What does the future look like? Who is in this image and what do you look like? Are they your dreams or goals?
There is more I want out of my life. Keep your goals to yourself. As Terri Savelle Foy says, what you do behind the scenes has a bigger impact. You don’t have to tell the world just yet. Just follow your heart and mind to help your self-belief. Once you reached a goal, then tell the world. My husband didn’t tell anyone when he did his driving test. He failed the first one, so he retook it without saying anything and passed.
Set a plan and give yourself a target of when you want to achieve. Do you see that in the mirror? Does the reflection you see of yourself changed? What area are you going to look at first?
Take some time to answer. Put your list of goals with targets somewhere visible. Make sure you go through of what you see. I have started to put collages on Pinterest. I learned how by watching a video by Rachellea https://www.youtube.com/@rachelleea. Now, I am obsessed with it.
I set goals in my journal and plan away.
Review the goals you have already achieved. Consider the ones you want to set into play next. Yes, there will be hurdles. When you see the results, you’ll see that they are part of the plan. You can build a different, happy, and successful life and then talk about it and keep setting them.
What is the first steps are you going to set. When I started running and entered to doing the Great north run I didn’t just take on the 13.1 miles, I worked up to it by doing different runs and started of by walking and building up to run and now I am trying to get back to it by doing Parkrun and looking forward to doing the Race For life in June.
Here is my first Video for this training and talk about Self Neglect. Not getting dressed, not brushing your teeth and it is not saying that your doing anything wrong, I am writing about myself when I would become depressed, I didn’t do those things, knowing that if I did I would feel better and so I had to get out of bed and live.
Life is full of a challenges and I have learned to take in the feelings, then think what can I do that will help me through those thoughts and listen to the positive side of the brain. Life is full of influences, like when we watch the news and hear of another stabbing and it has made me more determined to not allow it stop me from embracing my city, which is London and thinking of he good things. There is always going to be good and bad, but having a good breakfast, reading and listening to podcast can help me not to be affected but enjoy life as you don’t know when its going to end, and so I watch things that bring me joy not sadness and why I started fundraising for good causes.
I share my challenges I faced and not being happy about myself and my life. I felt like my life was boring when actually that is not true. I had a good childhood I just struggled because of not feeling good enough at school. Now see that I had a good holidays and did dancing. I had proper grandparents, relatives and friendships that have lasted so long.
I began to make Life Changes, getting fit and active and not dwelling on things that have gone wrong, but what I learned from those mistakes and not allow anxiety to control my life.
I will be making another video next week. These videos will be on this site forever and if you want to be notified when post on this site to subscribe.
Hello! Please check my blog where I posted a printable for this training: Self development
So there will be three videos for this training. Please check my video where I share details of what you can use, for the 3 sections of this training. So in this training we will cover for example: What is Self Development, Suffering with anxiety, then section 2, Changing my financial choices, an area I have had to work on and planning, example: Setting up your day.
Here is the introduction to this training:
This training is completely free and please give me feedback or ask any questions training. You can write into the comment section below blog to do so.
I am someone who has battled through life dealing with insecurities, not feeling good enough. I would be so critical of myself and so I had to make changes, especially as I grew into adulthood. I thought that by then would feel better about myself but no and they grew even bigger. I feel better once I finished school, which for a while it did. I liked working. Yet had some not so nice jobs and was fired by some of them an lost my confidence.
I have become fed up of allowing those time to bully me. I knew to move forward in my life I had to feel better about myself and my life.
Then I hit rock bottom when I thought that there was someone being hurt, but there was other things going on too. I was finding motherhood hard, felt isolated and had this inner fear that I had never felt before. I went to hospital and found that I was hearing voices and diagnosed with Psychosis and got home help. I began to feel like I had no energy to do anything. It was like being on a wheel that I couldn’t get off from. I spent time in a mental health hospital and recovered and wanted to help others with their mental health and wellbeing. It can feel you are in a dark place with no light.
I want you to love who you are and not be so unkind or resentful of yourself and start living and living beyond your needs. Life doesn’t have to be a battle, but be the best it could ever be, by making changes in the different areas and changing your mindset.
I hope you find this training helpful and share your story, if you have have found life hard and support one another.
It is a new week and today my Self Development training begins. I will be filming for my Educational Youtube Channel and I am really looking forward to it and hope it will help follow your dreams and have a life you love.
For me Self Development is simple. Change what you are not happy with. Go through the passed but in a way where your not dwelling but learning. Learning what you have done that turned out to be the best thing you have ever did, so far in your life and what didn’t work out. What is holding you back.
It can be that you failed your driving test. So the first thing is to reflect what happened. Was you driving too fast, you stopped when you shouldn’t have or your nerves distracted you. I made a mistake yesterday where I was playing a song on my radio show and accidentally turned it off but it was okay as I rectified it, reflected well I know that I was rushing and needed to take my time, but the rest of the show went according to plan. Your going to slip up, that’s life. The worst thing to do is allowing it to dominate. Not moving on.
I have created a free Printable which you can download and will give you the details of what the training will be covering.
I will be posting three videos for this training each week and can use it not just for February but throughout your life.
It will be three sections and a conclusion. What you will need, which is basically your time, if you want to write things down and a drink whilst you watch and listen to my training for this Self Development training and please if you want to give me your feedback, then please do.
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